He āhuatanga tēnei e pā ana ki te tini o ngā wāhine kua moe tāne i Inia. Tērā pea kei te noho koe me te whānau o tāu tāne, kei te noho rānei koe i tētahi atu whare, engari ki te whiriwhiri tāu tāne i tōna whānau i a koe, he pakanga tonu tēnei me whawhai tonu koe i roto i tō oranga. I roto i ngā whānau Inia, e tumanakohia ana kia whakatairangahia e te tama ōna mātua me ōna tuākana/teina ahakoa kua moe tāne ia, ā, kua whānau anō hoki. Nō reira, ko te mea e tupu ana ko te tāne tonu e whakatutuki ana i ngā hiahia pūtea me ngā hiahia hinengaro o tōna whānau, ā, ka tonoa te wahine me āna tamariki kia whakaae.
I roto i ngā wā maha, kua nekehia e te tāne tōna whānau katoa ki tāwāhi nā te mea i hiahia ōna mātua kia noho tata ia ki a rātou. Hei wahine māna, kua pōuri pea koe i tēnei whakatau, engari kua whiriwhiria e tō tāne tōna whānau i a koe, ā, e kī ana ia ki a koe, ko te tiaki i tōna whānau tana mahi, ā, me whakaae koe ki tēnā nā te mea kua moe tāne kōrua. Engari, kaua e totohe, e whawhai rānei ki a ia, engari me whakaaro koe ki te mahi i ētahi mahi kia taea ai e ia te whakataurite i tōna whānau me ō wawata.
Ahakoa ka taea e tēnei te waiho hei wāhi mamae i roto i te whanaungatanga, ehara i te mea e hiahia ana koe ki te whakararu i tō marena. Ina koa mēnā he pai, he whai hua hoki ngā āhuatanga katoa o tō whanaungatanga. Nā tēnei ka ara ake tātou ki te raruraru tonu, arā, me aha koe ina tino piri tō tāne ki tōna whānau.
12 Ngā Mea Hei Mahi Ina Whiriwhiria e Tāu Tāne Tōna Whānau i a Koe
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Hei wahine māna, kua rongo pea koe i te kōrero ko tāu mahi he whakangawari i tōna ao, kaua e whakauaua. Mena kei te whiriwhiri tonu tāu tāne i tana whānau, kaua i a koe, me mahara koe kua whakatōkia ia e tōna hinengaro ki te mahi pēnā mai i tōna tamarikitanga.
Ina whakawhanaungahia ngā tamariki ki Inia, ka whakatōkia ki roto i ō rātou hinengaro ko ō mātua tonu tō kaupapa matua, ā, ahakoa i tēnei wā tonu, ina hiahia ngā tama ki tētahi wāhi noho motuhake i muri i te marena, he nui ngā whakahē a ngā mātua, tae atu ki ngā whanaunga me ngā hoa noho tata e kī tonu ana: kei reira te tama e here ana ki te pallu a te wahine.
Hei wahine, me mārama koe ina whiriwhiri tāu tāne i tana whānau, kei te hikoi ia i runga taura, ā, kei te hinga i te nui o te pēhanga. Ehara i te mea he iti iho tōna aroha ki tōna ake whānau, engari kāore e taea e ia te mahi i te taurite nā te mea kei te āhua tonu tōna hinengaro.
Nō reira, ina kitea ngā tohu e whakahīhī ana tō tāne i tōna whānau, kaua e ngākau pouri. Anei ngā mea 12 ka taea e koe te mahi hei whakapai ake i te whanaungatanga o tō tāne me tōna whānau:
1. Whakaaetia te whanaungatanga kaha o tāu tāne ki tōna māmā
Tērā pea kei te mahi rātou, kei te noho rānei hei kaitiaki kāinga, engari he pono ko te oranga o ngā whaea Inia e aro ana ki ngā tamariki. He rerekē ki te UK, ki te US rānei, ina mutu ngā whaea ki te inu i muri i te mahi i mua i te hokinga ki te kāinga, ka kite tonu koe i tētahi whaea Inia e hohoro ana ki te hoki mai i te mahi ki te āwhina i tana tamaiti ki ngā mahi kāinga, ki te maka kai reka rānei mā rātou. Ā, e mōhio ana te katoa, Kāore ngā whaea o Īnia e tuku i ā rātou tama ahakoa kua marenatia rātou.
