Ukuphendula kwiGaslighting-9 Iingcebiso eziyinyani

Ngokufuthi ebomini, sinelishwa ngokwaneleyo lokujongana nabantu ababeka impilo yethu yengqondo emngciphekweni rhoqo. Mhlawumbi, eyona nto imbi kakhulu yi-gaslighters. Izilayidi zegesi ngabaqhubi abanobuchule abaya kuhlala bekwenza ukuba ubuze eyakho ingqondo ukuze ufumane amandla phezu kwakho. Ukwazi indlela yokusabela ekukhanyisweni kwegesi kubalulekile ukuze uzikhusele kwiziphumo ezinokonakala zobu buchule bobuqhetseba.

Ukuzibeka ityala kwiimeko ezinjalo kunokuba lula kunokuba uphendule kwi-gaslighter ngendlela enokunceda ukophula le pateni inetyhefu. Ngaphandle kokuba uyazi ukuba yintoni na, zithini iimpawu zayo zokuxela, ukubona iipateni ezifihlakeleyo kunye nokwazi indlela yokuphendula xa umntu ekulayita igesi kudla ngokuba nzima, ngakumbi ekubeni ukuvuma ukuba umntu omthandayo unetyhefu kulula ukuthetha kunokukwenza.

Ngoncedo lobudlelwane kunye nomqeqeshi wobudlelwane obusondeleyo Utkarsh Khurana (MA Clinical Psychology, Ph.D. Scholar), olilungu elindwendwelayo kwiYunivesithi yase-Amity kwaye ligxile kwimiba yokuxhalaba, iinkolelo ezingalunganga, kunye nobuntu kubudlelwane, ukubala nje ezimbalwa, silapha ukukunceda ukuba ume umhlaba wakho ngokuchasene nolu qheliso oluqhubekayo kunye nokwehla kweyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuphendula kwi-gaslighting, nokuba imeko ithini na.

Yintoni Ukukhanyisa Ngegesi?

Xa umntu ekukhohlisa ngabom ukuba uthandabuze iimvakalelo zakho, inkumbulo, okanye imbono yakho ngobunyani, kubizwa ngokuba yi-gaslighting. Ukukhanyisa igesi luhlobo lokuxhatshazwa. U-Utkarsh uyayichaza ngokunika umzekelo, "Ndenza into engalunganga kwaye xa iqabane lam libonisa, ndiyasikhanyela isityholo kwaye ndenze ngokungathi akwenzekanga. Ukuba oku kuphinda kuphindwe izihlandlo ezininzi, iqabane lam linokuqalisa ukubuza ubungqina bombono wabo." Ukufunda indlela yokugqithisa i-gaslighter akukho lula.

Ukukhanyisa ngegesi kuyakubhida kwaye kukwenza uthandabuze. Iyamangalisa indlela oku kuzithandabuza kwenza ukuba kusondele kungenzeki ukuqaphela kunye nokogqitha isibane segesi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwi ubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo, i-gaslighter isebenzisa ukuzithemba kweqabane labo ukuba bahlale bejongela phantsi i-arhente yabo yokuzikhethela. Utkarsh uthi, "I-gaslighter inokwazi ukuba i-gaslighting kodwa indlela yabo yokukhusela iya kubenza bathethelele ngokukholelwa ukuba bayenzela ukuzikhusela."

Ukulayita kwegesi engekho zingqondweni kunqabile kodwa kuyenzeka. Ngamanye amaxesha iqabane lakho linokukutshisa ngaphandle kokuqonda into eliyenzayo. Balandela nje ipateni abaya kuba beyiphuhlile kule minyaka idlulileyo bengakhange bayiqonde. Ukuphendula kwi-gaslighter, ovuyayo engazi iipateni zabo ezinobuthi, kunokuba nzima ngakumbi. Kuba bengenalo naliphi na i-iota yokuzazi, kuba nzima kakhulu ukubenza babone impazamo yeendlela zabo.

