He mahi kua hara tātou katoa i tētahi wā te rapu i ngā hoa o mua i runga i a Pukamata. He aha rātou ka tirotiro ai i a koe?
He aha rā te take ina wehe tātou i tētahi, me tirotiro tonu tātou kei hea rātou, me ā rātou mahi hoki?
Ina tirohia e koe ngā pāpāho pāpori a tētahi, he aha rawa te mea e rapuhia ana e koe? I te nuinga o te wā, kāore koe e pouri mō te wehenga atu i a ia, kāore hoki ōu aroha ki a ia, engari kei te whai tonu koe i tā rātou Instagram i ia wā, i ia wā. He aha ai?
He aha taku hoa o mua e tirotiro ai i aku pāpāho pāpori?
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Kua whakaaro koe he aha te take e kiia ai te hoa o mua he hoa o mua? Arā, i te tuatahi, i whakaaro ahau he kupu poto tēnei ki tētahi mea roa ake pērā i te aroha kua ngaro, i te hoa aroha rānei, i te kaiwhakamate o mua pērā i te tangata i whakakore i a ia anō hei mea whakarihariha i roto i tō ao. He mea whakahihi rānei.
He tangata i pau te nui o tō wā, o tō moni rānei. Engari ehara i te kupu poto mō tētahi mea. He kupu kāore i oti, he rite tonu ki te whanaungatanga kāore i oti i a koe me taua tangata. He pērā tonu. I mua rānei. EX. Heoi, ka kite tātou i a tātou anō e titiro whakamuri ana i ētahi wā.
Kāore koe i rongo i te kīwaha e mea ana ka huri te ao o mua hei atarangi sepia nā te mea he parauri kino te ao o nāianei, ā, he pōuri, he hina te ao o āpōpō? Kāore anō kia rongo koe, nā te mea i tuhia e au. Engari kua mārama koe ki te tikanga, tika?
Ko te take anake e titiro aroha ai tātou ki tō tātou hītori, he kore tātou e harikoa ki ō tātou oranga o nāianei. Nō reira, ki te pātai koe, "he aha taku hoa o mua e titiro tonu ai ki aku kōrero?", kia maumahara koe kua tae koe ki reira, ā, kua pērā anō hoki.
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I te hiahia noa ahau ki te mōhio…
I ētahi wā ka rapu koe i ngā pāpāho pāpori a tētahi nā te mea kei te hiahia noa koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te noho o tō hoa o mua i roto i tētahi ao kāore koe i roto. Āue! He mamae tēnā. Ā, i ētahi wā, ahakoa he moemoeā noa iho, tera pea ka whakaaro koe me pēhea mēnā i mutu te whanaungatanga ki tō hoa o mua ki tētahi mea nui?
He nui ake te harikoa i tō āhua o nāianei? Aroha mai mō te pakaru o te mirumiru, engari kāore. Kua tino pōuri tō oranga me tō hoa o mua pērā i tōna āhua o nāianei. E mōhio ana kōrua. He aha rā te take e tirotirohia ai koe e ngā hoa o mua? Ā, e tirotirohia ana rātou e koe.
Nā, he aha koe e kore ai e whakawātea i taua raruraru i roto i tō hinengaro, ka hanga wāhi mō tētahi mea whakahihiri ake pērā i a koe?
Ae, he māmā ake te kōrero i te mahi. Ahakoa he pai te āwhina o te ngaro wawe i te tirohanga, i te ngaro o te hinengaro ki te wareware i tētahi whanaungatanga, engari kāore e taea e te pāpāho pāpori te mutu te whai i tō hoa o mua mēnā ehara ia i te tangata whakahāwea pāpori. He kaiwhaiwhai ture tātou katoa ināianei.
