Kusakhulupirika ndi chimodzi mwazovuta kwambiri zomwe ubale ungadutse. Ngakhale kuti ndi vuto laubwenzi kwa ambiri, siziyenera kukhala mathero a njira kwa okwatirana. Pali magawo obwezeretsa kusakhulupirika kuti muchiritse ku chibwenzi chomwe chingakuthandizeni kuchiritsa ndikulumikizananso wina ndi mnzake kapena kupeza njira yopitira patsogolo mwamtendere.
Inde, kuchira ku kusakhulupirika sikungatanthauze kuti mudzakhala limodzi nthawi zonse. Koma zivute zitani - kaya kukhala limodzi ndikupereka mwayi wina pachibwenzi chanu kapena kupita patsogolo ndikusintha tsamba latsopano - ndikofunikira kudutsa magawo ochira pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika. Kuti timvetse bwino za njirayi, tidalankhula ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Devaleena Ghosh (M.Res, Manchester University), yemwe adayambitsa Kornash: The Lifestyle Management School, yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wa mabanja ndi chithandizo cha mabanja.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
"Njira yochiritsira ku chigololo ndi yovuta kwambiri, koma n'zotheka kuyambiranso ubale ngati onse awiri akufuna kuti achite bwino ndikugwira ntchito mozama kuti akonzenso kukhulupirirana." Ambiri mwa maanja safika pamlingo woterewu chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika, koma omwe amathandizidwa nthawi zambiri amakhala amphamvu monga umunthu payekha pamene adutsa njira yochira, "akutero Devaleena.
Kuchira pambuyo pa chibwenzi kumafuna kumanganso chidaliro , kufooka, ndi kufunitsitsa kumva malingaliro anu onse, mosasamala kanthu kuti ndi oipa kapena olemetsa bwanji. Kapangidwe kakang'ono nthawi zonse kumakhala kothandiza nthawi zonse panthawi zosokoneza, kotero ndi malangizo a Devaleena, tasonkhanitsa magawo ofunikira obwezeretsa kusakhulupirika kuti akuthandizeni paulendo wanu.
Gawo 1: Mukazindikira za chibwenzicho
"Lero ndi tsiku limene mudzazindikira kuti wokondedwa wanu wakhala akukunyengererani. Iyi ndi gawo lovuta kwambiri pazochitikazo, komabe, iyi ikhoza kukhala nthawi yomwe mwaganiza kuti muchiritse. Iyi ndi nthawi yodzidzimutsa ndipo thupi lanu ndi maganizo anu adzakhala akugwedezeka. Mudzakhala ndi vuto la thupi, ngati mungathe kudziwiratu zoopsa. Mamiliyoni a mafunso adzakuzungulirani m'mutu mwanu, kenako n'kudzigwetsa pansi, modzidzimutsa, modzidzimutsa. kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira,” akutero Devaleena.
Gawo lodziwikiratu ndi lovuta kwambiri chifukwa kwakanthawi, ubale wanu wonse umawoneka ngati wabodza ndipo mwaponyedwa m'malo opanda kukaikira ndi kusakhulupirika. Ichi chidzakhala siteji ya kukana, kusakhulupirira komanso mwina dzanzi kwenikweni. Mutha kudzipeza kuti mwatengeka ndi malingaliro opitilira muyeso pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika mpaka kuwongolera malingaliro anu kumawoneka ngati zosatheka.
Ngakhale sikunali koyambirira kwambiri kuti musankhe kuchira, ndikofunikiranso kulola kuti malingalirowa azidutsa mwa inu popanda kuweruza kapena mwachangu. Nthawi zonse mukakhudzidwa ndi mafunde osamasuka, musayese kuwathawa. M'malo mwake, chepetsani ndi kumva kukula kwawo kwathunthu. Machiritso adzabwera; kwenikweni, zonsezi ndi mbali ya kuchira ku chigololo.
