He mea tino kino ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ko ngā whakahē, ko te riri me te pōuri e haere tahi mai ana me ēnei tautohetohe, ko ngā tautohetohe, ko te ngangau, e waiho ana he raruraru kāore anō kia whakatauhia, ka waiho katoa he āhua kino i muri i te tautohetohe. Me i taea e tātou te whai i tā tātou e pai ai, e kore rawa tātou e whawhai ki tētahi e arohaina nuitia ana e tātou. Engari ko te mea pono, ahakoa te nui o te aroha tetahi ki tetahi, kāore e taea e te tokorua te whakaae ki ngā mea katoa. Koia te take he mea noa ngā tautohetohe me ngā pakanga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.
Heoi, he rerekē ki te whakapono ka taea e te tautohetohe mō ō rerekētanga te whakakino i tō hononga, he pai ngā tautohetohe mō tō whanaungatanga. Mēnā kei te whakamahi koe i ngā tikanga tautohetohe hauora, ā, kaua e whiti i te rārangi o te kōrero kino, te whanoke rānei, te whakaatu rānei i ngā whanonga kino.
He aha ēnei tikanga tautohetohe hauora? He aha te huarahi tika hei whakahaere i ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga? I kōrero mātou ki tētahi kaiārahi Manjari Saboo (Tohu Paerua i roto i te Hinengaro Whaihua me te Tohu Paerua i roto i te Whakaora Whānau me te Tohutohu Tiaki Tamariki), te kaiwhakaū o Maitree Counseling, he kaupapa e aro ana ki te oranga ngākau o ngā whānau me ngā tamariki, kia mārama ai ki te āhua o te hauora o ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga.
He mea noa te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga?
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Kua tūtaki koe ki tētahi tokorua kāore e whawhai, e whakahē, e tautohetohe rānei i ētahi wā? Kāore? Koinā tonu te tohu o te kore e taea te karo i ngā pakanga me ngā tautohetohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Kāore he tangata e rua, ahakoa te nui o te hononga, e titiro ana ki te ao i te huarahi kotahi. Ko tēnei ahurei e whakahaere ana i ā tātou urupare, whakaaro me ngā kare ā-roto ki ngā āhuatanga rerekē.
He whakaaturanga noa iho te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga i ēnei rerekētanga taketake. Nā te mea he mea whakarihariha ngā pakanga me ngā whakahāwea, ka taea e rātou te ārahi i a tātou ki te whakaaro he mea kino ngā tautohetohe. Ka kite wawe koe, he pai te tautohetohe, mena ka taea e tātou te noho mārire. He tohu tēnei kei a ngā hoa tokorua te wāhi hei noho ko rātou anō, ā, kia tū motuhake i roto i te whanaungatangaHaunga tēnā, ka hoatu he whai wāhi ki a koe ki te ako atu mō tetahi i tetahi, me te hura i ngā take huna e raru ai pea i roto i tō pararaiha.
Mā ngā tautohetohe ka whai wāhi koe ki te whakatau tahi i ēnei take me ngā rerekētanga hei rōpū. Ki te kore te tokorua e whawhai, he tohu tēnei kua mutu tā rāua hononga. Nō reira, ehara i te mea uaua ki te kī kei te noho tahi tonu ngā tokorua e whawhai ana. Ahakoa rā, ehara i te mea he ōrite te hanganga o ngā tautohetohe me ngā pakanga katoa. Ko ētahi tohu whero e tohu ana ko ō tautohetohe he hua pea nō ētahi raruraru nui kei raro.
"He pai ngā tautohetohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga? Ka taea e rātou te whakapakari i te hononga o te tokorua? Ae, ki taku whakaaro. He whānui ake te tikanga o ngā tautohetohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ina whakamahia ki ngā āhuatanga rerekē. Mā ngā tautohetohe, ka kitea e ngā tokorua ngā otinga mō ā rātou take, ngā whakamārama, te rangimarie o te hinengaro, te mārama ake ki ngā āhuatanga me ngā whakaaro o tētahi ki tētahi. Mā tēnei, ka taea te whakahaere pai ake i ngā tirohanga a tētahi ki tētahi," te kī a Manjari.
