E mea ana rātou ka tutuki ngā kōrero pakiwaitara, engari ko aku kōrero i kōrerotia i ngā wā i tahaetia, i whakakahangia e ngā titiro hiahia, ā, i hangaia ki runga i te turanga onepu. I tino aroha ahau ki a ia, he tangata tauhou whakamīharo me te mowhiti marena. He mea ngaro māua, he awhiowhio hihiri e whakahē ana i ngā whakaaro noa katoa. I te matapohia e te kaha, i piri ahau ki te tumanako ka kore te "ake ake" e waiho hei moemoeā tapu. Engari ko te pono, pērā i te whitinga o te rā, i pakaru te mānukanuka. Koinei te kōrero mō te aroha kāore i tika kia pērā, he hiahia i pau i ahau, me te haerenga ako kawa me te reka e hiahia ana kia tukuna i ētahi wā.
(E ai ki te kōrero ki a Anney Sam)
I moe tahi ahau me tētahi tāne kua mārenatia i te 17 o ōku tau
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Ko taku tuatahi wheako wahine i te 17 o oku tau, ā, me kī atu ahau kāore tetahi i akiaki i ahau; he whakatau tino āta whakaarohia tēnei nāku. I te 17 o oku tau, kua tino pakeke ahau, ā, ka taea e au te kōrero ki tētahi kaiako 37-tau te pakeke me te kore whiu. Nō reira, i te wā i tupu ai - he whakawai āta haere o te hinengaro i mutu ki te moenga me tēnei wahine ataahua tane marenatiaHe tino awe ia ki ahau, ā, koinei ngā mea i akohia e au i a ia.
Te Uara o te Whānau
He pono i riro mai i ahau aku i ōku mātua, engari he mea nui tēnei tangata ki te whakaū i aua uara. Ae, i moe ia ki ahau, mō te haora, e rua rānei i te wā e takoto kau ana tōna whare. Nō reira, tera pea ka pātai koe – he aha ngā uara? Kāore ia i whakahawea ki tana wahine. I mau tonu ia ki tana aroha ki a ia, ā, ko tā rāua tama tana ao. I whakaurua ahau ki tana wahine, ā, i aroha tonu ahau ki a ia. Ko ia te tauira o te ataahua, te ataahua me te hinengaro. He Hūrai rāua, ā, i ia Paraire ka inoi rāua ko te whānau i te tina; i whai wāhi ahau i ngā wā katoa ka noho ahau ki reira. Nā te aha ahau? Tekau mā tahi ngā tau o tā rāua tama, ā, me whakaoho ake te marena, ko tāna kī rānei. I te 17 o ōku tau i te wā e taupokina ana koe e te harikoa, ā, he ahua koretake ngā tikanga matatika, kāore ō whakatau e whai i tō kāpehu matatika.
Ko te akoranga i akohia e au, ahakoa kāore tō hoa e māharahara ki te hē, me whai kaitiaki ā-roto koe. Nā te mea he kino te karma!
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Kōwhiria ngā Tāne Kaha
I kite ahau he kaha ngā tāne tūturu. Ā, he ngāwari ngā tāne kaha. I hiahia tonu ia ki te kōrero me te whakarongo, ā, ahakoa he tangata whakamā ahau, i whakamahia ahau e ia hei papa kōrero mō āna whakaaro mahi auaha, me te kōrero anō mō ngā mahi hou mō te moepuku. Waihoki, nā te mea he pūkenga ia ki te tukanga moepuku, ka taea e ia te haere tonu mō te haora, ā, kāore rawa ia e whakarērea i ahau. I āwangawanga tonu ia mō tōku oranga moepuku. I hanga anō hoki e ia tōku whakaaro ki a au anō, ā, i meinga tonu ahau kia whai mana.
I ako ahau kia kaua rawa e moe tahi mō te pō kotahi, ahakoa i roto i tōku hinengaro, nā te mea ko te kounga ka puta mai i tētahi hoa aroha mō te wā roa, e kore rawa e taea te whiwhi mai i te tangata ke i te pō.
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Tēnā koa tō tāne i te moenga
Nā taku tāne kua mārena ahau i ako ki te whakahari i a ia me ahau anō hoki. Te hiranga o te ngote pai, te aukati i a ia kia kaua e puta i te wā tika, te whakamahi i ō uaua hope/tara hei kawe i a ia ki ngā taumata o te harikoa, me te mea hoki kia arohaina ia. I ako ia i ahau ko te hiahia o roto o te tamaiti o te tāne ki te whakamarie i te wā kotahi e whakaharikoahia ana ia. Āe, he wahine kairau, ahakoa he wahine rangatira.
