Zizindikiro 17 Zovuta Kugonana Zomwe Simungathe Kuzinyalanyaza - Ndi Zoyenera Kuchita

Kotero inu mwakhala pafupi wina ndi mzake mu bar yodzaza anthu. Zigongono zanu zimagwira, ndipo kuyang'anizana ndi maso kumayambitsa zozimitsa moto muubongo wanu. Mwanjira ina, zonse zomwe mukuziganizira mukuyang'ana mwakuya m'maso mwa munthuyu ndi momwe zingakhalire zabwino kumukokera mkati ndikumpsompsona. Kodi izi zingakhale zovuta zogonana zomwe mukukumana nazo? Ndipo ngati ndi choncho, kodi maganizowo ndi ofanana? M'malingaliro anu, mwina mukutsimikiza kuti ndizogwirizana. Koma kodi munthu angatsimikize bwanji zimenezo?

Kodi mungatsimikize kuti mukumva zizindikiro zogonana ndi munthu amene mumakopeka naye? Mukayang'ana mozama m'maso mwawo, zitha kuwoneka ngati dziko lonse lapansi kulibe, sichoncho? (Ayi, si “chinsinsi” chanu chaching’ono chabe. Anzanu ayamba kale miseche za inu pagulu la macheza). Koma iwalani anzanu ndi gulu kucheza kwa sekondi, mphero miseche si nkhawa yanu yaikulu pakali pano, kugonana vibe cheke ndi.

Ngati muwerenga m'chipindamo molakwika ndikulingalira kuti kukangana kosautsa ndi kuphwanyidwa kumafanana ndi kugonana pamene palibe chilichonse kuchokera kumapeto kwawo, mutha kupeza nokha pamtunda wotsetsereka woti muyike wina ndikupita kuzinthu zanu zomwe zimagwirizana ndi kuzunzidwa.

Ichi ndichifukwa chake musanachite zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizovuta zogonana, ndikofunikira kudziwa mayankho a mafunso awa: Kodi mukumva mphamvu zogonana kuchokera kwa wina? Kodi zizindikiro zimawoneka bwanji? Kodi chidzakhala chinachake, kapena ndi chimodzi mwa zipolowe zosakhalitsa zomwe mudzaziiwala posachedwapa nkhani yotsatira ya kutengeka mtima kwanu ikadzabwera?

Tiyeni tikambirane zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudza kusamvana kosaneneka m'chipindamo, mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Devaleena Ghosh (M.Res, Manchester University), yemwe anayambitsa Kornash: The Lifestyle Management School, yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wa mabanja ndi chithandizo cha mabanja.

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Pomwepo, tiyeni tikambirane mbali yaikulu ya nkhani zogonana. Mwa tanthawuzo, zizindikiro za kukangana kwa kugonana nthawi zambiri zimakhala zofanana. Ngati mukuyang'ana munthu kudutsa malo ogulitsira khofi omwe ali ndi anthu ambiri, ndikudikirira kuti akuyang'aneni, sizikugwirizana ndi zovuta zogonana. Pali kukangana kosaneneka motsimikiza, koma sikuli kugonana mu chikhalidwe panobe.

Zizindikiro za kupsinjika maganizo zimamveka motere. Ndi kumverera kosangalatsa, kosokoneza m'mimba, kopitirira muyeso komwe mumapeza anthu awiri akafuna kugonana koma sangathe. Nthawi zina, zimakhala zabwino, zikachitika chifukwa nonse ndinu osakwatira komanso ofunitsitsa koma simungathe kugwirana chifukwa muli kuntchito kapena pamalo ovomerezeka pomwe kuchita zomwe mukufuna sikungatheke ngakhale munthu winayo atakukwiyitsani ndipo iwo ndi inu. Tikhulupirireni, kumva zizindikiro za kupsinjika maganizo maganizo kuntchito kwanu n'kosangalatsa koma kokhumudwitsa kwambiri.