Heoi anō, he mea nui anō hoki ngā tikanga tautohetohe hauora ina tae mai ki te aromatawai mēnā ka taea e ngā tautohetohe te āwhina i tētahi whanaungatanga. Ko ngā āhua pēnei i te kore kōrero tetahi ki tetahi, te ārai tetahi i tetahiKo te karanga ingoa tetahi i tetahi, te whakawehi, me te whakamahi i te tukino kare ā-roto, i te tutu tinana rānei, ehara i te tikanga tautohetohe hauora.
Kaua ngā tautohe iti i roto i te whanaungatanga e huri hei tautohetohe kino, ā, ko te pupuri i te mauahara, te pupuri rānei i tētahi kāri kaute, he tohu noa iho kei te kōrero kōrua kia "toa" ai, kaua kia tae ki tētahi wāhi e mārama ai te katoa. I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, he pai ake te whakaaro ki te rapu i te rongoā a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kia mārama ai koe ki te huarahi mahi pai mō te heke mai.
Haunga tēnā, he mea noa, he mea hauora hoki te tautohetohe nā ngā raruraru whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, nā ngā rerekētanga whakaaro rānei. "Āe, i ētahi wā ka puta he tautohetohe, he pakanga, he raruraru nui. Ko te hauora o te rerekētanga whakaaro mō te whanaungatanga, ko te kaha o ngā hoa e rua ki te whakahaere i ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ina whakamahia ngā tikanga tika hei whakatau i te pakanga, ka taea e te tautohetohe te noho hei taputapu mō te tipu. E whakaatu ana i te whanaungatanga hauora e ahu mai ana i te manaaki, te aro me te aroha. Nō reira, me manaaki me te ngākau tuwhera," te tāpiri a Manjari.
He pai te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga? Mēnā kei a koe ngā rautaki whakatau tautohe hauora kei roto i te putea, ā, kaua e whakararuraru i tō whanaungatanga mā te kōrero i ētahi mea mamae i te wā e werawera ana, he pai pea mō te whanaungatanga. Hei tirohanga pai ake ki te rārangi angiangi e wehewehe ana i te hauora me te kino, me tūhura tātou he aha te hiranga o ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga.
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12 Ngā Take e Hauora ai ngā Tautohe i roto i te Hononga
Kei te whakaaro koe he mea noa te whawhai i ia rā i roto i te whanaungatanga, he maha rānei ngā wā ka whawhai ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i roto i te whanaungatanga? hononga hauoraHe nui te tūponotanga ka nui ake te wā e whawhai ana kōrua ko tō hoa. Ka pā kino pea ēnei riri ina pakū, ahakoa kei te roa te taumahatanga. Engari kia māia, mena ehara i te hua o ētahi take nui, he tohu pai ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga.
He mea noa te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga? Ae. Inaa, he mea rerekē te whanaungatanga kāore he tautohetohe. Heoi, kaua te pupuri i ngā kare ā-roto kino i raro i te whakapae "he pai te tautohetohe mā tātou" hei whāinga. He mea nui kia mōhio koe ki ngā mea e tika ana, me ngā mea kāore e tika ana, kia kore ai e tukua tō tirohanga hē kia karo i ngā tohu kino katoa e titiro whakamua ana ki a koe. Anei ngā take 12 he mea nui te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga kia noho tahi ai, me ngā mea e tika ana, me ngā mea kāore e tika ana:
1. Ka taea e koe te matapaki i ngā raruraru
Ko te whanaungatanga kāore he tautohe, he whanaungatanga whawhai rānei, he whanaungatanga kua mōhio tetahi, tetahi rānei o ngā hoa ki te mahi huna i ngā mea. Heoi, ehara tēnā i te mea whakaaro nui. Kāore e taea te wareware i ō raruraru, me te hiahia kia ngaro atu.
