20 Tohutohu Whai Hua mō te Rā Tuatahi i muri i te Hui Ipurangi

He wā tonu e kī ana te ruarua me te manukanuka i te wā tuatahi o te rā whakaipoipo nā te mea kei te takaro ngā āwangawanga e pā ana ki ngā tumanakohanga me ngā mea pono. Ahakoa kua rite koe ki te whare e mura ana, kei te noho tonu te manukanuka kei uaua te whakataurite i te hihiri me te kaha i roto i te ao tūturu. Mena kua tae koe ki te rā tuatahi i muri i te tūtaki ipurangi, e mōhio ana koe he mea whakahihiri, he mea whakamataku hoki. Mena kua roa koe e kōrero ana ki tētahi, ā, kei te tūtaki tonu koe ki a ia i te ao katoa, kaua e manukanuka, kei konei mātou hei āwhina i a koe me ēnei tohutohu mō te rā tuatahi ipurangi.

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He mea whakamā te tūtaki ki tētahi hoa tuatahi mai i ngā taupānga whakaipoipo. Kāore he wā ki te whakaaro ki ngā whakautu kua āta whakaarohia, me ngā kupu whakakatakata hoki. Koinei te wā me whakatū hononga tūturu ki a rātou mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te ahu whakamua. Koia pea te take he maha ngā taupānga whakaipoipo e tuku tohutohu ana mō te whakaipoipo tuatahi kia pai ai te haere o te whakaipoipo tuimotu.

Kua rongo tātou katoa i ngā kōrero a ō tātou hoa mō te āhua o te āhua o ā rātou hoa i a rātou e tuku karere ana mō ngā wiki, engari i te mutunga ka tino pōuri rawa atu rātou. Heoi, ki te whakaaro koe kua whakatūria he hononga tūturu i runga ipurangi, me taea e kōrua te hono atu me te whakawhanaunga atu ki a kōrua anō hoki. Nō reira, kei konei mātou hei whakamarie i a rātou. ngā āwangawanga o te rā tuatahi me ētahi tohutohu hei maumahara māu mō tō hui kanohi ki te kanohi tuatahi i muri i te kōrero mō tētahi wā i runga ipurangi.

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1. Kōwhiria he wāhi me te wā e pai ana ki a kōrua

He tohutohu nui tēnei mō tō hui tuimotu tuatahi i muri i te DatingHe uaua te whakatau i tētahi wāhi e pai ana ki a kōrua. Engari whakapono mai ki a mātou, tera pea ka pai, ka pakaru rānei tō kōrua rā tuatahi. Me whakarite kia whiriwhiria e koe tētahi wāhi tūmatanui mō tō kōrua hui tuatahi. Waihoki, ki te mea kei te pātai koe, "Āhea ahau me tūtaki ki taku hoa ipurangi?", ko te whakautu: i ngā wā katoa e pai ana koe ki te whakahaere i ngā mea, ahakoa i muri i ētahi rā, i ētahi wiki rānei.

He mea nui te tina aroha me te inu hei whakatakoto i te wairua. Heoi, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he whakaaro pai ake mō te rā tuatahi mā kōrua, me whai! Kaua e wehi ki te mahi i tētahi mea hou ki te whakaaro koe ka pai ki tō hoa. Hei tauira:

• Kawea rāua ki te whare taonga, ki te mea he pai ki a kōrua te hītori
• Haere ki te haereere i te tāone nui
• Tūtaki ki tētahi pāka, ka pikiniki i raro i ngā rākau

2. Kākahu hei miharo i te wā e tūtaki ai koe ki tētahi hoa ipurangi mō te wā tuatahi

Nō reira, ko tō tūtakitanga tuatahi tēnei ki tētahi hoa i runga ipurangi. Kua kite pea rātou i tō āhua pai rawa atu i runga i te taupānga whakaipoipo. Kāore he take ki te kī, kei te whakataetae koe ki a koe anō i roto i ngā rama pai me ngā koki ataahua. Me kakahu pai koe! Nā te mea he mea nui ngā whakaaro tuatahi (IRL). Anei ētahi tohutohu hei maumahara māu mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te tūtaki kanohi ki tētahi i muri i te whakaipoipo ipurangi:

• Kākahuria he kākahu whakamarie. Kaua e kakahuria he mea nā te mea he āhua hou.
• Kaua e kakahu nui rawa ina tūtaki koe ki tētahi tangata hou, nā te mea ka kitea kei te kaha rawa koe ki te mahi
• E kī ana ngā ture katoa mō te whakatau ipurangi me kakahu koe i ngā kākahu e rite ana ki te wāhi me te kaupapa. Mena he wharekai, kia mārie, kia mahana hoki. Waihoki, ko te whakatau kiriata e tika ana kia ātaahua, kia ātaahua hoki, engari ko te whakatau i tētahi wharekai papai e hiahia ana kia ātaahua. ngā whakaaro kakahu mō te rā tuatahi

3. Kia rite mai ētahi tīmatanga kōrero

He maha ngā wā ka whakaaro koe he aha te mea hei kōrero māu ina tūtaki tuatahi koe ki tētahi hoa i runga ipurangi? Tērā pea ka nui ake te raruraru mēnā he māia koe. He mea whakamā te tūtaki tuatahi ki tētahi i waho o te ipurangi. Nā reira, kaua e kōrero pōturi, e hē rānei ki te kōrero, engari me kōrero tonu. nga paatai ​​hukapapa ā, kua rite ngā mea hei tīmata kōrero. He huarahi pai te pātai atu ki a rātou mō ā rātou kiriata tino pai, whakaaturanga pouaka whakaata, wāhi haereere, me ētahi atu hei tīmatanga i te rā. 

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4. Kaua e wehi ki te mihi ki a rātou

Ko wai kāore e pai kia kitea? Ina koa, ina tūtaki koe ki tētahi tangata hou. Nga mihi mo nga tane Ahakoa te āhua kāore anō kia mōhiotia whānuitia, e ngā wāhine, tēnā koa mihi mai ki tō hoa rangatira mēnā kua riro kē i a ia tō ngākau. Heoi anō, kia tika, kia pono hoki ō mihi. Kaua e kōrero i ngā kōrero whakaipoipo, whakakatakata rānei, nā te mea ka taea e tēnā te whakakore i te whakaaetanga mō te tini. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohutohu tino whai hua mō te whakaipoipo ipurangi tuatahi.

5. Kia taima

Kāore e taea te whakanui i tēnei! Kia tae ki te wā tika. Koinei tētahi o ngā ture whakaipoipo nui rawa atu. Mā te waiho i tō hoa e tatari ana kia tae mai koe ka tino whakararuraru. Nō reira, ki te kore he āhuatanga ohorere, he kino rawa rānei te huarahi, kia tae ki te wā tika. Ahakoa kua mau koe nā tētahi take pono kāore e taea e koe te whakahaere, kia mōhio koe kei te tomuri koe. Ki te tomuri noa koe nā te mea kāore koe i whakarite i te wā tika, me keri koe i tētahi poka ka noho ki roto hei whakaaroaro. Ka taea e te tomuri te whakakino i tō hoa mā te whakamate i te wairua. He tohu hoki tēnei o te kore whakaute.

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6. Mihi atu ki a rātou i runga i te tikanga tika

He pātai tino noa kei roto i te hinengaro o te tini tāngata, "Me pēhea taku whanonga ina tūtaki tuatahi ahau ki taku hoa?" Me mihi atu koe ki a rātou me te awhi ina tūtaki koe ki a rātou? Me aha rātou mēnā kāore e pai ki ngā awhi?  ...

7. Kōrerohia ngā kaupapa e pai ana ki a kōrua

Nō reira, kua roa nei kōrua e kōrero ana ki tēnei tangata i runga ipurangi, ā, tera pea he rite tonu ō kōrua hiahia ki a ia. Koinei te huarahi i hono atu ai kōrua ki a ia i te tuatahi. He maha ngā kōrero kua mahia e kōrua mō ngā tuhinga. Nā te mea kua tūtaki kōrua, rukuhia aua kaupapa, i te mea e mōhio ana koe ka taea e kōrua te mahi tahi. Kaua e kōrero mō te wā roa. Kaua rawa e whakahaere i te kōrero, he kino hoki tēnā tikanga o te whakaipoipo. 

8. Pātai atu ki a rātou he aha tā rātou e pai ai

Koinei tētahi o ngā tohutohu tino nui mō te whakaipoipo ipurangi tuatahi. Ki te mea kei waho koe mō te tina, pātai atu ki a rātou he aha tā rātou e hiahia ana ki te tono. Ki te mea i whiriwhiria e rātou te wharekai, me tono atu ki a rātou mō ā rātou whakaaro mō te tahua kai. He tohu whakaaro nui tēnei hei whakanui i tō hoa. Kāore e taea te whiriwhiri kia whai whakaaro ki ā rātou hiahia. 

