21 Imithandazo Eyisimangaliso Yokubuyisela Umshado

Kwesinye isikhathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzimisele kangakanani ukugcina umshado ungangeni ezinkingeni namashwa, imibhangqwana igcina ixabene lapho bengayazi indlela yokuphuma ezinkingeni zabo. Phakathi nalezi zikhathi ezinzima, imithandazo yokubuyiselwa komshado ingenza izimangaliso. 

Kunamavesi amaningi eBhayibheli ngomshado aqinisekisa umbono wokuthi umshado uyingxenye ebalulekile yohlelo lweNkosi uJesu. Elinye lamavesi eBhayibheli amahle kakhulu ahlobene nomshado kumShumayeli 4:9 lithi: “Ababili bangcono kunoyedwa, ngoba banomvuzo omuhle ngomshikashika wabo: Uma noma ukuwa, omunye angavusa omunye.” 

Ukulahla izinkathazo zakho kanye nokukhuluma neNkosi kuyindlela okufanele uyikhethe. Uzobusiswa ngamandla okusingatha le nkinga obhekene nayo. Uma uzizwa ungenamandla lapho ubhekene nokungezwani emshadweni futhi ungazi ukuthi ungawulungisa kanjani umshado wakho obhidlikile, nansi eminye imithandazo eyisimangaliso ezoletha ukubuyiselwa emshadweni wakho.

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Ngenxa yabo bonke ubunzima owawubhekana nabo, ungase ukhohlwe amandla kasomandla kanye nezibusiso zikaNkulunkulu esizithola ngobuningi. Kodwa uNkulunkulu uhlose ukuba niphendukele kuYe ngezikhathi ezinzima kakhulu, ngoba uNkulunkulu akawuthwali umthwalo ongaphezu kwalokho ongawuthwala. 

Ungase ucabange ukuthi umshado wakho usudlulile ezingeni lokululama. Ukuthi ayikho indlela yokuthi wena noshade naye nilungise izinto, futhi akusekho sizathu sokuma niqine futhi nenze noma yini ukuze nisindise futhi nakhe kabusha umshado wenu . Phela, kuningi okudlulile phakathi kwenu nobabili. Akusekho uthando ebudlelwaneni. Okusele nje usizi, intukuthelo, inzondo, kanye nolaka. Izifungo, ukudumisa, amazwi okuqinisekisa, kanye nesikhathi esihle konke kuye kwaphela eminyakeni embalwa edlule kodwa konke kusekhona, kulindele ukuthi uphinde ukuthole.

Nguwe kuphela onganquma ukuthi ufuna ukusindisa lo mshado ngoba imishado eminingi idlula ezinkingeni lapho ukuhlukana kubonakala kungenakugwenywa. Bobabili abashadile bayaqiniseka ukuthi ukuphela kusondela ngokushesha. Kodwa ngesikhathi esithile, isineke, umthandazo waphakathi kwamabili wokubuyiselwa komshado, kanye nokusebenza kanzima, ungadlula emanzini anzima ezingxabano zomshado . Ukholo lukunika amandla okubambelela isikhashana nje.

Lena imithandazo enamandla kakhulu uma ufuna ukubuyisela umshado wakho. Vumela ukungenelela kwaphezulu kwenzeke ngokuhambisa amandla akho amahle ngendlela yemithandazo. Yimani niqine nikhuleke ngokukholwa okungenakunyakaziswa eNkosini enguSomandla uJesu. Beka ithemba lakho Kuye futhi uzoqaphela umehluko ophawulekayo emshadweni wakho phakathi nesikhashana esifushane. 

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1. Thandazela uthando 

“Uthando luyabekezela, uthando lumnene, alunamhawu, aluzigabisi, aluzikhukhumezi, aluziphathi kahle abanye, aluzifuneli lona, ​​alunagqubu, alugcini umbhalo wokubi. Uthando aluthokozi ngokubi kodwa lujabulela iqiniso. — 1 Korinte 13:4-8

Umthandazo wethu wokuqala phakathi kwamabili wokuletha ukuvuselelwa emshadweni wakho uphefumulelwe yileli vesi eliyigugu leBhayibheli. Umshado ubudlelwano besikhathi eside obuthandwa kakhulu. Abantu bavame ukululaza ubudlelwano bomshado kanye nomsebenzi oqhubekayo obudingayo. Le mizamo yenziwa ngoba abalingani bayathandana.

