"Ngeke kube khona ulwazi ngaphandle kwemizwelo. Singase silazi iqiniso, kodwa kuze kube yilapho sizwe amandla alo, akusilo okwethu. Ekuqondeni kobuchopho kufanele kwengezwe ulwazi lomphefumulo."
- U-Enoch Arnold Bennet, umbhali (Kucashunwe kuGoleman & Cherniss, 2001)
Ubuhlakani bomzwelo, okwaziwa nangokuthi i-quotient yemizwa noma i-EQ, ukuvuma nokulawula imizwa - eyethu neyabanye. Ngakho-ke, ukubaluleka kobuhlakani bomzwelo ebudlelwaneni kubalulekile, njengoba imizwa iyisisekelo lapho sakha khona ukuxhumana komuntu siqu.
Ukuzuza ukuqonda kangcono okufanayo, sinaye umeluleki namuhla Sabatina N. Sangma. Uneziqu ze-masters kuMsc. Psychology (Psychological Counseling) kanye neDiploma in Transformational Psychotherapy (Regression Therapy) kanye neDiploma in Community Health Health. Uphinde aqeqeshwe ezindleleni eziningi zokwelapha ezifana ne-Play therapy kanye ne-REBT. Ngosizo lwakhe, masifunde mayelana nobuhlakani bemizwa nokuthi bungathuthukisa kanjani ubudlelwano.
Ukubaluleka Kokuhlakanipha Kwemizwelo
Okuqukethwe
“Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uDaniel Goleman sichaza ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo ‘njengekhono lokubona, ukuqonda nokulawula imizwelo yethu kanye nemizwa yabanye,’” kusho umeluleki. Sabatina.
“Ngikholelwa ukuthi ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo kuyikhono lokuxhumana nathi futhi lapho sikwazi ngokwengeziwe ukuxhumana nathi, yilapho sikwazi ukubhekana kangcono nemizwelo yethu kanye nabanye. Njengoba abantu ngokuvamile bengayiqapheli imizwelo yabo noma indlela abazizwa ngayo, baqeda ubuhlobo njengoba bengakwazi ukuxhumana nabantu ngendlela ebonisa uzwela,” kunezela uSabatina.
Ngokombiko othile ukutadisha, U-37% wokwaneliseka emshadweni ubikezelwa ngobuhlakani bemizwa, okusho ukuthi, ukutholwa nokufunda kwe-EQ kubalulekile ebuhlotsheni bothando/bomshado.
USabatina uyachaza, “Ngokwandisa ukuhlakanipha kwethu ngokomzwelo, siyakwazi ukubona indlela esiziphatha ngayo, ukuze sikwazi ukusingatha imizwelo yethu. Ngokwakha ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo, siyakwazi ukuxhumana nabanye kangcono. Uma siqonda ukuthi imicabango yethu idala imizwelo yethu, siyoba sendaweni engcono yokusingatha izingxabano futhi senze izinqumo ezingcono ekuphileni. Lapho sisondelana ngokwengeziwe nezidingo zabanye ngokomzwelo, siyoba sesimweni esingcono kakhulu sokusingatha izingxabano.”
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"Kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa ukuhlakanipha kwethu ngokomzwelo njengoba imibhangqwana ehlakaniphe ngokomzwelo ikwazi ukuqonda kangcono ubudlelwano babo; bayazazi izindima zabo kanye nobunikazi babo njengombhangqwana nokuthi yini ebangela ukungaboni ngaso linye ebudlelwaneni. Kusenza siqaphele izinguquko kithina noma kwabanye. Abantu bayakwazi ukukhuthaza ukuzinza nokuzwana ngokusebenzisa ubuhlakani bomzwelo ebudlelwaneni," kuchaza uSabatina.
“Abantu abangenakho ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni babo akuvamile ukuba bazi ukuthi bathini noma bangathini.” Bangase bakhulume into enganaki bengazi, engase ilimaze omunye umngane womshado.” Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho kuntuleka ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo, imibhangqwana iyogcina ihlanzekile. ukugxeka komunye nomunye ngaso sonke isikhathi uma kukhona okungahambi kahle.