Ngenxa yokuthambekela kwabo kwi-narcissistic, ii-gaslighters akufuneki zichukunyiswe ngepali ye-barge ye-10, ingasaphathwa eyexesha. Kodwa ukuze ufunde indlela yokusabela kwi-narcissist gaslighting okanye ukufumanisa ukuba uvala njani i-gaslighter, kufuneka ukwazi kuqala ukuqaphela ukuba ukhanyisa igesi. Nje ukuba uqaphele, kakhulu ukudana kwakho, ukuba iqabane lakho lothando, umntu omthandayo, omthandayo, noxhomekeke kuye, usenokuba ebekukhanyisa ngegesi ukuze ufumane indlela yabo, unokugxila kwindlela yokumelana ne-gaslighter.

Uziqonda njani iimpawu ukuba ukhanyiswa ngegesi

Ngaphambi kokuthatha nawaphi na amanyathelo aqatha, umyalelo wokuqala weshishini kukuchonga iimpawu zokukhanyiswa kwegesi. Ngokuqhelekileyo iqala encinci kodwa i-gaslighters ivame ukugcina ukulawula ngakumbi nangakumbi indawo yengqondo kunye nomzimba ngokwabo ukuba uqhubeka uyithatha ulele phantsi. Eyona ndlela ilula yokubona ukukhanya kwegesi kuxa iqabane lakho lilandela iipateni eziphindaphindayo zokuziphatha okukhohlisayo.

Utkarsh uthi, "Ukuba iqabane lakho liyikhanyela ngokupheleleyo imeko ngaphandle kokuvuma ukuba uziva njani okanye amava akho, oko kuthetha ukuba bayayigatya ngokupheleleyo ubunyani bakho kunye nobukho bakho." Okukhona ubuza ubunyani kwaye uzithandabuze, kokukhona uzifumanisa uxhomekeke kwiqabane lakho legesi ukuba lisebenze. Ukuba umntu ozingcayo uqala ukukukhohlisa egameni lothando ngelixa ujongela phantsi impilo yakho yengqondo, iya kuba ngumzekelo oqhelekileyo we-narcissist gaslighting. Eminye imiqondiso yokukhanya kwegesi kubudlelwane zezi:

1. Ziyenza ingasebenzi inkxalabo okanye iimvakalelo zakho

Ziya kuphelisa iinkxalabo okanye iimvakalelo zakho ukuze zihlale zisembindini wengqwalasela. Ukunganyaniseki ubunyani bakho yindlela i-narcissist gaslighting esebenza ngayo. Bathetha izinto ezinje:

• “Ucinga izinto”
• Akukho mfuneko yokuba ndibe novelwano. Bendidlala qha”
• “Akukho nto yenzekileyo. Yeka ukubaxa izinto”

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2. Bayakugculela kwaye bahlekisa ngeembono zakho

Cinga ngendlela i-gaslighter ekwenza uzive ngayo. Incinci? Ayibalulekanga? ingabalulekanga? Umzekelo oqhelekileyo wokukhanyisa igesi engaziyo kuxa behlekisa ngawe kwaye behlekisa ngezimvo zakho phambi kwabanye. Olu hlobo lwesibane segesi luhlala lufihlwa njengoburharha obungathandekiyo. Bathetha izinto ezinje:

• “Awww, umhle kakhulu, kodwa asiyonyani leyo”
• “Makube njalo. Awazi nto malunga….”
• (Kwabanye) “Uthanda ukuhleba”
• (Kwabanye) “Awwww, ucinga ukuba wazi okuninzi ngendlela esebenza ngayo imali”

3. Bakwenza kube lula ukuphumelela kwakho

Uphumelele ukhuphiswano? Baza kukukhumbuza ukuba ayisiyonto inkulu kwaye kwangoko baqalise ukudwelisa amaxesha abaphumelele ukhuphiswano olukhulu, olungcono. Ukunciphisa impumelelo yakho kunye nokwenza konke malunga nabo yindlela i-narcissist gaslighting isebenza. Kwaye ukufunda indlela yokuphendula kwi-narcissist gaslighting uya kufuna ukuba ubabone ukuba bangoobani. Bathetha izinto ezinje:

• Sukwenza into enkulu kangaka.
• Uyaqhayisa ngoku.
• "Kulungile kodwa mandikuxelele ngexesha apho ndi..."

