Kodi kulumikizana kumagwira ntchito mukatha kutha? Yankho lalifupi ndi inde. Kupatula apo, lamulo loti palibe kulumikizana pambuyo pakutha ndi njira yoyeserera yamalingaliro yomwe imagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti ichoke kwa munthu wakale. Iwo amanena kuti ngati inu kupita kuzizira Turkey pa wakale wanu, kutenga nthawi kukonza kutha yekha, ndi kulola kuti chisoni kwenikweni, ndiye kuti kusweka mtima n'kosavuta kulimbana ndi - pakapita nthawi, ndithudi.
Koma kodi n'zosavuta? Timamva zinthu zowongoka ngati izi ndipo timadzazidwa ndi kukayikira. Monga ife, kodi inunso mukuganiza tsopano:
- Kodi simuyenera kulumikizana nawo mpaka liti kuti izi zigwire ntchito?
- Ndipo lamulo loti palibe kulumikizana limagwira ntchito bwanji?
- Kodi lamulo losalumikizana limagwira ntchito ngati mutatayidwa?
- Bwanji ngati inuyo ndi amene munathetsa chibwenzicho? Kodi phindu la lamulo loletsa kulumikizana likugwirabe ntchito?
- Kodi kukhudzika kwa lamulo loti osalumikizana ndi munthu ndi kwamuyaya?
Kuti tiyankhe mafunso awa, tinafunsa katswiri wa zamaganizo Gopa Khan (Masters in Counseling Psychology, M.Ed.), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu waukwati ndi mabanja. Anatiuza za malamulo okhudza kusalankhulana ndi anthu komanso ubwino wake komanso zomwe adakumana nazo ndi makasitomala omwe adawalangiza kutsatira lamulo losalankhulana ndi anthu. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tilowemo.
Kodi Lamulo Lopanda Kulumikizana Ndi Chiyani?
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Ngati mwapezapo gawoli ndipo mukuganiza kuti m'dzina la Mulungu pali lamulo loti osalumikizana, tiloleni tikupatseni chidziwitso pang'ono. Lamulo lopanda kulumikizana limaphatikizapo kudula maubwenzi onse ndi wakale wanu, mutatha kutha, monga njira yabwino yochitira chisoni, kupirira, ndi kuchiritsa. Ngakhale kuli kovuta kuyika nambala yotsimikizirika pa lamulo losalankhulana - ena amati ndi othandiza 90 peresenti ya nthawiyo, ena amawerengera kuti chipambano chifike pa 75% - ndi njira yovomerezeka yopezera ubale wakale pamene mukuyang'ana pa kukonzanso kudzidalira kwanu, kusunga ulemu wanu, ndi kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa kwambiri.
Ndipo nchifukwa ninji lamulo loti palibe kukhudzana ndi lothandiza kwambiri? Eya, kungoti ngati mukamalumikizana ndi wakale wanu, mwachindunji kapena mwanjira ina, kuyang'ana komwe ali, mudzapeza kukhala kovuta kuwaiwala ndikupita patsogolo, bwanji ndi chikumbutso chosalekeza cha moyo wanu ndi iwo. Ngati nthawi zonse amakuganizirani, mumakonzekera bwanji kupitiriza? Ndipamene lamulo losalumikizana limakhala lothandiza.
"Lamulo lopanda kukhudzana ndi maganizo ndilofanana ndi njira yankhanza koma yothandiza yochotsera bandeji. Ngakhale zingakhale zowawa kwambiri poyamba, zimakuthandizani kuti mugwirizane ndi mfundo yakuti mnzanu wapamtima salinso gawo la moyo wanu. Pamene mukufika pozindikira izi, mumasiya pang'onopang'ono chiyembekezo chonyenga chobwezera wakale wanu, "akutero Gopa. Izi zimapanga malo m'moyo wanu ndi malingaliro anu kuti muyambe mutu watsopano. Koma kuti zigwire ntchito, muyenera kukumbukira kuti palibe mwayi wolumikizana pang'ono kapena kukhudzana kwambiri. Palibe kulumikizana!
Kumbukirani: Anthu ambiri akamavutika maganizo, amayesa kugwiritsa ntchito izi ngati njira yopezeranso chibwenzi ndi munthu wakale. Ngati cholinga chake ndi chimenecho, mungadzifunse kuti, “Kodi palibe mgwirizano umene ungagwire ntchito kuti ndibwezeretse chibwenzi changa chakale?” kapena “Kodi palibe mgwirizano umene ungagwire ntchito kuti ndibwezeretse chibwenzi changa chakale?” kapena “Kodi chibwenzi changa chakale chingabwererenso chibwenzi changa chitatha?”