Devaleena akuti, "Kukangana pakugonana nthawi zambiri kumakhala ngati kukopeka kwambiri komanso kukopana, pafupifupi mwamphamvu ngati bingu. Ngakhale kukhudza pang'ono, komwe kungakhale kongochitika mwachisawawa, kumakhala ngati vuto lalikulu. Onse omwe akukhudzidwa amakhudzidwa ndi kukhudzidwako. Palinso kugwedezeka ndi changu chambiri m'malingaliro athupi, limodzi ndi kulumikizana."

Nthawi zina, zingakhalenso zoipa, pamene chibwenzi cha mnzanu wapamtima sichisiya kukuyang'anani, ndipo simukufuna kuti nayenso asiye, koma zoonadi izi n'zolakwika! Ngakhale kuti zingamveke bwino, kusagwirizana kumeneku ndi mnyamata kapena mtsikana kungakhalenso kovuta kwambiri. Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti mukudziwa mtundu wa ubale womwe mukufuna kukhala nawo ndi munthu wina mukangokumana naye. Choncho ngati pali kupsinjika kulikonse kwa kugonana, ndiye kuti padzakhala kusiyana kuyambira pachiyambi.

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Kodi Kugonana Kumamveka Bwanji?

Mkangano wogonana, nthawi zambiri, umakhala pakati pa anthu awiri (kapena kupitilira apo) asanachite mchitidwe uliwonse wogonana. Potengera kuyanjana kwawo wina ndi mzake, anthu awiriwa amamva chilakolako champhamvu cha kugonana kwa wina ndi mzake. Chilakolako chogonanachi chikhoza kuwonekera mu mawonekedwe a kumverera kwa agulugufe m'mimba, thukuta lamutu ndi/kapena m'manja, ndi kulota uli maso za momwe zingakhalire kuwapsyopsyona kapena kukhala nawo paubwenzi.

Kodi kukakamira kugonana kumakhala kotani? Mawu akuti "kuwotcha ndi chikhumbo" angagwiritsidwe ntchito kufotokoza bwino za kugonana. Kaya mukufunsa, kodi kukakamirana kogonana kumamveka bwanji kwa mnyamata kapena kuti chilakolako chogonana chimakhala chotani kwa mtsikana, malongosoledwe awa akugwirabe ntchito.
Mutha kukhala ndi kuthamanga m'chiuno mwanu, kumverera kwamagetsi mukamakhudza munthu wotsatiridwa ndi kunjenjemera kapena kutentha. Kwa anyamata, izi zitha kutsatiridwa ndi erection. Ndipo kwa atsikana, kunyowa. Mfundo yaikulu ndi yakuti, pamene anthu aŵiri akukanganirana zakugonana, amamva kuti akutembenukirana pamaso pa wina ndi mnzake ndipo ngakhale maganizo a wina ndi mnzake.

Kumva kupsinjika maganizo pa kugonana kungatanthauzenso kukhala ndi malingaliro okhudza kugonana ndi munthuyo, zomwe zimakulimbikitsani nthawi yanu yodzisangalatsa. Kungatanthauzidwenso ngati kumverera kuti inu ndi munthu winayo muyenera kuchita zinthu zogonana kuti muchepetse kupsinjika maganizo pakati panu. Nthawi zina, kumverera kumeneku kumatha kukhalapo kwa milungu, miyezi, kapena zaka zambiri mutagonana.

Nthawi zambiri, zizindikiro za kusamvana pakugonana kumaphatikizapo kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino, odzazidwa ndi chiyembekezo cha zomwe zikubwera ndi momwe zidzachitikire. Komabe, nthaŵi zina, likhoza kukwiriridwa ndi malingaliro oipa a liwongo, manyazi, kapena mkwiyo. Izi zimachitika mukakhala ndi chidwi chogonana ndi munthu yemwe simungakhale naye kapena wina yemwe sikuli koyenera kuti mugonane naye - bwenzi kapena bwenzi la m'bale, mphunzitsi, kapena mlangizi, mwachitsanzo.

