Indlela Yokuphilisa Ubudlelwane Ngokucamngca

Ubudlelwane bazo zonke iintlobo zihamba ngamabala anzima. Enoba zibangelwa kukungaqondani kunye nokunganxibelelani kakuhle okanye ukuchaphazeleka okunzulu ngokweemvakalelo kwelinye iqabane kwelinye, imiba emininzi iyalungiseka ukuba bobabini abantu bakulungele ukusebenza kuyo. Nangona kubonakala ngathi konke kulahlekile, kunokwenzeka ukuba izibini zoyise iingxaki zabo, ngakumbi ngoncedo lokucamngca kubudlelwane.

Njengabantwana nabaselula, ukungqubana kwethu nabazali kubonakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ekubeni ngokuqhelekileyo kukho uthando olunzulu phakathi kwamalungu entsapho, amaxesha okuphilisa afika ngokulula ngakumbi. Kodwa kuthekani ngeyantlukwano eyenzeka kulwalamano olungephi, njengezilangazelelo ezitsha zothando, amaqabane amatsha, okanye kwanemitshato ekuye kwakho ukungathembeki ngandlel’ ithile?

Ngoncedo lomcebisi wezempilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle Preity Mandawewala (P.hD., i-Institute of Alternative Medicine-Kolkata), ejongene neSilva Mind Control, Transcendental Meditation, Siddhi Samadhi Yoga, kunye neVipassana, makhe sijonge imiphumo emihle yokucamngca kubudlelwane kunye nendlela yokuphilisa ubudlelwane.

Indlela ukucamngca kunokubuphilisa ngayo ubudlelwane bakho

Kwakhona, omabini amaqela kufuneka akulungele ukucamngca ukuphilisa ubudlelwane. Abaninzi baphendukela kwiingcebiso eziluncedo kunye neeseshoni ukuze bajonge imeko ngeliso elitsha. Nangona ingcebiso iya kunceda kakhulu, awunakuthembela kuyo kuphela ukulungisa zonke iingxaki zakho. Ukuphilisa kufuneka kwenzeke kwaye kufuneka kusetyenzwe, kwaye ukucamngca kunokuba yenye yeendlela zokunceda ukuphinda ugxininise kwaye ubuyisele kwindawo yokunceda ukufezekisa iinjongo zobudlelwane.

Bakwavumela abantu ukuba bakhule ngokobuqu, ukuze babuyelane njengesibini esomeleleyo. Ukucamngca kunye neqabane, okanye nokuba uwedwa, kunokuba neenzuzo ezifikelela kude kubudlelwane bakho. Makhe sijonge ukuba inceda njani kwaye kufuneka uqalise ukwenza ntoni.

1. Ukucamngca kunceda njani ukusombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane? Inokuzola

Embindini wayo, ukucamngca bubuchule obunceda kugxininise ingqondo nomzimba wakho ekuthuleni apho unokuphumla khona, uphinde ugxininise, kwaye unciphise uxinzelelo ukujongana ngcono neziganeko zobomi bakho, ezilungileyo nezimbi. “Ukucamngca kuyakuthomalalisa.” Xa ingqondo yakho izolile, uyakwazi ukulawula iingcinga zakho, amazwi akho nezenzo ozenzayo. izicwangciso zokusombulula impixano,” utsho uPreity.

Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo ezinjengokucoca ingqondo yakho kunye nokwamkela ukuzola okuzisayo okanye nokuvumela iingcinga ukuba zidlule ngaphandle kokwenza nantoni na ngaphandle kokuvuma ngaphambi kokuba uvumele ingqondo yakho ukuba idlulele kwingcinga elandelayo. Zombini iindlela zifuna ukuziqhelanisa noqeqesho njengoko ngokwendalo sinotyekelo lokuhlala sicinga okanye sivumele iingcinga ukuba zingene ekuthuleni kwengqondo.

Ngokuhamba kwexesha, unokuba nobuchule ngakumbi kwisenzo sokufumana izibonelelo zonyango lokuphilisa. Ziqhelise xa usazi ukuba awuzuphazanyiswa kwindawo etofotofo kunye nokukhanya okumfiliba. Usenokusasaza iioyile ezibalulekileyo, okanye unxibe iziqholo ezithile ukunceda ingqondo yakho ibone eli xesha lokucamngca. Zama ukusebenzisa la mavumba acetyiswa ngu Ingqondo Engcono Yomzimba Womphefumlo.

