Ubudlelwano bukaMeyi-Disemba buhlale bumema ukumangala, ilukuluku kanye nezwi eliphansi elicashile lokwahlulela okuvela ezindaweni ezahlukene zomphakathi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lobu budlelwano buqinisekisa inkolelo yokuthi uthando lunqoba konke. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukhona abantu abazibuzayo, "Yini abakhuluma ngayo?", Ingxenye-ilindele ukuthi uxhumano luhlakazeke.
Ukukhula kokwejwayelekile kwemibhangqwana yegebe lobudala endaweni yomphakathi ngokuqinisekile kuyasiza ekuqiniseni umqondo wokuthi iminyaka iyinombolo nje, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ezindabeni zenhliziyo. UGeorge no-Amal Clooney, abanomehluko weminyaka engu-17, uRyan Reynolds noBlake Lively abazalwa behlukene ngeminyaka engu-11, futhi igebe leminyaka engu-10 phakathi kukaPriyanka Chopra noNick Jonas libonakala njengobufakazi bokuthi uthando olungapheli lungaba kanjani.
Nokho, akuzona zonke izinhlobo zothingo nezimbali zemibhangqwana ehlukene ngeminyaka. Ucwaningo olwenziwe usosayensi wedatha osekelwe e-US uRandy Olson luthole ukuthi kukhona ubudlelwano obubalulekile phakathi kwegebe leminyaka kanye nokwanda kwezehlukaniso. "Ukuba kude nomlingani wakho ngeminyaka kuphela akusikho okufanele ukhathazeke ngakho, kodwa uma usumdala ngokwanele ukuba ngumzali womlingani wakho, khona-ke umshado wakho ungase ube senkingeni," kusho ucwaningo.
Okutholakele okunjalo kungaba yinto ekhathazayo kulabo abacabanga ukuba sebudlelwaneni obunjalo noma asebevele benabo. Kulesi sihloko sisiza ekuxazululeni lezo zinkinga ngezeluleko ezithile eziqinile zobudlelwano kanye nokukusiza ukuthi ubhekane nezinkinga zomehluko weminyaka ebudlelwaneni, ngokubonisana nomqeqeshi wempilo uGeetarsh Kaur , umsunguli we-'The Skill School', ogxile ekusizeni abantu ukwakha ubudlelwano obuqinile.
Buyini Ubudlelwano bukaMeyi-Disemba?
Okuqukethwe
"Iminyaka yobudala iyinkinga yomqondo phezu kwendaba," kusho uMark Twain. "Uma ungenankinga, akunandaba." Lesi sisho simile kubathandi bezithandani nakuba kunesigodi esikhulu sesikhathi phakathi kwabo. Pho luyini uthando lukaMay-December futhi kungani lubizwa kanjalo?
Okuwukuphela kwencazelo evamile yothando lukaMeyi-Disemba ukuthi luchazwa umehluko weminyaka ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa uma besizoba nencazelo yothando, ye-Wordsworthian, singasho ukuthi ingqungquthela endala njengezinkathi zomhlaba ngokwazo, lapho intwasahlobo-y May imele intsha futhi u-December obusika ufanekisela ukuhlakanipha.
Sekukonke, uthando lukaMeyi kuya kuDisemba lunegebe elikhulu leminyaka, futhi lunikezwe igama ngokuhambisana nezinkathi zonyaka ezivezwa yizinyanga. Uma uze lapha ukuze uqonde ukuguquguquka kothando lukaMeyi-Disemba, sinezimpendulo ozidingayo.
