Kua onge te kitenga i tētahi tokorua e pānui pukapuka ana i ēnei rā, engari ki te kite koe i tētahi – i roto i tētahi pāka, i te upoko o te hoa tāne i runga i ngā waewae o tana kotiro, i roto rānei i tētahi wharekai, i a tētahi o rāua e pānui pukapuka ana ki tētahi atu – ka kite koe i tētahi taumata rerekē o te hononga i waenganui i a rāua.
He whakaaro pai te pānui pukapuka tahi ina hiahia kōrua ki te mahi i tētahi mea ngāwari engari rerekē, ngahau hoki. Engari i te tīmata anō i tētahi whakaaturanga hou i runga i a Netflix, ngana ki te tiki i tētahi pukapuka e pai ana ki a kōrua ka whakaoti tahi.
Ā, mēnā e pai ana koe ki a Agatha Christie, e pai ana tō hoa ki a Dan Brown? Kua tae ki te wā kia mutu te katoa? Kāore rawa. Engari, ka taea e ngā hoa e rua te whakawhānui ake i ō rātou tirohanga mā te whai i ngā hiahia o tētahi ki tētahi.
Ka taea e te pānui pukapuka a ngā tokorua te whakapakari i ngā whanaungatanga
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Ki te kore koe e mōhio me pēhea te tīmata ki hea, me pēhea hoki te pānui tahi hei tokorua, me whakatau tuatahi koe i tētahi momo pukapuka, kātahi ko te kaituhi. He maha ngā pukapuka ka taea e ngā tokorua te pānui tahi , ā, kāore e tika kia noho katoa ki te aroha – he maha ngā kaupapa nui e arohia ana e ngā kaituhi pērā i a Virginia Woolf rāua ko Charles Dickens, ko te wāhanga 'aroha' te kaupapa matua o te kaupapa.
Mā te pānui pukapuka tahi ka tata atu koe ki tō hoa, engari kāore koe e mōhio. Kia rumakina koe ki roto i te pūrākau, ka hiahia koe ki te hoki whakamuri. Anei ngā huarahi e whakarei ake ai te pānui pukapuka a te tokorua i ngā whanaungatanga:
- Ka Waihanga He Wā Kounga Ngātahi
- Whakanuia te Whakawhitiwhiti
- Ka Hanga Ngā Painga Tahi
- Ka Whakatenatena i te Tupu Hinengaro Ngātahi
- Ka whakarato i ngā tirohanga hou
- Ka whakapakari i te whanaungatanga ā-hinengaro
- Ka whakatairanga i te mahi tahi
- Waihanga Maumahara Pumau
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Ka taea te whakamahi i ngā kōrero pakiwaitara hei takaro
Ko te mahi, te taonga, te mātauranga, te ngākau māhaki, te whakakatakata, me te āhua o te tangata, koinei ngā āhuatanga e kitea nuitia ana i roto i te kaupapa whakatairanga hoa. Me te mea nei, ka hurahia te whata pukapuka i te wāhanga whakamutunga o te kēmu whakawai. Koinei te wāhi ka raru ai te takaro.
Ka whakaatu koe i tō mōhiotanga ki a Shakespeare, ā, ka hiahia koe kia whakakitea e tō hoa te kohinga a Jane Austen, engari ka kitea e koe ngā maheni whānui i roto i tā rātou kohinga. I tetahi atu taha, ko ngā pukapuka kōmeke Phantom anake tāu, ā, he rūma kī tonu i ngā kaitito matatika tō tō hoa. He aha rā?
"Ehara i te mea ko ngā pukapuka anake te kaupapa o te pānui tahi—engari ko te whanaungatanga."
Kaua e wehi. He momo hinengaro motuhake kei roto i ngā pukapuka, engari ka whānui haere ngā hinengaro katoa i runga i te akiaki o te aroha tahi. Kāore ianei e pai ki te whakaae, "Ko tāku anake e taea te kōrero atu ki a koe mō taku wāhanga pakiwaituhi Phantom tino pai. Hei utu, ka pai ahau ki a koe kia kōrero mai koe ki ahau mō te kaupapa o Pride and Prejudice."
He mea whakahihiri te mātauranga
E whakaae ana ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te whakama me ngā āhuatanga kāore e taea te whakataurite i ngā wā katoa: "Kāore anō ahau kia kihi. Engari e hiahia ana ahau kia mōhio koe ki tēnā, kia whakaakona hoki ahau. E hiahia ana ahau kia noho tahi taku wheako kihi tuatahi me koe." He aha e kore ai e rite te pono ki te whakaae ki te kanorau o te hiahia ki te pānui pukapuka? E whakaatu ana ngā rangahau he pai ki te tangata te hunga he maha ngā āhuatanga - te āhua o te kākahu, te taumata mātauranga, te toenga putea rānei. Heoi, ina tae ki te pānui pukapuka, he maha ngā wā ka puta ngā whakaaro ohorere.
Ehara i te mea he kuware te hunga katoa e pai ana ki te purepure. Ehara i te mea he rūpahu, he kino rānei te hunga katoa e taea te whakahua i ngā kōrero a Homer i te moenga. Ki te mea he kaipānui pukapuka nui koe, ka ātaahua tonu koe, kua ngaro kē te tohu 'koretake'. He mea whakahihiri te atamai.
