Ibaluleke kangakanani inkanuko ebudlelwaneni?

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'Yini i-tinder?' Umngane ubebuza iqembu ngolunye usuku. Izimpendulo bezisukela kokuthi 'uhlelo lokusebenza lokuqomisana', kuya 'kuyo yonke indawo egcwele izithombe zikaDick ezingafunwa' kuya 'kuhlelo lokusebenza lokuxhumanisa'. Impendulo yohlelo lokusebenza lwe-hookup ibonakala idume kakhulu. Kubantu kwabonakala sengathi idijithali neselula kwakuwumngcele omusha wabo bonke abantu abanezimpondo laphaya futhi imakethe yohlelo lokusebenza yayisebenzise imali ngaleso sikhathi esikhulu.

Kodwa ucansi olungasho lutho eceleni (akukho ukwahlulela!), Ucansi lubuye lube nendima ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni. Ukuxhumana okungakhulumi phakathi kwabantu ababili. Kuyisizathu esenza abantu bafune imvume yomphakathi futhi bangene emishadweni. Ubuhlobo bobulili obuhle obudala busengqondweni yawo wonke umuntu. Njengoba sinezigidigidi zabantu abanamandla esiqinisekile sibonakala sikwenza kakhulu kodwa-ke kungani singakhulumi ngakho kakhulu? Inkanuko idlala yiphi indima ebudlelwaneni kulezi zinsuku? Asihlephule, akunjalo?

● Ukuxhumana

Okuqukethwe

Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili kungukuxhumana okungenazwi. Uma unenkanuko ebudlelwaneni akusho ukuthi wenza uthando njalo. Nakuba lokho kungase kube okungokoqobo, kusho futhi ukuthi yomibili imizimba yenu ixhumana njalo. Okuthile okunempilo futhi okudingekayo ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside.

● Yinkomba

Esinye sezizathu esenza ubudlelwano bezothando busondelene kakhulu kungenxa yokuya ocansini. Abukho obunye ubudlelwano lapho ukuya ocansini kuwumsebenzi ohlanganyelwe kuleli zinga, ngakho-ke inkanuko nokulandelayo yikho okubahlukanisayo. (Ukuhlangana akukwazi ukubizwa ngobudlelwano kulo mongo.)

Ukufunda okuhlobene: Kungani inkanuko ibalulekile ukuqonda uthando

● Ukuvutha

Iziko liyinto ebukekayo ewusizo futhi izohlala iyinhle kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyasha noma cha. Nokho, ayikwazi ukuvutha ngaphandle kohlobo oluthile lokubasa. Uma usebenzisa le ngqondo ebuhlotsheni bothando uzothola ukuthi inkanuko iwukubasa okugcina umlilo uvutha. Isebenza njengesiqalisi somlilo. Ngemva kweminyaka nindawonye, inkanuko ingaba yisici esigcina ubuhlobo buphila.

● Imigqa efiphele

Ukuhlukanisa uthando nenkanuko kungaba umsebenzi onzima ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Okuzwayo uma usondelene nophathina wakho kuvame ukuba yingxubevange, imigqa ayifiphele. Kodwa akudingeki ukuthi balungise njalo. Ukwenza uthando kungase kuqale njengohlobo lwenkanuko, kube khona njengokuxhumana futhi kube isenzo sothando. Akudingekile ukuba kube umsebenzi ohlukaniswe kahle.

● Isiqinisekiso

Abantu ngokuzenzakalelayo bayizidalwa ezingavikelekile. Lapho besothandweni, baba nokungabaza ngezinto eziningi. Bahlale bengabaza ukuzethemba kwabo. Omunye wemibuzo olokhu uvela futhi uthi 'Ingabe ngiyathandeka? Ingabe engishade naye uyangikhanga?' Inkanuko nokuvezwa kwayo kungasebenza ekuqinisekiseni bobabili abalingani mayelana nokukhanga kwabo. Kuyasiza ekukhuliseni ukuzethemba kwabo futhi ngenxa yalokho kubenza babe uzakwethu ovikeleke kakhulu.

● Isigaba se-honeymoon

Ukuqala kobudlelwane lapho ningakwazi ukugcina izandla zenu komunye nomunye kuvame ukubukwa njengesikhathi esimnandi, esingavamisile ukubuya. Nakuba inkanuko idlala indima ebalulekile lapho, ingaqhubeka idlala leyo ndima ngisho nangemva kokuba isigaba sesiphelile. Uma uyivumela, inkanuko izogcina isibani sesifiso sivutha futhi isigaba se-honeymoon ngeke nje sibe yigama elivusa inkanuko.

● Okukhethwa kukho

Ubuhlobo besikhathi eside ngokuvamile kuwumkhuba wokuzikhethela. Uvuka nsuku zonke bese ukhetha ukuba nomuntu omthandayo. Kukhona amandla amakhulu nomthwalo wemfanelo lapho. Uma ucabangela inkanuko, isifiso osizwayo ngomlingani wakho njengengxenye yalolu khetho sibalulekile. Ukwazi ukuthi unomuntu omthandayo futhi othungela umphefumulo wakho nsuku zonke kuwumuzwa onika amandla ongase ube nawo.

● Indawo yakhona efanele

Nakuba sesibonile ukuthi inkanuko ibaluleke kangakanani ebudlelwaneni, kungaba okungalungile ukubunika ukubaluleka okungadingekile. Inkanuko inkulu, kodwa akuyona yonke into. Uma ningafuni ukuklebhulana izingubo njalo lapho niwedwa, akusho ukuthi anikho ebudlelwaneni bothando. Inkanuko iyingxenye yawo wonke umdlalo. Ubambiswano lweqiniso lunezici eziningi. Awukwazi ukuya ocansini kodwa ube usothandweni kakhulu, ukukunika ukuphakama phezu kokwethembeka, ukwethembeka kanye nokwakha impilo ndawonye kungaba yiphutha. Ukubheka inkanuko nocansi ngendlela elinganiselayo yikho okuzogcina ubudlelwano benu buhlala isikhathi eside.

● Imvume iphakeme kakhulu

Ukuzizwa unesifiso esinamandla ngomlingani wakho angeke kube izaba zokungahloniphi imvume yakhe. Ukufisa kufanele kube ukupha futhi kungabi yilangabi elihlangothini olulodwa eliqhuma lishise elinye. Uma ningabalingani, imvume yabo bobabili abantu iphakeme. Kubaluleke kakhulu kunesifiso nokuqina. Ukuhlonipha imvume akuyona nje into elungile ongayenza ebudlelwaneni kodwa futhi kuwukubonakaliswa kothando lweqiniso.

Yiba nenkanuko kumlingani wakho ngokugcina inhlonipho futhi impilo yakho yothando izohlelwa njengento engelutho ngaphambili.

Umnikelo wakho awuyona iminikelo yokusiza . Kuzovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolusesikhathini njengoba sifuna ukusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.