Mukatuluka muubwenzi wina wosapambana ndikusiyidwa mwachisoni komanso mwina kusweka mtima, mumatha kudzifunsa kuti, "Mungakhale bwanji bwino pokhala wosakwatiwa?". Ngakhale mumasowa kwambiri wakale wanu, mumadzitsimikizira kuti simunawafunepo poyamba kuti mutha kuyang'ana kwambiri moyo wanu. Koma kodi mukutanthauzadi mukamadzitsimikizira kuti nzosafunika? Mukudziwa kuti simutero.
Kuzindikira momwe mungakhalire ok ndi kukhala wosakwatiwa, makamaka pamene simunayambe chibwenzi ndipo simunayambe mwakhala nokha kwa nthawi yayitali sikophweka. Ngakhale mutadzinamiza bwanji, chowonadi chidzakupezani pamapeto pake. Ndipo ndi pamene inu mwadzidzidzi kumva anakanthidwa ndi kuzindikira kuti inu konse kwenikweni anagonjetsa wakale wanu chifukwa ananyalanyaza vutolo m'malo kuthetsa izo.
Ndiye, tifika pa funso: Kodi kukhala bwino kukhala wosakwatiwa? Chabwino, choyamba, kumbukirani kuti kukhala paubwenzi ndi kukhala wokondwa sizigwirizana: chisangalalo chanu chili m'manja mwanu ndipo chimalamulidwa ndi inu nokha. Ndipo mukakhala nokha m’pamene mungathe kumangoganizira za inu nokha ndi zolinga zanu m’moyo. Osataya mphindi ina moping mukakhala kunja uko mukuchita zinthu zazikulu ndikugonjetsa dziko! Ngati mukufunitsitsa kutero, werengani zamtsogolo.
Kukhala Wopanda Ukwati N'kovuta Koma Muyenera Kuvomereza
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kodi n’kwabwino kukhala wosakwatiwa pamene aliyense amene ali pafupi nanu ayamba kukondana, kukwatiwa, ngakhale kukhala ndi ana? Mwamtheradi! Ndi bwino kukhala wekha kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi munthu amene simukumukonda kapena kumulemekeza. Sosaiti imayika chitsenderezo china, makamaka kwa amayi, kuwatsogolera kukhulupirira kuti akufunikira kupeza chikhutiro kudzera mu maubwenzi komanso kuti china chirichonse m'miyoyo yawo ndi chopanda ntchito kapena chakanthawi.
Monga munthu wa m’zaka za zana la 21, muyenera kudziŵa kuti zimenezo siziri zoona. Kukhala wosakwatiwa kuli bwino ndipo anthu ambiri masiku ano akusankha kukhala ndi moyo umenewu modzifunira. Kuvomera kukhala wosakwatiwa kumatanthauza kuvomereza kuti mwakonzeka ulendo watsopano m'moyo wanu komwe mutha kumizidwa muzinthu zomwe mumakonda. Mutha kuyang'ana kwambiri zosangalatsa zatsopano kapena kupita kudziko latsopano lomwe mwakhala mukulakalaka kulipeza. Kukhala wosakwatiwa kuli bwino, gehena, ikhoza kukhala chinthu chachikulu chomwe mwaganizapo kuchita.
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N’zotheka Kukhala Wosakwatiwa Komanso Wosangalala
Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe mungakonde nazo ngati simuli mbeta, koma choyamba muyenera kuvomereza kuti ndi bwino kukhala osakwatiwa. Moyo wanu ukhoza kusintha n’kukhala wabwino ngati muulola. Kuthamanga ndi kuyang'ana kumbuyo kwanu maubale akale sichikufikitsani kulikonse.
M'malo mongoganizira za ubale wanu womaliza, ganizirani za ubale wanu ndi inu nokha. Ndipamene mudzazindikira kuti kukhala wosakwatiwa ndi chimwemwe kulidi. Ndiye, ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mungachite kuti muvomereze moyo wosakwatiwa ndikudziganizira nokha?
