N'chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatira amabera? Funsoli likupitirizabe kusokoneza maganizo a amayi ambiri omwe akulimbana ndi kupwetekedwa mtima chifukwa cha kunyengedwa. Ngakhale kuti n'zosavuta kukopa chinyengo ndi stereotypes ngati "amuna adzakhala amuna", choonadi chifukwa chimene amuna kunyenga akazi awo akhoza kwambiri convoluted. Nanga n’chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatira amabera?
Kuchokera ku mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo mpaka zosowa zosakwanira, chilakolako chogonana, komanso ngakhale kudzikayikira - pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zingapangitse mwamuna wokwatira kusokera. Ndikofunikira kuti musapente zochitika zonse zachinyengo m'banja ndi burashi yomweyo ndikumvetsetsa bwino za izi.
Ngakhale sitikunena kuti akazi okwatiwa sachita chinyengo, ziwerengero zikusonyeza kuti amuna ndi omwe nthawi zambiri amachita chinyengo, kaya mwa kungogona usiku umodzi kapena kuchita zibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali. Tili ndi katswiri wathu wa zamaganizo Dr. Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., PGDTA), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu waubwenzi ndi Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy kuti atithandize kupeza mayankho a “N’chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatiwa amachita chinyengo kwa akazi awo?”
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti, kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti kuchuluka kwa kusakhulupirika kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuli pa 40%. Koma monga mwambi umanenera, kunyenga ndi chisankho. Palibe amene wachita khungu ndi chilakolako kapena chilakolako chogonana moti sazindikira kukula kwa vuto lomwe akudziikamo. Komabe, amuna ambiri amachita izi mwadala. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 25% ya amuna okwatira omwe adachita nawo kafukufukuyu anali ndi zibwenzi kunja kwa banja. Sichinthu chochepa ndipo chikusonyeza kuti kunyenga m'banja ndi chizolowezi, osati kusokonezeka.
Dr. Bhonsle akuvomereza. "Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo komanso zinthu zoopsa zomwe zingayambitse vutoli. Nkhani zonse za ubale ndi za munthu payekha zingapangitse mwamuna wokwatira kunyenga mkazi wake," akutero. Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu asakhulupiriridwe chifukwa maubwenzi - ndi anthu omwe ali nawo - ndi ovuta. Koma ngati mutayang'anitsitsa, zifukwa zingapo zodziwika bwino zimabuka. Ndiye, nchifukwa chiyani amuna okwatira amachita chinyengo? Nthawi zambiri, ndi chifukwa chimodzi mwa zifukwa 13 izi zomwe zalembedwa pansipa. Chifukwa chake, ngati nthawi zambiri mumadzifunsa kuti, "Kodi mwamuna wanga amachita chinyengo?", muyenera kudutsa mfundo izi ndikupeza ngati ali:
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1. Kutopa m’banja
Mwamuna wonyenga muubwenzi akhoza kungotopa. Kutopa muubwenzi ndi moyo, kawirikawiri, ndi chiopsezo chachikulu chomwe chimabwera chifukwa chokhala okhazikika, okhazikika, komanso ogwirizana moyo wonse. Pokhapokha ngati onse awiri ayesetsa kuti asunge chikondi chawo, kutopa kumeneku nthawi zambiri kumawapangitsa kukhala kutali. Ndipo ndi mtunda womwewo womwe nthawi zambiri umapanga malo kuti munthu wachitatu alowe mu mgwirizano.
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Kunyong’onyeka kobwera chifukwa cha zochita za tsiku ndi tsiku ndi kusoŵa chisangalalo m’chibwenzi kungakhale zoyambitsa zamphamvu kwambiri kwa mwamuna kunyenga mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Zikatero, munthu amene ali pachibwenzi angabwere ngati kamphepo kayeziyezi, n’kupereka chisangalalo chodetsa nkhaŵa chimene amapeza kuti sichinalipo muubwenzi wake wokhazikika.
2. Kusadzidalira ndi kudzidalira
Tonsefe timakhala ndi zofooka zathu zomwe zimatisiya ndi kudziona koyipa. Kusadzidalira kumeneku nthawi zambiri kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi kudzikayikira. Izi ndizovuta zamaganizo ndipo si aliyense amene angathe kuthana nazo mwaumoyo. Choncho, anthu nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito njira zoopsa zopezera chitetezo, monga kubera. Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika muzochitika zotere:
- A munthu amene akulimbana ndi kudzikayikira ndipo kusatetezeka kungaike pachiwopsezo unansi wake wodzipereka chifukwa cha chibwenzi chakunja kapena zochitika zingapo zakugonana kunja kwa ukwati wake chifukwa chongokhutira kwakanthawi zomwe zochitikazi zimapereka.
