Ngā Painga Hinengaro Whakamiharo o ngā Wahine e Tono Ana ki ngā Tāne, me ngā Huarahi 19 hei Mahi Tika

He aha ō whakaaro mō ngā wāhine e tono ana ki ngā tāne? He maha ngā tāne, i roto i te ako, i mea rātou ka ohorere rātou, ka kata rānei. I mea ētahi ka kitea e rātou he rawe, he mea whakahihiri rānei, engari ko te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i mea he mea pouri te wahine e tuturi ana ki te kotahi, ka whakakahoretia rawatia rānei. E tumanakohia ana ko te tāne te tangata hei pātai nā te mea e ai ki ngā uiuinga, he "tikanga tuku iho" tēnei, ā, "he mahi tāne tēnei." I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, ko te mana ki te whakatairanga i te whanaungatanga kei roto i ngā ringa o ngā hoa tāne anake.

Engari ki taku whakaaro i te wā i puta mai ai a Kat Dennings 2 Pirihimana Wahine i tono ki a Andrew WK, i te wā rānei i a Sarah Snook o Tuhinga i te tono marena ki a Dave Lawson, i te tono marena rānei a Pink, te kaiwaiata-kaitito waiata, ki a Carey Hart, kāore i roto i te hinengaro o ēnei wahine rongonui whai mana te whakahē. Tērā pea ka pōhēhē te rangahau i runga ake nei i a rātou. Kāore te tono marena a ngā wāhine ki ngā tāne e waiho hei mea nui ahakoa mō te hunga noa pēnei i a tātou, engari anei mātou. Mēnā ko koe tētahi o aua wāhine onge e hiahia ana ki te whakahaere i ngā take ki ōna ake ringa, me te whakarerekē i ngā tikanga ahurea, māu tēnei tuhinga. 

He pai rānei kia tono marena te wahine ki te tāne?

Ae, he pono, ahakoa ehara i te mea noa. Ina hoki, he wahine e tango ana i te 'ka marena koe i ahau'Ko te arataki te taahiraa maori e whai ake nei i roto i ngā whanaungatanga o ēnei rā, ina wehea ōritetia ngā mahi me ngā kaupapa katoa. He mea hou rangahau i whakaatuhia e 2% anake o ngā wāhine takatāpui e tono ana ki ngā tāne. Ko te tumanako ka piki ake tēnei ōrau o te aroha rerekē i roto i ngā tau torutoru e whai ake nei.

Āe, he mea noa mā ngā wāhine te mahi i tēnei mahi; me āta whakaaro noa rātou ki te wā e mahi ai rātou. Ko te wā pai rawa atu mā te wahine ki te tono marena ki tētahi tāne ko te wā kua rite rāua ki te taha hinengaro, te taha pūtea, te taha tinana mō te marena. Ina mōhio ia ko tana whakautu he 'āe' nā te mea kua roa kē te kōrero mō te kaupapa i mua. Ā, ina kei roto rāua i te rangimārie o te hinengaro, ā, kāore ia i te taumaha ki ētahi atu take.

He aha ngā wāhine e tono ana ki ngā tāne?

Kāore ianei e pai ake kia waiho mā te hoa rangatira kē e whakahaere te ahotea o te tono marena? Kāore ianei koe e hiahia ki te noho marino i te mea e 'ngāwari' ana, e pakeke ana hoki tō hoa ki te mahi nui o te waihanga i te wā tino pai? Ae, ko te kore e taea e ngā wāhine te tono i ā rātou hoa kia moe, he mea ahu mai i ngā whakaaro whakahāwea ira tangata engari ko te pātai: He aha ngā wāhine e HIAHIA ai ki te mahi i tēnei? He maha ngā take:

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• Kua hoha rātou ki te tatari kia whakatau ngā tāne i tētahi mea nui pēnei i te tohu marena mā rātou.
• Kua hoha rātou ki te kīia 'kāo' mō te hiahia ki te mahi i tētahi mea kāore e tautohetia ana, nō reira e hiahia ana rātou ki te wawahi i ngā tikanga pāpori.
• He pai ki a rātou te whai kaupapa whānui, ā, he pai ki a rātou ngā kaupapa aroha.
• E hiahia ana rātou ki te mahi i tētahi mea motuhake mā tā rātou tāne, me te whakapuaki i tō rātou aroha
• E hiahia ana rātou ki te whakamana i tā rātou tāne o muri mai kei te 100% tō rātou piripono ki a ia
• E hiahia ana rātou ki te mahi. He māmā noa iho

Nō reira, ina whakatau te wahine ki te tono marena ki tana hoa tāne, koinei te mea ka tupu: Ka wero ia i ngā tūranga ira tangata me ngā tikanga o te hapori, ka rongo ia i te makona me te whakahīhī ki a ia anō, ā, ka meinga e ia tana hoa kia harikoa.

