Ko te whakaū i tētahi mea he huarahi hei kukume mai i ngā kare pai mai i te ao whānui. E ai ki te Ture o te Āhuatanga, he hua kei ngā mea katoa e kōrerotia ana, e mahia ana rānei e tātou. Kei konei mātou hei kī atu ki a koe ka taea e koe te whakamahi i tēnā hei painga mōu. Hei tīmatanga, e 40 ngā whakaū whanaungatanga hei whāngai i tō oranga aroha.
Me aro atu ngā whakaū aroha ki ngā tāngata me ngā mea e tino arohaina ana e koe, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga. Ki te hiahia koe kia angitu tō moemoeā, tīmata ki te mahi whakaū o ia rā i tēnei rā. Kia maumahara ki tēnei: Ko te whakaū i tētahi mea kāore e whakakorikori i a koe ka hua ake he waiata kupu kore whakaaro. Ehara ēnā i te whakaū pai. Kia angitu ai ngā whakaū aroha, me mahi te tangata ki tā rātou e whakaū ana. Nō reira, ki te whakamahi kōrua ko tō hoa i ngā whakaū aroha kaha engari kāore e kaha ki te mahi i ngā mahi aroha, kāore e whai hua.
Kia maumahara, ko ngā whakaū he whakamaharatanga e mahi tahi ana me ngā mahi. Kāore ngā whanaungatanga hauora, whakamānawa hoki e hangai ana ki ngā waiaro kino me ngā kupu whakaari teka. Mena he hiahia whakatikatika mō tētahi whanaungatanga, he rapu rānei koe i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, kua tae mai koe ki te wāhi tika. Pānuihia tonu kia kitea ai me pēhea e taea ai e ētahi whakaū whanaungatanga o ia rā te kawe mai i te pai e tino hiahiatia ana i roto i tō oranga aroha.
40 Ngā Whakapumautanga Hononga Hei Whakamahia Mō Tō Oranga Aroha
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Me tīmata tātou mā te mārama ki te tikanga o te 'whakaū'. Mā ēnei kōrero ka āwhina i a tātou kia mau tonu te hihiri mā te whakahaere i ō tātou kare ā-roto ki te huarahi tika. Ka taea te whakaū whānui, te whakaū whaiaro rānei, i runga i ngā hiahia o te tangata. Kia mōhio rā anō koe ki ō whakaū whanaungatanga whaiaro, tukua mātou kia āwhina i a koe ki ngā mea ka taea e koe te piri atu ahakoa te āhuatanga.
He mea nui kia maumahara koe ki ngā mea ataahua o tō ao. Mā te whakapau i te wā kounga ki mua i te whakaata hei whakaū, hei whakamahara rānei i a koe anō mō tēnā mea, ka whakanui ake i tō wairua, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te kukume i te aroha e tika ana māu. Mā te whakamahi i ngā whakaū mō te manukanuka, te ahotea rānei o te whanaungatanga ka āwhina i te tapahi i ngā whakaaro kino, ka whakapiki ake hoki i te kaha pai ki roto i ō ao.
Mā ngā whakaū kaha o te whanaungatanga ka whakamahara koe ki te aroha mutunga kore e tika ana māu i roto i tō koiora, me te whakamahara anō hoki ki ngā huringa me mahi e koe mō te hunga e arohaina ana e koe. Ahakoa kei te rapu koe ki te pupuri i tētahi whanaungatanga pai, hauora rānei, kei te mahi rānei koe ki te whakatutuki te tapahi i aua tāngata kino, He mea whai hua tonu ngā whakaū whanaungatanga.
Kia maumahara: Ka taea e koe te aroha ki ētahi atu anake ina ako koe ki te aroha ki a koe anō. Ā, ko te aroha mutunga kore anake me waiho māu ake!
1. Ngā Whakapumautanga Aroha hei kukume i tētahi hoa wairua
Kua hoha koe ki te noho ko koe anake te tangata takakau i roto i tō rōpū? Kua kitea e ō hoa katoa te "tangata tika" i a koe e tirotiro tonu ana i a Instagram i runga i tō waea? Kaua e mutu, e tino mōhio ana mātou kei te haere mai te aroha o tō ao. Kua tae ki te wā ki te karanga i ētahi whakaū aroha kaha.