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Gawo 2: Kupeza nthawi yochitira chisoni
“Nditazindikira kuti mnzanga akundinyenga , zinali ngati kuti damu laphulika mkati mwanga,” akutero Katrina. “Nthawi zambiri sindilankhula kwambiri za momwe ndikumvera ndipo ndimakonda kuthetsa vutoli mwakachetechete. Koma sindinathe kudziletsa pankhaniyi. Panali masiku ndi milungu yomwe ndinkangolira kwa maola ambiri.”
"Chisoni chimatenga nthawi yayitali ndipo nthawi zambiri chimakhala ndi malingaliro ena ambiri," akutero Devaleena. “Pakadali pano, nthawi zambiri munthu amayamba kuganiziranso mmene chibwenzicho chinayambira komanso mmene chinasinthira.” Chisoni n’chofunika kwambiri kuti munthu athetse chibwenzicho chifukwa sizikhala bwino popanda kulola kulira.
“Zimamva ngati dziko lanu lonse lagwa.” Chikhulupiriro chanu, zakale, ndiponso tsogolo lanu tsopano zasokonekera. Magawo ochira osakhulupirika amatha kukhala ovuta komanso ofowoka m'maganizo koma ndi mwambo wodutsa popanda kuchiritsa.
Kudziwa kuti mnzanu wakunyengani kumabweretsa chisoni chachikulu. Mukulira imfa ya ubale wanu monga momwe mumaganizira, mukulira chifukwa cha kutayika kwa chidaliro, chikhulupiriro ndi chikondi. Mukulimbana ndi kusweka mtima , choncho chiwoneni ngati nthawi yakulira, osati kuchepera apo.
Gawo 3: Kupeza njira yolandirira
Tikufuna kukuuzani kuti misozi ikauma ndipo mkwiyo utakhazikika, muli bwino panjira yolandirira ndikuchira ku chigololo. Tsoka ilo, akutero Devaleena, izi zitha kutenga zaka ndipo zimafuna kuti muzigwira ntchito nokha tsiku lililonse.
"Ndinkangodzifunsa kuti, kodi ndikuvomereza chiyani kwenikweni," akutero Charlie, yemwe mnzake wazaka 7 adamunyengerera. “Zinanditengera nthaŵi kuti ndizindikire kuti sindikuvomereza zimene mnzangayo anachita, ndinali kuvomereza kuti zinachitikadi, kuti zinali zenizeni, ndi kuti ndinafunikira kupitiriza ndi moyo wanga m’njira yochiritsira.”
Zitha kuwoneka ngati zopanda chilungamo kuti muyenera kuyika ntchitoyo pamalo omwe mwavulazidwa kale komanso osatetezeka. Koma, kudzichitira wekha sikungapangitse chilichonse cha izi kukhala cholakwa. Simukutenga udindo kapena udindo pazochita za mnzanu. Mukungotenga sitepe patsogolo mu magawo obwezeretsa kusakhulupirika, ndikuchepetsa ululu wanu kuti muthe kupita patsogolo.
"Kuti mufike pa siteji iyi zitenga nthawi. Koma, kukhala ndi chikhulupiriro ndikudzichitira nokha tsiku ndi tsiku kumabweretsa machiritso ndi kuvomerezedwa. Umangofika poti sungathenso kupirira zowawazo ndi kusankha kuchitapo kanthu." Sizikutanthauza kuti mwakhululukira mnzanuyo kapena mukuyamba kukhulupirira kuti sizinali zazikulu. Zimangotanthauza kuti mwaganiza zopanga moyo wanu watsopano ndikuyambanso moyo watsopano, "Devale amatero.
