Chitsogozo cha Gawo ndi Gawo Lopanga Mbiri Yachibwenzi Chosatsutsika kwa Omwe Ali Pamodzi ku NYC

Mofanana ndi china chilichonse ku New York City, zomwe mukukumana nazo pa intaneti zitha kukhala zodetsa nkhawa. Ndi anthu pafupifupi 3 miliyoni osakwatiwa omwe ali pachibwenzi, mbiri yanu iyenera kuwunikira kuti muthe kukopa chidwi cha machesi omwe angakhale nawo, omwe ali ndi mizere ya swipes kuti mudutse. Mpikisano wovutawu ukhoza kubweretsa mwayi wopeza woti agwirizane nanu, kukusiyani mukulimbana ndi kutopa kwa pachibwenzi ndikunena kuti, "Kukhala pachibwenzi ndikovuta." Kuphunzira kupanga mbiri yabwino pachibwenzi kumatha kuthetsa mavutowa kwambiri ndi kukuthandizani inu phazi pakhomo. 

Taganizirani izi, m'munda wodzaza anthu, mbiri yanu ndiye chinthu choyamba chomwe mungaganizire. Ganizirani zithunzi zanu za mbiri yanu ndi mbiri yanu ngati kampeni yanu yotsatsa. Monga momwe eHarmony imalangizira ogwiritsa ntchito, zithunzi zanu za mbiri yanu ndi zinthu zina zili ngati "mawu oyamba a zoyesayesa zanu zopezera chibwenzi." Tsimikizani zinthuzi ndipo mudzasiyana ndi gululo. Zisokonezeni ndipo mudzasochera mukusinthana. M'nkhaniyi, tikukuuzani momwe mungapangire mbiri yanu ya chibwenzi yosatsutsika ndikusinthira masewera a chibwenzi pa intaneti m'malo mwanu.

Kufunika Kwa Mbiri Yabwino Yachibwenzi

Ma profiles ndi ofunika kwambiri ku NYC kuposa kale lonse. Ndi ogwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu ambiri ku NYC, mumangopeza masekondi ochepa okha kuti musangalatse. Kafukufuku akutsimikizira kuti izi ndi zomwe zingachitike: kafukufuku wina adapeza kuti 73% ya anthu omwe amakonda chibwenzi amadana ndi zosefera zambiri pazithunzi, ndipo ma profiles okhala ndi agalu, amphaka, kapena zithunzi zoyendera nthawi zambiri amapeza mayankho ambiri. Izi zikutanthauza kuti zithunzi zosasangalatsa kapena zakale sizingayesedwe. Munthu wina wokonda chibwenzi ku NYC, yemwe adalemba za chaka chake chochita chibwenzi ndi mapulogalamu, adagawana pa Reddit kuti kulemba ntchito wojambula zithunzi waluso kunapindulitsa kwambiri. Iye adati kuyika ndalama mu zithunzi zabwino ndi "ndalama zambiri zomwe zayikidwa."

Mumsika wopikisana ngati Manhattan kapena Brooklyn, chithunzi chilichonse ndi mzere uliwonse mu mbiri yanu zimatha kupanga kapena kuwononga mwayi wanu wopeza woyenerana naye. Mu ulalo wa Reddit pa r/NYCdating , wogwiritsa ntchito wina adanena momveka bwino kuti: "Ndinadumpha ma profiles 10 okhala ndi ma bios osamveka bwino, koma ndinatumiza uthenga kwa winawake nthawi yomweyo chifukwa adanena kuti amakonda masitolo akale ogulitsa mabuku ndi ma dumplings ku Queens."

