Mabanja ndi ovuta. Pamodzi ndi chikondi, chisungiko, ndi chikondi zomwe amapereka, pali mikangano, mikangano, ndi mphindi zofooketsa maganizo zomwe zimayenera kuyenda. Mavutowa amachulukirachulukira akaphatikiza mabanja awiri, aliyense ali ndi katundu wake. Pamene okwatirana aŵiri, amene ali ndi ana ochokera m’zibwenzi zakale, agwirizana kupanga banja limodzi, nkhani zina zabanja zosakanikirana zimabuka.
Izi zitha kukhala zovuta kuvomereza bwenzi latsopano la kholo mpaka maubwenzi osokonekera pakati pa abale opeza, zovuta zosintha mukazolowera malo okhala, komanso mikangano chifukwa cha moyo wosiyanasiyana komanso njira zakulera. Ngakhale kuti mavuto ophatikiza mabanja amatha kukhala osiyanasiyana, nthawi zambiri amakhala osatetezeka komanso amantha omwe amayamba chifukwa chosiya chitonthozo cha moyo womwe munthu amaudziwa bwino.
Kuthana ndi mavuto amisala awa a mabanja osakanikirana ndi njira yofunika kwambiri yothetsera mavuto ndi mavuto, komanso kumanga maziko olimba a chikondi, kudalirana, ndi kumvetsetsana pakati pa mamembala onse. Munkhaniyi, tikuyang'ana kwambiri mavuto a mabanja osakanikirana ndi mayankho kuti tikuthandizeni kudziwa momwe mungachitire zimenezi, pokambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr Aman Bhonsle (PhD, PGDTA), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wa ubale ndi Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy.
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Banja lophatikizana ndi banja lomwe m'modzi kapena onse awiri ali ndi ana ochokera kuzibwenzi zakale, omwe amabwera pamodzi kukhala banja latsopano. Izi zingaphatikizepo makolo opeza, abale opeza, ndi abale ake omwe amakhala pamodzi ndikuyang'ana zovuta za machitidwe osiyanasiyana olerera, miyambo, ndi zochitika zamaganizo.
Mabanja osakanikirana akuchulukirachulukira masiku ano pamene anthu akufuna kukwatiranso kapena kukhala ndi okwatirana atsopano pambuyo pa kusudzulana kapena kusudzulana kapena imfa. Komabe, pamene tanthauzo la banja likusintha, tanthauzo la banja losakanikirana lakulanso. Tsopano likhoza kuphatikizapo mwamuna kapena mkazi, amene angakhale okwatirana kapena osakwatirana koma amagwirizana kuti akhale limodzi ndi ana awo enieni kapena oleredwa kuchokera muubwenzi wawo. Akhozanso kukhala ndi ana kuchokera muubwenzi wawo wapano ndipo akhoza kukhala akulera limodzi ndi wokondedwa wawo wakale . Likhozanso kuphatikizapo okwatirana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amalera banja limodzi ndi ana oleredwa kapena obadwa a m'modzi mwa okwatiranawo.
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7 Nkhani Zophatikizana Zambiri za Banja
Pachiyambi, lingaliro la banja lophatikizana limaoneka ngati lokongola—anthu aŵiri amene amalera ana awo chifukwa cha chikondi, osalephereka chifukwa cha mmene anthu amakhalira m’banja, ukwati wokhazikika kapena nkhani zamakhalidwe akale. Komabe, pamlingo wothandiza, mabanja awiri osiyana amabwera palimodzi kumabweretsa mavuto ndi mikangano yawoyawo. Zina mwa zovuta zamagulu ophatikizana ndi awa:
1. Zosintha pakati pa ana
Anthu awiri akhoza kukondana kwambiri moti amafuna kukhala limodzi kwa moyo wawo wonse koma sikoyenera kuti ana awo aziganiza chimodzimodzi. Kusemphana kwa umunthu, makamaka pamene ana akula ndi okhoza kuganiza paokha, nkosapeŵeka.
Mwachitsanzo, ana a mnzawo wina sangagwirizane bwino ndi ena kapena angakhale ndi chidani ndi munthu amene watenga udindo wa kholo lawo lopeza. Pakhozanso kukhala malingaliro ambiri oipa kwa kholo lawo chifukwa chosankha kusintha kumeneku. "Ana m'mabanja osakanikirana nthawi zambiri amamva ngati dziko lawo lasinthidwa usiku wonse. Angavutike ndi nkhani zokhulupirirana , kukondana, kapena ngakhale kukwiya," akutero Dr. Bhonsle.