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Gawo 4: Kusankha zotsatila zanu
Tsopano popeza mwafika pamlingo wovomerezeka, kodi chotsatira nchiyani? Chabwino, tsopano muli pa siteji ya nthawi yochira kusakhulupirika komwe muyenera kupanga zisankho zenizeni. Kodi mukukonzekera kupitiriza ndi chibwenzi chanu, kapena kusakhulupirika kukusokonezani? Ngati mukukonzekera kukhala limodzi, ndi malire ndi malamulo atsopano ati a ubale omwe mukukonzekera kukhazikitsa? Ndipo mukufuna kuchita chiyani limodzi chomwe chidzamanganso chidaliro ndi mgwirizano womwe wasweka pakati panu?
Ngati mukukonzekera kulekana, pali mafunso oti muwaganizire pano, nawonso. Ndani akutuluka ndipo apita kuti? Kodi uku ndi kulekanitsa koyesa komwe nonse mumangofunika nthawi kuti muganizire, kapena mukutsimikiza kuti simubwererananso? Ndiye ndithudi, ngati muli pabanja komanso/kapena muli ndi ana, mafunso osapeŵeka a kusungidwa ndi kusunga ndalama adzabuka.
Ngati ndinu amene mwanyengedwa, mwina mudakali ndi mantha komanso osatetezeka. Kupanga zisankho nokha kungawoneke kovuta pakadali pano. Lankhulani ndi anthu omwe mumawadalira - anzanu, abale ndi zina zotero. Pezani thandizo la akatswiri ngati pakufunika kutero. Komanso, khulupirirani mtima wanu. Izi sizikutanthauza ngati mukufuna kukhalabe muubwenzi wanu kapena kuthetsa ubale woipa , komanso mtundu wa moyo womwe mukufuna kudzipangira nokha. Iyi ndi imodzi mwa magawo ofunikira kwambiri pakuchira pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika.
Gawo 5: Kuyang'ana pazakuya
Ngati mwaganiza zokhala limodzi muubwenzi wanu, ndi nthawi yofunsa mafunso osasangalatsa ndikufufuza mozama zomwe zidayambitsa kusakhulupirika. Mukudziwa, sitikulankhula zazambiri zonyansa, koma, malingaliro athunthu komanso obisika a ubale wanu. Ndipo izi zikhoza kukhala zovuta kwambiri pazigawo za kusakhulupirika kwachisawawa kuyenda.
Kusakhulupirika nthawi zambiri kumachitika pamene m'modzi kapena onse awiri akumva kuti pali chinachake chomwe chikusowa kapena chosowa muubwenzi wawo wapano. Sikuti nthawi zonse kumakhala kusowa kwa ubale weniweni , ngakhale kuti ndiyo njira yodziwika bwino yoyambira kusakhulupirika. Koma palinso mwayi woti mnzawo anali kufunafuna munthu womukonda kwambiri kapena munthu amene ali naye pafupi kwambiri.
Mwina nonse munatanganidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito moti ubwenzi wanu unatha. Mwinamwake muli ndi ana ndipo tsopano udindo wanu waukulu ndi makolo osati okondedwa ndi okonda. Zomwe mukufunikira kuti muyambitsenso ndikuukitsa, ndi zomwe muyenera kumanga kuyambira pachiyambi - awa ndi mafunso ofunika kufunsa.
Pali, ndithudi, amene anangofuna 'chinachake chosiyana.' Zikatero, zingakhale bwino kukhala pansi n’kufotokoza zimene zikusoweka pa chibwenzicho. Kumbukirani, palibe chilichonse mwa izi chomwe chikuwonetsa kuti mulibe kanthu mwa inu monga munthu. Izi sizopereŵera m'thupi kapena m'malingaliro anu, ndipo ngati wokondedwa wanu amakupangitsani kumva kuti ali, muyenera kuwataya, ndikufulumira!
Gawo 6: Kupanga ndondomeko ya nthawi ya machiritso
Monga tanenera, kupereka dongosolo la machiritso kumakuthandizani kuti muwononge zinthu zomwe mungathe kuzigwira mu magawo obwezeretsa kusakhulupirika. Kuchira ku kusakhulupirika sikuli pikiniki, kotero kukhala ndi nthawi ndi dongosolo kumapangitsa kukhala kosavuta.