Taganizirani izi motere: mbiri yanu ndi njira yanu yotsatsira malonda. Mukufuna kuti mapulogalamu ochezera a pa Intaneti akugulitseni, choncho tsatirani upangiri wa akatswiri. Mwachitsanzo, blog ya Luxy imachenjeza kuti chimbale chanu cha zithunzi chiyenera "kufotokoza nkhani yanu ndikukupatsani chidziwitso cha moyo wanu", ndipo eHarmony imalimbikitsanso kuwonetsa inu enieni kudzera muzokonda zanu ndi ziweto zanu. Mumzinda momwe malingaliro oyamba amapangidwa mwachangu, mbiri yeniyeni komanso yolondola ikhoza kukhala kusiyana pakati pa ma swipes ambiri ndi machesi ambiri.

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Ngati mukufuna zinachitikira chibwenzi ku New York kuti asatembenuke mu mndandanda wautali wa zokhumudwitsa ndi machesi zoipa, muyenera aganyali nthawi ndi khama poganizira mmene bwino chibwenzi mbiri. Izi ndizofunikira chifukwa mbiri yanu ndi mwayi wanu:

• Lankhulani umunthu wanu ndi zolinga zanu
• Koperani anthu omwe amasangalala ndi moyo wanu
• Khazikitsani kamvekedwe ka zokambirana ndikuchotsa zosagwirizana

Umu ndi momwe mungachitire bwino:

1. Sankhani chithunzithunzi chomveka bwino, chapamwamba kwambiri

Chithunzi chanu cha mbiri ya chibwenzi ndi chofunikira kwambiri. Ndi momwe anthu amasankhira ngati asinthana ndi dzanja lawo. Gwiritsani ntchito chithunzi chanu chowala, chaposachedwa, makamaka popanda magalasi a dzuwa kapena zipewa, kumwetulira kapena kuwoneka wochezeka. Onetsetsani kuti nkhope yanu ikuwoneka bwino komanso kuwala kwake kuli bwino. Pewani kujambula zithunzi za selfies mozungulira kapena kuziphimba ndi mafoni.

Sankhani chithunzi chofunda, chowala bwino chomwe chimakuzindikirani mosavuta. Zinyama kapena ana ndi okongola, koma sayenera kukuberani chidwi. Khalani osavuta. Nawa malingaliro ena pazithunzi za mbiri yanu ya chibwenzi:

• Selfie kapena bwenzi lojambulidwa pamalo odziwika ngati Brooklyn Bridge, mukumwetulira
• Chithunzi chowoneka bwino cha inu mukuseka kapena kuyang'ana mu kamera

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2. Onetsani nkhope yanu momveka bwino

Zingakhale zovuta kujambula ndi zinthu, koma onetsetsani kuti sizikuphimba nkhope yanu. Mwachitsanzo, munthu amene ali ndi foni yokhala ndi logo ya Tinder patsogolo pa nkhope yake akuwoneka wachinsinsi komanso wosawoneka bwino. Musabise kumbuyo kwa zosefera, mafoni, kapena ziweto. Zithunzi zoyenera za mbiri yanu ya chibwenzi ndi zomwe nkhope yanu yonse, makamaka maso anu, imawoneka ndipo palibe kukonzanso kwakukulu. Monga tanenera kale, pafupifupi 73% ya omwe ali pachibwenzi amadana ndi zithunzi zosinthidwa mopitirira muyeso. Yesetsani kukhala ndi zenizeni: kumwetulira kwachilengedwe ndi zithunzi zenizeni zimagwira ntchito bwino.

Ngakhale ndizosangalatsa kuphatikiza ma logo kapena zida ngati wina akuwunikira Tinder pafoni yawo, onetsetsani kuti chithunzi chimodzi ndicholunjika ndikukuwonetsani. Zosefera zingawoneke ngati zokopa, koma anthu ambiri amafuna zithunzi zowona. Umu ndi momwe mungachitire bwino

• Pemphani mnzanu kuti akujambuleni pamene mukuyankhula kapena kuseka
• Kalilore wakuthwa wa selfie pomwe nkhope yanu ili pakati, yokhala ndi maziko owoneka bwino, osasokoneza, imagwiranso ntchito