Futhi, uma kungabikho ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo ebuhlotsheni, omunye umlingani angase akuthole kuyinselele ukuqaphela indlela omunye umlingani azizwa ngayo, ukuveza noma ukuhlonipha izidingo ezingokomzwelo. Futhi lezi zingase zidale izinkinga phakathi kobuhlobo. Mhlawumbe umlingani oyedwa ukuthola kunzima ukwamukela ukugxekwa. Eqinisweni, umlingani angase akuthole kuyinselele ukuxazulula izingxabano futhi abe nenkinga yokukhulumisana nabathandekayo.
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Izinhlobo ezi-5 Zobuhlakani Bomzwelo
Ubuhlakani bemizwa bungahlukaniswa ngama-elementi angu-5. Lezi zingaphinde zibizwe ngezingxenye zobuhlakani bemizwa futhi zihlukaniswa ngale ndlela:
1. Ukuzazi
"Iphuzu lokuqala lobuhlakani bemizwa ukuzazi - sidinga ukuqaphela ukuthi sisabela kanjani ezimweni nokuthi sibhekana kanjani nazo," kusho uSabatina. “Ukuba nolwazi olulinganiselwe kuholela ekuphazamisekeni, ezingxabano kanye amaphutha okuxhumana. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuze sizijwayeze ukuzazi, singazibuza 'Ingabe ngikhuluma kahle nomngane wami womshado?' Kufanele siziqonde ngokucacile izimo kanye nekhono lokuxoxa ngezinto ezizoholela ebuhlotsheni obungcono.”
2. Ukuzilawula
Ukuzithiba kusisiza ukuba siqonde imizwa yethu kanye nemiphumela yezenzo zethu. Kusenza siqonde indlela umzimba wethu osabela ngayo emizweni. Uma umuntu ekwazi ukulawula imizwa yakhe kukhuthaza izinqubo zokucabanga ezingcono,” kuchaza uSabatina.
I-3. Isisusa
Ubudlelwano obunobuhlakani obuphakeme obungokomzwelo abushukunyiswa izici zangaphandle, kodwa yizindinganiso nezisusa zangaphakathi. Njengesibonelo, emhlabeni webhizinisi, lesi sikhuthazo esingaphakathi kungaba ukuba nezinhloso zakho kanye nezinkomba zokusebenza ezibalulekile.
Ngokufanayo, lapho wenza ubuhlakani bemizwa ebudlelwaneni, awugqugquzelwa indlela abantu abakubona ngayo njengombhangqwana bese udala owakho. 'amagoli amabili' ngokobuntu bakho kanye nohlobo lobudlelwano obufunayo.
4. Uzwela
“Ukuba nozwela kuyiphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu lapho usekela umlingani wakho.” Uzwela luwukuqonda izidingo zomunye umuntu kanye nezifiso zakhe, nokubazisa ngalokho abayikho.” Ukuntula uzwela ngabathandekayo bethu kungaba yingozi ebuhlotsheni ngakho kufanele kuxazululwe,” kusho uSabatina.
5. Amakhono omphakathi
Njengoba sikhuluma ngendlela osabela ngayo kubantu, amakhono okuxhumana nabantu ayingxenye enkulu yobuhlakani bemizwa. Futhi, lokhu kuvame ukusetshenziswa ezimweni zezenhlalo nezebhizinisi, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu nasebudlelwaneni obujulile bemizwa.
Izenzo ezilula ezifana nokugcina uthintana namehlo, ukuqaphela amakhono omphakathi womlingani wakho, noma ukukhathazeka komphakathi, ukulalela okukhuthele kanye nokunyakaza komzimba, konke kuyizici uma kuziwa ekusebenziseni ubuhlakani bomuntu ngokomzwelo ebuhlotsheni.
Ungakunquma Kanjani Ubuhlakani Bomzwelo Kumlingani?
Manje njengoba sesihlanganise izinhlobo zobuhlakani bemizwa abantu abangazibonisa, kungase futhi kube usizo ukuqonda ukuthi umuntu anganquma kanjani ubuhlakani bemizwa kumlingani. Ingabe umlingani wakho unobuhlakani bomzwelo ngempela noma cha? Ingabe nobabili nisendleleni efanele uma kuziwa kulobu budlelwano? Ingabe kukhona okufanele ukulungise?
