He aha te marena tuwhera, ā, he aha te take e whiriwhiri ai te tangata i tētahi?

He aha te marena tuwhera, ā, he aha i rongonui ai?

Kāore i miharo i taku tīmatanga ki te tohutohu i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua mārenatia e pāngia ana e ētahi raruraru piripono. Kāore te wahine i pai ki te mahi tahi, kāore rānei te tāne i te pai ki te moepuku. Ā, ko tētahi atu i ohorere i te mōhio he takatāpui tana tāne. Ko tētahi atu i hiahia ki tētahi marena tuwhera i muri i ētahi tau o te hoha ki ngā mahi moepuku. Ko ētahi i hiahia noa ki te mōhio atu mō tēnei mea, me pēhea hoki te kōrero ki tā rātou tāne, ki tā rātou wahine rānei.

Nā te mea he mea whakamere ake

Neke atu i te kotahi tau a Karan (42), he kaipakihi, rāua ko Kirti (35), he kaitiaki kāinga, e noho ana i roto i tētahi marena tuwhera. I whakaae ia i tīmata ia ki te tinihanga i tana wahine i a ia e haereere ana mō tana pakihi. "Mō ngā tau e rua, kāore ia i te mōhio kei te moe tahi ahau me ētahi atu wāhine. Kātahi, i tētahi rā, ka kitea e ia tētahi putea ure i roto i taku peke, ā, ka whakahē mai ki ahau. I whakaae ahau ki taku tinihanga ki a ia, engari i whakamārama ahau kāore he mea e pakaru ai tōna ngākau i roto i aku pōuri moepuku me aku wawata, nā te mea e aroha ana ahau ki a ia. Inaa, i whakaae ahau ki a ia kia moe tahi me ētahi atu tāne mēnā e hiahia ana ia," te kī a Karan. Ahakoa i roa te wā, i te mutunga ka whakaae a Kirti ki te whakaritenga. "Ināianei kei te tuwhera māua ki te tūhura tahi me ētahi atu tāne, engari ko tā māua āwangawanga ko te haumaru me te pēhea te mahi." Tokorua ā rāua tamariki, kāore e mōhio ana ki tā rāua whanaungatanga tuwhera.

Nā te mea he takatāpui ia

Ko tētahi atu i moe tāne ki tētahi takatāpui, ā, e raru ana ia i te taha hinengaro ki te whakaae ki te meka. I waea mai a Laxmi (25), i moe ki a Srinivas (28), he tohunga hangarau mōhiohio, ki ahau mō te tohutohu. I pōuri ia, ā, i riri hoki. I whakaae ia, "He tangata pai taku tāne, ā, he tangata manaaki, he tangata aro, he tangata mātau, engari he pai ake ki a ia te tāne. Me pēhea taku whakatau i tēnei raruraru kare ā-roto, i te mea e aroha ana ahau ki a ia mōna ake? Ahakoa i whakaritea māua i muri i ētahi marama o te taumau, kāore au i whakaaro he takatāpui ia. Ahakoa kua homai e Srinivas te mana ki ahau ki te whiriwhiri i tētahi atu tāne, i ētahi atu tāne rānei mō aku hiahia moepuku, kāore anō kia taea e au te whiriwhiri i tētahi atu kōwhiringa." Nā te mea kua whakaritea ki tētahi pūnaha whakapono whānau tuku iho, he raruraru nui tēnei mōna.

Nā te mea kāore tāua e hototahi

"He pakanga tō māua marena mai anō i te tīmatanga, engari nā ā māua tamariki māua i pupuri. Kāore māua i te ōrite i te moenga. I haehae i ahau rāua ko ia. I tētahi rā ka noho māua ka kōrero mō tā māua raruraru me tētahi tokorua hoa kua tīmata kē te moe tahi, ā, i whakaaro rāua kia tuwhera te marena kia pai ai te harikoa whaiaro me te harikoa hinengaro. Heoi, ko māua ko Maria, i whānau mai he Katorika, kāore māua i te tino mōhio me pēhea te pānga ki a māua me tō māua ingoa pai. Ka taea e koe te kōrero mai mēnā koinei anake te huarahi hei rapu otinga mō ā māua raruraru marena?" i pātai a Hoani me te kore āwhina, me te pōhēhē.

Kāore i te tino tapu te kaupapa ināianei

Kāore te marena tuwhera i te mea tapu, i te mea whakakatakata rānei mō te whanaungatanga. I tēnei ao tere o te ao, kua tino kitea te moepuku i waho o te marena, te marena tuwhera rānei. He maha ngā āhuatanga. He tokomaha kua whiriwhiri ki te whakamahi i te marena tuwhera hei karo i te whakarere. Nā te kore o te wā me te manawanui ki te whakatau i ngā take o te marena, o te whanaungatanga rānei, kua akiaki i te tini o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te whiriwhiri i te marena tuwhera. Ā, i ētahi kura whakaaro, he mea maori hoki te tautoko i te marena tuwhera, kaua ki te marena tuku iho.

Ko te whakaaro o ētahi, kāore e taea e te tāne, e te wahine rānei te noho pono, te aroha rānei ki te tangata kotahi mō tōna oranga katoa.

