"He rawe tēnā, harikoa rawa atu ahau mōu!" te kī a Jade, kāore he tohu hae, ki tana hoa i kōrero mai nei ki a ia kei te marena ia. I te 36 o ōna tau, koinei te tuatoru o ngā hoa i kōrero mai ki a ia mō āna mahere marena i tēnei tau noa iho. Ahakoa te maha o ngā marena hei haere atu, kāore a Jade i te hiahia, i te mahere rānei kia marena wawe. Te āhua nei kāore ia e māharahara ki te noho takakau ake ake, he mea whakapoauau tēnei ki ōna hoa wahine marena katoa.
Kua piki haere te kore hiahia ki te whai hononga i ngā wā tata nei. E ai ki Pew Research, e ai ki ngā pūrongo e 31% o ngā Amerikana e takakau ana, ko te haurua ia o rātou e harikoa ana ki te noho takakau ake ake.
He maha ngā wā ka pā mai te whakama, te tawai, me ngā tawai ki te noho takakau, engari me pēhea mēnā kāore te "noho tahi" me tētahi e pai ki a koe? Me titiro tātou ki ētahi tohu ka noho takakau tonu koe, me te take kāore e tika ana kia whakaoho i te mataku.
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Tuatahi, ahakoa he maha ngā wā i pā kino ai ō hoa, i kore rānei i waimarie i roto i te ao whakaipoipo, ehara i te mea ka noho takakau tonu koe. I a koe e whakaaro ana "Kāore au e hiahia kia noho takakau tonu," tera pea ka ea tetahi aituā e pā ana ki a koe, ā, ka ea ngā raruraru kei a koe i roto i te ao whanaungatanga mēnā e hiahia ana koe ki te whakatika. (Psst, he āwhina te rongoā).
Nō reira, kaua e aro ki te kupu "Ki taku whakaaro ka noho takakau tonu ahau mō ake tonu atu nā te mea he tino whiriwhiri rawa ahau", (ka oati mātou ka huri ō kupu "kāore-kāore" hei "koretake"), engari ka aro tātou ki ngā take tino whakamīharo (arā, pai) e noho takakau ai koe mō te wā katoa. PS: Ahakoa ka noho takakau tonu koe ahakoa te hiahia ki tētahi whanaungatanga, kāore i te kino pērā i te whakaaro o te tangata (ka kōrerohia anō tēnei i muri mai!).
1. Kei te harikoa koe ki te wāhi kei reira tō ao
"Kāore koe i te whakaaro kei te memeha haere te ora? Me te mea kua pau tō wā?" i pātai a Racquel, he hoa wahine marena i hae ki te tirohanga koretake a Jade ki te marena. "Kei te mōhio au, tika? Me hiahia ahau ki taua whakatairanga i Pinirana ahakoa pēhea," te whakahoki a Jade.
Mena he nui rawa tō aro ki tō mahi, ki tō kamupene, ki tō ake pakihi rānei Hauora hinengaro, i ētahi wā, ka noho te whanaungatanga ki muri. Ina hoki, ki te mea kua makona koe ki te wāhi e noho nei tō ao, ā, kua kite koe i tētahi ara mārama kua keria mōu ake e whai ana koe, kāore pea te whakaaro ki te noho takakau ake ake e waiho hei take e manukanuka ai koe.
2. He kakara koe (he kore ira tangata rānei)
E mōhio ana mātou, e mōhio ana mātou, he kakara Ahakoa te kore-ira tangata, ehara i te mea kāore e taea e koe te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga harikoa, hauora hoki. Heoi anō, ka uaua ake ngā mea ina kore koe e rongo i tētahi kare ā-roto aroha ki tētahi, ina kore rānei koe e hiahia ki te taatai, kāore?
Ahakoa he maha ngā whanaungatanga whai hua, te aroha whakawhanaunga, tae atu ki ētahi atu momo whanaungatanga, tērā pea kāore e ranea te kukume i a koe e te whanaungatanga pono, te whanaungatanga pūmau rānei, i roto i te tikanga tuku iho.
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3. He pūnaha tautoko tāu e koa ai koe
Ehara i te mea ka whiwhi te katoa i te kotahi me te rua o ngā hoa pai, ā, ka tūtaki rātou ki a rātou e toru ngā wā i te tau hei kōrero mō ngā kaupapa nui o te ao. Ka kitea e ētahi tāngata te hoa tino pai i roto i te hoa, ka kitea te aroha pono i roto i te pūnaha tautoko e whakawhanakehia ana e rātou me tā rātou tira, ā, kāore e hiahia ana ki te whanaungatanga roa.