Ki te kore e arohia, ahakoa ngā rerekētanga iti o ia rā, ka taea e rātou te whakatupu i te riri me te mauahara. ka ngokingoki te kawa ki roto i te whanaungatangaI tētahi atu taha, ko te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga e tohu ana i tō kaha ki te whakatika i ngā raruraru ina puta. Mā tēnei ka whakaiti i te tūponotanga o te pakanga hohonu i waenganui i a koe me tō hoa.
"Kāore e taea te whakanui rawa i te hiranga o ngā tikanga tautohetohe hauora. Kia noho te tautohetohe hei momo kōrero, kaua hei tautohetohe. Ki te kite koe i tētahi tohu e arahi ana te kōrero ki tētahi tautohetohe, whakarērea tonutia te take kei mua i te aroaro, te kaupapa rānei e kōrerohia ana e koe. Ka nui ngā wā ka whai wāhi koe ki te tirotiro anō i tēnei me te whakapuaki i ō tirohanga, ki te whakaae rānei ki ngā whakaaro o tō hoa. Kia tupu pai ai te whanaungatanga, kaua te arotahi o ngā tautohetohe whanaungatanga e whakamātau i tō whakaaro," te kī a Manjari.
E ai ki tā Manjari, he koretake te pātai i ngā pātai pēnei i te, "E hia te nui o te tautohetohe he mea noa i roto i te whanaungatanga?", mēnā ka hua mai i ō tautohetohe katoa he ingoa kino ka kino ake te whanaungatanga. Ahakoa ka taea e koe te kōrero mō ō raruraru, me taea hoki e koe te whakahaere tika i aua kōrero.
2. Ka whakatūria he hononga ōrite
He pai ngā tautohetohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga? Ae, he pai ngā tautohetohe nā te mea ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakatū i tētahi hononga o ngā hoa ōrite i roto i te pono. Mā te whakapuaki i tō whakahē mō tētahi mea kua mahia e tō hoa – me te rerekē – ka whakatū koe i te meka kāore tetahi o kōrua e kaha ki te whakapuaki i te mana, me te tumanako ko tetahi te tangata ngāwari.
Mā te kaha ki te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro ina kore koe e whakaae ki tō hoa, e whakaatu ana tēnei i te whakaaro kāore koe e aro nui ki ngā āhuatanga kāore i te tino pai o tō whanaungatanga. Engari, ka tū pakari koe ki te wāhi e tika ana.
Ka awhina tenei ki te hanga whakaute tahi i roto i te whanaungatanga, he mea nui tēnei ki te whakapakari i tō kōrua hononga. Ka whakapakarihia rānei ngā whanaungatanga e ngā tautohetohe? Ina taea e kōrua te whakatū i tētahi tūranga ōrite mā te whakamārama kia kaua kōrua e akiakihia, mā te whakatū i te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi ka tino whakapakari i tō kōrua kaha.
3. Ka kōrero koe i tō whakaaro
He maha ngā wā ka puta ngā rerekētanga me ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga nā te mea e tumanako ana tetahi kia mārama tetahi ki ētahi mea, kia mahi rānei i tētahi ara motuhake me te kore e whakaatu i ō rātou tumanakohanga. Ina kore ēnei tumanakohanga e tutuki, ka arahi noa atu ki te pouri.
Heoi, kāore i te maha ngā wā ka taea e mātou te whakapuaki i ēnei pouri me ngā pōuri i taua wā tonu. "He raruraru tonu tāku ki te āhua o te tapahi a Jolene i taku kōrero i ia wā ka kōrero ahau. I ngana ahau ki te kore e aro atu ki tēnā, i te whakaaro he harikoa noa iho ia, ā, e hiahia ana ki te kōrero, engari i tae mai ki te wā i whakaaro ai ahau kāore e taea e au te whakaoti i tētahi rerenga kōrero me te kore e whakararuraruhia," te kōrero a Richard ki a mātou.
"I tētahi rā, i a māua e kōrero ana mō ā māua hararei tino pai, i rite tonu ki te mea kei te whakarongo ahau ki a ia, ā, kāore ia i aro nui ki aku wheako. I huri wawe te kōrero 'ngahau' hei tautohe i taku hamama ki a ia mō te kore rawa e tuku i ahau kia kōrero. Ki te pātai mai koe he aha te hiranga o ngā tautohe i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka kī atu ahau i āwhina i ahau ki te whakapuaki i ōku whakaaro. Heoi anō, me i kore ahau e kōrero kino ki a ia, e pupuri hoki i ōku kare ā-roto mō te wā roa, ā, ka pahū noa iho i tētahi wā," tāna tāpiri.