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Ka nui ake tā koutou ako tetahi i tetahi
He maha ngā taumata o te kare ā-roto me te hiahia e ora ai te tangata. Ko te mea nui ki te kimi i tētahi hononga angitu ki tō hoa, ko te mōhio kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakataurite engari me maioha ki tētahi momo hinengaro rerekē. Ā, mā te pānui a te tokorua e whakarite tēnā.
Me kī atu tātou e hiahia ana koe kia ako ia mō te ataahua mutunga kore, pumau o te 9 o ngā Symphony a Beethoven. He aha koe e kore ai e hanga hei waiata mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga? Pānuihia te hītori o te waiata hei arahi i ngā wā ataahua!
Kōrero atu ki a ia ko te waiata rongonui a te Kotahitanga o Ūropi i mua i ngā whakataetae whutupaoro he wāhanga o te symphony. Mā te whakatangi i taua wāhanga, Ode to Joy, ka ohorere koe: "Kua rongo au i tērā! Kāore au i mōhio ko Beethoven!" Pā! Mā te ahurea teitei e whakaora i tētahi wā ataahua i roto i te whanaungatanga!
He tauira ira tangata tēnei. Me whakaaro he tauira noa iho tēnei, nā te mea ehara i te mea he wairangi ngā tāne katoa! Ko te whakaaro nui o te tauira, ka taea e te ahurea teitei te whakarei ake i ngā whanaungatanga, ā, ka piri ake, ka teitei ake hoki te whanaungatanga o te tokorua.
Engari he aha te ahurea teitei, e pātai ana koe? Koinei te ataahua o ēnei pātai uaua! He aha kōrua e kore ai e whakarite i tētahi rā ki te whare pukapuka? Kāore ianei e ngahau? Kōrerohia he kōrero mō Plato me te tūhura i ngā harikoa ehara i te mea mō Plato. He whakaaro whakamīharo tēnei mō te rā!
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Kāore he mutunga o ngā ariā
Ko ētahi pukapuka ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te pānui tahi he pukapuka whakahihiri, he pukapuka ngaro rānei. Kia tae atu koe ki waenganui o te whakaari katoa, ka tīmata koe ki te whakatakoto ariā me te whakapuaki i aua ariā ki tō hoa, me te rerekē hoki. He tino wera te mātakitaki i te mahi a ō rātou roro ki te whakatakoto i ngā mutunga katoa o te pukapuka, ā, kua whakaae ētahi tāngata kua tino pukuriri rātou.
Nā wai i mōhio ka maha ngā huarahi ka mutu ai te pānui pukapuka tahi…
He mahi pai te pānui pukapuka takirua hei mahi tahi mā te hunga pānui me te hunga kāore e pānui. Mena kei te mōhio kōrua ki tētahi momo pukapuka, tikina he pukapuka hou ka tūhura ngātahi i tēnei ao hou, uaua hoki. Heoi, ki te mea kāore koe e pānui, whiriwhiria he pukapuka māmā ake hei tīmatanga ki taua momo pukapuka.
FAQs
1. He aha te pukapuka pai hei pānui ngātahi mā ngā tāne me ngā wāhine?
He tino pai te waiata 'High Fidelity' a Nick Hornby mō tētahi pō whakaipoipo aroha, ā, he tino pai te waiata 'At Home' a Bill Bryson mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua neke tahi mai.
2. He aha i tika ai kia pānui tahi ngā tāne me ngā wāhine?
Mā te pānui pukapuka ngātahi ka tata atu kōrua, ā, mā te kōrero e hanga he wairua piripono, he hononga hoki e mutu ai ki te pukapuka.
"I kitea e tētahi tokorua kua reti he mura hou i roto i tō rāua whanaungatanga mā te pānui tahi i ngā pukapuka rongonui i ia ahiahi. Ko te mea i tīmata hei whakangahau noa iho, kua riro hei tikanga aroha nui i whakatata atu ai rāua, i whakatipu ai i ngā kōrero hou mō te aroha, te ora, me ō rāua maharatanga tahi."
Thoughts Final
He huarahi kaha te pānui pukapuka a te tokorua hei whakarei ake i ngā whanaungatanga, me te whakakotahi i te whakaoho hinengaro o te pānui me te piripono o ngā kare ā-roto o ngā wheako tahi. Ahakoa he tūhura i ngā ao pakiwaitara, he ruku rānei ki te tipu whaiaro, ka hangaia e te pānui tahi ngā wā o te hononga, te māramatanga, me te harikoa. Ehara i te mea ko te huri whārangi anake - engari ko te tahuri tetahi ki tetahi.
Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakapakari i tō whanaungatanga, me pānui he pukapuka ka tīmata tahi i tētahi upoko hou.
He aha te wairua whakakatakata maroke? Te mātauranga, te whakakatakata, te whakatoi rānei
Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
Ki tōku whakaaro ko ngā pukapuka tētahi o ngā huarahi pai hei whakapakari i ngā whanaungatanga. He mea pai mēnā ka pānui kōrua i ngā momo pukapuka rerekē, ka taea e kōrua te tūhura me te mōhio ki ngā mea rerekē. He mea whakamere ake tēnā. Āe?
He tuhinga ataahua, inā koa mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine taitamariki.
Āe, he pai ki taku tāne ngā pukapuka engari ko āna mea mātauranga anake. I a au e pānui ana i ngā mea katoa, 17 tau te roa, kāore ia i rerekē. Kāore ia e whakararuraru i ahau ina pānui ahau. He nui tēnā!
He tuhinga pai! He tino whakarei ake ngā pukapuka i ngā whanaungatanga 🙂