Me pēhea te whakahaere i te manaakitanga puku me te whakaute — 11 Tohutohu e tautokona ana e ngā tohunga

Ehara i te mea ko ngā kupu kino, kino anake te mea ka tino mamae ai te hunga e arohaina ana e tātou. Mā te kore kōrero ki tētahi ka pāngia hoki e ngā mamae kare ā-roto. Ka puta he āputa nui i waenga i ngā hoa i roto i ngā whanaungatanga piripono. Ina kore kōrero, ina makariri hoki tētahi hoa, ka oma tetahi i te mokemoke me te mamae. I te mea ka pakaru te whakaaro nui me te mana o te tangata i pāngia e tēnei whanonga paitini, ka uaua ki te whakaaro me pēhea te whakahaere i te kore kōrero me te whakaute, me te tiaki i a ia anō mai i ngā whara kare ā-roto mō te wā roa. 

He aha te tikanga o te wahangu? Ko te wā tēnei e kore ai te tangata e kōrero ki tētahi atu, e kati ana i a ia anō, ā, e ahua kore e taea te whakapā atu. E ai ki ngā rangahau , ko ngā wheako kare ā-roto pēnei i te mamae o te ngākau, te tinihanga, me te aukati i te tangata, he rite tonu te pānga ki te tangata ki te mamae tinana, ā, he uaua ki te aro atu.

Nā, he tukino te kore aro ki tētahi? Hei rapu atu i ētahi atu kōrero mō ngā āhuatanga rerekē o te atawhai puku i roto i ngā whanaungatanga me pēhea te whakahaere i tēnā, i whakapā atu mātou ki te tohunga hinengaro a Aakhansha Varghese (MSc Psychology), he tohunga ki ngā momo tohutohu whanaungatanga rerekē, mai i te whakaipoipo me te marena i mua i te marena ki te wehenga, te tukino, te wehenga, me te whakarere. E mea ana ia, "Ko te atawhai puku i tētahi he kōrero nui mō tō āhua. He huarahi kino tēnei ki te whakahaere i ngā raruraru i roto i te whanaungatanga aroha. Ki te kore e taea e te tangata te aro atu ki tētahi āhuatanga uaua, e whakaatu ana i te kore o te pakeketanga. Waihoki, ko te tangata e whiwhi ana i te mamae ka tino pāngia e te wheako, ā, ka ngaro pea i a ia te huarahi pai ki te whakahaere i te āhuatanga."

He aha te iwi e tahuri ai ki te rongoā puku 

Ki te mea kei te wahangu noa iho tō hoa, e whakaatu ana tēnei i te kore e taea e rātou te aro atu ki ngā āhuatanga me ngā kare ā-roto e whakararuraru ana. He kōrero nui tēnei mō ō rātou āhua, nā te mea ko te kore aro ki tētahi ka puta he āhuarangi ahotea, manukanuka, me te wehi. Ka whakararu i te whakaaro tonu o te aroha nā te mea ko te aroha he mea whakamarie, he rangimārie hoki. Koia te take, ina pāngia koe e ēnei whanonga, tera pea ka waiho koe kia whakaaro, "He mahi tukino te kore aro ki tētahi?" 

Ki te mahia ā-whakaarohia, me te whāinga kia riro te mana whakahaere me te whakahaere i te tangata kē, ka rite te mahi puku ki te tukino. Ko te tikanga o ngā whanaungatanga he whakarato i te wairua haumaru. Ki te whakamahia e te tangata te mahi puku hei taputapu whakahaere i a koe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, ka takahi i te aroha. Koia te take ka uaua ki te whakaaro me pēhea te whakahaere i te mahi puku me te whakaute nā te mea ka pā kino tēnei āhuatanga kino ki tō hauora hinengaro.

E kī ana a Aakhansha, "Ko te ārai i te tangata tētahi o ngā tohu kino i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ko te hunga e tahuri ana ki te whakarongo puku he iti te whakaaro ki a rātou anō. He maha ngā wā he urupare ako. I te wā e tamariki ana tēnei tangata, kua pāngia pea rātou e te aukati i tō rātou kaitiaki, ā, kāore i aro ki ngā pakanga, ki tētahi āhuatanga whakararuraru rānei. Ina whakamahia te whakarongo puku hei whakaatu i tō rātou riri, ka meinga te tamaiti kia pēhia, kia whakakahoretia. Koinei te wā ka tīmata te tamaiti ki te whakaaro kāore he painga, ā, ka pā kino te whanonga a te kaitiaki ki tō rātou whakaaro ki a rātou anō."