He huarahi pai ngā tautohetohe ki te whakaputa i ēnei kare ā-roto kino katoa. Mā tēnei ka āwhina i a koe ki te pupuri i te māramatanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka taea e ngā tautohetohe iti i roto i te whanaungatanga te mutu mā te whakaae tahi me te māramatanga. Nō reira, kaua e tatari kia pakū, kia tino whakapuaki koe i ō whakaaro ina hiahiatia. Ahakoa ka arahi ki tētahi tautohetohe iti.
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4. Ka puta ngā otinga i roto i ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga
E kiia ana ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whawhai ana Me noho tahi, nā te mea ka ārahi ngā tautohetohe kia matara atu kōrua i ngā raruraru, kia anga atu ki ngā otinga. Ina werawera ngā mea, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakapuaki ngā hoa e rua i ngā mea e puta ana i roto i ō rāua hinengaro. Mā tēnei ka taea e kōrua te kite mārama i ō raruraru me ō rerekētanga, ā, ka mahi ki te kimi otinga.
Haunga tēnā, ina kitea te pūtake o tō raruraru, ā, ka whakakorea atu, ka taea e koe te ārai i te whawhai anō. Hei tauira, ki te mōhio koe he mahi, he āhua rānei e whakapataritari ana i tō hoa, ka ngana tonu koe ki te aukati i te riri. Ahakoa i pai rāua ki te kōrero tetahi ki tetahi, i kino a Molina ki te reo kotahi a Richard i te wā e kōrero ana a Richard ki a ia i te aroaro o te marea. I whakaaro ia he ahua kino, ā, i tukuna he karere hē ki te hunga i tō rāua taha.
I te tīmatanga, kāore a Richard i mārama he aha me noho tūmataiti ai te kōrero puku, ā, ka tīmata tana whawhai ki a Molina mō te hiahia ki te whakarerekē i tana kōrero ki a ia i te aroaro o te marea. Ki a ia, he takaro noa iho ia. Engari i tana whakamārama i te āhua o ōna kare ā-roto, ka tere tana mōhio kei te whakaiti ia i tana whakaute ki tana hoa.
"He pai te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga?" i pātai a Richard, me te tāpiri, "Me i kore tēnei pakanga i puta, kua kōrero tonu ahau ki a ia i te aroaro o te marea pērā i taku kōrero. Ko wai ka mōhio ki te kino ka pā mai i muri mai. Kāore au e hiahia kia whawhai ia ki ahau i te aroaro o te marea," i kata ia.
5. Ka whakakorea te mauahara
Me kī, i whakatūpato tō hoa i a koe i mua i ō hoa. Ahakoa he take ā rātou mō tēnā, tera pea ka riri koe i ā rātou mahi. Ki te puritia e koe i roto i a koe, tera pea ka tīmata koe ki te pupuri i te mauahara me te whakaaro ki ngā huarahi hei utu i a rātou. Tērā pea ka arahi ēnei whanonga ki tētahi hononga kino i te roa.
Engari mā te tautohetohe mō tēnei mea, ka whai wāhi koe ki te whakapuaki i tō pouri me tō mamae. Kaua e haere me te mura o te ahi, me te tumanako ka tae koe ki te wāhi harikoa mēnā ka pakia e koe te tatau ka hamama ki tō hoa. Engari, ahakoa te mamae, ki te mea koe ki tō hoa, "Nui atu tōku mamae i tō tūnga i ahau, he aha koe i pērā ai?", ka taea e koe te kimi i te pūtake o te mea i roto i te huarahi marino.
