Nchifukwa chiyani inu okondedwa gents osokonezeka kwambiri zimene akazi kupeza wokongola mwa inu? Ndithudi izo sizingakhale zovuta ndi zachinsinsi KUTI kuzimvetsa. Koma mwina…sizili pa inu kwathunthu. Unyinji wa zidziwitso zomwe zilipo zimatha kusokoneza komanso zotsutsana. Ndiye, tiyeni tisunge zinthu kukhala zosavuta, sichoncho?
Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti akazi amaika makhalidwe monga kudzidalira, nzeru, ndi maphunziro pamalo abwino kwambiri poyerekeza ndi amuna. Mbali zambiri mwa izi ndi kudzidalira; pali makhalidwe ambiri a munthu wodzidalira, motero, "kudzidalira" ndi mawu ofunikira. Lero tikambirana za zomwe kudzidalira kumaphatikizapo.
N’chifukwa chiyani mkazi amakopeka ndi mwamuna wodzidalira nthawi yomweyo? Kodi ndi makhalidwe ati a mwamuna wodzidalira omwe amamupangitsa kukhala wokongola kwambiri? Ndipo kodi mungakhale bwanji ndi maganizo a mwamuna wodzidalira? Tikufufuza zonsezi ndi zina zambiri motsogozedwa ndi Geetarsh Kaur - mphunzitsi wodabwitsa wa moyo komanso woyambitsa "Sukulu ya Luso" yomwe imadziwika bwino pakumanga ubale wolimba.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kodi kudalira mwamuna kumawoneka bwanji? Komanso, kodi mwamuna wodzidalira amaoneka bwanji? Kodi ndi a Chuck Norisses ndi a Gary Coopers adziko lapansi omwe akuyenera kupatsidwa chizindikiro chimenecho? Kodi nthawi zonse muyenera kukhala “mwamuna” wokhala ndi ndevu zazikulu kuti mukhale mwamuna wokhwima, wodzidalira? Osati kwenikweni.
Ndili wotsimikiza kuti mukamawerenga, mukhala ndi mphindi zingapo komwe mungapite, "Hei! Sindinaganizepo za izi ... "ndipo izi ndizomveka. Ambiri a ife sitizindikira kuti chidaliro ndi kumene mikhalidwe yabwino imachokera. Mwamuna womasuka pakhungu lake nthawi zonse amawonetsa makhalidwe omwe ali pansipa.
Geetarsh akufotokoza kuti, “Ndi dera lalikulu kwambiri. Ndipo pali njira zambiri zomwe mungakhalire odzidalira kapena okongola. Anthu ambiri amaona kudzidalira kukhala odzikuza kapena odzikuza ndipo ndicho chinthu chomwe tiyenera kukonza. Kudzidalira kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi kukhwima.”
Mpaka pano, ndakumana ndi anthu atatu okha omwe andipangitsa kuganiza kuti, “Mulungu, ameneyo ndi mwamuna wokhwima komanso wodzidalira muubwenzi.” Palibe munthu wangwiro ndipo ndi munthu kukhala ndi nkhawa, koma mwamuna wodzidalira amangochita nawo zinthu mokhwima. Ndicho chimene mkazi amafuna muubwenzi wamakono.
Kukhala ndi makhalidwe a munthu wodzidalira sizikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kukhala tanthawuzo la munthu wamustachioed ndi mayankho onse. Nthawi zina, zomwe zimafunika kuti muwonetsere chidaliro ndi kukhwima ndikutha kunena kuti mulibe mayankho ku chilichonse, koma mwanzeru yesetsani kuwongolera mothandizidwa ndi omwe akuzungulirani.
Ndi malingaliro olakwika omwe anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti malingaliro a munthu wodzidalira nthawi zonse amakhala ngati ngwazi yomwe imasesa kuti apulumutse namwaliyo m'mavuto. Monga mudzadziwira posachedwa, chidaliro nthawi zambiri chimatha kuwonetsedwa pokhala wachifundo komanso woganizira zosowa za munthu ndikuwonetsetsa kuti ena omwe akuzungulirani atsimikizika.
