Umfazi Omdala Endabeni Nensizwa Encane Emsebenzini

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Imibhangqwana kaMeyi-December iyaqhubeka nokuheha amashiya aphakanyisiwe, amehlo anemibuzo, nemibuzo ethintekayo nezeluleko ezivela emndenini nakubangane. Lokhu kuthambekela kwandisa kaningi uma kuyindaba yowesifazane osekhulile ejola nensizwa. Uma kuwumsebenzi phakathi kwalaba ababili, ungacabanga nje isihogo esivuswayo.

Nokho, inhliziyo ifuna lokho ekufunayo, ngezinye izikhathi yenza abantu benze izinto ezingezona isimilo. Le ndaba yowesifazane onomoya ophansi ongena ebudlelwaneni bendawo yokusebenza nomuntu ofundelwayo, omncane kuye ngeminyaka eminingi, yenza iphuzu elibalulekile. Qhubeka ufunda ukuze uthole ukuthi lolu daba lwesalukazi esishisayo lwaqala kanjani, futhi lwehlisa imihlathi yawo wonke umuntu phansi.

Indaba Ethakazelisayo Yowesifazane Ophumelele Ukujola Nensizwa Encane Emsebenzini

Okuqukethwe

WayenguPratibha, oguqula amehlo, futhi intombazane ekhanga kakhulu eqenjini lami. Ayimncane kakhulu, ithinta i-40, futhi isebenza kahle kakhulu emsebenzini, futhi ibukeka kubo bonke ababefuna ubuhle. Ngokushesha waduma eqenjini futhi sasiba nesikhathi esimnandi njalo lapho eqhulula amahlaya akhe - ayesenza amahora ethu ehhovisi ayisicefe abekezeleleke kakhudlwana.

Abafana abaningi bazama ukumshaya, kodwa wenza ngendlela ebonisa ukuthi wayengabuqondi ubuqili babo imigqa yokuqoqa. Kodwa wayazi. Ukukhophoza ezihlathini kanye nokugigitheka kwakhe okuthakazelisayo kwakukhipha. Kwasikitaza okubomvana ukuzwa nje esebenzisa igama elithi ucansi kancane futhi sonke sahleka kakhulu. Wayazi ukuthi uyisibani sehhovisi futhi umnikazi walo. Ngokushesha, wayesenendawo ethambile kuzo zonke izinhliziyo zethu, futhi sasingenakucabanga ukuthi sizosebenza nsuku zonke ngaphandle kwakhe lapho.

owesifazane oshadile ukhangwa insizwa — Ukukhangwa kazibuthe kungakwenza uphonse ukuqapha emoyeni

Indaba yomshado wakhe

Wathandana futhi wathandana nomfana ekolishi futhi nakuba babevela emiphakathini ehlukene, ngokushesha bashada ngezibusiso zemindeni yomibili. Phakathi nonyaka bazinza kahle futhi umyeni wakhe ohlakaniphile, naye owayeyisoka elibukekayo, ngokushesha waphakama waba inhloko yezwe.

Nakuba babengabashadikazi abanamandla, yabo ngokushesha umshado waphenduka ongenalo uthando. Ngemva kokuba nengane bobabili baba matasa kakhulu ukuze bahlangane. Wayematasa ngokunakekela indodana yabo. Umyeni wakhe waba kude futhi wagxila kakhulu emsebenzini wakhe.

Okusanhlamvu okujwayelekile phakathi kwama-CEO ukuthi asebenza kanzima kangangokuthi awanasikhathi sanoma yini enye empilweni. Yingakho u-Pratibha aqala ukusebenza ngemva kokuba indodana yakhe ineminyaka engu-11. Kancane kancane, ubuhlobo bakhe baba yisicefe kakhulu, futhi wazizwa ene-claustrophobic enamathela kuleyo ndoda. Umyeni wakhe wabuyela ekhaya evela emsebenzini ngemva kwamabili futhi wayekhathele engakwazi ukwenza lutho ngaphandle kokulala. Kancane kancane, ucansi lwalungasekho ekuphileni kwabo.

Kodwa wayengeke ahlale phansi azibhuqe usuku lonke. Wayengowesifazane onezidingo, futhi ngokushesha noma kamuva, wayezimisele ukuthola ayekufuna futhi okumfanele. Lo muzwa wokungeneliseki wabeka inkundla yokuthandana nensizwa, engazi nokuthi isendleleni. Uma ucabanga ngakho, indaba yakhe ayihlukile kakhulu kweyanoma yimuphi omunye wesifazane oshadile okhangwa izinsizwa.

Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Umaqondana Wami Uyangihlola

U-Pratibha waqala ukudlala ngothando nomfundi

Eqenjini, besiqaphela ukuthi uthandeka ngokwedlulele kodwa besingazilungiselelanga okwalandela. Ngesikhathi sokuphuma kweqembu, sonke besidansa saneliseke, kulapho-ke okwenzeka khona esingakulindele. U-Pratibha wayedlala ngothando nomfundi owayesanda kungena ngesonto eledlule. Futhi njengoba ukuchichima kotshwala, umculo, nokudansa kwafinyelela ophahleni, sasazi—“ukushisa kwakuvutha”.

Maduze, i ukudlala ngothando okungenangozi yaphenduka iseshini yokuzenzela, futhi wonke umuntu washaqeka. Bekungokokuqala ukuthi kwenzeke into efana nalena phakathi kwabantu basendaweni yethu yokusebenza. Lapho owesifazane oshadile eshaya umfana omncane, wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi kuhlobene nocansi. Mhlawumbe uthando luzoshaya umoya kamuva, kodwa ukuphuthuma kungokokwanelisa umzimba. Besikwazi kahle lokhu, yingakho singamangalanga izehlakalo ezalandela.

Ukufunda okuhlobene: Othandweni Nowesifazane Oshadile

Baphenduke undabamlonyeni ehhovisi

Akuphelanga sikhathi zabe sezingundabamlonyeni ehhovisi, phela kunzima ukubhebhana nomuntu osebenza naye kuQT. Kodwa-ke, wonke umuntu wayemanqikanqika futhi engakhululekile ukuyiveza phambi kwabo. Nabo babebonakala behileleke kakhulu komunye nomunye bengasenandaba nokuhlebezwa ngemuva.

Ngolunye usuku esimisweni sethu sasekuseni sokuhleba, omunye engisebenza naye wangibuza ukuthi ngicabangani ngobuhlobo bukaPratibha nensizwa ethile. Njengenjwayelo, ngenza amazwi avamile afana nokuthi “Kuhle kubo” nokuthi “Ake sibone ukuthi kwenzekani”. Bengilungile ngakho kodwa bonke abantu abashadile babexabene. Bamehlulela futhi bamhlambalaza ngokungapheli. Umfundi oqeqeshelwa umsebenzi, ngakolunye uhlangothi, wazitholela “umfundi” wokuba nesikole ukubhebhana nowesifazane omdala.

Ngokushesha, le nhlebo yasakazeka njengomlilo wequbula, futhi wonke umuntu wayenokuthile ngowesifazane oshadile ojola nozakwabo. Umfundi omusha wayeneqhude futhi engavuthiwe—wonke umuntu wayazi ukuthi wayengacabangi ngemiphumela yezenzo zakhe. Okwamanje, wayejabulela konke ukunakwa, futhi-ke, ubuhle bokuthandana nowesifazane osekhulile.

Khona-ke, konke kwehlela phansi

Ngenkathi behlakaniphile ehhovisi, ngaphandle, baziphatha njengentsha esanda kuthanda. Ukugigitheka, ukudlala ngothando, nokunethezeka kwase kuqalile ukuphephuka izimpaphe ezimbalwa. Ngangazi ukuthi yonke into yokujola nensizwa eceleni ngesikhathi isashadile yayingeke iphele kahle. Ngokushesha, sazi ukuthi umyeni wayeqashe i-PI (Umphenyi Wangasese) ukuze aqoqe ubufakazi bokujola kukaPratibha nomuntu asebenza naye.

Kwaqala ingxoxo entsha futhi i-CEO yathembisa ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomkakhe. Wawabona amaphutha akhe, kanjalo naye. Benza izinqumo ezihlakaniphile gcina umshado wabo futhi yanquma ukuzisebenzisa ngaphandle kokulibala. Wakhetha ukudluliselwa kwelinye ihhovisi waqhubeka nokuba isisebenzi esiyisibonelo njengoba ayenguye. U-stud, ngakolunye uhlangothi, wavumela isicelo somshado futhi washaywa. Wacindezelwa abazali bakhe ukuba ashade futhi aqale umndeni.

Ngemva konyaka, ngahlangana nabo ngokwehlukana, emcimbini wasehhovisi, futhi ngabona ukuthi i-stud yayizinzile ekuphileni komshado futhi yakhuluphala! Wayesemuhle futhi ejabule—phela kwakungenxa nje yocansi oluncane. Wayesazimisele, eqinile, futhi ehlala ekuthola akufunayo.