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9. Whakaatuhia te hiahia pono ki a rātou

He mea nui kia whakarongo pono koe ki ngā kōrero a tō hoa. Kaua e whakarongo noa ki ngā kupu engari whakarongo! Anei ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi:

• Kimihia ngā tohu i a rātou e kōrero ana mō tētahi mea. Hei tauira, ki te mea kei te kōrero rātou mō te puoro rock and roll, tuhia ki roto i tō hinengaro te mea e pai ana ki a rātou.
• Pātai atu ki a rātou i ngā pātai e pā ana ki ā rātou pakiwaitara/ngā hiahia, kia mōhio ai rātou kei te aro atu koe
• Ki te kore koe e aro ki tētahi atu hui, kāore rawa he huarahi e tae atu ai koe ki tētahi atu rā. Ā, ki te hiahia koe ki te tae atu ki te he rā tuatoru whakamiharo, pupuri i ngā kupu katoa i whakapuakina e rātou

10. Arotahi ki tō reo tinana 

He nui ngā kōrero a tō tātou reo tinana mō tātou. He mea nui kia rongo koe i te reo tinana o tō hoa, kia mau tonu hoki te maia me te mohio ki te reo tinana. Anei ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi:

• Tū atu ki te whakaatu i tō hiahia ki a rātou me ā rātou kōrero. Ki te kite koe i a rātou e tū atu ana, he tohu tēnā o te kukume tahi
• Mā te whakaata i te reo tinana, te kōrero, ngā nekehanga, me ērā atu a tō hoa rangatira ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakaatu i tō hiahia. He āhuatanga hinengaro tēnei, ā, ki te tika te mahi, ka taea te whakamahi hei hanga hononga kaha ki tō hoa rangatira.
• Kaua e mataku, kaua hoki e whakaatu i ngā tohu e pēnei ana koe: kaua e rūrū ō waewae, kaua hoki e nekeneke ki tō kara
• Whakamahia ō ringaringa kia nui te whakapuaki i a koe i a koe e kōrero ana. Mā tēnei ka kitea tō hiahia.
• Me titiro kanohi i a koe e kōrero ana

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11. He nui te painga o te whakakatakata iti

He pai ki te katoa te tangata ka taea te whakakatakata i a rātou. Heoi anō, me pai te wā ki a kōrua. Nō reira, kia mārama ake te wairua mā te whakakatakata me te whakakatakata i tō kōrua rā tuatahi i muri i te tūtaki ipurangi. Engari i te wā te wairua whakakatakata maroke Kāore he aha, kia tupato kei hanga e koe he katakata whakarihariha ka pā kino mai. Mēnā e tika ana, rapua ētahi katakata pai i runga i te ipurangi. Engari ki te mea he tangata tūturu koe, kua rite pea koe me ētahi kupu whakakatakata kei roto i tō ringaringa.

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12. Kaua e takahi i ngā rohe ina tūtaki koe ki tētahi rā mō te wā tuatahi

He mea nui tēnei mō te angitu o tō rā tuatahi ki te ipurangi. Hoatu he wāhi ki tō hoa, kia tūpato hoki ki a rātou. ngā rohe ā-tinana me ngā rohe ā-hinengaro. Koinei te huarahi hei mahi:

• Kaua e whakatata rawa atu ki a rātou mēnā he ahua kore e pai ki a rātou
• Kaua e kōrero mō ngā kaupapa e whakamā ai rātou
• Kāore rawa e whakaaetia te awhi i ō ringaringa ki ō rātou hope, te okioki rānei i ō ringaringa ki ō rātou huha.

13. Kia mau ki te inu i te inu

He mea tēnei kāore e kōrerotia ana e te tangata. Ahakoa he pai te inu i ētahi inu hei whakangā, he mea nui kia kaua e ngaro te mana whakahaere. Kei te tūtaki koe ki tētahi tangata tauhou, ā, ko tō haumaru te mea nui. Nō reira, inuhia kia taurite ina tūtaki koe ki tētahi i tūtaki koe ki te ipurangi i te ao tūturu.

Ahakoa e whakawhirinaki ana koe ki te tangata kē, kāore e tika ana kia haurangi rawa i tō tūtaki kanohi ki te kanohi tuatahi i muri i te whakaipoipo mō tētahi wā. Nā te mea ki te mahi koe i tēnei, tera pea ka kōrero, ka mahi rānei koe i ngā mea ka pouri koe i muri mai. Heoi anō, tera pea ka puta he whakaaro hē ki a koe. Heoi anō, kāore tetahi e hiahia ana ki te teina ki tētahi tangata inu waipiro. 