2. Kusalingalira bwino
Ubale womwe onse awiri ali ndi ana komanso mabanja okulirapo umafunika kukhazikika bwino. Nthawi zina kholo limodzi limakonda kuthandiza mwana wake wobadwa naye kuposa wa mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Kapena munthu mmodzi angaganize kuti chithandizo chimene akupereka kwa ana a mnzawo sakubwezedwa mofanana. Zina mwa zovuta za m'mabanja ndizofunika nthawi zonse kuti munthu akhale ndi malire pakati pa ana obadwa nawo ndi ana opeza.
Nthaŵi zina, makolo onse aŵiri angakumane ndi mavuto pofuna kuonetsetsa kuti anthu onse ali ofanana, makamaka ana. Tayani m'mabanja okulirapo omwe mwina adawonapo anthu omwe ali ndi omwe adakwatirana nawo kale, ndipo taonani, muli ndi njira yamavuto am'banja osakanikirana omwe amatha kutuluka mosavuta. Pamafunika kumvetsetsana kwakukulu pakati pa okondedwa kuti athe kuthana ndi zovuta zotere za banja losakanikirana bwino.
"Mabanja osakanikirana nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi mikangano yosaoneka—pakati pa zakale ndi zamakono, pakati pa ubale wachibadwa ndi ubale wa ana ndi ana opeza. Makolo ayenera kupanga malo abwino omwe palibe mwana kapena mnzawo amene amamva kuti wachotsedwa. Izi zimafuna kulankhulana momasuka , kuchitiridwa zinthu mwachilungamo, komanso kuzindikira zosowa zamaganizo mikangano isanayambe," akutero Dr. Bhonsle.
3. Kusiyana kwa moyo
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Banja lililonse lili ndi kaimbidwe kake—kaya kazoloŵezi, miyambo, kapena kakhalidwe ka makolo. Ngakhale ngati okwatirana aganizira za mavuto onse amene angakumane nawo akagwirizanitsa mabanja awo, padzakhalabe mavuto osayembekezereka okhudza moyo. Nkhanizi zimakulitsidwa ndikubwera pansi pa radar pokhapokha akayamba kukhala limodzi. Makhalidwe, maudindo, zizolowezi ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu zingasiyane m'banja ndi mabanja ndipo zikhoza kukhala zifukwa zazikulu za mikangano.
Pamene mfundo zazikulu za m'banja zikutsutsana, ngakhale zinthu zosavuta monga ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku, zakudya, zizolowezi za pa TV zingakhale chifukwa cha 'banja langa motsutsana ndi lanu', ndipo aliyense akumva kuti ali bwino. Nkhani zosakanikirana za m'banja zingawoneke ngati zazing'ono poyamba, koma kubwerezabwereza kwawo kosalekeza kungawapangitse kukhala mavuto aakulu omwe ngati sakuthandizidwa bwino kungayambitse mkangano wopitirira.
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4. Nkhani zamalamulo ndi ndalama
Nthawi zonse zikakambidwa kuipa kwa mabanja ophatikizana, nkhani zandalama ndi malamulo zimawonekera. Tsoka ilo, mavuto azachuma amatha kubweretsa mitu yawo m'mabanja osakanikirana, makamaka ngati pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zili pachiwopsezo. N’zosachita kufunsa kuti nkhani zimenezi zidzabuka makamaka ngati ana a m’mabanja onse aŵiri ali achikulire amene angadzinenere kuti ali ndi phande.
Ngati ndi okalamba omwe asankha kusonkhanitsa mabanja awo atakwatirana, iwonso angakumane ndi mavuto azachuma. Ndani amagwiritsa ntchito ndalama zingati poyendetsa banja, momwe angagawire ndalama zomwe agwiritsa ntchito, mbali iti ya banja (ya mwamuna kapena mkazi) yomwe imapeza ndalama zambiri kapena ikufunika thandizo la ndalama zambiri, ndi zina zotero.