Kia marino koe, tera pea ka rongo koe i te taha o tō hoa me te hinengaro tuwhera. Ka hoatu he wā ki a koe ki te huna i te raruraru, ka neke atu, me te kore he mauahara e whakararu ana i tō hononga. Ka whakapakari ake rānei ngā whanaungatanga i ngā tautohetohe? Ina whakamāramahia e koe ngā māramatanga kore, ā, ka whakakorea ō mauahara, ka tino whakapakari ake tō whakaaro.
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6. Ka āwhina ngā tautohetohe ki te hanga māramatanga
I roto i te ao me ngā whanaungatanga, he maha ngā wā kāore ngā mea i te pango me te mā, te tika me te hē. He maha ngā wāhi hina hei whakatere. Ina whakahaere pai koe i ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka hoatu he whai wāhi ki a koe ki te tiro i tētahi āhuatanga mai i ngā tirohanga rerekē e rua. I roto i te tukanga, ka taea e koe te whiwhi māramatanga pai ake ki te tūnga o tō hoa mō ētahi mea, mō ā rātou rānei. ngā uara me ngā whakapono matua o te whanaungatanga.
Hei whakamutunga, ka āwhina tēnei ki te hanga i tētahi māramatanga pai ake, ā, ka whakatata atu hoki i a kōrua. Ahakoa ngā tautohetohe iti i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, ka taea e koe te mārama ki ngā mea e pai ana, e kore e pai ana ki tō hoa, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ake ki a rāua, kia piri ake hoki. Ina nui ake tō aroha i roto i tō whanaungatanga, ka herea kōrua hei rōpū.
Heoi, ki te mea kei te tautohetohe koe i roto i ia kōrero, ā, kei te pātai koe ki a koe anō, "E hia te nui o te tautohetohe he mea noa i roto i te whanaungatanga?", me titiro pea koe ki te take e maha ai ō kōrua tautohetohe. Kāore koe e mārama ki te pūtake o tō hoa, ā, koia te take e mau tonu ai te mauahara? Ngāna kia ngana ki te whakatipu i te aroha, ā, ka iti iho pea te auau.
7. Mā te tautohetohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ka whakatairanga i te aroha
Te houhanga rongo i muri i te tautohetohe Ka taea e tēnei te arahi ki te waipuke o ngā kare ā-roto me ngā kare ā-roto pōuriuri, ka taea ai te whakaoho anō i te aroha. Kāore ianei tātou katoa i rongo mō te moepuku e whakanuia ana e te tini o ngā mea! Mā ngā tautohetohe kaha ka puta ake ngā kare ā-roto kaha, ka taea ai te whakatairanga i ō hiahia aroha ki tētahi taumata e whai ake nei.
Haunga tēnā, mā te whawhai, me te kore kōrero pea tetahi ki tetahi, ka kitea te nui o te whakaute o tetahi ki tetahi. Ina whakatauhia ō raruraru, ka hono anō, ka kitea te koretake o te werawera i ngā mea iti.
8. E whakaatu ana kei te manaaki koe
He whanaungatanga kāore he tautohetohe, he whawhai rānei, e kiia ana he āwangawanga nā te mea e tohu ana kua whakarērea e tētahi, e rua rānei ngā hoa te tūmanako mō tētahi heke mai tahi. Tērā pea kua whakaae rātou ko ā rātou kua mutu te whanaungatanga roa. I tētahi atu taha, ki te kaha rawa tā kōrua whawhai ki te whakahē, ki te whakaiti rānei i ngā mea e kite ana kōrua he tūmomo mōrearea ki tō kōrua whanaungatanga, kei te mahi kōrua ki te waihanga i tētahi wāhi pai ake, hauora ake hoki hei tokorua.
Ko te pānga o ngā mea nunui, ngā mea iti hoki ki a koe, e whakaatu ana anō kāore koe e aro ki tō hoa rangatira, ki tō whanaungatanga rānei. "Ina whānui ake te tirohanga o te tautohetohe e whakaatu ana i te āwangawanga me te manaaki o tētahi hoa rangatira ki tētahi atu, ki te whanaungatanga rānei, ka pai ake, ka ora ake hoki tō rāua hononga. Koinei te wā ka ara ake koe i ngā tautohetohe iti i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, ka whawhai ki ngā painga o tō hoa rangatira me te whanaungatanga."