- Kufunidwa ndi kufunidwa ndi mkazi wina kungamupangitse kudzimva kukhala woyenera komanso wabwino pa iye, ndipo kutsimikizika kumeneko kungakhale kolimbikitsa kokwanira kuti mwamuna aike pachiwopsezo kukhazikika kwa ubale wake ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake komanso banja lake.
Polankhula pankhaniyi, katswiri wa zamaganizo Pragati Surekha adauza kale Bonobology kuti, "Maganizo a munthu wonyenga amatha kukhudzidwa ndi malingaliro ena a kusakwanira. Munthu akamaona kuti akusowa mbali ina ya moyo wake, amatha kubweza ngongoleyo mwa kufunafuna chitsimikizo kuchokera kwina, chifukwa ndi njira yosavuta yogwiritsira ntchito zofooka zake."
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3. Kukwatirana mopanda chiwerewere kapena kukana kugonana
Limodzi mwa mayankho ofala kwambiri pa funso lakuti “N’chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatira amachita chinyengo?” ndi kusagonana. Zotsatira za ukwati wopanda kugonana pa mwamuna zingakhale zazikulu, makamaka zikachitika msanga muukwati ndipo chilakolako chake cha kugonana chikadali champhamvu. N’chimodzimodzinso ndi kukanidwa kugonana: pamene zokopa za mwamuna zikukanidwa nthawi zonse ndi mwamuna wake. Kukanidwa koteroko kungayambitse:
- Kukhumudwa kwa zofuna za kugonana zomwe sizinakwaniritsidwe
- Kudziona kukhala wofunika kwa munthuyo
Ngakhale kuti nkhani zoterozo zingayankhidwe mwaumoyo mwa kulankhulana momveka bwino za zosoŵa za munthu, kapena kukambitsirana ndi katswiri wodziŵa za kugonana, kupeza chitonthozo mwa mkazi wina kaŵirikaŵiri kumaoneka ngati njira yosavuta, kwa amuna ambiri.
4. Kulanga kapena kubwezera mkazi wake
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Maganizo a mwamuna wobera amakhala kuti amagwiritsa ntchito chigololo monga njira yolangira kapena kubwezera mnzakeyo.” Chilango chimenechi chingakhale chifukwa cha zimene mwamuna kapena mkazi wake wachita kapena chifukwa choipidwa ndi zimene wachita m’banja. Zofuna zosakwaniritsidwa izi zitha kukhala:
- Zofuna zakugonana
- Zosowa zapamtima (Amuna, nawonso, amafuna kumva kukondedwa, kufunidwa, ndi kuyamikiridwa mu ubale wawo wapamtima)
- Zofuna kulankhulana
- Zofunikira zachitetezo (Ngati mwamuna akuwona kuti mkazi wake sakukhulupirika kwa iye kapena akhoza kusiya ubalewo mpaka kalekale)
Komabe, pamene okwatirana akukhala okhazikika m'moyo wawo, okwatirana angasiye kuyesetsa kuuzana zinthu zazing'onozi. Pakapita nthawi, kusasamala kumeneku muubwenzi kumawalekanitsa, ndipo mwamunayo angayambe kufunafuna chikondi ndi chiyamikiro kuchokera kwa wina. Umu ndi momwe nkhani zambiri zamaganizo zimayambira.
5. Nyengo ya chipatso choletsedwa
Nanga n’cifukwa ciani amuna amene ali m’banja losangalala (kapena ooneka kuti ali osangalala) amabera? Chifukwa chimodzi chachikulu chimene mwamuna amachitira chinyengo mkazi wake ndicho nyambo ya chipatso choletsedwacho. Chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo chochita chinthu chovuta kwambiri ndikuchisiya kungakhale kosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa kukhala ndi orgasm yabwino kwambiri, ndipo kuthamanga kwa adrenaline kumeneku kumatha kukhala kolimbikitsa kwambiri kwa munthu wachinyengo.
