Kāore te takaro i mua i te moe e tīmata, e mutu rānei i te moenga. He nui ngā mea ka taea te mahi i waho o te moenga e pā ana ki te 'takaro i mua i te moe' e whakatakoto ana i te tūāpapa mō te wheako hihiri i roto i te moenga. Ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e mārama ana, e whai wāhi ana ki tēnei 'takaro i mua i te moe' ka taea e rātou te pārekareka ki te whanaungatanga piripono e whai hua ana ki a rātou anō – ā, hei utu, he oranga moe pai ake – i runga i te kaupapa pumau.
Ka taea anake te whakatutuki i te whanaungatanga moepuku i waenga i ngā hoa mēnā he whanaungatanga whakaipoipo. Mō tētahi whanaungatanga whakaipoipo pēnei, he mea nui kia mahana tō ngākau mō tō hoa, me te whakahāngai anō hoki. Mā ēnei kare ā-roto mahana anake ka taea e koe te whakakā i te ngākau aroha e hua ake ai te whanaungatanga piripono.
E whakamārama ana i te huarahi hei whakapai ake i te taatai, te tohunga taatai Tākuta Rajan Bhonsle, e whakapuaki ana te Tumuaki o te Tari Rongoā Ira Tangata i KEMHospital, Mumbai, i ngā mea ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te mahi i waho o te rūma moe hei whakaoho anō i te hiahia.
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te ngā pānga o te whanaungatanga kore-ira Ka pā kino pea tēnei ki te hononga me te whanaungatanga o te tokorua mēnā kāore e arohia te take o te hekenga o te whanaungatanga piripono. Tata ki ngā tokorua katoa ka pāngia e te hekenga o te whanaungatanga piripono i tētahi wā, i tētahi wā rānei o te whanaungatanga. I ētahi wā, ko te hoha o te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga roa ka tango i te taha o te moepuku me te hihiri. I ētahi wā, ko te tipu haere o ngā ahotea o te oranga o ia rā ka waiho ngā tokorua kia iti te kaha, te wā rānei ki te whai wāhi atu ki a rātou anō.
Ko te pātai mō te whakapai ake i te taatai ka tīmata te noho hei pātai nui mō te whanaungatanga. Heoi, ko tētahi hapa noa i roto i te ngana ki te whakapai ake i te oranga taatai, ko te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e rapu huarahi ana ki te whakapai ake i te moe me te kore e aro ki te hauora o tō rātou hononga me te whanaungatanga i waho atu.
He mea nui kia maumahara ko ngā momo whanaungatanga rerekē – te kare ā-roto, te tinana, te moepuku, me ērā atu – he mea whakawhirinaki tetahi ki tetahi. Hei whakapai ake i tētahi, me mahi koe i ētahi atu. Ki te kore tēnei, kāore e puta he hua pai mō te moepuku.
Ki te hiahia koe kia pai ake te oranga moepuku, kua tae ki te wā kia whakapau kaha koe ki te mahi i ēnei mea tekau i waho o te rūma moe:
Te pānui e pā ana: Ko te mea ngaro mō te āwhina a te rongoā hokohoko i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kia mau tonu te aroha
1. Te rongoā hokohoko
Āwhina i tō hoa ki te whiriwhiri i tētahi kākahu e ātaahua ai ia. Mā tēnei ka whakaoho ake te hiahia ā-tinana ki a rāua anō. Ko te whakaaro ka kukumea, ka ātaahua hoki ki a rāua anō, he mea nui kia puta ai he whanaungatanga piripono.
Ina kī atu koe ki tō hoa kia whiriwhiri i tētahi kākahu, i tētahi tae rānei, kia whakanuia ai ōna rawa, kia ātaahua ai hoki tōna āhua, he tohu tēnei kei te aro nui koe ki tōna āhua. Ka āwhina nui tēnā i a ia kia rongo i te hiahia.
Ka taea e koe te tīmata i te tukanga o te whakapai ake i te oranga ā-ira tangata, me te kore e ngana ā-hinengaro.