Ndipo tsopano popeza mukudziwa kuti kukonda 10 zolemba zake za Instagram motsatizana sikufanana ndi kukangana kwa kugonana (ndiko kungokhala kowopsa), tiyeni tiwone zizindikiro zamphamvu zakugonana. Werengani kuti mudziwe momwe mungadziwire zovuta zogonana, kudziwa ngati zili bwino, komanso momwe mungathanirane ndi vutoli malinga ndi momwe mungachitire kapena ayi.

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Pobwerera kuchokera ku kalabu Loweruka usiku, Brad, Cindy, ndi Jacob anagawana takisi. Kwa Brad ndi Cindy, ulendo wobwerera unaoneka ngati wabwinobwino, ngakhale kuti ankaseka pang'ono komanso ankasewera maso pang'ono . Brad ndi Cindy ankaganiza kuti mphamvu imeneyi yomwe ankagawana pakati pawo inali ngati "chinsinsi", ngati kuti Jacob sankadziwa.

Anapitiriza kuseka, kugwirana wina ndi mzake, kuseka nthabwala zawo zamkati. Malingaliro awo adagwa pomwe Yakobo adati, "Tengani chipinda, awirinu", atatseka maso kachinayi. Ndipo ndipamene Cindy adadzifunsa kuti, "N'zodabwitsa komanso zovuta kumva magetsi ndi munthu, kodi nawonso amamva?"

Choncho, monga Brad ndi Cindy, kodi simukudziwa kuti zizindikirozo ndi zoonekeratu komanso mukuganiza kuti, kodi munthu winayo nayenso akumva kusamvana kosaneneka? Tiyeni tiwone ngati kukangana kovutirapo kumeneku ndi kusweka komwe mwasokonezeka kwambiri kumakhaladi chilichonse.

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1. Mumakopeka ndi mwayi uliwonse 

"Inu pitirirani, tikhala komweko", mukutero, kuti nonse awiri muthe kukhala nokha ndipo mutha kuwauza momwe akuwoneka okongola lero. Chitsanzo chodziwikiratu chazovuta zakugonana ndi ngati nonse mukukopana wina ndi mnzake mpata uliwonse womwe mungapeze. Nthawi zina ngakhale pamaso pa anthu, zomwe zimawoneka ngati zonyansa kwa iwo.

Kukopana mobisa ndi maso kapena kupita kunja ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mawu opangitsa winayo kuchita manyazi ndikudumpha kugunda kwamtima kukhala chizindikiro cha kusamvana kwa kugonana pakati pa mabwenzi awiri, antchito mnzako, kapena pafupifupi anthu awiri aliwonse omwe amakangana. Mukafuna kugonana ndi munthu wina, kukopana kumakhala chida choyamba chosonyezera chilakolakocho mobisa kapena mobisa.  

2. Anzanu akhoza kumva

Ndipo mukamakopana pamaso pa anzanu, amapeza mphamvu zomwe muli nazo pakati panu. Ngakhale zingamve ngati palibe padziko lapansi amene angazindikire zomwe mukumvera, anzanu amadziwadi - ndipo mwina akungoganiza. Ngati mukumva mphamvu zogonana kuchokera kwa wina, khalani otsimikiza kuti si inu nokha amene mukumva.

Devaleena akutiuza kuti, "Ngati mnzakoyo ali pafupi kwambiri, nthawi zambiri amatha kumvetsetsa ndi kuzindikira zizindikiro za kusamvana kwa kugonana pakati pa anthu awiri. Adzatha kutengera machitidwe kapena makhalidwe omwe anthu aŵiriwo akukumana ndi chilakolako chogonana.

Mukudziwa mawu akuti, “Mungachepetse kupsinjika pakati pa awiriwa ndi mpeni”? Chifukwa chake chilipo ndichakuti magetsi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi (kapena pakati pa anthu awiri, moona mtima) nthawi zambiri amakhala omveka kuchokera kutali. Ngati anzanu ndi abwino, mwina anganene kuti, “Inu awiri mudzakhala bwino kwambiri pamodzi”, koma ngati mukucheza ndi mnzanu wapamtima, mwina anganene kuti, “Ndinu onyansa.”