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He tokomaha te hunga kāore e pai ki te kite i tēnei huringa ahurea, ā, e whakaaro ana rātou he mea nui ō rātou whakaaro tae noa ki te wāhi e uru atu ai rātou ki roto te whakahāwea ira tangata noa ki te whakatoi. Ka kino rawa atu tēnei mēnā he Mangu koe, he wahine kiri mangu rānei. Anei tētahi tauira.

I muri i te tono a Jodie Turner-Smith ki a ia, ka whakahoki a Joshua Jackson ki ngā kaiwhakahē, "He kaikiri te ipurangi, he whakahāwea wahine hoki. Mō te hunga katoa e mataku ana i te wahine e kī ana kei a ia tōna ake wāhi, kati te waha... Aue, kāore koe e whakapono ki ngā mea i waiho e te tangata ki taku wahine i runga i te Instagram. Nāna i mahi. I mea atu ahau 'āe.' Kei te harikoa māua. Koinā katoa. Koinā anake ngā mea me mōhio koe."

Te pānui e pā ana: Ngā Whakaaro Hē a ngā Tāne, Ngā Whakapono hoki mō ngā Wahine

Ka raru pea te wahine ina tono marena ki te tāne. Kia kore ai e hē te tono marena, anei ētahi mea hei whakaaroaro māu i mua i te hoko mowhiti taumau:

• Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakapuaki i tēnei ki te marea? Kei te rite koe ki te aro atu ki te whakahāwea ira tangata ka puta mai i te whakamoemiti?
  rangahau e kī ana he angitu ngā tono ina: he tūmataiti, he whakamaheretia, he mowhiti taumau, kāore i mahia hei whakaora i te whanaungatanga
• E ai ki taua rangahau anō, kāore i tino angitu ngā tono a ngā wāhine i ngā tono a ngā tāne nā te 'tikanga tuku iho' me ngā tikanga ira tangata. Hei ārai i tēnā, kia kotahi te whakaaro o kōrua, ā, kia hiahia hoki kōrua ki te marena.
• He haumaru ia? Me noho ia hei momo tangata kāore e aro ki te tangata e pātai ana, engari me marena kōrua.
• Kia tino whiriwhiria e ia te mowhiti taumau me tōna hoahoa
• Me whakarite kia pai ōna kākahu, mehemea kei te whakaaro koe ki te hopu i ngā mea katoa
• Āta karohia ēnei kōrero pakiwaitara mō ngā wāhine e tono ana ki ngā tāne: E whakaaro ana te hapori ko te tono marena a te wahine he tohu ia he hiahia nui, kāore e hiahiatia/e hiahiatia ana, he aroha, he kaha, he rangatira, he whakapehapeha rānei. E whakaaro ana hoki rātou he whakaiti i te mana o ngā tāne. Kāore tetahi o ēnei i te pono.
• Kia kotahi te whakaaro mō whāinga tokorua pērā i te whare, ngā tamariki me tō rātou whakatipuranga, te tohatoha o ngā kawenga, te pūtea, ngā mōkai, te whakapono, te marena i mua i te marena, me ētahi atu.
• Ki te tono koe i a ia kia marena koe, ā, ka whakakahore ia, ka mea rānei kia tatari koe, kua rite koe mō tēnā me ngā kōrero e whai ake nei?
• He aha ō kare ā-roto ina whakaaro koe kei te whakaae ia? Ā, mā te whakaaro ka noho ko ia hei wahine māna koe e harikoa ai, e haumaru ai hoki?
• He rite tonu ō mahere marena? He huihuinga nui, he huihuinga whaiaro rānei, he marena i tētahi wāhi kē, he kāinga o muri rānei o te kāinga o tētahi i tōna tamarikitanga … Kei hea koe e kite ana i a koe e here ana i te pona?

He aha ngā kare ā-roto o te tāne ina tono te kōtiro ki a ia?

I roto i tētahi rangahau i mahia ki te 500 tāne, Glamour i kitea e 70% ka tino harikoa mēnā ka tono marena te wahine ki a rātou. He rongo whakamiharo tēnā. Heoi, ka pōuritia rānei rātou? I kōrero a Anthony, i tono marenatia e tana hoa wahine, mō tēnei tuhinga, "Kāore rawa i te ahua kua whakaititia ahau. He ōrite tonu māua tetahi ki tetahi i roto i tō māua whanaungatanga, nō reira, kāore he aha ko wai ka tono ko wai, engari ko wai ka haere tuatahi." He rite ki te whanaungatanga haumaru, tika?

