N'chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatira amabera? Funsoli likupitirizabe kusokoneza maganizo a amayi ambiri omwe akulimbana ndi kupwetekedwa mtima chifukwa cha kunyengedwa. Ngakhale kuti n'zosavuta kukopa chinyengo ndi stereotypes ngati "amuna adzakhala amuna", choonadi chifukwa chimene amuna kunyenga akazi awo akhoza kwambiri convoluted. Nanga n’chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatira amabera?
Kuchokera ku mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo mpaka zosowa zosakwanira, chilakolako chogonana, komanso ngakhale kudzikayikira - pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zingapangitse mwamuna wokwatira kusokera. Ndikofunikira kuti musapente zochitika zonse zachinyengo m'banja ndi burashi yomweyo ndikumvetsetsa bwino za izi.
Ngakhale sitikunena kuti akazi okwatiwa samabera, ziwerengero zimasonyeza kuti amuna sachedwa kubera, kaya mwangochita chiwerewere usiku umodzi kapena kugonana kwa nthaŵi yaitali. Tili ndi katswiri wathu wazamisala Dr. Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., PGDTA), amene amagwira ntchito yopereka uphungu paubwenzi ndi Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy kuti atithandize kupeza mayankho a mafunso akuti “N’chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatira amabera mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo?”
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Chochititsa chidwi, kafukufuku amatsimikizira kuti chiwopsezo cha kusakhulupirika chikupitilira 40%. Koma mwambiwu umati, kubera ndi kusankha. Palibe amene wachititsidwa khungu ndi chilakolako kapena chilakolako chogonana kotero kuti sazindikira kukula kwa vuto lomwe akudzilowetsamo. Komabe, amuna ambiri amapita dala panjira imeneyi. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina wa bungwe la American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 25% ya amuna okwatira omwe anachita nawo kafukufukuyu anali ndi zibwenzi kunja kwa banja. Imeneyo si nambala yochepa ndipo imasonyeza zimenezo kunyenga m'banja ndi chizolowezi, osati kusintha.
Dr. Bhonsle amavomereza. Iye anati: “Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo komanso zinthu zimene zingawononge moyo wawo. Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambirimbiri zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhulupirika chifukwa maubwenzi - ndi anthu omwe alimo - ndi ovuta. Koma ngati muyang'anitsitsa, pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimawonekera. Nanga n’chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatira amabera? Nthawi zambiri, ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa 13 zomwe zalembedwa pansipa. Kotero, ngati nthawi zambiri mumadabwa kuti, "Kodi mwamuna wanga akunyenga?", muyenera kudutsa mfundo izi ndikupeza ngati ali:
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1. Kutopa m’banja
Mwamuna amene akubera pachibwenzi akhoza kungotopa. Kutopa mu ubale ndipo moyo, ambiri, ndi chiwopsezo chenicheni chimene chimabwera ndi kukhala wokhazikika, wokhazikika, ndi wogwirizana kwa moyo wonse. Pokhapokha ngati onse awiri atayesetsa kuti asunge moto, kunyong'onyeka kumeneku nthawi zambiri kumawapangitsa kutalikirana. Ndipo ndi mtunda womwewu womwe nthawi zambiri umapanga malo kuti munthu wachitatu abwere mu equation.
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Kunyong’onyeka kobwera chifukwa cha zochita za tsiku ndi tsiku ndi kusoŵa chisangalalo m’chibwenzi kungakhale zoyambitsa zamphamvu kwambiri kwa mwamuna kunyenga mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Zikatero, munthu amene ali pachibwenzi angabwere ngati kamphepo kayeziyezi, n’kupereka chisangalalo chodetsa nkhaŵa chimene amapeza kuti sichinalipo muubwenzi wake wokhazikika.
2. Kusadzidalira ndi kudzidalira
Tonsefe timakhala ndi zofooka zathu zomwe zimatisiya ndi kudziona koyipa. Kusadzidalira kumeneku nthawi zambiri kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi kudzikayikira. Izi ndizovuta zamaganizo ndipo si aliyense amene angathe kuthana nazo mwaumoyo. Choncho, anthu nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito njira zoopsa zopezera chitetezo, monga kubera. Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika muzochitika zotere:
- A munthu amene akulimbana ndi kudzikayikira ndipo kusatetezeka kungaike pachiwopsezo unansi wake wodzipereka chifukwa cha chibwenzi chakunja kapena zochitika zingapo zakugonana kunja kwa ukwati wake chifukwa chongokhutira kwakanthawi zomwe zochitikazi zimapereka.