“Manje-ke kumi lokhu kokuthathu: ukholo, ithemba, nothando, kodwa okukhulu kwakho konke luthando. — 1 Korinte 13:13 .

Ukubaluleka kothando emshadweni akupheli. Ayikho into ebizwa ngokuthi “uthando oluningi” phakathi kwabashadile. Lapho usushade nomuntu isikhathi eside, uthando nokusondelana ngokomzwelo kungase kuthathe indawo engemuva. Ugxila kakhulu kwezinye izici zokuphila kwakho komshado kangangokuthi uvumela uthando luthathe umhlalaphansi. UNkulunkulu wayehlose ukuba abantu ababili bathandane lapho beshada. Dumisa uNkulunkulu futhi ucele uBaba waseZulwini ukuthi alungise umshado wakho obhidlikile ngokuwugcwalisa ngothando nothando:

"Nkulunkulu othandekayo, makube khona uthando ekhaya nasezinhliziyweni zethu. Zonke izenzo zethu maziqondiswe uthando futhi wonke amazwi ethu akhulunywe ngothando. Sengathi singalwela kukho ngamandla amasha nsuku zonke. Amen."

2. Thandaza ngethemba  

Ngezinye izikhathi, lapho izinto zingahambi ngokwezifiso zethu, silahlekelwa yithemba lethu lonke. Sicabanga ukuthi akekho ozosisiza kukho. Sikhohlwa izibusiso zikaNkulunkulu bese sigcina siziqalekisile. Sivumela ukungabaza kwethu kanye nokungabaza ngobuhlobo kusidle size siqale ukuzonda thina nabalingani bethu. Lesi yisikhathi lapho sifuna khona isiphephelo emithandazweni.

Umthandazo waphakathi kwamabili wokubuyiselwa komshado yiwona ophethe ithemba elikhulu. Okuthile ngobusuku kwenza abantu babe sengozini enkulu. Bakholelwa ekusaseni elihle eligcwele imfudumalo nohleko. Ngokuzayo lapho uphendukela kuNkulunkulu ebumnyameni obuthule, gcina lomthandazo useduze nenhliziyo yakho. Libone ngeso lengqondo ikusasa elithembisayo ngawo wonke amandla akho njengoba ulibonakalisa ngala mazwi:

“Jesu, siqondise ezinhlekeleleni nasezinkingeni zokuphila usiyise ekusaseni elibusisekile. Siphe ukubekezela size sifanelekele inkatho yentokozo. Sibheke njengoba silandela indlela yakho.”

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3. Thandazela umndeni wakho

Umshado ongenampilo lapho ingane ivama ukubona abazali bayo bethethisana futhi behlukumezana akulona ikhaya elikahle ukuba ingane ikhulele kulo. Kuzoba nomthelela omubi emqondweni nasemzimbeni waleyo ngane. Yibo njalo abantwana abacina sebehlupheka nxa abatshadileyo bexabene. 

Umshado omubi ungalimaza impilo yomndeni ngokushesha okukhulu. Ungavumeli ubudlelwano bakho obungazinzile nomlingani wakho bube nomthelela omubi enganeni yakho. Isehlukaniso nezingane bekulokhu kuyizinto eziyinkimbinkimbi. Ingabe ukulwa okuncane kufanele kubhubhise ikusasa lenu? Nobabili nisebenze kanzima ukwakha lokho eninakho. Nansi umthandazo wamaKatolika wokubuyiselwa komshado ogxile emndenini wakho:

"Nkulunkulu othandekayo, gcina izingane zethu zijabule futhi zijabule kulesi sikhathi esinzima emshadweni wethu. Kwangathi umndeni wethu ungavela uqine futhi ujabule ngesibusiso sakho."

4. Thandazela owakwakho

“Bafazi, qondani, niwasekele amadoda enu ngokuzithoba kubo ngendlela edumisa iNkosi.” Madoda, phumani nithanda omkenu nonke, ningabi-lukhuni kubo, ningabaxhaphazi.”— Kolose 3:18-22-25

Ukulindela komphakathi kungaba nzima kumadoda nakubafazi. Khuluma nomlingani wakho bese uthola ukuthi kukhona yini okubakhathazayo. Wonke umuntu ulwa impi futhi awukwazi ukucabanga ukuthi umlingani wakho ujabule ngoba akasenakho ukukhononda. Akasenakho ukukhononda ngoba akasenathemba kuMoya oNgcwele nasesibusisweni sikaNkulunkulu. Sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ubuyisele ukwethembana kwakho ngokwenza imithandazo elandelayo yaphakathi kwamabili yomyeni wakho /umkakho yothando oluhlala njalo.

