Kuthana ndi Kusweka Kuntchito - Momwe Mungagwiritsire Ntchito Kuphwanya Kwa Wogwira Ntchito

Kodi mumangokhala m'chipinda chochezera, mukuyembekeza kuti munthu m'modziyo alowemo kuti muthe kucheza? Mwina ndinu okonzeka kuyendetsa mtunda wamakilomita 5 kuchokera panjira yanu, kuti muthe kugwirira ntchito limodzi ndi mnzanuyo. Kodi mwavala zovala zanu zabwino kwambiri kuti mugwire ntchito mwadzidzidzi? Kusweka mtima kwa mnzako kungakuchitireni zimenezo. 

Ndipo ngati mukugwira ntchito kunyumba, inu ndi ine tonse tikudziwa kuti munthu yekhayo amene mumayang'ana pa msonkhano wonse wa Zoom ndi ntchito yomwe muli nayo. Mwadzidzidzi, kuyatsa makamera anu pamsonkhano wantchito sikukuwoneka ngati chinthu choyipa kwambiri. Kafukufuku wa 2022 wochokera ku Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM) adapeza kuti 33% ya ogwira ntchito ku US akuti akutenga nawo mbali kapena akuchita nawo zachikondi kuntchito - 6 peresenti kuposa kale mliri wa COVID-19 (27%). 

Ndiye kodi kukhudzika kwanu kwa mnzanu ndi chiyambi cha china chatsopano? Kapena ndi chinthu chomwe chingakugwetseni? Kuyenda m'madzi opanda phokoso okulitsa malingaliro a mnzanu wa kuntchito nthawi zambiri kungakulepheretseni kusokonezeka. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe muyenera kuchita, mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri atatu, kuti musatsirize kulandira kalata yochokera kwa HR yokhudza kukhala wopanda ntchito.

Zizindikiro Kuti Mukuphwanyidwa Mwantchito Mnzanu

Dikirani kwa mphindi imodzi yokha. Tisanakambirane momwe tingasinthire Pam, yemwe ndi wolandila alendo kuntchito, kukhala mkazi wa Pam, choyamba muyenera kudziwa momwe chikondi chanu pantchitochi chilili choopsa. Komanso, kuti tikutsimikizireni kuti simuli nokha pankhaniyi, malinga ndi kafukufuku wina , anthu omwe amakonda kwambiri anthu omwe amakondana nawo m'magulu osiyanasiyana anali abwenzi, anzanu kusukulu, ogwira nawo ntchito, ndi anthu otchuka monga anthu otchuka.

"Ndimakopeka ndi mnzanga wa kuntchito, ndikuganiza kuti anandimwetulira dzulo pamene tinali kudutsa njira," mungaganize, kuphika rom-com pang'ono m'mutu mwanu. Ngakhale kuti simuli wachinyamata, kutengeka maganizo si matenda amene amakhudza ana okha. Mwina munangoyang'ana Jim ndi Pam potsiriza akupsompsona pambuyo pa nyengo zosatha za chifuniro iwo / sangatero, ndipo tsopano amalakalaka chinthu chomwecho.

Kuphwanyidwa kuntchito kungakhale chinthu chomwe mumatha msanga, monga nthawi imeneyo munaiwala kuwonjezera cholumikizira ku Imelo yanu katatu motsatizana. Kapena, akhoza kukhala amphamvu mokwanira kuti apangitse msonkhano wofunikira, womwe ukubwerawo uwoneke ngati ulibenso ntchito; Chofunikira ndi munthu uyu yemwe mukumufunira. 

Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina , antchito nthawi zambiri ankanamiza, kusakhulupirira, komanso kupeza anzawo akuchita chibwenzi ndi akuluakulu awo osaganizira bwino kuposa anzawo omwe akuchita chibwenzi ndi anzawo. Mwachionekere, 'amene mumakonda kapena amene mumakonda naye chibwenzi amakhudzanso momwe mumaonera kuntchito. Choncho kuti tiwonetsetse kuti simukungokondana chabe komanso kuti mumakonda munthu wina , tiyeni tiwone zina mwa zizindikiro zomwe mumakonda mnzanu wa kuntchito.

