15 Ngā Tohu kei a ia tētahi atu tangata i roto i tōna ao

Porohia te aroha

Kāore te whanaungatanga i te mea kia maeneene tonu. Ā, ki te mea kei te pānui koe i tēnei tuhinga, kua kite pea koe i ngā tohu kei a ia tētahi atu i roto i tōna ao. Ko te mea nui ko te whai taunakitanga hei tautoko i ō whakapae, kātahi ka kōrero ki a ia mō taua mea. Kei konei mātou hei āwhina i a koe ki tēnā. Anei tētahi rārangi o ngā tohu kei a ia tētahi atu i roto i tōna ao.

15 Ngā Tohu kei a ia tētahi atu tangata i roto i tōna ao

Ripanga o Ihirangi

Ki te whakapae koe kei te aroha tō hoa wahine ki tētahi atu tangata, engari kāore koe i te tino mōhio, mā tēnei rārangi koe e āwhina. Ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki te kōrero ki tō hoa wahine mō te mea kua aroha ia ki tētahi atu tangata, me whai taunakitanga koe. Nō reira, anei ngā tohu 11 e whakaatu ana kei a ia tētahi atu tangata i roto i tōna ao.

1. He nui rawa te wā e pau ana i a ia ki tana waea pūkoro

Ahakoa kua tata te iwi ki te hono atu i te hangarau, kua whakatuwhera hoki i ngā huarahi whatunga, he mea kāore anō kia rite i mua, kua ngāwari ake hoki te tinihanga a te tangata i ō rātou hoa.

E ai ki a Alan, kāore rawa he take i whakapae ai ia mō te pikinga o te wā waea a tana wahine me te auau o te haere ki waho. I kī ia ko te pikinga o ngā hāora mahi nā te whakatairanga i puta. Ahakoa he tohu katoa o te whanaungatanga mutunga kore i roto i tana marena, i whakaaro tonu ia he wahine pukumahi ia. Heoi, i tētahi pō, ka moe tana wahine i muri i tētahi rā roa. I whakatau ia ki te tirotiro i tana waea i a ia e moe ana. I kitea e ia kua tinihanga ia ki a ia me te tini o ngā tāngata.

He maha ngā wā ka warewarehia e tātou te panonitanga o te whanonga a te hoa, nā te mea, i roto i te āhua tūturu, ka whakawhirinaki tātou ki te hunga e arohaina ana e tātou. Heoi anō,

ki te kite koe i tō hoa e whakapau ana i te wā nui ki tana waea
Ki te menemene, ki te kata rānei ia ina tuku karere ana ki tētahi, engari ka huna i a koe
He tohu pea ēnei kei a ia tētahi atu tangata i roto i tōna ao

Ehara ēnei tohu i te tohu tuturu kua neke ia ki tētahi atu tangata, engari he tino pūtake pakari pea hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ō whakatau.

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2. He rerekē tana whanonga

I te nuinga o te wā, ka tīmata tō hoa wahine ki te whakaatu i ngā rerekētanga o ana whanonga mēnā he aroha tōna ki tētahi atu. Tērā pea ka kitea ia e koe:

Te moemoeā i ngā wā matapōkere
Te wiri haere i tō taha
Ka piki haere te riri ina noho tahi koe

He mea nui kia mōhiotia he maha ngā take mōna pēnei. Tērā pea kei te mataku ia mō tētahi whakamātautau e haere ake nei, mō te whakaaturanga rānei i te mahi. Heoi anō, he mea nui tonu kia whakarongo koe ki tō puku mō ēnei take.

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3. He nui ake āna mahi atawhai māu

He kare ā-roto tino kaha te hara. Ka taea e ia te mea kia tino atawhai te tangata ki a koe hei āwhina i te whakamama i tōna hara. Ki te whakapae koe kua tinihanga tō hoa wahine i a koe , me titiro koe ki tana mahi ki a koe.