3. Phatikizani zosiyanasiyana zithunzi zanu

Osatumiza zithunzi zisanu ndi chimodzi zofanana. Sakanizani kuti mujambule chithunzi chokwanira. Gwiritsani ntchito zithunzi 4-6 zomwe zikuwonetsa mbali zanu zosiyanasiyana. Onjezani kusakanikirana kwazithunzi zonse ndi zochita. Phatikizanipo imodzi yomwe imakuwonetsani mukuchita zomwe mumakonda: kukwera mapiri, kuphika, kusewera masewera, kapena kuyenda. Kafukufuku wa Zoosk amatsimikizira izi ndipo adapeza 51% ya osakwatiwa akuti amatha kusuntha pazithunzi zomwe zimaphatikizapo zithunzi zapaulendo kapena zosangalatsa. Ngati muli ndi ziweto kapena zosangalatsa, ziwonetseni. Izi zikufotokoza nkhani ya inu. Onetsetsani kuti chithunzi chilichonse ndi chapamwamba komanso chofunikira. Mwachitsanzo, 

• Mukuyenda kapena kukwera njinga ku Central Park 
• Inu ndi galu wanu pamalo otsika
• Inu kumalo osungirako zinthu zakale, masewera amasewera, kapena kuphika

4. Pangani mbiri yosangalatsa yokhala ndi zambiri zapadera

Bio yanu kapena mayankho ofulumira ndipamene umunthu wanu umawala. Dumphani mawu ngati "Ndimakonda kuseka" kapena "Kungowona zomwe zili kunja uko". M’malo mwake, lembani mmene mungalankhulire. Khalani okondwa komanso achindunji. Tchulani zokonda zanu, quirks, kapena zolinga zanu. Onetsani kudzidalira popanda kudzitamandira. Kuseketsa pang'ono kapena anecdote yosangalatsa imatha kupita patali. Izi zing'onozing'ono zimakupangitsani kukumbukira ndikuyamba kukambirana. Nawa malingaliro okuthandizani kuti mupange mbiri yachibwenzi yomwe imadziwika bwino:

• A chibwenzi app mwamsanga monga “Tiyeni tiphwanye madzi oundana ndi ...” kutsatiridwa ndi chinachake chosamvetseka chimene mumakonda—skydiving, salsa dancing, kapena crustless quiche
• Kufotokoza cholinga chanu ndi mawu ngati, "Mukuyang'ana kuti muwone malo abwino kwambiri a pizza ku NYC. Pali malingaliro aliwonse?", omwe akuwonetsa moyo komanso mayankho oyitanitsa
• Tchulani luso kapena zinthu zimene mumakonda kuchita: “Ndakhala ndikuphunzira gitala kwa zaka zitatu.

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5. Onetsani zomwe mukufuna

Khalani oona mtima pa zolinga zanu zopezera chibwenzi. Kaya ndi “kufuna chibwenzi chenicheni ” kapena “kungofuna zosangalatsa,” kumveka bwino kumathandiza. Ku NYC, ena amangofuna kukumana ndi anthu atsopano, pomwe ena amafuna ukwati. Uzani anthu okwatirana kumene muli. Izi zimapewa chisokonezo ndipo zimachotsa zinthu zowononga nthawi. Zingakhale mawu osavuta monga “Ndili pano chifukwa cha chinthu chenicheni,” kapena kuziyika mwachibadwa mu mbiri yanu. Kapena china chake chonga,

• Chatsopano ku NYC ndi wokonzeka kupeza munthu kufufuza brunch mawanga ndi - lotseguka kwa chirichonse kuchokera khofi mpaka muyaya
• 5'9” mainjiniya akuyang'ana mnzake paupandu paulendo wokwera komanso masiku osungiramo zinthu zakale (FYI: Ndine wotsimikiza za tsogolo)

