E noho tahi ana māua, engari e mokemoke ana ahau i roto i taku marena

He whakaaro hē noa iho tēnei mō ngā marena roa: ko te whakaaro mā te noho tahi me tētahi ka oati ai koe ki te noho tahi me te whanaungatanga i a koe e pakeke haere ana, engari he tino tūpono tonu ka noho mokemoke koe i roto i te marena.

He maha ngā wā ka puta te mokemoke i te maha o ngā raruraru, mai i te ngaro o te hononga ki te koretake o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, tae atu ki ngā tumanakohanga teitei rawa atu mai i tō hoa. He tino whakamataku te whakaaro kia noho tahi kōrua engari ko kōrua anake, engari ki te taea e kōrua te tautuhi i te mea i hē, ka taea tonu e kōrua te whakatika i ngā mea me te ngana ki te whakahoki i te noho noa i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Nō reira, he aha te tino take o tō mokemoke?

Mokemoke i roto i te Marena

Ka ngaro te ara o ngā mea katoa ina pāngia koe e te whakarēreatanga kare ā-roto i roto i te marena. Kāore e taea e koe te aro ki tāu mahi, ki tō whānau rānei, ā, kātahi anō ka kore te aroha e whai tikanga, ā, kāore koe e mōhio. me pēhea te whakakore i ngā taumahatanga kare ā-roto. He rite ki tētahi mahanga e aukati ana i a koe kia neke whakamua me te harikoa i te ao.

Ko te mea kino rawa atu i te noho mokemoke i roto i te marena ko te whakaae engari kāore he mahi hei whakatika. Kaua e mauheretia i roto i te kaupapa o te marena mena he kino ake i te pai. He ao whānui ngā mea ka taea, nō reira kua tae ki te wā kia hopukina te rā me te whakamahi pai! Anei tētahi kōrero mō tētahi wahine i tīmata ki te noho mokemoke i roto i te marena.

Ngātahi i roto i ngā mea katoa

Neke atu i te tau te roa o tā māua whakaipoipo, kātahi ka moe. Tekau tau te roa o tā māua marena i roto i ētahi marama. Tekau tau te roa kua kite māua i ngā mea pai me ngā mea kino – tana aituā tata mate, taku pokanga, te matenga o tōku pāpā, te mate o tōna pāpā, ngā raruraru o te hungawai wahine, te ahotea o te mahi, tōna ngākau nui i riro hei mahi tuarua, ngā haerenga, ngā rā whānau, ngā akoranga, ngā whakamātautau, ngā mate e pā ana ki te oranga, me te maha atu anō.

Tekau tau i noho ai ōna hoa hei hoa māku, ā, hei hoa hoki ōku. He tino hononga tō māua ao, kāore au e whakaaro me pēhea māua i kore ai e mōhio i te wā i pakaru ai.

Te Wā i Hē ai

I a māua tahi, engari ko māua anake. Kāore au i te mōhio ki te rā, ki te wā rānei i tīmata ai te hē o ngā mea. Ko te rā pea tēnei i tae mai ai ētahi rongo pai ki te mahi, ā, ko te tangata tuatahi i waea atu ahau ko taku hoa pai, ehara i a ia. I te wā rānei i mōhio ai māua kāore māua i hararei tahi mō te tata ki te toru tau, i te wā rānei i waea atu ai ia ki tana hoa ki te kōrero mō tētahi mea e whakararuraru ana i a ia, ehara i ahau.

I noho tahi māua i roto i te whare kotahi, ā, ka noho tahi māua i roto i te whare kotahi. Ina haere māua ki waho, ka mārama māua kei te pai te ao, kei te noho tonu māua hei hoa aroha – ko māua te hunga e whakatakoto ana i ngā whāinga whanaungatanga mō ētahi atu. Kāore i roa, ka tīmata ahau ki te rongo i te... ngā tohu me ngā pānga o te mokemoke i roto i te marena.

Kua Mārena, ā, kua Mokemoke

I te tau kua taha ake nei, kua whawhai māua, ā, kua pōuri māua mō ngā rā maha mō ngā mea iti, kuware, kāore nei i te tino whai take i mua. Kua puta māua i te whare nā te mea kāore te tangata kē e mārama.

I pakaru ngā karāhe waina hou i te riri. Kua pupuri māua tetahi i tetahi, ā, kua ngana ki te whakahaere i ngā mea katoa, kia hoki ai ki te wāhi i mua. Kāore te ao e mōhio me pēhea māua e tūtaki ana tetahi ki tetahi i te kāinga inaianei. I te mokemoke māua i roto i te marena engari kāore i te mōhio me pēhea te whakamutu.

