Ka taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hoa - he hoa noa iho, kāore he tumanakohanga, kāore hoki he tirohanga aroha ki tō rāua whanaungatanga? He pātai tawhito tēnei e mau tonu ana te hiranga i roto i ngā wā hurihuri, ahakoa kei te whakatere haere tonu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i te arai o ngā hoahoa ira-ira. Ki te mea kei te ahu mai ō whakatau i te ahurea rongonui, ka tino whakapono koe he mea tino kore e taea te hoahoa i waenga i te tāne me te wahine.
Mai I a Harry Met Sally Tuhinga o mua Ko te marena o taku Hoa Pai, mai i a Monica rāua ko Chandler i roto i Hoa ki a Robin rāua ko Barney i roto i Pehea ahau i tae atu ai ki to whaeaWhārangi ka whai mai Kuch Kuch Hota Hai Tuhinga o mua Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na — ko ngā kōrero mō ngā hoahoa ira-tāne me te wahine tino pai rawa atu ka mutu me te hurihanga aroha. Ahakoa he rohe me ngā wero anō hoki ō ēnei hononga, ehara i te mea kāore e tino tūpono te hoahoa parakore i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine e ai ki te whakaaro.
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He rerekē ki ngā mea kua pānuihia i roto i ngā pukapuka, kua kitea rānei i roto i ngā kiriata, me hohonu ake te tirohanga ki tētahi āhuatanga pono, hinengaro hoki o ngā mea ina whakaarahia te pātai - Ka taea te noho hoa noa iho te tāne me te wahine? E kī ana ētahi tohunga hinengaro he maha ngā wā ka arahina ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e te hiahia koiora ki te moe tahi me te whānau uri. Nā tēnei ka whakatau rātou mēnā i hangaia ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kia whānau uri, kāti kāore e whakaaetia te noho hoa. Ahakoa he tautohe tika tēnā, ehara i te mea he pono katoa.
Ka taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hei hoa pai? Ae, ka taea. He momo kukume rerekē pērā i te moepuku, te aroha, te kare ā-roto rānei ka puta i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine. Ka taea e te tokorua te whiwhi i te katoa, i te kotahi anake rānei. Nō reira, ka taea te kī, ko te nuinga o te wā ka arahina ngā hoahoa e te kukume kare ā-roto i ngā mea katoa.
Ngā Wero o te Whakahoahoa Tāne me te Wahine
He hoa noa iho rānei te tāne me te wahine? Kua pātaihia tēnei pātai e ngā tohunga hinengaro me ngā tohunga pāpori, ā, kua whakaohokia te nui o ngā rangahau mō tēnei kaupapa. Ahakoa he rerekē ngā tatauranga e puta mai ana i ngā rangahau me ngā rangahau rerekē, ko te māramatanga whānui ko te kukume ā-ira tangata, ngā tumanakohanga rerekē me ngā tirohanga pāpori he maha ngā wā ka ārai i aua momo whakahoahoa.
A rangahau e tohu ana i te 22 ōrau o ngā tāne i uiuitia me te 11 ōrau o ngā wāhine, kua moe tāne ki tētahi hoa o te ira tangata kē. Tētahi atu ako I te tau 2016, i kitea ko te tūponotanga o ngā tāne ki te whakatakoto i ngā hoahoa ki te ira tangata kē i runga i te hiahia moepuku me te tumanako kia 'angitu moepuku' tonu. E tautoko ana tētahi atu rangahau i tēnei ia, e kitea ana he maha ngā hiahia moepuku ahakoa he hoahoa whakawhanaunga i waenga i te tāne me te wahine.
Hei mārama ki te raruraru — ka taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hei hoa pai — me arotake tātou i ēnei whakahoahoa mā te tirohanga whānui o ngā wero maha e tautuhi ana i tō rātou ara. Koinei ētahi o ngā take kāore e taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hei hoa.
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Wero 1 – Kāore e taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hoa nā te rerekētanga o ngā tumanakohanga
Ka taea te noho hei hoa aroha piripono i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine, ā, he maha ngā tāngata e whakatū ana i tētahi hononga kaha, kāore he hiahia, he hiahia huna rānei. Heoi, i te nuinga o te wā, ka raru ngā hoa aroha ira-ira, nā te mea he rerekē ngā tumanakohanga a ngā hoa tokorua mai i te tīmatanga, i tētahi rānei o rāua. whakawhanake i ngā kare ā-roto aroha tetahi ki tetahi i te wā o te whakahoahoa.