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6. Kugonana ndi akazi
Yankho la "Chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatirana amabera?" Angapezekenso mu chikhalidwe cha makolo ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu. Zikuoneka kuti m’mbiri yonse, amuna akhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri popanda cholakwa chilichonse chifukwa chakuti amuna akhala akumaona ngati umboni wa mphamvu zawo ndi umuna wawo.
Dr. Bhonsle akuvomereza kuti kusudzula akazi kungakhale chifukwa cha zochita za amuna ambiri osakhulupirika. Iye akuti, “Mwamuna amanyenga mkazi wake chifukwa maganizo ake osudzula akazi amati, “Ndikhoza kuchita chilichonse chimene ndikufuna ndipo iye ayenera kuchilandira.” Pazochitika zotere, mwamuna wosudzula amayang'ana kwambiri pa chinthu cha 'ine' osati chinthu cha 'ife'.
“Zili ngati njira yongoganizira za ogula m’banja, kumene amayembekezera mlingo winawake kapena mtundu wa utumiki, ndipo ngati ziyembekezozo sizikukwaniritsidwa, amaona kuti n’koyenera kwa iye kuchita chinyengo.
7. Kalembedwe kake
Mwamuna wonyenga muubwenzi nthawi zambiri sangakhale wotsogozedwa ndi chilakolako kapena kudziona ngati wopanda pake. Maganizo a mwamuna wonyenga nthawi zambiri amakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zingapo zamaganizo zomwe zingamupangitse kuwononga ubale wake ndi wokondedwa wake mosazindikira. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zotere zomwe zimapezeka mwa mwamuna wosakhulupirika ndi kalembedwe kodziphatika, kapena kunena zoona, kalembedwe kodziphatika ndi nkhawa . Anthu omwe ali ndi kalembedwe kameneka:
- Amasamala zaubwenzi komanso amavutika kuti asunge ubale wodzipereka
- Akhoza kumakalipira anzawo nthawi zambiri
- Angathe kudzitalikitsa mwamalingaliro kuchokera kwa wina yemwe akuyesera kuyandikira kwa iwo
- Atha kutengera makhalidwe odziwononga okha monga kubera
Njira yolumikizirana iyi ndi chifukwa choleredwa ndi osamalira omwe sapezeka. Apa ndi pamene mwana amaphunzira kuti ali ndi yekhayekha wodalira. Chifukwa chakuti zosoŵa zamaganizo za munthu zinanyalanyazidwa, kuchepetsedwa, kapena kuthetsedwa, kukhala wodzikonda ndi wodzipatula kumakhala njira yodzitetezera.
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8. The 'ex' factor
Kuopsa kwa kusakhulupirika ndi chimodzi mwa zoopsa zazikulu zobwereranso ku chibwenzi ndi wakale mukakhala pabanja . Dr. Bhonsle akuti, "Ngati mwamuna wakhala pachibwenzi champhamvu kale, akadali ndi malingaliro pa wakale, kapena ali ndi ubwenzi wapamtima ndi wakale, zimatha kusanduka malo oti muyambire chibwenzi." Akugawana zifukwa zotsatirazi zomwe mwamuna angabwererenso kwa mnzake wakale ngakhale kuti ali pabanja:
- Pali chilimbikitso chamalingaliro m'chigwirizano chimenecho
- Pali kudalira
- Amaona kuti amamumvetsa bwino kuposa mkazi wake
- Pakhala pali chemistry yabwino yogonana pakati pa awiriwa
9. Zowawa za ubwana ndi zochitika
Zimene munthu anakumana nazo paubwana wake zingam’pangitse kukhala wololera kukhala wosakhulupirika. Mwachitsanzo,
- Ngati munthu wavutika nkhanza paubwana/ kupwetekedwa mtima monga nkhanza zakuthupi, zamaganizo, kapena zogonana (ndipo zowawazo sizinayankhidwe), amatha kubera mu ubale wake wapamtima.
- Momwemonso, kuchitira umboni kusakhulupirika kwapafupi - kholo likubera mnzake - kungapangitsenso mwayi wobera.
Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti ana omwe adakumana ndi vuto la kusakhulupirika m'mabanja a makolo awo anali ndi mwayi wochita chinyengo kawiri kuposa omwe sanachite chinyengo.
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10. Kugonana
Amuna ambiri okwatira amabera chifukwa chakuti amakonda kugonana . Mnzanga wina, Cathy, anandiuza zakukhosi milungu ingapo yapitayo. Anati mwamuna wake, George, wakhala akuchita zibwenzi zambiri ndi akazi ndipo tsopano anali kuchita chibwenzi ndi mnzake wantchito Linda, zomwe anazipeza powerenga mauthenga ake.