Nazi izinkomba ezimbalwa okufanele uzikhumbule lapho uzama ukunquma ubuhlakani bomzwelo kumlingani wakho. Uma lezi sezihlolile, awudingi ngempela ukuzihlupha ngale mibuzo engenhla kakhulu. Kodwa uma bengakwenzi, cabanga ngengxenye elandelayo yalesi sihloko ukuze ikuqondise ngokuqhubekayo.
Ukunquma ubuhlakani bomzwelo kumlingani, cabangela lokhu okulandelayo:
- Baphethe amaphutha abo: Uma umuntu ewavumela kalula amaphutha akhe esikhundleni sokugxeka futhi aqhubekisele phambili ingxabano, kusho ukuthi uyazazi. Lena ikhwalithi enhle ukuba nayo kumuntu futhi iwuphawu lobuhlakani bemizwa
- Abanamathele: Ukuba muhle, ukuthumela imibhalo emnandi futhi ngikufice ngakho konke izinhlobo zokuqabula zonke izinto ezinhle okumelwe zenziwe ebudlelwaneni futhi akuzona izimpawu zokunamathela. Kodwa uma beqhubeka nokucasuka uma ungaziphenduli izingcingo zabo uma usemsebenzini noma bethanda ukulwa uma ukhansela izinhlelo, ungase ube nophathina obambelelayo ezandleni zakho. Uma lokho kungezwakali njengesoka noma intombi yakho, umlingani wakho uhlakaniphile ngokomzwelo
- Babeka imingcele emihle yomuntu siqu: Kubo bonke ubudlelwano, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubangani, umndeni noma izithandwa, umuntu okhaliphile ngokomzwelo uhlale ebeka imingcele emihle ebuhlotsheni. Abavumeli abantu badlule imizwa yabo noma bathatheke kalula
- Abacabangi ngokweqile futhi balungise izinto: Umuntu okhaliphile ngokomzwelo uyadabuka futhi alimale ngendlela efanayo nathi. Kodwa bavame ukukwazi ukuqhubekela phambili ezintweni ezingcono. Banesikhathi se-moping, kodwa ngokuvamile bagxuma basuka kuso ngokushesha futhi baqale ukugxila kwezinye izinto
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“Ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo kungatholwa noma nini ekuphileni.” Noma yiluphi uhlobo lokufunda ludinga ukuqonda, ngakho kudingeka siqaphele ukuthi yisiphi isici sokuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo okufanele sisebenzele kuso,” kusho uSabatina.
Ukuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bomzwelo ebudlelwaneni kuthatha isineke nesikhathi - i-EQ iyikhono okufanele usebenzele kulo njengoba wena nemizwelo yakho ishintsha futhi ivuthwa. Njengomtholampilo njengoba kungase kuzwakale, ubudlelwano obunempilo yilezo lapho imibhangqwana ithatha izinyathelo ezisebenzayo zokubane iqolo futhi izisebenzele.
Sihlanganise amathiphu athile okusebenza ngobuhlakani bemizwa, kanye nezinyathelo ezincane kodwa ezibalulekile ongazithatha ukuze wakhe ubuhlakani bemizwa ebudlelwaneni.
1. Yazisa yonke imizwa onayo ngomlingani wakho
Yebo, siyazi ukuthi ama-Beatles asitshele ukuthi uthando yikho konke okudingayo, futhi ngokuqinisekile, kubalulekile ukuthi uthando luwumzwelo oyinhloko owuzwayo ngomlingani wakho. Kodwa njengabantu abanamandla, abajulile, imizwa yethu iyashintsha, iyashintsha futhi iyashintsha.
Yebo, uzoba nemizwa eguquguqukayo engazelelwe njengokunengeka, ukucasuka, ukucasuka, njll. kumlingani wakho, futhi mhlawumbe uthuke ngayo bese uzama ukuyibeka phansi ngokushesha.