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2. Ubuchule obuthile bunokuxhasa ukuphiliswa

Ukucamngca sisenzo sobuqu kwaye kufuneka ufumane oko kusebenza kakuhle kuwe. Ekubeni ufuna ukuphilisa ubudlelwane, qwalasela ubuchule obuzisa iindlela ezilula zokumelana noxinzelelo olukhokelele kwimeko okuyo. Oku kuya kukunceda uphile kwaye uqhubele phambili ukusuka kuyo ngendlela enentsingiselo ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nayo ubuso ngobuso kamva. Banokukunceda nawe Fumana ibhalansi phakathi kweyin yakho kunye neyang.

UPreity usixelela ngobuchule obunokuzisa uxolo ongazange waluva ngaphambili. "I-square breathing nge-Gayatri Mantra yindlela elula kodwa esebenzayo kakhulu ukukunceda ukuse kwifomu yokucamngca nzulu. I-Gayatri Mantra inamandla okuphilisa ngokwayo, kwaye xa uyibhuqa nge-square breathing technique, inzuzo iphinda kabini."

“Xa uyiqwalasela ngakumbi indlela ophefumla ngayo, uya kuzifumana ukwimeko ezolileyo,” uqukumbela ngelitshoyo. Isenokungabonakali njengokucamngca ngobudlelwane ekuqaleni, kodwa xa ukwimeko ezolileyo, enoxolo lwengqondo, qiniseka, awuzukulwa malunga netawuli imanzi ebhedini.

Ubuchwephesha bokuKhanya kwePinki lelinye icebiso elinjalo kwaye ligxile ekuzithandeni kuqala naphambili. Oku kukuvumela ukuba ukhumbule ukuzixabisa kwakho kwaye ujongane nabo basebomini bakho enibathandayo nobabini kwaye unokuba nokungqubana nabo. Ikuvumela ukuba uze eluxolweni kwaye ixhase izigqibo zakho kunxibelelwano lwamva kunye nabo.

3. Indlela yokuphilisa ubudlelwane? Zazi ngokwakho ngokucamngca

Ukucamngca kunokukuvumela ukuba uphonononge ngokuzolileyo iinyaniso zakho emva kokwenzakala okanye uloyiko oluvayo. Iiyantlukwano ezininzi kubudlelwane zibangelwa kukungaqondani kunye nokwethu ukufunda kakubi imeko ethile. Ngelixa uyivumela ukuba ikhukuliseke engqondweni yakho, xa usiva isantya sentliziyo yakho sitshintsha ngenxa yovakalelo, uxhotyiswe ngcono ukufumana umthombo wesiqhushumbisi.

"Ndihlala ndisithi ukucamngca kuzazisa umntu kuye. Ungazi malunga nehlabathi liphela, kodwa wazi kangakanani ngawe? Kanye xa ukuloo meko inzulu yokucamngca, uqala ukuqonda amandla akho, amandla akho, amandla akho, kwaye unokuqonda ukuba yintoni umda wakho," utshilo uPreity. 

Ukuziqonda wena inokukunceda ngcono ukuba uqaphele ukusabela kwakho kwizichukumisi nanini na zisenzeka. Kuya kukunceda unxibelelane nabantu ebomini bakho malunga nokuba kutheni uziphathe ngale ndlela wenze ngayo. Ubudlelwane bunokulungiswa ngokucamngca okuphilisa.

4. Ukucamngca kunokukwenza ube ngumntu ongcono, osempilweni

“Ukucamngca, xa kusenziwa ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo nekweyona meko ilungileyo, kunamandla okukunyanga iingxaki zomzimba nezengqondo onokuthi unengxaki nazo.Ndikholelwa ukuba sinamaziko anika amandla emzimbeni, kwaye xa uthetha izinto ezinje ‘ndiziva ndiphantsi ngamandla’ okanye ‘ndibuthuntu, andikwazi kuhlala’, into odibana nayo kukuhamba kwamandla angalinganiyo ngaphakathi kuwe.

“Xa ucamngca phantse yonke imihla, oko kuhamba kwamandla kunokubekwa kwimeko elungeleleneyo.Akusayi kubakho zithintelo kwindlela yamandla kwaye iya kuhlala ihleli.Ngenxa yoko, onke amalungu akho aya kusebenza ngcono kakhulu.Ngokomzekelo, ndanyanga isifo sam samathambo kunye neengxaki zam zomqolo ngoncedo lokucamngca.