Izinzuzo Nezingozi Zobudlelwane bukaMeyi-Disemba
Njengakho konke okunye empilweni, uthando lukaMeyi kuya kuDisemba lunobuhle nobubi balo. Akunandaba ukuthi obakho ubuhlobo bukaMeyi-Disemba nowesifazane osekhulile nensizwa, noma okuphambene nalokho, kunezinto ezimbalwa okudingeka uziqaphele, kanye nezinto ezimbalwa ezinhle ongaziqhayisa ngazo. Ake sizibheke:
| buhle | bawo |
| Umlingani omdala uzimisele kakhulu ukuzinikela | Kungase kube nzima ukuthola izithakazelo ezifanayo |
| Ubudlelwano, noma okungenani ingxenye yabo, bungase bunikeze ukuzinza okungcono kwezezimali okubenza buvikeleke kakhulu | Izifundo basikisela ukuthi ukwaneliseka kobudlelwane kuyehla uma kunegebe elikhulu lobudala ebudlelwaneni |
| Ubudlelwano bungase bubonise ukukhula okwengeziwe, idrama encane | Ungase ukuthole kunzima ukuxhumana nomunye nomunye |
| Uyakwazi ukujabulela imibono yomhlaba ehluke kakhulu ebuhlotsheni bakho | Ungase ukuthole kunzima ukwamukela umbono wezwe ohlukile wozakwenu |
| Ukusondelana ngokomzimba kuzohluka kunobunye ubudlelwano oke waba kubo | Ungase uthintwe amahemuhemu axoxa ngobudlelwano bakho |
| Nizokwazi ukunikezana iseluleko ngezindlela ezihluke kakhulu zokubuka | Ukungakwazi ukwamukelana kungase kubangele ukukhungatheka |
Othandweni oluphakathi kukaMeyi noDisemba, umehluko weminyaka ungenza kubonakale sengathi yisona sithiyo esikhulu nesiwukuphela kwaso okufanele usinqobe. Kodwa njengabo bonke abanye ubuhlobo, kufanele udlule ezimpini wonke umuntu anazo, imizwa yomona, amathemba angaphathwanga kahle , kanye nezikhathi enilimazana ngazo.
Ingabe ubudlelwano bukaMeyi-Disemba buyasebenza?
“Bayakwenza,” kusho uGeetarsh . “Kodwa kuncike ngokuphelele kubalingani. Imibhangqwana kumele ibe nezinga elithile lokuqonda kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yimuphi umlingani osekhulile ebudlelwaneni. Konke kumayelana nokuxhumana.”
Uma ucabanga ngendlela yokuphila esheshayo nematasa ngekhulu lama-21, kubaluleke kakhulu ukusebenza othandweni, ngoba kulula ukunganaki uma ucindezelwe isikhathi. Ekugcineni, ubudlelwano, obuke bathandwa othandweni, bungaphela. Ebudlelwaneni bukaMeyi noDisemba ikakhulukazi, ukuntuleka kokuthatha isinyathelo kungabangela ukuthi uzizwe umehluko omkhulu wobudala phakathi kwenu nobabili. Ezimweni ezinjalo, zibuze ukuthi uyafuna yini ukubhekana nezipoki zothando olufile ekupheleni kosuku olumatasa.
“Lapho ukunganeliseki kubulala ubuhlobo, omunye umlingani uqala ukuzwa ubuhlungu kakhulu kunomunye. Esimeni esinjalo, umqondo uwukubona ukuthi yini engahambi kahle ebuhlotsheni bese uxoxa ngakho nophathina wakho,” kusho uGeetarsh. Impela, izisekelo ozidingayo ukuze ugcine ubudlelwano buphila zisebenza nakuxhumano lukaMeyi-Disemba.
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Kulokhu kuguquguquka, nobabili nidinga ukwethembana, inhlonipho, ukwesekwa, uthando, kanye nozwela. Lapho ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano kuqala ukuphela, (okuyinkinga evamile ebudlelwaneni obunezingxabano zobudala ngokusho kwezifundo ), kuzodingeka nisebenze kanzima kunokuthengela umlingani wakho isipho, ninethemba lokuthi kuzovala ukuntuleka komzamo ebudlelwaneni.