E kōrero mai ana tā mātou kaipānui, a Will, te rangatira o tētahi toa mahi rakau i Atlanta, "Kāore au e teka, i tino āwangawanga ahau i te wā i kōrero mai ai taku wahine mō tēnei whakaaro ki ahau. He harikoa ahau kāore ia i tae mai me tētahi mowhiti i tētahi rā. I tukua ahau e ia kia whakaaroaro i te tuatahi. I ngana ahau ki te riri, ki te whakaaro rānei ki ētahi atu mea i whakaarohia e taku pāpā kia pā ki ahau, engari kāore au i te tino pā ki tēnā. Ko te mea anake i pā ki ahau ko te … whakamarie? I muri i te memeha haere o te ohorere tuatahi, i tino harikoa ahau, kāore e taea te whakapono ki tōku waimarie."

Tērā pea ka hiahia te tāne ki tētahi wā, pērā i a Will, kia mārama ai ki te whakaaro. Tērā pea ka rerekē ōna kare ā-roto ina kite ia i tana hoa wahine e tono ana ki a ia:

• Te ohorere i tēnei mea kāore i rangona i mua
• Te riri ki te hoa wahine
• Te hara i te mea kāore ia i whakaaro ki te mahi i tēnei i te tuatahi
• He whakaaro iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō
• Te whakakahore kei te tupu tēnei kaupapa rerekē i tōna taha
• Te wehi ki te wahine me tōna tikanga mō tōna tānetanga
• He ohorere pai nā te mea e aroha ana ia ki tēnei whakaaro
• He whakamarie nā te mea kāore ia e hiahia ki te whakaaro ake i te ngā whakaaro tono pai rawa atu i teie nei
• Nui atu te aroha me te whakawhetai ki tana hoa rangatira

Ngā Painga Hinengaro Whakamiharo o ngā Wahine e Tono Ana ki ngā Tāne

I mea te mema paremata o te US, a Elizabeth Warren, kua moe nei i a Bruce Hartling Mann mai i te tau 1980, "I tono ahau i a Bruce kia marena i roto i te akomanga. Ko te wā tuatahi tēnei i kite ai ahau i a ia e whakaako ana, ā, kua aroha kē ahau ki a ia, engari i te mātakitaki i a ia e whakaako ana, ka kite ahau i tētahi atu mea mōna - koia anake. I te mutunga o te akomanga, ā, kua wehe atu ngā ākonga, ka haere mai ia ki ahau, ka pātai mai, me te āhua ruarua: Āe, he aha tāu i whakaaro ai?" Ka mea atu a Warren ki a ia, "He aha taku e taea ai te kī atu? Ka moe koe i ahau?"

Mena i taea e ia te mahi i te tau 1980, he aha te mea e aukati ana i a koe ki te tango i taua peke i te rautau 21? I a koe kē te ngā kōrerorero me kōrero i mua i te marenaMena kua oti i a koe, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te tono marena ki tō hoa tāne engari kei te ruarua tonu koe mēnā he whakaaro pai tēnei, ko ngā painga hinengaro e whai ake nei o te whakatau a ngā wāhine ka hoatu pea ki a koe te akiaki e hiahiatia ana e koe:

1. Whakakorea te mana rangatira, whakahē i ngā tumanakohanga

Ka pāngia ngā wāhine e ngā hua kino ina whakaatu rātou i te mana rangatira, e ai ki rangahau, ā, e kitea ana he 'rerekē' rātou e ai ki tenei tetahiMe whakarerekē tātou i ngā mea.

• Kāore koe e hiahia ki tētahi tāne hei whakarerekē i tōu mutunga. Mena he tokorua matatau kōrua, he pai ake te whakamahi i tēnei mahi nui kia rite ki ō kōrua uara.
• Ina tono te wahine ki tētahi tāne, ka whakatakotohia te āhua o tā rāua whanaungatanga. Ka whai mana ōrite tonu ia.
• Kāore koe e hiahia ki te noho tahi me tētahi tāne e mataku ana ina tono marena tētahi wahine ki tētahi tāne. E kī ana a Katie, 29 tau te pakeke, he kaitoi nō Grand Haven, Michigan, "Ki ahau nei, ka uaua ki ahau te noho tahi me tētahi tāne e kite ana i te whakaaro o te tono marena hei whakaiti i te mana o tētahi."

