Te Pono Pōuri o te Tāmitanga Marena i Inia

He mate tonu te tāwharau marena i Inia, ā, e meinga ana ngā wāhine kia rongo kāore rātou i te rangona, kia tukinotia hoki i roto i ō rātou ake kāinga. Ahakoa he tāwharau i te tino tikanga, he whakahē i te māramatanga o te whakaaetanga, kāore tonu te tāwharau marena i te kiia he hara, he hara rānei i roto i te ture Inia.

Nō reira, e mano tini ngā wāhine e pāngia ana e tēnei hara whakarihariha, engari kāore he huarahi hei aukati i taua hara. I roto i tētahi rangahau, kotahi i roto i te toru ngā tāne i ngā whenua whakawhanake pērā i a Īnia i whakaae ki te moepukuPānuihia atu anō mō ​​te tāwharau marena i Īnia me tōna kino i roto i ngā kōrero e whai ake nei.

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I taku whakatuwheratanga i te tatau hei manaaki i a Sushma (ehara i tōna ingoa tūturu) i roto i tōku whare, kāore i taea e au te ārai i te kite i te maru kino i raro i tōna kanohi maui. I hanga e au he kapu tī māna, ā, i tono atu ahau kia noho ia ki tōku taha i runga i te tūru. I tangohia e ia te kapu i te tirei, ā, ka noho āwangawanga ia. "Nāna i mahi i tērā?" i pātai atu ahau ki a ia.

"E rua ngā rā kua pahure," tana kī. "Kua haere ia ki te kāinga mō ētahi rā. Koia ahau i taea ai te haere mai." He whanaunga tawhiti a Sushma nō tētahi hoa i mōhio ai ahau, ā, i kōrero noa atu ahau ki a ia kei te mahi ahau i tētahi tuhinga mō ngā tatauranga mō te tāwharau i roto i te marena i Inia. I tohe ia me kōrero ahau ki a Sushma.

"I ahatia?"

"Pērā tonu te kōrero. I hoki haurangi mai ia ki te kāinga, i te pō roa. I moe mātou ko ngā tamariki i runga i te papa. I tōna taenga mai ki te whare, ka whana ia i ngā tamariki. I ara ake ahau i roto i te ngangau, ā, ka kite ahau i aku tamariki e tukinotia ana e te mate kino." te tukino o te tamaitiI mōhio ahau ki te mea ka tupu i muri mai.

Nā reira i ārahi tonu atu ahau i ngā tamariki ki waho o te whare. I mua i taku kati i te tatau, kua tangohia e ia ōna tarau. I ngana ahau ki te oma atu engari i kuru ia i ahau. Kātahi ka mutu katoa. I taku haerenga ki te karanga i ngā tamariki kia hoki mai, kua piko rātou i te kokonga, makariri, mākū. He nui te ua, ā, kāore i a au te wā ki te hoatu maru ki a rātou.” Ka pakaru mai ōna roimata.

"Kāore koe i haere ki ngā pirihimana?"

"I pērā ahau. Tata ki te tau kua pahure. I haria ia e rātou ki te teihana pirihimana, ā, i whakawehi i a ia. Kātahi ka tukuna ia e rātou. I hoki mai ia me te riri nui i taua pō, ā, i kuru ia i ahau. Kāore i taea e au te ara ake i te moenga mō te wiki. Kāore he painga o te haere ki ngā pirihimana. Kāore rātou e pana ia ia. Kotahi anake taku kōwhiringa..."

"He aha?"

"Ka taea e au te whakarere i a ia. I kōrero ahau ki tētahi rōia mō tēnei mea. I kī mai ia kāore e taea e au te kōrero i tetahi mea mō te pono o te tāwharau i roto i te marena. Nō reira, ko te whiunga anake ka whakahuatia. Me whawhai ahau mō te tautoko moni me te mana tiaki tamariki me ngā mea katoa. Kāore āku moni, kāore hoki āku mātauranga mō ēnā mea katoa. Ki te whakarērea ia e au, me tīmata anō ahau mai i te tīmatanga. He mea whakamataku tēnā mō te rua o ngā tamariki."

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“Nā, he aha tāu e mea ai?” ka pātai atu ahau.

“Kare au e mohio…”

Kāore he huarahi e taea ai e te wahine te whakawakia mō te tāwharau marena i roto i te pūnaha ture o Īnia mēnā kei te noho tahi rāua ko tana tāne i te whare kotahi. Hei kī he pāngia ia e te tāwharau marena, me tamariki ia, me wehe rānei i tana tāne.