Koma kodi ndi bwino kusewera masewera amalingaliro kuti mukope munthu kuti abwerere m'moyo wanu? Kodi n'koyenera kuyang'ana pa yankho la wina osati kuchiritsa kwanu? “Iyi ndi njira yonyenga ndipo sizingakupindulitseni inu kapena mnzanu, chifukwa lamulo loti musamalumikizane nalo lapangitsa kuti mnzake wakale amuphonye kwambiri mpaka anabwerera, sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuyiyandikira ndi cholinga chomwecho,” akuwonjezera Gopa.
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Kodi Palibe Kulumikizana Kumagwira Ntchito Bwanji?
Tsopano popeza mwamvetsetsa kuti lamulo losalumikizana ndi chiyani, tiyeni tiyang'anenso mbali ina yofunika kwambiri yomwe muyenera kuidziwa bwino kuti muthe kugwiritsa ntchito bwino njirayi pothana ndi kusweka mtima: kodi kusalumikizana kumagwira ntchito bwanji? Pazifukwa izi, tisayang'ane kukhudzana konse pambuyo pakutha kwa psychology. Ubwenzi ukatha, ndi bwino kuganiza kuti panali mavuto. Wokondedwa wanu wakale ayenera kuti adachitapo kanthu - adalakwitsa, adachita zoipa, adakuzunzani.
Atha kukhala akudikirira kuti muchitepo kanthu pa izi - kufuula, kukhumudwa pamaso panu kapena pawailesi yakanema, ndikuwachonderera kuti abwererane. Ndi psychology ya anthu kuti adzitchinjirize komanso kulungamitsa zolakwa za wina pomwe wina akuwonetsa. Kotero ngati inu, ndithudi, mukupita patsogolo ndikuchita momwe mnzanu wakale akukuyembekezerani, mumawapatsa mpata kuti akutchuleni "zodabwitsa" kapena "zokakamira", ndikumva bwino kuthetsa chibwenzicho.
Kumbali ina, ngati mukhala chete, mphamvu zonse zimasintha. Wakale wanu alibe njira yodziwira zomwe mukuganiza kapena kukambirana zomwe zimamupangitsa kutseka kapena kumupangitsa kumva bwino za chisankho chake chosiya chibwenzi. Ali okha, akuvutika ndi kudzizindikira komanso kulira. Ndi mphamvu ya chete mutatha kusudzulana.
Gopa agawana nafe chochitika. "Mkazi wina yemwe ndinkamulangiza anali atatayidwa ndi bwenzi lake ndipo ankafuna kuti asagwirizane naye kuti amubwezere." Mwamunayo, potsirizira pake, anayamba kumusowa ndipo anabwerera. Koma, panthawiyo, mkaziyo sanali wotsimikiza kuti akufuna kuti mwamuna wake wakale abwerere. mukudziwa, sanabwererenso,” akutero.
Chifukwa chake, mukuwona, kusalumikizana pambuyo pakutha kwa psychology ndikuti kungakupatseni malingaliro atsopano paubwenzi wakale, ndikukusiyani okonzeka kusankha ngati mukufuna kupatsa wakale wanu mwayi wina kapena pitilizani zabwino. Koma kodi mungapangire bwanji kuti lamulo losalumikizana ligwire ntchito kwa inu? Chabwino, kuti agwire ntchito:
- Onse awiri ayenera kuvomereza ndikudzipereka kwa izo
- Muyenera kuyang'ana pa kukhazikitsa malire ndikuyamba kuwalemekeza
- Funsani anthu omwe ali pafupi nanu kuti nawonso azilemekeza malire anu komanso kuti asamakudziwitseni zambiri za bwenzi lanu lakale.