Isifundo Ngezingozi Zezindaba Zasemsebenzini

ukujola nomuntu osebenza naye — Indaba yasemsebenzini ingaba iresiphi yenhlekelele

Ukuthandana kukaPratibha nomuntu asebenza naye kunikeza izifundo ezibalulekile ngezingozi zezindaba zasemsebenzini. Nakuba izinto zimhambela kahle—wakwazi ukuhlenga umshado wakhe nomsebenzi wakhe, indlela yezindaba zasemsebenzini ayivamile ukuhamba kahle lokhu. Kokunye, ukusinda othandweni futhi ukwakha kabusha umshado ngemva kwawo akuwona umsebenzi olula. Khona-ke, kunengozi yokufaka engozini umsebenzi nedumela lomuntu lomsebenzi. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, izinkinga zokuthandana nensizwa lapho usashadile. Kuyindlela yokwenza inhlekelele.

Nokho ngenxa yesilingo esande kangaka, ukungathembeki manje sekuphenduke inkemba yangempela yaseDamaseku elenga phezu kobudlelwane obuningi. Ungase ucabange ukuthi awukwazi ukukhaphela ukwethenjwa komlingani wakho, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi izimo zingakucindezela ukuba wenze izinto owawucabanga ukuthi awucabangeki. Uma kwenzeka uzithola usesimweni esifanayo, kufanele wazi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuvikela izithakazelo zakho. Ukuze sifeze lokho, ake sibheke okumelwe ukwenze nokungafanele uphole nensizwa lapho ushadile:

Amabili	Ungenzi
1. Cacisa izinhloso zakho: Ngaphambi kokuba ungene ebudlelwaneni nensizwa, setha futhi usho okulindelwe ngokucacile. Angase afune okuthile okungathi sína kanti wena awufuni, noma ngokuphambene nalokho. Lokhu kungenza ukuba isibalo esivele siyinkimbinkimbi sibe nzima nakakhulu. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi ucace mayelana nenhloso yakho	2. Thola ukuphelelwa isineke: Khumbula ukuthi bonke ubudlelwano, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bubucayi kangakanani noma bukhululekile kangakanani, bunokuphakama nokwehla kwabo. Kumele ubekezele kumlingani wakho futhi ungachithi iziphakamiso nemibono yakhe. Ukuthi mncane akusho ukuthi imibono yakhe ayisebenzi
2. Qonda izinga lakhe lokuvuthwa: Njengoba esemncane, angase angalingani nawe ngezinga lokuvuthwa nolwazi lwakho. Awufuni ukunamathela nomuntu onamathelayo futhi ongavuthiwe ngokomzwelo. Yazi ukuthi ungena kuphi ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ukuthandana nomuntu omncane kunawe	2. Ungahloniphi: Ubudala iyinombolo nje. Iminyaka yakhe ayisona isizathu sokuthi ungamhloniphi. Bonke ubudlelwano budinga ukwethenjwa nenhlonipho
3. Cabanga ngemiphumela: Uma uphola nensizwa lapho ushadile noma usebudlelwaneni obuzibophezele, cabangisisa ngemiphumela. Uma kwenzeka, udaba luvela obala, lungakubiza ubudlelwano obuhlala njalo, obuzinzile. Ingabe leyo yinto oyilungiselele?	3. Shiya umzila wedijithali: Akukho lutho oluke lususwe emhlabeni obonakalayo. Nakuba ukuphola nensizwa kungase kujabulise futhi kungase kukwenze ufune ukuhlola, ungalahli ukuqapha. Ngaphambi kokuthi ungene endleleni yokuthumela imiyalezo yocansi noma ukwabelana ngobunqunu, cabanga ngemiphumela yalokhu okuqukethwe kuba sesidlangalaleni

Imicabango Final

Owesifazane osemusha oxhumene naye kwezothando kwaziwa ukuthi unothando futhi uyajabulisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuyenga kwesithelo esenqatshelwe, kanye nokuba nokwenzeka kobuhlobo obungaphandle komshado nensizwa kungase kube ukuhlanganiswa okunekhanda ongeke ukwazi ukumelana nakho. Uma uzithola usesimweni esinjalo, qhubeka ngokuqapha futhi uhlakaniphe ngendlela osingatha ngayo lesi siphepho esenzeka. Enye indlela enhle yokuqinisekisa ukuthi awukhukhulwa yimizwa exakile iwukuba ungalahlekelwa umbono walokho okusengozini. Hlaziya amathuba bese unquma ukuthi ukujola nensizwa kuyakufanelekela yini.

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