Tsopano, chisoni ndi kuvomereza sizingakhazikitsidwe mokhazikika ndipo tikudziwa izi. Koma, tcherani khutu ku mtundu wanji wa zochita zomwe mukuchita pa gawo lililonse kuti musakakamizidwe mu gawo lililonse la machiritso pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika. Kutenga nthawi yanu kuti muchiritse ndikofunikira, koma kukhalabe nthawi yokana kapena kukhala ndi chisoni kwa nthawi yayitali kumatha kuwononga kudzidalira kwanu komanso chisangalalo chilichonse cha moyo ndikupita patsogolo.
Nthawi yobwezeretsa kusakhulupirika ndi njira yabwino yodzitetezera kuti musasocheretsedwe mu magawo obwezeretsa kusakhulupirika, Popeza zonsezi zimaphatikizapo kutengeka kwamphamvu, ndizosavuta kulowamo, ndikukhala wotopa kwambiri kuti musachite chilichonse chomwe chimakuchiritsani.
Lembani zinthu zomwe mumachita nokha tsiku lililonse. Onani nthawi yayitali yomwe mwakhala mukuchita kuyambira pamene munapita kukacheza ndi mnzanu ndikukambirana za chinthu china chosiyana ndi chibwenzi chanu. Kapena osachepera munalankhula za chibwenzi chanu popanda kuopseza kuti mwapha ndikusiya kulira. Yesetsani kudzikonda pang'ono . Kapangidwe kake ndi nthawi yake zimapangitsa kuti zinthu zikuyendereni bwino kwambiri. Ndipo nthawi zina, ndicho chimene mukufuna.
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Gawo 7: Yesetsani kukonza ubale wanu
Pongoganiza kuti mwaganiza zokhala limodzi, fungulo ndipo mwina gawo lomaliza la magawo ochira osakhulupirikawa ndikugwira ntchito mwachangu paubwenzi wanu. Tsopano, 'chomaliza' sizikutanthauza kuti zonse zachitika ndi - kugwira ntchito pa ubale ndi njira ya moyo wonse.
"Pali maanja omwe amasankha kukonza ubale wawo pambuyo pa nthawi yonse yovuta yomwe adadutsamo. Onse awiri amasankha kuyesanso. Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe thandizo lachipatala ndilofunika kwambiri. Mu chithandizo chamankhwala kapena uphungu wa maanja amatsogoleredwa kuti alumikizane ngati anthu awiri atsopano, pokumbukira kuti asakhale ndi zinsinsi zazikulu kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake," akutero Devaleena.
"Kenako, maanja amaphunzitsidwanso momwe angafotokozere bwino nkhani zomwe sizili bwino komanso kulankhulana moleza mtima m'malo mongolankhula zachibwanabwana. Amaphunzitsidwa kuti azigwirizananso ndi iwo eni poyamba, adzidziwe bwino ndipo agwirizanenso ndi winayo," akuwonjezera.
Kugwira ntchito mwakhama paubwenzi wanu kumafuna mphamvu zambiri komanso kufooka, choncho khalani okonzeka. Sikothandiza kwenikweni pakadali pano kudziteteza kapena kunena zinthu zopweteka muubwenzi mwadala . Kulankhula mkwiyo wanu, kupweteka kwanu ndi chisoni chanu ndi ufulu wanu, kutukwana ndi kukhala wonyoza kumangowonjezera ululu wanu ndikupangitsa kuti kukonzanso ubale wanu kukhale kovuta kwambiri.
Magawo ochira osakhulupirika si ophweka komanso osavuta. Koma kuwaphwanya ndi kufotokoza zomwe muyenera kuchita kumapangitsa kuti zikhale zogwirizana pang'ono pakati pa zomwe mukukumana nazo.