I tua atu, e ai ki te Guardian, e rua pea ō hoa piripono ka ngaro i ia wā ka uru koe ki tētahi whanaungatanga. Kua pā pea tēnei ki a koe, ā, kāore koe e hiahia kia ngaro te hunga e tino whai tikanga ana ki a koe.
4. Kāore tō āhua noho i te tino pai mō te whanaungatanga
Ka haereere a Jade i te ao katoa. He mahi tonu tāna, ā, he pāti tonu tāna me āna kiritaki (he kaiwhakahaere puoro ia, ā, he nui ngā pāti i roto i te nuinga o ngā haerenga). Kāore ia i te kāinga, ā, he pono, he pai ki a ia tēnā. Ehara i te taiao pai rawa atu mō te whanaungatanga, koia? Waihoki, ki te whakaaro koe kāore tō oranga i tino whakaritea mō whanaungatanga i te aroha, e kore koe e whakararuraru i te noho takakau ake tonu atu.
5. Nui atu tō kino ki te kēmu whakaipoipo, kāore koe e māharahara kia noho takakau tonu
Ka taurite kōrua, ka kōrerorero pakupaku, ka tūtaki, ka kōrerorero pai, kātahi ka kitea kāore koe i te rite ki tā rātou e kī nei. He rerekē rawa atu rānei tā rātou e hiahia ana i a koe. Kāore rānei rātou i te tino pai. Ka mārama koe ki te kaupapa. Kua pā ki a tātou katoa tēnei āhuatanga, tētahi rā kino i muri i tētahi wā ka hinga tātou i te hunga pai rawa atu. Whai muri i tētahi wā, ki te mea kua kore koe e hiahia ki te whai i tētahi whanaungatanga nā te kēmu whakaipoipo, kāore he tangata e taea te whakapae i a koe.
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6. Kāore tetahi e tino tapahi
Ahakoa kāore pea ō hiahia tino motuhake, kāore hoki pea koe e tino tumanako nui ana, he mea noa tonu te kore e pai te noho tahi me tētahi. Kāore koe e kitea te tangata e tino mārama ana ki a koe, ā, ahakoa e whakaaro ana koe e mārama ana koe, ka memeha haere.
I waenganui i ēnei mea katoa, ka tae mai te wā e mataku ai te te noho takakau ake tonu atu ka mutu, ā, ka mōhio koe kua tino makona koe ki ngā āhuatanga katoa e karapoti ana i a koe. Ina koa mēnā kei te taha tonu koe e te hunga e "whakaiti ana i a koe" i roto i te āhua o tō pūnaha tautoko whakamiharo.
7. He nui rawa tō koa ki tō wā mokemoke
"Kāore au i ara ake noa, ā, i whakatau i tētahi rā ka hiahia ahau kia noho takakau ake tonu atu, e mōhio ana koe," te kōrero a Jade ki a Racquel, "I ngana ahau, engari i ia wā ka haere tahi māua me te tira ki te tūruhi, ka mutu ka tino pārekareka ahau ki taua wā, nui atu i taku i pai ai me taku hoa. Ahakoa i a māua e noho tahi ana, he nui rawa ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e au." waahi whaiaro kia mau tonu ngā whanaungatanga hauora.”
Ki a Jade, ehara te "noho takakau ake tonu atu" i te whiu mate, engari, he mea e āhei ai ia ki te whakapau i te wā katoa i te ao ki a ia anō, me te whakatipu i tōna oranga i tōna ara e haere ana. Ki te kore koe e tawhiti rawa, kāore te noho takakau ake tonu atu e rite ki te whiu mate ki a koe. Tērā pea ka noho harikoa koe, ka whai wā nui ki a koe anō, ka whiwhi kai reka, me te Netflix i hangaia kia rite ki ō whiringa mātakitaki.
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8. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whai hononga
Kāore aua kiriata rom-com whakarihariha e pā ki a koe. Kāore aua tāne me ngā wāhine i runga i te tereina e hae ana i a koe. E tino harikoa ana koe mō ō hoa katoa e moe ana, ā, kāore anō koe kia hiahia ki tētahi mea pēnei māu. Kei te ora pai koe, kei te noho mārire, ā, kei te karo i ngā raruraru katoa e pā ana ki ngā whanaungatanga, ā, e aroha ana koe ki tēnā.