1. Sizichokera pazifukwa zachiphamaso 

Ngati mukuganiza kuti muli ndi chidwi ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito chifukwa amavala mafuta onunkhira omwe mumawakonda kapena chifukwa chakuti nthawi zonse tsitsi lawo limapangidwa mwanjira inayake, ganiziraninso. Chomwe chimasiyanitsa kusweka kwakanthawi ndi chinthu chomwe chili ndi zinthu zambiri ndizomwe mumakonda pa umunthu wa munthu winayo. 

Ngati ndichifukwa choti amawoneka bwino komanso amavala zovala zabwino, ndiye kuti mwina sangakhale wosweka kwambiri. Komabe, ngati mumakonda mbali zingapo za umunthu wawo komanso kukonda kucheza nawo, mutha kukhala ndi china chake m'manja mwanu.

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2. Ngati chidwi chanu chakugonana chikuwonjezeredwa ndi kupembedza 

Inde, mudzakhala ndi maloto ochepa okhudza munthu uyu omwe samaphatikizapo zovala zambiri. Koma ngati mukufuna kudziwa ngati ofesi yanu ikuphwanyidwa kwambiri kuposa momwe ikuwonekera, dziwani ngati ikukhudzidwa ndi chilakolako chogonana kapena ngati pali mbali ina yowonjezera ya kupembedza. 

Mukatha kunena molimba mtima kuti mumasilira ndi kulemekeza umunthu wa munthu uyu, palinso zambiri ku maloto onse omwe mukukhala nawo. 

3. Mukuwadziwadi

Kodi munayamba mwakhalapo pachibwenzi kapena kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu, kungozindikira miyezi itatu pambuyo pake kuti sali yemwe mumaganiza kuti anali? Nthawi zambiri timatha kupanga lingaliro la momwe anthu alili m'maganizo mwathu, koma pamapeto pake timawasweka kotheratu. 

Ngati simunayambe mwakonda chithunzi cha munthu ameneyu ndipo mukumudziwa bwino, ndiye kuti zikumveka ngati nkhani yeniyeni. Ngati mukufuna kukhala nawo nthawi zonse ngakhale mutadziwa kuti nthawi zina amatafuna chakudya movutitsa pakamwa potsegula, munthu ameneyu wa kuntchito ndi amene angakusangalatseni. Kusiyana pakati pa chikondi ndi kukondana kungakhale kosavuta kuzindikira.

4. Mutha kulingalira ubale pamodzi 

Ndipo ife tiri otsimikiza kuti muli nawo kale. Kodi ulendo wongopeka wopita ku Venice ndi ntchito yanu yophwanyidwa, yomwe mudapanga m'mutu mwanu, imasewera bwanji? Kodi mukulota kugona pafupi ndi munthu uyu, ndikuwonera Netflix Lamlungu masana? Wakanthidwa, osati mtundu wosakhalitsa. 

5. Mukufuna chidwi cha ofesi yanu 

Tili otsimikiza kuti mwagula mulu wa zovala zatsopano, nsapato zanu ndi zonyezimira ndipo mumavala mafuta onunkhira atsopanowo. Zovala zanu zapinduladi ndi kuphwanya kumeneku kwa mnzanu (ngakhale akaunti yanu yakubanki singakhale yosangalala kwambiri). Mutha kuyesanso kulowa m'chinthu chomwe mukuvutikira kuntchito kwanu, kotero nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi zomwe mungakambirane. Pamene mukuyesera kukopa chidwi chawo mwachidwi kwambiri, ndi chizindikiro chakuti mukukondana ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito. 

Pofotokoza zachisoni chake pozindikira zizindikiro zomwe mwamuna wake amakopeka ndi mnzake wantchito, Chelsea, wogulitsa masheya ku Philadelphia, akuti, "Zinadziwika kwambiri. Malaya atsopano, cologne yatsopano, tsitsili, chisangalalo chosalekeza, kupeŵa nthawi ya banja chifukwa "pali ntchito yambiri ku ofesi".