Hei tauira, ko Meenu rāua ko Rajesh, kua tata ki te 50 tau te pakeke, ā, kua neke atu i te rua tekau tau te roa o tā rāua marena. He nui te harikoa o tō rāua oranga marena, engari kotahi te āhuatanga – ko ngā mamae o te hungawai wahine. He tama tiaki, he tama manaaki a Rajesh, ā, e whakaaro ana a Meenu he whakaiti i tōna tūranga i roto i tōna ao taua aroha.
Tae noa ki tēnei rā, ko ā rātou pakanga katoa e pā ana ki te amuamu a Meenu, "Kei te tautoko tonu taku tāne i tōna whaea." Ahakoa te nui o tōna riri ki a ia mō tēnā, kei te noho tonu a Rajesh hei tama ngākau pono. Mena he rite tō āhua, he mea āwhina kia mahara he tino kaha te whanaungatanga o ngā tāne Inia ki ō rātou whaea, ā, kei te whakamahara tonu rātou ki ā rātou tama he nui ā rātou patunga tapu hei hoatu i ngā oranga pai ake ki a rātou, ā, me whakahoki mai e rātou ina rite rātou mō tēnā.
Nā, ki te mea he moni tāna hei hoko i tētahi Sari Kanjeevaram, ka hokona e ia mā tōna whaea. Engari kaua e riri ki tēnei, kia harikoa koe kei te aroha tō tāne ki tōna whaea, ā, e hiahia ana ki te hoatu i te mea pai ki a ia. Kāore he aha tēnei – mena ehara i te mea e mau tonu ana. Ko ngā tohu aroha iti ehara i te mea e tohu ana i whiriwhiria e tō tāne tōna whaea i a koe. Kaua e tawai ki a ia mō te mea he tamaiti whaea ia. Ko te tama manaaki he tikanga anō hoki mō te tāne manaaki.
2. Tuhia ngā mahere haere
Tērā pea kei roto tonu ō hungawai me ōna tuākana/teina i ngā mahere haere a tō whānau. Tērā pea ka tino hoha tēnei nā te mea koinei tētahi o ngā tohu e whakahīhī ana tō tāne i tōna whānau ki mua. Haunga te hararei whānau, ehara i te mea me noho tonu ngā kaumātua ki a koe. Ā, mō rātou, kua ngaro i a koe ngā hararei reti reti me te pekepeke. Engari me aha koe mēnā ka haere tahi tō hungawai ki ngā wāhi katoa?
Mea atu ki tō tāne, ki te mea e rua āu haerenga i te tau, me noho tētahi ki tōna whānau, me noho tētahi ki tana wahine me āna tamariki. Ka taea e koe te whakarite i tētahi tahua, me te hanga i tētahi rārangi o ngā mahi e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi. Mea atu ki tō tāne kia tono atu ki ōna mātua kia whiriwhiria tētahi wāhi, ā, ko te wāhi hararei tuarua māu e whiriwhiri. Kāore koe e whakaaro kua whiriwhiria e tō tāne tōna whānau i a koe, ā, ka makona ia mā te mahi i tana mahi mā tōna taha whānau.
3. Whakaritehia he tahua
Ki te kite koe i te nuinga o te moni whiwhi a tō tāne e tukuna ana ki ōna mātua hei tiaki i tō rāua kāinga, ā, kei te raru koe i te taha pūtea i te mutunga o te marama, ka tino hoha koe. Me aha koe ina tino piri tō tāne ki tōna whānau, ā, e whakaaro ana ko tana kawenga te whakatutuki i ō rātou hiahia? a hiahia?
Noho tahi kōrua ko tāu tāne, ka whakatakoto i tētahi tahua moni mō te nui o te moni hei hoatu ki te whānau o tāu tāne, me te nui hoki hei waiho māu ake. Me kī atu ki a ia, i a koe e whakarite ana kia kaua e nui rawa te moni e pau ana, me whakarite hoki ia kia pērā anō hoki ōna mātua. Pērā ai, kāore e taea e tāu tāne te whiriwhiri i tōna whānau, kaua i a koe.
