Ko te moe tāne i waho o te whanaungatanga piripono tētahi o ngā āhuatanga tino mamae ka pā ki te tokorua. Haunga te takahi i te mana motuhake o te moepuku, ka huri te tinihanga o te whakawhirinaki hei patunga mata e whakararuraru ana i te whanaungatanga. Heoi, e ai ki te American Association mo te Marena me te Haapori Whanau, 25 ōrau o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i roto i ngā hononga pumau mō te wā roa ka pāngia e te puremu. Nā tēnei ka tino hira te mārama ki te hanganga o tētahi hononga. Ko tēnei mēra i riro mai i ahau mai i tētahi tāne e toru tekau mā rua tau te pakeke, e mahi ana i te hangarau mōhiohio i tētahi kamupene hokohoko nui, e noho ana i tō mātou tāone matua, i Delhi, e tuku ana i ngā māramatanga nui mō te tīmatanga me te mutunga o ngā hononga.
Me karanga ia ko Tarun. Mai i ngā mea i tae mai i roto i te mēra, i kite ahau he pai tana utu, he pai tana tikanga, ā, he tangata pai tonu ia. Pērā i te nuinga o ngā tāne ira tangata o ēnei rā, kua pāngia a Tarun e te whakaipoipo me ngā mamae o te ngākau i mua i tana kitenga i te tangata. kotahiE toru tau ki muri tēnā.
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I tuhituhi ia: Ko taku pāti takakau. I whakatoi mai aku hoa takakau ki ahau – kua mutu taku herekoretanga; ngā mekameka me ngā pōro, koinei te kaupapa o te marena; he oranga whakangā, koinei te mea e anga atu ana koe; me ērā atu. I menemene noa ahau i roto. Ko ia te wahine o aku moemoeā, ā, ka noho tahi māua mō te toenga o tōku ao, he aha atu anō taku e hiahia ai?
Kāore ianei te marena i te whanaungatanga tino nui o ō māua oranga? I titiro ahau ki ētahi o aku hoa tinihanga tokorua i taua pāti. Mai i te āhua o rātou, i mārama ko te ngā hua o ngā mahi kāore i te tino pai. Ko tētahi, i huraina tana mahi pōrearea i te marama kua pahure, ā, ko tētahi, ko tana āwangawanga nui ko te aroturuki i ngā kōrero teka i kōrerotia e ia i ngā taha e rua.
Kua tata te wehenga o te wahine tuatahi, ā, e rapu tohutohu ana. Te āhua nei he iti iho ō rāua tikanga. I puta mai te āhua o taku kōtiro i mua i ōku kanohi, ā, ka pā mai he ngaru hohonu o te tika i roto i ahau. E kore rawa ia e noho i roto i ngā hu o ā rāua wahine!
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'E kore tēnei e pā ki a tātou'
He atamai taku kōtiro, he ātaahua, he mātau, ā, he pai tana mahi. I mahi ia i tētahi umanga ture umanga tata. He maha ngā wā i tūtaki ai māua i te CCD o te rohe, ā, i whakaaro māua he āhua rerekē māua. kua whakaritea kia noho tahiAhakoa i whakatau māua kia āta haere, i te mutunga o ngā marama e ono, i mōhio māua kua hangaia māua mō tētahi ki tētahi. He rite ā māua whakaaro mō te ao, i hiahia māua ki te haereere i te ao me te tango tamariki i tētahi wā i roto i ō māua tau whā tekau!
I aroha ia ki ahau. I tino aroha ahau ki a ia. I whakaoti māua tetahi i tetahi.
I uru atu ahau ki te rohe o te harikoa o te marena – te ngākau māhaki ki te moe tāne, te tohatoha i ngā ngoikoretanga, me te oati ki te tiaki me te tiaki i tetahi. He tino whai hua ngā wā whakaipoipo. Nāku i titiro whakamuri, ka taea e au te kī nā te kaha o te aroha i ngāwari ai te noho tāne me tetahi! E mahara ana ahau ki te pātai ki ētahi o ōku hoa: He aha te take e hiahia ai tetahi ki te tinihanga?
He raru i roto i te pararaiha
E rua tau ki muri, kua tino rerekē te horopaki, ehara i te mea he pikinga nui, engari he iti noa iho ngā wāhanga. Kua memeha te aroha i te mea ka piki haere te mōhiotanga me te pēhanga mahi. Ka mātao haere te moepuku, ā, ka noho ko te "kua-haere-ki-te-mahi-i-tērā!" hei hoa kai noa iho, ā, i whai ngā haerenga o te Rātapu i ngā mahi o ia rā.