- Osathamangira wakale wanu pamapulatifomu ochezera. Kumbukirani kuti muyenera kuwachotsa m'maganizo mwanu
- Chitani chilichonse chomwe chikufunika kuti muchepetse mwayi wolumikizana, kuwona, kumva, kapena kucheza ndi wakale wanu
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Zizindikiro 5 Zosonyeza Kuti Lamulo Losalankhulana Likugwira Ntchito
1. Kodi kukhudzana sikumagwira ntchito pa amuna?
Kodi kusalumikizana kumagwira ntchito bwanji ndi amuna? Lamulo la kusalumikizana ndi amuna, maganizo a amuna amatiuza kuti mukayamba kukwiya ndi mwamuna, angatenge nthawi kuti alowe m'maganizo mwake. Polankhula ndi Bonobology za maganizo a amuna panthawi yosalumikizana, katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. Aman Bhonsle anati, "Pamene akukumana ndi lamulo losalumikizana, mwamunayo angapse mtima, manyazi, ndi mantha, nthawi zina nthawi imodzi." Izi zingayambitsenso khalidwe laukali, lomwe muyenera kukonzekera.
Kuti mumvetsetse momwe mwamuna angayankhire ngati simunakumaneko, muyenera kukumbukira kuti amuna amakonda kuyang'ana kwambiri pakusweka mtima koyambirira. Salola kuti malingaliro awo awonekere ndikuyang'ana pa kukumbatira "ufulu" wawo watsopano. Zotsatira za kupatukana zimawakhudza pambuyo pake (nenani masabata angapo) ndipo ndipamene amayamba kuganizira za wakale wawo. Iwo amayang'ana zododometsa mu mawonekedwe a rebound maubwenzi posakhalitsa. Pambuyo pa masabata a 6-8 pamene amuna ambiri amalola kuti kutha kulowerere.
Pakadali pano, lamulo loti amuna asalumikizane likuyamba kugwira ntchito. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa Psychology Of No Contact On Male Dumper wochokera patsamba la DatingTipsLife, 76.5% ya amuna otaya zinyalala amadandaula kuti anataya chibwenzi chawo mkati mwa masiku 60. Umu ndi momwe mungayembekezere kuti chibwenzi chanu chakale chizichita zinthu popanda kulumikizana:
- Akumva manyazi atadulidwa
- Izi zimabweretsa mkwiyo
- Amakambirana ndi cholinga choti abwererane
- Amayesa kutsimikizira chikondi chake kwa inu
- Amaopa kusungulumwa komanso kutaya chikondi
- Angazindikire kuti akufuna kuti mubwerere ndikuyesetsa kukwaniritsa cholinga chimenecho
- Kapena, angazindikire kuti kuthetsa chibwenzi chinali chisankho choyenera ndikuyang'ana pa kupitiriza
2. Kodi lamulo loti osalumikizana ndi amayi limagwira ntchito?
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati simukumana ndi bwenzi lanu wakale? Pakhoza kukhala kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa momwe abambo ndi amai amayankhira lamulo loletsa kukhudzana. Mosiyana ndi amuna, akazi amakhala ndi yankho lachangu pakutha. Magawo oyamba amakhala odzaza ndi nkhawa, chisoni, komanso kupwetekedwa mtima kwa amayi ambiri. Panthawi imeneyi, zimakhala zosavuta kwa iwo kufuna kuzembera akale awo kapena kuwachonderera kuti abwerere kapena kuwalola okondedwa awo kubwerera m'miyoyo yawo.
Pakapita nthawi, mkazi amakhala wolimba mtima kwambiri. Ngati ndinu mkazi, dziwani kuti lamulo loti anthu asakumane ndi munthu wina, maganizo a akazi amatiuza kuti zinthu ziyamba kuyenda bwino pakapita nthawi. "Mkazi wina, yemwe anali m'banja lozunzidwa, anandipempha thandizo. Anali woyang'anira nyumba ndipo sakanatha kuchoka chifukwa cha ana. Koma pomaliza pake analimba mtima n'kuchoka mu ukwati wake wa zaka 15. Ankaganiza kuti sangakhale ndi moyo popanda mwamuna wake pamene anali atangoyamba kumene. Zinakhala zosavuta kwa iye pakapita nthawi," akutero Gopa.
Iyi ndi nkhani ya masiku 30 osalumikizana nawo pambuyo pa kutha kwa chipambano chifukwa mwamuna wake adamuvutitsa ndi mafoni ndi mameseji, adamupeza adilesi yake, ndikuyamba kumuwopseza kuti abwererenso kukakhala naye. Koma gawo losalumikizana naye linamupatsa kulimba mtima komwe anali asanakhalepo nako. Kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wake, adadziyimira yekha ndikusintha moyo wake kotheratu.