He uaua ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata, ā, he uaua hoki ki te wehewehe i waenga i ngā kare ā-roto hoahoa, ngā kare ā-roto aroha me ngā kare ā-roto moepuku.
Wero 2 – Te kaha o te kukume ā-ira tangata
Kāore e taea te whakakore i te tūponotanga o te hiahia ā-ira tangata ki te takahi i te whanaungatanga pono i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine. Ka tere te huri o te awhi noa ki te āhua ā-ira tangata, ā, ka taea e te mirimiri i te paparinga te huri hei kihi hōhonu, aroha.
Kia mau te hiahia ki tēnā momo aroha, he uaua ki te wareware. Mai i konei, e rua noa ngā huarahi hei haere whakamua - ka pakaru te whakahoahoa, ka huri rānei hei whanaungatanga aroha.
Wero 3 – He aha te take e kore ai e taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te noho hoa? Te kore o te ōritetanga
He hononga ōrite te whakahoahoa. Heoi, ko te āhua hōhonu o te mana o te tāne me te wahine ka ārai i te whakatūnga o taua ōritetanga i roto i ngā whakahoahoa ira-ira. Ahakoa kāore tetahi o ngā hoa e whakaae ana ki ngā ariā o te mana o te tāne me te wahine, ka noho pōhēhē pea ngā tāne ki te tūranga rangatira e mahi ana pērā i te tāne rangatira, ko ngā wāhine ia e tango ana i te tūranga ngohengohe ake. Ka kino pea tēnei mahi mana ki te whakahoahoa roa.
Wero 4 – Ka arai ngā tirohanga pāpori
Koinei te take matua o te whakaaro 'Kāore e taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hoa'. Ahakoa kei roto te tāne me te wahine i te whanaungatanga whakatā, ka taea e ngā tirohanga pāpori te akiaki i a rāua ki te arotake anō i tā rāua whārite. Ko te hunga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga tata ki te ira tangata, ira tāne rānei, ka kitea rātou i te pito o te whakahē, te kimo me te akiaki. Ina tupu tonu tēnei, ka taea te whakaoho i ngā kare ā-roto aroha ka aukati i te whanaungatanga kāore pea i reira i te tuatahi.
Te pānui e pā ana: I aroha ahau ki tētahi wahine pakeke, ā, i whakarerekē i ahau
Ka taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hei hoa noa iho? Ngā momo hoahoa
He rerekē ki te āhua horihori o te whanaungatanga tāne-wahine i roto i ngā kiriata me ngā sitcoms, kāore ēnei whārite katoa i puta katoa mai i te tauira kotahi. He hohonu ake te hinengaro o te whanaungatanga tāne-wahine, ā, he maha ngā momo whanaungatanga kei waenganui i te tāne me te wahine. Ko ētahi o ngā momo whanaungatanga e kitea whānuitia ana i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine ko:
1. Ngā hoahoa Platonic
Ngā whanaungatanga Platonic Ko te whanaungatanga i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine te whakaaturanga tino māmā me te tino māmā o tēnei whārite. I roto i ēnei momo whakahoahoa, he rite ngā uara me ngā hiahia o te tāne me te wahine, ā, e mōhio ana rāua ki ngā tumanakohanga a tētahi ki tētahi. Kāore he rerekētanga o ēnei momo whakahoahoa ki ō rāua hoa ira-tāne, ā, he tino tūpono ka angitu.
2. Ngā whakahoahoa ngaio
Ka taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hei hoa pai? Ae, i ētahi wā ka taea i te wāhi mahi. I ahu mai ēnei hoahoa i tētahi whanaungatanga ngaio i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine, i ahu mai i te wāhi mahi. Ko ēnei whārite e hangai ana ki ngā whāinga ngaio, ngā take me ngā whakatutukitanga ōrite, me te tupu haere i runga i te whakamoemiti tahi ki ngā pūkenga o tētahi ki tētahi.