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4. Mēnā he āhuatanga ohorere
Kua toro atu tonu tō tāne ki tōna whanaunga i te hōhipera i muri i te mahi nā te mea kei te ora ake ia i tētahi aituā? Ā, kei te raru koe i ngā akoranga a āu tamariki, ā, me āwhina pea koe e ia ki te Pāngarau. Kāore rānei, kei te hohoro ia ki te āwhina i tōna tuahine iti i roto i ngā raruraru katoa e pā ana ki a ia, ā, ka waiho koe kia raru tonu i te whakaaro "he pai tonu te whiriwhiri a taku tāne i tōna tuahine i ahau".
Me mea ia kia noho ki raro, kia whakamārama atu ki a ia ahakoa he mea whakamiharo te whakaaro kei te hiahia tōna whanaunga ki a ia i te hōhipera, ā, ka toro atu ia ki a ia i ia rā, i ia rā rānei, kei reira ia mō tōna tuahine, engari ka taea hoki e ia te aroha ki tana tama me te āwhina i a ia ki te Pāngarau. Nō reira, he whakaritenga rerekē pea tēnei mō tētahi rā. I tētahi rā ka toro atu ia ki te hōhipera, i tētahi atu rā ka haere ki te Pāngarau me tana tama.
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5. Whakaitihia ngā haerenga ki ngā whanaunga
He rite tō kāinga ki tētahi Dharamsala, ina tomo mai ngā whanaunga, kāore he waea atu, ā, ka tatari kia whakarērea e koe ngā mea katoa, kia taka tī, kia kai mā rātou i te wā tonu e puta mai ai ō rātou kanohi? He mea tūturu tēnei i roto i te maha o ngā kāinga i Inia, ā, e tumanakohia ana kia manaaki ngā wāhine i ngā whanaunga nā te mea kei te whiriwhiri te tāne i tōna whānau, kaua i tana wahine. I te nuinga o te wā, kāore ia e mōhio ana ki ngā pēhanga e pā ana ki tana wahine mā te noho tahi me ngā whanaunga i te kāinga.
Mea atu ki a ia kia whai wā mō ēnei haerenga i te mutunga wiki. Mena kei te noho koe me ō hungawai, kāore e taea e koe te aukati i ngā haerenga mai o ngā whanaunga nā te mea he wā noa iho ngā kaumātua ki te manaaki manuhiri. Me whakamārama atu ki ō whanaunga, kaua e whakakino, he mahi tāu hei mahi ina toro mai rātou, nō reira, ki te noho noa koe i roto i tō rūma, kaua rātou e whakapae i a koe. Waihangahia ō ake rohe, ka tīmata tō tāne ki te mōhio ki ngā mea ka taea, me ngā mea kāore e taea.
6. Mahihia he wā mōku ake
Mena kei te noho koe me ō hungawai, tera pea ka hoki mai tō tāne ki te kāinga ka haere tika atu ki te rūma o ōna mātua, ā, ka puta atu i reira i muri i te haora, i ngā haora e rua rānei? Ā, ki te noho motuhake kōrua, tera pea me noho ngā wiki mutunga ki te kāinga o te hungawai, ā, kāore he hiahia mōu ki te matakitaki kiriata, ki te kai rānei i waho.
Ahakoa te wā waatea i waenganui i te mahi me ētahi atu kawenga, ka pau i a ia ki te noho tahi me ana hoa. Kāore koe i te hē rawa, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe, "Ko taku tāne te mea nui ake i ana hoa me tōna whānau i ahau." Kōrero atu ki tō tāne kāore he raruraru ki a koe ki te toro atu ki ō hungawai, engari ki te taea te hanga hei mahi rerekē mō te wiki, ka taea e kōrua te whai wā mōku ake.
Waihoki, ka taea e kōrua te whakaae ki te auau o ngā haerenga a āna tama ki te pō. Ki te anga atu ia ki te rūma o ōna mātua i muri i te tari, me kī atu koe he pai noa iho, engari me whakarite ia i muri i tēnā ina noho tahi ia me koe kua kati te tatau o tō rūma, ā, he wāhi motuhake tōu. Kāore he patuki tonu a tōna whānau i te tatau hei whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro.