- Kufunidwa ndi kufunidwa ndi mkazi wina kungamupangitse kudzimva kukhala woyenera komanso wabwino pa iye, ndipo kutsimikizika kumeneko kungakhale kolimbikitsa kokwanira kuti mwamuna aike pachiwopsezo kukhazikika kwa ubale wake ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake komanso banja lake.
Ponena za nkhaniyi, katswiri wa zamaganizo Pragati Surekha M’mbuyomu anauza Bonobology kuti: “Maganizo a munthu wobera angayambe kutengera maganizo enaake odziona kuti ndi wosakwanira.” Munthu akamaona kuti akusoŵa mbali ina ya moyo wake, akhoza kulipirira pofunafuna chitsimikiziro kuchokera kwina, popeza kuti ndi njira ina yosavuta yochitiradi zolakwa zake.”
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3. Kukwatirana mopanda chiwerewere kapena kukana kugonana
Limodzi mwamayankho odziwika ku funso lakuti "Chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatirana amabera?" ndi kusowa kugonana. The zotsatira za ukwati wosagonana pa mwamuna Zitha kukhala zozama, makamaka zikachitika kumayambiriro kwaukwati ndipo libido yake ikadali yamphamvu. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi kukana kugonana: pamene chilakolako chogonana cha mwamuna chimakanidwa nthawi zonse ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Kukana koteroko kungayambitse:
- Kukhumudwa kwa zofuna za kugonana zomwe sizinakwaniritsidwe
- Kudziona kukhala wofunika kwa munthuyo
Ngakhale kuti nkhani zoterozo zingayankhidwe mwaumoyo mwa kulankhulana momveka bwino za zosoŵa za munthu, kapena kukambitsirana ndi katswiri wodziŵa za kugonana, kupeza chitonthozo mwa mkazi wina kaŵirikaŵiri kumaoneka ngati njira yosavuta, kwa amuna ambiri.
4. Kulanga kapena kubwezera mkazi wake
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Maganizo a mwamuna wobera amakhala kuti amagwiritsa ntchito chigololo monga njira yolangira kapena kubwezera mnzakeyo.” Chilango chimenechi chingakhale chifukwa cha zimene mwamuna kapena mkazi wake wachita kapena chifukwa choipidwa ndi zimene wachita m’banja. Zofuna zosakwaniritsidwa izi zitha kukhala:
- Zofuna zakugonana
- Zosowa zapamtima (Amuna, nawonso, amafuna kumva kukondedwa, kufunidwa, ndi kuyamikiridwa mu ubale wawo wapamtima)
- Zofuna kulankhulana
- Zofunikira zachitetezo (Ngati mwamuna akuwona kuti mkazi wake sakukhulupirika kwa iye kapena akhoza kusiya ubalewo mpaka kalekale)
Komabe, pamene okwatirana akukhazikika m’moyo wawo, okwatirana angaleke kuyesetsa kuuzana zinthu zing’onozing’onozi. Patapita nthawi, izi kusasamala mu ubale amawalekanitsa, ndipo mwamunayo angayambe kufunafuna chikondi ndi kuyamikiridwa kwa munthu wina. Umu ndi momwe zinthu zambiri zamalingaliro zimayambira.
5. Nyengo ya chipatso choletsedwa
Nanga n’cifukwa ciani amuna amene ali m’banja losangalala (kapena ooneka kuti ali osangalala) amabera? Chifukwa chimodzi chachikulu chimene mwamuna amachitira chinyengo mkazi wake ndicho nyambo ya chipatso choletsedwacho. Chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo chochita chinthu chovuta kwambiri ndikuchisiya kungakhale kosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa kukhala ndi orgasm yabwino kwambiri, ndipo kuthamanga kwa adrenaline kumeneku kumatha kukhala kolimbikitsa kwambiri kwa munthu wachinyengo.
M'bukuli, Cheatingland: Maumboni Achinsinsi a Amuna Osochera, lomwe limafotokoza za kubera kwa amuna okwatirana 61 ndi zifukwa zake, “chisangalalo chake” ndi “kugonana koopsa” ndi nkhani zofala kwambiri. Choncho, ngati mwamuna wosakhulupirika wakhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri kapena maubwenzi osakhalitsa akunja, pali mwayi waukulu kuti akungochita zosangalatsa basi.