5. Kusamvana pakukonzekera
Zina mwa zovuta zomwe zimachitika ndi mabanja osakanikirana ndikuyendetsa zinthu zofunika kwambiri. Kodi ndi zofunika zandani zimene ziyenera kukwaniritsidwa poyamba? Kodi chimachitika n'chiyani ngati pali zochitika ziŵiri zokondwerera, umodzi wa aliyense wa banja lililonse pazifukwa zosiyana kwambiri? Mwachitsanzo, ngati tsiku lobadwa la mwana wamng’ono likusemphana ndi phwando lachikumbutso la mwana wina, kodi ndani amaika patsogolo makolo ake? Kodi makalasi a masamu a winawake amatsutsana ndi maphunziro a zamasewera a wina?
M'banja losakanikirana, nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi kumverera koti muyenera 'kuzolowera' munthu wina kapena chinthu chatsopano. Achibale angaganize kuti akudzipereka muubwenzi. Zimatenga nthawi kuti membala aliyense avomereze kholo lopeza ndi abale ake opeza ndikukhazikitsa chizolowezi choyenda bwino pomwe chilichonse chimayenda motsatira nthawi yake.
6. Kusamvana kwa kukhulupirika
Kuphatikizika kwa mabanja nthawi zambiri kumatanthauza kuti ana amamva kusagwirizana pakati pa kholo lawo lowabereka ndi kholo lawo lopeza. Mukhoza kuona mwana wanu akuchoka, kuchita zinthu, kapena kukana kuyanjana ndi mnzanu watsopano chifukwa cha kukhulupirika kwa kholo lina. Izi zingakhale zovuta makamaka ngati pali kusamvana pakati pa makolo ndi ana.
Dr. Bhonsle akuti, “Ana, makamaka aang'ono, nthawi zambiri amaona kuti kuvomereza kholo lopeza kumatanthauza kusamvera kholo lawo lobadwa nalo. Angavutike ndi kudzimva kuti ndi olakwa, zomwe zingawapangitse kukwiya kapena kukana. Chofunika kwambiri ndikuwapatsa nthawi ndi malo pamene akulimbikitsa kuti chikondi si chinthu chokhazikika—chimakula.” N’chiyani chingathandize? Kukambirana momasuka , kumutsimikizira, ndikuonetsetsa kuti mwana wanu akudziwa kuti sakupemphedwa kusankha mbali. Limbikitsani kuyanjana kwabwino popanda kukakamiza ubale, ndipo lolani kuti ubale ukhale wachibadwa.
7. Makhalidwe osiyanasiyana akulera
Inu ndi mnzanuyo mungakhale ndi maganizo osiyana pa nkhani ya chilango, nthawi yogona, nthawi yowonetsera, kapena malamulo ofunikira apakhomo. Mwinamwake mumakhulupirira mu dongosolo, pamene mnzanuyo amatenga njira yochepetsera. Pamene ana ochokera kumbali zonse ziwiri akukhudzidwa, kusiyana kumeneku kumawonekera kwambiri.
Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kuti: “Kulera nkwaumwini mozama, kaŵirikaŵiri kumasonkhezeredwa ndi zokumana nazo zakale.” Pamene makolo aŵiri okhala ndi mikhalidwe yosiyana ayesa kukhalira limodzi m’banja losakanikirana, kungayambitse chisokonezo ndi kukhumudwa kwa ana.
Njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli ndi iti? Kambiranani pasadakhale za mfundo zolerera ana musanaphatikize mabanja. Pangani mgwirizano woyenera ngati pakufunika kutero ndikuwonetsa mgwirizano—ana amakula bwino akadziwa zomwe angayembekezere, mosasamala kanthu kuti ndi kholo liti lomwe likutsata malamulowo.
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Njira 9 Zothandiza Zothetsera Nkhani Za Banja Zosakanikirana
Mikangano ya m'banja sikungapewedwe. Malingana ngati pali umunthu wosiyana, zokhumba ndi makhalidwe osiyanasiyana, padzakhala zovuta nthawi zonse. Koma m'banja lophatikizana, izi zimatha kutenga mawonekedwe osiyana palimodzi. Ngakhale kuti palibe kukangana kowonekera, pakhoza kukhala zovuta zomwe zimatuluka nthawi zina. Kodi mumawathetsa bwanji? Tikukubweretserani malangizo angapo amomwe mungachitire ndi banja losakanikirana:
1. Lemekezani ana opeza
Izi zitha kukhala zovuta, makamaka ngati simulandira ulemu. Koma muyenera kumanga ulemu kuti mupange ubale wabwino mtsogolo. Ana m'banja losakanikirana, makamaka achinyamata, akhoza kukhala aukali ngati sanavomereze kwathunthu munthu watsopano m'moyo wa amayi awo kapena abambo awo. Apa ndi pomwe muyenera kusonyeza kuleza mtima kwabwino. Lemekezani mwana wanu wopeza kapena mwana wanu wamkazi ndi malingaliro awo.