7. Ko tō whānau anō hoki te mea nui ki a koe
Ki te mea kei te whiriwhiri tō tāne i tōna whānau, kaua i a koe, ka whiriwhiria hoki e koe tō whānau, kaua i a ia. Ki te riro tetahi wāhanga o tana moni whiwhi mā tōna whānau, me whakarite kia riro tetahi wāhanga o ō moni whiwhi mā tō whānau anō hoki. Whakauruhia ō mātua ki ō hararei whānau, ā, ina hoko ana ia i ngā sari mā tōna māmā, hokona hoki ngā mea ōrite mā tō māmā.
Whakapaua te wā ki ō mātua, ki te toro atu rānei ki ngā whanaunga, pērā i a ia. Kaua e mahi i tēnei me te whakaaro rapu utu, me te rapu utu rānei. Engari, whakaarohia tēnei hei huarahi whakakī i te wā e kore ai tō tāne e wātea ki a koe mā te karapoti i a koe ki te hunga e arohaina ana e koe. Mā wai e mōhio i roto i tēnei tukanga, tera pea ka mōhio ia ki ētahi mea, ā, ka taea e ia te waihanga i ngā rohe.
8. Tangohia āu ake whakatau
I ētahi wā, ko te whakatau pēnei i te kāreti me ako tāu tama, te wā rānei me hoki mai tāu tamāhine ki te kāinga ka noho hei kaupapa mō ngā huihuinga whānau. Ā, ka nui ake te hiranga o tēnā ki tā tāne nā te mea koinei te mea kua taunga ia ki te kite i roto i tōna whānau.
Me aha koe ina tino piri tō tāne ki tōna whānau, ā, ka whai wāhi rātou ki ngā whakataunga nui, iti hoki e pā ana ki ō oranga me ō tamariki? Ka tūtohu mātou kia ako koe ki te whiriwhiri i ō pakanga. Ki te whakaaro rātou he moumou moni te whare wānanga o Amerika, engari kua roa koe e hiahia ana kia whai wāhi tāu tama, me tuku tō waewae ki raro. Kei a koe te tika ki te whakatau i ō ake whakataunga. Ko koe te mea pai rawa atu.
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9. Kia mārama ko te tāne e whiriwhiri ana i tana whānau nā te mea kāore ia i te mōhio me pēhea te kore
I ngā kāinga whānui o Īnia, tera pea ka hiahia ngā tāne ki te āwhina i ā rātou wāhine ki te kīhini, engari nā te mea kāore ō rātou pāpā i āwhina i ō rātou māmā, kāore e taea e rātou te mahi i tēnā nā te mea e wehi ana rātou kei pāngia te wahine e te whānau. Kāore e taea e ia te whakaatu i ōna kare ā-roto, ā, kāore e taea e ia te whakaemi i te maia ki te kī "kāo" ki ōna mātua.
Nō reira, ka noho noa ia i te kīhini, ka mirimiri rānei i te waewae o tana wahine hei whakamama i te ahotea, engari kāore e taea e ia te mahi i taua mahi ki te whakauru atu ki tana wahine i te kīhini. Engari kaua e whiriwhiri i a ia i te aroaro o te marea. Mēnā koinei te āhua, me mārama koe ki ōna kare ā-roto pono, me whakatenatena rānei i a ia kia takahi i ngā tikanga a te whānau.
10. Kōrerohia ō kare ā-roto
Ina raru koe ki te whakaae ki ngā tohu e whakahīhī ana tō tāne i tōna whānau, kia mōhio koe ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora me te pono te mea nui ki te whakaoti rapanga whanaungatanga. Ae, kei roto i tēnā ko te piripono o tō hoa rangatira ki tōna whānau. Tērā pea kāore tō tāne i te mōhio kei te whakaaro koe kei te whiriwhiri ia i tōna whānau i a koe.
