E hiahia ana ahau ki te whakarere i taku tāne waipiro, wahine hoki

pātai:

 E ono marama ahau e marena ana. I moe aroha ahau, kāore he whakaaetanga a ōku mātua. I te haere o ngā rā, ka mōhio ahau kāore taku tāne i te tangata i mōhiotia e au i mua. Kāore māua i te tūtaki pinepine nā te mea he rerekē ngā tāone e noho ana māua. I aroha pono ahau, koia ahau i whakawhirinaki ai ki a ia me āna kupu. Engari he tangata teka ia. I kī mai ia he tangata inu waipiro ia, ā, kāore i te kai paipa, i te waipiro rānei. Engari he tangata inu waipiro ia, he kai paipa hoki. He maha āna kōtiro e kōrero ana, ā, he tino tata ia ki a rātou. He tangata ngoikore hoki ia. Ka utua e ia ngā kōtiro, ā, ka whakapau kaha ia ki te moepuku me rātou.

I whakamanawanui ahau ki ēnei mea katoa. I taua wā tonu, ka tīmata ōku mātua ki te kōrero ki a māua ko taku tāne. I karanga tonu mai rātou i a māua ki te kāinga. He taahiraa nui tēnei mā ōku mātua, nā te mea i whakaae mai rātou ki ahau me taku marena, he maha ngā whanaunga i mutu te kōrero ki a rātou, i mutu hoki te tūtaki ki a rātou. Kāore au i kōrero ki a rātou mō ōku mamae, nā te mea ka mamae rātou, ka pouri hoki mōku. Kāore au i pai kia whakararuraru i a rātou. I te haere o te wā, ka kino haere te āhuatanga. Inaianei kāore e taea e au te manawanui. Kei te mate ahau i ia wā, i ia wā.

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Kāore taku tāne e tautoko i ahau I te taha pūtea, i te taha kare ā-roto rānei. Ka whakahe ia i ahau i mua i tōna whaea me ōku mātua kia whakaatu ai ia he tangata pai ia. Ā, kāore ia e whakaae ki āna mahi hē. E mea ana ia kāore au e tautoko i a ia ki te tīmata i tētahi pakihi hou, ki te whakaoti i tana mātauranga, me ērā atu mea. Engari ko te mea pono, kua hoha ahau ki te whakamārama ki a ia me pēhea te whakatika i tōna ao. I ia wā ka kōrero ahau ki a ia, ka whakaari ia i mua i te katoa me te mea he hē ahau.

Inaianei kua tino kino ahau ki a ia, ā, kāore e taea e au te noho tahi me ia. E hiahia ana ahau ki te tango whakarere engari kāore e taea e au te kōrero ki a rātou mō taku whakatau. Nā te mea me mamae anō rātou. Kua mamae kē rātou nāku. I mahia e au ngā mea katoa hei arahi i taku tāne ki te ara tika engari kāore e taea te whakapai ake i a ia. Kāore au e hiahia ki te noho tahi me ia, ā, kāore au e hiahia ki te whakawhānui i taku whānau ki a ia nā te mea e tino kino ana ahau ki a ia. Ahakoa rā, kāore māua i moe tāne mō ngā tau e toru. Kāore he heke mai mōku ki a ia. Me aha ahau?

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E kī ana a Jaseena Backer:

E te Wahine,

I te tīmatanga i tuhituhi koe kua ono marama koe e moe ana, ā, i te mutunga, i tuhituhi koe kāore koe i moe tāne mō ngā tau e toru. Me mārama ahau mō tēnei. Heoi, ki taku whakaaro ko te tikanga kua ono tau koe e moe ana…

E kitea ana i roto i ō kupu i roto i te īmēra kāore koe e hiahia ki te noho tahi me ia, nā te mea kua maha ngā wā kua whakamātau koe ki te whakahou i tō whanaungatanga. Me kōrero koe ki a ia mō ō kare ā-roto i nāianei, kātahi ka whakatau. Ahakoa te āhua o tana mahi ki a koe, he pai ake te mārama ki tāu e whakaaro ana ki te mahi i roto i te marena.

Nāu te whakatau ki te marena i a ia. Tērā pea kāore koe i kite i ngā tohu i homai e ia ki a koe mai i te tīmatanga nā te mea i matapōtia koe e te aroha. I te nuinga o te wā ka homai e te tangata he tohu ki a tātou mō ā rātou whanonga me ā rātou tumanakohanga, engari i te wā o te taumau, kāore te tangata e whiwhi i aua tohu nā te mea e whakaaro ana rātou ka huri te marena i te tangata. Inaianei me tango e koe te kawenga mō tāu whakatau. Ka mamae ō mātua i te mea i hē tāu whiriwhiri ki te marena i a ia, ā, kei te mamae koe ināianei nā tēnā. Me kimi e koe he huarahi e kore ai koe e mamae tonu. Ka mamae ō mātua, engari me kōrero ki ō mātua tō raruraru. Me mahi tahi tātou i tētahi otinga.

Te pānui e pā ana: Ahakoa kua marenatia ahau, kei te pirangi tonu ahau ki ētahi atu wāhine

Kimihia he mahi, kaua e whakawhirinaki ki a koe anō tāu tāne, mā ōu mātua rānei. Mā te tū motuhake koe e kaha ake ai. Kātahi ka mārama ake ki a koe, ā, ka māmā ake te whakatau.

He waimarie pai.

Jaseena

Thoughts Final

He taahiraa maia te wehe atu i tētahi tāne inu waipiro, wahine hoki ki te whakahoki mai i tō oranga me tō harikoa. He haerenga uaua tēnei, engari kāore koe i te mokemoke. Ātaahuahia koe e te hunga tautoko, whakaarohia tō oranga tinana, me te rapu tohutohu ngaio hei whakatere i ngā āhuatanga ture me ngā āhuatanga kare ā-roto o te whakarere.

Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe ki te whakarē i tāu tāne, ki te hiahia tautoko rānei koe i tēnei wā uaua, whakapā atu ki tētahi hoa pono, ki tētahi mema o te whānau, ki tētahi atu rānei ā mātou kaiwhakaora arohaKei konei mātou hei whakarongo, hei tuku tohutohu, hei whakamana i a koe ki te whiriwhiri i ngā kōwhiringa e tika ana māu.

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