Lembani zolemba mufilimuyi
Kanemayo Momwe Mungakhalire Silimodzi, Wochita nawo Rebel Wilson ndi Dakota Johnson, akuyamba ngati sewero lachikondi lodziwikiratu la mayi wina wazaka 20 yemwe adasamukira ku New York kuti 'akadzipeze yekha' asanakhazikike ndi chibwenzi chomwe adakhala nacho nthawi yayitali. Amacheza ndi mayi wina wazaka 20 kuntchito kwake ndipo amachita zomwe aliyense ku New York akuwoneka kuti akuchita: kumacheza ku bar chifukwa ndi imodzi mwazabwino. malo abwino kukumana amuna.
Mwamsanga amasanduka chinthu chosiyana kwambiri. Mnyamatayo ndi munthu wabwino yemwe amakumana ndi munthu wina, ndipo amakumana ndi mnyamata wina, yemwe ndi mwamuna wabwino koma akulimbana ndi mavuto ake. Ndi kanema wanzeru wokhudza anthu oganiza bwino omwe amasankha mwanzeru m'malo mokhala wamkulu, wachikondi.
Ndikawonera kwambiri, ndidazindikiranso chifukwa chake kanemayu sangagwire ntchito mu danga la rom-com komanso chifukwa chake mamiliyoni ambiri azimayi osakwatiwa kulikonse sangakonde kuti mtsogoleri wachikazi wapakati amachita zinthu mopambanitsa - amasankha ubwenzi ndi kudzikonda pamunthu. Mmene Mungakhalire Osakwatiwa ikufotokoza nkhani yofunika kwambiri imene imavutitsa anthu ambiri azaka za m’ma 20 ndi 30. Kodi maubwenzi amatanthauza chiyani ngati ubale woyamba - womwe uli ndi iwe mwini - sunakulitsidwe?
Kupeza malire pakati pa akatswiri ndi moyo waumwini
Ambiri aife timafuna kuchita chilichonse chomwe mwamuna angachite ndikuchichita bwino pomwe akuwoneka okongola kwambiri. Ndine mmodzi wa iwo. Ndikufuna kuchita ZONSE. Ndikufuna kugwira ntchito, kukhala ndi ntchito yokhutiritsa komanso yopambana komanso kukhala ndi moyo wanganso. Osanenapo, ndatero maulendo ausiku a atsikana ndi anzanga momwe ndingathere.
Ndikufunanso kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi banja langa kuti ndipeze 'nthawi yosangalatsa' tsiku lililonse, mofunitsitsa. M'zonsezi, palibe nthawi yomwe yatsala kuti muyambe kukondana kapena kukondana. Kukopana konse kumachitika pa Tinder. Madeti amakonzedwa kudzera m'mawu, ndipo mbiri imawunikidwa pazama media. Ndizo zochuluka zomwe ndingachite pakadali pano.
Zoona zake n’zakuti, nthawi zina maganizo olankhula nkhani zing’onozing’ono ndiponso kucheza ndi anthu amene amalephera kudziteteza amatopetsa. Kuchita izi ndikukhalabe amisala kuli pafupi zosatheka, kwenikweni. Ndiye nditani? Panthawi imeneyi, ine moona mtima kungovomereza kukhala wosakwatiwa kwa moyo wonse.
Kukhala wosakwatiwa sikutanthauza kukhala wekha
Kodi kukhala wosakwatiwa ndi kuzikonda? Sankhani nokha choyamba. Ine ndikusankha ine. Ndasankha kuti ndiyambe kukumbatira kukhala wosakwatiwa. Koma osati monga momwe anthu amafotokozera - spinster, osakwatiwa, pa alumali, kapena kusiyanasiyana kwake. Monga momwe ine mwini. Munthu amene amakonda kuchita zinthu zomwe angathe pamene akugwira ntchito pafupifupi 70% ya nthawiyo.
Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti sindikufuna mwamuna wakhalidwe labwino yemwe amamvetsetsa zomwe kugona ndi kugona komanso yemwe azikhala ndikutsutsana ndi Captain America motsutsana ndi Iron Man ndi momwe zimayankhulirana ndi malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe akuvutitsa anthu. Zopatsa bonasi ngati ali ndi tsitsi lonse ndikundipsompsona mpaka nditaya mtima.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndimawonera makanema achikondi. Ndidakali ndi chiyembekezo cha zokambirana zabwino ndi kukonzekera kupanga chikondi mwachidwi. Koma chosiyana tsopano ndi chakuti ndayamba kuphunzira kukhala mbeta. Ichinso ndichifukwa chake sindili wosakwatiwa. Osasungulumwa. Kungokhala osakwatiwa.