He mea noa iho ki a ia tana mahi. He mea nui tonu ki a ia ngā mea iti nei, ā, kāore ia e mōhio ki te nui o tana mamae i a koe mā te mahi i a koe hei tangata whenua tuarua. Engari ki te kōrero koe ki a ia, me te kōrero atu ki a ia i ō kare ā-roto, ka taea e kōrua te noho tahi ki te rapu huarahi. Pērā ai, kāore he māramatanga, he pirau rānei. Ka taea e kōrua te whakatau i ō kare ā-roto mā te kōrero.
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11. Whakaarohia ngā āhuatanga
Tērā pea ka puta he āhuatanga e hiahia ana tō tāne ki te aro nui ki tōna whānau, me te āwhina pūtea hoki. He mate pea, he hiahia ki te whakaora i te nama, he āhuatanga pērā rānei. Mēnā koinei te āhua, me tautoko koe i a ia kia tautoko i tōna whānau.
Ki te kore koe e pena, tērā pea kei te wehe kē koe i a ia i a koe. Kia mōhio koe ko tā rāua tamaiti ia i te tuatahi, ā, i roa ake tana noho tahi me rāua i tōna noho tahi me koe. Heoi anō, e tino mōhio ana mātou, kāore koe e tino maioha ki tētahi tāne kāore i te taha o ōna mātua i te wā e tino hiahia ana rāua ki a ia.
12. Āta karohia te riri
Tērā pea he tama a tō tāne, he hononga kaha rānei ki tōna whaea, engari ehara i te mea ka riri koe, ka amuamu tonu hoki mō te whiriwhiri a tō tāne i tōna whānau, kaua ki a koe. "Kei te tautoko tonu taku tāne i tōna whaea" – ki te nui ake tō tuku i tēnei whakaaro kia pirau i roto i tō hinengaro, ka uaua ake te whakaae ki tā rāua hononga.
Tērā pea ētahi āhuatanga, i ētahi wā he āhuatanga kāore e taea te karo, e hiahia ana te tāne ki te whiriwhiri i tana whānau, engari ka tino tumanako ia ki tō tautoko. Kaua e whakatupu i te riri mō tēnei. Mā te riri ka puta he whakaaro kino ki roto i tō whanaungatanga. Ngāna ki te mahi i ngā mahi pai mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te waihanga rohe, kaua hoki e mau tonu te riri ki te meka kei te whiriwhiri ia i tana whānau i a koe.
Me waiho tō hoa rangatira hei mea matua māu?
Ina moe tāne koe, ā, ka oati koe ki te noho tahi me ia i tō oranga katoa, kua oti kē te kī ko tō hoa rangatira te mea nui ki a koe. Ā, i muri i te marena, ka miharo koe he aha i whiriwhiri ai tō tāne i tōna whānau, ā, ka mamae koe i roto i te tukanga.
Ko te mārama ki tō hoa rangatira, te aro ki a rātou, me te whakatutuki i ngā hiahia katoa o te hoa rangatira te mea nui ki a koe. Koinei te take i moe ai kōrua. Engari, he mea tino mārama hoki, ka tautoko kōrua tetahi i tetahi ki te tiaki i ō kōrua whānau. Engari, kāore e taea e kōrua te whiriwhiri i tō whānau i runga i tō hoa rangatira i ngā wā katoa. Kāore i te oti tēnā.
Nā, me aha koe ina tino piri tō tāne ki tōna whānau? He aha tāu e taea ai hei wawahi i tēnei raruraru? Ko tētahi tohutohu māmā ka taea te āwhina nui ki te whakatau i te raruraru ko te noho hei wāhanga o tōna whānau, me te pono. Ina mutu tō titiro ki ngā āhuatanga o te whanaungatanga mai i te tirohanga 'tātou ki a rātou', ka memeha haere te haurua o ō raruraru.
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HE AHA taku i pānui ai? Ko tēnei tuhinga te mea tino whakarihariha, tino tinihanga hoki kua pānuihia e au. Nā tētahi Whaea tēnei i tuhi e hiahia ana ki te marena ki tāna tama? Tino pono! He rite ki tētahi hoa moepuku, lol. "Whakaae noa atu kei te aroha nui atu ia ki tana wahine rangatira. Kaua e riri ki te whanaungatanga o tāu tāne ki tēnei wahine rangatira." HE AHA!!!!!!!