Ahakoa he āta whakaaro, he āta whakaaro rānei, ka tipu ake ēnei tāngata me te whakapono he tika tēnei urupare nā te mea koinei anake te urupare ki te pakanga kua kitea e rātou. Ko ētahi atu take e tahuri ai te tangata ki te whakarongo puku ko: 

• E whakaaro ana te tangata kāore ōna tirohanga me ōna whakaaro e whakanuia ana, e whakautehia ana rānei, nō reira ka wahangu ia 
• I tētahi atu taha, e whakaaro ana rātou kāore te tangata e tautohe ana rāua e tika ana kia mōhio ki ō rātou whakaaro me ō rātou whakaaro. 
• Ko te rongoā puku te taputapu pai rawa atu a te hunga whakahihi ki te whiu i tētahi me te whakahaere i te āhuatanga. Ki te whakautu tō hoa ki te pakanga mā te kati i a ia anō, tera pea koe e te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata whakahihi (He mea whakaaro nui te whakapā atu ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro whai raihana mēnā kei te whakaaro koe kei te pāngia koe e te maimoatanga wahangu whakahihi)
• He hiahia nui tō rātou ki te whakahaere me te tinihanga i a koe
• Kāore rātou i te pakeke, ā, kāore e mōhio me pēhea te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero 
• Ko te wahangu he huarahi ā-korekore ki te kī kāore koe i te pai mō rātou, ā, koinei tētahi o ngā take he tukino kare ā-roto te wahangu.

Ngā Tohu e Whakamahi ana tō Hoa i te Maimoatanga Wahangu hei Whakahaere i a Koe

Me ako koe ki te wehewehe i te wahangu me te atawhai wahangu i roto i ngā whanaungatanga piripono. Ina kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, he maha ngā wā ka hoatu e kōrua he wāhi ki a kōrua. Tērā pea ka wahangu kōrua i muri i tētahi tautohe hei whakamatao i a kōrua. Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi hauora tēnei hei karo i te kōrero kino ki tō hoa. Engari kia mau tō kōrua kare ā-roto, ka huihui kōrua ka kōrero i ngā mea. 

I tētahi atu taha, he mea kino te ārai i tētahi hei whakautu i ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga hei whakanui ake i te āhuatanga. Me kī atu kei te tautohetohe kōrua ko tō hoa, ā, ka riri tō hoa, ka haere atu. Ka whakatau rāua ki te kore e aro ki a koe i muri mai, me te mōhio ka āwangawanga, ka pouri hoki koe. He tauira tawhito tēnei o te whakamahi a tētahi hoa i te wāhangu hei whakamamae i tētahi atu. I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, ko te wāhangu he tukino kare ā-roto.

E kī ana a Aakhansha, "Ina mōhio tō hoa rangatira kei te pouri koe i muri i te tautohetohe nā te mea kāore koe i te whakarongo puku, ā, ka tahuri tonu rātou ki te kōrero pērā, koinei tētahi o ngā tohu kei te ngana rātou ki te whakahaere i a koe. Ka meinga koe e rātou kia whakaaro ko koe te kawenga mō ā rātou whanonga, ā, me whiwhi anō koe i tō rātou reo mā te whakamanawareka i a rātou me te mahi i runga i ō rātou hiahia me ō rātou hiahia." I mua i tā tātou rapunga me pēhea te whakahaere i te wā e kore ai koe e whakarongo puku, me mōhio tātou ki ētahi tohu kei te tahuri tō hoa rangatira ki te wā e kore ai koe e whakarongo puku kia kite noa i a koe e mamae ana:

• Ahakoa te maha o ngā wā kua whakapā atu rātou ki a koe, ka wareware tonu rātou ki a koe
• Ka noho puku rātou mō ngā rā maha, ā, kāore koe e mōhio āhea rātou ka kōrero anō ki a koe
• Kei te āwangawanga tonu koe kei waiho tēnei whanonga hei take mō tō wehenga 
• Kei te rite koe ki te hikoi tonu i runga i ngā anga hua manu i tō rātou taha
• Ka kōrero rātou ki te katoa engari ko koe
• Ka meinga koe e rātou kia whakaaro ko tā rātou wahangu tō whiu 
• Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e ngana ana rātou ki te te whakahaere i a koe i roto i ngā kare ā-roto me tō rātou wahangu, e tatari ana kia piko whakamuri koe ki te whakamanawareka i a rātou 
• Ki te ngana koe ki te hohou i te rongo i muri i ia pakanga, he tohu tēnei nō rātou koinei tā rātou rautaki ki te tinihanga i a koe. 