Yesetsani kuti musamadzitengere nokha ngati ali amwano kapena okwiya. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, musalole kuti mukhale ndi khalidwe loipa. Mwa ulemu, tikutanthauza, yesani ndikuwona zinthu monga momwe amaonera, kumvetsetsa kuti akuchokera ku chikhalidwe chosiyana komanso momwe mungathere, kusonyeza kuti mukuyesetsa kusintha zosowa ndi zizolowezi zawo.
Dr Aman akuti, "Si funso lopewera koma kuthana ndi mavuto a m'banja osakanikirana bwino. Ndi ana, kumvetsetsa kuyenera kukhala kuti ali ndi chidwi ndi wina watsopano kulowa m'moyo wawo. Choncho, magolovesi a ana ayenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndipo payenera kukhala njira yoyanjanitsa, kuleza mtima, chifundo ndi kumvetsera kwambiri.
"Ana opeza angakhale ndi maganizo enaake okhudza munthu watsopano ameneyu kubwera m'miyoyo yawo, kotero kuti apewe kapena kuthetsa mikangano, munthu sayenera kuganiza kuti akulowa m'malo mwa m'bale wina kapena sayenera kukakamiza ubwenzi kapena udindo monga kholo.
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2. Pezani thandizo la mnzanu
Mavuto a banja losakanikirana sangathe kugonjetsedwa ngati awiriwo sali pa tsamba limodzi. Yesani kuthetsa kusiyana komwe kulipo ndipo tchulani mfundo zomwe zasemphana bwino musanawaphatikize mabanja awiriwo. Onetsetsani kuti zovuta zazikulu ndi zodetsa nkhawa zathetsedwa musanasamukire limodzi ndi mabanja anu.
Mwina kungakhale kwanzeru kupempha mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kuti azilamulira kapena kusamalira mbali yake ya banja pakabuka mkangano kapena kusiyana maganizo. Komanso, musungeni akudziwa za zovuta zosintha zomwe inu ndi ana anu mukukumana nazo ndipo yesani kupeza mayankho pamodzi.
"Banja losakanikirana limakula bwino likagwira ntchito limodzi. Ngati kholo limodzi likuona kuti silikuthandizidwa, mkwiyo umakula , ndipo ana amazindikira kupsinjika maganizo kumeneko. Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ayenera kukhala mnzanu—khazikitsani ziyembekezo zomveka bwino ndikutsimikizira kuti kulera ana ndi ntchito yogwirizana," akutero Dr. Bhonsle.
3. Pangani chisankho chokhudza makolo anu musanalowe m'banja
Onse awiri akuyenera kukhala ndi njira zolerera
Kulera ana mwina ndiye nkhani yaikulu pophatikiza mabanja. Chifukwa chake ndi bwino kugwirizana za njira yolerera ana pamodzi musanakwatirane ndikuyamba kukhala limodzi ndi mabanja anu. Khalani omasuka pa zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera ku banja ndi ana ake. Zolakwa za kulera ana n'zosapeweka koma muyenera kuyesetsa kuzithetsa.
Lembani m'mene mwalera ana anu ndikukambirana bwino za umunthu wawo, makamaka ngati sanakhalepo ndi mwayi wodziwa bwino mnzanuyo. Izi zipangitsa kusintha kukhala kosavuta mukadzalowa m'banja. “Pali njira zambiri zolerera ana, mwachitsanzo, makolo akale a kusukulu yachikale, amene amatsatira mfundo yakuti ‘chitani monga ndanenera.
"Kuti muthetse nkhani za m'banja zokhudzana ndi njira zolerera ana, m'pofunika kumvetsetsa kuti palibe njira yofanana kuti mukhale kholo, ndipo kachitidwe kanu kayenera kukhala kogwirizana, malinga ndi umunthu wa mwanayo, zomwe akudziwa, zomwe amaopa ndi zofooka zake. Mvetsetsani kuti mwanayo ndi munthu payekha osati pulojekiti yoyenera kuyang'aniridwa," Dr Aman akulangiza.