3. Ngā hoa whai painga
He hoahoa ā-ira tangata ēnei, engari kāore he āhuatanga o te whanaungatanga. I ahu mai tēnei momo hoahoa ā-ira tangata i te hiahia ā-ira tangata huna i waenganui i te tokorua. hoa me nga painga He maha ngā wā ka huri pōrearea ngā whārite, engari ki te whanake he kare ā-roto aroha ki tētahi o ngā hoa, ki te uru rānei tētahi o rātou ki tētahi hononga hou, ka kī tonu te whārite i te hae.
4. Ngā whakahoahoa me te mutunga aroha
I tēnei wā, ka whanake te aroha me te hiahia ā-ira o ngā hoa tokorua tetahi ki tetahi. Ka whakatau tahi rāua ki te kawe i tō rāua whanaungatanga ki tētahi taumata hou. He maha ngā wā ka roa te noho o ēnei whanaungatanga, he whanaungatanga pumau, ā, ka mau tonu mō te oranga katoa.
E taea rānei te noho hei hoa noa iho te tāne me te wahine kua moe tāne?
E ai ki te whakamārama, kua uaua kē te āhua o te whanaungatanga tāne-wahine, te hinengaro rānei o te whanaungatanga tāne-wahine. He aha te mea ka puta ina whakaurua ngā hoa rangatira ki roto i te ranunga? Ka taea e te tāne me te wahine kua marena te noho hei hoa noa iho? He tohu rānei ēnei whanaungatanga mō te kore whakapono? Ā, ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te noho hei hoa tonu i muri i te kitenga o tētahi, o rāua rānei i tētahi hoa rangatira?
Nā te whānui o te whakaaro kāore e taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hoa, ka whakatūria he whanaungatanga pēnei i te wā kua piripono kē koe, whanaungatanga kotahi ka ara ake he maha ngā haki whero mō ngā hoa, ā, ka waiho hei take tautohetohe i roto i te marena.
He tokomaha te hunga e whakaae ana ahakoa he mea e tika ana te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga tawhito i waenga i te ira tangata me te wahine i muri i te marena, ko te hanga i ngā whanaungatanga hou ka ara ake pea he raruraru i roto i te marena.
Haunga tēnā, ko te whakautu ki te pātai 'Ka taea e te tāne me te wahine kua marenatia te noho hei hoa noa iho?' kei te momo whārite e whakapuakina ana e ēnei hoa ki tō hoa rangatira. Mena ka taea e tō hoa me tō wahine te tina tahi, ka taea rānei e tō hoa me tō tāne te mātaki tahi i tētahi kēmu, kei te tū pakari kōrua ki te hanga i tētahi whakahoahoa pumau, whai hua e kore e puta hei utu mō tō kōrua marena.
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I tētahi atu taha, ki te 'whiriwhiria e tō hoa rangatira tētahi āhua', ki te 'whakaaro pūmau' rānei kei te kitea he tohu o te hiahia i roto i a kōrua, he āwhā kei te haere mai. Ahakoa rā, ka taea e kōrua te whakahaere i aua momo whakahoahoa me te kore e whakararu i tō kōrua whanaungatanga, mena ka piri tonu kōrua ki ētahi rohe taketake o ō kōrua whanaungatanga.
1. Kia mōhio ki ngā rohe hou
I a kōrua ko tō hoa anake, tera pea i mahi tahi kōrua i ngā mea katoa. Nā te mea kua whai hoa tō kōrua, tō kōrua rānei, ka rerekē pea tēnā. Nō reira, ko te taahiraa tuatahi ki te pupuri i te whakahoahoa me te kore e tukua kia whakararu i tō kōrua whanaungatanga ko te whakaae ki tēnā. Kātahi ka kimihia he mea hou hei mahi tahi mā kōrua, hei wāhi e taea ai e kōrua te noho tahi me te kore e manukanuka kei takahia ngā rohe hauora.
Hei tauira, kaua e inu i te pō o te Rāhoroi, engari me tūtaki ki te tina i te rā wiki. Ka taea rānei te kōrero mā te karere kuputuhi kaua ki te waea roa.
2. Noho i tētahi rohe kūpapa
He mahi taurite te whakahoahoa i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine kua mārenatia, ina kore te piripono o tētahi hononga e whakararu i tētahi atu. Tīmata mā te whakaae ko tō hoa rangatira te mea nui, ā, whakaitihia te wā e noho tahi ai kōrua ko tō hoa. Kaua e tumanako ka haere tahi rāua ki te hoko kakahu o roto, ki te whakarite rānei i tētahi wāhi mirimiri.
