15 Ngā Tauira Kōtaha Whakaipoipo Wahine Pakeke Tuturu

He wahine pakeke koe, kua raru koe ki te angitu i roto i ngā taupānga whakaipoipo? I mua i tō whakahē i te whakaipoipo ipurangi he koretake mō te kimi i te 'Mr. Right', i te hoa pakeke rānei mō te wā poto, tirohia anō tō kōtaha whakaipoipo. Me whakatikatika pea, me whakamārama kia taea ai e koe te kukume i te hunga tika. Mā tā mātou rārangi tauira kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine pakeke koe e hoatu ki te tuhi i taua kōtaha ātaahua ki tō taupānga whakaipoipo tino pai.

Āe, i roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka tirohia e mātou ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo mō ngā wāhine pakeke. E kore e kōrero noa mātou ki a koe ngā mea e tika ana me ngā mea kāore e tika ana mō te hanga i aua kōtaha, engari ka tukuna atu hoki e mātou ētahi tauira kōtaha whakaipoipo pakeke 15 hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau me pēhea te whakaatu i a koe i runga i ngā taupānga whakaipoipo me te kore e āhua kei te ngana nui rawa koe.

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Kia pono tātou. Mā ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo i ēnei rā ka taea te whakatau, te whakakore rānei i tō tupono ki te hoa rangatira ipurangi. I te mea ko tō aituā i te ao whakaipoipo ipurangi e whakawhirinaki ana ki te pāwhiri noa i roto i ngā hēkona, kāore he tautohe e hiahia ana koe ki te whakapau kaha ki roto. te tuhi i tō kōtaha whakaipoipo—mai i te kōrero mō tō taupānga whakaipoipo ki te pane matua mō ngā pae whakaipoipo. Ka kitea nuitia tēnei ina mōhio koe kei a koe ngā rauropi taupānga whakaipoipo hei taurite i a koe ki tētahi tangata, ehara i te mea he kaiwhakataurite tangata e mārama ana ki ō hiahia katoa. 

Hei whakaatu i tō pūkete hei wahine utu nui Mō tētahi kōtaha whakaipoipo, me ātaahua te āhua. Engari i te wā kotahi, me noho ko koe anō, me tāpiri hoki he paku whakakatakata, kia iti ake ai te hoha. He iti noa ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo ipurangi pai hei tārua mā ngā wāhine i roto i tēnei tuhinga. Engari hei tīmatanga, me titiro tātou ki ētahi o ngā mea me mahi, ngā mea kāore e tika ana mō ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo wāhine pakeke kia tino kitea ai e rātou te hoa tino pai mō rātou anō. 

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1. Kia poto me te whakahihiri

He ture koura tēnei mō te tuhi i ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo mō ngā wāhine pakeke. Kia maumahara ki te pupuri i tō koiora poto, kia ataahua hoki. Ko tētahi ngoikoretanga nui o te whai kōtaha roa ko te nui rawa o ngā taipitopito me ngā pārongo ka tukuna e koe i te wā kotahi:

• Tērā pea ka raru koe i te hunga tinihanga romance
• Tērā pea ka pā ki te wāhanga ngaro 
• Tērā pea he hoha rawa mō te tangata ki te pānui

2. Tāpirihia he kōrero whai pānga mō tō oranga mahi me ō whāinga

Ae, kaua ngā wāhine pakeke e whakaatu noa i ō rātou ataahua, engari me kōrero hoki ki ō rātou hoa rangatira mō tō rātou whakapau kaha ki ā rātou whāinga oranga me ā rātou mahi. Whakaaturia pototia ngā taipitopito o tō mahi, me te whakahua i tō kōtaha mahi me ngā mea e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi ā muri ake nei.