Ko ngā wāhine pēnei i a Sushma ka taea anake te rapu tiaki i raro i te Ture Tūkino ā-Whare (Ture Tūkino ā-Whare), he ture ā-iwi. Ahakoa i raro i te Ture Tūkino ā-Whare, ka taea e Sushma te whiwhi i tētahi ota tiaki, i tētahi ota mō te awhina moni, i tētahi ota tiaki tamariki, i tētahi ota noho, i tētahi ota utu, i ētahi atu ota pērā rānei, engari ka kore he whiu mō tana tāne. Kāore he ture mō te tāwharau i roto i te marena e taea ai te hoatu i te tika pono ki a ia. Kāore ia e whakawakia i roto i te kōti, e whiua rānei e te ture.

Ngā Mana mō te Pai

I pōhēhē ahau i te kōrero a Sushma. Hei rapu whakautu, i haere ahau ki te Red Elephant Foundation. "I Īnia, e 40% te nui ake o te tūponotanga o ngā wāhine kia tāwharauhia e tā rātou tāne i tā te tangata ke," te kōrero a Vandita Morarka ki ahau. He Kairangahau Ture a Vandita Morarka i te Red Elephant Foundation. I roto a Vandita, me Kirthi Jayakumar, te Kaihanga, i te rōpū matua e whai wāhi ana ki te kaupapa hei whakahara i te tāwharau i roto i te marena i Īnia.

Ahakoa i tētahi taha, kua kī te Minita o mua mō te Whanaketanga Wahine me te Tamariki o te Uniana, a Ms. Maneka Gandhi, kāore e taea te whakamahi i te kupu tāwharau marena 'ki te horopaki Īnia', i tētahi atu taha ka rongo tātou i ngā reo whakaaro nui pērā i a Kirthi Jayakumar, te Kaihanga o Saahas, he taupānga mō ngā morehu o te tutu i runga i te ira tangata, e whakanui ana "he tāwharau te tāwharau, ahakoa te wāhi me te horopaki e puta ai. Ehara te marena i te whakamāoritanga. He whakamārama rānei te marena mō te tāwharau? Kāo. Ko tā Īnia e hiahia ana ko tētahi ture e aro ana ki te tāwharau marena me te whiu i a ia, me tētahi mātauranga pūnaha mō ngā ira tangata katoa mō te tāwharau, te whakaae, me ngā wāhi whaiaro."

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He tūmomo mōrearea ki te hapori?

Nō nā tata nei, i puta ngā tautohetohe i te kooti e mea ana ko te ture mō te tāwharau i roto i te marena i Inia ka tūpono pea ki te whakararu i te whare marena tonu. Ko Vandita Morarka, te Kaiwhakaū me te Tumu Whakahaere o One Future Collective, e whakahē nui ana i te whakaaro. "Mā te whakamahi i te tautohetohe e mea ana ko te tāwharau i roto i te marena ka tūpono pea ki te whare marena, kei te hanga te tangata i te tāwharau i roto i te marena, he momo tāwharau/tūkino ā-ira tangata, hei wāhanga matua o te whare marena tonu. Koinei te whakaaro o te marena e hiahia ana tātou kia tipu ake tētahi whakatipuranga? Me whakarerekē tātou i tō tātou māramatanga ki te marena e pā ana ki ngā tino me te mana o te tāne ki tētahi e mārama ana ki te marena hei hononga o ngā ōrite, e ahu mai ana i te whakaae anake."

Ka whakaae a Sushma. "Kua kite ahau i taku pāpā e patu ana i taku māmā, ā, whakakino whare e mahia noatia ana i roto i tōku kāinga. Koia pea te take e ngāwari ai ahau, e manawanui ai ki tēnei mahi wairangi. E mataku ana ahau mō aku tamariki. E hiahia ana ahau kia hoatu, kia whiwhi hoki rātou i te aroha me te whakaute. Kaua tēnei e waiho hei mea hei tuku iho ki te whakatupuranga e whai ake nei.”

"Kāore au e hiahia ki te kōrero atu ki a koe i ngā mea i tupu ki ngā ture tāpui. Tērā pea ka tupu anō tēnei mea mēnā ka hangaia he ture pakari mō te tāwharau i roto i te marena. Ka tangi kino te wahine e hoha ana, e riri ana rānei ki tana tāne," te kī a tētahi rōia i te Kōti Matua o Bombay, i raro i te huna i tōna ingoa.