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14. Whakakatakata i tō rā tuatahi i muri i te tūtaki ipurangi

Kia maumahara, kei te haere kōrua i tētahi rā! E mōhio ana mātou he uaua ake te whakaipoipo kanohi ki te kanohi i te whakaipoipo ipurangi, engari me whakamātau koe. Ki te kite koe i te whanonga o tō hoa kua tīmata rātou te noho pai, ka āwhina i tō kaupapa ki te whai wāhi atu ki ētahi whakawhitiwhitinga whakaipoipo. Whāia ēnei ngā tohutohu mō te whakaipoipo mō te hunga tīmata kia rite ki tētahi tangata ātaahua (me te karo i ngā hapa tauhou). 

15. Whakamōhio atu ki tētahi kei hea koe

Ko tētahi tohutohu pai ko: whakamōhio atu ki ō hoa kei hea koe e haere ana. Nā te mea kei te haere tahi kōrua me tētahi tangata kāore anō kia tūtaki ki a koe i mua, he mea pai kia tupato i tō haerenga tuatahi mai i te whakaipoipo ipurangi. Mōhio atu ki tētahi hoa, ki tētahi mema rānei o te whānau mō tō wāhi noho hei take haumaru. He mea pai kia tumanako koe mō te mea pai, engari me whakarite koe mō te mea kino rawa atu i te wā tuatahi i muri i te tūtaki ki tētahi ipurangi. He mea nui kia tirohia rātou i mua i tō whakatau ki te tūtaki kanohi ki te kanohi. 

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16. Kaua e whakama rawa

Anei tētahi o ngā tohutohu tino nui mō te whakaipoipo ipurangi tuatahi: kaua e huna i a koe anō. Mā te whakama nui rawa ka āhua pōuri koe, ka pōuri hoki. Kia tino pai koe ina tūtaki koe ki tētahi i tūtaki ai koe i te ipurangi i te ao tūturu! Ngā tohu o te whakapono he ātaahua ki ngā wāhi katoa o te ao. Ahakoa he mea nui kia ātaahua, kia tika hoki te āhua, me mahara hoki koe ki te ngahau. Ki te mea kei te ngahau koe, tera pea kei te ngahau hoki tō hoa. Ehara ianei tēnā i te whāinga?

17. Ko te rautau 21 tēnei, wehewehea te pire!

He mea nui tēnei ki roto i tō pukapuka ture mō te whakaipoipo. Mēnā he kaupapa uaua, koinei te kaupapa. Engari ki te whakaaroarohia rawatia, ehara i te mea uaua. Nō reira, ko wai me utu te pire? Ko te otinga pai ko te wehewehe i te pire! Ki te hiahia koe kia māmā ake te mahi, ā, he tangata piripono koe ki te aroha tawhito me te toa, ka taea e koe te kōrero i tēnei ki tō hoa i mua. Mā tēnei ka kore ai kōrua e whakaaro ko wai ka utu i te pire.

Anei tētahi atu huarahi kē: ki te mea e rua āu mahi, ka taea e koe te utu mō tētahi, ā, ka taea e tō hoa te utu mō tētahi atu. He reka, he māmā hoki. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohutohu matua mō te rā tuatahi ina tūtaki koe ki tētahi mō te wā tuatahi i muri i te tuku karere kuputuhi mō tētahi wā.

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18. Pānuihia ngā tohu, kaua e piripono

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te tūtaki kanohi ki te kanohi i muri i te kōrerorero tuihono mō tētahi wā? Kia tika te pānui i ngā mea ina tūtaki tuatahi koe ki tētahi i muri i te tuku karere kuputuhi mō te wā roa. Ki te mea kei te pai te haere o te rā, kua pai tō whakaaro. Heoi, ki te mea kei te heke te pai, ā, kāore he hononga i waenganui i a kōrua, tukua atu rātou. Ae, he mea pouri ngā rā kino, engari me ako tātou ki te whakaae ki aua rā. 

Ki te kaha rawa tō ngana ki te 'whakatika' i ngā mea, ā, ka tohe kia tūtaki anō i te wā kāore he hononga, ka kitea koe he piripono. Kāore tēnei e tika kia mahia i muri i tō tūtaki kanohi ki te kanohi. I ētahi wā onge, ki te kore e taea te whakamanawanui i te tūtaki, kia mau tonu he rautaki puta. Ki te kore ngā mea e pai ana, ka taea tonu e koe te wehe atu. 