3. Kodi lamulo losalumikizana limagwira ntchito ngati mutatayidwa?
Tsopano kuti takambirana alibe kukhudzana ntchito pa amuna ndi akazi, tiyeni tione njira imeneyi mmene zimakhalira pas kwa amene amathetsa chibwenzi ndi amene anatayidwa. Mwa abwenzi awiriwo, nthawi zambiri m'modzi amasankha kukokera pachibwenzi pomwe winayo amasiyidwa kuthana ndi chisankho chomwe sakanatha kuchiwongolera. Munthu amene akuthetsa chibwenzi wadutsa kale njira yodula chingwe m'maganizo. Choncho, n’zosavuta kuti apirire, achire, ndi kupitiriza.
Kumbali ina, kusudzulana kungakhale kwaufupi kwa mnzawo amene watayidwa. Iwo mwachibadwa amatenga nthawi yaitali kuti achire. Ngati munatayidwa, mukhoza kumangokhalira kuchonderera mnzanuyo kuti akubwezereni. Mutha kuganiza kuti kusalumikizana nawo kungawapangitse kukusowani ndikuganiziranso zomwe asankha. Kapena mungadzipeze kuti mukuvutika maganizo ndi mafunso monga, "Kodi kulankhulana naye sikungagwire ntchito ngati ataya mtima?" kapena “Kodi samalumikizana ndi bwenzi lake wakale amagwira ntchito ngati wapita kale?”
"Ngati mutsatira lamulo loti musakumane ndi mnzanu ndi cholinga chofuna kubwereranso ku moyo wanu, sizingakuyendereni bwino. Palibe chitsimikizo chakuti mnzanuyo adzafunanso kuyambiranso chibwenzicho. Kupatula apo, zikusonyeza kuti mwina mukukumana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kudalirana kwa anthu komanso kudziona kuti ndinu wosafunika zomwe zimakulepheretsani kusiya chibwenzicho ndikupitirizabe," akutero Gopa.
Kotero, kuti muyankhe funso lanu, "Kodi lamulo loti palibe kukhudzana limagwira ntchito ngati mutatayidwa?", osati ngati mukungoyendayenda, kudikira kuti wakale wanu akufuneni. Komabe, zitha kugwira ntchito modabwitsa ngati mutaziwona ngati mwayi wakukula kwanu ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso kuyambitsa machiritso.
4. Kodi lamulo loletsa kulumikizana limagwira ntchito ngati muli pabanja?
Ngakhale palibe njira yodziwika bwino yoyezera kuchuluka kwa kupambana kwa lamulo loti munthu asakumane ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi, izi zitha kukhala zothandiza kwa anthu omwe akukumana ndi mavuto a m'banja. Kupuma pang'ono kungakhale kofunikira kwambiri kwa anthu omwe ali pafupi kusudzulana . Angasankhe kupita kukalandira uphungu kapena chithandizo nthawi yoti munthu asakumane ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi itatha ndipo angazindikire kuti angapeze mwayi limodzi. Ndipo si chinthu choipa.
Ngakhale ngati munthu akufuna kusamuka kwamuyaya kapena kusiya maubwenzi kapena kusudzulana mwalamulo munthu wapoizoni yemwe akusokoneza thanzi lawo lamalingaliro, wankhanza, kapena woledzera, ndiye kuti ndikofunikira kuti asiye ubalewo osayang'ana mmbuyo. Chifukwa chake, lamulo losalumikizana limagwira ntchito ngakhale munthu akuyesera kuti asakhale paubwenzi wozunza komanso wakale wapoizoni.
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5. Kodi lamulo losalumikizana limagwira ntchito pa maubwenzi akutali?
Kodi mungapindule ndi lamulo loti musalumikizane muubwenzi wautali? Yankho la funsoli limadalira kwambiri mtundu wa mavuto omwe mwakhala mukukumana nawo muubwenzi wautali , mtundu wa ubale wanu, ndi zomwe mukufuna kukwaniritsa mukapanda kulumikizana. Chinthu chimodzi chotsimikizika ndichakuti, ndikosavuta kugwiritsa ntchito lamulo loti musalumikizane muubwenzi wautali.
Kaya mukutsatira lamulo losalumikizana kwa masiku 30 kapena mukufuna kukhala chete pawailesi mutasiyana nthawi yayitali, zimakhala zosavuta kulumikiza kamodzi ndikupeza mpata wodziwunikira nokha. Izi zitha kukupatsani malingaliro atsopano paubwenzi wanu, womwe ungakhale wothandiza ngati mukuganiza zobweza wakale wanu chifukwa nkhani zambiri zamaubwenzi apatali ndi zotsatira za kusalumikizana bwino.