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UJenny uthi: “Sengihlale noChris iminyaka engu-7. "Manje siyathandana, kodwa kukhona izinto ezisihlanyisa omunye nomunye. Ngiyakuzonda ukuthi akakaze afike ngesikhathi, ngikubona kuwukungahloniphi. Ucabanga ukuthi ngididekile kakhulu ngokugcina isikhathi. Kunezikhathi engiye ngizibuze ukuthi uthando lwanele yini ukuvumelanisa izimpilo zethu, futhi iqiniso liwukuthi akunjalo. Bekufanele sihlale phansi futhi sivume ukuthi sonke sinemizwa emihle, futhi asikho isidingo sokubonisana. inqobo nje uma uthando lungamandla ashukumisayo.”
Kuyiqiniso elimangalisayo, kodwa asibathandi abantu esibathandayo, ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kunenqwaba yeminye imizwa esibazwelayo futhi lapho sithuthukisa ubuhlakani bemizwa ebudlelwaneni, kubalulekile ukuthi siyizwe yonke.
2. Yamukela ushintsho ebudlelwaneni bakho
Ngilubi ngoshintsho, futhi kungithatha isikhathi ukuzilungiselela nokuzivumelanisa nezimo. Uma kunzima ukuzivumelanisa nezinguquko zomuntu ngamunye, ushintsho ebudlelwaneni bothando okufanele bube ngokuzinza, lungaba nzima.
Kodwa-ke, ukumelana noshintsho ebudlelwaneni, akutheli futhi kuyingozi. Ubudlelwano buyashintsha ngokuya ngeminyaka, izimo, indawo, ukushintsha kwemisebenzi, izindaba zezempilo nezinye izinto eziningi. Ukuba nomntwana kungawushintsha umshado wakho, Ngokwesibonelo. Noma isiqalo sobudlelwano bakho kungenzeka ikakhulukazi mayelana nentshisekelo nokusondelana ngokomzimba. Njengoba niqhubeka nohambo lwenu ndawonye, ezinye izinto ezifana nobungane, ubungane nomuzwa wokubambisana zingase zithathe izintambo.
Kunokuba ube novalo lapho uqala ukubona ushintsho, vumela izinto zigeleze. Ushintsho luzoza noma uyathanda noma awuthandi, ngakho into kuphela ongayilawula lapha indlela ozulazula ngayo. Kulapho kungena khona ukusebenza ngobuhlakani bemizwa ebudlelwaneni.
Khumbula, futhi, kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zobuhlakani bemizwa futhi lokho okusebenzisayo kuya ngokuthi ukuphi ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ubuhlakani bomzwelo emshadweni buzobukeka buhlukile ekuhlakanipheni ngokomzwelo ebuhlotsheni obusha. Ungabi a lawula okuxakile; ncika oshintshweni, futhi uzomangala ukuthi izinto zilula kangakanani.
3. Funda komunye nomunye
U-Sabatina uveza ukuthi ukuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bemizwa ebudlelwaneni kuncike kakhulu ekupheni nasekuthatheni. Ukwabelana ngolwazi nolwazi lomzwelo kwenza ubuhlobo obunempilo, obungokomzwelo.
Noma yibuphi ubudlelwano obunobuhlakani obuphezulu bemizwa bubandakanya ukwazi ukuthi umlingani wakho unezingxenye zobuhlakani bemizwa okungenzeka awunabo, futhi ngokuphambene nalokho. Isibonelo, mhlawumbe ungumlaleli ongcono, kodwa bangcono ekulawuleni imizwa yabo.
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“Umlingani wami uyakuqaphela akushoyo, futhi uzama ngakho konke ukubalekela inkulumo elimazayo ngisho nalapho silwa,” kusho uJason. “Nokho, akayena umuntu onozwela kakhulu futhi akakwazi ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zami ngempela. Mina ngiphambene – ngiyaqonda ukuthi uvelaphi, kodwa futhi nginenhliziyo encane, ngakho angiqapheli ukuthi ngithini.”
UJason nomlingani wakhe bayaqaphela ukuthi kuningi okufanele bakufunde komunye nomunye, futhi bazama ukuthola amandla omunye nomunye ngaphandle kokuwela emgodini wokungazethembi. Ngomoya wokukhalipha okukhulu ngokomzwelo, baphinde bazame futhi baqinisekise ukuthi ukufunda komunye nomunye akujiki kube amandla angokomzwelo womunye nomunye.