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3. Whakaahuahia tō hoa tino pai

Koinei te mea e kitea ana e te nuinga o ngā rauropi taupānga whakaipoipo. Ā, koinei te take kaua e hē te mahi. Tāpirihia ngā taipitopito mō te momo hoa e hiahia ana koe ki te kimi i runga i te taupānga. He mea nui tēnei pērā i te taitara mō ngā pae whakaipoipo. Ka uru atu pea tēnei ki:

• Ngā āhuatanga ā-tinana, pērā i te teitei me te taumaha
• Ētahi atu taipitopito pēnei i te tau me te tūnga marena
• Ngā hiahia, pērā i ngā hākinakina, ngā kiriata, ngā toi

4. Tāpirihia he kōrero mō ō uara me ō whakapono

He mea nui anō hoki tēnei wāhanga mēnā kei te tino hiahia koe ki te kimi he tangata motuhakeTāpirihia tētahi, e rua rānei ngā rārangi mō ō uara me ō whakapono. Tērā pea he pēnei tēnei:

• Ngā take pāpori pērā i te Black Lives Matter, te Feminism rānei
• Ngā take o nāianei me ngā mahi tōrangapū
• Religion 

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5. Tāpirihia he kōrero whakakatakata

Ae, hei wahine pakeke, me whakamārama koe i tāu e hiahia ana, ā, me kōrero tika hoki. Engari he mea nui anō hoki kia tāpirihia he whakakatakata ki te kōtaha, kia whakaurua hoki ētahi ngā huarahi whakakatakata hei tīmata kōreroKāore pea koe i te tino katakata pērā i tō kaiwhakakata tū-ake tino pai, engari ka taea e koe te whakamātau ki te whakakatakata i te wheua katakata o tō hoa i roto i tō ake ara ahurei. Nō reira, tāpirihia ētahi katakata i a koe e whakapuaki ana i tō whakaaro. Kei a mātou he rārangi o ngā tauira kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine katakata i roto i tā mātou wāhanga e whai ake nei hei āwhina i a koe ki tēnei.

6. Āta karohia ngā kare kino

E hiahia ana koe ki te whakaipoipo i tētahi e tuku kōrero roa ana mō te kore tika o te hapori i runga i tana kōtaha whakaipoipo? E whakamahi ana rānei i ngā kupu kino, i ngā kupu whakakatakata rānei e whakaputa ana i ngā kare kino? Kāore, tika? Āe, karohia hoki te pera i runga i tō kōtaha. He aha koe ka whakakino ai i te kare i mua i te tīmatanga? Me kore he kare kino i roto i ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine whai uara, ā, me whakaputa te whakapono ki a ia anō me te kore e whakahe i ētahi atu. Koinei te mea e kukumehia ana e ngā tāne.

7. Kia mārama ko wai koe, me tāu e hiahia ana

He whaea takakau koe, he tamariki tokorua ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te noho tahi me tētahi atu? kua whakarerea, ā, e rapu ana kia whakaipoipo anō? He tangata haereere koe e hiahia ana ki te kimi i tētahi tangata haereere matihiko? Kei te rapu noa rānei koe i tētahi tāne pai i tō taha? Hei wahine pakeke, kia mārama koe ko wai koe me te aha e hiahia ana koe ki te kimi, ahakoa he whanaungatanga nui, he hononga noa rānei. Kua whakaatuhia e ngā rangahau he nui ake te aro ki ngā mea hou i roto i ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo. He aha e kore ai e whakamātau?

8. Tukuna ngā whakaahua e tohu ana i tō hiahia

Kia tino whai pikitia kōtaha koe e tautoko ana i ōu whakaaro. Wahine ngā pikitia kōtaha whakaipoipo He tino mahi nui tā te mahi nei ki te kimi i ngā tāngata tika. E mōhio ana tātou kāore te ao e tika kia whakahē i tētahi tangata i runga i ā rātou whakaahua, engari ehara i te mea koinei te āhua o te ao. Ko ētahi tohutohu e whai ake nei:

• Tāpirihia ngā whakaahua e whakaatu ana i a koe e menemene ana. Kāore he tangata e pai ki te kite i te tangata e pōuri ana, e pouri ana rānei i roto i ngā whakaahua
• Tāpirihia ētahi whakaahua o tō kanohi, engari tāpirihia hoki ētahi whakaahua o te tinana katoa. Kāore koe e hiahia kia whakapae tō hoa mō tō tinana.
• Tāpirihia ngā whakaahua o ngā kākahu e pai ana ki a koe
• Kaua e whakamahi i ngā tātari me ngā whakatika maha rawa. Kia mau ki tō āhua tūturu i roto i ō whakaahua.