Pitirizani kuyang'ana zizindikiro izi za mwamuna wodzidalira kuti mudziwe zambiri za anyamata atatu awa omwe adandikopa. Pezani malangizo omwe angakutsogolereninso ku njira yodzikonzera nokha komanso ubale wabwino. Yakwana nthawi yoti muyambe! Umu ndi momwe mungafotokozere mwamuna wodzidalira…
1. Pakuti iye ndi munthu wabwino wosangalala
Munthu woyamba kudzidalira yemwe ndimamudziwa ndi mchimwene wanga Sam. Ndipo ayi, uku sikukondera. Chizindikiro cha umunthu wake ndicho chikondi chenicheni chimene amasonyeza. Aliyense amene amalankhula naye amakhala womasuka nthawi yomweyo chifukwa Sam ndi wanzeru kwambiri. Iye amaoneka wofikirika ndipo simumadzimvera chisoni mukamalankhula naye. “Waubwenzi” angakhale liwu lomwe ndikuyang’ana, koma ndi loposa pamenepo.
Mwaona, munthu wosadzidalira, amalimbana ndi mayanjano a anthu. Pokhala wamantha poyembekezera kuweruzidwa, munthu wosadzidalira angapangitse zinthu kukhala zovuta kwa aliyense. Akhoza kulepheretsa kukambirana, kapena kukhala wamwano kapena wankhanza pazochitika zina. Koma maganizo a munthu wodzidalira amatanthauza zosiyana. Sam ndi, mpaka pano, m'modzi mwa anthu osavuta kupita omwe ndimawadziwa.
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2. Kuzizira ngati nkhaka
Ndiloleni ndikuuzeni chimodzi mwa zinthu zodziwika bwino za munthu wodzidalira. Sakwiya ndi anthu kapena zochitika mwanjira yosangalatsa. Mosataya mtima, amakumana ndi mavuto mwachindunji ndipo salola kuti kukhumudwa kwake kumugonjetse. Kufuula kosafunikira, kuwononga zinthu ndi nkhanza zili kutali kwambiri ndi khalidwe lake. Amathetsa mikangano mwaulemu chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti angathe kuthana nayo. Amathetsa mkwiyo wake mwaulemu.
Ngati pa chakudya chamadzulo, woperekera zakudya ayenera kutaya vinyo, munthu wodalirika sangapange zochitika ndikupempha kuonana ndi woyang'anira. Kulimbana ndi chibwenzi chake sikungamupangitse kukweza mawu (kapena dzanja). M'mikhalidwe yovuta ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino kuntchito kapena mwadzidzidzi kupatsidwa udindo wochulukirapo, malingaliro a munthu wodalirika sangagwedezeke.
Simungamupeze akuzengereza ndi kuganiza mopambanitsa m'chipinda chodyeramo, mudzamugwira atagwada patebulo lake, akumaphwanya manambala amenewo ndikukambirana nanu. Kagulu kosiyana ndi zokonda za anthu onyozeka, ang'onoang'ono, mwamuna wodzidalira sachitapo kanthu mwaukali.
3. Amapereka ndi kulandira ulemu
Choyamba, izi zikutanthauza kuti mwamuna wodzidalira amalemekeza aliyense amene amalankhula naye. Mosasamala kanthu za maonekedwe ake, udindo wake pa zachuma, jenda, mtundu, ndi china chilichonse, amachitira anthu mofanana. Satsatira ulamuliro wa amuna ndipo amachitira bwino wokondedwa wake. Palibe mawu onyoza kapena onyoza amuna kapena akazi. Mukayamba chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wodzidalira, nthawi zonse amakulemekezani ngakhale mutakangana.
Iye amamvetsa kuti kusagwirizana si chifukwa chochitira zinthu zoipa. N’chifukwa chakenso amafuna kuti anthu azilemekezana. Anthu ozungulira iye amatengedwa ndi ulemu wake ndikumusirira. Sizichitika kawirikawiri kuona munthu, ngakhale wamkulu, akuchotsa munthu wodzidalira kapena kumunyalanyaza. Sam ali ndi mbiri yabwino yogwirizana ndi mabwana ake. Osati mwachibwanabwana, koma mwa kulemekezana.
