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Zinthu 5 Zapamwamba Zokambirana Musanalowe M'banja
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Ndiye, mungakambirane zotani musanalowe m’banja? Kuti mudziwe izi, choyamba muyenera kutsimikiza za zomwe muyenera kudziwa za mnzanu musanalowe m'banja.
Kuti muthe kufunsa mafunso oyenera ndikusankha mwanzeru kutengera mayankho a munthu wina, nazi zinthu 5 zofunika kukambirana musanalowe m'banja :
1. Zofuna pantchito
Zolinga za ntchito ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe muyenera kukambirana musanalowe m'banja . Kodi muli odzipereka bwanji pantchito yomwe mwasankha? Kodi muli okonzeka kusiya kapena kusiya? Kodi mukuyembekezera kuti mnzanu wapamtima asiya zochuluka bwanji kuti akwaniritse zomwe mwasankha pantchito?
Iyi ndi mitu yofunika kwambiri kuti tikambirane. Nanga bwanji ngati mwamuna ali ndi ntchito yomwe imadutsa m'mizinda, mayiko kapena makontinenti? Kodi mkaziyo angalole kunyamula katundu wake ndi kusuntha nthawi iliyonse?
Nanga bwanji ngati mkaziyo ali pantchito yolemetsa yomwe imamuuza kuti abwerere kuntchito atangopita masabata 28 oyembekezera? Kodi mwamuna adzanyamula katundu wolemera ndi mwana watsopanoyo?
Kudziwa momwe munthu amaonera nkhanizi kungakuthandizeni kudziwa zambiri ngati mungakhale ogwirizana ngati okwatirana.
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2. Ndalama
Zachuma ndizovuta koma muyenera kukambirana musanalowe m'banja. Achinyamata masiku ano ali odziimira okha. Komanso amaganizira za momwe akufuna kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama zomwe amapeza. Mukakhala okwatirana, padzakhala malo ambiri komwe ndalama zimaphatikizana komanso zolinga zimasiyana.
Ndi bwino kukhala ndi malamulo ogwirizana okhudza zachuma . Mnzanu wachinyamata kuntchito, Paromita (dzina lasinthidwa) ali ndi zaka za m'ma 30 ndipo pakadali pano asiyana ndi mwamuna wake wazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi. Akhala ndi mikangano yoopsa makamaka chifukwa cha kusagwirizana pankhani zachuma.
"Lingaliro lonse la kutsutsana kukopa ndi zopanda pake," akutero modandaula.
"Ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinakumana ku B-sukulu ndipo zinali zomveka kwa aliyense, koma ife, kuti tinali osiyana kwambiri, mu mtima, chikhalidwe komanso zokhumba. Ndine Chibengali. Iye ndi Punjabi. Ndine wokonda kwambiri. Iye ndi wodziwika bwino komanso ali ndi vuto la chidaliro. Pamene ndinakumana naye koyamba, anali atangotaya bambo ake.
Ndikuganiza kuti chisoni china chosadziwika chinali chinthu champhamvu pakukopa kwanga kwa iye. Tinakhala pachibwenzi kwa zaka zingapo ndipo tinakwatirana titangomaliza koleji. Ndinachita maluwa kuntchito kwanga, koma anatenga nthawi kuti apeze poyambira. Ngakhale lero, ndimapeza ndalama zambiri kuposa iye.
"Nthawi zonse zimenezi zakhala zikuyambitsa mikangano. Ndimachokera m'banja lomwe palibe amene ankakayikira ufulu wanga pankhani ya ndalama zanga. Ndalama zanga ndi zanga zoti ndizipereke, monga momwe ndikufunira. Koma mwamuna wanga watsopano sanaone choncho. Iye ndi amayi ake omwe anali amasiye ankayembekezera kuti ndizibweretsa malipiro anga kunyumba kumapeto kwa mwezi uliwonse ndikuyika maa-ke-charon-mein . Zinayambitsa mikangano yambiri m'banja lathu."
3. Ana
Poganizira zakale, Paromita akulakalakanso kuti akanakambirana nkhani ina yofunika kwambiri asanakwatiwe - ana. "Ndinkafuna kutenga nthawi yanga ndikukhala ndi ana. Kwa nthawi yayitali, sindinali wokonzeka kukhala ndi mwana. Ndinkaopa kubereka ana molakwika. Ndinkafunanso kutenga mwana woleredwa ndi mwamuna. Koma mwamuna wanga anali ndi maganizo ofala pankhani yoyambitsa banja ndi kukhala ndi ana. Pamapeto pake, ubale wathu unaipiraipira kwambiri moti ubwenzi wathu unali wovuta ."
Kuyambitsa banja kungasinthe moyo wa banja lililonse. Zowonjezereka ngati onse awiri sali pa tsamba limodzi. Muchikozyano eechi, zyintu zilakonzya kugwasya.
4. Kugawana zikhulupiriro ndi masomphenya
Zikhulupiriro ndi malingaliro ogawana ndi zina mwa zinthu zosadziŵika bwino koma zofunika kukambirana musanalowe m’banja. Ichi ndi chinthu chimodzi m'banja chomwe chimathandiza onse awiri kukhala ogwirizana. Mnzanu wina, Vijayalakshmi (dzina losinthidwa) ali ndi zosiyana ndi za Paromita pazomwe muyenera kudziwa za mnzanu musanalowe m'banja.
Iye anati: “Choyamba pandandanda wanga wa zinthu zoti ndikambirane tisanalowe m’banja.
Amatanthawuza machitidwe a zikhulupiliro m'moyo. Zinthu monga mfundo, makhalidwe, zovomerezeka m’banja ndi zosavomerezeka. “Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wanga anakhulupirira kuti akanakhoza kukhala ndi mabwenzi ake aamuna ndi aakazi usiku koma ine sindinkaloledwa kukhala ndi akazi otuluka usiku pambuyo pa ukwati.
5. Zisonkhezero Zamaganizo
Vijaya anawonjezera kuti: “Kulankhula za zisonkhezero zamaganizo kulinso kofunika mofananamo. Funsani za zinthu kapena anthu amene ali ndi chiyambukiro chachikulu cha maganizo ndi chisonkhezero kwa woyembekezera kukhala naye paubwenzi.
Pazokambirana ndi makambitsirano onse amene munthu angakhale nawo asanalowe m’banja, zoona zake n’zakuti simudziwa zimene zidzachitike m’tsogolo. Moyo ungakhale wosadziŵikadi! Mungakhale ndi ndandanda yolongosoka kwambiri ya zinthu zoti mukambirane musanakwatirane ndi mapulani okonzedwa bwino kwambiri, koma kutha kwatunthu kamodzi kokha kungathetseratu.
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Maleredwe athu amagogomezera kwambiri ‘kupeza chisangalalo mwa wina ndi mnzake’. Palibe amene amakuuzani zoona - kuti, simungapeze chimwemwe chenicheni kunja. Sizimabwera ndi botolo m'mapaketi apamwamba. Sagulitsidwa pa kauntala.
Palibe amene angakupatseni chisangalalo m'mbale. Mumapeza chimwemwe choyamba mwa inu nokha - pokhapokha mutaganiza zopeza kapena kupereka chisangalalo kwa wina.
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