Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engu-40 ubudala oshadile iminyaka engu-16 ohileleke emshadweni nasebudlelwaneni obungenabo ucansi. Bengilokhu ngikhohlisa umyeni wami eminyakeni emihlanu edlule (nendoda eshadile encane kunami). Ngisho noma ngibukeka ngineminyaka engu-30 kuphela, umyeni wami akanandaba nami.
Akakaze. Asizange sibe nempilo yocansi eyanelisayo. Eminyakeni engu-2 edlule, waze waba nokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile futhi akakhathazeki ngisho nokukuthola ukwelashwa. Ngisemshadweni ongenabulili. Sengiqomile ukuze ngibhekane nomshado wami ongenabo ubulili
Indoda engiyithandayo ingumuntu oshisayo kakhulu futhi ngiyazikhulula kuyo. Sihlangana cishe kanye ngenyanga. Iyangisiza ukusindisa umshado wami kanye nokuhluzeka kwengqondo. Umyeni wami ungubaba omuhle kakhulu nomndeni. Unginakekela kahle kakhulu kodwa uma kukhulunywa ngocansi uyangigwema.
Ngizizwa nginecala uma ngimbona enginakekela kodwa ngizithethelela uma ngithukuthelele ucansi . Ngiyabathanda bobabili abesilisa bami. Ingabe umshado ongenabo ucansi uholela ocansini? Noma ingabe kukhona okunye? Yini engingayenza ukuze nginciphise isifiso sami sobulili semvelo?
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Okuqukethwe
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Indawo ozithola ukuyo njengamanje ayijwayelekile. Imishado yabantu abangenazo ubulili ivame kakhulu kunalokho abantu abaningi abangathanda ukukuvuma. Njengoba umbhangqwana ukhula ndawonye, izinguquko zomzimba, zengqondo nezomzimba zingaqala zibe nomthelela ekuthandeni komlingani oyedwa noma bobabili, okuholela ekwehleni okuqhubekayo kwemvamisa yokuhlangana kocansi emshadweni.
Eqinisweni, inhlolovo ye-Newsweek yembule ukuthi amaphesenti ayi-15 kuya kwangu-20 ayo yonke imishado ayengenabo ubulili. I-New York Times iqinisekisile ukuthi iphinde yaphinda izibalo ezifanayo esihlokweni esilandelayo.
Ungasinda Kanjani Emshadweni Ongenazo Ucansi Ngaphandle Kokukopela
Imishado nezindaba zabantu abangenalo ucansi kuvame ukuxoxwa ngazo ngesikhathi esifanayo. Kuyaqondakala ukuthi ukuntuleka kocansi emshadweni kungaba yinto ekhungathekisa kakhulu ikakhulukazi lapho omunye wabalingani esazizwa edinga lokho.
Nokho, ukukhungatheka akulona impendulo efanele embuzweni othi 'kulungile yini ukuba nobudlelwano bobulili emshadweni ongenabo ucansi'. Kungakusiza ukuhlola izindlela zokusinda emshadweni ongenabo ucansi ngaphandle kokukopela.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi imibhangqwana eminingi ithola izindlela zayo zokusinda emshadweni ongenazo ubulili ngaphandle kokuphuma kuwo ifuna ukwanelisa ucansi.
Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo
Kufanele uhlale nawe futhi uhlele izinto eziza kuqala kuwe. Zama ukukhuluma nomyeni wakho futhi uthole ukuthi asikho yini isizathu sokuthi angazimisele ukwenza lutho mayelana nokuntula kwakhe isithakazelo ezintweni zocansi. Usho ukuthi njengamanje unenkinga yokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, mhlawumbe uzama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani engafuni ukuthola usizo lwezokwelapha ngakho.
Umzamo kufanele kube ukumenza aqonde ngobumnene ukuthi kungomunye wemithwalo yakhe yemfanelo ukunakekela izidingo zakho ezingokwenyama. Kuyisiqalo esihle sokulungisa lokho okuphukile ebudlelwaneni benu . Menze aqonde ukuthi uyamthanda futhi uyazihlonipha izinqumo zakhe futhi uzimisele ukumsekela kunoma yikuphi ukuphathwa okufanele abhekane nakho.
Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi wena nomyeni wakho nixoxisane ngobuqotho ngokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuya ocansini emshadweni komunye nomunye wenu, futhi nizame ukugcina umqondo ovulekile embonweni womunye.
Izindaba zocansi kanye nenkanuko ezintanta kwi-inthanethi zivame ukuba nesibopho sombono wokuthi umshado ongenacala uholela ezindabeni. Kulesi sigaba somshado wakho, akufanele uthonywe yile mibono yokuthi umshado kufanele ube kanjani. Yonke imishado ihlukile, futhi abantu abakuyo kuphela okufanele kube yibo abanqumayo ukuthi yini esebenzayo nengasebenzi.
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Isixazululo ekuzijabuliseni
Kulungile yini ukuba nobudlelwano bobulili emshadweni ongenabo ucansi? Ngokuqinisekile akunjalo. Akukho nkinga ebudlelwaneni engaba yisizathu esizwakalayo sokungathembeki. Ungabuyela njalo ekuziphatheni ngokushaya indlwabu ukuze wanelise izifiso zakho zocansi ngenkathi uqhamuka nendlela yakho yokubhekana nobunzima bokusinda emshadweni ongenabo ucansi.
Ukuqomisana ngaphandle komshado kuza neqoqo lakho lezinkinga futhi akucebiseki neze. Khumbula ukukala isilinganiso sezindleko nenzuzo yobudlelwano obunjalo. Okokugcina, kuzoba yisinqumo sakho kodwa kungenzeka kuthinte izimpilo eziningi.
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Konke obufuna ukukwazi ngemishado engenabulili kodwa wesaba kakhulu ukukubuza
Umnikelo wakho awuyona iminikelo yokusiza . Kuzovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolusesikhathini njengoba sifuna ukusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
“Ingabe kulungile ukujola emshadweni ongenabulili? ngokuqinisekile akunjalo.” Ngempela? Kanjani? Iphutha lapha wukucabanga ukuthi ukujola kuyasebenza, kanti ukungalali nowakwakho akusebenzi. Akulungile. Ukwenqatshwa kuyisenzo. Ukwenqatshwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, empeleni, kuwukwephulwa kokwethembeka emshadweni.
Ukwenqatshwa ngendlela ecacile uma usazi isimo futhi umthelela wako kuwukukhetha okusebenzayo, abantu abaningi abakushayi indiva, ababoni ubucayi besimo lapho abalingani babo bengakhulumi nabo ngokucacile, bayanqaba kakhulu ngenxa ye-libido yabo ephansi noma ukungazithandi okungeyona inketho esebenzayo, abalingani babo banesibopho sokuziphendulela ngezinto zomshado, ukuqaphela izinto ezicacile nezicacile mayelana nomshado. uma kungenjalo bangahlukana futhi bathole umlingani ofanelekayo , ngakho-ke yebo ukukopela kuphuca impilo yothando yabanye futhi kuyishit futhi