“Kupatulapo kulola kuti anthu abwererane, mtunda umapatsanso okwatirana mwaŵi wa kupuma bwino ndi kuweruza moona mtima ngati alidi osangalala wina ndi mnzake kapena kungokhalira limodzi chifukwa cha chizoloŵezi ndi kudalirana.
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Kodi Lamulo Losalankhulana Ndi Nthawi Yaitali Bwanji Mukathetsa Chibwenzi?
Palibe yankho lotsimikizika la nthawi yayitali bwanji osalumikizana pambuyo pakutha. Maubwenzi osiyanasiyana amafunikira nthawi zosiyanasiyana osalumikizana. Nthawi zambiri, banja litatha, onse awiri amatenga nthawi - nthawi zambiri kuyambira miyezi isanu ndi umodzi mpaka chaka, kutengera momwe analiri okondana - kuti athana. Koma monga lamulo, akatswiri nthawi zambiri amalangiza malamulo osachepera a masiku a 30 osayankhulana, kuti adziwe chifukwa chake ubalewo unatha ndikuyamba kuchiritsa.
Komabe, nthawi yamasiku 30 iyi sinakhazikitsidwe mwala. Ngati mukuwona kufunikira kwake, mutha kuwonjezera nthawi yosalumikizana mpaka masiku 45, masiku 60, kapena mpaka kalekale. Mosasamala za nthawi yomwe mukufuna kuyesa kuyimitsa wailesi mukatha kutha, dziwani kuti sitepe yoyamba iyi ndiyovuta kwambiri. Masiku oyambirira ndi masabata adzakhala ovuta. Mudzakhala achisoni ndipo mutha kukhala ndi zizindikiro zosiya zomwe zimakusiyani mukufunsa kuti, "Kodi palibe kulumikizana kumagwira ntchito konse?"
"Pakapita nthawi, zimakhala zosavuta kutsata lamulo loti palibe kukhudzana chifukwa maganizo amavomereza mfundo yakuti ubale watha." Kuchita lamulo la masiku 30 osalankhulana (ena amanena kuti 60) kumapatsa munthu zenera kuti athe kuthana ndi kusintha kwadzidzidzi, kwakukulu kwa moyo, kuthera nthawi mwamtendere kumvetsetsa zomwe akufuna, ndiyeno asankhe njira yawo yamtsogolo," akutero Gopa.
Mukadutsa malire a ululu ndi chilakolako, mudzayamba kuzindikira chifukwa chake lamulo loti munthu asalumikizane ndi mnzake ndi lothandiza kwambiri. Ngakhale kuti zingakhale zovuta kudina 'Block' pa mbiri yawo ya Instagram kapena kuchotsa nambala yawo pafoni yanu, mudzatiyamikira pambuyo pake mukadzazindikira ubwino wodabwitsa woletsa wakale wanu ndikutsatira lamulo loti munthu asalumikizane ndi mnzake pambuyo poti mwathetsa chibwenzi posachedwapa.
Kodi Aliyense Ayenera Kutsatira Lamulo Lopanda Kulumikizana Pambuyo Pakutha?
Aliyense akhoza kupeza phindu la lamulo lopanda kulumikizana chifukwa limakupatsani nthawi yoganiza, kukhazikitsa malire, kuyang'ana pakukula kwanu, ndikuwunika momwe ubale wabwino umawonekera kwa inu. Izi zikunenedwa, mayendedwe a ubale uliwonse ndi apadera, ndipo kusalumikizana sikungakhale kotheka kwa aliyense.
Pali zochitika zochepa zomwe lamulo lopanda kukhudzana pambuyo pa kutha silingakhale lovuta koma losatheka kuchita. Maanja otsatirawa akuyenera kutsata lamuloli, ndikukhala aluso ndi malire awo, kuti apindule nawo:
- Makolo anzawo: Kulankhulana konse sikungakhale kotheka ngati banja latha ndi ana omwe ali pachithunzichi. Uwu ukhoza kukhala mtundu wovuta kwambiri wa kupatukana chifukwa maanja ambiri ali otanganidwa kuthana ndi ufulu wosunga mwana, ufulu wochezera, kuchuluka kwa mapepala openga, ndi zina zambiri. Mabanja otere alibe chosankha koma kungolumikizana. Mikhalidwe imeneyi ndi yovutitsa kwambiri. Zikatero, njira yokhayo yotulukira ndiyo kutenga ina masitepe kuti adutse ex ndikuwonetsanso kukhwima kwakukulu pakusunga ma equation athanzi ndi iwo.