Ukubaluleka kobuhlakani bemizwa ebudlelwaneni kumele kugcizelelwe ngesenzo, futhi ukufundana ngenkuthalo kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ongayenza.
4. Lapho wesaba, kuvume; lapho ungabaza, buza
Ukwethembeka kungenye ingxenye ebalulekile yobuhlakani bomzwelo. Vuma lapho wesaba okuthile, futhi uthembeke lapho ungaqiniseki ngezinto. Ngeke kube khona uthando olungenalo ukwesaba nokungaqiniseki, futhi udinga ukwazi ukuyiveza yomibili le mizwa ngendlela enempilo.
Khumbula, ukuthi ukubuza lapho ungabaza kuyasebenza nasemvumeni. Futhi imvume iyadingeka yonke indawo, hhayi nje ekamelweni. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukuhamba ngedeski lozakwethu kwephula ubumfihlo bakhe, buza ngaphambi kokwenza kanjalo, noma zibuze ukuthi ingabe udinga ukukwenza nhlobo.
Cacisa lokho okwesabayo, futhi. Isibonelo, uma ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni noma ukuba nakho abazali abanobuthi ikushiye novalo lokulahlwa, khuluma nomlingani wakho mayelana. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungase udinge ukwelashwa ukuze ubhekane nalokhu kwesaba, khuluma nomlingani wakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo emshadweni weminyaka engu-15, noma ebuhlotsheni obusha sha, ukwethembeka akuvamile ukuba kwehluleke.
5. Ingcweti yobuciko bokulawula izingxabano
U-Sabatina ugcizelela ukuthi ukuhlakanipha kwemizwa akukhona nje ukuvumelana ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa mayelana nokwazi indlela yokubhekana nokungqubuzana okuzokwenza ukuba khona kwakho kuzwakale njalo.
“Ubuhlakani bemizwa busho ukuxhumana ngokungqubuzana ngendlela elimaza umlingani wakho kancane,” usho kanje. Lokhu kunzima ukukwazi ngoba sonke sijwayele ukubhodla ngolaka. Nokho, amazwi angashiya izibazi ezihlala njalo, ngakho ukuhlakanipha okuncane okungokomzwelo kuhamba ibanga elide ekucabangeni lokho okushoyo.
Ubuciko bokulawula ukungqubuzana budlulela ngalé kwezakhiwo zobudlelwano. Ngisho nokuzulazula ekwehlukaneni ngendlela enobuthi obuncane ngangokunokwenzeka nokugcina uthando luphila ngisho noma ubudlelwano benu bungaphumelelanga, kungenye yezinhlobo zobuhlakani bemizwa.
Cabanga izinto ezilimazayo ongafanele neze ukuzisho kumlingani wakho. Izinto ezibabangelayo noma ezikhumbuza ukuhlukumezeka okudlule. Khona-ke, qiniseka ukuthi awuwaxoshi lawo mazwi ngisho nalapho ninengxabano eshubile. Futhi, ngokulandela ukungqubuzana okukhulu, qiniseka ukuthi wenza ukuthethelela ngenkathi ugcina imingcele enempilo.
6. Yiba umngane nesithandwa sakho
Ngimuhle kakhulu kubangani bami ukwedlula ozakwethu engithandana nabo. Ngihlanganyela nabo ubuhlobo obujulile obungokomzwelo, kodwa ngibuye ngibabone njengabantu abayinkimbinkimbi abenza amaphutha, ngibanikeze inzuzo yokungabaza, futhi ngibabize ngobumnene lapho ngicabanga ukuthi kudingekile.
Uthando lwezothando luvame ukubonakala njengengqikithi yalo lonke uthando, okusho ukuthi sinqwabelanisa okulindelwe okwengeziwe kozakwethu abathandanayo futhi siphoxekile ngokusobala lapho izinto zingahambi kahle ngendlela ebesilindele ngayo. Okuxakayo, futhi siyaphuza ekukugqamiseni lapho benenkinga.
