Me arotake tātou i tētahi o ngā pātai e whakaaroarohia ana: He pai te okioki i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga? Ko ētahi e manukanuka ana kei whakanuia e te okiokinga te tawhiti, ā, ka whakapūmau i ngā raruraru kāore anō kia whakatauhia, ka arahi noa ki te tinihanga, ki te wehenga katoa rānei. Ko ētahi e whakaaro ana he tino pai te tango i tētahi wā okiokinga mōu ake, me te noho mokemoke. Mā te noho mokemoke ka taea e te tangata te whakaaro mai i tētahi tirohanga mārama ake, me te kite i te raruraru whanaungatanga mai i tētahi tirohanga hou.
Nō reira, he āwhina te motuhanga o tētahi whanaungatanga? Ae, he tino āwhina. Ehara i te mea kino te tango wā ki te whakaaroaro, ki te whakaputa noa rānei i te riri. I te wā i mutu ai a Rodrigo i tana whanaungatanga ki a Maria, ka hoki ia ki te kāinga ki ōna mātua ki te whakaaro he aha tāna e hiahia ana ki te mahi i muri mai i te ao. Kāore ia i kōrero ki a Maria mō te marama tae noa ki tōna hokinga mai. I tino pai ake te ahua o Rodrigo, te hauora, me te wātea o tōna hinengaro ki a ia i tana hokinga mai. Kua rite ia ki te hoki ki te whanaungatanga me te hinengaro hou.
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He uaua, he uaua, he maha ngā āhuatanga, he pōrearea hoki ngā whanaungatanga. Ina tīmata te hē o ngā mea, he mea tika kia hoki whakamuri, kia aro ki te āhuatanga, kaua e whakararuraru rawa atu. Kāore e tika kia tino kino te okiokinga. Tērā pea koinei te huarahi pai ki te ora, ā, ka āwhina i te whakaora i tētahi whanaungatanga kua pakaru pea mō ake tonu atu. He huarahi pai rawa atu tēnei ki te... whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga.
Anei ētahi take e rima e tika ai te whakamutu i tētahi hononga. Kia maumahara, kāore te whakamutu e tohu i te wehenga.
1. Ina pakaru te whakawhirinaki
Ko te whakawhirinaki te pūtake o ngā whanaungatanga katoa, ā, ki te pakaru taua whakawhirinaki, e ahua ana kei te pakaru tō ao katoa. He mea pai kia noho puku, kia hoki whakamuri ki roto, kia whakaaroaro hoki. Arotakehia ō tumanakohanga, kia inehia mēnā he pono, he kore rānei, me te take i pakaru ai tō whakawhirinaki i te tuatahi.
Me noho mokemoke koe mō ētahi rā hei whakatau i ō kare ā-roto, ā, hoki mai me te rite ki te kōrero ki tō hoa i runga i te huarahi hauora. Mā te tango i tēnei wā hararei ka āwhina i a koe ki te mōhio ki tō uara, me te hoatu ki a koe he whakaaro pai ake mō ō tumanakohanga i roto i tō whanaungatanga.
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2. Ina kore he wāhi mōu i roto i te whanaungatanga
Ki te mea kei te mataku koe i te noho pōuriuri i roto i tō whanaungatanga, ā, kei te pāngia koe e ngā tono me ngā pēhanga o te ao o ia rā, me okioki koe i ngā mea katoa. Kāore he tangata e kaha ki te mahi i raro i te pēhanga, ā, he tohu tēnei kei te tīmata te koropupū o ngā mea. Ka nui ake te kino o te ahotea i te pai, ā, ka taea hoki te whakaputa i tō tātou taha rewera, ka pā tika ki te hauora o tō tātou whanaungatanga/mārenatanga.
Mawehe atu i te āhuatanga, ka noho ko koe anake. He whakaaro pai te haere ki te okioki mōu i roto i tēnei āhuatanga. Mēnā kei te taumaha rawa koe, me huri koe i ētahi mea. Te wāhi i roto i te whanaungatanga ā, i ētahi wā, ahakoa he whanaungatanga, he tino āwhina. Tangohia he rā okioki mai i te mahi, whakawetohia tō waea pūkoro, whakaritea he wā mirimiri, ā, whakangāwarihia tō tinana me tō hinengaro.
3. Ina tino hohonu te mamae
Ina koa i ngā wā kua tinihanga, kua teka rānei te hoa, kua huna rānei i te pono i tōna hoa. Koinei te wā e rongo ana koe kua pakaru tō ngākau, ā, kāore koe e mōhio me pēhea te whakahaere i te mamae me te mamae nui. Ko te mea pai ko te okioki. Waiho te whare e noho tahi ana kōrua ko tō hoa, ka noho ki te kāinga o tō hoa pai, ki te kāinga rānei o ō mātua/tuākana/teina mō ētahi rā.