3. Nthawi zonse mumayesetsa kukhala nokha nawo

Ngati mukumva mphamvu zogonana kuchokera kwa wina, mukuyembekezera kukhala nokha naye kwinakwake. Khalani otsimikiza, mphindi yomwe anzanu amapita kukasuta, zomwe mukuganiza ndikupsompsona munthu uyu. Nonse awiri mutha kupanga malo anu ochezera achinsinsi mukakhala m'magulu, ndikupanga "nthawi yokha".

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za kusamvana ndi ogwira nawo ntchito ndi chakuti nthawi zonse mumayesetsa kuchotsa gulu lanu la ntchito ndikuyesera kudya chakudya chamasana nokha. Mumakonda kulowa mchipinda chopumira pomwe palibe wina aliyense ndipo mumakhala patokha ndi ofesi yonse.

Kufunika kukhala panokha palimodzi, ngakhale mutakhala m'gulu lalikulu, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kusamvana pakati pa anzanu awiri, ogwira nawo ntchito, kapena odziwana nawo. Chifukwa chake, ngati pali bwenzi limodzi lomwe simungasiye kuganiza ndikudzichotsa pagulu kuti muthe kukhala nazo nokha, ngakhale zitakhala kwa mphindi ziwiri, ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizika cha chidwi chogonana. Wokongola? Mwina. Zonyansa kwa anzanu? Ndithudi. 

4. Palibenso chizindikiro champhamvu chogonana choposa mphamvu yamagetsi mukakhudza munthu

Mosakayikira, chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zabwino kwambiri za kugonana ndi momwe mumapezera chifukwa chokhudzirana wina ndi mzake. Kukhudza mwangozi apa, dzanja lololera, lokopa kumunsi kumbuyo uko. Koma gwirani, abwenzi a platonic nawonso akhudzane, sichoncho? Kusiyana apa kudzakhala cholinga kumbuyo ndi mphamvu ya kukhudza.

Kukhudza komwe kuli ndi vuto la kugonana kudzakhala ma Mississippi ochepa. Kuphatikiza apo, simumamva magetsi akutsika m'mitsempha mukakhudza bwenzi, sichoncho? Mosakayikira, munthu uyu adzakutumizirani kunjenjemera kwa msana wanu ngati akukhudza khosi lanu movutitsa. Kugwirana motalikirana, kaya mwangozi mwangozi burashi yamanja kapena kukumbatirana komwe kumatenga masekondi angapo motalika, kukuwonetsa kuti pali chisangalalo chogonana chomwe chikuyenda ngati mtsinje wamphamvu pakati pa anthu awiri.

5. Mwapezeka ndi vuto lalikulu la agulugufe

Kuwonjezeka kwa mtima, kutuluka thukuta ndi chilakolako chosakhutitsidwa chofuna kusangalatsa? Ayi, mulibe mantha m'manja mwanu; mumangomukonda kwambiri munthuyu. Kodi vuto la kugonana limakhala bwanji kwa mwamuna? Kapena kodi chilakolako chogonana chimakhala chotani kwa mtsikana? Mosasamala kanthu za jenda kapena zokonda za munthu amene akufunsidwayo, kukangana kwa kugonana kumadziwika ndi chisangalalo komanso kudzimvera chisoni modabwitsa pafupi ndi munthu amene mukufuna.

Mwina nonse mukuyesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muchepetse nkhawa yanu ndi mnyamata/mtsikana amene mungakhale naye. Izi zimachitika makamaka mukakumana ndi vuto la kugonana ndi munthu amene simungakhale naye. Chabwino, mudzaonetsetsa kuti mukuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti musiye chithunzi chabwino. Ingotsimikizirani kuti chikondi chanu sichikupangitsani kunyalanyaza zizindikiro zilizonse zoonekeratu.

6. Kuyang'ana m'maso mwachidwi komanso mwachidwi

Mukakumana ndi munthu wina mukamva magetsi, kodi nayenso amamva choncho? Mukakumana ndi munthu wina, kodi nayenso amamva choncho ? Mafunso ngati awa angakuvutitseni mukamakumana ndi munthu wina koma simukudziwa ngati maganizowo ndi ofanana. Yankho, mnzanga, lili m'maso mwawo. Kukumana kwa maso komwe mumakumana kudzakuuzani zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudza zizindikiro za kupsinjika maganizo.

