Te Atamira Kōrero: Me pēhea te Whakahaere Pēnei i te Tohunga

Kua angitu ō kupu whakaohooho, ā, i taea e koe te whakaiti i tō manukanuka mō te rā tuatahi kia nui ake ai tō haere. Kei te tīmata koe ki te mōhio ki tēnei tangata, ā, kua moemoeā kē koe mō ngā hararei ki Venice me rātou. Engari i mua i tō hoehoe i ngā tiriti o Venice me te titiro atu ki ngā kanohi o tēnei tangata, me whakatere koe i te wāhanga "kia ora, kia kore rānei e ora": te wāhanga kōrero.

Me haere tonu koe me te reo i whakatau koe ki te whakamahi i te rā tuatahi? Āhea koe me kī atu ki tēnei tangata ehara i te mea nāu te mōkai i runga i tō taupānga whakaipoipo? He aha rawa te atamira kōrero, ā, me pēhea e taea ai e koe te whakarite kia puta mai ō tīkiti pakiwaitara ki Venice i tētahi rā?

Kaua e manukanuka, kei a mātou ngā mea katoa hei āwhina i a koe. I roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka kōrerohia e te kaiako whakaipoipo Geetarsh Kaur, te kaiwhakaū o Te Kura Pūkenga, he tohunga ki te hanga whanaungatanga kaha ake, e whakautu ana i ō pātai nui katoa mō ngā ture o te atamira kōrero me te mea tonu e tika ana kia mahia e koe i roto.

He aha te atamira kōrero?

Nā, he aha te wāhanga kōrero? Kia kore ai koe e whakaaro kei te kōrero tātou mō te wāhanga e puta mai ana i muri tonu i te taunga ki tēnei tangata i runga i tētahi taupānga whakaipoipo, me titiro tātou ki te wā tika e tupu ai, me te āhua hoki.

Whakaarohia tēnei: ​​Kua rua ngā wā i noho tahi ai kōrua ko tētahi, ā, ko ētahi atu i noho tahi ai kōrua inaianei te āhua nei kāore he aha, ā, kei te memeha haere tō waranga ki ngā taupānga whakaipoipo. Ko ēnei katoa nā te mea kāore e taea e koe te mutu te moemoeā mō tēnei tangata i kai tahi kōrua i tētahi hotdog i tō kōrua wā tuarima ki te pāka tata. 

Inaianei kei te kōrero tonu kōrua, i ia rā pea. Kāore anō kōrua kia kōrero mō te motuhaketanga, te āhua o tō kōrua whanaungatanga, tae atu ki te huarahi e ahu atu ai. Ko tāu e mōhio ana, ina puta tō rāua ingoa i runga i tō waea, ka tiaho anō hoki tō mata. 

Ngā mihi nui ki a koe, kua tae koe ki te wā kōrero. Kātahi anō ka noho ko tēnei tangata anake te tangata e hiahia ana koe ki te kōrero ki a ia i muri i te tuku kōrero a Jenna o te HR ki a koe, ā, kei te whakaaro tonu koe ki te nui o ngā karere ka taea e koe te tuku atu ki a rātou me te kore e pana atu i a rātou. 

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Kei te ako koe mō tō rātou ao, kei te ako rātou mō tōu ao. He wā noa iho tēnei e mōhio ai koe ki a rātou anō. Kei te tīmatanga koe ki tētahi mea nui ake, kāore anō kia mōhiotia e koe. 

Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe mō ngā rerekētanga i waenga i te wā kōrero me te wā whakaipoipo, ko te mea nui ko te wā kōrero he nui ake te hiranga i te wā ra tuatahi, ko te wāhi e tino āwangawanga ai koe ko te pēhea e huna ai i ō paru i te rua o te poka. 

Nā te mea kua whakautua e tātou te pātai mō te wāhanga kōrero, kua arotakehia ngā rerekētanga i waenganui i te wāhanga kōrero me te wāhanga whakaipoipo, ā, kua kitea kei te tino hiahia koe ki te hono atu ki tētahi atu. Me titiro tātou ki te aha me mahi koe ina haere tonu te tuku karere kuputuhi.

Ngā Mea e Tika ana, Ngā Mea Kāore e Tika ana mō te Atamira Kōrero 

He tino whakaaro takitahi te wāhanga kōrero o tētahi whanaungatanga. Kāore he whārite e rua e tino ōrite ana, ā, ko te mea e pai ana ki tētahi, kāore pea e pai ki tētahi. Kāore he huarahi kotahi e pai ana mō te katoa i konei, engari he maha tonu ngā hapa me karo. 

Kia kore ai tō kōrero e rahua nā te mea kāore e taea e koe te mutu te kōrero mō tō hoa o mua, kua whakarārangihia e au ētahi mea hei mahi māu, me ētahi mea kāore e tika kia mahia: 

1. Me mahi: Ngāna kia ataahua, kia atawhai, kia whakamiharo (arā, kia noho ko koe anō)

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te noho ataahua, te noho whakamiharo hoki? E rua ngā kupu: kia pono. I a koe e miharo ana ki tētahi, he maha ngā tāngata e mahi ana, e kōrero ana rānei i ngā mea kāore i te āhua taketake ki a rātou.