"Nkosi kunezikhathi lapho ngingekho eceleni kozakwethu. Kodwa angesabi ngoba uyababhekile. Bagcine bephephile futhi ubanike amandla, ukuthula, impumelelo nokwaneliseka. Babusise ngesabelo sami senjabulo nothando."

5. Thandazela isivikelo 

Imishado ayiphephile emehlweni amabi nakubantu abanomona abangaba nomona ngobudlelwano benu. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nezinye izici zibhekana nazo, njengemishado ekude, noma yabangane abaphethwe isifo esingalapheki, noma ukubhekana nokushonelwa othandekayo. 

Abantu abadumile njengoMeghan Markle baziwa ngokugqoka amehlo amabi njengophawu lokuvikelwa. Abantu abanomona nababi ngokungangabazeki bangabangela izinkinga eziningi emshadweni wenu . Thandazelani isivikelo kulezi zikhathi ezinzima ukuze nobabili nibuye enhlanhleni. Izimo ezinjalo ngeke zikwazi ukuthinta ubudlelwano benu ngaphansi kweso lakhe elibukhali. Uzoqinisa umshado wenu futhi awusindise ekulimaleni.

“Baba oseZulwini, vikela umshado wethu emagalelo okuhlupheka. Londoloza ubungcwele bomshado wethu kanye nezifungo esazithatha phambi kwakho. Kwangathi amaphutha angagwema umkhawulo wethu ngaphansi kokubhekisisa kwakho. Amen.

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6. Thandazela ukuqina

“UJehova uyabavikela abaqotho, kepha uyambuyisela ngokuphelele ozidlayo, qinani, niqiniseke nina nonke enilindela uJehova. — IHubo 31:23-24 .  

Ukuqina kusho ukuba nokholo olungantengantengi kuNkulunkulu uSomandla. INkosi uJesu isitshele ngokusobala ukuthi sizobhekana nezikhathi ezinzima empilweni ezihlanganisa impilo yethu yothando, impilo yomsebenzi, kanye nobunzima obuhlobene nempilo yethu. 

“Baba oseZulwini phakathi nalezi zikhathi ezinzima, siphe amandla nokuqina ukuze sikubekezelele konke. Sisize ukuze singabhidli konke esikwakhile ndawonye njengendoda nomfazi, siphe isineke sokuqondana nokuthandana ukuze sigcine injabulo nenjabulo emshadweni wethu.”

7. Imithandazo yokubuyiselwa komshado - Thandazela isiqondiso

Uma kukhona ongasiqondisa ngempela ezikhathini zethu ezinzima, uMoya oNgcwele. UNkulunkulu ungumalusi wethu omuhle osihola impilo yethu ngendlela engcono kakhulu. Uma ufuna imithandazo yokuvuselela uthando emshadweni wakho, thandazela isiqondiso bese uzama ukwelulekwa emshadweni . Thembela ezinhlelweni Zakhe njengoba ngokuqinisekile zizoholela enjabulweni nasekwanelisekeni.

Lapho ungekho umnyango wokuphuma esimweni esivivinyayo, musa ukubhodloza izindonga ngeze. Ngeke uzuze lutho futhi uzikhandle. Kunalokho, cela uJesu akubonise indlela. Uyazi ukuthi yini engcono kuwe; yeka ukulwa nenkinga umyeke athathe izintambo. Umshado wakho uzophola lapho ekhanyisa ukukhanya endleleni yeqiniso. 

"Nkosi ethandekayo, sikhulule ekuxabaneni nasekunqotshweni, uvuselele ithemba ezinhliziyweni zethu lapho siqala ukudangala futhi usibonise indlela yokuthula. Asilahleki lapho amazwi akho ephenduka inkambo yethu."

8. Thandazela injabulo 

Uma unezinkinga eziningi empilweni yakho yomshado, kuba nzima nakakhulu ukujabula. Umshado wakho ukwenza ucindezeleke ngenxa yezizathu eziningi ezifana nokuntuleka kothando, ukukhashelwa, kanye nokucindezeleka ngokwezimali. UNkulunkulu ungumthombo weqiniso wenjabulo, amandla, ithemba, nokuhlakanipha. Labo abamthandayo bayohlala benalezi zinto. Yima uqine futhi ucele uNkulunkulu uMninimandla onke ukuba abuyisele injabulo empilweni yakho.