Kodi kukhala bwino kukhala single? Ufulu ndi wotsegula maso
Kukhala wekha ndi chinthu chachikulu. Osati chifukwa mumadya, kumwa, kukhumudwa, kuimba, kulira, kukuwa ndi kusewera masewera a kanema nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna, ngati mungasankhe. Osati chifukwa mutha kupita kumalo achilendo kapena kuyang'ana malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena kuchita chilichonse chomwe mungafune, osafunsidwa mafunso.
Mutha kukhala osangalala kukhala wosakwatiwa chifukwa kulemera kwa ziyembekezo, zokhumba zosakwaniritsidwa ndi zosakwaniritsidwa kulibenso. Chimwemwe chanu sichidalira zochita kapena zochita za munthu wina. Kudziona kukhala wofunika sikumangiriridwa ndi chiwerengero cha amuna (kapena akazi) omwe amakupezani otentha pabedi kapena chiwerengero cha masiku omwe amakutulutsani musanaganize zogona nawo. Tsopano mulibe nkhawa!
Tsiku la Valentine ndi kudya chokoleti ndipo masiku akubadwa ndi splurging pa zinthu mukufuna kwenikweni, moipa kwambiri. Mtima wanu ndi wanu. Zosasweka. Mtima wosasweka umapatsa mtendere wamumtima umene munthu wokhumudwa saukhoza. Panopa ndaphunziranso mmene ndingapitirizire pamene banja latha, ndipo limeneli ndi phunziro limene munthu sangaiwale.
Kukhala ndekha ndikusankha komwe ndimapanga tsiku lililonse kudziyika ndekha, NDENDE wanga pamwamba pa ena onse. Kodi kukhala bwino kukhala single? Ndimadzikumbutsa kuti ndikhale muubwenzi wochita bwino, wokondwa ndi ine ndekha poyamba kuti ndithe kupita kukagonjetsa mapiri onsewa omwe ndikuyenera kukulitsa. Si funso la kuphunzira kuvomereza kukhala wosakwatiwa. Koma kuphunzira kukhala BE. KUTI KUKHALA. Khalani bwino. Khalani mu mphindi. Khalani pano ndi aliyense amene ndili naye. Khalani m'chikondi, osakhala m'chikondi, ingokhalani.
Ibibazo
Ndithudi! Kudumpha kuchoka paubwenzi wina kupita ku wina kungakhale koopsa ndipo kungakutalikitseni nokha. Tengani nthawi yopuma ndikulingalira kukhala osakwatiwa kwakanthawi. Pali anthu ambiri amene avomereza kukhala osakwatiwa kwanthawizonse ngati lingaliro ndipo zimawayendera bwino.
Ndi bwino kukhala wosakwatiwa kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi munthu amene simumukonda kotheratu kapena amene sakuyenerani inu. Zonse zimadalira mkhalidwe wanu, zosowa zanu, ndi anthu akuzungulirani.
Inde sichoncho. Kukhala wosakwatiwa ndizovuta komanso kuphunzira momwe mungasangalalire ndi moyo umenewo ndi ntchito yabwino. Pamafunika kulimba mtima kuti munthu akhale wodziimira payekha osayesa kutero onetsani chikondi m'moyo wanu nthawi zonse.
Lekani kudandaula za momwe ubale wanu uliri ndikuyamba kuda nkhawa za kukula kwanu! Iyi ndi njira yotsimikizirika yoika mphamvu zanu pa chinthu choyenera.
Ndi bwino kukhala wosakwatiwa pa msinkhu uliwonse kapena tsiku lililonse pamoyo wanu. Ubale kapena bwenzi silimakufotokozerani inu.
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Momwe Mungapangire Kukhala Kwanu Kumodzi Kutha Patsiku la Valentine
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
Ndikumva kukhala wosakwatiwa kumathandiza munthu kutsata zopatulika zamasiku ano, ufulu waumwini, kudziletsa, ndi kudzizindikira.
Kaya amachitidwa payekha kapena ndi anthu ena, osakwatiwa amakonda kuthera nthawi yambiri pa zosangalatsa zonse. Imeneyo ndi mfundo inanso yomwe ndingaganizire.
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