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11 Ngā Tohutohu i Tautokohia e ngā Tohunga mō te Whakahaere i te Maimoatanga Wahangu me te Mana  

I ako ahau ki te whakautu i te pātai he aha te tikanga o te noho puku, me te pānga ki ngā whanaungatanga i te ara uaua. He tino pūkenga taku hoa o mua ki tēnei mahi. I muri i ngā whakahē katoa, ngā tautohetohe, ngā pakanga rānei, ahakoa te nui, te iti rānei, ka ārai ia i ahau kia tae rā anō ki te wā e totoro atu ai ahau i te peka oriwa, e ngana ana ki te whakatikatika i ngā mea. Inaianei, tera pea he hāora, he rā, he wiki rānei. Kei te tere o taku tukunga iho te katoa, ā, ko te whakataunga i ngā wā katoa ko te tango i te kawenga katoa mō te tautohetohe.

Ahakoa koinei te tauira, kotahi te mea i tino uaua ki ahau te whakaaro me pēhea te whakautu ki te wākāhore me te kore e whakararu i tōku mana. Ko tō māua huritau tēnei, ā, i whakaritea e au he tina pai, engari i tae mai ia me āna hoa tokotoru i te tāone. Kāore hoki i te whakamōhio mai, i te kōrero rānei ki ahau i te tuatahi. Nō reira, i riri nui ahau, ā, ahakoa i taea e au te whakaatu i a au anō, ā, i ora ai i te tina, ka totohe māua i tana tukunga i ahau ki te kāinga.

I puta puku mai ia me te kī kāore au i whakaute i ana hoa, ā, i meinga ia kia whakama i mua i a rātou. I whakatau ahau kāore au e ngana ki te whakatau i te take i te tuatahi, ā, i mutu tana aukati i ahau mō te marama katoa. I reira ahau e manukanuka ana, e whakaaro ana, "Ka hoki mai anō ia i muri i te wahangu? He aha te mea i hē ai ia i motuhia ai e ia ngā whakawhitiwhiti kōrero katoa ki ahau?" I meinga hoki ahau kia whakaaro mēnā i mahi ahau i tētahi mea hē rawa atu i tangohia atu ai ahau e ia i roto i tōna ao me te kore whakamārama.

I te wā i whakatau ai tētahi hoa o mua i te hohou i te rongo, ka mea mai taku hoa o mua kei te tatari noa ia kia hoki ake ōku whakaaro, kia hoki mai ai. I taua wā, i mōhio ahau kāore rawa ahau e ako ki te wikitoria i te noho puku māna. I muri tata mai ka wehe māua. Mena kei roto koe i tētahi āhuatanga ōrite engari kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakarērea tō hoa, mā ēnei tohutohu a ngā tohunga mō te whakahaere i te noho puku me te whakaute ka āwhina i a koe ki te whawhai ki te tinihanga i roto i tō whanaungatanga , me te kimi huarahi hei hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora ake:

1. Whakahē i a rātou mō ā rātou whanonga 

Ki te mea kei te whakaaro pinepine koe me pēhea te urupare ki te mahi puku a tō hoa ki a koe, me mutu te tuku i te whanonga kia nekeneke. E kī ana a Aakhansha, "Ko te huarahi hauora ki te whakatau i te mahi puku ko te whakahē i a rātou mō ā rātou whanonga. Engari me mahi mārire. Kaua e whakanui ake i te āhuatanga mā te hamama ki a rātou, te kōrero i ngā mea mamae , te whakaputa rānei i tō riri ki a rātou. Kōrero ki a rātou ina pai ō rātou wairua, ā, me mōhio rātou ki te pānga o tēnei whanonga ki a koe."

Me kōrero mārire koe ki tō hoa, "Mā te wahangu noa iho ka kitea te āhua o tō āhua." Anei ētahi o ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei whakapuaki i taua karere:

• "I kite ahau he rerekē ngā mea i waenganui i a tāua ināianei. Kua ngaro i a tāua te kaha ki te kōrero pai. Me pēhea tāua e huri ai i tēnei āhuatanga?" 
• "Kei te whakamahi koe i te wā puku hei whakamatao i a koe anō, he tikanga ārai rānei mō ngā āhuatanga uaua? Ahakoa te take, kia mōhio koe kei te mamae ahau" 
• "Ki te mamae koe i tētahi mea i kōrerotia, i mahia rānei e au, tena koa kōrero mai ki ahau. Kāore e taea e koe te whakamahi i te wāhangu me te tumanako ka pānuihia e au ō whakaaro"

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2. Whakamahia nga korero "I".