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6. Kugonana ndi akazi
Yankho la "Chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatirana amabera?" Angapezekenso mu chikhalidwe cha makolo ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu. Zikuoneka kuti m’mbiri yonse, amuna akhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri popanda cholakwa chilichonse chifukwa chakuti amuna akhala akumaona ngati umboni wa mphamvu zawo ndi umuna wawo.
Dr. Bhonsle akuvomereza kuti kunyansa akazi kungakhale chifukwa cha zimene amuna ambiri osakhulupirika amachita. Iye anati: “Mwamuna amabera mkazi wake chifukwa chakuti maganizo ake odana ndi akazi amati, “Ndikhoza kuchita chilichonse chimene ndikufuna ndipo mkaziyo ayenera kuchichita.” Zikatero, a kunyenga munthu imayang'ana kwambiri pa 'ine' factor kuposa 'we' factor.
“Zili ngati njira yongoganizira za ogula m’banja, kumene amayembekezera mlingo winawake kapena mtundu wa utumiki, ndipo ngati ziyembekezozo sizikukwaniritsidwa, amaona kuti n’koyenera kwa iye kuchita chinyengo.
7. Kalembedwe kake
Mwamuna amene amabera pachibwenzi nthawi zonse sangatengeke ndi chilakolako kapena kudzikayikira. Maganizo a mwamuna wachinyengo nthawi zambiri amakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zingapo zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti awononge ubale wake ndi mnzake. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zotere zomwe zingapezeke mwa mwamuna wosakhulupirika ndicho kugwirizana kosatetezeka, kapena kunena bwino, kuda nkhawa - kupewa kumamatira. Anthu omwe ali ndi mawonekedwe awa:
- Amasamala zaubwenzi komanso amavutika kuti asunge ubale wodzipereka
- Akhoza kumakalipira anzawo nthawi zambiri
- Angathe kudzitalikitsa mwamalingaliro kuchokera kwa wina yemwe akuyesera kuyandikira kwa iwo
- Atha kutengera makhalidwe odziwononga okha monga kubera
Njira yolumikizirana iyi ndi chifukwa choleredwa ndi osamalira omwe sapezeka. Apa ndi pamene mwana amaphunzira kuti ali ndi yekhayekha wodalira. Chifukwa chakuti zosoŵa zamaganizo za munthu zinanyalanyazidwa, kuchepetsedwa, kapena kuthetsedwa, kukhala wodzikonda ndi wodzipatula kumakhala njira yodzitetezera.
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8. The 'ex' factor
Kuopsa kwa kusakhulupirika ndi chimodzi mwa zoopsa zazikulu za kugwirizananso ndi mwamuna wakale atakwatirana. Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Ngati mwamuna anali ndi unansi wolimba m’mbuyomo, akadali ndi malingaliro a munthu wakale, kapena ali paubwenzi wapamtima ndi munthu wakale wakale, mwamsanga ukhoza kusanduka malo oyambitsirana chibwenzi.” Akufotokoza zifukwa zotsatirazi zomwe mwamuna angabwererenso kwa yemwe anali naye poyamba ngakhale kuti ali pabanja:
- Pali chilimbikitso chamalingaliro m'chigwirizano chimenecho
- Pali kudalira
- Amaona kuti amamumvetsa bwino kuposa mkazi wake
- Pakhala pali chemistry yabwino yogonana pakati pa awiriwa
9. Zowawa za ubwana ndi zochitika
Zimene munthu anakumana nazo paubwana wake zingam’pangitse kukhala wololera kukhala wosakhulupirika. Mwachitsanzo,
- Ngati munthu wavutika nkhanza paubwana/ kupwetekedwa mtima monga nkhanza zakuthupi, zamaganizo, kapena zogonana (ndipo zowawazo sizinayankhidwe), amatha kubera mu ubale wake wapamtima.
- Momwemonso, kuchitira umboni kusakhulupirika kwapafupi - kholo likubera mnzake - kungapangitsenso mwayi wobera.
A phunziro wapeza kuti ana amene anachitiridwa chigololo m’maukwati a makolo awo anali okhoza kuŵirikiza kaŵiri kuchita chinyengo kuposa amene sanali.