Geetarsh ananena momveka bwino kuti: “Momwe ndimaonera, munthu wodzidalira nthaŵi zonse amatsatira njira ya ulemu ya anthu awiri.” Sadziona ngati wodzichepetsa ndipo saona kufunika kodzudzula ena.
4. Wolankhula siliva komanso wachigololo!
Ndimakopeka nthawi zonse ndi amuna olankhula. Munthu wodalirika akhoza kufotokoza malingaliro ake bwino; samatopetsa anthu ndi ma monologue aatali kapena nkhani zonyansa. Ndipo kukhala wolankhula sikutanthauza kubwebweta mosalekeza - ndi khalidwe lomwe likufunika, osati kuchuluka kwake. Amuna odzidalira nthawi zonse amathandizira kukambirana mwatanthauzo. Ngakhale pamene akutero, iwo samadula ena kapena kuwadula mawu mwamwano.
Kodi chidaliro chimaoneka bwanji mwa mwamuna? Ndipamene mumamuwona akuyesetsa kuti alowe m'chipinda chodzaza ndi alendo, akuswa madzi oundana mosasunthika ndikufalitsa zovutazo ndi nthabwala pang'ono. Ndiwochezeka komanso wosavuta kuyankhula naye (kukumbukira mfundo yoyamba?) Kuti mukhale mwamuna wokhwima komanso wodalirika, nthawi zina zomwe zimafunika ndikutha kukambirana ndi anthu mwaulemu.
Akasowa chonena, amakhala omasuka ndi chete. Kulankhula modandaula, kuchita chibwibwi, kubwerezabwereza ziganizo, kulankhula osaganizira, kapena kuthamanga mawu onsewa ndi zizindikiro zosonyeza kusadzidalira. Koma pali masewera olimbitsa thupi ambiri omwe mungachite kuti muwonjezere kudzidalira kwanu pankhani yolankhula. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pang'ono kuyenera kukupangitsani kukhala panjira yoyenera. Ingokumbukirani, mkazi amakonda mwamuna amene amatha kulankhula bwino!
5. Thupi lake limalankhula mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wodzidalira
"Ndikanakhala ndi ndalama imodzi nthawi iliyonse anthu akamalankhula za thupi langa, mwina ndikanakhala miliyoneya. Zimachepa nthawi zambiri, koma ndizofunikira kwambiri. Thupi langa limasonyeza bwino kudzidalira kwanu. Ndikukuuzani kuti muziyang'ana kwambiri kumwetulira kwanu, kaimidwe kanu, ndi kuyang'ana maso. Kaonekedwe kanu ka nthawi zonse sikuyenera kukhala kopanda pake - simuyenera kumwetulira ngati chitsanzo, koma muzioneka wochezeka," akutero Geetarsh.
Ndipo mnyamata wachita bwino! Kuphatikiza pa mawu anu, samalani ndi mawu "otsekeka". Osawoloka manja ndi miyendo yanu podziteteza; nthawi zonse muzitsamira kwa munthu amene mukukambirana naye. Yang'anani maso awo nthawi zonse, ndipo musasokonezedwe mosavuta ndi zokopa zowoneka. Kuyang'anitsitsa m'chipinda chonse, kugwedeza mwendo wanu, kapena kugwedeza ndi zinthu zomwe zikuzungulirani sizikupangitsani chidwi.
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6. Modzichepetsa konse
Izi zimandibweretsa kwa mwamuna wachiwiri wodzidalira yemwe ndimamudziwa - chibwenzi cha mnzanga wapamtima, Martin. Chinthu choyamba chimene ndinachiwona ponena za Martin chinali chisomo chodzichepetsa chomwe adadzinyamula nacho. Kwa munthu wochita bwino monga momwe alili, (anapita kusukulu ya Ivy League ndipo anali wothamanga wadziko lonse) Martin ndi wodzichepetsa kwambiri. Ndipo osandilakwitsa - amadziwa bwino zomwe wachita bwino ndipo amanyadiranso nazo. Iye samangodzitama kapena kudzikweza.