Kaya ndinu wosakwatiwa kapena wokwatiwa, choyamba dziwani mmene mukumvera. Mukachita izi, tikhoza kupita kuzinthu zomwe mungachite. 

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Chabwino, ndiye kuti mumakopeka ndi mnzako. Timamva ululu pa skrini. Muli pano kuti muphunzire momwe mungathanirane ndi kusweka pantchito popanda kulola kuti ikuyendetseni misala. Chifukwa chake tiyeni tidule molunjika: muli ndi zosankha ziwiri apa. Mutha kuyesa kutsata kuphwanya uku kuntchito, kapena mutha kudziwa momwe mungathetsere. Kuti mupange chisankho pazomwe mukufuna kuchita mtsogolo, muyenera kudzifunsa mafunso angapo: 

• Apo kukopana?
• Kodi zizindikiro zili pamwambazi zosonyeza kuti mukukondana ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito zinakukhudzani?
• Kodi mukutsimikiza kuti sikungotengeka maganizo kwakanthawi?
• Kodi malo anu ogwira ntchito pazachikondi za muofesi ndi ati?
• Kodi ntchito yanu idzakhala pachiwopsezo ngati mukuitsatira?
• Kodi kuphwanyidwa kwa malo ogwira ntchito kumeneku kukusokonezani zokolola zanu? 
• Kodi mukuganiza kuti inu ndi munthuyu mungakhale ogwirizana? 
• Kodi ndi osakwatiwa ndipo alipo? 
• Kodi ndinu osakwatiwa ndipo mulipo? 
• Kodi awiri mumagwirizana? 

Kutengera mayankho omwe mwapereka, mwina muli ndi lingaliro labwinopo la zomwe muyenera kuchita kenako. PALI siliva kutsogolo kwa iwo omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi anzawo omwe amakukondani! Koma chenjezo loyenera: Gawoli silikhala ndi chiyembekezo. Tikambirana za momwe mungathetsere malingaliro anu, kuyang'ana chifukwa chake mumakopeka ndi mnzanu poyambirira, ndikumvetsetsa ndikuthana ndi malingaliro omwe ali kumbuyo kwake, makamaka mumkhalidwe wosokonekera pomwe mumakopeka ndi mnzanu wantchito mukalowa m'banja.

Kuti tithandizire pa izi, tikubweretserani malingaliro a akatswiri atatu azamisala komanso mlangizi wazamalamulo. M'mbuyomu, pokambirana ndi Bonobology, adagawana momwe angagwiritsire ntchito kusweka kwa ntchito pomwe sikungatheke kupitiliza njira yodwala.

Mukakhala ndi chibwenzi ndi mnzanu wantchito koma mwakwatiwa

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Gopa Khan anafotokoza maganizo ake pa nkhani yomwe mumakondana ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito muli pabanja kapena muli pachibwenzi: “Pamene ubale wanu ndi mnzanu ukuvuta, ndi pamene mungakhale pachiwopsezo ndipo mungakopeke ndi ‘mnzanu’ wina. Dzifunseni ngati zosowa zanu zikukwaniritsidwa muukwati. Kuti mukonze vutoli, yambani kuchita zinthu limodzi kamodzi pa sabata. Iyi ndi njira yabwino yoyambira kuchiritsa ukwati wanu.”

N’chifukwa chiyani zimakhala zovuta kuthetsa chilakolako cha mnzanu wa kuntchito? Iye anati, “Mukapangidwa kuti mudzimve ‘bwino’ pa inu nokha, n’zachibadwa kuona munthuyo bwino ndikuyamba kumukonda.” Komanso, mumamuona pafupifupi tsiku lililonse, ndipo kuzolowerana kumabweretsa chikondi. Kafukufuku amati ndi kuyandikirana chifukwa pali mgwirizano wabwino pakati pa nthawi yomwe mumakhala limodzi ndi kukondana pakati pa anthu.

