Te wahine a te hoa aroha

I tuku kōrero ia mō tōna rā whānau, ā, i tāpirihia koe ki te pou. Kāore e taea e au te aukati i a au anō ki te tirotiro i ō whakaahua. Kei reira kōrua, e menemene tahi ana i te kāinga o tētahi hoa, ngā whakaahua o ia, o kōrua me tāu rāpeti mōkai. I mea ia i tētahi wā i moe tahi kōrua pērā i ngā rāpeti. He nui ngā mea e mōhiotia ana e au mō ō kōrua oranga…

Tekau mā rima tau kōrua e moe tahi ana, ā, e ono marama māua e noho tahi ana me tāu tāne. Kua haere tahi kōrua ki ngā wāhi, kua hanga kāinga, ā, kei te whakatipu tahi kōrua i tētahi tama. E mihi ana ahau ki tō aro ki ō taipitopito whaiaro – ki tō mahi, ki ō āhua tinana me ngā whakapainga ataahua. He nui tō ngākau nui ki te horoi, e akiaki tonu ana i te pononga wahine me te hungawai wahine kia waiho ngā pereti kua horoia ki te taha matau o te papa, kaua ki roto i ngā pouaka. Me pēhea taku mōhio ki ēnei mea?

Nā te mea nā tō tāne ahau rangatira, te tangata e kōrero ana tāu tāne ki a ia – ka pōkaikaha ahau, ka menemene i a ia e ringihia ana he karāhe Grey Goose ki ahau, me ia e kōrero ana mōu. Ko au te tangata e aroha nui ana ki tāu tāne.

Ko tāu tāne, ko te tangata e hokohoko ana, e whakatika ana i te pakaru o tō potae, e kawe ana i ngā rongoā e hiahiatia ana e tō pāpā e mate ana, ā, e aroha nui ana hoki ki ahau. Ko tēhea te mea kaha ake, ko ngā tau 15 o te noho tahi, ko ngā marama e ono rānei o te aroha nui?

Kei te titiro atu koe ki a ia me te ngākau nui ki ahau? Kei te mōhio koe ki ngā kōrero moe me te ātaahua o te pō i waenganui i a māua i ō māua moenga? "E aroha ana ahau ki a koe, ā, e tino hiahia ana ahau ki a koe," tana kī. E aroha ana ia ki te āhua o taku pupuri i ōku makawe kia maori, kia ngaru katoa. E aroha ana ia ki te āhua o taku noho tawhiti atu i ngā whare takaro katoa e haere ana koe, ngā kai e whai ana koe me ngā OCD kei a koe. Kāore ia e hiahia ki te whakarite, engari ko tō hiahia nui ki te pupuri i a koe kia ora, kia ātaahua hoki, ā, nō reira ka karohia e ia ngā huarahi porangi e hiahia ana ia kia piripono - ka tino whakakāhore i a ia. Ko tōku āhua māhorahora me te hiahia ki ana ngau aroha ka whakaoho i a ia ki te hiahia me te hiahia. Kei te mahara koe ki te hei hickey i kite koe i ahau i te whakaaturanga tuatahi o te kiriata? Ae, ko ia, i whakapaipai i ahau ki ana ngau aroha… āe, e pai ana ia ki te kī ko āna reta aroha ki ahau.

E hine, murua mai tōku hara mēnā ka mōhio koe ki tō mātou āhua.

Kāore au e mahi tahi ana me tāu tāne i tētahi mea e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi tahi me ia. Ko ngā mea anake e kore e hiahiatia ana e koe, kāore koe e hiahia ki te mahi. moe tahi me tō tāne... Ae. He hiahia tō tāne ki te hiahia taikaha, ki te pā me te aroha. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te tiaki i tētahi o aua mea. Ae, ko au.

Te māramatanga hōhonu e tohaina ana e tāua, te kata korekore, ngā hiahia ōrite – āhea te wā whakamutunga i pā ai ēnei mea ki a koe? Nā te mea, ki te kore e taea e koe te maumahara ki tētahi o aua kare ā-roto, me murua ahau e koe.

Engari e whakaaro ana koe kei a au ngā mea katoa? Kāo, he nui atu aku hiahia. He nui tōku hae ki a koe – ehara i te mea nā te mea ka moe tahi tāua i te moenga kotahi i ia pō. Engari ko te hiahia ki te mahi tahi me ia i ngā mea noa – pērā i te hongi i tōna haunga tinana i mua i te maka i ōna kākahu hei horoi, te pupuri i tōna ringa i tētahi huihuinga pāpori, te tunu kai māna i tētahi wiki mutunga, te mātakitaki i a ia e kapi ana i te werawera i a ia e horoi ana i tana pahikara … ngā mea e whakaarohia ana e koe he mea noa iho. He uaua ki ahau te whakaae ki te meka e kaha ana ia ki te pupuri i ahau kia tawhiti, me te whawhai ki ōna kare ā-roto mōku.

Me neke atu ahau, e ai ki tāu pea. Me horomia e au te mamae, ā, ka kitea te aroha i tētahi atu wāhi. Engari ka taea e au? Ka taea e au? Kāo, kei te hiakai rawa ahau, kei te aroha ahau ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia.

E koa ana ahau kāore koe e kite i tēnei reta. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te mōhio ka tukuna mai e ia he karere kuputuhi ki ahau i te ata, ā, ko te mea whakamutunga ka kōrero mai ki ahau i te pō i mua i tana moe. Ko ēnā ngā wāhanga iti rawa o ia kei a au, ā, kua ako ahau ki te noho tahi me aua mea.

Engari ka oati ahau, e kore ahau e tahae i a ia i a koe – nā te mea i roto i tōku ngākau e mōhio ana ahau e aroha ana ia ki a koe, e whakaute ana i a koe… nui atu pea i ahau.

Āe, me whakaae ahau, e aroha ana ahau ki a koe – nā te mea he hononga tō tāua, e riri ana tāua ki te tangata kotahi… engari he rerekē. Ko au tō hoa mai i tawhiti, te hoa wahine.

(E ai ki te kōrero ki a Tuli Banerjee)

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