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10. Kugonana
Amuna ambiri okwatirana amabera chifukwa ali wokonda kugonana. Mnzanga wina, Cathy, anandiuza zakukhosi milungu ingapo yapitayo. Iye adati mwamuna wake, George, adakhalapo ndi akazi angapo ndipo tsopano anali pachibwenzi ndi mnzake wantchito Linda, zomwe adazipeza powerenga zolemba zake.
Anati George anali mwamuna wodzipereka ndipo ankamusamalira bwino. Anamuuzanso kuti amamukonda ndipo anamupatsa mphatso. Koma pankhani ya kugonana, George anali ndi chizolowezi chosochera nthawi ndi nthawi. Iye anati: “Kodi mwamuna wanga amabera? Pomaliza ndinamva, Cathy akukonzekera kusudzulana.
11. Kusafuna kudziwongolera
Kaŵirikaŵiri, amuna okwatira azaka zambiri samaŵerengera mlandu pa zochita zawo. Potchula akazi awo kuti "akuvutitsa" mafunso ndi madandaulo awo, amasankha kupeza malo otetezeka kutali ndi maudindo onse. Ndipo zochitika zimawapatsa malo otetezeka amenewo, kutali ndi kuyankha kulikonse. Choncho, amuna, mwachiwonekere, amapewa kuchita bwino:
- Mkhalidwe wawo wachuma
- Kukhwima maganizo kwawo
- Zizolowezi zawo, monga kutchova njuga kapena mowa/kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
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12. Makhalidwe
Nthaŵi zina, mikhalidwe yachibadwa imachititsa amuna kusakhulupirika. A phunziro watsimikizira kuti amuna omwe ali ndi mikhalidwe yonyansa ndiwo amakonda kubera kuposa omwe alibe. Ndipo ena otero makhalidwe narcissistic Zomwe zingasonyeze kuti mwamuna akhoza kunyenga ndi:
- Kunyalanyaza malingaliro a anthu ena
- Kudzikonda mopambanitsa
- Kuyatsa ena
- Kunyoza ena
- Kunyalanyaza zofuna ndi zofuna za wokondedwa wawo
Izi mwina zikufotokozera za psychology yomwe imayambitsa kubera ndi kunama.
13. Mavuto apakati pa moyo
Tonse tamva zovuta zapakati pa moyo: chilakolako chosalephereka chofuna kuchita zinthu zomwe sunachite mpaka zaka zinazake. Polemedwa ndi ziyembekezo za banja ndi kupsinjika kwa ntchito, amuna opitirira msinkhu winawake amakonda kupeza njira yopulumukira. Ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri, amafunafuna njira yopulumukira imeneyi mwa kuchita chibwenzi.
A Reddit wosuta akuti, "Mwamuna wanga wakale adandinyenga, kenaka adathawa ndi mkaziyo, ndikundisiya kuti nditenge zidutswazo ndi ana anga. Zinali zovuta kwambiri. Patapita miyezi 16, tinasudzulana ndipo anakwatiranso ndipo akukonzekera kukhala ndi mwana posachedwa.
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N'chifukwa Chiyani Amuna Amabera Koma Amakhalabe Ndi Akazi Awo?
Funso lina lodziwika bwino lokhudzana ndi kusakhulupirika komwe kumapitirizidwa ndi amuna ndilakuti: chifukwa chiyani onyenga amafuna kukhalabe paubwenzi? Eya, ngati mwamuna akupereka chidaliro cha munthu amene analumbirirapo kumkonda ndi kumsamalira kwa moyo wake wonse, kodi angakhaledi m’banja losangalala? Koma inde, amuna ambiri omwe amabera amawoneka okondwa m'maukwati awo, ndipo ndithudi amayang'ana mabokosi ambiri a moyo wosangalala, wokhutira - osachepera kunja.
Chowonanso n'chakuti amuna ambiri onyenga amapitirizabe kukhala m'banja. Pamene kafukufuku zikusonyeza kuti pafupifupi 45% ya zisudzulo zonse zimachitika chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika, ziwerengero akuwonetsanso kuti 5-7% yokha ya anthu amasiya akazi kapena mabwenzi awo anthawi yayitali chifukwa cha zibwenzi zawo.