Ukuthi ninokungezwani okukhulu phakathi kwakho noshade naye akusho ukuthi ungakwazi ukukhohlwa izikhathi eziningi zenjabulo wena nowakwakho enabelana ngazo. Bakhumbule ngawo wonke amandla akho. Izwa izinkumbulo zikusingatha futhi uthandaze eNkosini ukuze uthole okwengeziwe. Kwangathi ikhaya lakho lingaba yindawo ejabulisayo ngalo mkhuleko wamaKhatholika wokubuyiselwa komshado kanye nenjabulo: 

"Nkosi ethandekayo, sibeka wonke amathemba ethu kuwe. Umuzi wethu mawucebe othandweni nasekuhlekeni. Futhi ingcebo yethu mayibe ukumamatheka komunye nomunye. Kwangathi injabulo nokunakekelwa kungaba yisisekelo sezinsuku zethu."

9. Thandazela ukuba alulame  

Nixabene, nithethise nize nisabise ngokuthi nizoqeda ubudlelwano. Okubi kakhulu sekwenzekile. Manje yini? Thandazela ukuba alulame. Vula inhliziyo yakho kuJehova umtshele ukuthi awufuni uphele lomshado. Mcele ukuthi ehlise amagagasi akhuphukayo emshadweni wakho njengamanje. 

Ukululama kungaba yinoma yiluphi uhlobo. Mhlawumbe oshade naye ungumlutha wotshwala noma mhlawumbe unenkinga yokugembula. Mhlawumbe, impilo yakhe ibingasahambi kahle muva nje noma ulwa nomlutha wezidakamizwa. Ngenxa yesizathu esisodwa noma ngaphezulu, umshado wakho uyahlupheka kakhulu. Yiba nokholo kuYe njengoba uthandazela ukululama ebudlelwaneni:

"Nkosi ethandekayo, qeda ukulwa kwethu nokugula nezinhlupheko. Sinakekele. Thulisa umzimba futhi uthulise ingqondo njengoba bobabili belwa nobuthakathaka. Sengathi isibusiso sakho sipholise wonke amanxeba."

10. Thandazela ukubuyisana ngemva kokuphinga

“Ngakho-ke lokho akuhlanganisileyo uNkulunkulu makungahlukaniswa muntu.” — Marku 10:9

Omunye wenu wahileleka ekuphingeni ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo . Nawela esilingweni. Kodwa-ke, kwakuyinto eyenzeka kanye kuphela futhi anifuni iphutha elilodwa lichithe umshado wenu. Wena nomlingani wakho ninqume ukuthatha ikhefu ebudlelwaneni ukuze nivumele izinto zipholile.

Ukungathembeki akuyona into engaphola ngokuphazima kweso. Kungcono ukuthi uthathe ikhefu ngoba bathi ukungabi khona kwenza inhliziyo ikhule futhi ukuhlukana kwenza abantu basondelane. Uma unethemba lokubuyisana nowakwakho, ungabe usabheka okunye ngoba sinomthandazo wokubuyiselwa komshado ngemva kokuhlukana:

"Nkulunkulu, sisize sithole indlela yethu yokubuyela komunye nomunye. Sisize silawule izifiso zethu zesono. Thina esasibumbene egameni lakho sifuna ukuqala kabusha ngesibusiso sakho. Sengathi ubunye bethu buqhakaze futhi njengoba sinyathela indlela yothando."

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11. Thandazela ukuthula 

“Zithobeni ngokuphelele, nibe mnene, nibekezele, nibekezelelane ngothando, nikhuthalele ukugcina ubunye bukaMoya ngesibopho sokuthula.” — Efesu 4:2-3 . 

Ukuthula kufanele kube omunye wemithandazo ebaluleke kakhulu. Lapho ukhula, ufisa nakakhulu umshado onokuthula. Ukuthula emshadweni kusho ukuvala isikhala sokucindezelwa, ukuhlukumeza, nobutha. Konke kumayelana nabashadile abaqhubeka nempilo yabo ngaphandle kokubangela noma yikuphi ukungakhululeki, ukuphazamiseka, noma ubuhlungu empilweni yomunye umuntu. 