Ubudlelwano obaziwa kakhulu ngoMeyi-Disemba esikhuluma ngabo, obufana no-Amal noGeorge Clooney, bungenza kubonakale sengathi konke kuhamba kahle futhi kumnandi ezimpilweni zabo, kodwa khumbula ukuthi ubona kuphela izingxenye eziphucuziwe zobudlelwano abakuvumela ukuthi uzibone. Nabo kufanele babhekane nezinkinga zabo, njenganoma yibuphi ubuhlobo begebe lobudala.
Uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano phakathi kukaMeyi noDisemba, umehluko weminyaka onawo nomlingani wakho ungabuthinta kakhulu. Isibonelo, ucwaningo luthole ukuthi ubudlelwano obunemingcele yobudala engaphansi kweminyaka eyi-10 buzoletha ukwaneliseka okwengeziwe. Kodwa-ke, izinombolo azikwazi ukubikezela njalo injabulo uthando lwakho oluzokulethela yona.
Nokho, into eyodwa iqinisekile, ukuthi ngabe unobudlelwano phakathi kukaMeyi noDisemba nowesifazane omdala nendoda encane, noma ubudlelwano phakathi kukaMeyi noDisemba, noma obuphakathi kwezinhlanga ezahlukene, noma obunye uhlobo, empeleni, cishe udinga ukwazi izinto ezimbalwa mayelana nendlela yokugcina lomlingo uphila. Ake sibheke konke okudingeka ukwazi, ukuze ningagcini nithandana ngamatshe.
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Ziningi izindlela zokwenza uthando luqhubeke. Kodwa futhi, kunezindlela eziningi zokuyingcolisa futhi. Uma ugcina ungawenzi umzamo ebudlelwaneni bakho, noma okubi nakakhulu, ungazi ukuthi ungafaka kanjani umzamo, ungase uzithole udonsa kanzima ukugcina ubuhlobo bakho bunempilo. Ake ngibhale phansi izinto ezinhlanu ongazenza ukuze ugcine uthando lukaMeyi-Disemba lusha, njalo:
1. Thola izithakazelo ezifanayo
UGeetarsh uphakamisa ukuthi abalingani abasebudlelwaneni bukaMeyi noDisemba kumele babe nezintshisekelo ezifanayo futhi bazinike isikhathi sokuzilibazisa ngazo. “Umbhangqwana kumele uchithe isikhathi nalezo zintshisekelo. Kungaba lula njengokuhamba ngemoto noma ukubukela ama-movie elele ndawonye kusofa nesitsha se-popcorn phakathi. Noma ngabe yini, qiniseka ukuthi uyakwenza njalo,” kusho uGeetarsh.
Ungakhethi kakhulu noma uqine kakhulu ngenkathi ukhetha izinto enizithandayo - kwenzeni umgomo, futhi ukuphathe njengohlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe. Lapho imibono yenu isihlangene, ningagcina nithole izinto ezifanayo ezingakaze zihlolwe phakathi kwenu nobabili. Bese uthatha lo mbono uhambe ngoba, njengoba umqeqeshi wethu wobudlelwano asho, "ubuvila buzokubulala".
Uma lo mbono wokwenza izinto ezihlangene ungenziwanga, ukungabi khona kwawo kungase kuqhubeke, okwenza abalingani bazizwe bewumthwalo womcabango “oshodayo”. Kuzwakala njengesiqalo sezinkinga obungagwema!
2. Ukuvala igebe lesizukulwane sezobuchwepheshe ngokufunda ngokuhlanganyela
Ukuze uvale igebe lobudala, zama ukungena emhlabeni wedijithali womunye nomunye. Enye yezinto ezivame kakhulu, futhi ngokweqiniso, ezihlekisayo, amaphuzu okungqubuzana ebudlelwaneni begebe lobudala ubuchwepheshe. Mhlawumbe uzwile omunye wenu ethi, "Kungani umuntu angaqopha usuku lwakhe ku-Instagram?" noma “Kusiza ngani ukubhala incwadi ngesandla uma ukwazi ukubhala nje?” Nasi isixazululo esijabulisayo: fundisana amandla akho edijithali noma e-analog.