Mawu akuti “onetsa, usauze” amabwera m'maganizo mwanga ndikaganizira za maganizo a munthu wodzidalira. Satchula mwachindunji ulemu wake, chifukwa kuuza aliyense za iwo sikofunikira. Bola ngati akudziwa luso lake, zonse ndi zabwino. Kukhala wodzichepetsa nthawi zonse ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu za munthu wodzidalira. Pewani anthu odzitcha “ amuna a alpha ”, omwe si odzichepetsa kwenikweni.
7. Omasuka maganizo
Ralph Waldo Emerson analemba kuti: “Ndisalole kuti ndisagwe m’chilakolako chonyansa cholota kuti ndimazunzidwa nthawi iliyonse imene ndatsutsidwa.” Ndipo mawu awa akugwira bwino kwambiri chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri za munthu wodzidalira - kumasuka kwake. Nthawi zonse adzakhala wololera malingaliro ndi malingaliro atsopano ngakhale akutsutsana ndi zikhulupiriro zake. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, sangakhumudwe ngati pali kusiyana maganizo.
Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wodalirika kumatanthauza kuti sangatengere zinthu payekha. Adzazindikira kuti mnzakeyo akhoza kukhala ndi malingaliro ena. Pakachitika ndewu, amathetsa mikangano mokhwima, kuyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe mnzake akunena. Ndiloleni ndifotokoze motere: munthu wodzidalira amasangalala ndi lingaliro lililonse, ngakhale savomereza.
8. Wodziyimira pawokha
Choyamba, tisasokoneze kulimba mtima ndi nkhanza. Nkhani za mkwiyo muubwenzi (ndi kwina kulikonse) siziyenera kusakanikirana ndi kulimba mtima. Kukhala wolimba mtima ndiko kufotokoza mfundo yanu momveka bwino. Ndi khalidwe lomwe limapangitsa anthu kuvomereza maganizo athu. Munthu wolimba mtima adzatha kufotokoza zomwe akufuna - mwamphamvu, koma mwaulemu. Palibe amene adzatha kumudutsa iye ndi zofuna zake. Uwu ndi khalidwe lokongola kwambiri chifukwa limasonyeza mphamvu ya khalidwe ndi maganizo.
Mwachitsanzo, mnzanga, Martin, ndi ine tinali kuyenda m’sitima yapansi panthaka miyezi ingapo kumbuyoko. Mwamuna anali kutenga malo ochulukirapo kuposa momwe amafunikira ndipo ndidamuwonetsa kawiri. Pa ulendo wachitatu, Martin analowererapo ndipo mawu apansipansi (komabe mwamphamvu) anauza munthuyo kuti asamukire. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mawu ake enieni anali, “Bwana, ndikufuna kuti musamuke chonde.” Sanakweze mawu ake, ndiponso sanali wamwano. Mwamunayo anasuntha kuti apeze malo mwamsanga.
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9. Makutu onse kwa inu;
Izi n'zofunika kwambiri! Geetarsh anati, "Chizindikiro chenicheni cha kudzidalira ndi luso lopangitsa anthu ena kumva kuti ndi ofunika komanso omvedwa. Samalani zomwe akunena ndipo musawapangitse kumva ngati mukuwakakamiza kuti agwiritse ntchito nthawi yanu. Mwamuna wodzidalira nthawi zambiri amakhala womvetsera bwino. Ali ndi luso lomvetsera ena popanda kuwasokoneza kapena kupereka malingaliro ake."
Kugwirizana pakati pa chidaliro ndi kumvetsera kwagona pakukhalapo panthawiyi. Kodi mwamuna wodzidalira amaoneka bwanji? Amawoneka ngati munthu yemwe amapangitsa anthu omwe amalankhula naye kuti amve kuti akuphatikizidwa ndikuvomerezedwa. Kukambitsirana naye sikudzamva ngati mukulankhula ndi munthu amene amangodikira kuti musiye kulankhula kuti apitirize.