Ae, he tukino kare ā-roto te mahi puku. Heoi, kāore te katoa e whakamahi ana i tēnei hei huarahi ki te whakamamae i ō rātou hoa. He maha ngā wā, ko te hua tēnei o te kore e taea e te tangata te kōrero uaua, te hiahia rānei ki te karo i te tautohetohe, ki te mawhiti rānei i te kawenga mō ā rātou mahi. Ehara i te mea he pai te whakamahi i tēnei hei mahi puku i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Kāore hoki e tangohia te mamae kare ā-roto o te tangata e whiwhi ana i tēnei mahi.

Heoi, mā te mārama ki te take ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau me pēhea te whakahaere i te kōrero puku me te whakaute. Ki te whakaaro koe kei te ārai tō hoa i a koe i muri i te pakanga kia kore ai e tautohetohe, kia kore ai e whai kawenga, ko te huarahi pai ki te whakapuaki atu ki a rātou ko te whakamahi i ngā kupu "ahau". Mā tēnei, ka taea e koe te whakamōhio atu ki a rātou te āhua o ō kare ā-roto e pā ana ki ō rātou whanonga, me te kore e meinga kia rite ki te whakapaehia, ki te whakapaetia rānei rātou.

3. Whakapāha mō tō hapa 

E mea ana a Aakhansha, "E rua ngā tāngata e hiahia ana ki te tango. Mena kei te aukati tō hoa i a koe, kāore e taea te whakakore i te tūponotanga ka whara koe i ō mahi. Tīmata mā te whakapāha mō tō hapa. Kaua e whakaae ki te kawenga mō ō mahi."

Ahakoa rā, ko te whanaungatanga aroha me aro ki te ōritetanga. Mēnā kei te whakapāha tetahi hoa, me pērā anō hoki tetahi. Kāore e taea te waiho wāhi mō te kore taurite o te mana. Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakahaere i te wā e noho puku ana me te whakaute? Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te kī hei whakapāha pono mō te mamae , kia kite ai hoki rātou i te hē o ā rātou mahi:

• "Aroha mai mō ngā kupu mamae i kōrerotia e au. Ko tāku tumanako kei te pouri hoki koe mō ngā mea katoa i kōrerotia e koe, i mahia hoki e koe hei utu."
• "Kua whakapāha ahau mō aku hapa. Ka nui te mihi ki a koe mēnā ka taea e koe te mahi i taua mea anō"
• "Kāore e taea e tātou te haere tonu me tēnei whanaungatanga me te whakapehapeha anake. Me whakapāha tātou tetahi ki tetahi ina he tā tātou mahi, ki te kore, e kore rawa ā tātou raruraru e ea."

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4. Ngāna kia kitea te take o tā rātou noho puku 

I te wā e pā ana ki tēnei momo whanonga, he pātai tino nui me aro atu koia tēnei: ​​he tukino te kore aro ki tētahi? E kī ana a Aakhansha, "Kāore i te katoa. I ētahi wā, ko te hunga e whakarongo puku ana ki a koe, kāore e mahi i tēnā nā te riri. Kāore pea rātou e mōhio kei te mamae nui koe, kei te ahotea hoki tō rātou noho puku. He uaua ki a rātou te mārama ki ō rātou ake kare ā-roto. Nā tēnei ka wehe atu rātou i te kōrero. E whakaatu ana tēnei i te kore whakapono o te tangata ki a ia anō me te whanaungatanga. Ki tā rātou whakaaro he nui ake te kino o te kōrero i te noho puku. Nō reira, ki tā rātou whakaaro he koura te noho puku."

Kia taea ai e koe te whakatau i te wā e noho puku ana koe, me mārama koe ki te pūtake. Ki te whakamahia te wā e noho puku ana i roto i ngā whanaungatanga hei whakamatao i muri i te pakanga, he huarahi hauora pea tēnei hei whakatau i ngā pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Engari ki te mea kei te aukati rātou i a koe kia raweke i a koe, kia hurihia rānei te mana o te whanaungatanga hei painga mō rātou, me mārama koe he momo tukino hinengaro tēnei.