- Uma umncane, bonisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ungazulazula kanjani ezinhlelweni zokusebenza zakamuva, ukuthatha isithombe ozishuthe sona esibulalayo, noma ukwakha uhlu lwadlalwayo lomculo
- Uma usukhulile, yazisa umlingani wakho enjabulweni ethintekayo njengokubhala, ukufunda iphephandaba eliphathekayo, noma ukuhlela ishalofu lezincwadi ngombhali hhayi i-algorithm
Iyini injongo yalo msebenzi? Ukuguqula ukungezwani kwakho kwezizukulwane kube yindawo yokuhlangana, kunokuba kube yindawo yokungqubuzana nezinkinga zobudlelwano. Ngalezi zenzo, uthi, “Ngifuna ukuqonda umhlaba wakho, futhi ngifuna nawe uqonde owami.” Indlela enhle yokubhekana nenye yezinselelo ezivame kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obunemingcele yobudala.
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3. Zulazula umehluko wokulinganisa impilo 'ngezingxoxo zephoyinti lokuhlola'
Othandweni lukaMeyi-Disemba, omunye wenu angase ahlele ukuthatha umhlalaphansi kuyilapho omunye esazama ukuthola indlela yakhe yomsebenzi. Lowo mehluko ngesivinini sokuphila ungokoqobo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuwudlula, ngenxa yokulindela okungalingani noma okungenakwenzeka . Omunye umlingani angase aphuphe ekuseni okuthule nekhofi, kuyilapho ikhalenda lomunye ligcwele imihlangano yango-9 ekuseni nemicimbi yokuxhumana. Ngakho-ke, nihlala kanjani nivumelana? Zamani ukuba nezingxoxo zanyanga zonke ezisebenza njengokuhlola okumnene nokuqotho lapho nibuzana khona:
- “Injani impilo yakho njengamanje?”
- "Ngabe senza isikhala salokho esikudingayo sobabili?"
- “Ingabe imigomo yethu yesikhashana isaphelelisana?”
Leli su lisiza ukuvala igebe elingokoqobo leminyaka yobudala: awuhlali uhamba ngesivinini esifanayo, futhi likuvimbela ukuthi ukhule ngokwehlukana ngenxa yokuhamba ngendlela engafanele.
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4. Yenzani izinkumbulo ezintsha ndawonye
Ukuze uqhubeke nokufaka amandla amasha othandweni lukaMeyi kuya kuDisemba, gxila ekudaleni imizwa entsha eniyithokozelayo nobabili kunokuba nikhumbule izinkumbulo zakudala. Ukuphuma esimisweni senu ukuze nizame into entsha yokuzilibazisa nonke noma nivakashele imnyuziyamu ethandwa ngomunye wenu kungavusa injabulo efanayo nayizwa lapho niqala ukuhlangana.
Ukuze lesi senzo sibe ngenhloso futhi singenazihibe, ningashintshana ngokuhlela izinsuku ezigubha isizukulwane somunye nomunye: mhlawumbe umlingani omdala ukhetha ikhonsathi ye-jazz yakudala kuyilapho omncane ekhetha umbukiso wobuciko odumile. Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi imibhangqwana ezama imisebenzi emisha ndawonye ibika ukwaneliseka okukhulu kobudlelwano futhi izizwa ixhumene kakhulu.