Malingaliro a munthu wodzidalira samakhala otanganidwa ndi zinthu makumi awiri, kapena kupsinjika kwakuti-ndi-zakuti. Iye ali kwathunthu ndi m'maganizo akupezeka mu zochitika mwamsanga. Ichi ndichifukwa chake amalipira anthu chiyamikiro cha chisamaliro chosagawanika. Aliyense amene amacheza naye amamva kuti amayamikiridwa.
10. Kuwonetserako ndi kwangwiro
Ngakhale kuti chidaliro ndi khalidwe lobisika m’chilengedwe, mbali yofunika kwambiri ya khalidweli imaonekera m’maonekedwe a munthu. Makhalidwe abwino, kalembedwe, ukhondo ndi ukhondo ndi zizindikiro za mwamuna wodzidalira. Akhoza kusakhala mu suti ya zidutswa zitatu nthawi zonse, koma iye sangavale zovala zamakwinya. Adzakhaladi ndi tsitsi lakumaso lokonzedwa bwino, zikhadabo zometedwa, mpweya wabwino komanso zovala zatsopano.
Zonsezi zikusonyeza kuti mwamunayo wayesetsa kuti azioneka bwino, makamaka pa tsiku loyamba . M'dziko la akabudula osawoneka bwino komanso mathalauza owoneka bwino, mwamuna wovala bwino amakhala wokongola kwambiri! Mbali imeneyi ndi yofunika kwambiri poyamba kukopa anthu. Chithunzi choyamba chomwe timachiwona ndi ena chimadalira kwambiri momwe amaonekera. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kukopa chidwi cha mtsikana, muyenera kuyeretsa bwino.
11. Wodzizindikira ngati katswiri
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa mikhalidwe yochititsa chidwi kwambiri ya munthu wodzidalira, monga momwe Geetarsh akufotokozera moyenerera; "Ndikuganiza kuti chidaliro chimaphatikizapo kudzizindikira. Chifukwa chakuti chidaliro chimachokera ku kuvomereza ndi kuvomerezedwa, ndiyeno, kumachokera ku kukhala wozindikira. Kudzidalira kwanu ndi zenizeni sizitalikirana ndi wina ndi mzake. Simuli otsika pa kudzidalira ndipo simulinso wankhanza. Kudziona nokha ndi khalidwe losowa kwambiri ndi lodabwitsa kukhala nalo."
Zotsatira zake, munthu wodzidalira sadzakhala ndi kudzikuza. Adzazindikira zizolowezi zake ndi zolakwa zake; chifukwa chachikulu chomwe mwamuna wodalirika paubwenzi amakhala woganizira. Monga momwe Ayn Rand ananenera, “Kunena kuti “Ndimakukondani” munthu ayenera kudziwa kaye mmene anganenere kuti 'Ine'.
Psst: Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungakokere munthu wodalirika, onetsetsani kuti simuli m'modzi mwa omwe amapita, "Sindili wabwino pa chilichonse, ndilibe zosangalatsa zambiri" pamene akuyesera kuti akambirane nanu.
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12. Kodi mwamuna wodzidalira mumamufotokoza bwanji? Ali ngati Cinderella
Zimene ndikutanthauza ndi zakuti, ndi wokoma mtima kwa aliyense. Tikamalankhula za mwamuna wodzidalira, nthawi zambiri timasiya chida chaching'ono cha kukoma mtima. Chingwe choyamba ndi chifundo ndipo chachiwiri ndi chifundo. Nthawi zonse amakhudzidwa ndi zomwe anthu omwe ali pafupi naye akukumana nazo, ndipo amayesa kudziyika yekha m'malo mwawo. Kuzindikira kumeneku mwa mwamuna amene mukumukonda ndi khalidwe labwino kwambiri chifukwa anyamata ambiri amayesa kuchita zinthu ngati 'mwamuna' kapena ngati osayanjanitsika. (Ndikudabwa chifukwa chake amaganiza kuti kusayanjanitsika n'kosangalatsa.)