Zedi, mumakumana ndi anthu angapo tsiku lililonse. Koma izi, uyu azimva mosiyana. Simungoyang'anana wina ndi mzake chifukwa cha izo; chikhumbo chachikulu chimene chikukuwa koma chikukankhidwira pansi mkati mwanu chikuwonekera. Ngati akukopana ndi maso awo, mwina mutha kudziwa chifukwa cha kumverera kwaukali komwe mumapeza.

7. Ngati zikuwoneka ngati zachipongwe/zobisika, ndi chizindikiro champhamvu chogonana

Mukukumbukira pamene mudakwanitsa kuzembera m'nyumba usiku ndikuzemba mudakali wachinyamata? Kapena nthawi imeneyo munalumpha mpanda kuti mufike padziwe lachinsinsi. Chisangalalocho chinapangitsa kuti ikhale yosangalatsa, sichoncho? Magetsi pakati pa anthu awiri omwe ali mu wina ndi mzake adzamva monga choncho.

Kutsekereza maso wina ndi mzake, mwina mukutulutsa kumwetulira komwe kumasonyeza chisangalalo choletsedwa cha zonsezi. Izi zimakhala choncho makamaka mukakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi munthu yemwe simungakhale naye. PS: Si "chinsinsi" monga momwe mukuganizira. Mphamvu ndizomveka; aliyense amadziwa za izo. Monga Yakobo adanena, peza chipinda!

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8. Kuseketsana kuli pamwamba pa mndandanda wa zochita zanu

Devaleena akufotokoza kuti: “Nthaŵi zambiri mukadziŵa anthu amene ayamba kulakalaka kugonana pakati pawo, mumaona mmene amakhalira kuseka kwambiri pakati pawo. kukangana kosaneneka ndi kukopa.”

Ndani ankadziwa kuti munali ndi nthabwala yobisika mkati mwake? Chabwino, ndi momwe zidzakhalira mukamayang'ana nkhani zanu za A-grade ndi nkhani zoseketsa kwambiri, mukuyesera momwe mungathere kumuseka kapena kumupangitsa kukhala wosangalatsa. Ndipo anzanu akudziwa bwino momwe mukuyesera. Kwa iwo, nthabwala zanu sizoseketsa, koma momwe mumachitira zinthu modabwitsa kwa munthu uyu ndi zoseketsa.

Zikuwonekeratu ngati tsiku kwa aliyense wozungulira inu kuti mukuyesera kuthetsa chilakolako chogonana ndi nthabwala kapena kubisa. Kupatula chilankhulidwe cha thupi lanu chikupereka. Momwe mumatha kumva mphamvu zakugonana kuchokera kwa wina, amatha kuzimvanso ngati mwatembenuzidwa ndi iwo. Nthawi zambiri, momwemonso ndi ena omwe ali pafupi nanu.

9. Iwo akutsamira kapena kuchotsa zotchinga zakuthupi pakati panu

Kulankhula za zizindikiro za kusamvana kwa kugonana pakati pa abwenzi awiri, ogwira nawo ntchito awiri, kapena anthu awiri pa chibwenzi, kufunikira kwa zizindikiro za thupi la mwamuna ndi mkazi sizinganyalanyazidwe. Kuchotsa zotchinga ndikutsamira kwa munthu wina ndi njira yodziwikiratu momwe thupi lanu limayankhira ku zomwe mumakonda.

Monga njira yonenera kuti, “Ndikufuna, ndiuzeni zambiri”, chilakolako chogonanachi kapena chizindikiro chokopa kwambiri chidzakupangitsani kutseka mtunda pakati panu awiri. Ndipo musanadziwe, mumakhala pafupi mokwanira kuti mupsompsone wina ndi mnzake. Mwina ndi nthawi yoyenera pamene amanena mawu ngati, “Kodi ndi ine kapena kwayamba kutentha kuno?”, m'mafilimu.