Ki te hiahia koe ki te tere ake mā te tuku i ētahi kare pai ki te ao whānui, anei te rārangi o ngā whakaū whanaungatanga hei kukume i tō hoa aroha. Ā, he kupu ki te hunga whakaaro nui: Kati te whakamahi i ō whakaū tawhito. Me titiro tātou ki ētahi whakaū whanaungatanga hou hei whakapai ake i tā tātou kaupapa:
1. E tika ana kia whiwhi ahau i te aroha mutunga kore
2. Ka kitea ahau e te aroha
3. He tika ahau kia arohaina
4. Ko ahau ka tūtaki ahau ki taku hoa wairua hohoro
5. E karapotia ana ahau e te hunga e aroha ana ki ahau
2. Ngā whakaū mō te aroha me te marena
He mea pai tonu te whakamahara i a koe anō me te whakawhetai ki ngā tāngata whakamiharo katoa o tō ao e aroha ana ki a koe. Ā, ina tae ki taua tangata motuhake, ka nui ake te uara o ngā whakaū whanaungatanga. Ki te rapu koe i ngā whakaū mō te aroha me te marena, pānuihia kia kitea ai me pēhea e taea ai e koe te pupuri i taua pai i roto i tō whanaungatanga ake ake:
6. E tika ana kia whiwhi ahau i te aroha i homai e taku hoa rangatira ki ahau
7. He nui te mihi o māua ko taku hoa tetahi ki tetahi
8. He harikoa tōku ao me taku hoa rangatira
9. He whanaungatanga hauora, he whanaungatanga kaha hoki tō māua ko taku hoa
10. E mārama ana māua ko taku hoa tetahi ki tetahi, ā, e tino mārama ana hoki tetahi ki tetahi
Te pānui e pā ana: He pai te marena - he aha ngā mea ka riro i a koe, he aha ngā mea ka ngaro i a koe?
3. Ngā whakaū whanaungatanga mō tētahi tangata motuhake
Kei te rapu koe i ngā whakaū whanaungatanga mō tētahi tangata motuhake? Āe, kāore e taea e tātou te harikoa ake! Heoi anō, kua tino mangere te ao me i kore te aroaro o ētahi atu tāngata nui i roto i ō tātou ao, me ngā nekehanga ātaahua e mahia ana e tātou hei whakaatu ki a rātou e arohaina ana, e manaakitia ana hoki rātou. I tēnei ao e kore e taea te karo i te pukumahi, he mea tika kia whakamahara i a tātou anō me ō tātou whanaunga mō ō tātou manaakitanga.
Kia titiro tātou ki ētahi whakaū aroha hei whakaū i tō whanaungatanga motuhake ki tētahi tangata:
11. He tino harikoa māua ko taku hoa
12. He tino pai māua ko taku hoa tetahi ki tetahi
13. He pai ki ahau te noho tahi me taku hoa rangatira
14. He hononga atua tā māua ko taku hoa
15. E mihi ana ahau, e manaaki ana hoki i ahau i roto i taku whanaungatanga ki taku hoa rangatira
4. Ngā whakaū hei whakaora i tētahi whanaungatanga
Ko ō tātou whanaunga anake te hunga e kaha ana ki te whara i a tātou. Ahakoa kāore e taea te whakahē i tēnā, he mea nui anō hoki kia ora ai ngā mamae o mua, kia anga whakamua ai hoki ngā whanaungatanga katoa ki tētahi ao hauora. Ki te mea kua tae mai koe ki konei e rapu ana i ngā whakapumautanga aroha hei whakaora i tētahi whanaungatanga kua roa e raru ana, koinei te mea māu.
Kua tae ki te wā ki te titiro ki ētahi whakaū whakaora whanaungatanga:
16. E muru hara ana tātou tetahi ki tetahi
17. E aroha ana māua ko taku hoa tetahi ki tetahi i ngā wā pai, i ngā wā kino hoki
18. to tatou he ao whānui te hononga me te parakore
19. He kaha ake tō tātou aroha i ō tātou raruraru, ā, kei a tātou te mana ki te wikitoria i aua raruraru
20. He pai ake te ao ina noho tahi māua ko taku hoa
5. Ngā whakaū whanaungatanga o ia rā
He aha koe ka tatari ai kia tae mai te pahi ki a koe kia whiwhi inihua ai? Mā ngā whakaū whanaungatanga o ia rā ka kore koe e manukanuka, ā, ka āwhina hoki ki te pupuri i tō marino ahakoa te pōrearea. He mea nui ēnei whakaū hei whakamahara i a koe anō me tō hoa aroha. Mā tēnei ka karohia ai ngā raruraru, ā, ka taea hoki e koe te titiro ki ngā mea mai i te tirohanga a tō hoa:
21. He nui ake te aroha kei te wātea mai ki ahau i te ao whānui
22. Kāore au i te mokemoke
23. E tino mihi ana ahau ki te hunga e ruia mai ana te aroha ki ahau
24. Kua rite ahau ki te tuku i te ao kia mahi i ana ake huarahi
25. Ka whiwhi ahau i te aroha e tika ana māku
6. Ngā whakaū pai mō te whanaungatanga piripono
He maha ngā āhua o te aroha, ā, he rerekē anō hoki te āhua e whakaatu ai te aroha. Ki te pai ki a kōrua ko tō hoa te noho tahi mō ngā wā piripono, whakamahia ngā whakaū kia kore ai ēnei wā e memeha haere.