Koma munthu wodzidalira nthaŵi zonse amasamala kwambiri ndipo amakhudzidwa mtima ndi zimene amaona. Mukukumbukira momwe Cinderella amachitira bwenzi ndi mbewa zapachipinda chapamwamba ndikuwathandiza? Adzachita chimodzimodzi ngati wina afuna thandizo lake. Wabwino mu mtima ndi moyo woyera, munthu wodalirika adzakhala wokoma mtima kwambiri.
13. Amalemba malire
Osati kwa iye yekha, komanso kwa ena. Khalidwe lokongola kwambiri mwa mwamuna ndi momwe amadzitetezera yekha komanso kwa ena. Izi zikutanthauza kuti sangalole kuzunzidwa, ngakhale zitakhala bwanji. Amaika malire a ubale mwachangu. Apa ndi pomwe ndimalowetsa mwamuna wachitatu komanso womaliza wodzidalira amene ndimamudziwa - mnzanga, Ray. Khalidwe limeneli limamukumbutsa Ray nthawi yomweyo chifukwa cha chochitika chomwe chinachitika mu Julayi.
Munthu wina wogwira ntchito kuntchito kwathu ankaoneka kuti akuipiraipirabe kwa milungu ingapo. Ngakhale kuti ankamufunsa kaŵirikaŵiri chimene chinali cholakwika, iye sanayankhe mafunso athu. Tinasiya mpaka anayamba kutenga masamba otsatizana. Atadabwa ndi kujomba kumeneku, Ray anakhala pansi ndi wophunzirayo. Anapeza kuti azibambo ochepa ankamulalatira mnyamatayo chifukwa cha fuko lake. Ray adathana ndi vutoli m'njira yomwe palibe amene adamuvutitsanso mnyamatayo mpaka pachibwenzi.
Ngati mukuyang'ana kuti muwone makhalidwe a amuna odzidalira, ndi pamene sakuwopa kuthandiza ena kapena kuthandizira ena. Ray akanatha kunena kuti, “Limenelo si vuto langa, thana nalo” n’kuchotsa fumbi m’manja mwake, koma anaganiza zomuthandiza wophunzirayo. Monga momwe mungadziwire tsopano, kuti mukhale mwamuna wokhwima, wodzidalira, zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi kukhala wokoma mtima kwa anthu.
14. Iye ndi wopita patsogolo
Kuphunzira sikutha ndipo nthawi zonse pamakhala maluso atsopano oti munthu aphunzire. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zosangalatsa kwambiri za munthu wodzidalira ndi chikhumbo chake chofuna kuyesa zinthu zatsopano ndi zokumana nazo. Amadziwa bwino kuti sangathe kudziwa ZONSE. Chifukwa chake, amayesetsa kupitiliza kuyesa zinthu zatsopano. Mwina akuphunzira chilankhulo chatsopano ( mwina chilankhulo chanu chachikondi ?) kapena akuphunzira kalasi yophika - nditamva komaliza, Sam adatchulapo kanthu kena kokhudza msonkhano wa origami.
Mofanana ndi zimenezi, iye adzakhala mogwirizana ndi dziko. Mukamufunsa zomwe zikuchitika padziko lonse lapansi, adzakhala ndi chithunzithunzi chambiri choti apereke. Kaŵirikaŵiri munthu wodzidalira sadzipatula ku zimene zikuchitika momzungulira.
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15. Mwamuna wokhwima, wodzidalira ndi woseketsa (koma osati wopusa)
Ndimakonda mwamuna amene angandiseketse. Koma ndikanakonda amuna akadamvetsetsa kuti pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya nthabwala. Malinga ndi kumvetsetsa kwanga, akazi amakopeka ndi nzeru komanso nthabwala zanzeru. Kusewera mozungulira kapena kuseka mokweza komanso mopanda tsankho kunkagwira ntchito m'ma sitcom akale okha. Kudziwa momwe mungasekerere mtsikana n'kofunika, komanso kudziwa nthawi yolemba mzere, kuwerenga chipinda musananene mawu onyoza, komanso kupanga nthabwala zomveka. Zonsezi ndi zizindikiro za mwamuna wodzidalira.