Ā, e ai ki ngā kupu a Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, "Ko te momo tāne ka mataku i ahau, koia tonu te momo tāne kāore au e aro atu ana ki a ia." He pono, koinei pea te take he tangata tino māharahara ngā tāne... ngā momo tāne e noho takakau ana mō te wā roa hoki.

2. Ka rongo te tāne haumaru i te aroha me te manaaki, engari kāore i whakaititia e te tono a te wahine

rangahau e whakaatu ana ka pāngia ngā tāne e te whakahē ina kore rātou e piri ki ngā momo ira tāne — ina whakaatu rātou i te ngoikore, i te ngākau atawhai, i te aroha, i te pouri, i te ngākau mahaki, ā, i te kī he hunga tautoko i te mana wahine rātou. Engari e ai ki tētahi ako, e kukumea ana ngā tāne ki ngā whakaohooho aroha. E hiahia ana hoki ngā tāne kia rongo i te hononga me te aroha o ā rātou hoa!

Ka taea e kōrua te whakarite i tētahi tono marena e pai ana ki a kōrua. Waihoki, ko tana kitenga i a kōrua e whakaae ana ki tō kōrua herenga he mea tino pai rawa atu o tōna ao – ā, kei a koe te mana ki te waihanga i tēnā mōna. Nō reira, haere tonu kia arohaina tō hoa tāne.

3. Ka whakaiti i te pēhanga i tō hoa, ā, he 'tino' pai mō tōna hauora

Tētahi atu rite ako i kitea he pēhanga kei ngā tāne kia noho hei rangatira, kia tūpono, kia rangatira hoki kia kitea he tāne tāne, he tāne "tūturu"; ka hua ake he pānga kino ki te hauora tinana me te hinengaro mō rātou. Mena kāore tō tāne i ako i taua whakaritenga, ka pai ia ki te tono kia marenatia. Ka taea hoki tēnei te waiho hei huarahi tautoko i tō tāne wahine i tana haerenga, ā, i te mutunga ka pā pai ki tōna hauora whānui.

I runga i te Reddit I roto i te miro, i tohaina e tētahi kaiwhakamahi tana kōrero tono marena, "I tangi ia. He tino ātaahua. Nāna ahau i aroha nui atu ki a ia. Kāore au i mōhio ka taea e au te whai pānga kare ā-roto pēnei ki tētahi."

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4. Ka nui ake te pumau me te piripono o te whanaungatanga ki a koe

Ngā wāhine whai wāhi o tētahi ako I kitea e rātou he whanaungatanga piripono, pumau hoki i waenganui i a rātou e whai mana tahi ana, ā, i whakatauria e rātou ngā whanaungatanga i raro i a rātou te mana he iti ake te piripono, he nui ake te ngangau. I te tono a Britney Spears ki a Kevin Federline i te tau 2004, i kī ia kāore, nā te mea i hiahia ia kia "tika" te pātai nui. Arā, e koa ana mātou kua kore a Britney Spears e noho tahi me ia, engari, mehemea he tohu kino, koinā tērā. I wehe rāua i te tau 2006.

5. Me tono marena ngā wāhine ki ngā tāne nā te mea "he pai ake te whiriwhiri i te whiriwhiria"

Koinei te kī a Jon Birger, te kaituhi o Te rā-onomic, i roto i Hangaia tō nekehanga: Te Pūtaiao Hou o te Teití a He aha ngā wāhine hei rangatira, e whakaatu ana ia mā roto i ngā rangahau ka taea e ngā wāhine te wikitoria i te aroha mā te mahi tuatahi ki ngā tāne i whiriwhiria e rātou. E mea ana ko te "tākaro uaua ki te hono atu ki tētahi tāne"Ehara i te mea kua tawhito noa iho tēnei tikanga, engari he pūtaiao kino anō hoki tōna pūtake."

Nō reira, he mea noa rānei te tono a te wahine ki tētahi tāne? Āe. Whakahaerehia te kōrero, kia kaha hoki te aro ki tō oranga aroha. Me tatari koe kia mahi tetahi i tētahi mea, kaua e mahi i a koe anō, ko tēhea te mea e whakamana ake ana?

6. He pai mō tō kōrua harikoa tahi, mō tō kōrua oranga moepuku hoki

E ai ki tēnei, ka tino whakapai ake te ōritetanga o te ira tangata i ngā putanga oranga me te harikoa mō ngā rōpū ira tangata katoa, ahakoa he paku nui ake mō ngā wāhine. pūrongoĀ, e ai ki tēnei ako, ka piki ake te makona o ngā wāhine ki te whanaungatanga me te hiahia moepuku ina ōrite te whanaungatanga. 