“Sindikudziŵa pamene ine ndi mnzanga tiima,” akutero Jo, amene akuyesera kuchira chigololo cha mwamuna wake pambuyo pa zaka 13 zaukwati. "Koma nzosavuta pang'ono kudziŵa kuti pali mtundu wina wofanana ku zomwe ine, ndipo ife, tiyenera kuchita. Sindinadziŵe nkomwe ndingayambire pamene ndinadziŵa za chibwenzicho. Ndiye, nditapita kukaonana ndi phungu, ndinamvekera bwino pang'ono. Sindikudziwabe kumene titi tipite, kapena ngakhale tikakhala pamodzi.
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Magawo obwezeretsa kusakhulupirika awa angawoneke ngati owongoka bwino pamwamba pake, komabe, palibe chowongoka kapena mzere wokhudzana ndi machiritso obwerera m'mbuyo ngati owononga monga kuperekedwa kwa chidaliro ndi munthu m'modzi yemwe amatanthauza dziko kwa inu. Kuchira kukhoza kukhala vuto lalikulu ngakhale kwa maanja omwe akhala ndi maubwenzi olimba ndi abwino chisanachitike chiwalo cha kusakhulupirika chisanawagawanitse.
Mukufunika thandizo loyenera kuti mudutse magawo osiyanasiyana a kuvulala kwa kusakhulupirika ndikukhala mbali ina ngati munthu wochiritsidwa yemwe angathe kumanganso ubale wanu. Ngakhale mutayamba kuchira ku kusakhulupirika, mudzazindikira kuti simukufuna kupatsa ubale wanu kapena mnzanu wonyenga mwayi wina, kuchira ndi kuvomereza kuperekedwako ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino mtsogolo.
Kotero, ndi njira yotani yolondola yochiritsira kuchokera ku kubwerera kwa kusakhulupirika? Tili pano kuti tikupatseni "thandizo loyenera ndi chithandizo" chomwe tatchulachi kuti mupeze yankho la mafunso awa ndi ena ambiri ofananira nawo omwe angakhale akukudetsani nkhawa ndi malangizowa amomwe mungayambire chibwenzi ndikupita patsogolo:
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1. Gawani zowawa zanu pakuchira ku chigololo
Tikamalankhula za magawo a kusakhulupirika ndi njira yochiritsira kuchokera pamenepo, nthawi zonse zimangoyang'ana pamalingaliro a mnzanu yemwe wapusitsidwa. Komabe, wobera nayenso ali ndi vuto la kupsinjika maganizo ndi kupwetekedwa mtima kuti athetsere panthawiyi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake njira imodzi yabwino yopulumutsira kusakhulupirika ndiyo kugawana ululu wanu wina ndi mzake.
Devaleena akuti, "Kudandaula sikuti kokha sikungapeweke komanso ndi kwabwino pamene chibwenzi chasokonekera chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu. Komabe, kukhala ndi mlandu pambuyo pa chinyengo sikungagwire ntchito iliyonse. M'malo mobisa malingaliro anu, zomwe zingakupangitseni kukankhira mnzanu kutali, lankhulani naye, tsegulani maganizo anu ndikulankhula."
Ngakhale kuti mnzanu amene wanyengedwa akhoza kugawana nawo zowawa, zowawa, ndi manyazi zomwe anakumana nazo pamene chibwenzicho chinadziwika, mnzake woberayo angatsegule za kulakwa kwawo ndi manyazi. Izi zitha kuchita zodabwitsa pobwezeretsanso ubwenzi muubwenzi ndi kuthetsa kusiyana pakati pa awiriwo.
2. Ikani kukhulupirika patsogolo paubwenzi wanu
Kusakhulupirika ndi kusakhulupirika muubwenzi zimayendera limodzi. Mnzanu wonyenga ayenera kuti wapanga ukonde wa mabodza kuti apewe zolakwa zake ndikubisa mayendedwe ake. Chibwenzi chikaonekera, mabodza amenewa amalowanso m'malo mwake. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, mnzanu amene wanyengedwa angayambe kumva ngati kuti ubale wonsewo wakhala wabodza.