Komanso, kupeza nthabwala muzochitika zovuta kumagweranso m'gulu lomwelo. Mikhalidwe ingakhale yopanda mzere wasiliva, koma nthawi zambiri imakhala yopanda mphamvu ya nthabwala zopanda vuto. Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wodzidalira kumatanthauza kuti adzakusekani pamasiku oipa ndi zoyesayesa zake zopusa. Zovuta sizingamupangitse kusiya kumwetulira, kwenikweni, mwina adzakhalanso ndi nzeru kwa iwo!
Komanso, ngati mukuyesera kumvetsa mmene kukopa munthu wodalirika, pitirirani ndi chime ndi nthabwala. Mukatero, kusekako kudzalankhula zambiri kuposa nthabwala zoseketsa *wink*.
16. Wodzidalira wapamwamba
Ndikuganiza kuti Geetarsh akunena bwino kwambiri pamene akunena kuti, "Anthu odzidalira samakhala omangika. Safuna kuti wina azioneka nthawi zonse. Amamasuka kwambiri kukhala okha akuchita zinthu zawo. Sadaliranso anzawo pazinthu zazing'ono. Mwamuna wodzidalira pa chibwenzi sadzadalira chibwenzi chake. Sadzayesanso kumulamulira , chifukwa amamvetsetsa kuti umunthu wake ndi wofunika."
Popeza mwamuna wodzidalira amakhala ndi nkhawa zochepa, sangafotokozere nkhani zake pa chibwenzi. Adzawapatsa danga ndi kutenga akenso. Ubale ndi iye udzakhala wopanda zovuta komanso wokhwima mwachilengedwe. Mutha kuyitcha malo opanda poizoni!
17. Munthu amene ali ndi chiwembu
Kodi kulakalaka ndi kukhudzika sizikhala zokopa nthawi zonse? Mwamuna yemwe ali ndi masomphenya ndi wapamwamba-duper achigololo. Ndipo mwamuna wodzidalira pafupifupi nthaŵi zonse amakhala ndi lingaliro lolimba la kumene moyo wake ukupita. Ayenera kuti adalembapo zochitika zazikulu zomwe akufuna kuchita zaka zisanu zikubwerazi, kapena angakhale ndi mndandanda wa ndowa. Sikuti amangojambula njira ya moyo wake, amadziwanso galimoto yomwe angagwiritse ntchito kuti akafike kumene akupita.
Zitha kuwoneka monyanyira pang'ono, koma Ray ali ndi chomangira chodzipereka kwa zaka ziwiri zotsatira za moyo wake. Sindinakhulupirire poyamba mpaka anandilola kuti ndiyang'ane mofulumira. Zinasonyeza kutsimikiza mtima kwake kotero kuti ndinadabwa kukhala chete. Chipewa kwa Ray ndi amuna onse kunja uko omwe akudziwa komwe akupita!
18. Wowoneka bwino
Kulimbitsa thupi n'kofunika. Ndipo ayi - sizikutanthauza kukhala ndi mimba kapena biceps. Mwamuna wathanzi komanso wathanzi ndi amene amasamala za thanzi lake komanso moyo wake wautali. Amafuna kukhala ndi moyo wabwino ndipo akutenga njira zotsimikizira kuti ali ndi moyo wabwino. ICHI ndi chomwe akazi amaona kuti n'chokongola. Kudzidalira kumachokeranso pa momwe timadzionera tokha. Mwamuna wokhala ndi moyo wathanzi mwachibadwa amamva bwino ndi mawonekedwe ake ndipo motero, amakhala wodzidalira kwambiri.
Pali njira zambiri zokhalira ndi moyo wathanzi; yoga, kusinkhasinkha, masewera aliwonse (kusambira, mpira, ndi zina zotero), kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, kapena kupalasa njinga. Mutha kusankha iliyonse ndikuwona momwe imakhudzira moyo wanu (ndi moyo wachibwenzi).
Uwu! Umenewo unali mndandanda wa zizindikiro za munthu wodzidalira. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwapeza zomwe munkafuna. Ingokhulupirirani nokha ndipo mudzakopa mkazi woyenera!
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