Te hanga tikanga. Te ōritetanga o te ira tangata i roto i te marena/whanaungatanga Ka whakatupu ake i te wairua herekore me te haumaru. Ka whakanui ake tēnei i te whanaungatanga piripono, ā, ka hiahia nui koe ki tō hoa.

Ko ētahi atu painga nui o te tono marena ki a ia:

• He tino ātaahua tō āhua
• Ka whiwhi koe i tana whakamoemiti me tana whakaute
• Ka taea e koe te whakamahere me te whakatinana i te tono kia rite ki tāu e hiahia ai; kāore he mea e ngaro ana.
• I te rongonga i a ia e whakaae ana, ka marino koe, ka whakamanahia, ka hiahiatia, ka hiahiatia hoki, ā, ka nui ake tō māia mō tō heke mai.
• Kei te tino mārama koe ki tāu e hiahia ana i roto i tētahi hoa
• Ka waiho koe hei tauira mō ētahi atu wāhine
• Ko ia te kaiwhakamahere i tēnei he tohu aroha mōna, ka taea e koe te wheako i tō ake ngoikore. He pai tēnei māu mēnā he uaua tonu te whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-roto
• He mea whakahihiri! Ka tino pārekareka ki a koe
• Ki te kore e pai ki tō hoa tāne ngā mahi aroha, he tika kia mahia e koe. Kei te mahi koe i tētahi mea e pai ana koe ki te mahi. Mā tēnei, ka whiwhi kōrua i te painga o tētahi mahara kua hangaia pai.

Me pēhea te tono a te wahine ki te tāne? 19 Ngā Huarahi

I etahi wa, a tono marena he whakatau whai hua noa iho. He kaiwhakamahi kei runga Reddit i kōrero mai, "He āhua whai rawa ahau i te taha pūtea, engari ko ia, kāore i te tino rawa. I mōhio ahau kāore e taea e ia te utu i tētahi mowhiti e whakapono ana ia he pai rawa atu mōku ahakoa ka pai ahau ki tētahi mowhiti e homai ana e ia ki ahau, ahakoa te utu. I aroha ahau ki a ia, nō reira i whakaaro ahau he aha e kore ai! Waimarie i whakaae ia."

Ahakoa ka kihi koe i a ia i te Pō Tau Hou, ka tono kia marena koe, ka kōrero pōturi rānei i waenganui i te kēmu Scrabble werawera, kia maumahara he maha ngā wā ka tika ake te huarahi ki te ngākau o te māmā. Nō reira, me pēhea te tono a te wahine ki te tāne? Anei ngā whakaaro pai e 19 māu.

1. He iti ia, he iti koe

Tāpirihia ngā āhuatanga e pai ana koe ki a ia, ā, me waiho tōna āhua hei wāhanga matua o tō kōrua tono marena. Ana putiputi tino pai, ana tae tino pai, te wāhi, te kai (tērā pea ka taea e koe te hanga i te kāinga), tana kakara tino pai, te wharekai, te puoro, te mowhiti e pai ana ki tōna āhua, me ētahi atu. Ka kitea ia, ka mōhio ia e aro ana tana hoa wahine ki ōna whakaaro me ana mea e pai ana ki a ia, ā, ka noho humarie ia me te nui o te mōhiotanga e karapoti ana i a ia. Ko te whakaaro kia whakamarie ia.

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2. Ka kitea e te hunga aroha ki te taiao te wāhi tino pai mō te marena i ngā wāhi katoa

I roto i ngā whakaaro tono pai rawa atu, e kōrero ana tēnei mō te whanaungatanga piripono o tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Tōia he Te Wharekauri o Schitt he wā i haria ai e Patrick a Rawiri ki te hikoi, ā, i te mutunga ka tono marena ia. Nō reira, haere ki te hikoi, mahia i te marino o te ngahere, i te roto ataahua rānei. Ka maumahara tonu koe ki tēnei wā marino ake ake. Ka taea e koe te hanga i tētahi tikanga mā te mahi i tēnei hikoi/haerenga kotahi i ia huritau. He mea ataahua koha aroha mō tāu tāne pono.

3. Pātai atu i muri tonu i te moe tāne, kātahi ka moe tāne

He mea whakamiharo te moepuku e whakamārama ana i ō hiahia katoa. Kei te ōrite ō kare ā-roto, kei te rangimārie koe, i mahia e koe te mea e arohaina ana e ia i runga i te moenga, kei te piri tahi kōrua tetahi ki tetahi, ā, kei te tino aroha. Koinei te wā tika kia noho tahanga i roto i te aroha, kia whakakitea katoatia.