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4. Khalani ndi ndandanda ya misonkhano yabanja
Momwe mungathanirane ndi banja losakanikirana popanda kuthana ndi kukankhana ndi mikangano panjira iliyonse, mukufunsa? Mpaka aliyense azolowere mkhalidwe watsopano, konzani zoti banja likhale ndi msonkhano kamodzi kapena kaŵiri pamlungu ndi cholinga chenicheni chothetsa mikangano. Nenani, momwe mungakonzere msonkhano kuntchito. Zitha kumveka ngati zosamveka koma njira zokhazikika zotere zitha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale pamwamba pamavuto am'banja ophatikizana ndi mayankho.
Izi zitha, pang'onopang'ono, kuthandiza kuthetsa mavuto ambiri m'mabanja osakanikirana ndikuthandizira kuthetsa mikangano, ngati ilipo. Ngakhale ngati palibe vuto lalikulu pakati pa mamembala a m'banja lophatikizana, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi koteroko kungakhale kothandiza popanga malo amodzi kuti mukhale omasuka ndi wina ndi mzake. Pofotokoza chifukwa chake zimenezi n’zofunika, Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Kulankhulana n’kothandiza kwambiri kuti banja likhale logwirizana.” Misonkhano yanthawi zonse ya banja imathandiza kuti tithane ndi mavuto, kusangalala ndi zinthu zing’onozing’ono zimene tapambana, ndiponso kuchititsa ana kudzimva kuti ali nawo posankha zochita.
5. Muzilimbana ndi mkangano wa abale anu mosamala
Chifukwa cha malingaliro osiyanasiyana, kuleredwa ndi chikhalidwe chosiyana, mkangano pakati pa abale ndi alongo m'mabanja osakanikirana ndi wofala kwambiri. Lamulo loyamba lothetsera izi ndikutsatira lamulo lanu lochitira ana onse awiri mofanana. Pewani kuimba mlandu ana obadwa nawo a mnzanu pamene mukuteteza anu. Kusinthana mlandu ndiye chinthu chomaliza chomwe muyenera kuchita.
"Mkangano pakati pa abale opeza ndi m'gulu la mikangano ya mabanja yomwe imayenera kuyambika koma itha kutha powakhazika pansi ndikukambirana nawo moona mtima kuti dziko lingakhale malo opikisana koma mpikisano woterewu suyenera kulowa mnyumbamo.
"Lingaliro la umodzi liyenera kuyambitsidwa. Kupikisana kwina nkwachibadwa chifukwa ana amalowetsedwa mumpikisano wokhwima kwambiri wa dongosolo la maphunziro. Kupikisana sikungapewedwe koma maphunziro ena a moyo akhoza kuphunzitsidwa kwa ana, kuwakonzekeretsa kuchita bwino momwe angathere," akutero Dr Aman.
M’malo moti nonse inuyo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu muzilimbikitsa ana anu obadwa nawo, yesani kuweruza mkangano uliwonse malinga ndi chifukwa chake. Ngati simulowerera ndale, kumverera kwa kunyozedwa kumachoka pang'onopang'ono.
6. Mupatseni mnzako malo ndi banja lake
Zidzatenga nthawi kuti aliyense abwere kuti afotokoze mwambi wa 'banja losangalala'. N’kutheka kuti ana, makamaka aang’ono, angaganize kuti kholo lawo lowabereka likukhala nawo nthawi yochepa kusiyana ndi poyamba. Kapenanso wina angaone kuti mnzakeyo amangoganizira kwambiri za ana awo ndipo sakupereka nthawi yokwanira yosamalira chibwenzicho. Izi zingayambitse kusamvana pakati pa kholo ndi mwana / ana kapena pakati pa okondedwa.
Izi zitha kuyendetsedwa mwa kupeza malo ndi nthawi kwa aliyense amene akukhudzidwa ndi vutoli. Mvetsetsani kufunika kumeneko ndipo perekani mpata kwa mnzanu kuti azikhala ndi nthawi yathu ndi banja la "ake" kapena "ake". Ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukuchita chimodzimodzi ndi banja lanu. Pa nthawi yokambirana, tsindikani mfundo za banja limodzi ndipo muwalimbikitse kuti asinthe zina zofunika kuti agwirizane bwino.