4. Baphinda babalise iziganeko kwaye bayayikhanyela inguqulelo yakho

Xa ubiza i-gaslighter, baya kupheka ibali ukuchasana noguqulelo lwakho lweziganeko. Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala liyikhanyela inguqulelo yakho yento eyenzekileyo, soloko inebali eliphikisayo elahluke ngokuphawulekayo kwelakho, kwaye lifumana indlela yokusoloko susa ityala phezu kwakho, ke wena, mhlobo wam, ukhanyiswa. Ingaba ikwenza uzive njani isilayidi segesi? Ubukhulu becala awuqinisekanga ngawe, ubhidekile, uthobekile kwaye udangele. Bathetha izinto ezinje:

• “Uphambene? Akwenzekanga ngolo hlobo.”
• "Ayikho indlela endikhumbula ngayo."
• “Awuyazi le nto uthetha ngayo”

5. Uziva ufuna uxolo ngalo lonke ixesha

Olu phawu lumalunga nendlela oziva ngayo xa ukhanyiswa ngegesi. Uhlala uzithandabuza ngendlela oziva ngayo, ngakumbi malunga nomsindo okanye isikhalazo sakho kubo. Uziva uphelelwe kukuzithemba. Unexhala kwaye uhlala unexhala ixesha elininzi. Kodwa ubukhulu becala kusoloko kubonakala ngathi nguwe ogqiba ngokucela uxolo kuwo wonke umba.

I-gaslighters idla ngokusetyenziselwa ukuphatha amaqabane abo njengento ephantsi, ayiboni nomonakalo owenzayo. Ukuba ukhe weva iqabane lakho lithetha eminye yale migca yemifanekiso esiyikhankanyileyo ngaphambili, ndilusizi ukuthi unokuba nesilayidi segesi ezandleni zakho. Ukuba ufumanisa nje ukuba usebudlelwaneni kunye ne-gaslighter, eli asiloxesha lokoyika. Nje ukuba uyayazi indlela yokusabela ekukhanyeni kwegesi, konke kumalunga nokuza nesicwangciso kunye nokulandela, inyathelo ngenyathelo.

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Indlela yokuphendula ekukhanyeni kwegesi-iingcebiso ezili-9

UCourtney wazifumana engakwazi ukwenza isigqibo ngomyalelo wakhe ngelixa yena neqabane lakhe bephumile umhla kabini nomhlobo wakhe osenyongweni, uSharon, kunye nesinqandamathe sakhe. Abahlobo babedibene emva kwesithuba esingangonyaka, ngenxa yokuvaleleka kwizixeko ezahlukahlukeneyo ngalo lonke ixesha lo bhubhani, kwaye uSharon wothuswa kukumbona owayezithembile, umhlobo ozithembileyo ejonge kwimvume yeqabane lakhe kwinto ekufuneka ayitye.

“Fumana nantoni na ovakalelwa kukuba uyifunayo,” watsho uSharon ecaphukile ekugqibeleni. “Ndicinga ukuba ndiyayifuna inyama yenkomo kodwa andazi…” latshona ilizwi lakhe. “Awuyithandi nenyama yenyama yenkomo. Ngaphandle koko, kule mihla siphila kuyo, umntu angakhetha njani ukutya inyama yenyama esazi ukuba ishishini lenyama linegalelo elingakanani ekufudumaleni kwehlabathi,” waphendula umfana wakhe owayesandul’ ukuguquka.

"Ewe, andiqinisekanga ukuba ndiyathanda i-steak. Ndiza kuba nesaladi endaweni yoko," u-Courtney owayebonakala edanile waphendula. Nangona uCourtney wayeseyimfama kwinto eyenziwa kuye egameni lothando, uSharon wabona iiflegi ezibomvu ngokukhawuleza. Wayesazi ukuba kufuneka ancede umhlobo wakhe ukuba afumane indlela yokuphendula ekukhanyeni kwegesi kubudlelwane, hleze imshiye. ubuwena kunye nokuzixabisa.

Ngelishwa, imizekelo efana neCourtney isijikelezile. Akukho ndlela yokwazi xa unokuba nelishwa lokuwela iindlela kunye nesilayidi segesi. Nokuba usoloko unxibelelana nomnye, kusenokuba nzima ukubaqonda ngenxa yenkohliso abayiyo. Oku kwenza ukuba kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuqaphela iimpawu kwaye ukwazi ukuba uphendule njani kwisibane segesi xa unokuzifumana ukuloo meko.