Ehara tēnei i te mea e akiakihia ana i te wā tuatahi o te whakaipoipo ipurangi, ā, kāore koe i te piripono ki tēnei tangata. Ae, ka taea e koe te hanga i tētahi āhuatanga ohorere, engari kāore ianei koe e pai ake kia pono? Ko te mea pai ko te whakapuaki i tō hoa kāore koe e kite ana i tētahi hononga. Ka maioha rātou ki tō pono. 

19. Kia tūpato ina tae mai ki te whanaungatanga ā-tinana 

Anei tētahi atu mea uaua mō ngā ture mō te rā tuatahi mai i te rā ipurangi: kia pēhea te tawhiti ka taea e koe te kawe i ngā mea? Mō te whanaungatanga ā-tinana i te rā tuatahi, he mea nui kia pānuihia te rūma. Tātarihia te whanonga me te reo tinana o tō hoa i te mutunga o te rā. Ki te mea kei te ahua kua pai haere tō whanaungatanga, ā, kei reira te... whakaae tahi, kātahi ka pai koe ki te haere. 

Heoi, ki te mea kei te noho kūpapa koe, he tika kia pōhēhē koe. Me tīmata, me tuku rānei koe ki te awhi, ki te kihi rānei i a koe e tūtaki ana ki tētahi mō te wā tuatahi i muri i te tuku karere kuputuhi? He mea noa te awhi poroporoaki i tētahi hoa, engari mō te kihi me te neke, piko noa mai mēnā kei te kite koe he wā kei waenganui i a kōrua. Me whai whakaaro nui ki te rohe o te aroha ina tūtaki ana koe ki tētahi hoa ipurangi mō te wā tuatahi.

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20. Hangaia he mahere mō tētahi atu rā

Ki te mea kua manaakitia koe e ngā atua o te whakaipoipo ipurangi, ā, kua pai ngā mea katoa i tō kōrua rā tuatahi i muri i te tūtakitanga ipurangi, kaua e whakamā ki te whakamahere i tētahi atu rā. Kua miharo rātou ki a koe, ā, kua pai te mutunga o te pō. Tērā pea kei te hiahia kōrua ki te whakapau i te wā roa ki a kōrua, me tō hoa anō hoki. Haere tonu ki te whakamahere i ngā rā kei te heke mai! 

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Mena kei te hiahia koe ki te tirotiro tere i ngā whakaaro mō te tūtaki tuatahi ki tētahi i muri i te tuku karere kuputuhi kua whakahuatia ake nei i roto i te tuhinga, kua whakarārangihia katoatia ēnei i raro nei. Ko te tumanako kāore koe e māharahara i tō tūtakitanga tuatahi i muri i te tuku karere kuputuhi.

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Ae, te ao o Dating Ki tonu i ngā mea whakamiharo me ngā mea ngaro. Ka taea e ia te whakamataku, te manaaki hoki i te wā kotahi. Nō reira, ina oti i a koe te tirotiro papamuri tika mā te whakamahi i ngā taputapu rapu tāngata, ā, kua tino mōhio koe kāore koe e taka ki te tinihanga, ko te mahi e whai ake nei ko te whakarite pai mō tō rā tuatahi. Kāore he maha o ngā tohutohu mō te rā tuatahi i muri i te tūtaki ipurangi hei whakamana i te angitu o tō rā tuatahi. Engari he tino āwhina te mōhio ki ngā mea me mahi me ngā mea kāore e tika ana mō te rā tuatahi. Kāore he maha o ngā tohutohu mō te rā tuatahi i muri i te tūtaki ipurangi hei whakamana i te angitu o tō rā tuatahi. 

Engari he tino āwhina te mōhio ki ngā mea me mahi me ngā mea kāore e tika ana mō te rā tuatahi. I te mutunga, kei te āhua o te hononga o te tangata me te kore rānei e puta he mura i waenganui i a kōrua. Ko te huarahi pai ki te tuku i tēnei kia tupu ko te noho ko koe tonu, me te whai i te ia. Ko te tumanako kua tukuna e mātou ngā whakautu ki ō pātai katoa mō te huarahi ki te tūtaki kanohi ki te kanohi ki tētahi i muri i te rāngai ipurangi. Ngā mihi nui ki a koe mō ō haerenga rāngai!

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