Umbuzo: Mina umyeni uyajola nosisi wami ohlukanisile ongenankinga nomshado oneminyaka engu-12. Uhlala kwelinye idolobha ngomsebenzi. Ngiyamthanda umyeni wami futhi naye uyangithanda nezingane zethu ezintathu, wenze konke ngendlela selokhu sashada. Wangikhuthaza ukuba ngiqhubeke nezifundo zami futhi ngisebenze kanzima ukuze senze ukuphila kwethu kuthokomele.
Ngibe nenkulumo evulelekile nomyeni wami futhi uthi angizange ngimnake ngokwanele ngesikhathi somshado wethu weminyaka engu-15 yingakho awela udadewethu. Akafuni ukungishiya nezingane zami futhi akakwazi ukudlula kuye. Udadewethu kuyacaca ukuthi wonile futhi useqhubekele phambili, uthi wazitika ngoba efuna ukudlula emshadweni wakhe wangaphambili. Manje abazali bethu bafuna umdlalo ofanelekayo wokuphinde ashade ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ngahlola amafoni nama-email omyeni wami futhi ngathola ukuthi basakhuluma. I ngisaba ukuthi umyeni wami angase ahambe mina nezingane zethu futhi ngishade nodadewethu uma ngibashiya bodwa noma ngingamgcina njengenkosikazi, njengoba ngizwa ukuthi uzibophezele.
Ngithola imijikelezo ye ukuthatheka kanye nokusangana ngenxa yakho konke lokhu. Ingabe ngiyamvumela umyeni wami nodadewethu ukuthi baqhubeke nokukhuluma noma baxoxe bodwa? Ingabe kufanele ngikushaya indiva ukwenza kwabo sengathi kuyisigameko esisodwa nje noma kufanele ngibakhuze kanzima bobabili noma kufanele ngizise abadala noma ngithathe izinyathelo ezingokomthetho?
IMPENDULO: Ngiyacabanga ukuthi kwakwethusa kanjani ukuthola lolu daba, futhi ungekho omunye ngaphandle kukadadewenu! Kodwa ngiyajabula ukuthi okungenani wena kanye yakho umyeni kanye nodadewenu babe nenhliziyo evulekile mayelana naso sonke isimo futhi ukuma kwawo wonke umuntu kucacile. Noma umyeni wakho esekuqinisekisile ukuthi akanalo icebo lokukushiya nezingane zakho, angikusoli ukuthi usamhlola futhi ubambe ukungabaza, kuyimvelo yomuntu.
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Kodwa ngifuna ukuletha isaziso sakho kumsuka wenkinga, hhayi imiphumela. Futhi ngeshwa, njengamanje uzama ukulawula umonakalo emiphumeleni yangemva yenkinga yangempela kunokuba usebenzele udaba lwangempela - umshado wakho WETHU. Khumbula ukuthi wathi uzizwa enganakiwe yingakho edonseka kuye? Ngiyazi ukuthi mhlawumbe bekuzwakala njengezaba ezilula kuwe ngaleso sikhathi, kodwa kubo bonke, niyazi ukuthi kungase kube iqiniso. Njengoba nje abesifazane bedinga ukuzizwa bethandana, betotoswa futhi befiswa ebuhlotsheni bothando, ngokufanayo namadoda futhi kaningi, emshadweni, siyakhohlwa lokho futhi siqale ukubheka abayeni bethu njengabahlinzeki bomndeni kanye nobaba wezingane zethu kuyilapho sithatha amalungelo afanayo obunikazi / umhawu njengomlingani wothando. Awu, qagelani? Lokho akusebenzi.
Uma ufuna ukuthi abe ngowakho kufanele umenze azizwe sengathi uyamkhathalela, hhayi nje ngendlela yothando, nangendlela yothando. Ngakho-ke engingakusikisela ukuthi, susa ingqondo yakho ekuhloleni amafoni akhe futhi ugcine amathebhu ekukhulumisaneni kwabo futhi esikhundleni salokho ubuyisele ukugxila emshadweni wakho. Xhumana naye, ukhohlwe ukuthi uxhuma nobani. Thola ukuthi ziyini izidingo zakhe futhi uzifeze, umenze azizwe efunwa futhi uzobona ukuthi zonke ezinye izithikamezo zizovele ziphele ngoba ekujuleni kwendoda ekufunayo ukuzizwa esondelene nalowo amthandayo futhi lapho engakutholi lokho, uvala leso sikhala nabanye.
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Umnikelo wakho awuhlanganisi inhlangano esiza abantulayo umnikelo. Izovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolwakamuva emzamweni wethu wokusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
Impendulo ende ibekezelelwa ubudlwangudlwangu bakhe futhi impendulo emfushane ithi isehlukaniso bese uqeda ngaye. Waqhatha, ngoba engumuntu wesifazane, dlala yonke leya ngquza yothando lukaplatonic, kubi nje ukuthethelela isithembu noma isithembu nayo yonke inhlobo yesithembu. Awuzange uvume sororate umshado, uma ufuna lokho, lokho bekufanele kukhulunywe kusukela ekuqaleni futhi uma washintsha umqondo wakhe ke wayedinga ukuxhumana angabi konke okwenzayo futhi uzama ukudlala jetty tricks engqondweni yakho futhi usebenzisa manipulate imizwelo ukuze athethelele ukuthi kungani enze lokho, cha yena CHEATED. Uma umshado wakho uzibophezele ngakho wephula isivumelwano sakhe futhi udinga ukushiya imbongolo yakhe eyaxolisa.