6. Gwiritsani ntchito mawu otsimikiza, olimbikitsa

Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo n'kokongola. Nenani zinthu zabwino ndipo ziganizo zikhale zomveka bwino. M'malo monena kuti “Palibe sewero” kapena “Ndimadana ndi masewera,” nenani zomwe mumakonda. Pewani kulemba “malamulo” ambiri aumwini kapena zinthu zosokoneza ubale . Zimenezo zingamveke zoipa. Zikhale zosavuta, monga kulankhula ndi mnzanu. Kusintha kumeneku ndikofunikira, ndipo nayi njira yomwe mungachitire izi:

• Sinthanitsani “Osandilembera mameseji 2 koloko” kuti “Ndilembetseni mukamamwa khofi wanu wam’mawa!”
• M’malo moti “Sindili m’mabala,” munganene kuti, “Nthawi zonse ndimasangalala kuyesa vinyo watsopano.”
• Khalani oganiza bwino: ngati chibwenzi chili chovuta, chitani nthabwala m'njira yosangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, "Ndiphunzitseni luso lanu lopulumuka munjira yapansi panthaka ndipo ndikuwonetsani malo abwino kwambiri a ramen."

7. Mudzisunge 

Osadziyesa munthu wina kapena kudziyang'anira. Ngati mumakonda mabuku azithunzithunzi, nenani. Ngati ndinu galu mumzinda wa mphaka, tchulani. Zowona zidzakopa anthu oyenera. NYC ili ndi zabodza zokwanira, kotero khalani owoneka bwino. Umu ndi momwe:

• Phatikizanipo chithunzi chaulendo cha mzinda womwe mudapitako m'malo motumiza chithunzi chamaloto chochokera ku Google
• Ngati anzanu anena kuti ndiwe “wopanga supu ya nkhuku” pakati pawo, tchulani izi. "Mnyamata yemwe nthawi zonse amabweretsa supu ya nkhuku kwa abwenzi."
• Lankhulani za zovuta zanu zenizeni: "Ndayesa malo aliwonse a pizza ku Queens, kufunafuna kagawo kabwino."

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8. Gwiritsani ntchito zithunzi zolimba koma zenizeni 

Ikani patsogolo ubwino kuposa kuchuluka kwake. Ndi bwino kukhala ndi zithunzi 4 zabwino kuposa 10 pafupifupi. Chotsani zithunzi zosawoneka bwino, zowonekera mopitilira muyeso, kapena zowombera pang'onopang'ono. Dzifunseni kuti: Kodi mungafikiredi munthu ameneyu m’moyo weniweni? Ngati sichoncho, jambulaninso chithunzicho. Ndipo ngati muli ndi chidwi ndi zolinga zanu za chibwenzi, sizikupwetekani kuwononga pang'ono kuti mupeze zithunzi zabwino zachibwenzi pa intaneti. Ndipo inde, sinthani pafupipafupi. Chithunzi chatsopano chingathe kukopanso owonera. Nawa maupangiri ena amomwe mungapangire mbiri yabwino ya chibwenzi:

• Ikani zithunzi 4-6 (osatinso) zomwe zidakuyesani maso. Ngati chithunzi chilichonse chimakupangitsani kukhala okhumudwa, sinthani
• Gwiritsani ntchito fyuluta ya pulogalamu mocheperapo kapena ayi. Maonekedwe achilengedwe amakopa kwambiri
• Ngati mwametedwa posachedwa kapena masitayilo atsopano, sinthani chithunzi chanu kuti chigwirizane nacho

9. Kukonda kwanuko ndi nthawi yake

Onetsani mobisa chikondi chanu cha NYC. Tchulani chochezera chanu chomwe mumakonda ku NYC kapena chizolowezi. Kodi mumapalasa njinga ku Prospect Park, kapena mukudziwa malo ogulitsira khofi achinsinsi? Mfundo zazing'onozi zimakopa anthu am'deralo. Umu ndi momwe:

• Onjezani mzere pazambiri zanu ngati "Loweruka m'mawa = ma bagel ku Upper West Side" (ngati zoona!)
• Tchulani ndandanda yotanganidwa yolimbikitsa. "Loya wa NYC yemwe nthawi zonse amadya chakudya cham'mawa nthawi ya 5 koloko kuti ayambe"
• Pazithunzi, phatikizani pang'ono zapamzindawu kuti muwonetse kunyada kwanu

10. Konzani ndikusintha mawu anu

typos ndi galamala yodabwitsa ikhoza kukhala yotseka. Werengani mbiri yanu mokweza musanasunge. Khalani ndi ziganizo zazifupi ndi zokambirana. Popeza mapulogalamu ngati Hinge amagwiritsa ntchito malangizo m'malo mwa bios yayitali, yankhani mwaluso komanso momveka bwino. Ndipo konzani kalembedwe. Ngakhale galamala yanu sikuyenera kukhala yangwiro (sichiyeso cha Chingerezi chomwe muyenera kuchita), muyenera kukumana ndi mawu omveka bwino. Ngakhale typo imodzi yodziwikiratu kapena emoji yolakwika ikhoza kusokoneza kuyesetsa kwanu. Sinthani mbiri yanu nthawi ndi nthawi: zokonda zatsopano, ntchito, kapena mawu atsopano amakupangitsani kukhala amakono.

• Mukafunsidwa kuti "Lingaliro loyipa kwambiri lomwe ndidakhalapo nalo ...", perekani yankho loseketsa koma onaninso kawiri kuti ndilomveka (palibe nthabwala za typo!)
• Lembaninso chiganizo chilichonse chomwe chikuwoneka ngati chosamveka. Ngati "Ndimakonda mzindawu" ndi mzere wanu wokha, onjezerani chifukwa chake kapena bwanji
• Onetsani zithunzi zapanthawi yake—chithunzi cha khadi latchuthi mu Disembala, chithunzithunzi cha gombe lachilimwe mu Julayi

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11. Pezani mayankho ambiri

Pomaliza, musaope kufunsa malingaliro akunja. Maso atsopano, makamaka wina yemwe mukumufuna, amatha kuwona chizolowezi chomwe mwaphonya kapena kuyamika yankho lachangu lomwe simukutsimikiza. Ambiri NYC daters ngakhale nsanamira za mbiri pabwalo ngati Reddit malangizo. M'malo mwake, sungani mbiri yanu ngati zolemba ndipo konzekerani kuyisintha motengera zomwe zimayankhidwa. Simukudziwa momwe mungapezere malingaliro atsopano pa mbiri yanu? Yesani izi:

• Onetsani bwenzi lanu mbiri yanu pakhofi ndikufunsani, "Kodi izi zimakupangitsani kundiganizira chiyani?"
• Sinthanitsani chithunzi chimodzi ndi mnzanu ndikufunsani, "Kodi mungasewere ndani pomwepa?"
• Yesani kusintha yankho lachangu kukhala china chake chanzeru ndikuyerekeza machesi

Tengera kwina

Kupanga mbiri yabwino ya chibwenzi ku NYC ndi zaluso komanso sayansi. Khalani oona mtima, khalani osangalatsa, ndipo tsimikizirani ndi zithunzi zabwino. Cholinga chake ndikukopa munthu wamtundu wanu, kaya ndi wokonda Broadway kapena katswiri wa Wall Street. Mapulogalamu monga eHarmony ndi Luxy akuwonetsa kuti kudalirika ndi zokonda zomveka bwino zimayendetsa bwino machesi. Mukayika chilichonse pamzere—zithunzi zowona mtima, kuwala kwa umunthu m'malemba, ndi kamvekedwe kaubwenzi—mudzawona zochitika za chibwenzi ku NYC zikukuyenderani bwino. Zabwino zonse!

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