1. Chonga ipateni

Ukuba ufuna ukuphendula kwi-gaslighting, yazi ukuba iqala ngokuchonga ipateni. Ke, elona nyathelo likhulu, elona nyathelo likhaliphileyo ngelixa ujongana nezibane zegesi lelokuqala okt ukuchonga iipateni eziyityhefu zeqabane lakho. Ukuba ubabona besoloko behlekisa ngento oyithethayo okanye bejongela phantsi izimvo zakho, kukho ithuba lokuba ujongana ne-gaslighter.

Gxininisa ngakumbi kwizenzo zabo nakumazwi abo. Ukuba izenzo zabo azihambisani noko bakuthethayo, oko kubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba bazama ukukukhohlisa. Ukuze uphendule ngokufanelekileyo ekukhanyeni kwegesi kubudlelwane, kufuneka ukhulule iiglasi ezifakwe i-rose-tinted kwaye ujonge i-dynamic pragmatically yakho. Kodwa xa utyalwe ngokweemvakalelo kwenye, ubona cwaka ubudlelwane iiflegi ebomvu kwaye ukubavuma ngento abayiyo kunokuba yeyona nto inzima ukuyenza.

Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kungcono ukuthembela kumhlobo omthembileyo – umhlobo, usapho, umntu ozithembayo – kwaye uthembele kwisigwebo sabo. Ukuba abantu obathandayo bebekuxelela ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle kubudlelwane bakho, phulaphula kunokuba ukhuphe izinto ezibaxhalabisayo. Kulapho kuphela apho uya kuthi uqalise ukufumanisa indlela yokuphendula xa umntu ekutshiza.

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2. Thatha inyathelo emva

Amaxhoba okulayita igesi kufuneka ahlale enyamezele uloyiko olukhulu, umsindo kunye nokuxhalaba. Oku kunokuqhubeka kudla impilo yabo yengqondo ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba apho baqala ukuphulukana namandla abo kunye nokukwazi kwabo ukuphendula ekukhanyeni kwegesi. Obu buthathaka buqatshelwa zizilayishi zabo zegesi njengethuba lokuziqhubela phambili.

Akusoloko kulula ukuphendula umntu okukhanyisa ngegesi aze ahlukane netyhefu enjalo. Nje ukuba le pateni ihambe ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo, banokuphumelela ekwenzeni ukuba ukholelwe ukuba nguye kuphela onokuthi uxhomekeke kuye, ukudala okungenampilo. amandla aguquguqukayo kubudlelwane. Ke, okukhona kuqhubeka, kuya kuba nzima ukubakhanyela into abayifunayo.

Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uzibekele indawo ethile. Zama ukuphuma uhambe wedwa. Umthambo wokuphefumla kunye nokucamngca kunokukunceda ukuba uhlale uzolile kwaye ucinga ngokunengqiqo. Ukuthatha ixesha lakho kunye nokuba kude nomxhaphazi wakho kungasebenza imimangaliso xa uzama ukulungisa kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ubaleke kwiimeko ezinjalo.

Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokusabela kwi-gaslighting kukubuyisela ukulawula ubomi bakho, iarhente yakho, kunye nokuzithemba kwakho kubuchule bakho bokwenza izigqibo ezivakalayo, kancinci kancinci. Ukudala umgama phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho kunokukunceda wenze oko. Xa ungayihoyi i-gaslighter, ushiya umhlaseli ngaphandle kolonwabo lokuzingela kwabo.

3. Bhala ubungqina

Ukulayita igesi kunqabile ukuba kube sisiganeko sexesha elinye. Izilayidi zegesi zihlala ziqhuba iipatheni zazo ezinetyhefu kunye nezicwangciso ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Iqhinga labo abalithandayo kukukhanyela izinto abazenzileyo okanye abazithethileyo ukuze uphele uzithandabuza. Ukulungisa ubudlelwane obuyityhefu obunjalo ungasondela kwinto engenakwenzeka, ikwenza uzive uvaleleke kwaye ufuthaniselwe.

Ukuba oku kuvakala ngathi yinto obujongene nayo, kubalulekile ukuba uqalise ukuqokelela kunye nokugcina ubungqina obunje ngemifanekiso yesikrini yesicatshulwa kunye nee-imeyile, ushicilelo lweencoko zefowuni yakho, kunye nejenali yemihla ngemihla eneenkcukacha. Nokuba ukhangela iindlela zokuphendula ekukhanyeni kwegesi emsebenzini okanye kubudlelwane, ukuba nobungqina obubambekayo bokuxhasa ukuqonda kwakho oko kwenziwa kuwe kubalulekile.