Ko te whakaaro o ētahi, kāore e taea e te tāne, e te wahine rānei te noho pono, te aroha rānei ki te tangata kotahi mō tōna oranga katoa.

He mea koretake te tumanako atu ki tēnā. Kei te whanake tonu tātou, kei te huri haere i te roanga o te wā, ā, ka huri anō hoki ā tātou manakohanga. Tērā pea ka whakamāmāhia ō tātou hiahia, ō tātou wawata taketake rānei e te tini ke atu i tā tātou wahine, tāne rānei kua marenatia.

Ko te marena tuwhera, e ai ki te kupu, e pā ana ki tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera e taea ai e te tangata te whai hoa moepuku neke atu i te kotahi me te whakaae a tōna hoa rangatira. He ingoa anō tēnei mō te swinging.

He manaakitanga tēnei mō te tangata e hiahia ana kia pumau te whanaungatanga engari kāore e hiahia ki te whakapau kaha. Engari ehara i te mea e pai ana ki te katoa, nā te mea he tino mamae, ā, kāore hoki e ngākau nui te katoa ki te whakapuaki i tā rātou hoa (ahakoa he moepuku) ki tētahi atu.

Ngā take mō te whiriwhiri i tētahi marena tuwhera

I te nuinga o te wā, he torutoru ngā take e whiriwhiri ai te tangata i tētahi whakataunga pēnei:

1. Ina he pai te wairua o te marena, o te whanaungatanga rānei, engari kāore he whanaungatanga tūturu.
2. Ina, ahakoa he aha te take, kāore e taea e te tokorua te whakarere, nā te pēhanga pāpori, ngā tumanakohanga a te whānau, te āhua pūtea, nō reira, me noho tonu rāua hei tokorua mārena.
3. I roto i te marena i waenganui i te tangata takatāpui me te tangata takatāpui, he take noa iho tēnei i Īnia. I ētahi wā, ka whānau tamariki te wahine a te tāne takatāpui mai i tētahi atu tāne hei huna i te take.
4. Kua kitea ngā wā i takirua ai te wahine a te tāne, ā, ka whakatuwhera te tāne i te hononga tokotoru, ka rapu hoa anō rānei hei whakaipoipo.
5. Ina kore e pai te āhua o tētahi o rāua, ka tukuna e rāua te hoa ki te rapu i te oranga tinana i tētahi atu wāhi.
6. I ētahi wā, ina mahi ana ngā hoa mahi ki tāwāhi mō ngā tau maha, ka noho puku te māramatanga kia noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera, kia noho tahi rānei me te hiahia tuwhera, me te kore e whakahara tetahi i tetahi.
7. Ina hiahia ngā tokorua ki te tūhura i te taatai ​​hei hoa piripono, hei roto rānei i tētahi hanganga maha-aroha o ngā hononga taatai.

Ko te harikoa i roto i te marena tuwhera e whakawhirinaki ana ki a kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira anake. Engari i mua i te urunga ki tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera, kia mōhio koe ki ngā painga me ngā huakore, kia taea ai e koe te whakatau tika.

Ngā painga o te marena tuwhera

• Ko te painga nui o te noho i roto i te marena tuwhera ko te whai i ngā painga katoa o te noho takakau me te pupuri tonu i te whanaungatanga.
• He āhua noa iho te tangata ki te hoha ki te āhua noho e kore e rerekē. I roto i tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera, ka taea e koe te wheako i ngā momo āhuatanga o tō koiora.
• Ka pai ake te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i waenga i te tokorua, nā te mea ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero te kaupapa matua o te whanaungatanga tuwhera.
• Kāore koe e taumahatia e te hara, ā, ka taea e koe te pārekareka ki tōu ao i tētahi ara pai ake
• I te mea e mōhio ana tō hoa ki ngā tuku e tukuna ana e koe, tera pea ka kaha ia ki te whakatutuki i ō hiahia. He poto, he mea pai tonu te whakaoti i ngā mea katoa.
• Ka pai ake tō whanaungatanga piripono me tō hoa i a koe e ako ana i ngā tikanga hou mō te taatai ​​me ētahi atu hoa.
• Ka piki ake te pono i roto i tō marena.

Ngā huakore o te noho i roto i te marena tuwhera

• I te mea he nui atu i te kotahi te hoa moepuku e noho tahi ana, kei reira tonu te wehi kei pāngia e ngā mate tuku iho.
• Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakapuaki i tō hoa ki tētahi atu. Ka taea e te kare ā-roto o te hae te uru mai.
• I ētahi wā ka uaua, ka whakama hoki te kōrero i ngā āhuatanga katoa ki tō hoa.
• Kāore rawa he tūmataitinga mōu.
• Kāore te hapori e tautoko i ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera, ā, ka whakahengia pea koe mō tēnā.
• Kei reira tonu te wehi kei uru atu koe ki tētahi whanaungatanga kare ā-roto ka pā ki tō kōrua marena.
• He mea whakapau wā, he mea uaua hoki. Tērā pea ka taea e koe te noho tahi me te tangata kotahi, te kite i a ia i ngā wā katoa, te taunga ki a ia – kaua e maumahara ki ngā tāngata maha me ngā aroha rerekē.

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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