Kāore e taea te wareware i ngā mea pāpāho pāpori
He waranga te aroha. Ki taku whakaaro he kino rawa atu ngā wehenga. Kāore koe e whiwhi i tō rongoā o ia rā, ā, kua waiho koe e tō kaihoko ki te pōuriuri, kāore he wāhi hei haere.
Ā, ina memeha haere ō tohu, ka puta ake he whakaahua o tō hoa o mua me tā rāua hoa o nāianei, he takakau rānei, e ngahau ana i a rāua haerenga takitahi, ā, ka ngaro katoa tō whakaaro.
Me i whai pātene rapu utu taua pou… he rōpū kē atu rānei i runga i te pāpāho pāpori. He aha koe, e Exaholics Anonymous? He aha koe ka tirotiro ai i a koe e ngā hoa o mua? Nā te mea he kōwhiringa tā rātou mā te pāpāho pāpori. He aha e kore ai e aukati noa i a rātou?
He rite te titiro whakamuri ki ngā aroha ki te whakahaere i tētahi inu kua maringi. Ka taea noa e koe te muru. Kāore e taea te 'tango'. Ā, ki te taea e koe te inu katoa, ko te moemoeā mō tō hoa o mua, ā, ko te oho ake kāore ia, he rite ki te matewai kino. Ka kino haere i ia rā, i ia rā.
Ko te kī atu "kei te titiro tonu taku hoa o mua ki aku pāpāho pāpori" me te harikoa hoki mōna he tohu tēnei kāore anō kia pai te whakatau i te wehenga. He kino rawa atu tēnei i te matewai tonu.
Ko te pono, ko ngā whanaungatanga i roto i ō tātou ao he rite tonu ki te whakaata. He hoa rangatira, he hoa rangatira, he hoa o mua, he hoa wairua katoa ahakoa i reira rātou mō te moe tahi mō te pō kotahi. Engari kāore he tikanga o te kupu hoa wairua ki te kore koe e titiro ki te āhua o te whanaungatanga kua whakarerekē i a koe.
Ki te mea ka pai ake koe i ia rā, i ia rā, nā te whanaungatanga, koia te tangata hei pupuri māu, engari ki te mea ka whakarihariha koe ki a koe anō, ka whakaiti rānei i tō whakaaro mōu anō i ia rā, kua tae te wā ki te mutu. Nō reira, kei hea te wāhi e noho ai te hoa o mua i konei?
Kei roto noa i tōu mahunga. Kei te noho wāhi i roto i tōu hinengaro, me te kore e utu i te reti, i te aroha rānei e tika ana māu. Kua waiho e au hei tikanga - i ngā wā katoa ka tīmata ahau ki te whakaaro he aha tonu taku hoa o mua e titiro ana ki aku pakiwaitara Insta, ka arotahi ahau i taku kaha ki tētahi mea nui ake.
Kāore ngā mea katoa e rite ana ki te āhua o mua, nō reira me neke atu!
Whakaarohia tō hoa o mua he tatau tuwhera i roto i tō ao. He whai wāhitanga ki te mahi pai ake. He whai wāhitanga ki te ara ake. Ehara i te mea nā tō hoa o mua, engari nāu anō.
Ā, mehemea he para tō whanaungatanga whakamutunga? Mena he para, me maka atu tonu. Ā, mehemea he āhuatanga anō kei roto…pēnei i te wehe i runga i te rangimarie, ā, kei te 'pai' tonu i ngā pou a tetahi ki tetahi i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori, mena kua tino tukua e koe, me 'pai' anō tētahi atu pou.
Engari ki te kore, ka poke ō whanaungatanga a meake nei i te tae i horoia ai koe e tō hoa o mua.
Kāore he kino o te whaiwhai i tō hoa o mua i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori i ētahi wā, he rite hoki ki tētahi matapihi tuwhera i roto i tētahi whare e haere atu ana ka taea e koe te titiro atu mā roto. Tērā pea ka kite koe i tētahi wāhi mahana, whakamarie me tētahi whānau o tētahi hoa rangatira aroha, tamariki ngāwari me tētahi kurī takaro, ā, ka hiahia pea tō ngākau ki te whakaputa i a ia anō i roto i tō uma.