Ki ētahi, ka hangaia te whanaungatanga mā te kupu, ko ētahi ia e hiahia ana ki te hono ā-tinana. Ko ētahi e hiahia ana ki ētahi mahi atawhai, ko ētahi e hiahia ana ki te whanaungatanga i runga i te moenga. Ahakoa he aha tāu whiringa, kaua e tukua tetahi kia kī atu he hē tāu hiahia ki tēnā.
Me titiro tātou ki ētahi whakaū pai mō te whanaungatanga piripono, ina whakamahara koe ki a koe anō he pai ki te hiahia i tētahi mea nui ake i tō hoa:
26. Ka awhi ahau i aku hiahia moepuku
27. E tika ana kia whiwhi ahau i te hototahi ai me te harikoa e hiahiatia ana e au
28. He pakeke ahau e āhei ana ki te whakatau i aku ake whakatau mō te moepuku
29. Kaua ahau e whakama mō tetahi mahi moepuku e whakaaetia ana e māua ko taku hoa
30. He whaiaro taku oranga moepuku, ā, kāore e taea te whakahē, te whakapae rānei
7. Ngā whakaū i te whanaungatanga tawhiti
Ko tētahi o ngā wāhanga tino uaua o te hononga pumau Ko te wā tēnei e taea ai e kōrua ko tō hoa te hono atu mā te ipurangi anake. Mēnā kāore kōrua e noho tahi ana i te taha tinana, ka nui ake ngā māramatanga me ngā tautohetohe koretake. Kia kukume mai i te aroha mai i tawhiti mā te whakamahi i ngā whakaū tika mō te whanaungatanga. Ko ngā kōrero me ngā whakaaro pai te mea nui!
I tīmata noa koe i tētahi hononga tawhiti me tō hoa? Me ārahi koe e ngā whakaū aroha. Kia taurite tō hononga i ngā ohorere ā muri ake nei mā te whakamahi i ēnei whakaū kaha o ia rā:
31. Kei roto māua ko taku hoa i tētahi hononga pumau, aroha hoki
32. Ka puāwai tonu tō tāua aroha ahakoa te tawhiti o te tinana i waenganui i a tāua
33. E mōhio ana māua ko taku hoa ki ngā mea katoa e pā ana ki ō māua oranga ahakoa kei te noho wehe māua.
34. E kore rawa e taea e te tawhiti te whakakino i te aroha pono
35. He piripono tā māua tetahi ki tetahi ahakoa kāore he piripono ā-tinana
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8. Ngā whakaū whanaungatanga hauora
Te whanaungatanga hauora Kaua e whakararu i tō hauora hinengaro, e waiho ai koe kia ngoikore i te mutunga o ia rā. Kei te whāngaihia koe, kei te manaakitia, kei te whakautehia hoki koe i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kia tae atu ai tō whanaungatanga ki tēnei taumata, kia mau tonu rānei ki tēnei āhua, he mea pai kia whakamahia ēnei whakaū whanaungatanga hauora:
36. Kua whakawhiwhia ahau e te ao whānui ki te aroha atawhai e tika ana māku
37. Ka whakaute māua ko taku hoa i ngā whakatau me ngā hiahia o tētahi ki tētahi
38. Ko ā mātou whakataunga katoa e ahu mai ana i te whakaae tahi me te aroha
39. Ka āwhina taku hoa i ahau kia noho hei putanga pai rawa atu o ahau i ia rā
40. Ka whakatenatena māua ko taku hoa tetahi i tetahi kia oti pai ai ngā mea katoa e mahia ana e māua
I kī a William Purkey, he ahorangi toa i te Whare Wānanga o North Carolina, me Betty Siegel, te perehitini o te Whare Wānanga o Kennesaw State, ko te nuinga o te tangata e hiahia ana kia whakamanahia tō rātou uara o nāianei, kia maumaharahia hoki ō rātou pūmanawa. Mā tēnei ka taea e tātou te pupuri i tētahi tirohanga pai ake i te ao. Ina pai tā tātou huarahi me te tirohanga, ka ka kaha ake ngā whanaungatanga ā, ka nui ake tō tātou atawhai.