5. Whakaaetia ngā kare ā-roto o tō hoa

Ina whakapuaki tō hoa i ōna whakaaro, ā, ka kōrero mai hoki i te take i noho puku ai rātou, i ārai ai i a koe, me mihi ki ō rātou kare ā-roto. Ko te whakautu ki te pehea e whiwhi ai i te noho puku, kei roto pea i te aroha. Nō reira, ki te whakatuwhera tō hoa,

• Kaua e whakamarumaru
• Kaua e uru tonu ki te aratau whakaoti rapanga
• Kia whai wāhi atu koe ki te kōrero, kia mōhio ai rātou kei te ngana koe ki te mārama ki ō rātou tirohanga
• Pātai atu mēnā e hiahiatia ana

6. Whakamātao, ka arotake anō i te take

Ināianei, kāore he taurangi ka haere tonu tēnei huarahi ki te whakahaere i te wā puku me te whakaute, e ai ki tāu i whakamahere ai. Tērā pea kua wahangu tō hoa ki a koe nā te mea kua riri rawa ia, kua mamae rānei, kua taumaha rawa rānei ki te whakahaere i te āhuatanga me te pakeke. I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, ina ngana koe ki te whakatau i te raruraru, tera pea ka tauhohe ia i roto i ngā huarahi kāore koe i whakaaro.

Ki te tupu tēnā, ā, ka whakautu tō hoa i roto i te āhua whakamataku, i te āhua tukino rānei, pērā i te hamama me te karanga ingoa kino , me wehe atu koe i te āhuatanga ka hoki anō ki te take ina kua pūmau te riri o ngā taha e rua. I ētahi wā, ko te noho puku i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ka rite ki te taiepa e pupuri ana i te waipuke o te kino me te riri, ā, ki te pakaru taua taiepa, ko tō whakaaro tuatahi ko te tiaki i a koe anō.

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7. Kaua e uru ki ngā kōrerorero kore āwhina

Ka tino pāpouri te mātakitaki i tō hoa e whanonga ana me te mea kua ngaro whakarere koe i a rātou, i a rātou e mahi atawhai ana, e ngāwari ana ki te katoa. Heoi anō, he aha te tikanga o te noho puku ki te kore e waiho hei taputapu hei whakararuraru i te hinengaro o tētahi atu tangata? Ina ko koe te tangata e whakahaere ana i te raruraru e pupū ake ana i roto i tō hinengaro nā te whakatau a tō hoa ki te ārai i a koe, ka hiahia nui koe ki te rapu whakautu mai i a rātou.

Heoi, kaua e tukua tēnei ngākau pouri kia akiaki i a koe ki te whakaoho kōrero kore āwhina e kore e āwhina ki te whakatika i te āhuatanga kei mua. Ahakoa te nui o tō pouri, tō riri rānei ki tō hoa,

• Kaua e whakaara ake i ngā take tawhito
• Kaua e kōrero i ngā mea whakaohooho hei whakaohooho i te urupare
• Kaua e whiu
• Kaua e tahuri ki te whakakino waha ahakoa he aha

8. Whakaakona rātou mō te take he mahi tukino kare ā-roto te mahi puku

Ka hoki mai anō ia i muri i te wā i noho puku ai ia? Ka mārama rānei ia he nui ake te kino o tēnei wā i te pai? Ae, ka taea pea tēnei engari me kimi pea e koe he huarahi hei whakaako i a rātou mō ō rātou waiaro kino. Engari kia mau tonu te kōrero whai hua, kaua e kī pēnei i te, "Mā te noho puku ki tētahi e whakaatu te nui o tō āhua." Me mōhio rātou kei te noho mokemoke koe ina whakamahia e rātou te wā i noho puku ai rātou. He pikinga, he hekenga hoki ō ia whanaungatanga. Ka tautohe ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Ko te huarahi e whakatau ai rātou i ngā pakanga o te whanaungatanga te mea e whakatau ana mēnā ka ora tonu te whanaungatanga.