Tērā pea kei te noho takakau tonu koe i muri i te wehenga, kei te hiahia noa rānei koe kia noho takakau tonu. Ahakoa he aha te take, ki te mutu koe ki te kī pēnei i te, "Ki taku whakaaro ka noho takakau tonu ahau, ā, whakawhetai ki te Atua mō tēnā!", tera pea kāore e hiahia ana ki te whakapau kaha mō te wā roa. He pai rawa atu tēnei, e kite nei pea koe i nāianei.
9. He pai ki a koe te mahi i tāu ake mahi
Kei te piki haere te hiahia o te tangata ki te noho takakau mō ake tonu atu, nā te mea ka taea e rātou te awhi i tō rātou mana motuhake. Ka whakatau koe mō tō oranga me te kore e whakaaro ki ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi atu, he mea tino ataahua tēnei.
Ka puta mai i tēnei he wairua whai hua, me te kaha ki te ora i tōu ake ao i runga i ōu ake tikanga. Ko te tangata tika tērā pea kāore e kitea i roto i tētahi atu engari i roto i a koe anō, ā, ka kitea e koe ko te kī ki te harikoa kei roto i tō ake kamupene me te whai whakaaro ki a koe anō.
10. He pai ki a koe ngā painga o te noho takakau
Kia pono tātou, he utu nui te whakaipoipo. He nui ngā raruraru. He pikinga, he hekenga, he maha ngā raruraru, he pakanga kino, he roa te wā, e iwa iāri katoa. Ina noho takakau koe ake ake, ka mōhio koe ko koe te kawenga mō tō harikoa, ā, kāore he mea e arai ana i tō rangimārie.
Ki te wa ka tae atu ki te noho takakau me te noho i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka whakaae te nuinga he nui ake te rangimārie o te tuatahi. Pērā i tā Jade i kī ai, "He pō pai ki te noho tahi me taku kai, aku kiriata, aku mōkai, me taku rangimārie… He tino pai rawa atu ngā painga o te noho takakau."
11. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakarērea tō oranga pāpori
Kāore koe e hiahia ki te pāti i ia pō, ki te noho tahi rānei me ō hoa tata i ia meneti kia whai oranga pāpori koe e kore e hiahia kia whakarērea. Mena he porowhita ōu o ngā tāngata whakaaro rite, e pai ana ki te noho tahi o koutou, ā, kāore koe e hiahia kia mutu, he take nui tēnei kia kaua e whakakino i aua mea ki tētahi whanaungatanga. Kāore e roa, kāore te kōrero "Ka noho takakau tonu ahau?" e tino whakamataku i a koe.
12. Mā ō whāinga koe e noho takakau ake tonu atu
Tērā pea ko tāu e rapu nei he mea moepuku noa iho, ā, kāore anō kia aro ki ngā whanaungatanga aroha mō te wā roa. Tērā pea ko te whakahihiri o tētahi mea noa e hiahiatia ana e tō ngākau, e āwhina ana i a koe ki te whakanui i tō mana ake, ā, kāore noa iho koe e aro ki e ngana ana ki te kimi i te aroha.
He pai noa iho te hiahia ki ngā whanaungatanga poto noa iho, ki ngā whanaungatanga noa iho rānei, kaua e tukua ō mataku "E 37 ōku tau, tera pea ka noho takakau ahau ake ake!" kia whakahaere i tō ao. Whakaorangia tō wairua mā roto i aua taupānga whakaipoipo, kāore he tangata e tono ana kia moe koe i runga i tētahi taupānga whakaipoipo (haunga a Ted Mosby pea).
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13. He pai ki a koe te tino pukumahi
Mena ko koe te momo tangata e pai ana ki te hīkoi haereere i te tari me te whakaari i te pukumahi i te 4 i te ahiahi, me te kī atu ki te katoa kāore anō kia whai wā ki te tina, me te whakanui rawa i ngā mahi hou katoa (hui, kōrero rānei) e puta mai ana ki a koe, ka kī mātou he tangata koe e pai ana ki te pukumahi.