Me tino mōhio te tangata ki tōna ake tinana kia taea ai e ia te aroha me te huatau, te ataahua, me te tino ātaahua o te ira tangata. Inaa, ko te āhua anake he 1% o te mea nui.
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Kaua rawa e whakawhirinaki ki tētahi tāne!
Ko te tangata e tinihanga ana i tana wahine, ka tinihanga anō hoki ia i a koe. I kitea e au kei te tinihanga ia i ahau me tana wahine – he mea pōuri, me tētahi atu kōtiro nō tana akomanga MBA. Nā tēnā ahau i tino mārama ai. I kitea e au tētahi atu hoa nō taku akomanga – mō te moepuku noa iho.
He akoranga i akohia - kaua rawa e piri ki tō hoa tāne kua moe tāne - ina koa, ki te taea e koe te āwhina, ki tētahi atu tāne.
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He mea miharo te mōhio i te 17 tau te pakeke?? Engari, he mea nui ake te pakeketanga i te pakeketanga. Kāore?
Ā, he pono, he tikanga pai te whakapau kaha, ā, e kore e rerekē i ia tangata, i ia āhuatanga rānei. Ko te tinihanga ki tētahi he tinihanga ki te katoa.
Ki taku titiro, i taua wā iti nei, ina tino māharahara te kōtiro mō tōna ake tinana, ā, kāore anō kia kitea ngā tini āhuatanga o ia anō, he tino ngāwari te kukume atu ki te tāne e whakaatu ngāwari ana i a ia anō he haumaru, he kare ā-roto, he hinengaro, he moepuku hoki. E mōhio ana tātou, kāore taua whai wāhi e arahi ki tētahi ūnga. Engari i whiriwhiria e te kōtiro te tango i tana ake wāhi ako mai i tēnei whai wāhi, ka taea e ia te whakamahi i roto i tōna ao. (Ahakoa ko te angitu o ana akoranga kei runga i ngā kōwhiringa e mahia ana e ia) Ā, mō te tāne, he mārama he polyamorus ia. Ā, ehara i te mea kotahi te polyamorus me te tinihanga. Me tātari tātou i ngā āhuatanga hohonu ake, uaua ake hoki e pā ana ki aua tuakiri.
Ko wai kei te kōrero ki a wai? Ngā mahi kua whakaroahia?
E Sandip, kua 58 tau te pakeke inaianei, ki taku whakaaro i tino tinihangatia te kōtiro e te tāne kua mārenatia. Nō reira, e whakaae ana ahau. Ko ngā whakatau kino ka puta mai i ngā āhuatanga kino.
Kaua e whakapae i te tangata, ko koe anō hoki te he, ā, kaua e hamama mō te tinihanga, e te kuware…..whakaarohia te pai i te tuatahi, kātahi ka whakapae i ētahi atu….ā, ka riro ngā mea nui ki te reinga.
He tangata te hē. Engari ko te tāne kua moe tāne, te āhua nei kāore ia e hiahia ana ki te hē. He mārama noa iho i tinihanga ia i tana wahine hei whiringa māna. Ki ahau nei, he tangata tinihanga ia, he tangata hiahia, ā, i whakamahi i te hiahia o tētahi taiohi 17 tau te pakeke. I whakarite hoki ia kia noho hoa te kōtiro ki tana wahine, kia kore ai ia e ngana ki te wawahi i tā rāua marena.
Tērā pea koinei te tūāpapa mō ētahi atu whakatau hē a te kōtiro ā muri ake nei.
He rite tō reo ki tētahi tangata tino pōuri, rawakore hoki. Tērā pea ka homai e te ao tūroa tētahi wahine māu hei whakatutuki i ō hiahia hinengaro me ō hiahia tinana mā te whakaharikoa ā-waha.
E Tanmoy, me āwhina koe!
Ko te whanaungatanga i waenganui i te kaiako me te ākonga he whakawhirinaki pumau me te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi. Kāore he rerekētanga i waenganui i ngā mātua, ngā tamariki, me te guru, e sisya. Mā te whakamahi i ngā kōrero whakaiti ka ea ai tōku riri engari he tika tō wāhi ki te reinga. Kāore he tāne pai e tika ana kia whiwhi wāhine pērā i a koe. He whakarihariha, he whakarihariha hoki. Kei te memeha haere tō mātou whakapono ki ngā whanaungatanga katoa nāu.