Anati George anali mwamuna wodzipereka ndipo ankamusamalira bwino. Anamuuzanso kuti amamukonda ndipo anamupatsa mphatso. Koma pankhani ya kugonana, George anali ndi chizolowezi chosochera nthawi ndi nthawi. Iye anati: “Kodi mwamuna wanga amabera? Pomaliza ndinamva, Cathy akukonzekera kusudzulana.
11. Kusafuna kudziwongolera
Kaŵirikaŵiri, amuna okwatira azaka zambiri samaŵerengera mlandu pa zochita zawo. Potchula akazi awo kuti "akuvutitsa" mafunso ndi madandaulo awo, amasankha kupeza malo otetezeka kutali ndi maudindo onse. Ndipo zochitika zimawapatsa malo otetezeka amenewo, kutali ndi kuyankha kulikonse. Choncho, amuna, mwachiwonekere, amapewa kuchita bwino:
- Mkhalidwe wawo wachuma
- Kukhwima maganizo kwawo
- Zizolowezi zawo, monga kutchova njuga kapena mowa/kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
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12. Makhalidwe
Nthawi zina, makhalidwe achibadwa ndi omwe amachititsa amuna kukhala osakhulupirika. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti amuna omwe ali ndi makhalidwe odzikonda amakhala ndi mwayi waukulu wochita chinyengo kuposa omwe alibe makhalidwe otere. Ndipo makhalidwe ena oterewa omwe angasonyeze kuti mwamuna akhoza kuchita chinyengo ndi awa:
- Kunyalanyaza malingaliro a anthu ena
- Kudzikonda mopambanitsa
- Kuyatsa ena
- Kunyoza ena
- Kunyalanyaza zofuna ndi zofuna za wokondedwa wawo
Izi mwina zikufotokozera za psychology yomwe imayambitsa kubera ndi kunama.
13. Mavuto apakati pa moyo
Tonse tamva za vuto la pakati pa moyo : chilakolako chosatha chofuna kuchita zinthu zomwe munthu sanachite mpaka atakwanitsa zaka zinazake. Polemedwa ndi ziyembekezo za m'banja komanso kupsinjika maganizo kuntchito, amuna opitirira zaka zina amakonda kupeza njira yothawira. Ndipo nthawi zambiri, amafunafuna njira yothawirayi mwa kuchita chibwenzi.
Wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit anati, "Mwamuna wanga wakale anandinyenga, kenako anathawa ndi mkaziyo, kundisiya kuti ndikatenge zinthu ndi ana anga. Zinali zosayembekezereka. Kwatha miyezi 16 tsopano, tasudzulana ndipo anakwatiranso ndipo akukonzekera kukhala ndi mwana posachedwa. Ndikuyesetsabe kupeza chomwe chinachitikadi."
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N'chifukwa Chiyani Amuna Amabera Koma Amakhalabe Ndi Akazi Awo?
Funso lina lodziwika bwino lokhudzana ndi kusakhulupirika komwe kumapitirizidwa ndi amuna ndilakuti: chifukwa chiyani onyenga amafuna kukhalabe paubwenzi? Eya, ngati mwamuna akupereka chidaliro cha munthu amene analumbirirapo kumkonda ndi kumsamalira kwa moyo wake wonse, kodi angakhaledi m’banja losangalala? Koma inde, amuna ambiri omwe amabera amawoneka okondwa m'maukwati awo, ndipo ndithudi amayang'ana mabokosi ambiri a moyo wosangalala, wokhutira - osachepera kunja.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti amuna ambiri ochita zachinyengo amapitirizabe kukhala m'banja. Ngakhale kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti pafupifupi 45% ya mabanja onse osudzulana amakhala chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika, ziwerengero zimasonyezanso kuti anthu 5-7% okha ndi omwe amasiya akazi awo kapena okwatirana nawo kwa nthawi yayitali n’kupita ku zibwenzi zawo.