He kōrero whakakatakata, ki te mea ko koe makona ki tō kaupapa mahi pukumahi (ahakoa he aha te mahi) ā, ka kitea he kaupapa kei roto, kāore pea he take ki te rapu i te kaupapa o te ora i roto i tētahi atu tangata. Nā wai i mōhio ka huri pea koe hei tangata pakihi nui mā te noho takakau tonu!
14. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakapuaki i tō oranga ki tētahi atu
Ina tae ki te mutunga, ka ako koe ki te tohatoha i tō oranga, tō wāhi, tō wā – me ngā mea katoa kei waenganui – ki tētahi atu tangata. Ehara i te mea ngāwari pērā i te ahua, ā, he mea nui take hototahi he maha ake ngā wā ka puta ake. Ki te pai koe ki te whakapau i tō wā waatea ki a koe anō (ki te mahi noa rānei i ngā mea katoa i runga i ōu ake tikanga) ā, kāore koe e hiahia ki te manukanuka ki ngā kare ā-roto me ngā matea o tō hoa, ehara te noho takakau mō te wā katoa i te mea kino.
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15. Kāore koe e māharahara mēnā ka hē te rā
Kāore pea koe i te mōhio kāore he āwangawanga mōu ki te noho kore hoa, ā, ko ngā whakaaro pēnei i te "Ka noho takakau tonu ahau mō ake tonu atu?" me te "Me pēhea mēnā ka noho ko au anake?" ka whakararuraru i a koe i te pō, engari, i tētahi atu taha, kāore rawa koe e aro ki te mea he ka hē te rā tuatahi.
Tērā pea kāore koe e whakaatu ana i te hihiri ki ngā hoa tata pea, kāore rānei koe i te aro nui (ahakoa ka pai te haere) ā, kāore rawa e tutuki. Me tango pea e koe tēnei kore aro hei tohu me noho takakau koe (ahakoa he wā poto noa iho) ka whakakapi i ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Me pēhea te kore e pouri mō te noho takakau" ki te "Me pēhea te akiaki i tētahi kia whakarērea koe ake ake".
16. Kei te herea koe e te whanaungatanga
Kua kite koe i ngā tāngata kua mārena e tohe ana ki te pupuri i tā rātou mārenatanga kia mau tonu (me te kī atu hoki kia kaua rawa e mārena), kua whakamātau koe i ngā whanaungatanga kāore i pai te mutunga (ka waiho ko ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki anake), ā, kua whakatau pea koe kāore he pai o te whakamātau i tētahi whanaungatanga.
He mea noa te noho pōuri ina kore ngā whanaungatanga e tutuki i te huarahi i tumanakohia e koe, ina rānei kua karapotia koe e ngā tauira o ngā hononga aroha kāore i te tino tutuki, engari ko te nui o tōna pānga ki te tangata kei ia tangata. Mena ko koe te momo tangata kāore e taea te whakarere i tōna mana motuhake, ka memeha haere te whakaaro "Kāore au e hiahia kia noho takakau ake ake".
17. Kāore koe e māharahara ki te tohu "takakau ake tonu atu" nā te mea e pai ana koe ki tō mahi o ia rā
Kei te pai ki kaua e aroha ki tētahi tangata Ki te mea kua tino hiahia koe ki tō mahi o ia rā, me mahi tonu koe i a koe anō. Kāo, kāore e hiahiatia kia tino tika, kia rite hoki ki te hinengaro pōrangi, pērā i a Christian Bale i roto i te American Psycho, mena he momo noho kua whakaritea e pai ana koe ki te pupuri, kāore te wehi o te noho takakau ake tonu atu e whakahaere i tōu oranga katoa.

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Kua kitea te aranga ake o ngā momo mahi whakaipoipo i te rautau 21. Kore-mono-tikanga, te whanaungatanga maha, ngā "āhuatanga", me te maha atu anō. He maha ā mātou taupānga whakaipoipo mō ia momo whanaungatanga, ā, i waenganui i ngā momo mahi aroha rerekē, kei te piki haere te hunga e pai ake ana ki te noho mokemoke, ā, kei te noho harikoa i a rātou e mahi ana i tēnā.