I pupuri māua i ngā mea riri iti o tētahi ki tētahi. He mea i mua i whakaarohia e māua he kore noa iho, ko ngā tautohe iti i arahi ki te moepuku pai, engari i huri hei mea kāore i te tino pai. Kāore he mea kino rawa atu; engari kāore he mea whakahihiri. I haere tahi te ora me te auau o ia rā.
Engari kua noho māua hei kotahitanga, i roto i te tikanga tūturu o te kupu. I whakatau tahi māua i ngā whakataunga nui me ngā whakataunga iti, ā, ko māua ngā kupenga haumaru mō tētahi ki tētahi. Ko te mea nui ko te rangimārie me te whakamarie i homai e tō māua kāinga. He pai te oranga, ahakoa he ahua hoha.
Tatou ora sexHeoi, ko māua te tino pāngia. I te korenga o te aukati i waenganui i a māua, ka iti haere te hihiri o te moepuku. Kua tau māua ki ngā tohu o ngā rā 'āe' me ngā rā 'kāo', ā, kua whakaaetia e māua tēnā me te kore whakaroa. I a ia e noho ana i ngā rā 'kāo', ka tahuri ahau ki te puremu, ā, i ētahi wā ka mātaki puku ahau i ngā mahi puremu. Tērā pea i pērā anō ia.
I ngā rā 'pai' i pai ahau ki tā māua moepuku noa, engari kāore i te tino pai; mai i ngā wā roa o te aroha, i te nuinga o te wā ka huri hei wā poto. Ā, i mau tonu māua ki ngā tau kua whakaritea! Ae, he mea whakakatakata, ahakoa kāore māua e kōrero nui mō te moepuku, he maha ngā wā kua whakaritea he 'noa' mō te tokorua kua rua tau te marena. Mēnā kei te miharo koe, e rua i te wiki.
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Me pehea e timata ai nga take?
He nui ngā kōrero kua kōrerotia, kua tuhia hoki mō te tīmatanga o ngā mahi whakaipoipo. Ko te mea nui, he rite tonu – ahakoa te poto o te wā, ka pūmau tonu te hononga ki te oneone o te whanaungatanga. Kāore te tokorua i te tino ōrite, ā, kāore ngā hoa tokorua e hiahia, e kore rānei e taea te whakaae. whakatau i nga raruraru.
Ka mahi tahi rātou i te mahi o te horoi i ngā take i raro i te whāriki me te tino ōrite, ā, ka nui haere te tawhiti, ka wātea he wāhi mō tētahi atu tangata hei takahi mai. Koinei te tīmatanga o ngā mahi, ā, koinei tonu te mea i tupu i roto i te take a Tarun:
He tauira ia, tata ki te tekau tau te iti iho i a ia, he ātaahua, he pono, ā, he hiahia nui ki te ako mai i tana 'rangatira'. He tino harikoa te noho hei kaiārahi māna! I whero ia i taku mihi ki a ia, ā, i tino tiaki ia i a ia anō. te rangatira wā kawhe, ā, ka mahara ahau he nui ake te haruru o taku i pai ake ai.
Nāna ahau i mea kia rite ki te kingi. I tētahi o ngā pāti tari, i te wā i... i raro i te awe, I pupuri ahau i tōna ringa mō te wā roa atu i te wā e tika ana. I taua pō, i a au e moe ana i te kāinga, ka whakaaro ahau ki taku tauira. He mea whakahihiri te haerenga aroha iti nei, me ia i roto i tōku mahunga. Ka tīmata ahau ki te moemoeā mōna i ngā wā 'harikoa' me taku wahine.
I nui ake tōku ngākau nui, ā, kua pai ake tō mātou oranga moepuku nui rawa atu. Ina whakaaro te tangata ki ngā hua o ngā mahi ā-ira, ki ngā whakaaro rānei mō te kore pono pea, kāore i te maha ngā wā ka whakaarohia te whakaaro he āwhina nui tēnei i tētahi whanaungatanga.
Whakawhetai ki te Atua, kāore he tangata e mōhio ana ki ngā mea e puta ana i roto i ō tātou mahunga! I kite ahau he wheako whakahihiri anō. I tīmata ahau ki te tiaki i ōku kākahu tari, ā, i noho puku ahau mō ngā rā e toru. Te āhua nei kei te ōrite ngā mea katoa, ko tōku oranga mahi, ko tōku oranga kāinga me taku wahine, me tētahi atu me te tauira i roto i ngā ao o aku moemoeā!
