Chisangalalo chobweretsa munthu wina m'dziko laulemereroli ndi chapadziko lapansi. Ndi kumverera kosaneneka komwe kumasinthadi moyo wanu. Chifukwa chake, zimatha kumva nkhanza kwambiri mukakhala wopanda chimwemwecho ndikutsala ndikudzifunsa kuti, "Kodi ndingapirire bwanji kusabereka muukwati wanga?"
Chifukwa cha zovuta zosiyanasiyana, azimayi ambiri amalephera kutenga pakati ndipo nthawi zambiri, abambo nawonso amalephera kubweretsa mwana padziko lapansi. Kwa okwatirana amene amaona kukhala ndi ana kukhala nkhani yofunika kwambiri, zimenezi zimachititsa kuvutika maganizo ndi kudzikayikira ponena za kufunika kwa iwo eni. Zikatero, anthu apamtima okha ndi amene angatitonthoze. Koma pakati pa onsewo, palibenso chimene chimagwirizana ndi chichirikizo chosalekeza cha mwamuna kapena mkazi.
Ngati mkazi wanu sangatenge mimba kapena mwamuna wanu alibe mphamvu, muyenera kuthandiza kuthetsa nkhawa zawo kuti banjali likhale labwino. Tsoka ilo, ngakhale m’zaka za zana la 21, anthu ambiri amakhulupirirabe kuti ntchito yaikulu ya mkazi m’banja ndiyo kubereka ana. Zili ndi inu kuti musiye maganizo oterowo ndi kuthandiza mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu pa nthawi imene mwakhala mukuvutitsa maganizo kwambiri kwa inu monga banja. Tikukuuzani momwe ndi bukhuli lothandizira kuthana ndi kusabereka muubwenzi.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Ngati alibe ana, ali ndi ubwino wanji? Pamene mawu wamba ngati amenewa amayandama mozungulira, ndiye chimachitika ndi chiyani ku thanzi lamaganizo la amayi omwe sangathe kutenga pakati kapena kutenga pakati mpaka kumapeto? Kutengera kuweruzidwa kosalekeza ndi kudzudzulidwa, thanzi lawo lamalingaliro ndi thupi limawonongeka kwambiri ndipo sizimapereka zotsatira zabwino pamapeto pake. Ngati mkazi wanu sangatenge mimba, kodi m’pomveka kumuchitira nkhanza pamene akudziimba mlandu mosayenera? Kodi n’chinthu chanzeru kuchititsa mkazi wanu kuvutika kwambiri chifukwa chosabereka?
Kukhala mayi ndi mwayi umene akazi onse angakhale nawo mosasamala kanthu kuti angathe kubereka kapena ayi. Pali njira zina zambiri zimene munthu angavomerezere kukhala amayi m’dziko lamakonoli. Koma ngakhale mkazi atasankha kusakhala mayi kotheratu, kodi ndiko kutha kwa dziko? Azimayi ambiri masiku ano amadzifunsa kuti, “Kodi ndikhale ndi mwana?”, M’malo mongoganiza kuti ndi ntchito yawo.
Koma palinso ena amene amayankha funso limeneli motsimikiza ndipo kenako amalephera kukhala ndi pakati. Mlandu umodzi woterewu unkawoneka kuti ukufalikira pamaso panga. Werengani nkhaniyi yaumwini ngati mukufuna kuphunzira momwe mungathandizire mkazi wanu panthawi yomwe simunabereke. Nkhani yeniyeni imeneyi ingasinthe mmene mumaonera zinthu. Kotero apa izo zikupita.
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Mkazi Wanga Satenga Mimba
Pa tsiku lomwe ndinkaoneka ngati ndili ndi chisoni kunja kwa chipatala changa, sindinali bwino kwenikweni. Ponena za maubwenzi anga, ndakhala ndikukumana ndi mavuto aakulu okhudzana ndi kudalirana kwanga kuyambira kalekale. Kusakhazikika kwanga muubwenzi wanga nthawi zambiri kunkaonekeranso muukwati wanga wapano. Pa masiku omwe ndinkavutika kwambiri, ndinalibe chikhulupiriro muubwenzi uliwonse ndipo chikhulupiriro changa chinali chochepa pa masiku omwe ndinkasangalala kwambiri.