Engari kia māia koe, ki te tomo koe ki taua tatau, tera pea ka kite koe i ngā paru kawhe i runga i taua tauera tēpu utu nui, i tētahi anga whakaahua pakaru, me te haunga pea nō taua kurī kua warewarehia, kāore anō kia kaukauhia mō ngā marama.
Nō reira, manawa hōhonu, ā, ina tukuna e koe taua manawa, kia tino tukuna e koe ngā wairua o ngā hoa aroha o mua. Ki te kore, ka haere tonu te pātai whakamataku "he aha taku hoa o mua e titiro ana ki aku pāpāho pāpori" ki te whaiwhai i a koe ake ake.
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Āe, āe. Ka kino pea te hoki atu ki te tirotiro i tō hoa o mua mēnā ka mahi tonu koe i tēnā. Heoi, he mea tino noa te tirotiro i tana kōtaha i ētahi wā.
Āraia rātou, whakangāwaritia rānei ā rātou pou me ngā whakamōhiotanga. Whakaitihia tō taunekeneke ipurangi ki a rātou kia taea ai te whakahaere i te auau o tō hokinga atu ki tā rātou pūkete.
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Ina kua moe koe, kei roto rānei i tētahi hononga nui, me whakapā atu koe ki tō hoa o mua?
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Kāore he pai o te maumahara ki ngā mea o mua. Ina whiriwhiria e tātou te tirotiro anō i ngā matapihi kua whakaritea kia kati, kei te tono ā-taurangi tātou kia hoki mai ngā mamae hou ki a tātou. He maha atu ngā pānga o te pāpāho pāpori ki ō tātou oranga. Ā, i roto i ēnei āhuatanga, he hoki anō ki tō waranga o mua. Anei tētahi mea mō te aroha kua whati. Me mōhio tātou kāore e puta katoa ngā wāhanga o ō tātou oranga i te huarahi e hiahiatia ana. Engari ko ia tangata i uru mai ki roto i tō tātou oranga, i kawea mai hei whakaako i a tātou i tētahi mea nui mō tātou anō me tō tātou haerenga. Ā, i te wā e wehe atu ai rātou, i te wā e whakaritea ana kia mutu taua upoko. Koia te take me hohou tātou i te rongo ki a ia. Katoa. He pai te hinganga o ētahi whanaungatanga. He pai te whakarēreatanga o ētahi tāngata i a tātou. He pai. Ā, me kohikohi tātou i te akoranga i ngana te ao ki te whakaako i a tātou mā tēnei tūtakitanga, ā, me neke tonu i roto i tō tātou haerenga, me te whiriwhiri kia mau tonu te hihi o te rā ki roto. Ā, koinei te huarahi e whakaae ai tātou ki te mutunga, ā, kāore e titiro whakamuri.
Ka tupu noa iho! Ināianei, he rite tonu ki taku whakatuwheratanga i taku pukamata, kāore he mahi māku, kāore he tirohanga māku! Nō reira, ko taku pae rapu anake, ā, ko tōna ingoa te mea e mahi ana i ngā mahi katoa. Āe, he mamae te kite i a ia e kī ana kei te arohaina ia me tētahi atu kōtiro!
Ae, he uaua te pāpāho pāpori. Ā, nui atu anō hoki mēnā he maha ō hoa. Mēnā he whanaungatanga roa, tera pea kua noho hoa anō hoki ngā whanaunga i runga i ngā papaaho pāpāho pāpori.
Ahakoa kāore koe e whaiwhai, tera pea ka puta ia i runga i ā rātou pou, ā, tera pea ka puta ki roto i tō whāngai purongo.
Me pēhea rā koe e mawhiti ai i a rātou katoa?