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Ā, i tētahi rā, pērā tonu, kāore he nui o te whakanui, ka tīmata te whakaaro ki te kukume tonu – he aha te āhua o te pupuri i a ia i roto i te kikokiko me te toto? I mōhio ahau ki tōna kakara, ā, i hiahia ahau ki te hongi i taua kakara mai i ngā wāhi tata. I arohaina hoki ia, i kite ahau. I whakaaro ahau kei te piri i waenganui i te hiahia ki te moe tāne me te wahine kotahi me te hiahia anō hoki ki te mōhio he aha te āhua o te tauira i roto i ōku ringa!
I aroha ahau ki taku wahine, engari i pū ake anō hoki te riri iti ki a ia. Ehara ianei ia i te take i mau ai ahau? Ko te ngākau nui i kitea e au i roto i ngā kiriata, ā, i mōhiotia e au i mua ko taku wahine, ka hoki mai anō me te tauira! Ā, kāore i āwhina ngā whakamanamana a aku hoa takakau mō ā rātou wikitoria. I taea hoki e au te kōrero ki a rātou te harikoa i roto i taku kaha, he iti noa iho nā taku kore mahi. Ka nui haere te whakamatautauranga o te tinihanga.
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I tutuki pai tēnei, pērā i te nuinga o ngā mahi i te wāhi mahi.
Kātahi ka tupu. I mahi ahau i runga i ōku kare ā-roto. I whanake pērā i te nuinga o te wā nga take mahi mahi – kei tawhiti koe i te kāinga mō te mahi, kei reira anō hoki ia, kei te noho koe i te hōtēra kotahi, he marino te āhuarangi, kāore he here e aukati ana i a koe…
I tētahi hui i waho māua, ā, i raro anō ahau i te mana o te waipiro. Kua heke te riri, nā ngā waiata a Kishor Kumar i whakatakoto te wairua, ā, he tino ataahua ia i roto i tētahi sari whero whakarewa. I taku karangatanga i a ia ki tōku rūma, i tino mōhio ahau ka mutu taku kihi...
I tōna wehenga atu, i pupuri tonu ahau i tōku māhunga ki roto i tōku ringa... Me pēhea rā ahau i mahi ai i tēnei? He rite ki ngā wā i mua atu. Kāore i taea e au te whakaaro tika, te whakaaro rānei ki tētahi atu mea engari ko koe anake...
I aroha ahau ki taku wahine, ā, kāore he tikanga o te tauira ki ahau. Kāore i te rite ki te mea he raruraru nui tēnei e whakararu ana i te heke mai o tētahi whanaungatanga. Engari he aha te pānga o tēnei ki taku wahine, mēnā ka kitea e ia? I pōuri ahau, i manukanuka hoki i muri i te hara tuatahi engari i mawhiti ahau. Heoi anō, ko te whakaaro 'Kua kitea katoatia ngā mahi tinihanga?' i haere tonu ki te ngau i roto i tōku hinengaro.
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Me pehea te mutunga o nga take?
I roto i taua whakaaro, ka whakatau ahau kia kaua e mahi anō. Kāore ianei? te mutunga o ngā mahiKo te mea i pā ki te tauira, kāore i taea te kī he moe tāne. He hara kotahi noa iho, ā, i kaha ake aku moemoeā. I aroha ahau ki taku hoa rangatira, ā, kāore au i hiahia kia ngaro ia nā te mea i hiahia tōku tinana ki te moe tāne me tētahi atu! Nō reira, i ngana ahau ki te pana i tēnei wāhanga ki muri i ahau, me te whakaaro me te mea kāore he mea i tupu. Nā te mea kāore he tikanga. I haurangi ahau, ā, i tupu.
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I mutu te īmēra a Tarun i konei. He maha atu ā mātou whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. I haere mātou ki te tīmatanga, i ētahi wā ki te poI roto i ngā īmēra maha, i kōrero ia mō tōna whakama nui, te hara tinihanga, me te pouri i pā ki a ia mō tōna korenga e pehi i te mana. Ahakoa te roa o te mau o ngā mahi ā-ira. Mā te mahi tinihanga ka huaki te Pouaka a Pandora.
He maha ā māua whakaaro i whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, i te ngana ki te wehe i te aroha mai i te ariā o te motuhaketanga ā-ira tangata.