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He aha koe te tuhi ai i tētahi tuhinga mō ngā māmā e tika ana kia whakaako i ā rātou tama kia tū motuhake, me pēhea hoki te whakarite i ō rātou oranga marena? Kaua rānei ngā māmā e tino piripono ana ki a rātou anō e whakaako i ā rātou tama kia arotahi ki tā rātou marena? Anei, māku koe e āwhina ki te tuhi i te tuhinga kia māmā ake ai māu.
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1) "Whakaaetia te whanaungatanga kaha o tāu tama ki tāna wahine." He pai tēnei. E hiahia ana koe kia harikoa te marena o tāu tama? E hiahia ana rānei koe kia kino te ngākau o tāu tama me tāu hunaonga ki a rāua anō, ā, kia whakarere? Me tino harikoa koe nā te mea ko te nuinga o te wā e noho tahi ana rāua.
2) "Whakamaherehia kia noho tahi, engari kaua e nui rawa."
Ki te noho tāu tama i tō whare i ngā wiki mutunga katoa, he mea porangi tēnā. He tokorua rāua e noho ana i tō rāua ake oranga. Ehara rāua i tō whenua. Kāore koe e kite i ō tamariki me ō mokopuna. He aha koe i tino hiahia ai ki tēnei tama?
3) "Whakamahia he tahua."
Kati te tono i tāu tama kia utu i ngā mea katoa o tō ao. Kei a koe tāu ake moni. Me penapena tāu tama mō tōna reti, me utu e ia te mokete o tōna whare, me hanga he pūkete penapena ohorere mēnā ka pāngia ia e te mate, ā, me penapena hoki ia mō te mātauranga o tana tamaiti ki te whare wānanga. Hangaia tāu tahua. Utua ōu ake mea. Ki te kore āu moni, me tono āwhina ki a ia, engari me tono āwhina ki a KATOA. Kaua e tukua katoatia ki te tamaiti KOTAHI. Kaua e whakamahi kino i taua tamaiti KOTAHI kāore e taea te kī kāo.
4) "Ngā Āhuatanga Ohorere"
Kaua e meinga kia rite ngā mea katoa ki te "ohorere". Kāore e taea e koe te whakatuwhera i tētahi ipu masala i te pō? Ehara i te mea ohorere. Me hiahia koe ki tētahi atu mea mai i te toa hoko kai? Ehara i te mea ohorere. Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakarite i tētahi waea Zoom me tō whānau i te kāinga? Ehara i te mea ohorere. Me toro atu koe ki te Temepara i tēnei Rāhoroi mō Darasar? Ehara i te mea ohorere. Ko te tikanga o te ohorere he mate, he mate rānei tētahi. Kua tino ngenge tō tama i te mahi i te rā katoa. Kāore ia e moe pai ana. Me whakapau wā ia ki tana wahine me tā rāua marena. Me whakakorikori tinana ia. Kati te akiaki i a ia ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa māu. Kei te whakamatea mārire ia e koe.
5) "Whakaitihia ngā haerenga ki ngā whanaunga"
Kati te haere ki te whare o tāu tama me te kore whakamōhio. Ko tāu noa he amuamu, he hanga kanohi ina haere koe ki reira, mō te paru o te whare. Kātahi ka kōrero koe ki ō whanaunga mō te kino o tāu hunaonga i ngā mea katoa. Kei te whakararuraru koe i te wahine a tāu tama. Kei te tīmata ia ki te kino ki ō whekau. Kei te whakararuraru koe i te marena o tāu tama. Kāore koe i te mōhio kei te whakanui ake koe i ana homoni ahotea, ā, kei te whakanui ake i tōna tūponotanga ki te pangia e te mate pukupuku? Kei te hiahia koe kia noho tāu hunaonga hei tangata mate? Kei te mate wawe rānei? He whaea kino koe?
6). "Whakamahia he wā mōku ake":
Haere ki te noho tahi me ō hoa kaumātua. Kia ora. He tangata pakeke motuhake koe. Kia rite ki tētahi.