Nanga n’chifukwa chiyani onyenga amafuna kukhalabe m’mabwenzi? Dr. Bhonsle ali ndi zifukwa zotsatirazi:
- Kukanidwa ndi anthu kungakhale cholepheretsa chachikulu
- Chitsenderezo cha banja chingapangitse mwamuna kukhalabe pabanja koma amaberabe
- Iye sangafune kuti ana ake azunzike chifukwa cha chisudzulo
- Mwamuna kapena mkazi wake atha kupereka thandizo loyenera kubanja - kusamalira ana kapena kusamalira akulu omwe akudwala m'banjamo - zomwe sangafune kusokoneza.
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Pakalipano, pali zinthu zingapo zomveka bwino - amuna ambiri amabera akazi awo; mphamvu zosonkhezera zochita za mwamuna wachinyengo zingachokere pa mkhalidwe wa ukwati mpaka ku nkhani zamaganizo ndi zamaganizo; ndipo mosasamala kanthu za chinyengo, iye sangafune kuuleka ukwatiwo.
Koma ngati ndinu mkazi amene wakhala mu mkhalidwe umenewu, ndi nthawi kuganizira mmene thana ndi mwamuna wonyenga. Akazi ambiri amakonda kukhalabe m'mabanja ndi kubera okwatirana ngakhale pamene iwo moona kukonzedwa zowawa kapena kukhululukidwa okondedwa awo chifukwa cha zolakwa zawo chifukwa amaona kuti kutuluka si njira.
Pazimenezi, Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Kumbukirani kuti nthaŵi zonse mumakhala ndi zosankha ndi zosankha m’moyo. Ngati mupeza kuti mukuberedwa, nawa malangizo okuthandizani kuthana ndi vuto lanu:
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1. Kambiranani ndi mwamuna wanu wachinyengo
Osayang'ana maso kuti mwamuna wako akunyenga. M'malo mwake, kambiranani ndi kukambirana. Dr. Bhonsle akulangiza kuti, “Kambitsiranani ndi mwamuna wanu m’njira yotsogolera kukambitsirana za zimene zili m’tsogolo.” Chifukwa chake, muyenera kukhala ndi mayankho a mafunso otsatirawa:
- Kodi kuberako kudzatha?
- Ngati zingatheke, kodi mungapatsenso banja mwayi wina?
- Muthana nazo bwanji? kuthetsa ukwati?
2. Kudzisamalira kuyenera kukhala kofunika kwambiri
Kumbukirani kuti kunyengedwa ndi vuto lalikulu, ndipo mphepo yamkuntho yamalingaliro omwe mukukumana nawo ndi yovomerezeka. Osatsekereza malingaliro osasangalatsawa. M'malo mwake, yesetsani kudzisamalira nokha, ndipo chitani zomwe mukufunikira kuti muthe kuthana ndi zowawazo. Kudzisamalira, muzochitika zotere kungatanthauze:
- Zolimbitsa thupi tsiku ndi tsiku
- Kudya wathanzi
- Kulemba
- Kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa, monga woumba mbiya, kuwerenga, kapena kujambula zithunzi
- kusinkhasinkha
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3. Ganizirani zomwe mukufuna nokha
Ululu woyamba ndi kupweteka kwayamba kuzilala, ganizirani zomwe mukufuna kuchita kenako. Muyenera kukhala ndi mayankho a mafunso otsatirawa:
- Kodi mukufuna kupereka anu kunyenga mwamuna mwayi wina?
- Kodi mukufuna kutuluka m'banja?
- Ngati mutuluka, ndi chithandizo chotani chomwe mungafune kuti musinthe?
Kuthetsa ukwati ndi chisankho chachikulu, ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti zifukwa zanu zili zomveka chotani, muyenera kutsimikizira kuti izi sizikukhudzidwa ndi kupwetekedwa mtima kumene mwakhumudwitsidwa koma chisankho choganiziridwa bwino.
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4. Phatikizanipo wina
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Malingana ndi zimene mwasankha, mungafunikire kuphatikizira munthu wina woti ayendetse ubale wanu kuyambira pano. Popanda kuthandizidwa ndi munthu wina, inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu simungakhale ndi chichirikizo choti mufike pa gwero la kusakhulupirikako, kukonza ubwenzi wanu, ndi kuchiradi ku vuto limeneli.
5. Pitani patsogolo
Mosasamala kanthu za chisankho chanu, muyenera kuchoka pazimenezi - kaya nokha kapena ndi mnzanuyo. Onetsetsani kuti musanyalanyaze ulendo wanu wamachiritso chifukwa cha kupwetekedwa mtima kunyengedwa kungasinthe m'njira zambiri. Ndikofunikira kuwonetsetsa kuti mabalawo achira ndipo asasinthe kukhala zoyambitsa machitidwe anu osayenera m'tsogolomu.