Ukuphikisana njalo ebudlelwaneni kuyaphazamisa ukuthula ekhaya (nasengqondweni). Ngenxa yalokho, ezinye izingxenye zokuphila ziyathinteka kabi. Uma umshado wakho ubona ukumemeza kuhambisana njalo, bheka omunye wemithandazo enamandla kakhulu phakathi kwamabili yokuvuselela umshado:

“Nkulunkulu othandekayo amavesi eBhayibheli athi ukuthula okunikezayo kudlula ukuqonda kwawo wonke umuntu. Ngifisa ukuthola lokho kuthula njengamanje. Ngikhetha ukuvumela ukuthula kukaKristu kuphumule enhliziyweni yami ngethemba lokuthi ukuthula okufanayo kuzodlulela nasemshadweni wami. Sikhumbuze ngothando esilubonisana omunye nomunye ngezikhathi zolaka. Kwangathi ukuthula nokuthula kunamandla. Amen.

12. Thandazela ukuhlakanipha 

“Ungakushiyi ukuhlakanipha, khona kuyakukuvikela; kuthande, khona kuyakukugcina. Ukuhlakanipha kuphakeme; ngakho zuza ukuhlakanipha; noma kubiza konke onakho, zuza ukuqonda. — IzAga 4:6-7 

Ngisho nabangcono kakhulu kithi balahlekelwa ingqondo lapho sidlula ezigabeni ezinzima nezinzima kakhulu ebudlelwaneni . Ukucasuka, ukuphazamiseka, izinqumo ezingahleliwe, kanye nentukuthelo kuveza ukuziphatha kwethu. Yingakho imithandazo ibalulekile ekusisizeni silondoloze i-zen yethu. Awufuni ukwenza noma yiziphi izinqumo ezidabukisayo noma ukukhuluma kabi nomlingani wakho. Ukusebenzisa ubuhlakani kuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu ngezikhathi ezinzima. Thandaza kuMoya oNgcwele ukuhlakanipha nokubuyisela umshado wakho:

“Baba, sibusise ngokuhlakanipha kokubhekana nobunzima ngaphandle kokucasuka, ingqondo mayilawule imicabango, izenzo, namazwi ethu.”

13. Thandazela ukwethembeka

Uma uzibophezele emshadweni womfazi oyedwa, kufanele ume uqine ezifungweni zakho. Awukwazi ukuzinikela ezifisweni zakho bese ukhaphela umlingani wakho. Kunzima ukulungisa ubudlelwano ngemva kokuthembana . Kunzima kakhulu ukulungisa umshado ohlukanisiwe ngenxa yokuphinga. Ukungathembeki kuxosha abalingani komunye nomunye.

Uma wena noma owakwakho niphambukile endleleni futhi naphula izifungo zenu, khulekani kuKristu ukwethembeka emshadweni. Ukuhlangana kwenu kusengalulama ngesibusiso Sakhe. Lona omunye wemithandazo ephumelela kakhulu yokwakha kabusha ukwethembana ngemva kokuphinga:

"Nkosi, sithethelele ngokungathembeki othandweni. Sisize ukuba sibe nokuqonda okwengeziwe futhi sithethelele ubuthakathaka nokushiyeka kwabantu. Sandise ukholo lwethu nokwethembana komunye nomunye. Busisa umshado wethu ngokuthula nenjabulo. Sibusise ngesibindi nethemba lokuqala kabusha - kulokhu sisendleleni yokwethembeka nokholo. Sisize simelane nesilingo. Kwangathi amazwi akho angasihola ebumnyameni aye ekukhanyeni okuphakade."

14. Thandaza ngozwela 

“Zithobeni ngokuphelele futhi nimnene; bekezelani, nibekezelelane ngothando.” — Efesu 4:2

Kungokwemvelo ukuzwa intukuthelo nokukhungatheka ngomlingani wakho. Kodwa ukubambelela kukho kuzomane kungcolise umshado wakho. Yingakho kudingeka ube nozwela kakhulu emshadweni wakho . Uma ubheka umlingani wakho ongcono ngeso lokwahlulela noma intukuthelo, uzodlula kanjani ukungabaza kwabo? Ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho uthandaza kuNkulunkulu, kwenze ngomusa nangozwela ngomlingani wakho. Zibeke ezicathulweni zakhe futhi uzozwa intukuthelo iphela.

