Malangizo 20 a Momwe Mungalekere Kufuna Ubale

M’dziko limene likuwoneka lotanganidwa ndi nkhani zachikondi ndi mathero a nthano, chikhumbo chofuna kukhala pachibwenzi chingawononge maganizo athu. Komabe, imafika nthawi yomwe imakhala yofunika kwambiri kuti tiyambe ulendo wodzipeza wekha ndikukwaniritsa zaumwini. Palibe nsonga yachangu ya momwe mungasiye kufuna chibwenzi, koma pali njira zambiri zomwe zingakutsogolereni kumalingaliro amenewo.

Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti nthawi zina, anthu osakwatira amasonyeza madera odziyimira pawokha komanso kukula kwaumwini. Chifukwa chake kuti mukhale ndi moyo wodzaza ndi cholinga, kukula, komanso kukhutira, tasonkhanitsa malangizo 20 othandiza kuti musiye kufuna chikondi kuchokera kwa mnzanu wongopeka. Tiyeni tifotokozenso njira yopita kuchimwemwe kupitirira malire a kufunafuna chikondi.

N'chifukwa Chiyani Ndimakhala Wosimidwa Ndi Ubale?

Kufunitsitsa kukhala pachibwenzi nthawi zambiri kumachitika chifukwa cha amatonormativity, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pachikhalidwe chathu. Amatormativity ndikugogomezera kwambiri paubwenzi wachikondi monga gwero lalikulu la chisangalalo ndi kukwaniritsidwa. Zithunzi zowoneka bwino pama media ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti zimapangitsa chidwi komanso kukakamizidwa kuti muteteze mnzanu. 

Kuonjezera apo, kusatetezeka kwaumwini, zokumana nazo zakale za kukanidwa, ndi kusowa kwa chithandizo chamaganizo zimathandizira kukhumudwa kumeneku. Kumvetsetsa ndi kuthana ndi machitidwe amatonormativity ndikofunikira kuti tithane ndi zisonkhezero zamtundu wa anthu ndikulimbikitsa malingaliro athanzi pa ubale ndi kudzidalira. Musanaphunzire momwe mungasiyire kufunikira kwa mnzanu, nazi zifukwa 5 zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala wofunitsitsa kukhala ndi mnzanu:

 1. Kuopa kudzilamulira kungachititse munthu kufuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi

Anthu ena amada nkhawa ndi kudziyimira pawokha kapena kupanga zosankha kapena kudzilimbitsa okha. Iwo angaone unansi monga njira yodalira munthu wina kaamba ka chitsogozo ndi chitonthozo, kutsogoza ku chikhumbo chachikulu cha bwenzi. 

Mu mkhalidwe uwu wodalira maganizo, malinga ndi nkhaniyi , "nthawi zambiri mumadalira mnzanu kuti akwaniritse zosowa zanu zonse. Mukakumana ndi mavuto, mungayang'ane kwa iwo nthawi yomweyo musanayesere kudziletsa nokha." Mukangoyang'ana pa kudzikonza nokha ndikukhala mtundu wanu wabwino kwambiri, mudzathanso kuyang'ana paubwenzi.

2. Mwina mungafune kuti chibwenzicho chisasokonezeke

Kufunitsitsa kukhala pachibwenzi nthawi zina kumatha kukhala njira yodzichepetsera ku zovuta zaumwini kapena nkhani zomwe sizinathe. 

• Ena amafuna zibwenzi kuti apeze zododometsa pamavuto awo monga nkhawa za tsiku ndi tsiku kapena nkhawa zomwe safuna kuthana nazo.
• Anthu ena amagwiritsa ntchito zibwenzi zachikondi kufunafuna chitsimikiziro kwa okondedwa awo ndi oyenera chikondi kubisa kusatetezeka kwawo ndi kudzikayikira. Wokondedwa amawathandiza kuti azikhala otetezeka komanso otetezeka

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3. Chikakamizo cha anthu chingakhale yankho la “Chifukwa chiyani ndimangokhalira kufuna chibwenzi/ bwenzi?”

Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti pofika zaka zapakati pa unyamata, ana ambiri amakhala atayamba chibwenzi chimodzi. Chiyembekezochi chimawapangitsa kuti ayambe kugwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu ambirimbiri opezera chibwenzi, n’kuyamba chibwenzi chopanda chiyembekezo. Umu ndi momwe timakakamizidwira kuti tifunikire chibwenzi:

• Zofananitsa zapa social media: Kuwonetsa kosalekeza kwa maubwenzi owoneka ngati abwino pazama TV kumapanga chiyembekezo chosaneneka kuti aliyense agwirizane. Imakhala muyeso wopambana
• Kusonkhana kwa mabanja ndi kufunsa: Kukambitsirana kwa ‘cholinga chabwino’ kwa achibale kapena mabwenzi monga ngati “Taonani munthu ameneyo, akuoneka ngati inuyo. kulimbikitsa chikhulupiriro cha anthu kuti kukhala pachibwenzi kuyenera kukhala chofunikira kwa aliyense. Apo ayi, mumaonedwa kuti ndinu osayenera m'magulu omwe mumadalira kuti mukhale otetezeka
• Zokambirana wamba pakati pa anzawo: Ndemanga za tsiku ndi tsiku monga "Iwe udakali wosakwatiwa?" perekanso chiyembekezero cha anthu kuti aliyense akhale paubwenzi, ndikuwonjezera kukakamizidwa kosayenera

4. Chiyembekezo cha chikhalidwe kapena chipembedzo chingakupangitseni kufuna kukhala pachibwenzi

Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti “anthu okonda zachipembedzo kwambiri, amaona kuti ukwati ndi wofunika kwambiri pa nkhani ya masakramenti kapena pangano, zomwe ndi zofunika kwambiri pa ziphunzitso zambiri zachipembedzo.” Izi zimapangitsa anthu kupanga zisankho zosayenera ndikuyamba chibwenzi cholimba nthawi yomweyo. Mwachitsanzo:

• Anthu ambiri amafunafuna mabwenzi a chikhulupiriro chofanana kuti atsimikizire kuti zikhalidwe ndi miyambo zimagwirizana, kulimbikitsa maziko ofanana a moyo wabanja.
• Anthu ambiri oopa Mulungu amaona ngati munthu wosakwatira kapena wosakwatiwa okwatirana alibe ana. Miseche ndi chitsenderezo chimene chimabwera chimachititsa munthu kufuna kukhala paubwenzi umene umatsogolera ku ukwati 

Ngati ndiwe, dziwa kuti kufuna chibwenzi si chinthu choipa. Chomwe sichili bwino ndikungoyang'ana pa maubwenzi okondana kapena kusalana komwe kumabwera chifukwa chosakhala m'modzi. Yesetsani kupeza dzina lanu m'zipembedzo zomwe muli nazo. 

Wina angafune kukhala pachibwenzi chifukwa cha zoyembekeza zachikhalidwe kapena zachipembedzo

5. Mutha kufuna bwenzi lachitetezo ndi bata 

Kwa amayi ambiri, chikhalidwe cha anthu nthawi zambiri chimapangitsa chikhulupiriro chakuti kukhala ndi mwamuna m'moyo wawo n'chimodzimodzi ndi chitetezo cha chikhalidwe ndi zachuma. Kumasuka ku chikhalidwe ichi kumaphatikizapo zotsutsana ndi zovuta ndikuzindikira kuti mphamvu zaumwini ndi kudziyimira pawokha ndizomwe zimatsegula njira ya moyo wachimwemwe ndi wokhazikika, zomwe zingayambitse ubale ngati mukufuna.

Komanso, mukapeza munthu, kumbukirani kuti kufuna zambiri muubwenzi sikulakwa, koma kuika zosowa zanu zonse kapena zolemetsa kwa mnzanuyo ndi. Choncho, yesetsani kuzindikira pamene mukuchita izi ndikubwerera mmbuyo.