Ukuba unobungqina kwicala lakho kwaye uyazi ukuba iqabane lakho lilele ngamazinyo, akuyi kukunceda nje ukuba ubone iipatheni zabo ezikhohlisayo ngokucacileyo kodwa zenze kube lula kakhulu ukuvala i-gaslighter. Ubungqina bunokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngcono kwaye uqonde ukuba awuphambani kwaye kukho into engalunganga. Kwaye, ukuba izinto zikhe zatshintsha kwaye ugqibe ekubeni ufumane isithintelo, ubungqina bunokukunceda enkundleni.

4. Ukujongana

Le yenye yezona mpendulo zinzima kwigaslighting kuninzi lwamaxhoba. Xa umntu esetyenziselwa ukugxothwa, ukungahoywa, kunye nokuthethelelwa phantsi, baqala ukuhlakulela isimo sengqondo esingaqinisekanga kunye nokuzithoba. Ngokuzola ubiza abantu abatshisa igesi ngobuxoki babo kunye nehambo yabo ekrwada ngokufuthi isenokubenza bangakwenzi amaxhoba. Phendula kumntu okukhanyisa ngegesi ngendlela ehlekisayo ngokumcela nje ukuba akuchazele ukuba yintoni eyenza “iqhula” elikhubekisayo lihlekise.

Ukuba unquma ukwenza phendula kumyeni wakho olayita igesi okanye umfazi okanye iqabane lexesha elide, yazi ukuba kunokuba nzima kakhulu kuba banokujika baguquke kwaye babenobundlobongela. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba unokucela uncedo. Sondela ezo ncoko kwiindawo ezikhuselekileyo, nabahlobo okanye obathandayo kufutshane okanye kufutshane. Fowunela abahlobo bakho ukuze bafumane inkxaso.

Ukuba nomntu onomqolo wakho kunokunceda kakhulu ngokuzithemba kwakho xa uthatha isigqibo sokuphendula kwi-gaslighting. Xa usebenzisa ukujongana njengendlela yokuphendula kwi-gaslighter, hlala ukhumbula ukuba kuya kubakho ukubuyisela umva ngenye indlela okanye enye. Kuya kufuneka ugqume zonke iziseko zakho.

5. Yakha ukuzithemba kwakho

Ukuba sele ugcina ubungqina beencoko kunye neemeko xa iqabane lakho lizama ukukukhanyisela, ukwakha ukuzithemba kwakho ngokwaneleyo ukujongana nabo kunokuba lula kakhulu. Khumbula, ukuzithemba kwakho sesona sixhobo sabo sikhulu ngoko ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungayivumeli intshulube ingene entlokweni yakho.

Okukhona uzithandabuza, kokukhona kuya kuba lula kubo ukuba bakwenze a ixhoba lokukhohlisa kubudlelwane. Basenokuzama ukukutsalela kungquzulwano ukuze bahlale bekungcungcuthekisa kwaye banciphise ukuzithemba kwakho. Ngoko, uvala njani i-gaslighter kwimeko enje? Ziqinisekise kwaye ukwale ukuzibandakanya. Uyabazi. Ubeke umsebenzi wokuchonga iipateni zabo.

Ngoku, lixesha lokuba uyeke ukubanika ukufikelela kubuthathaka bakho, ekuphela kwesixhobo sabo esichasene nawe, kwaye uqale ukudiliza yonke into ngaphakathi. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokusabela ekukhanyisweni kwegesi kukwakha ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzixabisa ukusuka phantsi ukuze ukhuseleke kumaqhinga abo obuchule.

6. Tyala ngokuzinyamekela

Ukuzikhathalela yeyona ndlela ibanzi yokusabela ekukhanyisweni kwegesi. Ukuzitotosa kunye nokunika ingqondo nomzimba wakho ukhathalelo olufunekayo ukuze baphilise kubalulekile xa uzama ukuphendula kwi-gaslighting. Xa ungayihoyi i-gaslighter, bahlala bemangaliswa. Isenokuvakala ngathi ininzi kodwa xa uzolile kwaye uqokelelene ngakumbi, kokukhona kuya kuba nzima ukuba izilayidi zegesi zikusebenzise.