"Nkosi ethandekayo, gwema ukuthukuthela okuvela enhliziyweni yami, ubeke umusa. Kwangathi akukho engikushoyo okuthwala ukwahlulela. Kwangathi akukho engingakwenza ukuqhutshwa impindiselo. Ungavumeli lutho ngaphandle kothando lubekezele. Sicela usisize sikhule. Siphe ikhono lokuzwelana omunye nomunye. Siphe amandla okusebenzisa izinto esizidingayo kodwa ezingenakho. Siphe ukuba siyiqaphele kakhulu indlela esiziphatha ngayo, esizizwa ngayo, nesicabanga ngayo." Amen.

15. Thandazela intethelelo - Umkhuleko wokubuyiselwa komshado ngemva kokuhlukana

Ukuthethelela kuyingxenye ebalulekile yomshado ophumelelayo . Niyathethelela, nikhohlwe, futhi niqhubeke nempilo yenu. Uma nifuna ukwaneliseka emshadweni, cela iNkosi uJesu ukuba ikunike amandla okuthethelela. Lona umthandazo onzima ngoba abantu abathetheleli kalula. Futhi noma bethethelela, bakuthola kunzima ukukhohlwa izenzo ezenzekile.

Kodwa iyona ndlela kuphela yokudlulela esahlukweni esilandelayo sempilo yakho yomshado. Awukwazi ukuthatha igxathu eliya phambili uma ubambelele kokudlule. Imithandazo ikufundisa ukuthi uyeke ukucasuka. Nxusa iNkosi ukuthi ikuphe amandla okuthethelela noma yikuphi okubi okwenziwa umngane wakho womshado. Ukuxolelana kubalulekile.

"Nkulunkulu, unesihe esikhulu futhi othethelelayo. Ngiphe amandla okusebenzisa lezi zimfanelo - thumela intethelelo enhliziyweni yami nothando emphefumulweni wami. Yekisa ukuhlupheka ngokungiboleka amandla okudedela."

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16. Thandazela ubungane 

Ukuba abangani ngaphambi kwezithandani kungenye yezinto ezimsulwa ukuthi zenzeke ebudlelwaneni. Uma lobo bungane bulahlekile endaweni ethile ngaphansi komthwalo wemfanelo wokuphatha umuzi, ukukhulisa izingane, nokunakekela asebekhulile, khuleka kuMoya oNgcwele ukuba ubuyisele lobo bungane emshadweni wakho. 

Umuzwa wobungane wenza ubuhlobo bube buhle. Uma umshado wakho usezinkingeni, udinga ukuvuselela uthando nobungane. Ukunakekelana nothando kuzolandela ngendlela yemvelo. Umlando eniwuhlanganyelayo, impilo eniyakhile, nothando eninalo ngomunye nomunye kusekelwe ezisekelweni zobungane nobunye:

"Jesu, owakwami ​​uluthando lwami lokuqala nomngane wami. Ungalinge ungivumele ngilahlekelwe yilolu lwazi. Ubungani bethu mabunqobe izimpi ezinzima kakhulu esizilwela emshadweni wethu. Ngakho-ke sihlala, kuze kube sekupheleni kwezinsuku zethu, sihlangene othandweni."

17. Thandazela ukwethenjwa  

Ukuze ubuhlobo buqhubeke, ukwethembana kungenye yezithako ezibalulekile ezidingekayo. Awukwazi ukuchitha impilo yakho nomuntu ongakwethembi futhi okuphambene nalokho. Ukuba nezinkinga zokuthembana ekugcineni kuzoholela ekuhlukaneni. Umshado uyisibopho sokuphila konke esingeke sisebenze ngaphandle kokuba bobabili abalingani babe nokholo komunye nomunye.

Kodwa umona nokungazethembi kungathola indlela yokungena ezibophweni eziqine kakhulu. Esimweni esinjalo, kungcono ukuphendukela emithandazweni yaphakathi kwamabili yokubuyiselwa komshado. 

"Nkosi ethandekayo, ukwethembana kubalulekile emshadweni futhi ngizithola ngidonsa kanzima kuwo. Yiba nomusa emshadweni wethu futhi wakhe kabusha ukwethembana nokwethembeka okwaphunyuka kulo mshado. Susa futhi unqamule yonke izibopho zomphefumulo ongamesabi uNkulunkulu. Gcina umona nomona; woza kimi ngezikhathi zokungaqiniseki ungiholele ekwethembeni nasekukholweni."