- Antchito Anzathu/Anzako: Mutatha kusweka ndi munthu, ngati mukupitiriza kuwawona ku koleji kapena kuntchito, zimakhala zovuta kuti muwathetse. Ndi mabanja ang'onoang'ono, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri chifukwa anthu omwe ali pafupi savomereza kuti ubale wawo ndi wovuta kwambiri ndipo amawonanso kuti kutha kwawo sikunali koopsa. Mabanja otere akuyenera kulimbikira kwambiri kuti afotokozere anzawo momveka bwino kuti akutsatira lamulo loti asamayankhulane ndipo akuyembekezera mgwirizano.
"Pankhani ya ukwati, kusudzulana kumaika chizindikiro cha mapeto pa kulekana. Komabe, pankhani ya maubwenzi achikondi, kusudzulana kumabweretsa vuto lina la malire osamveka bwino ndipo pakhoza kukhala kukangana kwakukulu pambuyo pake. Nthawi zina anthu amasudzulana ndikubwereranso kangapo. Ndipo maubwenzi amenewo amatha kukhala oopsa kwambiri ndipo njira yabwino kwambiri yotulukiramo ndi kuchepetsa kulumikizana momwe mungathere," akulangiza Gopa.
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A Gopa akufotokozera zomwe adakumana nazo polangiza makasitomala ake kuti azichita lamulo loletsa kulumikizana, "Ndimauza makasitomala anga kuti apewe kulumikizana ndi omwe amakumana nawo kale. Komabe, ambiri amawasakaza pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Kapena amayesa kudziwa zambiri za moyo wa wina ndi mnzake kudzera mwa mabwenzi. Ena akale amakumanabe ku koleji kapena kuntchito. Monga mukudziwa kuti ndizovuta kuthana ndi munthu yemwe mumamuwona tsiku lililonse." M'dziko lamakono kupita palibe kukhudzana sikophweka. Ayi. Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe zingakuthandizeni paulendowu:
- Ganizirani chifukwa chake: Choyamba, sungani cholinga chanu momveka bwino komanso mwamphamvu. Mukayamba kusowa ex wanu ndikupeza kuti mukupita ku dzenje lomwelo la kalulu lolakalaka ndi kukhumba, kudzifunsa nokha, "Kodi ndikufuna kukwaniritsa chiyani kuchokera ku izi?" adzakuthandizani
- Dzisungeni nokha: MUSAMApange izi za mnzanu wakale. Simukulumikizana kuti mudzipulumutse nokha vuto lokana malingaliro awo akakhala pamalingaliro anu nthawi zonse osati kusewera nawo masewera amalingaliro.
- Aletseni pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti: Kupatula kuchotsa ndi kutsekereza manambala a wina ndi mzake, ndikofunikanso kuti musawalole kuti akupezeni mumtundu uliwonse. Musapangitse kukhala kosavuta kuti muwafikire pamene mukufooka
- Ganizirani za maubwenzi ena: Kuchotsa chidwi chanu kwa wakale wanu kwa anthu ena ofunikira m'moyo wanu kungakhale kothandiza kwambiri. Kucheza ndi abwenzi, kucheza ndi achibale, ndipo pakapita nthawi, kutsegula mtima wanu ndi malingaliro anu kuti mutha kukhala ndi ubale watsopano kungapangitse kukhala kosavuta kuti musamakumane ndi mnzanu wakale.