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9. Waihangahia he taitara pae whakaipoipo e hopu ana i te aro

Ka taea e te pane o te pae whakaipoipo te whakamīharo, te whakararu rānei i ō kaihoko pea i runga i te taupānga. He mea nui kia whakapau kaha koe ki te mahi tika. Anei ētahi tohutohu:

• Tāpirihia tētahi, ētahi rānei o ngā katakata: Kei te rapu au i aku ika tuna, nā te mea he tino rerekē ngā kōura inanahi!
• I ētahi wā, ka whai hua anō hoki ngā kupu whakakatakata: He maha ngā poroka i kihihia e au, engari kāore he mea i puta. Nō reira, anei ahau
• Kia matatau ki te rapunga whakaaro: Kāore he mea e mau tonu ana. Koia ahau e rapu ana i tōku ake ake i roto i tētahi tangata.
• Kia tika: He kai tunu kai tino pai ahau e hiahia ana ki te whakapai ake i tō oranga

Hei āwhina i a koe ki te tuhi i tētahi kōtaha e hiahiatia ana, kua whakarārangihia e mātou he 15 tauira o ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine i te wāhanga e whai ake nei.

15 Ngā Tauira Kōtaha Whakaipoipo Wahine Pakeke Tuturu

Nā te mea kua mōhio koe ki ngā mea e tika ana kia whakanuia e koe i tō pae whakaipoipo, i tō taupānga whakaipoipo rānei, me titiro tātou ki ētahi tauira tūturu o te āhua o ēnei kōtaha. Kei roto i ēnei ko ngā kōrero poto ngā tauira koiora mō te whakaipoipo wahine ka taea e ngā kaitātaki te whakamahi, me ētahi mea tino whakakatakata hei whakakorikori i tō wheua whakakatakata. Mena kei te rapu koe i ngā kōtaha whakakatakata ipurangi pai hei tārua mā ngā wāhine, kua tae mai koe ki te wāhi tika. Anei tā mātou rārangi o ngā tauira kōtaha whakakatakata wahine pakeke hei āwhina i a koe ki te mahi, mena he uaua ki a koe te tuhi i ngā kōtaha matatini:

1. Whakamāramahia tō aroha ki te mōrearea

He tangata hīkoi koe, he tangata hikoi, he tangata rapu mōrearea rānei? Kei te hiahia koe kia pērā anō hoki tō hoa rangatira? Kua whiriwhiria e mātou tētahi o aua momo kōrero e whakaatu ana i te aroha nui ki te taiao.

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2. Whakaaturia te huarahi e ārahi ai tō mahi i a koe ki ngā wāhi katoa

He maha āu haerenga ki te mahi? Whakaaturia tō pūkenga me te kukume mai i ngā hoa mahi he rite ō whakaaro.

3. Kia mōhio rātou he 'ngahau' te wahine kua reti

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4. Kōrero atu ki a rātou kāore koe e whakapono ana ki ngā kōrero tawhito

He pai ki ngā wāhine katoa ngā putiputi? Kua tae ki te wā kia whakarērea ngā kōrero tawhito. Kei raro nei, tētahi tauira poto o te koiora o ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo ka taea e ngā wahine te whakamahi hei tohutoro.

5. Whakaaturia ō tohu mātauranga

He aha i hiahia ai ngā wāhine ki te whakamanamana mō ō rātou ataahua? He aha e kore ai e waiho mā ō tohu mātauranga e kōrero? 

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6. Tāpirihia he horopeta hauora o te katakata

He iti noa te whakakatakata, ahakoa whakakatakata maroke, kāore e kore ka aro mai. Me kata nui rātou.