5. Khuthaza ukukhula komuntu siqu kanye nokuzimela
Khumbula, umlingani wakho ungumuntu wakhe siqu ohambweni oluyingqayizivele. Umbhangqwana onempilo ohlukanisiwe ngokweminyaka uyagubha lokho. Esikhundleni sokuchitha umzuzu ngamunye ndawonye, sekelani imigomo nezintshisekelo zomunye nomunye. Echaza ukuthi kungani lokhu kubalulekile, uGeetarsh uthi, “Abalingani abahlonipha ukukhula komuntu siqu kanye nokuzimela komunye nomunye bavame ukuba nobudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo . Ungakwenza lokhu ngokuthi:
- Ukunikezana "isikhathi sami." Mhlawumbe nonke nithatha ubusuku obubodwa ngeviki niphishekela umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa uwedwa noma ukuhlangana nabangane
- Ukuthokozela izinselele ezintsha. Uma umlingani wakho omncane efuna ukuthuthukela esikoleni noma ukushintsha imisebenzi, nikeza usizo noma isikhuthazo kuneseluleko esingasicelanga. Ngokufanayo, uma umlingani omdala ethatha isimiso sokufaneleka noma isigaba sokudala, omncane angaba umthokozisi wakhe omkhulu.
- Ecela usizo, ngaphandle kokuguquguquka kweminyaka, Uzakwethu omdala angase athi, "Angazi ukuthi i-TikTok isebenza kanjani. Ungangibonisa?" kuyilapho omncane angase acele iseluleko ngempilo. Ukucela usizo kukhombisa ukwethembana futhi kwenza nobabili nizizwe nibalulekile
- Ukubeka imigomo yomuntu siqu bese uhlola ngokusekela. Lisebenzise njengendlela yokukhula ndawonye
Lokhu kulinganisela kokuhlangana nokuhlukana komuntu ngamunye kukukhumbuza ukuthi ngisho nasebudlelwaneni, umuntu ngamunye ubalulekile njengomuntu wakho. Kungavimbela ukucasuka futhi kubuyise amandla amasha kubambiswano
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6. Yamukelani ukungezwani komunye nomunye
Vuma ukuthi igebe lobudala lethula ngokwemvelo okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukahlukene kwempilo, imibono, kanye nezinto ozithakaselayo. Uzakwethu omdala angase alethe izifundo ezifundwe kuzinselele nempumelelo edlule—njengokuphathwa kwezimali okucolisisiwe noma imininingwane yesikhathi eside yemisebenzi—kuyilapho uzakwethu osemncane engase ethule izitayela zamanje, ubuchwepheshe, nezindlela ezintsha zokuxazulula izinkinga.
Ithiphu yochwepheshe: Hlela izikhathi zakusihlwa ezinetimu lapho uzakwethu ngamunye ethula izici zesiko labo lesizukulwane (isb, amafilimu akudala, umculo we-vintage, amathrendi asafufusa omphakathi). Lokhu kuxoxisana kungavusa izingxoxo ezihehayo futhi kujulise ukwazisa kwakho ngalokho okulethwa ngakunye ebudlelwaneni. Ucwaningo lwesayensi lubonisa ukuthi imibhangqwana ebungaza ukuhlukana kwayo ngenkuthalo ivame ukubika umuzwa ophakeme wokukhula komuntu siqu kanye nokwaneliseka kobudlelwane.
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7. Beka phambili ukukhulumisana ngokukhululekile
Ukusungula ukuxhumana okuvamile, okuhlelekile kusiza ukuqinisekisa ukuthi bobabili ozakwethu basekhasini elilodwa. Nikeza isikhathi—njengokuthi “ingxoxo yekhofi” yamasonto onke noma ukungena kusihlwa—ukuxoxa ngemizwa, okulindelekile, nanoma yiziphi izinkathazo ezivelayo.
Ungasebenzisa izivivinyo zokuxhumana njengokulalela ngokucabangisisa noma umsebenzi “wokubukisa,” lapho umlingani ngamunye ephinda lokho akuzwile. Lokhu kuqinisa ukuqonda futhi kunciphisa ukuchazwa okuyiphutha.