10. Kulankhula bwino kwa thupi kungaloze ku kukanizana kosautsa kumeneku ndi kusweka

Kulankhula bwino kwa thupi lonse kumatha kukhala chizindikiro chazovuta zakugonana, ngakhale nthawi zina, zitha kukhala chifukwa chakuti wina amakukondani ngati munthu. Kodi akuwonetsa manja otseguka? Kodi iwo akutsamiramo, kuonjezera ubwenzi? Kodi akukusekani mwamasewera? Mikono yawo sinadulidwe, sichoncho? Zonsezi ndizizindikiro zolimbikitsa zomwe zimakukokerani kwa inu monga momwe mumakokera kwa iwo.

Izo sizidzakhala kwambiri zonyansa maganizo kunena kuti mukumva kugonana mphamvu kwa munthu amene thupi chinenero pa tsiku ndi ofunda, lotseguka, ndi olandiridwa. Tikukulimbikitsani kuti mukambirane nawo musanalowe kuti mupsompsone. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani, kuvomereza ndi mfumu, zogonana kapena ayi.

11. Inu nonse mukuwoneka osangalala pozungulira wina ndi mzake

Ndipo ndicho chinthu chabwino kwambiri pazovuta za kugonana! Taganizirani izi: mwaitanidwa kuphwando la kunyumba ndipo simukuyembekezera kuti munthu ameneyu abwere. Koma mukawaona akuyenda pakhomo, dziko lonse lozungulira inu limasiya kukhalapo ndipo mwinamwake mwadutsa mwezi. Chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zomveka bwino zokhuza kugonana ndi pamene nonse muli osangalala kwambiri pamene muli pafupi wina ndi mzake.

Ndinu mwadzidzidzi kumwetulira ndi nthabwala, ndipo, ndithudi, kukhudza kusewera sikuyima posachedwa. Pamene mukumva kusamvana kosautsaku ndi kusweka kapena munthu wina yemwe mwakhala mukumupanikiza kwambiri, pitirirani ndikuchita kuvina kosangalatsa mkati. Ichi ndi chizindikiro cholimbikitsa kuti vibe yogonana ikuyenda mbali zonse ziwiri.

Mungathe kumva mphamvu za wina kudzera mu uthenga. N'zotheka kuti akhala ndi tsiku lotanganidwa komanso lalitali kuntchito, koma akangotumiza uthenga, nonse awiri mumaseka ndipo mukusangalala kwambiri kulankhulana. Mukatumiza uthenga, mudzazindikira momwe mulili ndi chimwemwe komanso malo abwino kwambiri potumiza uthenga wanu wachikondi.

12. Pakhoza kukhala zovuta pang'ono

Kodi mwanena zonse zomwe mungathe zokhudza ulendo waposachedwa womwe mudapita ku Brazil? Ndipo tsopano mwakhazikika mu “Ha-ha… eya… Ndiye, zili bwanji?” lupu? Koma ubongo wanu mwina ukufuula, "Ingondipsopsonani kale!" Zabwino kwambiri, ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za kusamvana pakugonana. Mosiyana ndi zomwe zizindikilo zina zonse zingakupangitseni, siziyenera kuwoneka ngati mphamvu yomveka yotuluka kuchokera kwa nonse.

Devaleena akuti, "Zovuta izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala chifukwa chakuti anthu awiri omwe ali mumkhalidwe wotere amakhala okhumudwa komanso amantha." Nthaŵi zina, kukhoza kukhala kumwetulira kosautsa. Mutha kudzipeza nokha lilime lomangidwa mozungulira munthu uyu, osatha kulankhulana bwino, osangalatsa kapena kukhala ndi nkhani yaying'ono yoletsa chifukwa mumayatsidwa pamaso pawo ndipo simungathe kuthana ndi kuchuluka komwe mukufuna kumpsompsona ndi zina zambiri.