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Momwe Mungalekere Kufuna Ubale

Mukungoganizira za ubale wanu? Mumadzifunsa kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani ndimangokhalira kufuna chibwenzi / bwenzi?" kapena “N’chifukwa chiyani ndikufunika wokwatirana naye moipa kwambiri ngakhale kuti ndinangotha ​​kumene?” Izi ndi zachibadwa, ndipo mukhoza kuthana ndi vutoli. Chifukwa chake ngati mukuyang'ana njira zomwe mungasiye kufuna chikondi chamtundu wachikondi kuti mukhale 'okwanira,' werengani zakuphatikizira maupangiri 20:

1. Yang'anani pa kudzipeza nokha ndi kukumbatira ufulu

Khalani ndi nthawi yofufuza zomwe mumakonda, zomwe mumakonda, ndi zomwe mumakonda. Dziwani kuti ndinu ndani ngati munthu wopanda chibwenzi. Dziwani zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe simukonda. Izi zikugwiranso ntchito pakukhutira ndi kugonana. Kudzizindikira kumeneku kudzakhudza kwambiri ubale wanu wamtsogolo. M'malo molowa muubwenzi weniweni , nazi njira zina zomwe mungasangalalire kukhala osakwatira:

• Phunzirani kukana kudzipereka komwe kukuwonongerani mphamvu
• Lumikizanani ndi ukadaulo ndikukhazikitsa nthawi kuti muchotse zowonera ndi zosokoneza
• Yesetsani kuchita zinthu zapawekha monga kudzitengera masiku, ndi zina.
• Patulani nthawi yanga kuti ndisiye kufuna chibwenzi kwakanthawi. Mwina pita ku makalasi ophika ndikuphika chakudya chamadzulo

Mukalandira ufulu wanu wodziyimira pawokha, maubwenzi anu amakula bwino chifukwa mudzabweretsa kudzidalira kwanu.

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2. Khazikitsani zolinga zanu zosaphatikizapo zachikondi

Pali zambiri zofunika pamoyo kuposa kungoganiza zongofuna chibwenzi. Pamene muyika patsogolo kukula kwanu, mudzapeza chisangalalo kuposa kukhala ndi bwenzi. Chifukwa chake, yang'anani mphamvu zanu kuti mukwaniritse zofunikira zanu ndi zokhumba zanu monga izi:

• Khazikitsani zolinga zanu muzolemba kapena positi, ndipo perekani mphamvu zanu kuti mukwaniritse 
• Kondwerani zomwe mwakwaniritsa ndikudzitsutsa kuti mukwaniritse maloto anu
• Pangani mndandanda wazinthu zodabwitsa zomwe mukufuna kukumana nazo ndikugwira ntchito kuti mukwaniritse chilichonse mwazo

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3. Limbitsani ubwenzi wanu mwakhama

Mukufuna kukondedwa ndi kukondedwa, musaiwale za anzanu apamtima. Ngati muyenera kusankha pakati pa ubwenzi ndi ubale, sankhani ubwenzi. Pangani ubale wakuya komanso wopindulitsa ndi anzanu omwe amabweretsa chisangalalo, chithandizo, ndi ubwenzi m'moyo wanu. Izi zitha kukhala chothandizira pakufuna kwanu kusiya kufuna ubale.

• Yambitsani kulankhulana pafupipafupi
• Phunzirani kumvetsera mwachidwi pamene anzanu akulankhula
• Khalani wothandizira ndikukhalapo ndi anzanu panthawi yachisangalalo komanso zovuta
• Ubwenzi wa Plato ukhoza kupereka maubwenzi apamtima monga kukumbatirana ndi kukumbatirananso, choncho tsegulani nawo zokambiranazi.

4. Mungaleke bwanji kufuna chibwenzi: Yesetsani kudzisamalira

Mutha kusiya kufuna chikondi kwa wina, koma osasiya kufuna kwa inu nokha. Ikani patsogolo thanzi lanu mwakuchita zinthu zomwe zimalimbikitsa kudzisamalira, monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusinkhasinkha, ndi zosangalatsa. Zomwe zimakubweretserani chisangalalo ndizokwanira. 

• Limbikitsani moyo wanu ndi chifundo, zitsimikizo zabwino, ndi chiyamiko
• Landirani zophophonya zanu ndikukondwerera padera lanu
• Chitani zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa mtima wanu kuyimba mosangalala, ngakhale ena sakuzimvetsa kapena kuziwona ngati zachilendo. Mwachitsanzo, amuna akamayamba kuluka kuti akhale ndi thanzi labwino

5. Pangani kudzidalira kuti mugonjetse singledom blues

Anthu amene amaiwala za iwo okha mapeto kuika maganizo awo onse pa kufuna ubwenzi. Ganizirani za mphamvu zanu, yesetsani kudzikweza nokha, ndikukhala ndi chithunzithunzi chabwino. Nawa maupangiri amomwe mungasiyire kufuna chibwenzi pomanga chidaliro:

• Yang'anani zovuta zanu ndi mikhalidwe yapadera popanda kuweruza
• M'malo kudzidzudzula ndi kudzimvera chisoni 
• M'malo mwa maganizo oipa ndi zitsimikizo zabwino
• Kondwererani kupita patsogolo kwanu ndi zomwe mwakwaniritsa m'njira
• Tulukani pamalo otonthoza nthawi zonse koma osati mokakamiza

Pamene mukuyesetsa kudzisamalira, mtima wanu udzakhala wosangalala, kutengera chikondi chenicheni m’moyo wanu. Lolani kuwala kwanu kwamkati kuwale, ndipo mudzapeza kuti chikondi chomwe mumachifuna chili mwa inunso. 

6. Ikani patsogolo ubwino wanu

Ganizirani zinthu zomwe zimakuwonongerani chisangalalo kapena kusokoneza thanzi lanu. Phunzirani kukana kuchita zinthu mopambanitsa ndipo khalani ndi malire olimba ndi achibale ndi mabwenzi oipa. Nthawi zina, timangofuna bwenzi lathu chifukwa chosowa chochita kapena kutopa. Kapena chifukwa chakuti sitikuthandizidwa. 

Choncho, choyamba ndi kuchotsa zinyalala m'moyo wanu. Musakhale munthu amene nthawi zonse amanyalanyaza zizindikiro zofiira za ubale. Mwa kumasula nthawi yanu ndi malo anu amaganizo ku zinthu zoipa ndi ziyembekezo zosatheka, mumatsegula njira ya moyo wathanzi. Izi zimakuthandizaninso kusiya kulakalaka ubale.

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7. Ngati mwakhala mukuganiza zofuna chibwenzi nthawi zonse, tsutsani miyambo ya anthu

Kufunsa zoyembekeza zachikhalidwe ndi miyambo yokhudzana ndi ukwati ndi kudzipereka kwa moyo wonse ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri pakudzimasula ku kusowa kwa chibwenzi. Kuti muthetse bwino zikhalidwezi, ganizirani izi:

• Pangani zibwenzi ndi anthu osakwatiwa mosangalala: Wonjezerani malo anu ochezera a pa Intaneti kuti muphatikizepo omwe asankha moyo wosakwatiwa. Kuyanjana ndi anthu omwe amavomereza ufulu wawo kungapereke malingaliro ena okhudza chisangalalo ndi kupambana
• Lankhulani za amatonormativity: Limbikitsani kukambirana momasuka ndi anzanu, abale, kapena anzanu pazayembekezero za anthu pazaubwenzi. Limbikitsani zokambirana zomwe zimatsutsa zikhalidwe izi, motero kulimbikitsa kumvetsetsa kophatikizana ndi chifundo kwa chimwemwe chaumwini.
• Sinthani malingaliro anu za kukhala single: Tsutsani zikhalidwe zamtundu uliwonse zomwe zikuwonetsa kukhala pachibwenzi ndiyo njira yokhayo yomaliza. Tsimikizirani kutsimikizika kwa kusakwatiwa ngati chisankho chodziwikiratu komanso chokwaniritsa
• Phunzirani za maubwenzi omwe si achikhalidwe: Kaya ndi polyamory, maubwenzi otseguka, kapena zitsanzo zina, kumvetsetsa kuchuluka kwa kuthekera kwa maubwenzi kumatha kukulitsa malingaliro anu pazomwe zimapanga kulumikizana kokwanira

8. Khalani ndi chizolowezi choyamikira

Limodzi mwa malangizo abwino kwambiri odzikonda ndikuphunzira kuyamikira. Mukaphunzira kuyamikira chilichonse chomwe chikukuzungulirani, simudzayang'ana kwambiri pakufuna chibwenzi. Njira zosavuta zochitira izi ndi izi:

• Gawani ulendo wanu woyamikira ndi mnzanu kapena pangani gulu laling'ono lopereka kuthokoza. Kukambirana nthawi zonse zomwe mumayamikira kumapereka mwayi woyankha komanso kugawana nawo zochitika zabwino
• Perekani mphindi zochepa tsiku lililonse kuti mulembe zinthu zitatu zomwe mumayamikira. Chizoloŵezi chosavuta ichi chimalimbikitsa malingaliro abwino ndikuthandizira kusuntha kuyang'ana mbali zabwino za moyo wanu
• Pangani mtsuko kapena bokosi lothokoza momwe mungasungire zolemba zothokoza pomwe mumalemba nthawi, zochitika, kapena zinthu zomwe mumayamikira. Yang'ananinso zolemba izi nthawi ndi nthawi kuti muwonjezere zabwino

Pamene mukulitsa chiyamikiro, maganizo anu amasintha kuchoka ku chikhumbo chofuna kukhudzika ndi kuvomereza kulemera kwa zomwe mukukumana nazo panopa. Mukazindikira kuchuluka kwa moyo wanu, mudzapeza chikhutiro mwa inu nokha, kupangitsa kufuna kukhala pachibwenzi kusakhale kovutirapo komanso kumagwirizana ndi zilakolako zanu zenizeni.

9. Dziwani zatsopano zomwe mumakonda komanso zokonda

Mutha kuyika ndalama pazachitukuko chanu powerenga, kupita kumisonkhano, kapena kuchita maphunziro owonjezera. Wonjezerani chidziwitso ndi luso lanu pa liwiro lomwe mukufuna. Kukwaniritsidwa uku kumachepetsa kufunikira kwa kutsimikizika kwakunja. Landirani mwayi wophunzirira ndikukula m'malo omwe amakusangalatsani. Ubwino wina wochita zimenezi ndi:

• Zokonda zosangalatsa zimakulitsa malingaliro anu, zimakulitsa kudzikonda kwanu 
• Kuchepetsa chidwi chanu ndi chidwi chanu kumasokoneza malingaliro anu kukhala athanzi 
• Zitha kutsogolera kukumvetsetsani mozama za inu nokha ndikupangitsa kulumikizana kwatsopano ndi zokumana nazo zolimbikitsa

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10. Yendani ndikufufuza kuti mupewe kufuna chibwenzi

Kuyenda ndi kudzifufuza nokha kungathandize kudzikuza

Payenera kukhala malo atsopano omwe mukufuna kuwona. Khalani ndi cholinga choyenda ndikuwona zambiri. Yambani ulendo wopita ku malo atsopano, fufuzani malo atsopano, ndipo dziwani bwino zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana kuti mukulitse malingaliro anu ndikupanga zokumana nazo zosaiwalika. Kuyenda nokha kwa akazi kumathandiza kubwezeretsanso ufulu wawo. Koma, kumbukirani malangizo awa:

• Sankhani malo omwe akugwirizana ndi zokonda zanu komanso mulingo wotonthoza
• Konzekerani pasadakhale momwe mungathere, komabe yesetsani kukhala osasinthasintha komanso modzidzimutsa
• Yambani pang'ono ngati uli ulendo wanu woyamba
• Phatikizani kuwala ndi mwanzeru
• Chofunika kwambiri, khalani olumikizana komanso otetezeka. Gawani mapulani oyenda ndi anthu apamtima odalirika 

11. Dziperekeni ndikubwezerani 

Kafukufuku wina adapeza kuti anthu odzipereka nthawi zambiri amamva kukhutira kwambiri ndi moyo wawo. Mautumiki othandiza anthu angapereke chithandizo, zinthu zofunika, komanso kumva kuti ali m'gulu la anthu, zomwe zimathandiza kuti anthu azidziona kuti ndi ofunika komanso kuchepetsa kudzipatula.

Mutha kuthandizira kudera lanu ndikusintha miyoyo ya ena kudzera m'ntchito zachifundo ndi ntchito. Kudzipereka kumalo osungira nyama (ndani angasiye kufuna kukondedwa ndi nyama?). Kapena sankhani chifukwa china chilichonse chomwe chili pafupi ndi mtima wanu. Izi zidzakuthandizani kubweza zina mwa chikondi ndikumverera pang'ono.

12. Kulitsani ufulu wogonana kuti mutuluke mu funk ya “Sindilimbe”

Kwa anthu ambiri, kuchita mchitidwe wogonana wotetezedwa ndi wogwirizana ndikofunikira kuti mukhale okhutira m'moyo. Kuti musade nkhawa ndi chibwenzi, dziyang'anireni nokha pakugonana. Ili ndi gawo lomwe timadzipeza tikudalira ena. Pali njira zambiri zomwe mungadzikhutitsire nokha, ndipo imodzi mwa zosavuta kwambiri ndi kudzera mu zosangalatsa. 

