(Monga adauza Joie Bose)
Magazi anga anagunda kwambiri m'mitsempha yanga moti thupi langa lonse linali litayamba kuwawa. Ndinkawumva mtima wanga, zinkawoneka. Ndidamva mapapu anga akutulutsa mpweya ndikuutulutsa, ubongo wanga udalemba zomwe ndikuwona kenako ndikumasulira tanthauzo. Dziko linali litachedwerapo kwa ine. Zinali zokongola. Panali patapita nthaŵi yaitali pamene ndinadzimva kukhala wamoyo. Ndinakhala pansi kuona mphepo ikusuntha masamba pamitengo, mapazi anga anali atayamba kuwawa mwadzidzidzi. Zinali zochulukira, izi mwadzidzidzi kutha kumva chilichonse chondizungulira komanso koposa zonse, zomwe Sunil adachita.
Ndinakumana ndi Sunil kupaki, komwe ndimapita kukayenda m'mawa. Amakasiya ana ake aakazi kusukulu atayenda ndipo ine ndimapita kokayenda nditamusiya mwana wanga pokwerera basi. Pa maulendo khumi omwe ndimayenda, ndinkangokhalira kugawana naye maulendo amodzi kapena awiri. Nthawi zonse ankandimwetulira ndipo inenso ndinkamwetulira. Izi zinali zitatha zaka khumi. Tinakambirana mwachidule za atsikana athu ndipo, ngakhale kuti poyamba zinkachitika kawirikawiri, ankakonda kundiyamikira ndipo ine ndinkachita manyazi. April watha, anaika ana ake aakazi m’basi ya sukulu ndipo tinayamba kubwera limodzi ku paki.
Palibe abwenzi enieni
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Mukudziwa, patapita zaka zambiri, ndinali nditayamba kucheza ndi munthu wina wa msinkhu wanga popanda chifukwa chilichonse. Ndine wakunyumba ndipo tsiku lililonse, nthawi zonse, ndimakhala wotanganidwa kupanga nyumba yanga kukhala nyumba. Ndipo ndine wotanganidwa kwambiri ndikuchita izi kotero kuti ndilibe nthawi yocheza ndi wina aliyense ndipo mwamuna wanga anali wachilendo kwambiri m'zaka 15 zapitazi.
Anali ndi nthawi yoti tsitsi langa lidachita imvi, koma ndinalibe nthawi yokwanira yogawana nkhawa zomwe zidapangitsa tsitsi langa kukhala la imvi. Anzanga akusukulu ndi akukoleji, onse ankaona kuti nkhawa zanga n’zotopetsa, chifukwa mwina anali akugwira ntchito kapena anali olemera moti n’kukwanitsa kukwanitsa antchito.
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Antchito anga anthawi yochepa, wolima dimba, wosamalira mkaka ndi ogulitsa m'sitolo onse adakhala omwe munthu angawatchule ngati anzanga. Kenako akubwera Sunil, amene mwadzidzidzi sanangondisonyeza chidwi, komanso anayamba kukambirana nane mavuto a muofesi yake. Chodabwitsa kwambiri, ndinali ndi mayankho. Ngakhale pamene sindinatero, ndinkamvetsera ndi kufufuza pa intaneti za iwo. Kenako ndinkamupatsa maganizo anga.
Kulimbikitsa malingaliro anga
Anali m’dipatimenti yothandiza anthu ndipo mmene ankayendetsera anthu zinandichititsa chidwi. Anagawana zinthu zambiri. Ngakhale malipoti achinsinsi ogulitsa. Ndakhala m'mawa wambiri ndikukhala pa udzu ndikulemba malipoti ndikumuthandiza. Anakonda malingaliro anga atsopano. Mbali ina ya ine ndinali nditaya chikhulupiriro mwa ine ndekha, koma Sunil anali atabweretsanso zing, kundipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndimatha kumvetsetsa zinthu zovuta zonsezi.
Miyezi ingapo yapitayi inali yodabwitsa. Ndinkawerenga zidziwitso zamakampani ndipo Sunil amandithandiza kumvetsetsa. Amandilankhula zandalama ndi magawo. Kuchuluka kwa ziwerengero ndi nkhani zomwe zidawoneka ngati zosasangalatsa m'mbuyomu zidandimveketsa bwino. Ngakhale Pinki Economic Times yomwe ndidayamikira chifukwa idamwa mafuta bwino, idakhala yochulukira. Ndinali nditayamba kuliwerenga. Ndipo ndinadabwa, ndinatsegula akaunti ya DMAT ndipo ndinali nditayamba kugula magawo. Panali zambiri zamoyo, ndinawona.