"Hei tauira, he mea hauora te tautohetohe mō ngā kōwhiringa oranga hauora nā te mea kei te āwangawanga koe mō te oranga o tō hoa. Heoi, ahakoa he parakore ōu kaupapa, ehara i te mea ka taea e koe te whai i tētahi huarahi tautohetohe kore here."
"He mea nui te tūpato ahakoa kei te tautohetohe koe mō te āwangawanga. Hei tauira, ko koe anake me whai wāhi ki ēnei tautohetohe, ki ngā kōrero rānei. Kāore pea te whai wāhi o ngā mātua, o ngā tuākana, o ngā teina, o ngā hoa rānei te huarahi pai. Kāore pea te tohutohu a ētahi atu e pai ki te manuhiri," te tohutohu a Manjari.
9. Ka pai ake tō whakarongo
Mena kei te whakamahi koe i ngā tikanga tautohetohe hauora, ā, te whawhai me te whakaute Hei whakatika i ō raruraru, mā ngā pakanga me ngā whakahē ka pai ake tō whakarongo. Ko te kōrero hei whakamana i tētahi kōrero, hei tautoko rānei i tētahi tautohe, he āhuatanga kino tēnei e whakawhānui ake ai i te wehewehe i waenganui i ngā hoa aroha. Nō reira, ka mau tonu ngā kore māramatanga.
Engari, ki te ako koe ki te whakarongo āta, me te ngana ki te mārama ki ngā tirohanga a te tangata kē, ka taea e ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga te noho hei huarahi whai hua hei whakawhanake i tētahi hononga whai tikanga ki te tangata e arohaina ana e koe.
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10. Mā ngā tautohetohe koe e māmā ai
He wheako kino rawa atu te whawhai ki tō hoa i te roanga atu o te wā. Āe, he mura te riri, he hamama, he roimata. Āue! Engari kua rongo koe i te ahua kua tangohia he kawenga i tō uma i muri i te whawhai me te tautohetohe? Nā te mea he mea nui te whakaputa i ō whakaaro kia mawhiti atu ai koe i ō pouri, kia tau ai te rangimārie.
He tikanga pai te kore e pupuri i ngā mea ki roto i te tinana mō ngā mea katoa o te ao. Engari he mea tino nui tēnei ina e ngana ana koe ki te hanga i tētahi turanga pakari mō tētahi whanaungatanga. Nō reira, ki te mea kua āwangawanga koe mō te tautohetohe i te tīmatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga, mō te whawhai rānei i ngā wā maha, kaua e whakahe i a koe anō. I te mea kāore he... ngā take paitini I te wā tākaro, mā ngā pakanga me ngā tautohe e āwhina kia kore he ahotea i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga.
11. Ka ārai i te ngākau māhaki
I te haere o te wā, ka kitea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine he manawataki mō ō rāua oranga tahi. Ahakoa he mea mōhio, he mea whakamarie hoki, he mea tino hoha. Mā te whai i te tikanga kotahi, me te mahi i ngā mea kotahi anō, ka memeha haere te mura me te harikoa o tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Tērā pea ka tīmata kōrua te whakaaro he mea noa iho tētahi ki tētahi.
He tunu kai tēnā mō te aituā. He rite ngā tautohetohe me ngā pakanga ki te karanga whakaoho e kukume ana i a koe i tēnei moe, e whakaatu ana i a koe he aha te mea e tūpono ana, i ia wā, i ia wā. Mā tēnei mōhiotanga ka ārai koe i a koe kei noho mārire rawa ki te whakarite i tō hoa rangatira hei kaupapa matua.
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12. Ka tipu ake kōrua hei tokorua
Whakaarohia ngā wā i tautohe ai kōrua i te tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga. Nā ia kōrero wera, nā ia pakanga, nā ia tautohe i āwhina i a koe ki te kite i ētahi atu kōrero mō tō hoa rangatira. Mā ēnei kitenga anō koe e āwhina ki te whakarerekē i ō whāinga whanaungatanga, me te whakatau i te mea pai mō kōrua hei tokorua.