Kei te tino atawhai ia i a koe i ēnei rā?
Kei te whakapau kaha ia ki te mahi i ngā mea pai mōu?
Tērā pea i hokona mai e ia tētahi koha pai māu, ahakoa kāore he take mō tēnā

Ki te kite koe i tō hoa wahine e mahi ana i ngā mahi pai māu, he tohu pea tēnā kua tūtaki ia ki tētahi atu i ngā rā tata nei, he tohu rānei kua neke atu ia ki tētahi atu, ā, kei te akiaki tōna hinengaro hara i a ia ki te mahi i ngā mea pai māu.

Ki tō whakaaro, ko tēhea te mea kino rawa atu?

Tinihanga kare ā-roto

Tinihanga tinana

He rite tonu te kino o ngā mea e rua

4. Ka menemene ia i ngā wā matapōkere

Kua kite koe i tō hoa wahine e menemene ana i ngā wā ohorere? Ahakoa te āhua harakore, te harakore hoki i te tīmatanga, tera pea koinei ētahi o ngā tohu tuatahi e tere rawa ana te aroha o tō hoa ki tētahi atu. Kei te mahara koe ki te wā kōrero nui o tō whanaungatanga, tika? I te wā i pai ai te āhua o ngā mea katoa, ā, i te āhua mahana, i te katakata hoki. Kei te pāngia ia e ngā āhuatanga ōrite, engari mō tētahi atu tangata i tēnei wā.

Kia maumahara he maha atu anō ngā tikanga o tēnei:

Engari kāore he kino ki te pātai takaro, "Hei, he aha tāu e menemene ana i reira?"
Tērā pea kei te maumahara ia ki tētahi wā i a kōrua tahi
Kei te whakaaro pea ia ki tana i aroha ai ki te tangata rongonui, ki tētahi rīpene Instagram rānei i kitea e ia

5. Kāore ia e hiahia ana ki te whawhai ā-tinana i ēnei rā

Ko tētahi tohu nui kei a ia tētahi tangata i roto i tōna ao, ko te korenga o tana hiahia ki te piripono ki a koe. Mātakitaki me pēhea tana urupare ki a koe ina tīmata te piripono ā-tinana.

Ka pōkarekare noa iho ōna pakihiwi?
Ka whakautu ia me te "Kua ngenge rawa ahau?"
"Kāore au i te harikoa i tēnei wā?"

He take tika ēnei e kore ai ia e hiahia ki te piripono ki a koe, engari kia mārama koe ki ana huringa whakaaro mō te piripono tinana ki a koe.

Kei te kite anō koe i ngā tohu i tōna tinana kāore i reira i mua? Ngāna ki te kōrero noa i roto i tētahi kōrero, kia kite ai koe i tāna e kī ana. Ki te kore ia e mārama ki te wāhi i puta mai ai ōna tohu, he tohu tinana pea ēnei kua moe ia i te pō kotahi , kua moe rānei i tētahi atu.

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6. He nui ake āna mahi o waho hei mahi

I te nuinga o te wā, ko te hunga e tīmata ana ki te tinihanga, e kore e mutu i te kotahi tūtakitanga. Ka mau tonu rātou i te mahi taikaha mena kāore rātou i roto i te mōrearea kei mau.

Ki te kite koe i tō hoa wahine e hanga ana i ngā take maha atu hei noho ki waho
Kua tīmata rānei ia ki te mahi i ngā mahi i ngā wā rerekē o te rā
Koinei pea ngā tohu kua tūtaki ia ki tētahi atu

Kia tūpato hoki ki ngā tauira o āna mahi.