Ndinagwiritsa ntchito buzzer yanga kuti ndidziwitse desiki lakutsogolo kuti ndakonzekera wodwala wotsatira. Pokhala dokotala wachikazi, ndidazolowera azimayi okha omwe amayenda, mwamuna amayenda nawo nthawi zina. Koma tsiku limenelo zinthu zinali zosiyana pang’ono. Amuna atatu analowa limodzi ndi mayi wina yemwe ankaoneka kuti anali wamantha kwambiri.
Banjali linakhala pamipando iwiri ya kutsogolo ndipo amuna ena awiriwo anaima kumbuyo kwawo. Ndinkati ndiwafunse mabwana ena awiri aja kuti adikire panja pamene awiriwa anawasonyeza kuti atsala. Kuyang'ana mwachidule mtolo wa malipoti omwe adayika adandipangitsa kudzifunsa chifukwa chomwe adabwerera.
Iwo ankafuna mayankho a mmene angakhalire ndi kusabereka
"Malipotiwa ali ndi zaka zinayi mpaka zisanu ndipo akunena mosapita m'mbali kuti mkazi wanu sangatenge mimba, mwabwera kudzatani kwa ine?", ndinawafunsa mokoma mtima momwe ndingathere. Pamene panalibe chete ndipo palibe amene ankaoneka kuti anena kalikonse, ndinaganiza kuti ndiyenera kubwerezanso.
"Onani, nonse mwakhala kale mukuyesedwa koyenera. Chonde musamuyesenso, malipoti awa ndi otsimikiza. Popeza mkazi wanu sangathe kukhala ndi ana mwanjira yachikhalidwe, mwina nthawi yakwana yoti muyang'ane njira zina. Masiku ano, akazi ambiri amafuna njira yoberekera ana ngakhale ali ndi thanzi labwino , kapena ngakhale kulera ana. Chonde musadandaule ndi izi. Si mapeto a moyo wanu."
Amuna awiri omwe adayimilira kumbuyo adasinthasintha ndipo mayiyo adandiyang'ana, akuwoneka ngati phulusa. “Dokotala, ndadziwa kuti mkazi wanga sangatenge mimba kwa zaka zingapo tsopano.Ndikapima kambirimbiri, madotolo onse musanandipatse kale chigamulo choti mkazi wanga ndi wosabereka.Ndinawafunsa ambiri ndipo ndinawafunsa chifukwa chake mkazi wanga sangatenge mimba.
Mkazi wanga sangatenge mimba koma sizikundivutitsa...
Zovala zake zosavuta komanso mawu omveka bwino adatsimikizira kutsika kwake kodzichepetsa. Iye anapitiriza kuti: “Koma ndinaona kuti ndi bwino kubisa chinsinsi chifukwa sindinkafuna kuti andikakamize kusiya mkazi wanga chifukwa choti sitingathe kukhala ndi ana.
"Ndinkafuna kuti mkazi wanga akhale ndi moyo wopanda kusalidwa. Ndinkadziwa kuti mkazi wanga sadzakhala ndi pakati ndipo akulimbana ndi kusabereka. Ndikudziwanso kuti malo opsinjika maganizo angakhale ovuta kwambiri. Mkhalidwe wa m'mudzi mwathu sunamulole kuti adzimve bwino. Komabe, posachedwapa, mkazi wanga ndi banja lake ... "kenako anasiyana mwadzidzidzi.
Mawu akuti 'Jamai Sa' ndi 'Jijo Sa' anathawa pakamwa pa amuna awiriwa, omwe ankaoneka olapa. Mwamunayo anamwetulira modekha ndi kupitiriza kuti: “Anayamba kundikayikira ndi kundiimba mlandu chifukwa chonyalanyaza mlongo wawo, kukhala wopanda mphamvu, kapena kukhala ndi mbuye wawo.
“Chikondi sichimayesedwa ndi mphamvu ya kukhala ndi pakati—ndipo mmene mumathandizirana panthaŵi zovuta kwambiri.”