I a ia e kōrero ana mō te huarahi hei wikitoria i te wā e noho puku ana, ka mea a Aakhansha, "Me kī atu koe ehara koe i te kaipānui hinengaro, ā, kāore he huarahi hei mōhio ki ngā mea e puta ana i roto i ō rātou hinengaro kia whakapuakina rā anō e rātou ki a koe. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakanui i tō reo, ki te kōrero whakatoi rānei hei whakaatu i tō whakaaro. Kāore pea rātou e mōhio he kino, he tino mamae hoki ā rātou whanonga kino. Kua tae ki te wā kia kōrerohia ngā mea, kia wehewehea ai te huarahi tika me te huarahi hē o te whakamahi i te wā puku."

9. Kaua e whakautu mā te kore kōrero ki tō hoa

Ehara i te mea ko te whakamātau i tō hoa i tā rātou rongoā te otinga pai rawa atu ki te aro atu ki te rongoā wahangu. Ahakoa he tinihanga tō hoa, ā, kei te whakamahi i te rongoā wahangu hei whakamamae i a koe, hei whakatutuki i tā rātou e pai ai, ehara i te mea me whakahoki atu koe i te āhua pai. Kāore ngā whanaungatanga e mahi pērā. Engari, whakamahia ēnei kīanga ina whakahē tō hoa :

• "Ina rite koe ki te kōrero, me whakamōhio mai"
• "E mōhio ana ahau kei te mamae koe i tēnei wā, engari ko ahau anō hoki. Ki te kore tonu koe e aro ki ahau, ka kino haere ngā mea"
• "He wā uaua kei roto i ia whanaungatanga. Kei a tāua te tikanga kia whakatau i te raruraru"

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10. Hangaia tō kōrero 

Waihangahia he kōrerorero whai hanganga kia kore ai koe e peka ke atu i te kaupapa e kōrerohia ana — he mea e tupu pinepine ana i waenganui i a kōrua i tētahi tautohe, i tētahi kōrero werawera rānei me tō hoa. Ka tīmata koe i tētahi atu wāhi, ka mutu i tētahi atu wāhi. Whakatūria he ture whawhai tika, ā, whakahaerea te hiahia ki te whakamahi i ngā kupu kanga, ki te karanga ingoa kino, ki te hamama rānei tetahi ki tetahi. Anei ētahi huarahi hei whakatata atu i te āhuatanga me te kōrero pai ake ki tō hoa :

• Kaua e whakamahi i ngā kupu pēnei i te "tonu" me te "kore rawa"
• Kia arotahi ki ō kare ā-roto, kia kore ai tō hoa e whakaaro kei te whakapae koe i a rātou 
• Whakamāramahia mārama te mea e whakararuraru ana i a koe. Kōrerotia ki a rātou te āhua o tā rātou whakamutu mahi he mea kino, he mea mamae hoki.
• Whakamātauria te tikanga whakawhitiwhiti kōrero "sandwich" mēnā kei te raru koe ki te mārama me pēhea te wikitoria i te wahangu. Whakamihihia tō hoa i te tuatahi, kātahi ka tono, ā, ka whai i tētahi atu kōrero pai. Tāpirihia tō tono, tō take rānei ki waenganui i ngā rerenga pai e rua.

11. Rapua he awhina ngaio 

He pānga kino tonu te noho puku ki tō hauora hinengaro i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Ki te mea kei te tino hōhonu rawa te kino, ki te kore rānei kōrua ko tō hoa e mōhio ki te wete i tēnei āhua, rapua he āwhina. Heoi anō, ka taea e koe te tahuri ki ngā hoa pono me ngā mema o te whānau mō ngā tohutohu.

Engari ki te pōuri koe i ngā whakaaro kino katoa i puta mai i te aukati me te tukino puku, he tino whai hua te tohutohu a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te waihanga i te mōhiotanga ki a koe anō mō ​​ngā whanonga kino, me te whiwhi i ngā taputapu hei huri i ngā mea. Mena kei te whakaaro koe ki te tiki āwhina hei rapu huarahi hei whakautu tika ki te maimoatanga puku, kei konei ngā ratonga tohutohu a Bonobology māu.

Ki te kore tō hoa e mārama ki a koe, ā, ka hoki tonu ki te tauira o te wahangu, me whakatika e koe te take. Me kī atu kāore koe e aro atu ki tēnei āhuatanga. He mea nui te whakatakoto i ngā rohe pakari hei tiaki i a koe mai i ngā whanonga ka pā kino ki tō hauora hinengaro me tō oranga. Whakatairangahia te tiaki i a koe anō, kātahi ka tirohia mēnā he huarahi hei tiaki i tō whanaungatanga me te kore e ngaro te aroha, te whakaute, me te whakapono tetahi ki tetahi. 

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