Me aha tātou ki te hoha e puta mai ana me te motuhaketanga o te moepuku? He rite ki te hiahia o te tangata ki hāwā, ā, i te wā tonu ka kainga e te tangata, ka taka ia ki te ngakau pouri. Ko te utu mō te hua he nui ake i te kai samosa, i te keke tīhi rānei, he pono tēnā! Engari ko tōna pūtake, he hiahia nō te tinana, tika?
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He hononga tō te hanganga o ngā mahi ki te hiahia kia harikoa?
I tinihanga a Tarun nā te mea kāore ia i aroha ki tana wahine, kāore hoki i aro ki a ia? I mea ia, "Me i kore ahau e aroha ki a ia, kua wehe atu ahau i a ia, tika? Engari e teka ana ahau, e huna ana i tēnei mea nā te mea kāore au e hiahia kia ngaro ia. E hiahia ana ahau kia noho tahi me ia."
I tinihanga rānei ia nā te mea kāore ia i hiahia kia ngaro ia i runga i te moepuku whakangahau noa iho? I pātai atu ahau ki a ia mēnā ka pai ia ki tana puremu noa iho. Ka mea ia, 'Kua pātai atu ahau ki a ia mēnā ka taea e tāua te noho tahi i roto i te...' he hononga tuwhera, engari kua ohorere ia. Waihoki, kāore au e pai kia moe ia me tētahi atu. Ae, e kite ana ahau, engari kei te pēnei taku whakaaro, ā, kei te mawhiti ahau. Kei te pātai atu ahau ki a koe. Kāore koe?'
'He mārama tēnā ki a koe?' i pātai mai a Tarun ki ahau.
Kei te whakaaroaro tonu ahau mō tēnei. Heoi, kua whakaaro ahau mēnā ka taea te whakanui ake i te oranga moepuku o te marena, i ia marama, i ia marama, i ia tau – e ai ki ngā pānuitanga o ngā kākahu o roto me te champagne. Mēnā rānei ko te whakapuakitanga ki te hoa, i te wā e pāngia ana e te aroha nui, ka taea te kī ko ia anake te tangata e hiahia ana i taua wā tonu?
Mena kua pāngia tō whanaungatanga e te mahi tinihanga, kia mōhio koe ko te tohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te huarahi pai ki te whakatere i tēnei arai o ngā kare ā-roto uaua. Me tā mātou rōpū kaitohutohu, he iti noa te āwhina. pawhiri atu.
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E ai ki te ako, he iti noa iho ngā mahi whakaipoipo e huri hei whanaungatanga angitu. Neke atu i te 25% o ngā tāngata tinihanga e whakarērea ana ā rātou hoa matua mō tētahi hoa whakaipoipo. Ā, 5 ki te 7% noa iho o ngā mahi whakaipoipo e arahi ana ki te marena. Tētahi atu rangahau tuhinga e kī ana ko te wā 'aroha' o tētahi hononga aroha e ono ki te tekau mā waru marama te roa. Heoi, ko te hononga kare ā-roto i waenganui i ngā hoa aroha e rua te mea nui hei whakatau i te roanga o tētahi hononga aroha. Nā te mea ka memeha haere tētahi hononga tinana noa iho i te mutunga i te memeha haere o te ngākau nui.
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Kei te ngana ahau ki te mōhio mēnā kei te whakahē taku tākuta kua mārena i ahau. I kī ia i ēnei i roto i ētahi wā tirotiro:
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He pai ki ahau tō koutou noho tahi
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I taku haerenga tuatahi, ka titiro matatau mai ia ki ahau. I tawai mai ia ki ahau i tētahi wā. I tētahi wā, ka pātai atu ahau mō te tīmatanga o tētahi kaupapa whakakori tinana, ā, ka tūtohu mai ia kia haere ko au anake ki te whare takaro (??). Kua kōrero mai anō hoki ia ki ahau he aha te hākinakina e takarohia ana e ia i tōna wā waatea, ā, i kōrero mai anō hoki ia ki ahau te wāhi e noho ana ia (i pātai atu ahau).
I tangohia e ia tana mowhiti marena i tētahi wā, ā, ka whakawhiti ki te ringa kē, ka whakahoki ki muri i a māua e kōrero ana!
I taku hui whakamutunga, i kōrero ia mō tōna oranga whaiaro, i pātai mai nō hea ahau, me ērā atu mea. Kātahi ia ka tū ki mua i ahau i mua i tana tirotiro i ahau, ā, kāore he whakatūpato i awhi mai ia i ahau. I tino ohorere ahau nā te mea i puta mai kāore he whakatūpato. Kātahi ia ka pātai mai mēnā he pai ki ahau kia awhi mai ia i ahau, ā, ka mea ahau kāore.