“Kuphatikiza mabanja sikutanthauza kuthetsa maubwenzi akale.” Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu adzakhalabe ndi maunansi ndi ana awo owabala, mwamuna kapena mkazi wake wakale (ngati muli kholo limodzi), ndi achibale.” Kulemekeza malo amenewo kumasonyeza kukhwima maganizo ndi kukhulupirirana,” akulangiza motero Dr. Bhonsle.
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7. Khalani olumikizana ndi okondedwa anu
Nthawi zina okwatirana amadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chophatikiza mabanja awo, zomwe zimapangitsa ana kukhala osatetezeka. Izi ndi zina mwa zotsatira zamaganizo za mabanja osakanikirana zomwe zingawononge ubale wa okwatirana. Kuti mupewe zimenezo, muyenera kukana kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa ndikuyesetsa kwambiri kuti mukhalebe ogwirizana ndi mnzanu watsopano. Pofuna kuti kusinthaku kukhale kosavuta momwe mungathere, musanyalanyaze mnzanuyo ndikuwapangitsa kumva kuti akunyalanyazidwa.
Tengani tchuthi chachifupi, khalani ndi nthawi yabwino limodzi ndipo lumbirani kuti muthetsa mavuto onse pamodzi. Izi zingayambitse kudandaula ndi kukwiya pang'ono kuchokera kwa ana koma simungawalole kuti atsogolere ubale wanu. Ndikofunikira kuyika malire anu pankhani yoonetsetsa kuti ubale wanu ndi mnzanu ukhale wolimba.
Muziika patsogolo nthawi ya banja—zimalimbitsa ubwenzi wanu ndipo zimapereka chitsanzo chabwino kwa anawo.”
—Dr. Aman Bhonsle psychotherapist ndi katswiri wa ubale
8. Konzani bwino mwana wanu
Pophatikiza mabanja, kusamukira limodzi, ndikofunikira kukambirana ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo mukufuna kukhala ndi ana anuanu. Ngati ndi choncho, ana anu ayenera kuwauza zimenezi mwanzeru—panthaŵi yoyenera ndiponso m’njira yoyenera. Kulandira khanda latsopano m’banja kungadzutse malingaliro osiyanasiyana mwa ana osiyanasiyana. Pamene kuli kwakuti ena angalabadire lingalirolo, ena angalingalire kuti khanda likhoza kupatutsa kholo lawo kwa iwo mowonjezereka.
Mulimonse mmene zingakhalire, okwatiranawo ayenera kulimbikitsa ana okulirapo ndi kuwakhulupirira. Onetsetsani kuti apeza mfundo yakuti chikondi sichigawikana; zidzachuluka kokha. Dr Aman amavomerezanso mwamphamvu njira iyi yothana ndi zovuta za banja lophatikizana lokhala ndi ana anuanu.
Iye anati, "Kukhala ndi ana anuanu ndi nkhani yachinsinsi. Ndikofunikira kupereka chisankho kwa ana mopanda ndale kusiyana ndi kuwapempha chilolezo ndi chilolezo. Ngati mukufuna mwana, ndi nkhani yaumwini ndipo simukusowa chisankho kuti mudalitsidwe ndi wina. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, muyenera kuwadziwitsa kuti mukufunikira mwana kapena kulimbitsa ubale wanu ndi moyo watsopano.
"Adziwitseni anawo kuti sakusinthidwa ndi mwana wina koma pali kugwirizana kwinakwake komwe mukuyang'ana kubweretsa m'banja." Mwana watsopanoyo sali woyimira ubale wina uliwonse koma kungowonjezera. Chinsinsi apa ndi kukhala wochenjera osati wokakamiza, kukhala wokoma mtima ndi woleza mtima m'malo moumirira kapena kukwiya. pressure.”
9. Zindikirani kusiyana ndipo konzekerani
Chifukwa chomwe mamembala a m'banja losakanikirana angakhale odana wina ndi mnzake ndi chifukwa cha kusakhulupirirana. Choncho yesani kumanga chikhulupiriro pakati pa mamembala ndikugogomezera mfundo za kudalirana kuti zilimbikitse ubale wolimba m'banjamo. Dziwani kuti zitenga nthawi ndipo padzakhala mikangano yaying'ono ngakhale palibe nkhondo zazikulu. Mukavomereza ndikuzindikira mfundo zazikulu za mikangano kapena mkwiyo, mutha kuyesetsa kuzichiritsa.