UPreity uthi: “Ndiye ndabona abafundi abaninzi abaye banyangwa ngokoqobo kwizigulo ezifana nesifo seswekile, iasidi, ukuqaqanjelwa yintloko nokuphuthelwa ngokucamngca.” Emzimbeni uba bhetele ngakumbi, engqondweni uyazola, ngokweemvakalelo uyomelela, ngokomoya ufumana ubulumko,” utsho uPreity.  

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Kwaye, ewe, xa uvumela amandla okucamngca akwenze ube ngumntu osempilweni, ubudlelwane bakho buya kuzuza njengesiphumo ngokunjalo. Ukonwaba ngakumbi kwaye usempilweni uziva eluswini lwakho, kokukhona ubudlelwane bakho buya kuba. Nokuba uziqhelanisa nokucamngca ngobudlelwane bobudlelwane okanye ukucamngca ukuze unxibelelane nomntu, ukuziva usempilweni kunokukunceda ukuba ufezekise nokuba yintoni na.

5. Uba novelwano ngakumbi

Ukuba novelwano kubudlelwane bakho sisiseko sokudibanisa nokuhlonipha iqabane lakho. Xa ukwazi ukuzibeka ezihlangwini zeqabane lakho, awuyi kusabela ngqwabalala njengoko unokwenza ngenye indlela. Ukucamngca kukunika amandla phezu kwenkqubo yakho yokucinga.Uyaqonda kwaye uyakwazi ukuzibeka kwimeko yomntu wonke, nto leyo ekuncedayo ukuba wenze isigqibo malunga nokuba kutheni omnye umntu esabela kakubi kwaye siyintoni isizathu soko, "utsho uPreity.

Ukuba umbuzo wendlela yokuphilisa ubudlelwane uye wakuvusa ebusuku, eyona nto inkulu eza kukunceda kukuba novelwano kwiqabane lakho. Ngokungaqondanga, uya kubethelela umthamo onempilo wokuhloniphana kubudlelwane, kuba uya kukwazi ukubona ukuba iqabane lakho livela phi. Kwaye akukho ndlela ingcono yokuba novelwano kunokuqhelisela ukucamngca kubudlelwane.

6. Inokuphakamisa i-aura ejikeleze indlu yakho

UPreity uthi: “Xa kukho umntu osendlwini ecamngcayo, loo nto itshintsha imbonakalo yendlu iphela.” Ukuba izinto zihlala zixinene kwindlu yakho okanye kwindawo okuyo, ukuzola kwengqondo ukucamngca kukubeka kunokukunceda ukuba woyise obo butshaba emoyeni.

Ukucamngca ngobudlelwane akuthethi ukuba uhleli ecaleni kweqabane lakho, nicula iimantra kunye. Isenzo esilula sokucamngca yonke imihla, nokuba yedwa, sinokunceda ukuphakamisa yonke i-aura yendlu. Ngubani owayesazi ukuba inokuba lula ngolo hlobo ukusombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane?  

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Njengoko ubonile ngala manqaku sikudwelisileyo, ukucamngca kunye neqabane, okanye nokuba uziqhelanisa uwedwa, unamandla luchaphazela ngokufanelekileyo lonke ubudlelwane onokuba nayo ebomini bakho. Xa uza kuzazi ngcono kwaye uzive usempilweni, amandla akho afanelekileyo anyanzelekile ukuba aphakamise abo bakungqongileyo.

Ukucamngca kunokukunceda ukuba ujongane nengxaki yobudlelwane okanye inokuba linyathelo lokuqala lokujongana nobudlelwane obuyityhefu. Ngokusuka nje uqhelane nawe okanye ukwimo yengqondo ezolileyo, ukuxhobele ngakumbi ukujongana neengxaki ojamelana nazo ebomini.

U-Preity ufunga ngemiphumo emihle yokucamngca kubudlelwane, kwaye kucacile ukubona ukuba kutheni. Ngokukunika amandla okuba novelwano, ukucamngca kuvula indlela eya kubudlelwane obungcono kunye noxolo lwengqondo. Ukuqalisa kulula njengokuhlala phantsi imizuzu elishumi kwaye ugxile ekuphefumleni kwakho, ngoko akukho sizathu sokuba ungafiki kwangoko.

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