4. He 'toi' te whakatakoto whakaaro i te huarahi tika

He kaitoi koe? Ki te mea he kaiwaiata koe, titoa he waiata aroha. Waiatahia/tākarohia rānei tētahi waiata kua oti kē te hanga. Whakamutua ki te tono marena me te mowhiti. Ki te mea he kaipeita/kaitā toi tuhi koe, titoa he whakaahua o kōrua tokorua i te aata. Kōrero atu ki a ia me te harikoa kua titoa e koe tētahi mahi toi hou, kawea ia ki te kānawehi. Wetekia te taupoki, ka tūohu ki raro.

Ka taea e koe te peita i ngā kupu ki te whakaahua, te kōrero rānei i a koe e titiro ake ana ki a ia. Ki te tukua e tō auahatanga te ārahi i tō mahere, kāore e kore he wāhine e tono whakaaro ana ki ngā tāne. Ki te mea he tāne koe e pānui ana i tēnei, kia mahara ka whakaatu tonu te wahine i te maha o ngā mea. ngā tohu kua rite ia hei wahine māu.

5. Kia mōhio kei te noho mai tana pūnaha tautoko nui rawa atu

Ko wai te tangata ka waea atu ia ina mutu te ohorere o te tono marena? Karangatia taua tangata kia tūtaki ki a koe i muri mai kia taea ai e ia te whakapuaki i tēnei harikoa ki a rātou. Kua kōrero pea koe ki ō hoa me tō whānau, tae atu ki ōna hoa me tōna whānau mō tāu e mea nei. He nui tō tautoko me tō whakatenatena. E tika ana hoki ia mō tēnā.

6. Me āwhina koe e ōna hoa ki te tono marena

Tērā pea ka taea e rātou te kawe i a ia ki te wāhi i whakatauhia e koe, te rapu whakamārama mōu, te whakaroa i a ia, te tuku i a ia ki te huarahi, me ētahi atu. Ka koa rātou ki te mahi pera. Reddit I kōrero mai tētahi kaiwhakamahi, "I tono ahau i taku tāne kia marena. He pai ki a ia ngā mahi whakakatakata, nō reira i kōrero ahau ki ōna hoa mahi. I waea atu rātou ki a ia me te kī kei te mura tana kaupapa o nāianei (he miihini ia). I taraiwa ia ki roto, ā, i te ata wetewete i tana kaupapa, me te rapu i te ahi ka kitea e ia te mowhiti titanium. I herea ki te waea ki tētahi wahi whakarewa, i whakairohia ki te "Mārena ahau?"."

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7. Whakahonoretia ngā mea tuatahi o tō whanaungatanga

Tonoa ia kia marena koe ki te wāhi i tūtaki tuatahi ai kōrua, i haere ai kōrua i tō kōrua rā tuatahi, i te wāhi i moe ai kōrua. kihi tuatahi, tuatahi ka mōhio kei te aroha kōrua, tuatahi ka kata tahi i muri i tētahi kata kino, tuatahi ka whawhai tetahi mō tetahi, tuatahi ka whawhai tetahi ki tetahi, te wā tuatahi i pā ai tō kōrua wā uaua hei tokorua, ā, me puta atu i tētahi wā uaua – ka mārama koe ki te tikanga.

8. Tōia he Monica mai i Hoa

Ki te pai ia ki ngā mahi whakakatakata, waea atu ki a ia ka kōrero teka mōu/kei te raru tō whanaungatanga. Tukua ia kia hohoro ki a koe. Whakamoemititia ia ki ngā rama kakara maha huri noa i te whare noho me ngā kupu e puta mai ana i te ngākau. Ka kanga ia i a koe engari ka kata tahi kōrua.

9. Tono atu ki a ia i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori

Ko tāku kōrero tino pai mō ngā wāhine e tono ana i ngā tāne ko tēnei: ​​I hiahia noa ngā kaiwhakaari a Kristen Bell rāua ko Dax Shepard ki te marena i te wā i whakamanahia ai te ōritetanga o te marena i California. I te tau 2013, i te wā i whakamanahia ai e te Kōti Matua te marena-taua i California, i puta te pātai a Bell i roto i tētahi tweet: "@daxshepard1 ka marena koe i ahau? Xo #marriageequality #loveislove".

Ka whakahoki ia: “Āe, āe!!!!!!!!!!!!” Aroha mutunga kore, wāhine kaha, tāne haumaru, me te hononga ki te hapori LGBTQIA+ – e aroha ana mātou ki te kite i tēnā.