Mo nga tīmatanga, rangahau e kī ana he tokomaha ake ngā tāngata e whiriwhiri ana kia noho takakau, kaua e moe tāne, ā, kei te piki haere te tokomaha o ngā tāngata e kite ana i ngā painga o te noho takakau. Nō reira, kāore he take e kore ai e tika te kōwhiringa māu. Anei ētahi take hei āwhina i a koe kia kite kāore te oranga "takakau tonu" i te kino pērā i te āhua:
1. Ka pai ake te noho takakau i te pakeketanga
Kei te raru koe i ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Ka noho takakau ahau ake ake?" "Ka noho mokemoke ahau ake ake," "E kore rawa aku take whakawhirinaki e tuku i ahau kia kitea he tangata"? Āe, ka pahemo atu anō hoki tēnei. Kaua e whakawhirinaki ki tā mātou kupu, rangahau e kī ana i kōrero te hunga takakau he oranga whakamīharo tonu tā rātou i a rātou e pakeke haere ana, engari ko te hunga he hoa aroha tā rātou i kore i tino whakapono ki te kounga o ō rātou oranga.
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2. Ka tīmata koe ki te whakaiti i tō mokemoke
He mea whakamere, ko taua mea anō ako e kī ana ko te hunga i noho takakau i kī kāore i pāngia e te mokemoke. I tētahi atu taha, ko te hunga i roto i te marena, i te whanaungatanga rānei, he maha ngā wā ka wehi i te mokemoke. I roto i te wā, ka memeha haere te kare o te mokemoke aroha, ā, ka tīmata koe ki te noho motuhake ake, kāore i pāngia e ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Ka noho mokemoke ahau ake ake?"
3. Ka noho hei mea tūturu taua tinana raumati
E ai ki rangahau, ka nui ake te whakakori tinana o te hunga kua whakarerea i te hunga kua marenatia, ā, ko te hunga kua noho takakau tonu te hunga e tino whakakori tinana ana. Mena kei te noho takakau tonu koe i muri i te wehenga, ka kitea e koe te whakamarie i te meka ka mihi atu tō tinana ki a koe mōna. Kua tae ki te wā ki te haere ki te takutai moana, kua tata te rama o tō Instagram i ētahi whakaahua hikareti o koe. Wareware atu ki taua iti o te whakapono ki a koe anō, e kī ana mātou.
4. Ka whiwhi koe i tētahi oranga pāpori e puāwai ana
Nā wai i kī ko ngā whanaungatanga aroha te mea nui mō ngā momo hononga katoa ki te tangata? Nā wai koe i tautoko i te wā whakamutunga i pāngia ai koe e tētahi wehenga uaua? He mea anō tēnei? hoa aroha, i taua hoa pai rānei i karohia e koe mō te wā roa i roto i te whanaungatanga?
Akoranga e kī ana kia nui ake te wā o te hunga takakau ki te aro ki ngā hoa me te whānau, ā, ka hua ake he oranga pāpori pai ake. rangahau e kī ana he maha ngā momo tāngata kanorau e whakaarohia ana e te hunga takakau he hoa tata. Nā te oranga pāpori me te pūnaha tautoko te take e kore ai te iwi e tino whakahē ki te whakaaro kia noho takakau tonu.
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5. Ka noho hei whakataetae pakihi ngāwari noa iho
E ai ki te tuhinga in Psychology i tenei ra, He nui ake te aro o te hunga takakau ki te mahi whai tikanga i te hunga e moe tahi ana. He maha ngā take e pā ana ki tēnei, pērā i te nui ake o te wā hei whakangao ki tō umanga, te mārama o te hinengaro i te hunga e pāngia ana e ngā raruraru whanaungatanga, me te kore e pāngia ō whiringa umanga e ngā hiahia me ngā matea o te hoa. Ko ngā painga o te noho takakau ko te tari kokonga ataahua e hiahia ana koe.
6. Ka ako koe kia tū motuhake
E kī ana hoki taua tuhinga anō he kaha ngā rauemi hinengaro o te hunga kua noho takakau tonu, e āhei ai rātou ki te tū motuhake, ki te whai rauemi, me te whai i a rātou anō. Ahakoa he mea pai te whai hoa hei tautoko, kāore ianei he mea pai ake ina he nui tō whakapono ki a koe anō kia taea ai e koe te puta i tētahi āhuatanga?
Nā aua rauemi hinengaro, ka pai ake ō taunekeneke pāpori, kāore koe e mataku noa i te whakakorenga, ā, ka pai ki a koe te noho ko koe anake. Ko wai e hiahia ana ki tētahi atu?