18. Thandazela ukuphila isikhathi eside

Ukuthola izizathu zokushada akuyona into enkulu, kodwa ukulondoloza umshado ogcwele uthando nothando yilokho okubalulekile. Umshado ohlala isikhathi eside lapho kungekho khona ububi kuyinto enkulu kunazo zonke emhlabeni. Impilo ende, umshado omude, nothando oluhlala isikhathi eside. Umthandazo waphakathi kwamabili wokubuyiselwa komshado ngemva kokuhlukana ugxile ekuqineni.

Ifuna umshado wakho usinde kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini ephonswa kuwo futhi uphumelele. Lo mthandazo ugcizelela isikhathi - ukuthi uthole isikhathi esanele nowakwakho, emshadweni wakho, njll. 

"Nkulunkulu, busisa ubunye bethu ngesikhathi. Sithandazela ukuthi isibusiso sakho sihlale sifika ngesikhathi esifanele. Siphe intokozo, ukuthula, nokwaneliseka okuyohlala phakade. Ubenze bahlale phakathi kwethu njengoba sihlala ndawonye ngobunye, futhi bonke abangena ekhaya lethu bathole amandla othando lwakho. Sengathi singachitha izinsuku zethu ndawonye ngokuvumelana nenjabulo yomshado. Usinakekele ngokuhlakanipha kwakho okungapheli. Yiba ngukukhanya kwethu iminyaka."

19. Thandazela ukusekelwa  

Ukusekelana kungenye yezinto eziyisisekelo ezidingekayo emshadweni. Kusiza umlingani wakho azizwe ephephile futhi ephephile. Ungathola izindlela zokuhlakulela ukuphepha ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni bakho ngoba lokho kuzosiza ukuthi baqonde ukuthi noma bewa, banakho ukubamba nokubaphakamisa. Sekela umlingani wakho futhi ubazise ukuthi ungumholi wabo oyinhloko.

Lapho usunesikhathi eside ushadile, kulula ukuphelelwa isithakazelo. Awubandakanyi kangako emisebenzini yabo futhi yeka ukusekela ngokuzenzakalela. Kodwa umshado onempilo udinga ukuthi uthole izisekelo zokwesekwa ngendlela efanele. Nanku umkhuleko wamaKhatholika wokubuyiselwa komshado okhuthaza ukweseka:

"Jesu othandekayo, sengathi singaba idwala lomunye nomunye emshadweni wethu. Sisize sibone ubunzima nezikhathi zokuvivinywa njengethuba lokukhula ndawonye ngokusekelana nokuzwana. Kwangathi akukho okubi okungasehlela inqobo nje uma sindawonye. Kwangathi singathola amandla komunye nomunye."

20. Thandazela ukubekezela 

Ukubekezela akukhona nje ukuphuma engxoxweni engakhululekile. Kuwukulawula ulimi lwakho ekukhulumeni izinto ezilimazayo kumlingani wakho ngisho noma ningekho empikiswaneni. Kumayelana nokungagxeki nokwahlulela izinqumo zomlingani wakho. Ukubekezela kumayelana nokulalelana ngozwela. Kumayelana nokuba nomusa komunye nomunye.

Yingakho ukubekezela kungomunye wemithandazo ebaluleke kakhulu yokubuyisela umshado. Ukuphelelwa isineke kungaphumela ekulahlekeni noma ekuthukutheleni. Asifuni noma yikuphi kwalokhu kulimaze ubudlelwano bakho nowakwakho. Ukugxilisa ukubekezela ngokuzivocavoca kuyindlela enhle kodwa kuze kube yilapho usukwenzile lokho, nawu umthandazo wokuhamba ngomkhumbi okushelelayo:

“Moya oNgcwele, ngiphe isineke ukuze ngibe nesibindi ezikhathini ezinzima. Sibopheni ndawonye ngefindo elilodwa elingakhululeki kalula. Umoya wami mawungadabuki nomphefumulo wami ungonakali. Yiba enhliziyweni yami futhi ulahle ukucasuka.”

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21. Thandazela amandla 

“Qinani, inhliziyo yenu iqinise nina nonke enithemba uJehova.” — IHubo 31:24 .