I roto i te wā, ka nui ake tō kōrua whakaae ki ngā hapa o tētahi ki tētahi, ā, ka maioha ki ō kōrua kaha. Mā ngā pakanga koe e kite ai kāore e taea e koe te "whakatika" i tētahi hoa engari ka āwhina i a rātou kia pai ake te āhua o rātou anō. Ko tēnei momo pakeketanga me te manawanui me te te murunga hara i roto i ngā whanaungatanga koinei te mea e āwhina ana i a kōrua kia tipu hei tokorua.
He mea noa te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga? E mōhio ana pea koe i nāianei, he mea noa iho, ā, he mea hauora anō hoki. Ahakoa te nui o tō whakahawea ki a rātou, ka puta tonu ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ko tāu mahi ki a rātou e whakatau ana i te pānga o ēnei tautohetohe ki tō heke mai. Mā te ako ki te whakatau i ō raruraru mā te whakamahi i ngā tikanga tautohetohe hauora ka āwhina i te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga kia mau tonu, kia harikoa hoki mō te wā roa.
He nui ngā kōrero mō ngā tikanga tautohetohe hauora hei whakarite kia kaua e pāngia tō whanaungatanga e ngā pakanga me ngā rerekētanga. Engari he aha ēnei tikanga whakatau pakanga hauora? Ka tukuna e Manjari tētahi tirohanga māmā engari hohonu, "Ki te piki haere tētahi kōrero poto hei tautohetohe ki tō hoa, ā, ka kitea koe kei roto i tētahi wāhi uaua, ka pātai koe i ngā pātai pēnei i te "He aha ahau?" "He aha ahau tonu?" "He aha koe kāore?", whakangāwari mō tētahi wā, kātahi ka hurihia ēnei pātai - "He aha ahau kāore?" "He aha rātou tonu?" "He aha e kore ai e pērā i te taha kē?"
"Tērā pea ka whiwhi koe i tētahi whakautu tino rerekē, ā, ko tētahi tautohetohe i waiho hei tataramoa i roto i tō taha, ka āhua koretake noa iho. I roto i te poto, he pai ngā tautohetohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ina kore e puta mai i ngā hiahia whaiaro o tētahi hoa engari i te pai whānui o te hononga." Mena kei te pāngia tō whanaungatanga e ngā tautohetohe kino, kāore rānei koe e tautohetohe ana, whakaarohia te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Bonobology's he rōpū kaiwhakaora hinengaro mātau ka āwhina i a koe ki te tā i tētahi ara ki tētahi whanaungatanga rangimarie.
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He mea nui te tautohetohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, kia kore ai e puranga ngā raruraru, e huri hei rerekētanga kāore e taea te hohou i te rongo i roto i te wā.
Kāore he ture matua mō te auau o te wā e tika ai te whawhai a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ā, āhea hoki ka kino haere. Ko te mea nui ko te tautohetohe i runga i te whakaaro nui, i te whakaaro hauora hoki hei whakatau i tō kōrua rerekētanga, kaua mō te tautohetohe kotahi anake.
Ko te whakarongo pai me te ngana ki te tiro i ngā mea mai i te tirohanga a te tangata kē te huarahi pai ki te whakatau i ngā tautohe i roto i te whanaungatanga. Nā te mea ki te kore koe e whakarongo hei mārama engari hei whakahē me te whakaatu i tō whakaaro, ka kino pea ngā tautohe.
E ai ki ngā rangahau, e whitu ngā wā e tautohe ai te tokorua i te rā. Heoi, he rerekē ia whanaungatanga, ia tokorua. Ko te mea e pai ana mō te nuinga o te tangata, tērā pea kāore e pai mōu. He pai ki te tautohe me te kōrero i ngā wā katoa e whakararuraru ana i a koe, kaua e huna i ō kare ā-roto.
E ai ki te kōrero, kaua rawa e moe me te riri. Kia ara ake, kia whakatauhia te take. He pai ake te whakatau i ō tautohetohe i te wā wawe tonu, kaua hoki e tahuri ki ngā tikanga pēnei i te wahangu me te ārai i te riri hei utu i tō hoa.
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