7). "Ko tō whānau anō hoki te mea nui ki a koe":
He whānau nui rawa atu tōu. Haere ki te noho tahi me te katoa. Āu Bhabi, āu Baba, āu Wawa, āu ZeeZee katoa, ahakoa ko wai. He nui ngā whānau Inia. Haere ki te noho tahi me ētahi atu tāngata. Tukua tāu tama me tana wahine kia MANAWA mō ētahi wiki, kāore koe. He tini kē atu ngā tāngata hei noho tahi māu.
8) "Tukua tāu tama me tana wahine ki te whakatau i ā rāua ake whakatau:"
Kāore koe e whakahaere ana i tō rātou oranga. Ehara koe i te rangatira mō rātou. Ehara rātou i te mōkai māu. Ehara koe i te rangatira mō rātou. He tangata motuhake rātou, ā, kei a rātou te mana ki te whakatau i ā rātou ake whakatau i tēnei ao. Nāu i ora ai tō oranga. Nāu anō i whakatau. Tukua tāu tama me tāna wahine ki te whakatau i ā rātou ake whakatau. Ahakoa he whakatau hē, ehara tēnā i te raruraru māu. Hoatu he tohutohu ki a rātou KOTAHI WĀ mēnā ka pātai mai rātou ki a koe… koinā tēnā. Kātahi ka waiho mā rātou e whakatau he aha tā rātou e hiahia ana, kaua hoki e whakatoi, e amuamu, e amuamu rānei kāore rātou i whakarongo ki a koe. Kei te amuamu tonu koe mō ngā mea katoa. KATI. KATI TE WHAKAMĀRAMA.
9) "Kia mārama koe ko te tama te mea e whiriwhiri ana i tana wahine, nā te mea koinei te mahi a te tangata."
Ka moe te tangata, ka whānau tamariki. Kātahi ka pakeke aua tamariki, ka moe tāne, kātahi ka whānau tamariki. Kātahi ka tūtaki aua tamariki ki te tangata, ka moe tāne, ā, ka whānau tamariki. Kei roto tāu tama i te wāhanga "moe tāne, ka whānau tamariki" o tōna ao. He mea noa tēnā. He aha koe ka ngana ai ki te whakauru atu?
10). "Kōrerohia ō kare ā-roto i runga i te pai, me te kore tawai, me te kore whakahihi:"
Kati te riri puku, te whara i tāu tama me tana wahine ki ō whakaaro whakama me ō kupu whakatoi. Kāore he tangata e pai ana ki tēnā. E mahara ana te katoa ki tō whara i a rātou. Kāore he tangata e pai ana ki te noho tahi me koe. E manawanui ana rātou ki tō aroaro nā te mea he tangata kino koe e wero ana i te tangata ki ngā kupu whakatoi iti i ngā wā katoa. He aha koe te noho noa ai hei tangata noa, me te kōrero noa? Kāore koe i ako ki te noho noa?
11). "Whakaarohia ngā āhuatanga:"
Kua moe tāu tama. Kei te tīmata ia i tōna oranga hou ināianei. Koinā tōna āhuatanga hou. Whakaarohia tēnā.
12). "Kaua e riri:"
Ko te nui ake o tō tuku i te whakaaro kia pirau i roto i tō hinengaro kei te MAIA tāu tama ki te tautoko me te aroha ki tāna wahine hou…. ko te nui ake o tō mamae i a koe anō. Kati noa te pouri mōna. Tirohia te ngāwari? Whakahaere noa i ō kare ā-roto pouri, ā, ka ngaro atu. Kāore tō tātou ahurea Inia e whakapono ki te "pūrākau" o te hauora hinengaro. LOL. He aha rawa te hauora hinengaro? Ngā kare ā-roto pai me ngā kare ā-roto kino? Ko ēnei goras me ā rātou whakaaro wairangi LOL. Kāo. He pūrākau noa te Hauora Hinengaro. Ki te pāngia koe e te pouri, ataata noa, ā, ka ngaro te pouri. He tino māmā! Nō reira, ki te pāngia koe e te riri mō te aroha nui o tāu tama ki tāna wahine…. ka taea e koe te KŌWHIRI noa ki te whakamutu i ngā kare ā-roto riri… ā, ka ngaro te riri! Tirohia? Pērā i te kōrero a tētahi atu tuhinga. LOL.