E rite ana ēnei ki te wā noho ki te kāinga o tētahi e whakapaetia ana e koe?
Ka taea hoki e koe te tono ki tētahi o ō hoa kia whai i a ia
Ahakoa koinei te huarahi whakamutunga rawa atu, nā te mea e kiia ana tēnei he whaiwhai, ā, ka raru pea koe, tō hoa rānei.

mēnā he kare ā-roto tōna mō tētahi atu — Kei waho ia i ngā wā katoa

7. He nui āna kōrero mō te tangata i kī atu ia kia kaua e manukanuka ki a koe

He whakaaro kino tōu mō tētahi i roto i tana rōpū hoa, engari i tohe tonu ia kia kaua e manukanuka nā te mea he hoa noa iho rāua? Tērā pea he hītori tō taua tangata me tō hoa wahine i mua, ā, kei te noho tahi tonu rāua. Mēnā he kare ā-roto ōna mō tētahi atu tangata ehara i a koe, ka tīmata ia ki te kōrero mō tēnei tangata i ngā wāhanga tuatahi o tōna hiahia nui ki a rāua.

Pouaka Māwhero: Whakaarohia a Jada Pinkett Smith rāua ko Will Smith. E ai ki ngā kōrero, i pāngia a Will e te wā o te koretake o te māia i te wā i kōrero tonu ai a Jada mō tōna piripono ki a Tupac. I roto i tā rāua whakaaturanga kōrero, i pātai a Will mēnā he mea i tupu i waenganui i a ia me Tupac, engari i kī tonu a Jada he hoa pai noa iho rāua. Mehemea i whai hononga tāne rāua, kua tino pōuri a Will.

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8. He hoa mahi tāna, ā, e tohe ana ia kāore he aha

He hoa piripono ngā hoa mahi, ā, he hoa piripono anō hoki ētahi. Ahakoa kāore he he o te whai hoa piripono i waho atu i te whanaungatanga aroha, he mea pai tonu kia tūpato tonu. Whakaarohia pēnei:

Me whakapau tahi tō hoa mahi me tana hoa mahi i te nuinga o tō rāua wā mahi
He maha hoki ngā mea e rite ana ki a rātou
Tērā pea he rite tonu ō rātou pānga nā te mea he rite tonu te mahi a rātou i te mara mahi kotahi.
Tērā pea me mahi tata rātou i ngā wāhi maha i te nuinga o te wā

He tino uaua ki te kore e whakawhanake i tētahi āhua o tētahi whanaungatanga i roto i tēnei āhuatanga. He tino noa ngā whanaungatanga ā-tari i ēnei rā. Nō reira, ki te kite koe i a ia e kōrero tonu ana mō tēnei tangata, he tohu pea tēnei kei te aroha tō hoa ki tētahi atu.

Whakaarohia tētahi kaiwhakaari kua takaro i a Spider-Man. Kua piripono a Tobey Maguire, a Tom Holland, me Andrew Garfield ki ā rātou hoa mahi i takaro i a MJ. He mea noa ngā whanaungatanga aroha i te mahi. Ā, me āta tirotiro koe mēnā kei te tino tika rawa te whakamahi a tō hoa wahine i te kupu 'hoa mahi'.

9. Kua mutu tana whakapau kaha ki te whanaungatanga

Ki te mea he kare ā-roto tōna mō tētahi atu, ka mutu tana aro ki te whanaungatanga kei roto i a kōrua.

Tērā pea ka kite koe kei te aro nui ia ki tōna āhua tinana ina haere ia ki te tūtaki ki tētahi.
Engari kua mutu te miharo i a koe
He āhuatanga tinana pea tēnei he tohu kei te moe ia me tētahi atu

Kua tata te wā e puta ai ia i tēnei wā. He wā pai pea tēnei hei kōrero ki a ia.

10. Kua mutu tana mahi i roto i te whanaungatanga

Ina tae te āhua o tētahi whanaungatanga ki te wā e pakaru ana, ka whawhai te hunga e hiahia ana kia pai te noho.