7. He nui ake te makona o te hunga takakau
Akoranga e kī ana he pai ake te oranga o te nuinga o te hunga takakau, ki te whakatauritea ki ō rātou hoa kua marenatia, i runga i ētahi inenga oranga. E ai ki tā mātou i whakatau ai, he maha ngā wā ka teitei ake te tūnga o te hunga takakau ina tae mai ki te oranga whaiaro, he hononga tika tēnei ki te hauora hinengaro pai ake. Haunga tēnā, ka noho piri tonu te hunga takakau ki ō rātou mātua, ki ō rātou hoa, me ō rātou hoa noho tata, ka arahi ki tētahi oranga whai hua ake. Engari, ko te nui ake o te oranga whaiaro o te tangata kua marenatia, ka kino ake tōna hauora hinengaro.
Me pēhea te whakaae kia noho takakau tonu
Ahakoa ngā kōrero katoa i runga ake nei, he ngāwari te whakaaro i tētahi e pouri ana nā te kore o tētahi hoa. "E 37 ōku tau, ā, e takakau tonu ana ahau." "Kāore he tangata i roto i tōku ao, kāore au e tika ana kia whiwhi i tētahi atu." "He uaua rawa rānei ahau ki te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga? Nāku pea te he." "Kua whakaritea ahau kia noho mokemoke, kāore he tangata e tata mai ki ahau." Ka puta mai ēnei whakaaro whakaiti i a ia anō ina kore e angitu i roto i te kēmu whakaipoipo.
I ēnei wā, mā te ako ki te whakaae ki te noho takakau, mō tētahi wā poto pea, ki te kore mō ake tonu atu, ka āwhina i a koe ki te kimi i te rangimārie o te hinengaro. Kia noho harikoa mokemoke, ā, ārai i ngā kare ā-roto o te mokemoke, anei ētahi mea hei āwhina:
- Kia mārama koe he maha ngā painga o te noho takakau, pērā i te pai ake o te oranga pāpori me te pai ake o te mahi
- Kia kaha ki te karo i ngā whakaaro kino pēnei i te "Ki taku whakaaro ka noho takakau ahau ake ake, tera pea he hē kei roto i ahau"
- Me tiaki i a koe anō, whakamahia te wā e wātea ana hei whakapai ake i tō hauora tinana me tō hauora hinengaro
- Kia mōhio koe, ka pai ake te noho takakau i te wā, ā, ka mutu, ka arahi atu ki tētahi oranga whai hua ake.
- Kia mārama koe kāore koe e hiahia kia noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga kia rongo ai koe i te hononga ki tētahi tangata, ā, ko te kaupapa o te ao ehara i te mea ko tētahi whanaungatanga aroha anake.
- Hangaia he pūnaha tautoko kaha mōu, kia whakanuia ō hoa me ō whanaungatanga kē atu
- Kaua e tukua te whakama e piri ana ki te noho takakau kia pā ki a koe ake tonu atu
- Kia mōhio koe he kaha te tangata e pai ana ki te noho ko ia anake
Tohutohu Matua
- Ko ngā tohu ka noho takakau koe ake ake ko: te kore hiahia ki ngā whanaungatanga aroha mo te wā roa, te makona ki te āhua o tō oranga o nāianei, te kore e hiahia ki te whakarērea tō oranga o ia rā, tō oranga pāpori rānei ahakoa te aha.
- Ko ngā painga o te noho takakau he maha ngā painga, arā, ko te whakapai ake i te mahi, tae atu ki te oranga whai hua.
- Ko te kimi i te rangimārie i roto i te noho takakau ka taea te tīmatanga o tētahi oranga harikoa ake māu ake
I te mutunga o te rā, ehara i te mea onge te pakanga ki ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Ka noho mokemoke ahau ake ake?" Heoi, ko te tumanako ka āwhina ngā kupu kua tuhia i runga ake nei i a koe ki te mārama ko te oranga "takakau ake ake" ehara i te whiu mate, engari, he rerekē rawa atu. E mōhio ana tātou katoa ki te ataahua o te haurua o ngā marena katoa, tika?
FAQs
Mena kāore te noho takakau ake tonu atu e pā kino ki tō hauora hinengaro, ā, ka taea e koe te awhi i te katoa, kāore he aha. Inaa, he maha ngā painga o te noho takakau, pērā i te pai ake o te oranga pāpori i ērā i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, me te harikoa hinengaro me te tinana.
Me pēhea te whakatau i te noho takakau, te noho tūpono rānei i te pō o te Tau Hou
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