Kuhle ukuba nezindinganiso eziphakeme zabalingani bakho. Kodwa masingakhohlwa ukuthi bangabantu futhi bazomosha futhi mhlawumbe ngeke baphile ngokuvumelana nezindinganiso zakho ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ungawafaki ezisekelweni futhi ucabange ukuthi ngeke enze iphutha. Sikulungele ukuyivumela ukuthi ishelele uma ozakwethu bethuba ngobulili noma bengenamusa.
Ukuba umngane nesithandwa sakho kusho ukuthi uyasizwa, usithengele isiphuzo uma sibe nosuku olubi futhi kwesinye isikhathi usitshele ukuthi ukugunda kwabo kubukeka kukuhle, noma ngabe ukuzonda. Ubungane, okungenani, bungcwele njengothando, uma kungenjalo, ngakho-ke masingalahleki.
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7. Qaphela futhi uzimisele
"Ukunaka kusisiza ukuthi sizigcine sizolile futhi kusisiza ukuthi sigxile, kusenze sizibone ngokwengeziwe lapho siqhuba inqubo. Kuwumkhuba lapho ugxilisa khona ukunaka kwakho esikhathini samanje, kunokuvumela okwedlule kulawule izenzo zakho," kusho uSabatina.
Kuhle ukucabanga ukuthi uthando luyinto 'eyenzeka' kithi, futhi uma sekwenzekile, konke kuzofezeka ngendlela engaqondakali. Ngeshwa, nakuba kukhona umlingo othile ohilelekile, futhi kuthatha umsebenzi, nenhloso.
Uma uqaphile futhi uzimisele ngobudlelwano bakho, ubhekisisa ukuthi yini esebenzayo nengasebenzi. Futhi, uzothatha izinyathelo zokuyilungisa, kunokulinda indawo yonke ukuthi ikwenzele yona. Leyo yingxenye enkulu yokusebenza ngobuhlakani bemizwa - empeleni ukwenza umsebenzi. Ukucabangela ebudlelwaneni kuyindlela enhle yokwenza lokhu.
“Ubuhlakani bomzwelo akukhona ukuba muhle, kunalokho kumayelana nokulawula imizwa yethu ukuze sizuze imiphumela engcono kakhulu. Lapho sisebenza ngobuhlakani bemizwa, siyakwazi ukubamba iqhaza ngenkuthalo ezokuxhumana nabantu futhi siveze imizwa yethu ngendlela eyamukelekayo emphakathini,” kuphetha uSabatina.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Ebudlelwaneni, ubuhlakani bomzwelo busetshenziswa njengethuluzi lokulawula imizwa yethu kanye nendlela esikhuluma ngayo. Kuhilela ukuletha ubuntu bethu obuhle kakhulu ebudlelwaneni ngangokunokwenzeka, kuyilapho sivuma ukuthi sizokwenza amaphutha. Ubuhlakani bomzwelo bubuye busihlomise ukuthi sikwazi ukuzulazula kulawo maphutha futhi siwanike amandla ukuxazulula izingxabano.
Ubuhlakani bemizwa busenza sibe nozwela futhi sicabangele ebudlelwaneni bethu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi senza umzamo wokuqonda ukuthi uzakwethu uvelaphi futhi siphinde sithathe izinyathelo ezisebenzayo ukuze senze ubudlelwano bethu bube ngcono, obunothando futhi bube nemingcele engcono.
Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo emshadweni kubaluleke kakhulu. Umshado, njengesikhungo, ufika nezimiso zawo eziqinile kanye nalokho okulindele okungaba umthwalo enhliziyweni yobudlelwane. Ubuhlakani bomzwelo busisiza ukuba sigxile ebuhlotsheni bethu kanye nezinjongo zomshado, futhi sibe nezilindelo ezingokoqobo.
Uthando olungokomzwelo luboniswa nakanjani ngezipho, ukugona, ukuqabula kanye ukuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye. Kodwa ukuze ubonise ngempela ezingeni elijulile, umuntu kufanele ahloniphe umlingani wakhe ngazo zonke izindleko. Leyo yindlela enkulu kakhulu yokubonisa uthando olungokomzwelo.
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Umnikelo wakho awuhlanganisi inhlangano esiza abantulayo umnikelo. Izovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolwakamuva emzamweni wethu wokusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