Ngati mulandira zochitika zosiyanasiyanazi popanda manyazi, simudzatha kungosiya kudalira kwambiri ena kuti mukhutiritse kugonana, komanso mudzatha kupeza mphamvu zanu komanso kulumikizana kwanu kwakukulu. Kenako, mukakhala munthu woyenera , kufuna zambiri muubwenzi wogonana kungakhale kophweka kufotokoza. Chifukwa tsopano mukudziwa bwino zomwe mukufuna pabedi.

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13. Yesetsani kukhala osamala kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro osamasuka

Yesetsani kukhalapo panthawiyi, kulitsani kudzidziwitsa nokha, ndikumvetsetsa mozama malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu. Zimatsimikiziranso thanzi labwino, mtendere wamumtima, komanso kudzivomereza. Njira zina zochitira kukumbukira ndi izi:

• Njira zoyatsira pansi: Samalani ku mphamvu zanu pamene malingaliro otaya mtima abuka. Lumikizanani ndi nthawi yomwe ilipo poyang'ana kwambiri zomwe mukuwona, kumva, kununkhiza, kulawa, ndi kukhudza. Izi zimathandiza kuwongolera chidwi kutali ndi nkhawa zokhudzana ndi ubale
• Zochita zosokoneza maganizo: Pamene maganizo osimidwa amawonekera, funsani kutsimikizika kwake ndikusintha maganizo awo oyenerera ndi owona. Kusamala kumathandizira kupanga kutalikirana ndi malingaliro olakwika omwe adzidzidzimutsa

Pamene mukulitsa chiyanjano chakuya ndi inu nokha ndi malingaliro anu, kufunikira kwa kutsimikizira kwakunja kumachepa, ndipo mudzazindikira kuti kukhutira kwenikweni kwagona mu kulemera kwa dziko lanu lamkati.

14. Njira zomwe mudakumana nazo kuti musiye kufuna chibwenzi moyipa

Ganizirani za maubwenzi akale, phunzirani kuchokera kwa iwo, ndipo yesetsani kuchiritsa mabala aliwonse amtima kapena mavuto omwe sanathetsedwe. Umu ndi momwe zingathandizire:

• Zochitika zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi zimathandizira momwe timayendera zachikondi masiku ano, choncho ganizirani kuthetsa kapena kuvomereza zakale. Kutsekedwa uku kumalimbikitsa machiritso amalingaliro ndi njira yabwino ya maubwenzi amtsogolo
• Kumvetsetsa malingaliro okhudzana ndi maubwenzi anu akale kumatha kuchiritsa, kulimbikitsa kulimba mtima, ndikukhala ndi malingaliro abwino.
• Izi zikupatsiraninso kumveka bwino pazofuna zanu, zosokoneza mgwirizano, ndi zolinga za ubale

15. Chitani nawo zitsimikiziro zabwino

Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti “kudzitsimikizira kungabwezeretse luso lanu mwa kulola anthu kuganizira za magwero a kudziona kuti ndi ofunika, monga mfundo zazikulu.” Nthawi zina timaiwala za ife eni. Tsimikizirani kufunika kwanu ndi kukhutira kwanu pokhala osakwatira. Dzikumbutseni za ubwino ndi mwayi womwe umabwera chifukwa cha kukhala wosakwatira. Yang'anani pa zinthu zonse zomwe mumakonda zokhudza inu nokha ndipo yesetsani kudzivomereza nokha momwe mulili.

16. Pangani network yothandizira yomwe imatsimikizira kusakwatiwa kwanu

Ndikofunikira kukhala ndi abwenzi, abale, kapena magulu othandizira omwe amamvetsetsa chikhumbo chanu choyang'ana kukula kwanu. Ndi maukonde amphamvu a chisamaliro, mukhoza kudutsa moyo popanda mosimidwa kufuna ubale kudzaza chosowacho. 