Kimihia he wāhi noho noa ake hei whakangahau. Te tiki kawhe, te mātaki kēmu, te haereere me ō hoa whānui…he kōwhiringa pai ake ēnei katoa.
3. Kia tūpato ki ngā koha
Me kī ko te rā whānau o tō hoa, ā, ka hoatu e koe he koha ataahua ki a ia wahi whakapaipai i a ia e hoko ana i tētahi kākahu māna. Ka hokona rānei e koe he kāmera māna, i a ia e hoatu ana i ngā mōhiti kanohi māna e tana wahine. Āue! Ahakoa kāore koe i te hiahia ki te pera, ka taea e koe te whara i ō whakapehapeha me te whakakino i te hoa rangatira o tō hoa. Nō reira, kaua e whakapau kaha ki ō koha nā te mea kua pērā tonu koe.
4. Whakatūria he whanaungatanga ki tā rātou hoa rangatira
Ka taea e te tāne me te wahine kua marenatia te noho hei hoa noa iho? Ae, mena he mea whakapati noa iho. He aha te huarahi pai ake hei whakamanawa i te hoa rangatira o tō hoa i tēnei mea, mā te whakapau kaha ki te hanga hononga motuhake ki a rātou anō. Kawea rātou ki te kawhe, ki te hokohoko rānei, ngana ki te mōhio pai ake ki a rātou kia mōhio ai rātou ko tā kōrua e whakapuaki nei he hoahoa noa iho i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine.
5. Kaua e pupuri i te mauahara
Tērā pea i mua he wā i noho tahi kōrua i roto i te oranga o ia rā, ā, ināianei kua roa kē te korenga o ō kōrua rongonga i tō hoa. Kaua e pupuri i te mauahara. He wāhanga tēnei o te tipu ake. Ka puta te ao, ka pukumahi, ka wehe kē. Ki te tupu tēnā, tukua tō riri me tō mauaharaMe taea e kōrua te haere tonu me te kore he riri. Ka noho motuhake tonu kōrua ko tō hoa i roto i te ngākau o tētahi ki tētahi.
E taea rānei te noho hei hoa noa iho te tāne me te wahine?
Nō reira, ka taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hei hoa pai? Ae, ka taea e rāua. Ae, he ārai kei roto i tēnei whārite, koinei te mea e tino whakamere ana, e ātaahua ana hoki. Mena kei te whakaatu ngā tāngata e rua i te aroha whakapatipati, ā, kei te whakaaro tahi rātou mō ā rāua hiahia me ā rāua tumanakohanga, ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te hanga me te whakapuaki i ngā whanaungatanga pumau, ahakoa kua moea e tētahi, e rāua rānei tētahi atu tangata.
Kaua e tukua te iwi kia kōrero mai he aha te take e kore ai e taea e te tāne me te wahine te noho hoa. He ara hihiri tēnei, ehara i te ara tika. Kia maumahara, ehara i te mea hou te whanaungatanga whakawhanaunga e whakawhirinaki ana ki te wairua o te ngākau i tēnei ao.
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Ahakoa ehara i te mea ngāwari, engari ka taea. Ko te mea nui o te hiahia, ka memeha haere. Nō reira, ki te kore e tino aroha, ā, he moepuku noa iho, tera pea he māmā ake te wareware atu. Engari ki te tino aroha tō hiahia, tera pea he uaua te noho hoa mā kōrua.
Ngā hoa pai o te tama me te kotiro he mea noa ake i tō whakaaro. Ahakoa kāore te hapori e kōrero pinepine ana mōna, ehara i te mea kāore e taea te noho.
Ae, ka taea e rātou. Ka taea e te wahine te kawe mai i tētahi tirohanga hou ki te ao o te tāne hei hoa. Kāore he take e kore ai e taea e rātou te whai hononga kare ā-roto, hoahoa hoki mō te ao katoa.
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Āe!!! He pono katoa tēnei. Āe, he aha te taha takatāpui? He hoa hoki rātou ki te katoa, engari kei te aroha rātou ki ia mema o te rōpū? KĀORE NUI! Kia pakeke tātou, ehara i te mea e tika ana kia aroha te kōtiro me te tama mena he hoa rāua.