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I mea atu ahau ka neke atu ahau. I mea mai ia he nui te whare hei nohoanga mā māua, me te kore e whakararuraru tetahi i tetahi. Kei te haere ia ki te mahi i tēnei wiki. Kāore māua i kōrero i te waea, kāore hoki i whakawhitiwhiti karere. Kei te rapu whare noho ahau i runga i ētahi paetukutuku me ngā kaihokohoko.

Te Mutunga O Tetahi Era

Kua noho tahi māua mai i te marama o Hune 2006. Kāore he rā e pahemo ana kāore māua e kōrero, e tuku karere, e whakawhitiwhiti kōrero wairangi rānei. Ka whakarongo ahau ki tētahi waiata, ka tukuna atu e au ngā kupu ki a ia. Ka tukuna mai e ia he karere kuputuhi mai i taku rotarota tino pai.

Me pēhea rā taku noho i te rā katoa (me waiho mō te wiki) me te kore kōrero ki a ia? He tino whakamataku tēnei. Me pēhea rā taku noho i te whare kotahi, te tohatoha i ā māua mahi me ā māua whakapaunga i a māua e noho wehe ana? Kua pau katoa ā māua taonga, kua whakarērea noatia tana tauera, taku whitiki, āna pukapuka, aku paraihe peita.

Kāore he rerekētanga i tēnei wā ahakoa moe tahi māua i te rūma moe kotahi, i ngā rūma moe rerekē rānei, kāore he mea e tupu ana i reira. Kua rere taua kaipuke. Kua kōrero ahau ki tōku māmā. Kāore ia e mārama he aha te take e hiahia ana tētahi tokorua e kīia ana he nui te aroha ki te wehe.

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Kāore i taea e mātou te mārama ki te aha i hē ai

Ka taea e tōku whaea te mārama ki te mahi tinihanga me te tukino ā-whare e mutu ai te marena, engari kāore i te mārama ki tēnei kare ā-roto o te mokemoke i roto i te marena. Ki taku whakaaro, kāore ia e mārama ki te nui o te pānga o tēnei whakarērea kare ā-roto i roto i te marena ki ahau. Kāore anō ia kia kōrero ki ōna mātua. Kei waho rātou i te whenua mō ētahi wiki.

He aha tā tātou e kōrero ai ki ō tātou hoa i tuku mai i ngā mihi Tau Hou hei tokorua? Me pēhea taku whakautu ki tētahi pōhiri tina mā tāua tokorua? He aha me kōrero ai ahau mō te pakaru o tōku ngākau ki ia tangata i runga i a Pukamata?

Ina haere koe i roto i tōu rārangi arowhai wehenga whakamātautau, he aha te mea ka tupu mēnā kei te hiahia tētahi ki te hoki atu, ā, kāore tētahi e hiahia? Me pēhea mēnā ka tukua e au, ka waea atu ki a ia ki te kī atu kei te whakaatuhia tana kiriata tino pai ki te pouaka whakaata i tēnei pō? Mēnā ka hoki anō māua hei tokorua, ka pā tonu rānei ēnei raruraru ki a māua i roto i ētahi marama, i ētahi tau rānei i muri mai?

Ka neke atu rānei ahau i tō māua kāinga, te kāinga i whakatūria ngātahitia e māua me te aroha nui? E 33 ōku tau, ā, kāore au e kite i ahau e noho tahi ana i tētahi whare me tētahi tamaiti hou kua puta i te kura tuarua, engari kāore hoki au e pai ki te hoki ki tētahi whare takoto kau. Me pēhea e wehewehe ai ā māua taonga – ā māua tūru, ā māua pukapuka, ā māua tauera, ā māua paraikete?

Kua tīmata noa māua i tēnei ara. Ehara i te mea ngāwari. He maha atu ngā rā uaua kei mua. Me kaha tonu ahau i roto i ēnei mea katoa. Ko au anake. Ki te kore ia. Me mahi e au.

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Kaua e whakama ki te whakaae ko koe mokemoke i roto i te marena, kaua hoki e whakama ki te rapu āwhina. Mā te kōrero ki tētahi ka āwhina pea i a koe kia tere ake te neke whakamua, kia hoki anō ki te ara tika hei ārahi i a koe ki tētahi heke mai pai ake. Ehara te ora i te mokemoke. Kei te āhua o tō whiriwhiri ki te ora i taua ara te mea e whakawhirinaki ana.

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