Gopa anati, “Kuzindikira momwe mukumvera kwa mnzanu ndi inu nokha ndiye njira yoyamba yothetsera kukondana ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito. Ngati mukufuna malangizo anga ochokera kwa wokondedwa kuntchito, ndiye kuti mtunda ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera kukondana kumeneku. Lembani malire ndipo chepetsani kuyanjana kwanu ndi munthuyu. Samalani ndi zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana , musalole kuti munthu winayo aganize kuti mukukondana. Muyenera kupewa kuwoneka ngati mukukondana ngati mukufuna kuphunzira momwe mungachitire ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito amene ali pachibwenzi kapena amene anakwatirana.”

Ndi uthenga wachiyembekezo, adawonjezeranso kuti, "Monga mtundu wina uliwonse wolumikizana ndi anthu, kuphwanya kwa wantchito mnzako kumatha pakapita nthawi ngati simukuwasamalira mwachangu." 

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Momwe mungathanirane ndi kuphwanya mutu

Ndiye kodi muyenera kunyalanyaza munthuyo kwathunthu mukamuwona kuntchito? Zikumveka ngati upangiri wabwino wa momwe mungathanirane ndi kukondana kwa ofesi. Koma nayi mbali ina monga momwe katswiri wa zamaganizo a Amjad Ali Mohammad adafotokozera . Iye anati, "Kunyalanyaza kukondana kungapite m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ngati mwawasamalira kwambiri, kenako mwadzidzidzi nkuyamba kuwanyalanyaza, adzayesa kuyandikira kwa inu kuti adziwe chifukwa chake mukuchoka. Kapena, adzakunyalanyazaninso. Adzaganiza kuti simukuwakondanso, choncho nawonso adzakukanani. Mulimonsemo, muyenera kukhala olimba mtima."

Iye anawonjezera kuti, “Nayi njira yothetsera kukonda kwambiri ntchito: Sinthani moyo wanu m'malo mofuna kubwezera kapena kukhala wokwiya. Samalirani thanzi lanu. Yesetsani kukhala olimba mtima komanso amaganizo. Ganizirani chithandizo ngati mukuganiza kuti chingathandize. Dzidalireni ndipo kumbukirani kuti ndinu abwino kwambiri kuposa vuto limodzi lovuta ili.”

Powonjezera pa upangiri wake wofunika kwambiri wa chibwenzi kuntchito, Amjad anati, “Ngati nonsenu mukufuna kukhala pachibwenzi, ndi bwino. Koma ngati wokondedwa wanu amakuonani ngati bwenzi, ndiye kuti muyenera kuganizira momwe mungasiyire kuwakonda koma kukhalabe mabwenzi , apo ayi muyenera kusintha maganizo anu ndikuchoka.” Tinadzifunsa kuti, n’chifukwa chiyani zimakhala zovuta kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito? Mwachionekere, kulota kwambiri za chibwenzi ndi anzanu a kuntchito kumakupangitsa kukhala kovuta. “Ngati kulota kwanu kumakulepheretsani kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu za moyo ndi zochitika zofunika tsiku ndi tsiku monga ntchito yanu, ntchito yanu, maphunziro, banja, ndi zina zotero, ndiye kuti muyenera kukumbukira kuti ichi ndi chifukwa chake kukhala ndi malire ndi malire n’kofunika,” anafotokoza Amjad.

Chitani ndi zovomerezeka za kuphwanya kwanu

Tsopano tiyeni timve zomwe Shweta Luthra ananena zokhudza mbali zothandiza zokondana ndi anzanu a kuntchito. Iye ndi mlangizi wa zamalamulo pankhani zokhudzana ndi nkhanza zogonana komanso tsankho kuntchito. Iye akufotokoza kuti, “Ngati chibwenzi/kugonana chikuchokera kwa mnzanu amene mumagwira naye ntchito limodzi, pali mantha akuti zinthu zidzakhala zovuta kuntchito, motero anthu ambiri amaganizira momwe anganenere kuti ayi. Tsopano taganizirani momwe bwana wanu kapena manejala wa malipoti amapitira patsogolo. Kuwonjezera pa manyazi, palinso mantha ena - kubwezera kuntchito. M'mikhalidwe yotereyi, mumayamba kuganiza ngati mungawakane kapena ayi. Ngati mutero, ndiye mungatani popanda kusokoneza ntchito yanu?”