Kulankhulana momasuka, kuchitapo kanthu mwamphamvu, ndi cholinga chomvekera bwino chokhazikitsa banja monga gulu, ngakhale kuti pali kusiyana, zidzafunikira kuthetsa mikangano imeneyi. Dziwani anthu amene ali ndi vuto lalikulu m’banjamo ndi kuwathetsa kaye. Kukonzekeretsa banja zimene zingayembekezere pambuyo pa ukwati kungathandize kwambiri kuthetsa nkhani zimene zimabuka pambuyo pa ukwati.
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Palibe mabanja aŵiri ofanana, ndipo n’zosatheka kuyembekezera kuti azigwirizana nthawi yomweyo.” Vomerezani kusiyana kwa miyambo, zizoloŵezi, ndi zimene mukuyembekezera, koma ganizirani kwambiri za kuthetsa mipata m’malo moikulitsa.
Ibibazo
1. Kodi n'chiyani chimachititsa kuti mabanja osakanikirana alephere?
Kusakhulupirirana, kuopa zomwe sizikudziwika, zosintha, mikangano yomwe imabwera chifukwa cha kulephera kuzindikira maudindo moyenera komanso kusiyanasiyana kwamalingaliro abanja ndi zina mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe mabanja ophatikizana amalephera. Ngakhale mavuto azamalamulo ndi azandalama angabuke ngati pali chuma chambiri chomwe chili pachiwopsezo.
2. Kodi chipambano cha mabanja ophatikizana ndi otani?
Chipambano cha mabanja ophatikizana sichingawerengedwe chifukwa ngakhale banja silinagawanika pakhoza kukhala mikangano ndi mavuto. Komabe, mabanja amene amavomerezana mosasamala kanthu za kusiyana maganizo ndi awo amene ali ofunitsitsa kupatsa mpata makolo awo opeza ndi abale awo, ali ndi mwaŵi wabwino koposa wopambana.
3. Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa banja lopeza ndi banja lophatikizana?
Banja losakanikirana ndi banja lopeza ndi zofanana. Banja lophatikizana limapangidwa ndi banja lomwe limakhala ndi ana ochokera m'maukwati awo akale. M’banja lopeza, anawo amakhala ndi kholo limodzi lobadwa nawo limodzi. Kholo lobereka la mwana mmodzi lidzakhala kholo la mwana wina.
4. Ndani amakhala woyamba m'banja losakanikirana?
Okwatiranawo ayenera kukhala oyamba m’banja losakanikirana. Ndi iwo omwe ali maziko a banja ndipo ayenera kutenga udindo wosonkhanitsa anthu osiyanasiyana.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Mabanja ophatikizana amakumana ndi zovuta zamalingaliro komanso zofunikira pamene magulu awiri abanja amalumikizana
- Nkhani zofala ndi monga kupikisana kwa abale opeza, kakhalidwe ka makolo kosemphana, ndi kuvutika kusintha maubwenzi atsopano
- Mavutowa nthawi zambiri amayamba chifukwa cha kusatetezeka m'maganizo, katundu wakale, ndi kusintha kwa mabanja.
- Kuthana ndi mavutowa ndi chifundo, dongosolo, ndi kulankhulana momasuka kungathandize kumanga banja logwirizana
Maganizo Final
Zoonadi, kuphatikiza mabanja, kusamukira pamodzi kungakhale ntchito yaikulu, mwadongosolo komanso mwamalingaliro. Kuwonjezera pa kuthana ndi zovuta zenizeni za ndalama, nthawi, ndi malo, muyeneranso kukhala okonzeka kuthana ndi zotsatira zamaganizo za mabanja osakanikirana, zomwe zingawonekere m'njira zosiyanasiyana kwa mamembala onse-akuluakulu ndi ana. Ngakhale kuti pangakhale mavuto aakulu, mungathe kuwathetsa mwa kuthana ndi zovutazo mwachikondi ndi kumvetsetsa. Zomwe mukusowa ndi malingaliro omasuka ndi kuleza mtima kwakukulu.
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