10. Tonoa tana keke tino pai

Kōrero atu ki a ia kāore anō koe kia hiakai pēnei, ā, ko te keke anake ka makona i tō hiakai. Tonohia i mua te keke e arohaina ana e ia, mai i te wāhi e arohaina ana e ia. Tuhia te kupu "Ka marena koe i ahau?" ki runga, tūohu ki raro ina whakatuwherahia e ia te pouaka, ka pātai. Koinei tētahi o ngā mea tino pai ngā mea aroha ka taea e koe te kōrero ki tāu tāne (arā, te hoa tāne e tata ana ki te marena). Waihoki, ka taea e kōrua te whakanui me te keke ina whakaae ia. He whai hua, he māmā, he reka.

11. Whakatereterehia

Ka taea e te wahine te tono marena ki te tāne me te kore e whakamahere? Ae. Tangohia he wā motuhake e whai tikanga ana, e aroha ana hoki, kia maumaharatia ai. Kāore he mea whakapaipai, kāore he whakaritenga, engari he maharatanga piripono e whai tikanga ana ki a kōrua tokorua. I roto i Gilmore Girls, i muri i te pārekareka o Lorelai ki te aroha nui o Luke ki tana tamāhine, ki a Rory, ka mea ohorere mai ia, "E Luke, ka moe tāua?" Kāore i kitea he waina i muri mai hei whakanui i taua wā. He waina mata, he waina kore i whakamaheretia, he waina tino pai, he waina tino pai.

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12. Hurihia tō hararei hei whai wāhitanga tono marena

Kei te marino ia, kei te marino koe. Kāore he īmēra kei roto i tō hinengaro. He tino pai te wāhi, ā, he wā pai ki te noho tahi i roto i ngā ringa o tētahi me te kore he mea hei whakararuraru mō te rā katoa, e rua rānei, hei whakanui i te taumau. Whakaarohia tēnei whakaaro i te wā e whai ake nei haere tahi me tō hoa.

Kei roto a Bethan i tēnei tuhinga, "I whakaritea e au he wā poto poto, ā, i whakaaro ahau he whakaaro pai te tono marena i a māua e haere ana. I noho māua i runga i te taupee o te tuanui. I inu māua i te mea e tō ana te rā, ā, te āhua nei ko te wā tino pai tēnei – nō reira i pātai atu ai ahau. Kāore he waea, kāore he tuhinga. He pātai mārama noa iho."

13. Whakatika i tana kiriata tino pai

Kaua e whakatika i tetahi mea. Ko te whakaaro kia kia nui ake tōna hiahia ki a koe, kaua e wehe i a kōrua. Mātakihia tana kiriata tino pai i a koe e piri tahi ana i runga i te tūru. Kia puta te kupu "E hiahia ana ahau ki te whakaipoipo i a koe pēnei ake ake. Ka marena koe i ahau?" i runga i te mata i muri tonu i te mutunga o te kiriata.

Ko tētahi atu whakaaro tono e pā ana ki te kiriata mai i tētahi Reddit kaiwhakamahi: "I mutu tana mahi 12-hāora, ā, i hoki mai ia ki te kāinga i te rua o te ata. I tahuna e au ngā rama, i taka kai, ā, i hangaia he pouaka hei pupuri i ngā manaakitanga katoa a te whānau katoa. I hoatu hoki e au ki a ia te Mowhiti Kotahi. Mai i a LOTR. I tino harikoa ia, ā, kāore i te mōhio kei te haere mai."

14. Waihangahia he raupapa o ngā huihuinga waimarie i mua i tō tono nui

E ngā toa whanaungatanga tawhiti katoa, koinei te mea mā koutou. Tukuna atu he taonga ki a ia i te roanga o te rā. Tērā pea he mea iti e arohaina ana e ia, he mea tino pai ki a ia. ngā koha tiakarete me ngā pouaka, tana kai tino pai, he pānui kiriata, he mahi toi rānei i miharo ai ia i mua. Tērā pea ka taea e koe te tuku reta ki a ia i te roanga o te rā. Ki runga i ia reta, ka tuhia e koe ngā mea e pai ana koe ki a ia.

Whakamātauria te wā tika – me waiho hei mutunga wiki, hei rā rānei kei te kāinga ia. Hei whakamutunga, tukuna he reta ataahua i roto i tētahi reta e mea ana, "I whai hua ngā utu whakapati? Ka moe koe i ahau, kāore rānei?"

15. Whakahoha i a ia i ngā rā ora

Mea atu ki a ia kia tiki i tētahi mea mai i te kīhini. Me mahi anō tēnei. Pātai atu ki a ia ngā mea e mōhio ana koe ki te whakautu. Mea atu ki a ia kia haere ki te rūma moe ki te tiki i tō koti māu, nā te mea kua mātao koe. Whakanuia te ngangau. Whakariri i a ia. Kia puta tōna pouri mō te hinganga ki a koe.