Nanga n’chifukwa chiyani onyenga amafuna kukhalabe m’mabwenzi? Dr. Bhonsle ali ndi zifukwa zotsatirazi:
- Kukanidwa ndi anthu kungakhale cholepheretsa chachikulu
- Chitsenderezo cha banja chingapangitse mwamuna kukhalabe pabanja koma amaberabe
- Iye sangafune kuti ana ake azunzike chifukwa cha chisudzulo
- Mwamuna kapena mkazi wake atha kupereka thandizo loyenera kubanja - kusamalira ana kapena kusamalira akulu omwe akudwala m'banjamo - zomwe sangafune kusokoneza.
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Pakalipano, pali zinthu zingapo zomveka bwino - amuna ambiri amabera akazi awo; mphamvu zosonkhezera zochita za mwamuna wachinyengo zingachokere pa mkhalidwe wa ukwati mpaka ku nkhani zamaganizo ndi zamaganizo; ndipo mosasamala kanthu za chinyengo, iye sangafune kuuleka ukwatiwo.
Koma ngati ndinu mkazi amene mwakumanapo ndi vutoli, ndi nthawi yoti muganizire momwe mungachitire ndi mwamuna wonyenga . Akazi ambiri amakonda kukhalabe m'mabanja ndi amuna awo osanyenga ngakhale atakhala kuti sanathetsedi kukhumudwa kapena kukhululukira okondedwa awo chifukwa cha zolakwa zawo chifukwa amaona kuti kuchoka si njira yabwino.
Pazimenezi, Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Kumbukirani kuti nthaŵi zonse mumakhala ndi zosankha ndi zosankha m’moyo. Ngati mupeza kuti mukuberedwa, nawa malangizo okuthandizani kuthana ndi vuto lanu:
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1. Kambiranani ndi mwamuna wanu wachinyengo
Osayang'ana maso kuti mwamuna wako akunyenga. M'malo mwake, kambiranani ndi kukambirana. Dr. Bhonsle akulangiza kuti, “Kambitsiranani ndi mwamuna wanu m’njira yotsogolera kukambitsirana za zimene zili m’tsogolo.” Chifukwa chake, muyenera kukhala ndi mayankho a mafunso otsatirawa:
- Kodi kuberako kudzatha?
- Ngati zingatheke, kodi mungapatsenso banja mwayi wina?
- Muthana nazo bwanji? kuthetsa ukwati?
2. Kudzisamalira kuyenera kukhala kofunika kwambiri
Kumbukirani kuti kunyengedwa ndi vuto lalikulu, ndipo mphepo yamkuntho yamalingaliro omwe mukukumana nawo ndi yovomerezeka. Osatsekereza malingaliro osasangalatsawa. M'malo mwake, yesetsani kudzisamalira nokha, ndipo chitani zomwe mukufunikira kuti muthe kuthana ndi zowawazo. Kudzisamalira, muzochitika zotere kungatanthauze:
- Zolimbitsa thupi tsiku ndi tsiku
- Kudya wathanzi
- Kulemba
- Kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa, monga woumba mbiya, kuwerenga, kapena kujambula zithunzi
- kusinkhasinkha
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3. Ganizirani zomwe mukufuna nokha
Ululu woyamba ndi kupweteka kwayamba kuzilala, ganizirani zomwe mukufuna kuchita kenako. Muyenera kukhala ndi mayankho a mafunso otsatirawa:
- Kodi mukufuna kupereka anu kunyenga mwamuna mwayi wina?
- Kodi mukufuna kutuluka m'banja?
- Ngati mutuluka, ndi chithandizo chotani chomwe mungafune kuti musinthe?
Kuthetsa ukwati ndi chisankho chachikulu, ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti zifukwa zanu zili zomveka chotani, muyenera kutsimikizira kuti izi sizikukhudzidwa ndi kupwetekedwa mtima kumene mwakhumudwitsidwa koma chisankho choganiziridwa bwino.
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4. Phatikizanipo wina
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Malingana ndi zimene mwasankha, mungafunikire kuphatikizira munthu wina woti ayendetse ubale wanu kuyambira pano. Popanda kuthandizidwa ndi munthu wina, inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu simungakhale ndi chichirikizo choti mufike pa gwero la kusakhulupirikako, kukonza ubwenzi wanu, ndi kuchiradi ku vuto limeneli.
5. Pitani patsogolo
Kaya mwasankha chiyani, muyenera kusiya izi - kaya muli nokha kapena ndi mnzanu. Onetsetsani kuti simukunyalanyaza ulendo wanu wochira chifukwa kupsinjika maganizo chifukwa chonyengedwa kungakusintheni m'njira zambiri. Ndikofunikira kuonetsetsa kuti mabala amenewo achiritsidwa ndipo sadzasanduka zinthu zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala ndi makhalidwe oipa mtsogolo.