I roto i tana tauira, e kōrero ana tētahi o ōku hoa, a Rhea, i mua i tana tīmatanga ki te whakaharatau i ngā whakaū kaha o ia rā, i pā tika te ahotea me te kino ki ōna whanaungatanga. E whakamārama ana ia me pēhea te tautohetohe koretake i roto i tana whanaungatanga nā te maha o ngā māramatanga kore. Mena kei te pōrearea koe i te pō nā te whanonga a tō hoa, whakamahia ēnei whakaū aroha whai hua, pai hoki kia mōhio ai ia ki ngā mea kua wareware pea rātou.
"I taku tīmatanga ki te whakamahi i ngā whakaū whanaungatanga i ia rā, ka maumahara ahau ki te aroha nui e tohaina ana e māua ko taku hoa, ā, i te mutunga ka ora anō tō māua whanaungatanga," te kī a Rhea. Ka taea e ngā whakaū aroha te whakaputa i tētahi huringa whanonga pai!
He nui ēnei whakaū whanaungatanga hou hei kawe mai i te harikoa e hiahiatia ana ki roto i ōu oranga aroha. Ko te tumanako i hoatu e ēnei whakaū whanaungatanga 40 hei whakamahi māu mō tō oranga aroha he tirohanga atu ki te ao o ngā kōrero pai. Me whai whakaū tātou katoa kia puta ai i ō tātou rā kino, ā, kaua tātou e whakama. Ko te tumanako ka kukume mai koe i te aroha i ngā huarahi katoa e rapua ana e koe!
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FAQs
Kāore e taea te whakautu i tēnei pātai mā te āe, mā te kāo rānei. Engari, e rua ngā mea. He rerekē ngā āhuatanga ka whai hua ai ngā whakaū, ka kore rānei e whai hua mā te kore e puta he huringa ki te oranga o te tangata. E ai ki a mātou, ko tētahi o ngā take matua ka puta ai tēnei, nā te mea he nui rawa tō kaha ki te whakaū i te mea hē. Me whai whakaaro whaiaro ngā whakaū, ā, me hono ki ngā mea e whakaarohia ana e koe he mea nui ki tō oranga. He tino pai te mahi a ngā whakaū i ngā āhuatanga ka mahi tahi kōrua ko tō hoa aroha ki te whakatutuki i tētahi whanaungatanga aroha.
Ko ngā whakaū aroha pai i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga e pā ana ki ngā kupu whakamanawa me te whakatau ki a koe anō, ki a koe anō rānei. E whakaatu ana ēnei kōrero i te pai me te whakaū i ngā kare ā-roto pai i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Mā te haere i roto i tētahi papaki taratara Ahakoa he takakau, he whanaungatanga rānei, he nui te painga o ngā whakaū ki te whakapai ake i tō tātou hauora hinengaro. Ka āwhina hoki i a tātou ki te whakapai ake i ngā whanaungatanga mā te kite mārama i ngā mea me te tango i ngā paitini i roto i ō tātou ao.
He mahi whakamiharo ngā whakaū aroha ina tae mai ki te kukume mai i ngā tāngata tika ki roto i tō ao. Kāore pea i te tino whai hua te whakaatu, te whakaū rānei i tāu e whakapono nei, i tāu e whakapono nei rānei. Heoi, ka whakaora, ka whakapai ake i te hononga i waenganui i te tokorua. Ko te tumanako, ki te rite te hononga ki te whakaatu, ka āwhina ngā whakaū i a koe ki te hanga hononga pai ki tō hoa aroha. Mēnā ka tino aroha tetahi ki a koe, kāore rānei, he whakautu tēnei ka mōhio koe ina tīmata koe i tēnei haerenga whakaū.
Ka mahi anake ngā whakaū me te whakapau kaha me te whakapono ki tōna oranga. Mēnā kāore tētahi, ngā mea e rua rānei, kāore e tino kitea ngā hua. Mēnā ka whai wāhi koe ki te whakaū i tētahi mea e hiahia ana koe kia kite i tētahi huringa, kia mau tonu mō te iti rawa i te toru tekau rā. I roto i tēnei wā, me tīmata koe ki te kite i ngā huringa iti i roto i ō āhuatanga.
Heoi, ki te roa ake te wā, kāore he take e ngaro ai te tumanako, e mataku rānei. Whakatakotoria he meneti torutoru i ia rā hei whakaharatau i ō whakaū aroha..
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