13. Mchipindamo muli njovu ndipo dzina lake ndi kukangana kugonana

Inde, ndi momwe kusagwirizana pakati pa mwamuna kapena mtsikana kumakhalira. Zili ngati mukusewera masewera a nkhuku pomwe nonse mukudziwa kuti winayo akufuna kukupsompsonani , koma simukudziwanso bwino. Nanga bwanji ngati mukuyang'ana ndikudzinyenga? Koma maso okopa omwe sasiya kuyang'ana milomo yanu akukuuzani zosiyana.

Nonse mumamva, nonse mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira, ndipo aliyense amadziwa bwino zomwe zili. Ngati mukudabwa za funso, "Mukamamva magetsi ndi munthu, amamvanso?", Ingofunsani njovu yomwe ikuchedwa pakona. Iwo adziwa.

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14. Mumafunafuna wina ndi mzake M’magulumagulu

Pamene mukumva mphamvu zogonana kuchokera kwa wina, simudzakhala ndi nthawi ndi wina aliyense koma iwo. Nanga bwanji mungafune kumva za kucheza kwa anzanu pazibwenzi pomwe mumatha kukopana ndi Cindy, yemwe wakhala akukuyang'ananibe? 

Ndipo pamene anzanu onse azindikira, iwo mwina kusiya inu awiri. Nthawi zina, mwina sangakhale ndi njira ina, poganizira momwe inu awiri nthawi zonse mumathandizirana wina ndi mnzake posachedwa. Kufunika kokhala nthawi zonse munjira ya wina ndi mzake ndikumverera kuti dziko lizimiririka ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zamphamvu zogonana pakati pa mabwenzi awiri.

15. Pakakhala chilakolako chogonana, mawu anu amatha kusintha

Devaleena akutiuza kuti, "Mawu amatenga gawo lofunikira pazizindikiro za kusamvana kwa kugonana pakati pa anthu awiri. Ndilofala kwambiri kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Pakakhala kusamvana kosaneneka, anthu amayamba kumveka mokoma kwambiri kwa wina ndi mnzake. Ngakhale amuna amawoneka osangalatsa kwambiri m'njira yomwe amalankhulirana. Pali mawu osiyana kapena opitilira muyeso m'mawu a mwamuna kapena mkazi. "

Mwina simunazindikire izi koma ganizirani izi; simulankhula ndi munthuyu momwe mumalankhulira ndi anzanu ena onse, sichoncho? Mawu anu mwina ndi osangalatsa kwambiri, mawu ake ndi okwera kwambiri ndipo tisaiwale nthabwala zonse zomwe mukuyesera kunyoza. Ngati akulimbana ndi malingaliro ake pa inu , mungamuone akuyesera kukhala wodekha kwambiri ndi mawu abodza kwambiri.

Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti mukamalankhula ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri, mawu anu amasintha. Uyu akhoza kukhala munthu woyenera kuimba naye nyimbo yapamwamba. Tsopano ndi chibwenzi chomwe chikungoyembekezera kuchitika!

16. Chimodzi mwazozindikiro za kukangana pakugonana ndikumapeza zifukwa zokumana wina ndi mzake

Kodi adangopeza bonasi? Izo zimafuna galasi lachikondwerero la vinyo, chabwino? Mwina nyali yawo siyikugwira ntchito. Kulibwino mupite mukafufuze nthawi yomweyo, pambuyo pake, ndizovuta! Mfundo ndi yakuti, pamene mukumva mphamvu zogonana kuchokera kwa munthu wina, mumapeza kuti mukuyang'ana zifukwa zokumana nazo. Mukapeza kuti mukuthamangira kuvala nsapato zanu, munthu uyu amalembanso mawu akuti, "Bwerani?", ndinu ozama kwambiri. 

17. Kugonana kumabwera m'makambirano anu

Kapena chinachake chotsatira mizere imeneyo ndithudi chidzatero. Zinthu zikayamba kutenthedwa, mwina mukukamba za nkhani za steamer. Kinks? Fetishes? Kugonana kwabwino kwambiri komwe mudakhalako? Kukambitsirana kumeneku kudzatsogolera ku chinthu chinanso pakati pa inu nonse. Chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zabwino kwambiri zokhuza kugonana ndi pamene zokambirana zokhudzana ndi nkhani zowonongeka zimasakanikirana ndi kukhudza thupi ndi kuyang'ana maso.