I tōna taenga atu ki te rūma moe, kī tonu te moenga i ngā putiputi e tuhituhi ana "Ka marena koe i ahau?". He huarahi pai tēnei hei whakapoauau i a ia, hei whaki i tō aroha mutunga kore, kātahi ka moe tahi i runga i te moenga kotahi: he tohu katoa ēnei mō te āhua o te marena e haere ake nei.

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16. Hoatu he ohorere mariko ki a ia

E te hunga e noho tahi ana, he hoa anō māu. Whakatūria he waea ataata. Me tuku e tana hoa tētahi kete ki waho tonu i tōna tatau i waenganui o te waea. Ka pāorooro rātou, ka haere. Me kī atu kua tukuna mai e koe tētahi mea māna. Ka whakatika ia, ka hoki mai me te kete, ka wetekina ki mua i a koe, ā, ka kite i te mowhiti taumau.

Koinā te wā ka tuturi koe ki tetahi taha o te mata, ka tono atu ki a ia kia moe koe. Ka taea hoki e koe te hopu i tēnei! Ki te kore ia e pai ki tēnei, ki te riri rānei, kāti ka mōhio koe ko tētahi o ngā mea hononga whero haki kia tūpatohia kētia.

17. Whakaaturia tō tono aroha ki te marea

I te tau 2005, i te tīmatanga o te whakataetae motocross a Carey Hart i tana takahanga tuatoru i te ara, ka whakaarahia ake e te kaiwaiata-kaituhi waiata a Pink tētahi papa pit e kī ana, "Will U Marry Me?" I te korenga o ia e tū, ka tāpirihia e ia "Serious!" mō tana takahanga tuawhā. I moe rāua i te tau i muri mai.

Ki te mea koinei tāna e hiahia ana, me whai. Ko tētahi noa iho tēnei o aua mea ngā mea porangi e mahia ana e ngā tāne me ngā wāhineWaiatatia he waiata māna i tētahi pā karaoke, pātaihia te pātai nui ki mua i te hunga tauhou, ā, whakanuia mā te haurangi i muri iho. Ki te mea kei runga koe i tētahi pahi/tereina/waka rererangi, tū atu ka tono marena māna mā te kī atu kei te pirangi koe kia eke tahi kōrua ake tonu atu. Ka harikoa ētahi o ngā pāhihi mōu, ka amuamu pea ētahi. Mena ka whakaae ia, kāore he mea kē atu e whai tikanga.

18. Mahia ki tētahi wāhi e whai tikanga nui ana ki a kōrua

Mena he wāhi nui tōu hoa tāne, tō kōrua rānei i roto i ō kōrua oranga, he wāhi nui rānei ki a kōrua, he mea tika kia tāpirihia he aroha ki ngā kare ā-roto mahana kua pā mai ki reira. Tērā pea koinei te wāhi o tō kōrua te rā tuatahi i muri i te hui ipurangi. Ki te wāhi rānei e hono tonu ana koe ki tētahi wā whakangā.

I whakapuaki a Lucy i tana kōrero ki konei"I whakatau ahau ki te tono marena i te pāka nā te mea i hiahia ahau kia noho ki tētahi wāhi e haere pinepine ana māua, kaua ki tētahi wāhi kotahi noa iho (pērā i te hararei). I whakairihia e au ētahi pom-poms, ā, i tuhituhi ahau, 'Ka marena koe i ahau?' ki runga i te parepare. I mōhio ahau kāore au i hiahia kia whakawhirinaki te wā ki ahau anō kia kōrero i tētahi mea, kei pōuri ahau, kei mataku rānei. I a māua e tae ana ki te tihi o te puke, ka tohu noa ahau ki reira, ā, ka pakaru taku tangi."

19. Ki te kore tetahi mea e mahi, whakawehia ia

E ai ki tētahi kaiwhakamahi i runga i Reddit"I muri i te 20 tau o te noho tahi, ka tono te wahine a tōku tungāne kia marena rāua. I whakairohia te kupu "ka marena koe i ahau" ki tētahi maripi whakairo. Nō reira, kāore i taea e ia te kī kāo haha." Mō ngā take ture, he kata noa iho mātou.

I mea atu a Bell Hooks, he kaiwhakahau, he kaituhi hoki, "Ko te whakakore me te whakarerekē i te ahurea patriarchal he mahi mā ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e mahi tahi." Me whakarerekē te kōrero, mā te tono tono a te wahine ki tētahi tāne i ia wā.

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