2. Waiata ngātahi
Ki te hunga e rapu ana i ngā tohutohu mō te moepuku pai ake, tera pea he ahua rerekē te whakaaro kia waiatatia, ā, kāore pea e whai tikanga. Engari, kāore i te rite ki tētahi o ēnei. Ko tētahi pō karaoke pai e waiatatia ai e kōrua ngā waiata aroha mō rāua, ā, mā te mahi tahi, ka taea te hanga i ngā kare ā-roto mahana, ngawari hoki hei whakataki i ngā mea kei te heke mai.
Nō reira, whakamahia te ahiahi o te Rāhoroi mā te whakarite i tētahi pō Karaoke ki te kāinga, me te waina – me te mea rānei e pai ana ki a koe – hei tāpiri atu. Whakawhirinaki tetahi ki tetahi, pupuri ringa, awhi rānei i a rāua i a kōrua e waiata tahi ana i tētahi waiata aroha.
Ka taea e koe te tumanako i tētahi wā roa, whakakorikori i ngā māhunga i muri iho.
3. Te tunu kai tahi
Ko te tunu kai tahi te mea ngaro mō te oranga moepuku pai ake. Ka taea e kōrua ko tō hoa te tunu i tētahi awha o te ngākau aroha – te mitimiti i ngā maihao o tētahi ki tētahi kia reka ai te ranu, te whiu i te kirīmi me te inu tahi me ngā rōpere. He pono ka nui ake ngā mea ka puta i waenganui i a kōrua.
Ehara i te mea he rongoā noa te tunu kai, engari he mahi pai hoki mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e hono ana i a rātou, e whakawhanaunga ana hoki i a rātou anō i ngā huarahi rerekē – tae atu ki te rūma moe. Ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e tunu kai tahi ana, ka noho tahi tonu.
4. Ngā wā Kodak
He mahi harikoa te mātakitaki i ngā pukaemi whānau, i ngā ataata kāinga rānei, e hanga ana i te wāhi harikoa o te noho tahi mā te whakamahara i ngā kaupapa matua o te whanaungatanga, ā, e hanga ana hoki i te whanaungatanga piripono, koinei te tūāpapa o te whanaungatanga piripono ā-tinana.
Mena kua pāngia kōrua ko tō hoa e te wā maroke o te moepuku, he hokinga mahara pea te otinga. Whakapaua he ahiahi mangere ki te tirotiro i ngā whakaahua me ngā ataata tawhito – tae atu ki ngā pou pāpāho pāpori matotoru i whakatapua e kōrua tetahi ki tetahi i ngā rā o mua – kia mau ai te manawa whakahīhī.
Ka whai mai te hiahia.
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5. Te whakamahere i tētahi hararei aroha tahi
Ko tētahi o ngā tohutohu mō te moe pai ake ko te waihanga i ngā wā e tumanakohia ana, e whakaoho ana hoki i te harikoa ki roto i tō koiora. Ko tētahi huarahi tino tika ki te mahi i tēnā ko te whakarite i tētahi hararei aroha tahi.
Ka puta te harikoa i a koe e tirotiro ana i ngā pukapuka iti, e tirotiro ana rānei i te ipurangi kia mōhio ai koe ki te wāhi e haere atu ana koe. I a koe e tumanako ana ki tētahi hararei ngahau me te harikoa, ka whakaū anō koe i te meka e pai ana koe ki te noho tahi, ā, ko tēnei 'awhiowhio kare ā-roto' ka taea te huri hei 'awhiowhio tinana' me tētahi hararei poto tonu i reira, i taua wā tonu.
6. Pō katakata
He tino whakahauora mā kōrua te kata wairangi mā te mātakitaki i ngā whakaaturanga whakakatakata, i ngā raupapa ipurangi rānei, te pānui rānei i ngā katakata whakakatakata ki a kōrua. Mā tēnei ngākau māhaki ka hangaia he taiao tika hei 'tākaro' me te 'ngahau' ki a kōrua.