Mkaziyo anayamba kulira mosisima ndipo anapitiriza kunena kuti, “Ndiye ndinaona kuti ndikufunika kuwabweretsa kuno kuti ukawauze zoona mwachinsinsi, ndinkafuna kuti uwadziwitse kuti mkazi wanga sangatenge mimba kuti awachotseretu.
Ndinayang'ana mwamuna wamba amene anali atakhala patsogolo panga amene anali kulimbana ndi vuto la kusabereka m'banja lake komanso kugwirizana ndi ukwati wopanda kugonana , poganiza kuti zimenezo zingathandize kwambiri kusowa ana. Pofuna kuti mkazi wake asatenge mimba, anadzipereka kwambiri m'moyo wake. Kudziletsa kumeneku kunapangitsa mkazi wake kuganiza ndi kukayikira zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Iye anadandaula kwa banja lake, lomwe linali kulowererapo nthawi zonse.
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Kupepesa ndi njira zina
Mkulu wa amuna awiri amene anaima kumbuyoko anati, “Jamai Sa (mlamu wa kunyumba kwathu), tiyenera kugwa pamapazi ako ndikupempha kuti ukhululukire, ife takhala tikukuchitira iwe zoipa kwambiri.
Mwamunayo anachotsa kupepesako ndikumwetulira pang’ono ndi kugwedeza dzanja mofatsa. Anatembenukira kwa mkazi wake amene anakhala pafupi naye n’kunena kuti, “Ndikufuna kudzakhala nawe moyo wanga wonse.
Polankhula nane, iye anati: “Sindikufuna kumuvutitsa kapena kumangokhalira kuganiza kuti mkazi wanga satenga mimba. Ndinkadziwa kuti sitingathe kukhala ndi ana ndipo sindinkamuimba mlandu chifukwa cha zimenezi. Ndikudziwa anthu ambiri amene angandifunse kuti n’chifukwa chiyani mkazi wanga satenga mimba koma ineyo sindikuwadera nkhawa.
Mayi amene anali m’chinsaluyo anafuula “pepani” pang’ono ndipo mwamunayo anagwedeza mutu mokwiya kuti, “Na! Suno ho” (“Ayi! Mvetserani”), iye anafotokoza kuti: “Sindikufuna kupepesa ayi.
Kukumbukira nkhani iyi nthawi zonse kumandipangitsa kuganizira za mwini sitolo wosaphunzira uja wochokera kumudzi wakutali ku Rajasthan ndi momwe adapezera njira yolowera ku ofesi yanga ku Gujarat. Pofuna kupulumutsa moyo wake ndi ukwati wake , adakwanitsanso kupulumutsa mbewu za chiyembekezo ndi chidaliro mwa ine zomwe zinali kufa. Mwina tsiku lina posachedwa, zidzameranso.
(Monga adauza Aarti Pathak)
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Pamene khanda zonse inu ankafuna, mwadzidzidzi kuphunzira kuti si mu makadi kwa inu, akhoza kukuwonongerani inu kwathunthu. Kupsinjika maganizo ndi kusabereka ndizophatikiza zoipa koma chinthu ndi chakuti nthawi zonse amasonkhana. Mutavomereza vutolo ndikuyesera kuvomereza, muyenera kuganizira zowonana ndi dokotala ndikuganizira njira zina zomwe mungachitire.
Anthu ena amasankha kusakhala ndi mwana ndipo amakhala osangalala kwambiri. Koma ngati mukufunabe kuyesa kukulitsa banja lanu, mwamwayi, ukadaulo watifikitsa patali kwambiri lero. Kodi mungapirire bwanji kusabereka? Nazi njira zina zingapo:
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1. Kumwa mankhwala obereketsa ndi njira zina zachipatala
Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala gawo loyamba mukafuna kukonza kusabereka. Mankhwalawa amatha kukhala ankhanza koma amatha kusintha kusabereka ngati angakuthandizireni. Mankhwalawa amagwira ntchito popititsa patsogolo kutuluka kwa ovulation komanso kukulitsa chiberekero cha chiberekero mwa amayi kapena kuchuluka kwa umuna mwa amuna.