8. Khulisa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo
Deep izibopho ezingokomzwelo phumelela ngokuba sengozini kanye nokwabelana okungaguquguquki kokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu. Yakha isimiso esingahlanganisa ukubhala izincwadi zokubonga, ukugcina ijenali eyabiwe, noma ukubekela eceleni isikhathi sezingxoxo eziqondisiwe ezigxile emaphusheni nezinselele zomuntu ngamunye.
Ithiphu yochwepheshe: Dala "imbiza yenkumbulo" lapho uzakwethu ngamunye engeza khona inothi elimayelana nomzuzu ayigugu noma into ethile ayithandayo ngomunye. Ngezikhathi ezithile, vakashela kabusha lawa manothi ukuze uqinise ukwethembana nokusondelana ngokomzwelo. Ucwaningo ku-dynamic dynamics lugcizelela ukuthi imikhuba enjalo ikhuthaza ukuzwelana nokuqina ekulweni nengcindezi.
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9. Hlolani isipiliyoni samanoveli ndawonye
Ukwethula imisebenzi emisha kungaqinisa ubudlelwano ngokuphula isimiso nokudala izinkumbulo ezabiwe. Cabangela ukungena emisebenzini okungekho uzakwethu angakaze abe nayo—noma ngabe lokho:
- Ikilasi lokupheka
- Umdlalo omusha
- noma ukuhoxa ngempelasonto endaweni ongayijwayele
Icebiso Lochwepheshe: Hlela “usuku lokuzijabulisa” lwanyanga zonke lapho ushintshana khona ngokukhetha umsebenzi ongasekho ohlwini lwakho olujwayelekile. Okuhlangenwe nakho okusha kukhuthaza ukukhishwa kwama-endorphin kanye ne-dopamine, okubonisa ukuthi ucwaningo lungase luthuthukise ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kanye nokwaneliseka okuphelele ebudlelwaneni.
10. Phinda uhlole ukuguquguquka kobudlelwano
Ukubuyekezwa ngezikhathi ezithile kobudlelwano bakho kusiza bobabili ozakwethu ukuthi bahlale behambisana nemigomo yabo eyabiwe futhi baxazulule noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka ngaphambi kokuthi kudlondlobale. Beka eceleni isikhathi njalo ngenyanga noma ngekota ukuze nixoxe ngokuthi yini esebenza kahle, futhi nihlonze nezindawo okufanele nithuthuke ngazo.
Ithiphu ye-Pro: Sebenzisa amathuluzi ahlelekile afana nohlu lwemibuzo lokuzihlola kobudlelwane noma gcina “imigomo yobudlelwano” iphephabhuku lapho uqaphela khona impumelelo nezinselele.” Imikhuba enjalo yokucabangela, etuswa ekwelulekeni kwabashadile, ingaholela ekulungiseni okuqinisa ubambiswano ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
11. Zinikeleni ekufundeni impilo yonke ndawonye
Ukukhula kobuhlakani okwabiwe izingxoxo ezijulile kanye nomqondo ohlangene wenhloso. Zibandakanye ekufundeni okuhlangenwe nakho ngokuhambela izinkundla zokucobelelana ngolwazi, ngokubhalisa ezifundweni eziku-inthanethi zobuhlakani bemizwa, noma ukufunda izincwadi ezikhuluma ngesayikholoji yobudlelwano.
Ithiphu yochwepheshe: Khetha incwadi yokuxhumana nabantu bese uhlela ingxoxo yamasonto onke mayelana nemininingwane yayo. Kungenjalo, bhalisela isemina yendawo noma izifundo eziku-inthanethi ndawonye. Lokhu kufunda ngokubambisana akugcini nje ngokucebisa amakhono akho kodwa futhi kuqinisa ukuzibophezela kwakho ekuguqukeni ndawonye.