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He kaiwhakahau mō ngā tika wahine Inia a Kirthi Jayakumar, he kaipakihi pāpori, he kaiwhakahau mō te rangimārie, he kaitoi, he rōia, he kaituhi hoki. Ko ia te Kaihanga o The Red Elephant Foundation me Saahas, he taupānga mō ngā morehu o te tutu i runga i te ira tangata. I whiwhi ia i te Mētara Ratonga Perehitini o Amerika i te tau 2011 me ngā Tohu Tūao Ipurangi e rua a te Kotahitanga o ngā Whenua i te tau 2012 me te 2013.

Kātahi anō ka mārama te reo o Kirthi. "Nā ēnei āwangawanga ka mahara ahau ki te kīanga, te maka i te pēpi ki waho me te wai kaukau. Ka taea te whakamahi hē i ngā mea katoa o te ao: ka taea te tapahi i te hua ki te maripi, ka taea te patu ki te maripi. Nō reira, me ārai e tātou ngā maripi? Kāo. Ka taea te whakamahi hē i ngā ture katoa. Ko te mea pono he pai ake te pupuri i tētahi ture e tiaki ana i ngā painga. Ko te huarahi pai ki te ārai i te whakamahi hē ko te whakatū i ngā ārai mō te whakamahinga, te whakatinanatanga, te whakamāramatanga me te whakamana i te ture. Koia te take me whai ārai tukanga me ngā tukanga rangahau e tika ana, e aro nui ana, e tika ana hoki."

Kia ara ake rā anō ngā kaihanga ture o Īnia ki tēnei hiahia o te hāora, ka pātai atu ahau ki a Sushma he aha te huringa i hiahiatia e ia. "Ko te mea tuatahi e hiahiatia ana e ngā wāhine Īnia ko te herekore ki te whiriwhiri. Koia te take he mea nui te kōrero mō te mana wahine. Heoi anō, he painga anō hoki te mana wahine ki ngā tāne, ā, me mōhio rātou ki tēnā kia taea ai e rātou te tuku mai i te herekore ki a tātou ki te whiriwhiri. Me taea e tātou te whiriwhiri mēnā ka ako tātou, mēnā ka moe tāne tātou, mēnā ka whānau tamariki tātou, mēnā ka moe tāne tātou. Ahakoa pēhea, ka hoatu e au tēnā ki taku tamāhine," tana kī, me te kanapa o te tumanako i roto i ōna kanohi.

• He takahi i ngā tika tangata te tāwharau i roto i te marena: He nui ngā whara tinana me ngā whara hinengaro e pā ana ki te hunga i morehu, ka pā ki tō rātou hauora, oranga, me te kounga o te oranga whānui.
• E hiahiatia ana kia tere te whakahounga ture: Mā te whakahara i te tāwharau i roto i te marena ka tukuna he karere kaha e kī ana he mea kore e whakaaetia te tūkino ā-ira tangata i roto i te marena, ā, ka whai kawenga ngā kaimahi kino.
• He mea nui te wāwāhi i te wahangu: Ko te whakatenatena i ngā kōrero tuwhera mō te tāwharau i roto i te marena, te waihanga i ngā wāhi haumaru mō ngā morehu ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou kōrero, me te wero i ngā tikanga pāpori e mau tonu ana i tēnei hara, he mea nui ēnei hei huarahi ki te huringa.
• Ko te whakamana i ngā wāhine te mea nui: Mā te whakarato mātauranga ki ngā wāhine, ngā whai wāhitanga ōhanga, me te urunga atu ki ngā ratonga tautoko, ka taea e rātou te whakamana i ō rātou tika me te whakatau i ngā kōwhiringa whai whakaaro mō ō rātou oranga.

Thoughts Final

Ko te pono pōuri o te tāwharau i roto i te marena i Inia he whakamaharatanga nui ki te kore taurite o te ira tangata me ngā tikanga a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e horapa ana i roto i te hapori. Ko te whakakorenga i te mana motuhake o te tinana o ngā wāhine me te whakahāngaitanga o te tutu ā-ira tangata i roto i te marena ka whakapūmau i te ahurea o te wahangu me te kore whiu.

He mea nui kia mōhiotia te tāwharau i roto i te marena hei hara nui, me te whakatikatika i ngā ture kia tika ai te tiaki me te tika mō ngā morehu. Ko te aro atu ki tēnei take me whai huarahi maha, tae atu ki ngā whakahoutanga ture, ngā kaupapa whakatairanga pāpori, me te whakamana i ngā wāhine ki te kōrero mō te tukino.

Ko te pakanga ki te tāwharau i roto i te marena he pakanga mō te ōritetanga o te ira tangata me te mana tangata. Kua tae ki te wā kia whakaae a Īnia ki tēnei āhuatanga me te mahi whakatau hei tiaki i ngā tika me te oranga o ōna tāngata katoa.

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