Kuti athetse vutoli ndi kupewa maganizo opyola malire pambuyo poti kusakhulupirika kungawononge ubale wawo, onse awiri ayenera kuika kukhulupirika patsogolo. Devaleena anati: "Othandizana nawo amayenera kuchita zinthu moona mtima komanso kuchita zinthu moonekera bwino kuti athe kuchiritsa ming'alu yomwe yatuluka mu ubale wawo pambuyo poti chinyengo chawululidwa. Pa nthawi yomweyo, ndikofunikira kwambiri kudziwonetsera nokha za momwe mukumvera," akutero Devaleena.
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3. Dulani m'zigawo za kusakhulupirika musanakhululukire
Kukhululuka mwamsanga kapena kusiya chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ngati kusakhulupirika ngati mukuchita bondo lophwanyidwa kungakhale ndi zotsatirapo zazikulu za tsogolo la ubale wanu. Devaleena anati: “Vuto lalikulu la kukhululuka mofulumila n’lakuti kumapangitsa munthu wobera kukhala wolimba mtima n’kuyamba kuganiza kuti apambana ndipo sazengereza kubwerera ku zizoloŵezi zawo zakale.
"Chifukwa chake, mungadzipeze muli mkati mwa magawo atsopano a kuvulala kwa kusakhulupirika ngakhale zipsera zakale zisanapole. Ngakhale kuti kukhululukirana muubwenzi ndi khalidwe lofunika kuliyembekezera, sikuyenera kuchitika msanga ndipo kuyenera kuchitika mwachibadwa mnzanu wonyengedwayo akatha kuthetsa mavuto onse amaganizo ndi kupsinjika maganizo komwe adakumana nako."
4. Konzaninso malamulo a ubale wanu ndi malire
Mbali yofunikira ya machiritso kuchokera ku kusakhulupirika ndikukumbukira kuti ubale wanu wasintha mpaka kalekale. Zinthu sizidzabwereranso momwe zinalili mu chisanadze kusakhulupirika gawo la ubwenzi wanu. Mabanja ambiri amawopsezedwa ndi lingaliro ili ndipo amakakamira ku lingaliro lakudzutsa kulumikizana kwakale kumeneko panjira iliyonse.
Komabe, kukonzanso ubale wanu si chinthu choipa kwenikweni. Kumakupatsani mwayi wosiya machitidwe akale, osasangalatsa a ubale wanu ndikusintha ndi atsopano. Ngati mutsatira njira yoyenera, muli ndi mwayi womanga ubale wabwino komanso wathunthu kuposa womwe mudali nawo kale.
"Kukambitsirana za kukonzanso ubale pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika kuyenera kuganiziranso kukonzanso equation yanu ndi kukhazikitsa malire. Mukamalankhulana, onetsetsani kuti chenichenicho sichikutayika m'phokoso la malingaliro ndi malingaliro onse. Mukhozanso kuganizira zolembera maganizo anu kuti muthe kufotokozera momveka bwino mawu ndi ziyembekezo za ubale wanu 2.0, "akutero Devaleena.
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5. Ikani patsogolo nthawi yabwino ndi wina ndi mzake
Pali vuto losatsutsika pomanganso ubale mutachita chigololo . Kuyambira kunena kuti “Ndimakukonda” kwa mnzanu koyamba mutachira ku chigololo mpaka kugonana nayenso, padzakhala nthawi zambiri zokayikakayika komanso zosatsimikizika. Ngati simunathetse bwino, malingaliro olakwika pambuyo pa chigololo angakudyeni nthawi ngati izi.
Mutha kuyang'ana mbali yachinyengo iyi poyika patsogolo ubale wanu komanso wina ndi mnzake kuposa china chilichonse. “Kuyesetsa kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino yocheza ndi wina ndi mnzake n’kofunika kwambiri kuti tithetse kunyonyotsoka kumene kwachitika kale.