Ponena za momwe mungapitirire patsogolo, wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit akuti, "Mwa kuvomereza mfundo yakuti iye analibe ulemu kapena chikondi pa inu. Munthu mmodzi amene mumamudalira kwambiri padziko lapansi kuti amasamalira mtima wanu anakusiyani m'njira yoipa kwambiri. Uyu si munthu yemweyo amene munakwatirana naye. Tengani nthawi yoganizira za ukwatiwo. Kusudzulana kuli ngati imfa. Zimatenga nthawi. Mukatha kuganiza bwino mudzawona zizindikiro zonse zofiira zomwe munaphonya kapena kunyalanyaza. Mudzatha "kuona" kuti munthuyu wakuchitirani zabwino ndipo ndibwino kuti muzisamalira mtima wanu."
Infographic Pazifukwa Zomwe Amuna Okwatirana Amabera
Nazi mwachidule zifukwa zomwe abambo omwe ali pabanja kapena omwe ali paubwenzi wodzipereka amakonda kubera komanso momwe angathanirane ndi mikhalidwe yotere:
Mafunso Ofunsidwa Kawirikawiri
Ayi, n’zoona kuti amuna ambiri okwatira kapena odzipereka amakonda kubera. Koma ichi sichiyenera kukhala chifukwa chongokhalira kunena kuti amuna onse amabera. Kaya mwamuna amakhala wachinyengo kapena ayi zimatengera zinthu zambiri, monga zovuta zapakati pa moyo, chizolowezi chogonana, ndi zina.
N’zotheka kuti mwamuna azikonda mkazi wake ndi banja lake n’kupitirizabe kuchita zinthu zina. Izi zili choncho chifukwa sikuti nthawi zonse amuna amabera chikondi. Amabera kuti apumule ku mlandu komanso kupsinjika. Angachitenso chinyengo chifukwa chakuti moyo wawo wa m’banja ungakhale wotopetsa kapena chifukwa chongolawa chipatso choletsedwacho.
Amuna amabera pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Choncho, zimene zimafika m’maganizo mwa mwamuna akamaonera zingasiyane munthu ndi munthu. Ena angadzimve kukhala olakwa chifukwa chobera akazi kapena okondedwa awo, pamene ena angalungamitse chinyengo ponena kuti sanapeze zosowa zawo zamaganizo kapena zakuthupi muubwenzi.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- N’zoona kuti amuna ambiri okwatira amachitira chinyengo akazi awo
- Zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhulupirika zimatha kuyambira kunyong'onyeka muubwenzi mpaka zosowa zosakwanira, kunyoza amuna, kukhalapo kwa munthu wakale, komanso kupwetekedwa mtima kosachiritsika.
- Ngakhale kuti amabera, amuna ambiri safuna kuchoka m’mabanja awo
- Kudziwa kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wasiya kumukhulupirira kungakhale chinthu chopweteka kwambiri chimene chingakulepheretseni kukhumudwa.
- Ndikofunikira kuwonetsetsa kuti mukukonza zowawazo m'njira yabwino kwambiri ndikusankha zochita zamtsogolo
Maganizo Final
Kotero, tikuyembekeza kuti tsopano muli ndi mayankho onse a funso, "N'chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatirana amabera?" Momwemonso, tikuyembekeza kuti mukudziwa yankho lakuti, "Kodi anthu onse amabera?", Ndi momveka ayi. Ndipo zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimachititsa kuti munthu asankhe kusakhulupirika akhoza kukhala osiyanasiyana. Kuyesera kumvetsetsa za psychology kumbuyo kwa chinyengo ndi kunama kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mnzanuyo komanso momwe zinthu zilili mwachifundo.
Kodi mwamuna angabere ndi kukonda mkazi wake? Gehena, inde! Chifukwa angakhale akungobera kuti akhutiritse kusatetezeka kwina. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti mumachepetsa ululu wanu kapena kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cha zochita zawo. Komabe, malingaliro abwino angakuthandizeni kuti muzitha kusokoneza mwamuna wanu wachinyengo m'malo momuchitira ziwanda, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuwunika zomwe mukufunadi nokha ndi ubale wanu.
Zovuta Kumanganso Ubale Pambuyo pa Chinyengo Ndi Momwe Mungayendetsere
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