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Munasintha mmene ndimaonera moyo
"Sindingathe kuchita zinthu zovuta, zovuta, zomwe ndimaganiza, Sunil. Munandipangitsa kukhala ndi chikhulupiriro chatsopano mwa ine ndekha. Ndikuganiza zopanga maphunziro a digiri ya kasamalidwe patali," ndinauza Sunil, ndikuyenda m'mawa uno. Sunil anayima panjira yake, nagwira dzanja langa nati, "Ndiwe wophunzira wachangu. Ndiwe wofunika kwambiri kuposa kungokhala ... "Kenako adaphunzira kutsogolo ndikupsompsona mopepuka pamphumi panga. Magazi anga anathamangira pamphumi ndikundikhulupirira, sindinakhumudwe ngakhale pang'ono. Ndikadayenera kutero, koma ndinasangalala. Ndine wokondwa kunena kuti, ndinali wokondwa!
Mwina ndidachita manyazi kwambiri, chifukwa nkhope ya Sunil idayera ndipo nthawi yomweyo adachoka. Ndinangoima pang'ono kenako dziko linayamba kundionekera bwino.
Ndine wochulukirapo kuposa kungowerengera amuna anga ndi ana anga aakazi, sichoncho?
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Chinachake choyembekezera
Sindikudziwa zomwe zidzachitike ndi Sunil. Kodi iye adzakhala ndi mphamvu kuti apite patsogolo izi ubwenzi zomwe tili nazo? Kodi sichidzatitsogolera tonse panjira yoopsa? Ndimamudziwa mkazi wake ndipo ndikudziwa kuti mkazi wake sadziwa mbali iyi ya Sunil. Akuganiza kuti ndi wotopetsa komanso wouma ngati mwamuna wanga. Koma Sunil ndi wochuluka kwambiri kwa ine ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndine wodzikonda mokwanira kuti ndikhale naye pafupi, chifukwa ndi munthu amene amandipangitsa kukhala wofunitsitsa kukhala ndi moyo, osati kungokhalako mopanda nzeru.
Sindikudziwa ngati Sunil adzabweranso mawa, koma ndithu ndidzabwera. Ndikhala ndikuyembekeza kuti abwera. Ndipo ngakhale sabwera mawa kapena mawa, ndikudziwa kuti pamapeto pake adzabwera. N'zosavuta kunyalanyaza kuti magetsi pakati pathu, koma olimba mtima kwambiri kuvomereza. Ndikudabwa kuti ndi anthu angati omwe akanakhala ndi mphamvu zochitira zimenezi akanakhala kuti ali m'malo mwanga. Ndikudabwa kuti ndi anthu angati omwe ali ndi mphamvu zokhala ndi moyo, komanso kukhala ndi moyo.
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
Mawu akuti mkazi wa Sunil akuganiza kuti ndi wotopetsa monga momwe mwamuna wanu amafotokozera zonse. Kutanthauza kuti adatopa ndi mkazi wake ndikuyesera kukunyengererani kuti mukhale naye paubwenzi pokhala wodekha, ndikukudziwitsani nzeru zake komanso luso lake la HR kuti mukhale olumikizidwa. Mwina mukuchita zimenezi mwaphunzira luso lochepa komanso zinthu zatsopano zochepa. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, mukhoza kumulemekeza ndi kukhalabe bwenzi. Kupitirira izi palibenso china. Udzu ndi wobiriwira nthawi zonse mbali ina. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kwa iye, mkazi wake ndi wotopetsa ndipo akuyesera kuti azikukondani. Momwemonso, kwa Inu, mbali ina ndi yosangalatsa. Ndi kukhumudwa kwanu kapena kusokonekera kwanu m'banja mwanu komwe simunakambirane momasuka ndi mwamuna wanu kuti muthetse zomwe zikukuchititsani misala paubwenzi wakunja kwa banja. Pl.zikonza m'banja mwanu. Kupanda kutero udzakhala woluza ndikuwononga banja lako. Zinthu zonse zimayenda bwino motere monga munthu wina yemwe ali ndi mikhalidwe yapadera komanso yosangalatsa, yerekezerani ndi hubby ndikutsimikiza kuti hubby alibe ntchito. Ngati ali munthu wogwedezeka chonchi, n’chifukwa chiyani mkazi wake amatopa kwambiri? Chifukwa amachitira mkazi wake panyumba monga momwe mwamuna wako amakuchitira lero. Ndizomwezo. Chiyembekezo chanzeru chimapambana.