Bonke labo budlelwano obudumile bukaMeyi-Disemba obubona njengoJay Z noBeyonce, uChris Pratt noKatherine Schwarzenegger, kanye no-Ellen DeGeneres noPortia de Rossi cishe bayazazi izinto okudingeka bazenze ukuze bagcine ubuhlobo babo bunempilo. Amathiphu esikubekele wona ngenhla akuzona nje izinto ongazisebenzisa uma izinto zingahambi kahle ebudlelwaneni bakho. Yizinto okufanele uzikhumbule ukuze wenze ubudlelwano bakho bube ngcono futhi bube nempilo.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
1. Yimuphi umehluko weminyaka owamukelekayo phakathi kwabashadile?
Uma kubhekwa ukuthi iqembu ngalinye elibandakanyekayo lidala kuneminyaka yemvume endaweni ohlala kuyo, ayikho inombolo 'elungile' yomehluko. Angeke kube khona igebe leminyaka phakathi kwabalingani ababili noma kungaba yiminyaka eyi-15…ngubani ongakusho? Uma isebenza, iyasebenza - igebe leminyaka noma kunjalo. Uma igebe leminyaka likhululekile kumbhangqwana, akukho nkinga. Uma kuyisibopho phakathi kwengane eneminyaka engu-18 ubudala kanye neneminyaka engu-30 ubudala, noma kunjalo, ungase ufune ukuhlola amandla aguquguqukayo ebudlelwaneni ngaphambi kokungena kubo. Noma kungaba yindaba 'yokuqeqesha' umuntu omncane.
2. Ingabe ubudlelwano busebenza ngegebe elikhulu lobudala?
Yebo, bayakwenza. Iminyaka yobudala iyisici esisodwa phakathi kwezinye ebudlelwaneni, njengokukhetha komuntu siqu, isimiso, umndeni, kanye nephrofayili yomsebenzi. Njengalezi zici, iminyaka idinga ukunakekelwa njengazo zonke ezinye izinto ezenza ubuhlobo.
3. Ingabe imishado kaMay-December iyahlala?
Yebo, bayakwenza. Noma yini ihlala isikhathi eside uma imibhangqwana inquma ukuyenza ihlale isikhathi eside. Yiqiniso, kufanele nikhumbule izinkinga ezivamile umshado odlula kuzo futhi niqonde ukuthi yonke imishado ihilela umzamo omkhulu wokuyigcina iqinile.
4. Kungani kubizwa ngoMay-December ezothando?
Kubizwa 'ngoMeyi-Disemba' ezothando ukukhombisa ukuthi ubudlelwano bufaka igebe elikhulu lobudala. Ngokwezinkondlo ezengeziwe, inyanga kaMeyi kufanele isho intwasahlobo, ukuqonda, kanye nengqondo enethemba. Inyanga kaZibandlela kuthiwa isho ubusika, ukuhlakanipha nokuvuthwa.
Izikhombi Ezibalulekile
- Njenganoma yibuphi obunye ubudlelwano, ubudlelwano bukaMeyi noDisemba budinga isisekelo esiqinile sothando, ukwethembana, ukwesekwa, inhlonipho nozwela
- Ningagxambukeli ezimpilweni zomunye kakhulu, vumela umlingani wakho aphile futhi uzame ukumamukela kakhulu
- Igebe lobudala alisho ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho buyophela, kungase kube ikhwalithi engcono kakhulu ngakho. Thola amandla akho futhi usebenze kuma-kinks owashanela ngaphansi kombhoxo
Imicabango Final
Sekuyisikhathi sokuqagela, kodwa ngethemba nethemba. Uma uzozibandakanya nomuntu onegebe elibalulekile leminyaka yobudala, kucabange njengenhlangano yezinyathelo ezimbili ezibalulekile kulolu hambo esilubize ngempilo. Uma singletons nge apprehensions mayelana ukuphola othile omdala bebefunda lokhu, nje imbibe lokho engikusho ekuqaleni - uthando is ageless.
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Umnikelo wakho awuyona iminikelo yokusiza . Kuzovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolusesikhathini njengoba sifuna ukusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