7. Whakaohokia rātou ki tētahi mea hou

Kōrerotia tētahi pūrākau, he pūrākau tino pārekareka… kātahi ka mutu me tētahi kōrero whakamere! 

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8. Kia poto engari kia whakapuakina tō whakaaro

"Ko te poto te wairua o te whakaaro nui," te kī a Shakespeare. Whakapotoa, engari whakamāramahia tāu e hiahia ana.

9. Whakaatuhia tō aroha ki ngā hākinakina

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10. Kia maia ki te whakaatu i te wairua wahine i roto i a koe

Kaua e whakama kei karangatia koe he 'whakaaro wahine', ahakoa ka whakakāhore i te aro o ētahi tāneKia whakahīhī koe ki te tohu.

11. Kōrerotia ki a rātou te hiranga o te whakapakari tinana hei whakahihiko i a koe 

He tangata hiahia koe ki te whakapakari tinana, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki tētahi tangata rite te whakaaro? He tino hiahia koe ki ngā uaua puku me ngā uaua pūhā? Whakamahia tō te whakanui i te hauora tinana ki te tuhi i tētahi kōrero whaiaro ahurei mō te whakaipoipo. Whakaaturia tō USP pērā i te toa.

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12. Whakaaturia tō mana motuhake

He aha e kore ai e whakaatu ki a rātou ka taea e koe te mahi i ngā mea katoa māu ake? Kōrero atu ki a rātou tō whakahīhī ki te whai pakihi koe.

13. Whakaatuhia tō aroha ki te kai 

Whakaaturia ō pūkenga tunu kai ki te taumata teitei. Tērā pea ka kitea e koe he hoa kai rānei tētahi e pai ana ki te tunu kai tahi me koe.

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14. Kia tika te kōrero mō tāu e hiahia ana

Kaua e māharahara ki te kōrero tika. Kōrero atu mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te marena, ki te whanaungatanga poto, ki te whanaungatanga rānei hononga wā roaKa penapena wā i ngā taha e rua.

15. Kōrero atu ki a rātou ka taea hoki e ngā kuia te whakaipoipo

He aha ngā kuia kāore e taea te whakaipoipo? He tau noa iho te pakeke. He mate mō rātou mēnā e whakaaro ana rātou kāore e taea e koe. te rā i te 50, i te 60 rānei neke atu rānei i tētahi tau kua whakaritea.

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Nā te mea kua tirohia e tātou ngā tauira kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine pakeke, kei te whakaaro koe kei hea e kitea ai he hoa tino pai hei wahine takakau pakeke? Kua rangahauhia e mātou, ā, kua kitea e mātou ētahi pae tukutuku pai mō ngā wāhine pakeke. Anei:

Thoughts Final

I nāianei, nā te āwhina o tā mātou rārangi tauira kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine pakeke, ko te tumanako kei te mōhio koe ki te tuhi i tētahi kōtaha whakaipoipo. Ko te tumanako anō hoki, me ngā taipitopito nui, kua āwhina ngā tauira kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine rorirori i a koe ki te tiki i ētahi tohutohu mō te whakakatakata ina kukume ana i ngā hoa pea.

Kōwhiria he tauira kōtaha whakaipoipo e rite ana ki tō momo kāhua, ka peke atu. Kia maumahara, haunga ngā mea kua tuhia, ka whakamahia hoki e te hunga i runga i ngā pae whakaipoipo ngā pikitia kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine. Kaua e tuku whakaahua he maha ngā tātari, nā te mea ka taea e rātou te whakararu i te aro o te hoa tata mai i ō uara me ō pūkenga matua. 

Ko te tumanako ka āwhina ā mātou tauira o ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo wahine i a koe ki te kimi i tō hoa tino pai i te wā tata nei! Ā, ko te tumanako ka tangohia e kōrua ko tō hoa taua taupānga, ka mukua hoki ō kōtaha i te wā tata nei! Ngā mihi nui ki a koutou katoa.

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