I roto i tētahi wā, ka memeha haere tēnā. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te pupuri i taua reo rerekē nā te mea i ako koe i taua reo i te rā tuatahi mō tētahi take, āe? Ko te whakaaro kia noho ko koe anō, kia atawhai, kia mahi i ngā mea e mahia tonutia ana e koe, ā, kaua e teka mō tō tuakiri. Ko te tikanga o tēnā me pupuri e koe taua kōrero "haereere noa i Ūropi ki te Rawhiti" kia tawhiti rawa atu. 

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2. Kaua: Kia nui rawa te tumanako 

I te mea kāore anō kia tino whakapumautia, kaua e waiho ō tumanakohanga kia teitei rawa. Kia maumahara, ko koe e ngana ana ki te miharo i tētahi, meatia tō ara kia karapoti i a rātou, ā, koinā hoki te mahi a te tangata kē. 

Ki te mea kei te tumanako koe kia whanonga tētahi i tētahi ara, ka raru noa iho koe. Tērā pea kāore tō rātou whakaaro mō te wāhanga kōrero o te whakaipoipo e rite ana ki tōu, ā, ko ngā karere kuputuhi "Mōrena, e te rā!" e pai ana koe he mea whakarihariha ki a rātou. 

3. Meatia: Tohutohu mārire mō tētahi mea nui atu i te whakaipoipo noa (arā, te takaro pōwhiri) 

Hei mārama ki tēnei tohutohu mō te wāhanga kōrero, me mārama koe ki te āhua o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i waenganui i a kōrua. Ki te mea kei te mārama te tangata, kei te rite rānei ki te tango i te tohutohu, me tohu mārire koe i tētahi herenga nui ake. 

Engari, i taua wā anō, whakaarohia te tūponotanga kei te aroha koe ki tētahi atu tangata, ā, kāore pea rātou e aroha ki a koe. Tērā pea kāore tēnei tangata i te tino aro nui ki ngā kare ā-roto pērā i a koe.

I te nuinga o te wā, he whakaaro pai te tohu i tētahi here nui ake. Ki te mea kei te rapu koe i tētahi mea nui, me mōhio te tangata kē atu kei te rapu koe i tētahi mea nui. Ā, ki te kore koe e rapu ana i tētahi mea nui, me mōhio rātou ko tāu e hiahia ana ko tētahi te wa awhi hoa. 

4. Kaua e: Panahia ngā rohe mā te tango whakaahua whaiaro i runga i te Instagram

He whiringa whaiaro te whakaatu i tēnei ki te marea i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Mena he pai ki a kōrua te whakamahi i ngā pāpāho pāpori me te tuku whakaahua whaiaro ngātahi, kaua e whakamātau.

Engari, ki te kore te tangata kē e tino pukumahi ana i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori, ā, kāore e tohatoha anō, e tuku kōrero rānei mō te pikitia kua tukuna e koe, ngana pea kia kaua e akiaki rawa. Engari kia tere ake te mahi, tirohia te tohutohu tuatahi mō te atamira kōrero kua whakarārangihia e au. Kia mau ki te ātaahua! 

5. Me mahi: Ki te tino pāngia, kōrerohia ngā mea pēnei i te motuhaketanga, ngā tumanakohanga, me ngā hiahia 

Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero anake te mea nui mēnā ka tīmata te kino o ngā mea. Me whakatakoto e koe ō kaupapa matua me ō tumanakohanga. Ko te tere o te kōrero mō ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, ngā mea e kore e pai ki a koe, ngā mea e whara ai koe, me ngā mea kāore e whara ai, ko te tere o te whakatū i tētahi whanaungatanga taurite. 

Kāore he tangata e hiahia ana kia whara, ā, ki te tere tō kī atu i ngā mea pēnei i te, "Nā... he aha tātou?", ka tere tō mōhio ki tō tūnga. Kāore koe e hiahia kia noho kore tapanga pērā i ngā hua hou i te hūpermakete. Ka tawhito te nuinga o tēnā i muri i te wiki. 

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6. Kaua e: Tukua kia roa rawa, tera pea ka noho pūmau 

Ko te roa o te wā kōrero i roto i te whanaungatanga e whakawhirinaki ana ki te āhua o te whanaungatanga. Ki ētahi, kāore pea e mutu te ngākau māhaki me te "ngahau", engari he mea nui tonu kia maumahara ki tēnā te whakapau kaha koia te mea ka haria ngā mea ki tētahi wāhi. 

Mā te whakapau kaha koe e āwhina i te wā roa. Ka ārai i tēnei mea katoa kei memeha, ā, mā ētahi mahi atawhai pea ka ea te mahi. I te wā e hoki mai ana koe i te mahi, tikina te kai reka tino pai a tēnei tangata, ka ohorere i a ia. Mā wai e mōhio, tera pea ka tukuatu noa e ia he kōrero mōna ki runga i a Instagram.

Mā te "wāhanga kōrero" ka taea te whakatau, te whakakore rānei i tō whanaungatanga katoa. Mā te kōrero whakamataku me te whakahua i te hoa o mua, kua mutu. Engari ki te atawhai koe, ki te takaro tika, ki te noho ko koe anō, ā, ki te whakapau kaha koe, tera pea kei a koe tāu ake kiriata whakakatakata.

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