I ētahi wā, ko te otinga hei whakapai ake i te oranga ā-ira tangata ko te tuku i te tamaiti ki roto, me te whai wāhi atu ki tō hoa rangatira, ki tō hoa rangatira rānei, i roto i ētahi mahi ngahau kore āwangawanga. He aha te huarahi pai atu i te kata tahi me te ngākau pono.
7. Te whakakorikori tinana ngātahi
Ka hua ake he whakangungu tinana pai i runga i te moenga. Mā te kaukau, te oma tere, te eke pahikara rānei e tuku ngā 'endorphins' i roto i ngā mea e rua. Mā ēnei homoni 'pai te wairua' ka hangaia he wāhi tinana tika mō tētahi wā hihiko. Ko ngā tohutohu moepuku mō te moepuku pai ake kāore e uru tonu ki te mirimiri tinana ātaahua tetahi ki tetahi, ki te takaro roa rānei i mua i te moe.
I ētahi wā, mā te werawera tahi ka taea te whakaoti i te raru. Ka taea e ngā whakangungu te whakamana i te oranga moepuku pai akeMe kimi noa e koe ngā mea ka taea e kōrua ko tō hoa te whai wāhi tahi.
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8. Kākahuria ō hu kanikani
Kanikani puhoi ki tāu waiata tino pai. I te mea e takaro ana te kaituhi waiata i a Kupido, ā, e neke mārire ana ngā tinana i te manawataki, kāore e taea te noho noa ki te papa kanikani te hiahia i hangaia ai. Ko te kī ki te oranga moepuku pai ake ko te whanaungatanga tinana nui ake.
Ka nui ake te taunekeneke a te tokorua mā te pā – te kihi, te awhi, te pupuri ringa, te awhi – ka nui ake te hiahia o ō rāua tinana tetahi ki tetahi. He tino pai te kanikani hei whakarei ake i te whanaungatanga ā-tinana, ā, hei whakapai ake i tō kōrua oranga moepuku.
9. Te tākaro kāri, te tākaro papa rānei
He maha ngā wā ka noho whakamuri te moe tāne i roto i ngā whanaungatanga nā te nui haere o ngā taumahatanga e pā ana ki ngā hoa e rua. Me whai hinengaro marino koe hei tīmata me te pārekareka ki te moe tāne. Kāore he mea e rite ana ki te marino atu i tētahi kēmu poari e whakahoki ana i a koe ki aua wā o te tamarikitanga.
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10. Te noho tahi
E noho ana i runga i tētahi tūru whakamarie me te inu matao tino pai e toe ana, me te kōrerorero mutunga kore mō ngā 'maharatanga aroha', te 'whakawhetai' mō te noho tahi o nāianei, me te 'whakamihi' ki ngā mea e kawea mai ana e rāua tetahi ki tetahi. Ina rongo rāua i te tino uara o tetahi ki tetahi, ka hohonu, ka whai tikanga te hononga, ā, ko taua hononga anake ka taea te whakaputa hei whanaungatanga whai hua.
Ki te hiahia koe ki tētahi oranga moepuku pai ake, me whakapau kaha koe ki te hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga pai ake e rongo ai ngā hoa e rua i te kotahitanga, te arohaina me te maioha. Mā ēnei mahi iti nei i waho o te rūma moe ka āwhina i tēnā, ā, ka whakapai ake i tō oranga moepuku.
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He pai!
I aroha ahau ki ia tohutohu. He pukumahi rawa mātou i ēnei rā, kāore mātou e whai wā pai ki te noho tahi me tō mātou hoa, engari mā te whai i ēnei tohutohu ka kaha ake tō mātou whanaungatanga!
Ahakoa he aroha, he whakarihariha, he mea rānei i waenganui, ka tino pai te rā i ēnei tohutohu!
He rite ngā whakaaro. Ā, he mea nui kia ora te whanaungatanga hauora.