Aba bantu badla ngobuthathaka. Bazise ngokuzithemba okuzolileyo kwaye baya kuphuma besiya kukhangela ixhoba elilula. Ngaphandle koko, ngaphandle kokuba utyalomali ekuzinakekeleni kwaye uzibuyisele kumbono wokuzibeka kuqala kunye nokutyalomali ekuzigcineni, awukwazi ukufumana indlela yokuphendula xa umntu ekukhanyela.

7. Buza abantu obathandayo

Ukuba uqala ukuqonda ukuba ulawulwa kwaye ufuna ukuphendula kwi-gaslighting, kusenokuba lixesha lokubandakanya abantu abasondeleyo kuwe. Eyakho umfana oyityhefu okanye intombi iya kuxhomekeka ekwahluleni kwakho kwinkqubo yakho yenkxaso ukuze bakwazi ukuthatha ithuba kuwe. Endaweni yokubavumela ukuba babaleke kuloo nto, qhagamshelana nabantu obathandayo ukuze ufumane uncedo kunye neengcebiso.

I-gaslighters inexesha elinzima kakhulu lokuhamba nemidlalo yabo xa bejongene neqela elibona nje kwiinzame zabo zokukhohlisa ixhoba. Imbono entsha evela kubahlobo bakho inokukunceda ukuba uchonge iipateni eziyityhefu kwaye uphuhlise isicwangciso sokulwa nazo.

8. Fumana uluvo lwengcali

Ngelixa ukucela usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho ukuba bame ngakuwe linyathelo eliyimfuneko, ngamanye amaxesha kusenokunganeli ukuguqula umsinga. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abanakuhlala bekunye nawe ukunqanda ukukhanya kwe-gaslight yeqabane lakho. Ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha kunye nonyango kuhlala kululuvo olulungileyo kwiimeko ezinjalo. Umgqirha wakho unokukubonisa iindlela ezizinzileyo zokuphendula kwi-gaslighting enokukunceda ukukhusela ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo nokuba ujongene noloyiko lwakho olukhulu.

Amaxhoba okulayita igesi nawo athambekele ekuphuhliseni imiba yezengqondo njengokungazithembi okanye ukuxhalaba. Oku kunokuphazamisana nomsebenzi wabo okanye ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ukuba nengcali yokunyanga ikukhokele kumaxesha anje okuzama kunokwenza umahluko. Ukuba ufuna uncedo ekumiseleni ukuba uphendule njani kwi-gaslighting kubudlelwane, abacebisi abanezakhono nabanamava kwi Iphaneli yeBonobology zilapha ngenxa yakho.

9. Lushiye ulwalamano

Nokuba liliphi icebiso okanye uncedo olufumanayo, akusoloko kulula ukushiya ubudlelwane apho iqabane lakho likuqhathe wacinga ukuba ufuna ukuba basebenze. Kodwa, ekuphela kwendlela yokuzikhusela kuyo imiba yengqondo kwaye ukulawula ubomi bakho kukuqhawula amaqhina kunye nabo ngokupheleleyo.

Xa uthatha isigqibo sokuzimela kwaye uphendule kwi-gaslighting, zikhumbuze ukuba ufanelwe ngcono. Ufanelwe liqabane elinothando elingakujongeli phantsi ngalo lonke ixesha, inyathelo ngalinye. Ufanelwe kukukhuthazwa kunye nolonwabo kubudlelwane bothando.

Ukwazi indlela yokusabela ekukhanyisweni kwegesi kunokuba lula. Kukuqondwa, ukujongana, kunye nokuphunyezwa okufuna inkalipho. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba ukunye nomntu okukhanyisa okanye ngokungazi, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba awuwedwa. Bubomi bakho kwaye uvumelekile ukuba uhambe.

Ukuba awuziva ujamelene nongquzulwano, yazi ukuba kulungile ukutsiba ngokupheleleyo. Hamba ngokuthula ngaphandle kokubavumela ukuba badibanise nawe kwaye bakugculele ukukunqanda ukuba uhambe. Xa beqonda ukuba abasakwazi kukulawula, banokuxoka, bazame ukukukhokela ngendlela engeyiyo, okanye babe nogonyamelo. Ke, ukungafuni ukuthatha loo mngcipheko konke konke kulungile.

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