Kapenanso, munthu atha kuyesa njira zamankhwala monga in-vitro fertilization, intrauterine insemination, ndi njira yothandizira kuswa. Izi ndi zitatu zokha mwa njira zambiri zomwe munthu ayenera kuziganizira ndikuziyesa.
2. Kusankha kupereka umuna kapena dzira
Ngati vuto lili ndi mwamunayo koma inu nonse mukuyembekezera kuti mwanayo akhale ndi chibadwa chimodzi, ndiye kuti palibe vuto poganizira zopereka za umuna. N'chimodzimodzinso ngati mayiyo ali ndi vuto linalake lachipatala limene limalepheretsa kutenga pakati. Zikatero, kupereka dzira kungakhale njira ina yabwino. Njira imeneyi ikukula kwambiri masiku ano. Ngati mukufuna kufufuza izi, muyenera kukaonana ndi endocrinologist.
3. Kukwatiwa
Kuberekera mwana ndi njira yomwe mwana wosabadwayo amapangidwa ndi makolo enieni kenako n’kusamutsidwira m’chiberekero cha mayi woberekera amene amasankha kubereka mwana mpaka nthawi yobereka. Izi zimachitika makamaka kwa amayi omwe ali ndi matenda enaake ndipo sangathe kubereka mwana popanda mavuto aakulu. Njira imeneyi ndi yotchuka pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kwa mwamuna amene wakhala wosakwatiwa kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo tsopano akufuna mwana wopanda mnzake.
4. Pali nthawi zonse kulera ana
Nthaŵi zonse n’kwabwino kulera mwana amene angakhale wamasiye kapena wosiyidwa ndi makolo ake oyambirira. Kungakhale chokumana nacho chabwino kwa banja lonse. Mwinamwake, wina akhoza kuyang'ana mu njira yolera ana ndi kumvetsa momwe ntchito ndi njira zogwirizanirana ndi kulera mwana. Munthu akhoza kupita ngakhale kutengedwa kumayiko ena.
Ngati mwakhala mukudzifunsa momwe mungathanirane ndi kusabereka, tikukhulupirira kuti tsopano mukuwona kuti zosankha zanu sizochepa. Tiyeni tisiye kuyang'ana zomwe zikadakhala ndikungoyang'ana zomwe zingakhale. Mutha kukhalabe ndikukhala ndi banja. Zitha kukutengerani nthawi yayitali ndipo zikhalanso khama kwambiri. Koma ngati mukufunadi mwana woipa chotero, zingakhale zopindulitsa. Choncho pitirirani, pukutani misozi imeneyo ndipo yesani.
Ibibazo
Ndi bwino kukaonana ndi dokotala ngati, pambuyo poyesera kangapo, mkazi wanu sangathe kutenga pakati. Ndi dokotala yekha amene angazindikire vutoli ndikupereka chithandizo, chithandizo, ndi njira zothetsera vutoli.
Pali zizindikiro zina zomwe zingakuuzeni ngati simungathe kutenga pakati mtsogolomu. Zizindikirozi zitha kukhala kusasamba kosasintha, kumva kuwawa kwambiri panthawi yogonana, kapena kumva kuwawa kwambiri pakugonana.
Maganizo Final
Kusabereka kungakhale ulendo wopweteka kwambiri, koma sikuyenera kufotokozera ubale wanu kapena tsogolo lanu. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kuthandizana, kulankhulana momasuka, ndi kupempha thandizo pakafunika kutero.
Kaya mungasankhe njira iti, kumbukirani: simuli nokha pa izi. Chikondi chanu, mgwirizano wanu, ndi mphamvu zanu pamodzi ndizo zofunika kwambiri. Ngati kusabereka kukuika pachiwopsezo paubwenzi wanu, akatswiri athu angakuthandizeni kuyenda ulendowu momvetsetsana komanso mothandizidwa.
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Nkhani yabwino kwambiri 🙂
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Nkhani yabwino kwambiri. Ndizosangalatsa kudziŵa kuti munthu wosaphunzira, wogulitsa m’sitolo wochokera kumudzi wina wakutali ku Rajasthan anafika ku Gujarat pofuna kupulumutsa banja lake.