"Pa chithandizo, nthawi zambiri timalimbikitsa maanja kuti azichita zinthu zolimbitsa thupi monga kupita koyenda limodzi kapena kukonza masiku ochezera, kupanga nthawi yopepuka komanso yosangalatsa, komanso kuyesetsa kutsitsimutsanso chikondi. Onse awiri ayenera kukhala omasuka ndi lingaliro lakukhala pafupi wina ndi mnzake. Ichi ndichifukwa chake machitidwe achikondi monga kukumbatirana, kugwirana, kugwirana chanza ndi kothandiza," akutero Devaleena.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Ubwenzi nthawi zambiri umadutsa magawo 7 obwezeretsa kusakhulupirika -kuzindikira chisoni, kuvomereza, kudziwitsidwa, kuchiritsa, kupanga zisankho, ndipo pomaliza, kupita patsogolo.
- Palibe mwamasitepewa omwe ndi osavuta kuyendamo kwa omwe akubera mnzake kapena amene adapusitsidwa
- Kupita patsogolo sikuli mzere kapena kulunjika; mutha kukhala wokhazikika mu gawo limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali kapena kubwereranso mukangowoneka kuti mukupita patsogolo
- Kuwona mtima, kuwonekera, kukhazikitsa malire, kukhululukirana panthawi yake, ndi nthawi yabwino pamodzi zingathandize kuthetsa nkhaniyo.
Kufunafuna chithandizo, kupereka mawu ku zowawa zanu, ndi kudziwa kuti muli ndi ufulu wachisoni ndi mbali zofunika kwambiri za nthawi yobwezeretsa kusakhulupirika. Kumbukirani, nthawi yowonera nthawi imatha kuwoneka mosiyana kwa aliyense, chifukwa chake musadzivutitse ngati mukufuna kuonjezera nthawi. Pomaliza, muyenera kuyang'anira thanzi lanu, komanso ubale wanu. Ndipo zimenezo zimafuna kulimba mtima, kukoma mtima, ndi kudzimva kolimba. Sizikhala zophweka, koma mufika. Ingotengani sitepe ndi sitepe, siteji ndi siteji.
Ibibazo
Ngakhale kuti ndi bwino kukhala ndi nthawi yochira ya kusakhulupirika, palibe nthawi yokhazikika yomwe mungachiritsidwe ku kusakhulupirika. Nthawi zambiri pamakhala nthawi imodzi ya 'aha' pomwe mumachiritsidwa ndikukonzekera kupitiliza . Pali magawo ochira ku kusakhulupirika ndipo palibe chitsimikizo chakuti zipsera zidzatha kwathunthu. Chifukwa chake, patsani nthawi yochira kwanu, koma musadzipweteke ngati simungathe kupirira kwathunthu.
Musaganize kuti ndi vuto lanu, ndipo musafulumire kubwezera kapena kudziponya muubwenzi wobwerera m'mbuyo . Tengani nthawi yokonza ndi kulira. Kumbukirani, ubale wanu monga momwe mumadziwira watha kwamuyaya, ngakhale mutasankha kukhala limodzi ndikuthana nawo. Muyenera kutenga nthawi kuti zinthu zilowe mkati ndikulola malingaliro anu kuyenda.
Kafukufuku wina adapeza kuti 16% yokha ya maubwenzi ku USA ndi omwe amatha pambuyo poti apezeka kuti ndi osakhulupirika. Chiŵerengero chimenecho ndi chochepa, koma sizikutanthauza kuti anu sangagwire ntchito ngati nonse muli okonzeka kugwira ntchito. Kumbali ina, si mapeto a dziko ngati ubalewo sukuyenda bwino. Ngati kusakhulupirika kukusokonezani, pitirizani ku zomwe mumakhulupirira. Palibe chifukwa chokhalirabe pachibwenzi ngati muli ndi chisoni, pambuyo pake.
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