Okokugcina kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuthola amandla kuNkulunkulu kuyindlela yakho yokuphuma ekuhluphekeni. Kunezikhathi lapho kufanele uvale amehlo akho futhi uphumelele ngolwazi lokuthi uNkulunkulu uzozinakekela izinto. Uthole umlingani ombheka njengesipho sikaNkulunkulu . Yazisa leso sipho futhi ngosizo lwalo mthandazo waphakathi kwamabili wokuvuselela umshado, uzothola amandla nothando olulahlekile endaweni ethile ngezikhathi ezibuhlungu.

“Jesu yiba amandla ami nethemba lami, hamba eduze kwami ​​ezinkambeni ezinzima zempilo ungiholele ekujabuleni, ungalinge ungilahle ithemba ngoba uyikho konke engikudingayo Amen.

Umshado, njengazo zonke izinto ekuphileni, ubona izinzuzo zawo ezinhle nezimbi. Kodwa kunezikhathi lapho usala uzizwa ungenamandla lapho ubhekene nokungezwani emshadweni. Uyabuza, “Yini enye engingayenza ukuze ngenze lobu budlelwano busebenze?” Ezikhathini ezinjengalezi, lapho kubonakala kungenampendulo, ukuphendukela okholweni kuwukukhetha okuhlakaniphe kakhulu ongakwenza. Imithandazo ingaphilisa isibopho sakho ngokuphawulekayo. 

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Sifuna isihawu sikaNkulunkulu uma sibambeke empilweni futhi sicabanga ukuthi ayikho indlela yokuphuma kulesi simo esibi. Njengasezikhathini zonke, uSomandla ukuyo yonke indawo futhi ubona konke esidlula kukho. Ulinde nje ukuthi siphendukele kuYe futhi sithandaze kuYe ngakho konke esinakho. Ufuna ukubona ukuthi ungakwazi yini ukunikela ngakho konke ukuze usindise umshado wakho. Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuthi singajabuli emshadweni wethu kungenxa yokuthi sona kakhulu noma sizicabangela thina ebuhlotsheni . Nazi ezinye zezizathu ezenza ubhekane nezinkinga emshadweni wakho:

• Ukukhaphela kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo (ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba)
• Izinkinga zocansi
• Ukulutha kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo (utshwala, ukugembula, izithombe zocansi, nezidakamizwa)
• Ukuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya
• Izinkinga zezezimali
• Ukungahambisani kanye nokwehluka kwamagugu, imibono, nezinkolelo

Ungase uphatheke kabi ngendlela engenakuphikiswa, kodwa umshado awuyona into engabhidlika kalula. Nathembisana ukunamathelana phambi kukaMoya oNgcwele. Uma kungakaze kube khona uhlobo lokuhlukumeza emshadweni wakho noma kungekho omunye wabalingani abaphingile, asikho isizathu sokuthi ungakwazi ukuzama ukukulungisa. UNkulunkulu ufuna ukubuyisela umshado wakho futhi akukho kungabaza ngawo. Akafuni lutho ngaphandle kokuba ngcono kwakho.

Ungacabangi ukuthi ukuthandaza nje kuSomandla usuku nosuku kuzosindisa umshado wakho. Khumbula njalo ukuthi kuthatha ababili ukwakha umshado kanye nababili ukuwubhidliza. Ngaphandle kokuthi nobabili ningathathi izinyathelo zokusindisa umshado wenu, nizohlala nimi ndawonye ebuhlotsheni obungajabulisi. Hloniphanani, xhumanani ngempumelelo, bekani izidingo zenu etafuleni futhi nenze umlingani wakho avume izidingo zakhe, futhi nizame njalo ukuyekethisa emshadweni ngendlela efanele . Ukungalingani kunoma yiziphi zalezi zinto kungaphazamisa ukuthula nenjabulo yakho.

Ngisho noma ukusindisa umshado wakho kuzwakala kungenathemba, le mithandazo izobuyisela ukholo lwakho futhi ikwenze uzizwe unamandla. Kuzokwenza uzizwe sengathi umthwalo usususiwe emahlombe akho. Cabanga ukuthi lemikhuleko ibingenzani uma uyinika ukugxila kwakho okungahlukene. Sengathi iNkosi uJesu ingawuqinisa umshado wakho ngokugxumela nangemingcele. Kwangathi wena nomngane wakho womshado nijabulela ukuphila ndawonye kothando, ukwaneliseka, nenjabulo yomshado. 

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