Mukakhala kuti simuli limodzi, maganizo ogonana amenewa angaoneke ngati ongocheza ndi anthu ena . Kaya muyambe kukambirana nawo pati, pamapeto pake amalowa m'malo oipa ndipo zimakhala ngati nonse mukuyembekezera kuti zimenezo zichitike. Ndipo ngati simukudziwabe zomwe zikuchitika, ndinu mwamuna chabe kapena simukudziwa bwino.

Zoyenera Kuchita Pankhani Yovuta Kugonana

Tsopano popeza mukudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusamvana pakugonana komanso zizindikiro, mwachiyembekezo, simudzaganiza molakwika zomwe zikuchitika mumkhalidwe wanu. Nthawi yoti mupite ku sitepe yotsatira: muyenera kuchita chiyani? Mukakankhira kukankhira, muli ndi njira ziwiri apa: mutha kutsata zinthu kuti muwone komwe zikukutsogozani, kapena mutha kusiya, zomwe zingakhale zabwino kuchita mukakhala ndi vuto logonana ndi munthu yemwe simungakhale naye.

Devaleena akupereka lingaliro lakuti, "Pakhoza kukhala chisokonezo chochuluka ndi chisokonezo chozungulira malingaliro awa a kukopeka ndi kusamvetsetsana ndi winawake. Choyamba, munthu ayenera kudziwa kuti kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana si chinthu choipa.

"Ponena za kulankhula ndi munthu wina, yesetsani kuchita zinthu pang'onopang'ono koma onetsetsani kuti munthu winayo ndi wokonzeka kutero. Ngati muli ndi chizindikiro chochepa chakuti munthu winayo sali wokonzeka, ganizirani zodzipatula ku vuto limenelo. Malire abwino ndi ofunikira. Komanso, dziwani kuti kupsinjika maganizo pankhani yogonana si njira yoti munthu ayambe kugonana ndi munthu wina," akuwonjezera.

Pamene mukufuna kuti muwone 

Ngati zinthu zikuyenda bwino ndipo palibe amene akunyenga wina aliyense popititsa patsogolo, pitirizani ndipo lolani kuti chilakolako chogonana chikule. Chikoka champhamvu pakati panu chidzathetsa chete. Monga momwe zilili ndi ubale wina uliwonse, khalani aulemu, lankhulani ndi munthuyu, ndipo onetsetsani kuti simukupereka zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana.

Madeti ochepa abwino, zizindikiro zingapo zamphamvu zogonana, ndipo pamapeto pake mudzafika pamalo pomwe sikudzakhala kosatheka kuti manja anu azitalikirana. Pakali pano, mwina simuyenera “kupita kukaipitsa zonse ponena mawu opusa ngati 'Ndimakukondani!'” Kungonena basi. 

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Pakakhala zovuta zogonana ndi munthu yemwe simungakhale naye

Mukakhala pa mphambano ngati iyi, chinthu chofunika kwambiri chimene mungachite ndicho kudziikira malire pa zimene mukusangalala nazo ndi zimene simuli nazo. Mwa zina zomwe zimasiyana ndi kusintha kwanu, muyenera kukumbukira izi: 

• Lankhulani moona mtima komanso mosabisa kanthu pa zomwe sizili bwino
• Ikani malire omveka bwino
• Osawopa kudzipatula ngati zinthu zitasokonekera
• Imirirani ndipo musanyengedwe 
• Khazikitsani fayilo ya lamulo losalumikizana ngati zingafunike

Kumva mphamvu zogonana kuchokera kwa wina ndizochitika zosangalatsa. Nthawi zambiri, mumasokonezedwa ndi chinthu chonsecho, komabe mukuyembekezera kugwira dzanja la munthu uyu mwayi uliwonse womwe mungapeze. Tikukhulupirira, mothandizidwa ndi zizindikiro zomwe takulemberani, simudzawerenga molakwika.

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