Tērā pea ka tino taumaha rawa ō kare ā-roto, ā, kāore e taea e koe te titiro tika ki te āhuatanga, ā, ka mutu pea ka mura ō hononga i te riri nui me te whakarihariha. He mea whakaaro nui kia whai wā koe ki te aro atu ki te mamae, me toro atu pea ki tētahi tohunga, i mua i te whakaaro ki te ripeka i tō hoa.
4. Ina pōhēhē koe
I ngā wā katoa kāore e mārama ana ngā mea, ka pōhēhē koe i te taha hinengaro, i te taha hinengaro hoki, ā, kāore e kitea te māramatanga, ko te mea pai ko te okioki me te waiho mā te wā e whakatau i ngā mea. Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe kāore he mea e mārama ana, ā, kei te pakaru tonu ngā mea, me pēhi e koe te pātene okioki i mua i te kino haere o te āhuatanga.
Ka taea e koe te whakamātau i te rongoā nā te mea he maha ngā huarahi ngā painga o te tohutohu i roto i ēnei āhuatanga. Ka taea hoki e koe te whai i tētahi mahi whakangahau hou, te haereere rānei, kia kitea ai he aha te hē. Engari he tohu pea tēnei kua tae ki te wā kia arotahi ō kaha ki a koe anō.
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5. Ina whakaaro koe kei te tata koe ki te wehe
Ina kua ngenge koe, ā, kāore e taea e koe te manawanui anō, ā, kei te whakaaro koe ko te huarahi anake e ora ai koe i tēnei reinga ko te wehe i tō hoa – koinei te wā ki te okioki i ngā mea katoa, me te hoatu anō i tētahi atu whai wāhitanga ki a ia kia ora ai.
He uaua, engari me whakawhirinaki koe ki tō whanaungatanga; kia maumahara ki ngā mea pai katoa mō tō hoa; kia maumahara ki te take i aroha ai koe ki a ia i te tuatahi, waiho koe ki roto i ō rāua tūranga kia mārama ai koe ki tō rāua taha o te kōrero, ā, me whai wā okioki kia tino mōhio ai koe ki tāu e tino hiahia ana – he wehenga, he tuku rānei i tētahi atu whai wāhitanga ki te whanaungatanga.
Ki te whiriwhiri koe ki te okioki, mā te toro atu ki tētahi kaiārahi ora, ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei i tēnei wā ka āwhina i a koe kia mārama ake. Ā, ina hoki anō koe ki te whanaungatanga, me matua kōrero koe mō ō raruraru me te whakatau i te mea nui, me te kore e uru ki te pakanga. Ko te okioki he hoatu noa i te wā, te wāhi me te kaha ki a koe anō kia hoki mai ki ngā take i meinga ai koe kia okioki, i roto i te huarahi hauora ake.
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Kaua pea e neke atu i te kotahi marama. E 30 ngā rā e ranea ana hei arotake anō i tētahi whanaungatanga, hei whakatika anō i ō waewae.
Ae, e pena ana. Ina tino taumaha rawa ngā whanaungatanga, me huri pea koe i ngā mea kia whiwhi ai i te oranga me te marino. I muri i te wehenga atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, ka taea e koe te whakatika pai ake i ō raruraru whanaungatanga i muri i te whiwhi māramatanga.
Ae, tera pea. Ehara i te mea ko te okioki i roto i te whanaungatanga te tikanga o te wehenga. Engari he wā okioki hei arotake anō i ngā mea. Ka taea e ia te whakamārama i tō hinengaro, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ki ngā mea e tino hiahiatia ana e koe i te ao me te whanaungatanga.
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He maha ngā wā ka puta mai i roto i te whanaungatanga ka tino pāngia tātou. I ētahi wā ka whakamomori tātou i te nui rawa o te piripono. Ā, i ētahi wā ka hiahia tātou ki te manawa mō tētahi patunga. Ā, i ngā wā pēnei, me whakaae tātou ki te pono ko te tuku i a tātou anō, me te hoatu i te wāhi e tika ana kia aro atu tātou ki te āhuatanga, koinei te mea pai rawa atu ka taea e tātou te mahi ki a tātou anō. Nā te mea kāore e taea e koe te āwhina i tētahi i roto i te āhuatanga ina kua whara koe i roto, ā, me hiahia koe ki te whakaora. Koia te mea nui kia okioki i roto i ēnei āhuatanga.
Āe, he tika rawa! Ā, he maha ngā wā ka mahi merekara. TĒNĀ pea ka taea te whakaora i tētahi whanaungatanga e mate ana. NĀ TE MEA I WHEAKO AU. 🙂