Kuti mupewe mavuto azamalamulo ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukuchita chibwenzi chogwirizana kuntchito , nayi zomwe Shweta adalangiza pa momwe mungachitire ndi munthu amene mukufuna kugwira naye ntchito: "Chilolezo chiyenera kukhala chomveka bwino komanso chosangalatsa. Kusakana, kapena kukhala chete sikutanthauza kuti mukuvomereza kapena kukonda. Phunzirani momwe mungachitire ndi munthu amene mukufuna kuntchito akakukanani mobisa kapena momveka bwino. Musapangire malo ogwirira ntchito odana nawo chifukwa zingayambitse nkhanza zamaganizo, kuchepetsa ntchito zawo, ndikulepheretsa kupita patsogolo kwawo. Angafunikenso kuchoka m'bungweli chifukwa cha zomwe simukufuna zomwe zimafanana ndi nkhanza zogonana. Akhozanso kukuthandizani mwalamulo."

Kodi mwalingalira zonsezi? Kodi kampani yanu imalola maubwenzi akuntchito? Komanso, kodi mukutsimikiza kuti simukukondana ndi mnzanu wapantchito yemwe ali pachibwenzi kale? Ngati mumadziona kuti ndinu otsimikiza kuti mutha kuchita izi pa mnzanuyo, werengani.

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Momwe Mungatsatire Kuphwanya Kwa Wantchito Mnzanu

Chifukwa chake, mwaganiza kuti kuphwanya kwapantchito uku sizomwe mungathe kungothana nazo mwachangu. Mukufuna kutenga chiopsezo ndikudumphira ndi mapazi onse awiri. Mufunsa munthu amene mumagwira naye ntchito, ngakhale zitakhala zovuta bwanji pambuyo pake. Koma pali vuto limodzi lokha: simukutsimikiza kuti sitepe yoyamba ndi chiyani. 

Osadandaula, apa ndi pamene tabwera. Tiyeni tione zomwe muyenera kuchita, kuti musakhale chifukwa chake ofesi yonse imayenera kukhala Loweruka masana pa semina yokhudzana ndi maubwenzi osayenera kuntchito. 

1. Samalani ndi zizindikiro zomwe amakukondani 

Choyamba, yesani kuyang'ana zizindikiro zomwe mnzanu wa kuntchito amakukondani . Izi sizidzakupatsani lingaliro labwino la mwayi wanu, komanso mwina mudzadzidalira kwambiri mukadzakumana naye nthawi ina. Shania, wokongoletsa ku Ohio, akugawana zomwe adakumana nazo atakondana ndi mnzake wa kuntchito, "Sindinayenera kugwira ntchito ndi Diego pa ntchito iliyonse, koma ndinapeza ntchito mkati mwa polojekiti yanga yomwe inali yogwirizana ndi luso lake. Chifukwa chake ndimamupempha kuti anditsogolere momwe ndingachitire gawo limenelo ndipo tinayamba kukambirana kwambiri chifukwa cha zimenezo. Patapita nthawi yaitali, ndinavomereza kuti ndimamukonda. Ndinachita manyazi kwambiri, anati anazindikira kale kwambiri!"

Ndiye kodi iwonso akupeza zifukwa zoti akumane nanu? Mwina akuyang’anani m’maso nthawi yaitali muli pagulu. Kodi amayamba kukambirana ndikupempha kuti "ticheze" pambuyo pake? Ngati mayankho onse ali abwino, kuphwanya kwanu kwa mnzanuyo kungakhale kofanana (kudutsa zala!)

2. Osalowa mfuti zonse zikuyaka 

Kutanthauza, kukhala wochenjera m'mene mumachitira izi. Ngati inu anaphulika mu ofesi yawo ndi kuwafunsa pa tsiku popanda kukhazikitsa ubale ndi iwo choyamba, zonse inu muti kupeza ndi kuthetsa kalata, osati khofi tsiku ndi ntchito kuphwanya. 