- Kudzisamalira: Ino ndi nthawi yoti muganizire za chisangalalo chanu ndikuchita nawo TLC ndi kudzikonda. Werengani zambiri. Pezani nthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe amapangitsa kuti ma endorphin athamangire m'magazi anu ndikukupangitsani kukhala osangalala. Tsatirani zokonda zakale kapena zatsopano. Idyani bwino. Ulendo. Chitani zinthu zomwe zimakusangalatsani
- Khalani kutali ndi ma rebound: Chitani izi ngati chenjezo loyenera kuti mwa zododometsa sitikutanthauza kubwereranso. Yesetsani kupewa kudzidodometsa mwa kudumphira mu zibwenzi zatsopano. Sibwino kwa inu kapena kwa munthu watsopano m’moyo wanu. Dzipatseni nthawi yokwanira kuti muchiritse ndikuchira kuchisoni musanalowenso zala zanu mudziwe la chibwenzi. Mpaka pamenepo, yang'anani pakukula kwanu ndikukhala mtundu wabwino kwambiri wa inu nokha
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kusalumikizana kumatanthauza kusiya mitundu yonse yolumikizana ndi munthu wakale kwakanthawi kochepa, tinene masiku 30-60, mpaka mutakhala wokonzeka komanso kukhala ndi chidaliro chopanga zisankho zomwe zili zathanzi kwa inu.
- Kuchita zimenezi n’kofunika chifukwa kumakuthandizani kuti musiye kuwaganizira nthawi zonse, kumakupangitsani kukhala ndi maganizo abwino komanso kukuthandizani kuti musamavutike kwambiri.
- Kugwiritsa ntchito lamuloli kusokoneza wakale wanu kuti abwerere sikuli bwino. Muyenera kukhala owona mtima ndi zolinga zanu kuti izi zikuthandizani pakapita nthawi
- Lamulo lopanda kuyankhulana limagwira ntchito kwa aliyense, ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kwa maanja omwe akufuna kupatukana, omwe ali ndi kholo limodzi kapena ali ndi odalira ena ndi zina zowonjezera. Zitha kukhalanso zovuta kwa ogwira nawo ntchito komanso ophunzira anzawo omwe amakhala limodzi sikungakambirane
- Kuti mukhale olimba paulendowu muyenera kuganizira chifukwa chake ndikusunga za inu nokha
Ngati simunapangebe malingaliro oti musamayanjane ndi bwenzi lanu wakale / bwenzi lakale, kapena mukuda nkhawa kuti, "Kodi palibe ntchito yolumikizirana?", tengani nthawi kuti mumvetsetse zomwe mukufuna. Zingakhale zovuta kuti utalikirane ndi mnzako wakale, koma zitha kukhala zabwino kwambiri kwa inu. Khalani omasuka ndikuganiza za moyo wanu ndipo mudzadziwa zoyenera kuchita.
Koma mpaka nthawi imeneyo, tikukulimbikitsani kwambiri kuti mupewe chibwenzi chanu chakale ngati mungathe. Ngati kusudzulana kwanu kwakhala kovuta kwambiri kwa inu ndipo mukuvutika kulamulira malingaliro anu panthawiyi, musazengereze kufunsa mlangizi wopatukana. Ngati mukufuna kulankhulana ndi m'modzi, gulu la akatswiri a Bonobology lili pano kuti likuthandizeni.
Ibibazo
Kupambana kwa lamuloli nthawi zambiri kumakhala pafupifupi 90% chifukwa munthu amene wasweka adzakumana nanu pazifukwa ziwiri. Choyamba, angakhale akukusowani ndi kudzimva kukhala olakwa, ndipo chachiwiri, amaphonya kukhala ndi mphamvu pa inu ndipo ali ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa momwe mukuchitira popanda iwo.
Nthawi zambiri, ndi masiku osachepera 30 mpaka 60. Itha kupitilira mpaka chaka. Koma popeza palibe lamulo lovuta komanso lofulumira lautali womwe uyenera kukhala osalumikizana nawo, muyenera kumamatirabe mpaka nthawi yayitali kuti igwire ntchito.
Inde, kusagwirizana pambuyo pa kulekana kumathandiza kuthetsa chisonicho ndi kuika zinthu moyenera. Mudzakhala mu danga bwino maganizo kuweruza ngati mukufuna kusuntha kapena ngati mukufuna kubwerera ndi wakale wanu ngati akukumana nanu.
Anthu ambiri amafunsa, "Kodi kulumikizana sikungagwire ntchito ngati atasiya kundikonda ndipo ndikufuna kumubweza?" Izi zikhoza kupita njira iliyonse malinga ndi momwe zinthu zilili. Nthawi zambiri, dumper imatha kulumikizana ndi dumpee pambuyo pa nthawi yosalumikizana. Izi ndi zachilengedwe chifukwa dumper amatha kumva kuti alibe mphamvu.
Malangizo 11 Othana Ndi Kusungulumwa Pambuyo Polekana Ndikupeza Chithandizo
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