I taku haerenga whakamutunga, he makariri, he tawhiti hoki ia. He maha hoki āna kōrero mō tana wahine. He takaro noa iho rānei tāna ki ahau?!
Kāre au i te tino mōhio ki te huarahi e anga atu ana ia ki tēnei. He mahi takaro noa iho tēnei? He whakaaro āna? He aha ia i tino wera ai, i tino makariri ai? Kāore e taea e au te kōrero ki tētahi mō tēnei, ā, e tino pōhēhē ana ahau?!
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He maha ngā whakautu mō tēnei. I te nuinga o te wā, ka whakapoauau te tangata i te aroha me te kawenga me te mana pupuri. Mō Tarun, ko te mea i pā ki a Tarun ki tana wahine ko te kukume me te aroha nui. Ina tīmata te haerenga o te tokorua i muri i te marena, ka tīmata te kawenga tetahi ki tetahi. He mārama, i muri i ngā tau tuatahi, ka puhoi te hiahia moepuku, ā, koinei te āhua o te katoa. Engari i te wā e hiahia ana te tokorua ki te whakawhanake i te hononga kare ā-roto kaha. Ki te kore, ka whakapoauau te tangata i te kawenga me te aroha. He maha ngā tokorua kua kite ahau, tae atu ki taku ake take, ina aroha ngā hoa rangatira (aroha kore-whaiaro), ka puta te moepuku i runga i te āhua ohorere, ehara i te mea he mahi kāinga i hoatu ki te kura, ā, ki te kore ka puta he whakaaro, he āwangawanga rānei. Waihoki, ina noho te aroha kore-whaiaro, ka hari me te rangimārie te hinengaro mā te noho noa o tō hoa, ā, kāore koe e rongo i te koretake. Waihoki, kāore e mōhiotia, ka puta he whakaaturanga iti o te aroha e puta ai te hari nui, he mea nui atu i te moepuku. Kāore ēnei hoa rangatira e tinihanga i roto i ō rātou oranga nā te mea ka pā ki a rātou te aroha kore-whaiaro i mua i te moepuku, he pīnati noa iho. Kāore he kukume i roto i tēnei ao rauemi e taea ai e rātou te tinihanga. Ki te hoatu he hoa rangatira ki a Benz me te karere hei whiringa kore utu, ko Benz anake te mea e pai ana ki te karere. Ko ngā hoa rangatira e reka ana i te aroha kore-whaiaro, e kore e taea te whakaahua i te harikoa o taua aroha, e hono tika ana ki te wairua, te rangatira o te hinengaro me ētahi atu tikanga, e kore e hiahia ki te moepuku noa iho, he mea noa iho, he karere. Kāore a Tarun e hiahia ki te ngaro i tana wahine nā te mea he tangata whai mana/hae ia ki te ngaro, i runga i te whakaaro ko te tiaki i tō hoa rangatira he aroha, engari he kawenga. Ko te tangata he aroha kore-whaiaro ki tana hoa rangatira e hiahia tonu ana kia kite i tana hoa rangatira kia harikoa, kia mahi ki te whakatutuki i te mea anake kāore e pā ki tana hokinga mai. Kātahi ka huri te aroha hei ATUA. Kia huri te aroha hei atua, ka nui te makona, te harikoa me te rangimārie, ā, kāore he mana o te ao e taea ai te tinihanga i a rātou. Ki te kore te aroha e kore-whaiaro, me whakamahi te tangata i te mātauranga ki te mea tika, ki te mea hē rānei, ki te kore, kāore he rerekētanga i waenga i te kararehe me te tangata. I te wā marena, ka maka e te wahine he mowhiti ki te maihao o tana tāne. Ki te tini o te tangata he mowhiti noa iho, engari ko te wairua o tō wahine, ko ngā kupu whakaari i oatitia e koe ki a ia e maumahara tonu ana. Engari he maha ngā tāne e wareware ana kei a rātou he mowhiti. Waihoki, ka hono te tāne i te mangala sutra ki te wahine. Me pēhea te tinihanga a te wahine, kei te whakaaro tonu ahau ko tēhea te mea e whakamahara ana i a ia ki te tāne? Me pēhea te hunga iti e taea ai te tinihanga, te waiho i te whakama, te mana me ētahi atu?