Pali zambiri zotayika pano (tisaiwale kuti malowa amakulipirani, ndipo mukufunikira ndalama kuti mukhale ndi moyo). Choncho musapange zisankho zodzidzimutsa; yesani kukhazikitsa ubale ndi munthuyu kaye.

3. Khazikitsani maziko ndikukhazikitsa kulumikizana

“Kukhazikitsa ubale” kumamveka kosavuta papepala, koma kumakhala kovuta kwambiri mukayeserera. Ngati simukulankhulana ndi kuphwanya ntchito iyi, ndikofunikira kuti mukafike kaye musanatenge sitepe ina. 

Ganizirani zinthu zomwe amasangalala nazo, ndipo yambitsani zokambirana ndi choziziritsira madzi. Kodi ndiye wokonda kwambiri Star Wars? Mumadziwa bwino kukula kwa Nyenyezi Yakufa pamtima. Kodi zonse za Game of Thrones? Yakwana nthawi yoti muphunzire mapu a Westeros ndikuwadziwa bwino kuposa kwawo. 

4. Nenani ndi thupi lanu 

Mukakopeka ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito, thupi lanu limalankhula kwa inu. Koma ngati mukufuna kuti ziwonekere, pali zambiri zomwe mungachite ndi thupi lanu. M'malo mokopana mwachipongwe, yesetsani kumasuka mwa kusonyeza zizindikiro zolimbikitsa. 

Kuyang'ana maso ambiri, kumwetulira kwenikweni, manja osapingasa, ndi mawonekedwe okopa angakuchitireni zambiri kuposa momwe mukudziwira. Ngati nthawi zonse mumayimirira patsogolo pawo ndi mikono yopingasa manja ndi tsinya pankhope panu, tingonena kuti simukulandiranso mawu. 

Yesetsani kuti musakhale ochezeka mopitirira muyeso, ndipo musakhale athupi pokhapokha mutafuna kuti munene. Zolakwika za chilankhulo cha thupi pantchito zimatha kukhala zosokoneza. Onetsetsani kuti mukuwoneka kuti ndinu osasangalatsa momwe mungathere mukakhala ndi mnzanu.

5. Afunseni 

Mwakhazikitsa zolankhulana, mwapeza zomwe amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda, kuwonetsa matupi awo abwino momwe mungathere ndipo zizindikiro zonse zimawoneka zolimbikitsa. Chabwino, chatsala chinthu chimodzi chokha choti muchite tsopano: kuwafunsa iwo. 

Tikudziwa, tikudziwa, zikuwoneka ngati chinthu chovuta kwambiri padziko lapansi. Ndipo pazifukwa zabwino, nayenso. Pali zambiri zomwe zili pachiwopsezo pano, kutengera momwe zinthu zimakhalira zovuta ngati ntchito yanu ikukana kupereka kwanu. 

Kuti mudzipatse mwayi wabwino kwambiri, musamufunse munthuyu nthawi isanakwane. Perekani nthawi, khazikitsani ubale wabwino - nthabwala zamkati ndi zonse - ndipo yesani kuwafunsa kuti amwe zakumwa wamba pambuyo pa ntchito poyamba. Ndani akudziwa, chirichonse chikhoza kungogwera pamalo ake. Koma ngati mwaganiza zoyamba kukopeka ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito, werenganitu.

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Kulimbana ndi Mnzanu Wantchito

Ngati mwafika pozindikira kuti pali zambiri pachiwopsezo pano ndipo njira yokhayo yothanirana ndi kusweka pantchito ndikuthana nawo, muli ndi kukhwima kwambiri kuposa ambiri. Zingakhale choncho chifukwa chanu ndi kusweka kwa mbali imodzi (monga momwe zimakhalira nthawi zambiri), kapena mwina munayamba kukopeka ndi mnzanu wapantchito paubwenzi. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mudziwe momwe mungagonjetsere mnzanu wapantchito: 

1. Vomerezani kuti sizichitika 

Kudziuza kuti “sizichitika” pamene mukuganizira kwambiri za munthu ameneyu akakumwetulirani kwa kanthawi kochepa sikungakuthandizeni kwambiri. Mukasankha kuti muyambe kukondana ndi mnzanu wa kuntchito, vomerezani mfundo imeneyi yonse.