Āe. He nui ngā tuhinga i hoatu e au ki a koe, Bonobology. Tuhia he tuhinga hei āwhina i ngā Whaea e piripono ana ki a rātou kia noho hei Whaea PAI mā te whakaako i tā rātou tama kia aro nui atu ki tōna ao hou. Haere tonu. Kia kite tātou i te tuhinga.
He tino rerekē te whakatupuranga hou o ngā kōtiro i te whakatupuranga tawhito. Ā, kei te taupatupatu rātou ki te momo hungawai wahine tawhito, whai rawa, me te hiahia nui ki a rātou anō. Kāore ngā wāhine e aro ki tēnei mahi wairangi i ēnei rā. Ki te hiahia koe ki te tuhi i ngā tuhinga hei ĀWHINA i te tangata I TĒNEI RĀ… kaua e whakakino i ēnei wāhine taitamariki rawakore mā te kī atu he hē ō rātou kare ā-roto, ā, he tika katoa ngā hungawai wahine hei whakahaere i te wā o te tama.
Mahia tetahi mea whai hua. Tuhia he tuhinga pēnei i taku i whakaahua ai i konei. Ka āwhina koe i te tini o ngā tāngata i tō tuhinga pouri, whakapōuri hoki.
Kia ora. I hanga e au he pūkete hei whakautu atu ki a koe. I tino harikoa ahau. E whakaae ana ahau ki a koe. E Māmā, me mutu te toro atu ki tāu tama! Lol. Engari he tino āwhina te tuhinga ki ahau nā te mea kua tae kē taku tāne Inia 40 tau te pakeke kua kite ahau i reira, kua horoia te roro, nō reira, kāore te meka i tuhia ki te taitara e rerekē. Ko tōna whānau (mōku nei, ko tōna tuahine me tana tāne, he maha ngā whanaunga me tōna whaea) te mea nui, āe. Ka haere ia ki ngā āhuatanga ohorere o te ipu masala. Ki tō whakaaro ka whakarongo ia ki ahau? Ki tō whakaaro ka mauria mai e ia te whakatuwhera ipu kia taea ai e rātou te whakahaere i a rātou anō? Kāore, nā te mea i roto i tōna ngākau, e hiahia ana ia ki te whai wāhi me te noho tahi me tōna whaea, tuahine rānei, ki taku whakaaro.
I tae atu ahau ki tēnei pae tukutuku nā te mea kua haere taku hoa tāne mō ngā rā e whā nā te "ohorere" a tōna taokete. I haere mai ia ki tō mātou tāone mō te mahi. E rua ngā rā i tangi ai ahau pērā i te pēpi. He aha ahau mēnā ka whakanuia e taku hoa tāne tana taokete, ā, kāore i te whakakore noa i ā māua wā whakarite, engari kāore hoki e whakautu i aku karere kuputuhi? Me pēhea ahau e whakapono ai ki a ia i tana kīnga mai e aroha ana ia ki ahau? Ki taku whakaaro kāore ia e whakapono ana, tika? engari he mea noa iho māna te haere ki tōna taokete i a ia e noho ana? He mea whakahau rānei?! Kāore au i te tino mōhio, engari ka taea e au te rongo i te hau masala e kī ana - "kei te haere mai ētahi atu, ko te inoi noa iho tēnei".
I tēnei wā, ko tāku e taea ai ko te whakaae ki ēnei mea katoa, ko te tono rānei kia tika te taurite kia taea ai e au te whiwhi i tana aro nui ina hiahia ahau mēnā kei te pirangi tonu ahau ki te whakaipoipo i a ia, tika? Ehara i te mea ngāwari hei kotiro nō Hapani, i te wāhi i kī ai ōku matua kēkē he hara te tahae wā o ngā kaumātua i ngā rangatahi.
I tika tēnei tuhinga mō tōku āhua, engari i kīia pea me whakakore atu ngā tikanga tawhito rerekē e tō tātou whakatupuranga. Kia nui te mihi ki te wahine taitamariki o tāu tama, nā te mea kei te tiaki ia i tāu mama ina tae ahau ki tōku wā. Kia tae rā anō ki taua wā, kia ora ahau.