• Yesetsani kusiya kucheza ndi anthu omwe ali paubwenzi kwa nthawi ndithu
• Khalani ndi nthawi yochulukirapo ndi anthu osakwatira omwe akuyenda bwino m'miyoyo yawo
• Dzizungulireni ndi anthu omvetsetsa komanso achikondi omwe amakondwerera ulendo wanu wodzipeza
• Anthu ndi magulu awa atha kukupatsani chithandizo chofunikira kwambiri komanso chitsimikiziro chomwe mukufuna komanso choyenera. Chilimbikitso ichi ndi mayanjano angalimbikitse kudzimva kuti ndinu otetezeka komanso okondedwa

17. Tengani nthawi yopuma kuchokera ku mapulogalamu a chibwenzi ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti

Kusiya kuyanjana nthawi zonse ndi maubwenzi a ena kungasinthe maganizo anu mkati, kukupeza chikhutiro mwa inu nokha. Kupumula kuchokera ku mapulogalamu a zibwenzi ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kumapanga mpata wodziganizira nokha, kudzisamalira, komanso kukhala ndi maganizo enieni. Podzipatula pa kufananitsa kosalekeza ndi kutsimikizira kwakunja ndi kukanikiza, mukulitsa malingaliro odziyimira pawokha ndi chisangalalo, kupangitsa kufunafuna ubale kukhala chisankho chozikidwa pakuwona m'malo mofuna kutsimikizira kwa ena.

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18. Khazikitsani ntchito yabwino kuti muthe kuthana ndi vuto laubwenzi 

Pampikisano wofuna bwenzi wangwiro, kaŵirikaŵiri timaiwala mbali zina za moyo. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi ndi mphamvu zanu kuti mukhale ndi ntchito yokhutiritsa yomwe ingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi cholinga. Izi zingapereke gwero la cholinga ndi kukwaniritsa, kuchepetsa cholinga chokha chopeza bwenzi. 

Yambani ulendo wakukula kwanu komanso akatswiri, ndipo mupeza kuti kukhutira kwenikweni kumabwera chifukwa chokhala ndi moyo wabwino. Mukakulitsa chidwi chanu ndi mphamvu zanu kuti mupange ntchito yopindulitsa, mudzakhala odzikonda kwambiri.

19. Chitanipo kanthu podzisinkhasinkha

Ganizirani zomwe mukufuna, zosowa zanu, ndi mfundo zanu nthawi zonse. Onetsetsani kuti zokhumba zanu zaubwenzi zikugwirizana ndi umunthu wanu weniweni. Kufuna ubale ndikwabwino koma kumafuna kuganizira kwambiri. 

• Kudzera mukuwunika pafupipafupi, mukulitsa kumvetsetsa mozama za zomwe mukufunadi muubwenzi
• Kupyolera mu njira yodzipezera nokha, mudzapeza kuti chikhumbo chokhala ndi mgwirizano wopindulitsa chimachokera kumalo enieni, osati kufunikira kwa wina kuti akusokonezeni kapena kuthetsa nkhani zanu.
• Mukatero mutha kulimbikitsa kulumikizana kowona komwe kumakwaniritsa moyo wanu, osamaliza moyo wanu

20. Yesetsani kuleza mtima ndi kukhulupirira nthawi

Malumikizidwe enieni nthawi zambiri amabwera pomwe simukuwayembekezera. Khulupirirani ulendowu ndipo dziwani kuti bwenzi loyenera lidzabwera m'moyo wanu nthawi ikakwana. Osayesera kuchita zinthu mopupuluma ndi kuphunzira kuyenda ndi mayendedwe. Yesetsani kuleza mtima ndikudalira nthawi ya moyo - Khalani ndi chikhulupiriro mwa munthu woyenera kukupezani. 

Pomaliza, kumasuka ku kufunafuna kosalekeza kwa chibwenzi ndi ulendo wosintha. Pogwiritsa ntchito maupangiri 20 omwe aperekedwa m'nkhaniyi, mutha kusiya kukhumba ubale kwambiri powongolera zomwe mukuyang'ana ndikuzindikira kudziyimira kwanu. 

Ngati mukufunabe chibwenzi, choyamba yang'anani pa kudzikonda, khalani ndi malingaliro athanzi, ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zanu. Mwa kusiya zoyembekeza za anthu ndi kukumbatira kukula kwanu, mutha kuchotsa chikhumbo chaubwenzi ndikupeza chisangalalo chakuya m'moyo wanu. 

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