Tsoka ilo, simungakhale "omasuka ku chilichonse chomwe chingachitike." Izi zikungosiyani mukulendewera pamene ntchito yanu yophwanyidwa ikuyesera kudziwa chifukwa chake mukukhala odabwitsa. 

2. Lankhulani ndi mnzanu

Nthawi zina zomwe mumafunikira ndi chikondi cholimba. Ndipo ndani amene angakupangireni chikondi cholimba koma bwenzi lanu lapamtima, yemwe wakhala akukuchenjezani za kuphwanyidwaku kuntchito chichokereni mutaya nyemba?

Ndi piritsi lovuta kumeza pamene bwenzi lanu lapamtima likupita kuti, “Ndinakuuzani,” koma lidzakupatsaninso maganizo osiyana pa zinthu. Lankhulani ndi anthu omwe alibe tsankho pazochitikazo, zipangitsa zinthu kukhala zosavuta. 

3. Kutalikirana ndi ntchito kuphwanya

Ngati inu, mwatsoka, mumagwira ntchito moyandikana ndi munthu uyu, kudzipatula nokha kungakhale kovuta. Ngakhale zili choncho, yesetsani kuti musamakambirane nawo mpaka pokhapokha mutayenera kutero. Pewani kukhala pafupi ndi iwo m'chipinda chodyera ndipo musawatumizire mameseji mukaweruka kuntchito. 

Oliver, wowerenga wazaka 27 waku Colorado, amagawana nkhani yosweka kwambiri ndi mnzake. Iye amakumbukira kuti anasiya ntchito chifukwa cha nkhawa zake. "Sindinathenso kupirira, mukudziwa? Sindinathe kuganizira. Iye anali wokwatira ndipo ndinadziwa kuti palibe njira yotithandizira. Anali m'gulu langa ndipo ndimayenera kumuwona tsiku lililonse. Zinali zowawa. Ndinayamba kufunafuna ntchito ina, ndipo m'miyezi ya 3 ndinachoka kumeneko. Kunali kusuntha kwabwino, ndinamva bwino mkati mwa mwezi umodzi. "

4. Pitirizani kukhala mwaukadaulo 

Inu mukudziwa chomwe chiri chotentha? Kuseweretsa kukopana, mwina kukhudza pang'ono kumunsi kumbuyo. Mukudziwa zomwe sizikutentha? "Mwaswera bwanji Jacob. Ndikhulupilira kuti imelo iyi ikupezani muli ndi thanzi labwino." 

Njira yosavuta yothanirana ndi mnzanu wapantchito ndiyo kukhala akatswiri kwambiri ndi ozungulira iwo. Pamapeto pake, adzalandira chidziwitso ndikuzindikira kuti mwabwera kudzakwezedwa, osati kupanga anzanu. 

5. Bwererani kunja uko

Kodi mukupeza njira yothetsera chibwenzi ? Mukufuna kusiya chibwenzicho ndikupitiriza ndi moyo wanu? Pali chinthu chodabwitsa ichi chomwe chinapangidwira kupeza chikondi, koma nthawi zambiri chimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi anthu omwe akufunafuna ma rebounds ndi ma deti ochepa oyamba osayenerera: mapulogalamu ochezera.

Ngati mutha kuthana ndi zithunzi za anthu omwe ali ndi agalu omwe sakhala nawo komanso mawu osalekeza akuti "Hei!" mauthenga, kudziyika nokha kunja kungakhale njira yabwino yothanirana ndi kusweka kwa mnzako. Mwinanso mungapeze wina wabwinoko.

Kukopeka ndi mnzako ndi chinthu chomwe anthu ambiri amakumana nacho. Mbali yosangalatsa ndi yomwe imabwera atazindikira kuti akuphwanya munthuyu. Kaya mwaganiza zowafunsa kapena mwaganiza zosiya, tikukhulupirira kuti nkhaniyi yakuthandizani. Tidzaonananso, nthawi ina mukadzakondana ndi mnzako watsopano.

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