Momwe mungapitirire patsogolo, a Reddit wosuta Munthu amene mumamudalira kwambiri m'dzikoli kuti akusamalireni mtima wanu anakuperekani m'njira yoipitsitsa kwambiri. Uyu si munthu yemwe munakwatirana naye. Tengani nthawi yosinkhasinkha za ukwati wanu. Kusudzulana kuli ngati imfa. Zimatenga nthawi. Mukatha kusonyeza mudzawona zizindikiro zonse zofiira zomwe munazinyalanyaza. " kukondedwa komanso kuti ndi bwino kuti usamalire mtima wako.
Infographic Pazifukwa Zomwe Amuna Okwatirana Amabera
Nazi mwachidule zifukwa zomwe abambo omwe ali pabanja kapena omwe ali paubwenzi wodzipereka amakonda kubera komanso momwe angathanirane ndi mikhalidwe yotere:
Mafunso Ofunsidwa Kawirikawiri
Ayi, n’zoona kuti amuna ambiri okwatira kapena odzipereka amakonda kubera. Koma ichi sichiyenera kukhala chifukwa chongokhalira kunena kuti amuna onse amabera. Kaya mwamuna amakhala wachinyengo kapena ayi zimatengera zinthu zambiri, monga zovuta zapakati pa moyo, chizolowezi chogonana, ndi zina.
N’zotheka kuti mwamuna azikonda mkazi wake ndi banja lake n’kupitirizabe kuchita zinthu zina. Izi zili choncho chifukwa sikuti nthawi zonse amuna amabera chikondi. Amabera kuti apumule ku mlandu komanso kupsinjika. Angachitenso chinyengo chifukwa chakuti moyo wawo wa m’banja ungakhale wotopetsa kapena chifukwa chongolawa chipatso choletsedwacho.
Amuna amabera pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Choncho, zimene zimafika m’maganizo mwa mwamuna akamaonera zingasiyane munthu ndi munthu. Ena angadzimve kukhala olakwa chifukwa chobera akazi kapena okondedwa awo, pamene ena angalungamitse chinyengo ponena kuti sanapeze zosowa zawo zamaganizo kapena zakuthupi muubwenzi.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- N’zoona kuti amuna ambiri okwatira amachitira chinyengo akazi awo
- Zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhulupirika zimatha kuyambira kunyong'onyeka muubwenzi mpaka zosowa zosakwanira, kunyoza amuna, kukhalapo kwa munthu wakale, komanso kupwetekedwa mtima kosachiritsika.
- Ngakhale kuti amabera, amuna ambiri safuna kuchoka m’mabanja awo
- Kudziwa kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wasiya kumukhulupirira kungakhale chinthu chopweteka kwambiri chimene chingakulepheretseni kukhumudwa.
- Ndikofunikira kuwonetsetsa kuti mukukonza zowawazo m'njira yabwino kwambiri ndikusankha zochita zamtsogolo
Maganizo Final
Kotero, tikuyembekeza kuti tsopano muli ndi mayankho onse a funso, "N'chifukwa chiyani amuna okwatirana amabera?" Momwemonso, tikuyembekeza kuti mukudziwa yankho lakuti, "Kodi anthu onse amabera?", Ndi momveka ayi. Ndipo zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimachititsa kuti munthu asankhe kusakhulupirika akhoza kukhala osiyanasiyana. Kuyesera kumvetsetsa za psychology kumbuyo kwa chinyengo ndi kunama kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mnzanuyo komanso momwe zinthu zilili mwachifundo.
Kodi mwamuna angabere ndi kukonda mkazi wake? Gehena, inde! Chifukwa angakhale akungobera kuti akhutiritse kusatetezeka kwina. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti mumachepetsa ululu wanu kapena kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cha zochita zawo. Komabe, malingaliro abwino angakuthandizeni kuti muzitha kusokoneza mwamuna wanu wachinyengo m'malo momuchitira ziwanda, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuwunika zomwe mukufunadi nokha ndi ubale wanu.
Zovuta Kumanganso Ubale Pambuyo pa Chinyengo Ndi Momwe Mungayendetsere
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