Ki te mea te āhua nei kāore tō hoa wahine e aro ki ngā āhuatanga o te whanaungatanga, he tohu pea tēnei kua neke atu ia ki tētahi atu
I tēnei wā, kei te tatari ia kia wehe atu kōrua, kia māmā ake ai tana mahi.
Te akiaki i tētahi kia noho tonu i roto i tētahi hononga kore aroha, marena kore aroha nā te mea he ngoikore rawa te tangata tinihanga ki te wawahi, he tino kino, engari he mea noa

Hei tauira:

Tērā pea ka haere atu koe ki a ia me tētahi raruraru e whakaaro ana koe me whakatika tō kōrua whanaungatanga.
Ā, hei utu mō te whakamana i ō pātai, ka mutu tana kōrero.
Tērā pea ka ārai ia i a ia anō, ka kī atu rānei, "Ki te mea he raruraru tōu, he aha koe te wehe atu ai i ahau?" "Ki te mea he tangata kino rawa ahau, me noho noa koe ki tētahi atu."

Mena kua kōrero mai tō hoa i tētahi mea pēnei ki a koe, he tohu pea tēnei kei te aroha tō hoa ki tētahi atu. I tēnei wā, kei a koe te whakatau mēnā he pai te whawhai mō tēnei whanaungatanga.

"E toru tau māua ko taku hoa rangatira, engari i ngā marama e ono kua pahure ake nei, kua ahua hē ngā mea katoa. Kāore au i te rongo i te aroha o tēnei tangata i roto i tēnei wā. Kua mutu tā rātou pātai mō taku rā, ā, kua mutu tā rātou kōrero mai mō tā rātou rā me te kī noa "He pai" me te "Pai". Ka nui ake aku kōrero i a rātou ina haere mai ō rātou hoa ki te kōrero ki a rātou. I a rātou e noho tahi ana, ka noho rātou i runga i tā rātou waea i te nuinga o te wā i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Ki te pātai atu ahau mēnā he hē tetahi mea, mēnā rānei me kōrero mai rātou ki ahau, kāore rātou e hiahia."
- Kaiwhakamahi Reddit

11. Kei te kōrero ia mō te heke mai engari mō te wā poto nei

Ko te mea e mahia ana e te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine he kōrero mō ā rāua whāinga mō te wā roa me te wā poto. Tērā pea ka uru atu kōrua ki roto i ēnei mahere ā meake nei. Tērā pea he rite tonu ā kōrua whāinga mō te wā roa pēnei i:

te faaipoiporaa
tamariki
Te hoko whare rānei

Tērā pea he rite tonu ōu whāinga mahi. Ko te tikanga, ka uru atu ngā kupu 'tātou' me 'tātou' ki ēnei mahere.

Mena he kare ā-roto tōna mō tētahi atu:

Ka tīmata koe ki te kite i tētahi panonitanga i roto i āna tauira whakatakoto whāinga
Kātahi ka "ka" nuku tahi"ka huri hei "Ka haere atu ahau ki te toro atu ki a koe i ngā mutunga wiki"
Ka huri rānei te "Ka hoko whare tāua" ki te "Ka reti ahau i tētahi whare rūma iti i te tāone"

He tohu tēnei kei te whakaaro ia ki te noho tahi me tētahi atu. Tērā pea kāore he wāhi mōu i roto i tana tirohanga mō te heke mai.

He tohu kei a ia tētahi atu tangata i roto i tōna ao

12. Ka noho ārai ia ina pātaihia mō ngā taunekeneke

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu nui e whakaatu ana kei a ia tētahi atu tangata ko tōna āhua tiaki nui ina pātai koe mō āna taunekeneke ki tētahi atu tangata, mō te wā rānei i tawhiti atu ai ia i a koe.

Ko ngā pātai māmā pēnei i te "Ko wai tāu i kōrero ki a koe?" me te "Kei te pēhea tō pō?" ka puta he riri.
Ko āna whakautu he pātai ā-whakautu, kaua ki ngā whakautu:
"He aha koe i pātai mai ai ki ahau?" "Kāore koe e whakawhirinaki mai ki ahau?"
Ka huri tere tōna reo mai i te marino ki te riri, ahakoa he koretake te pātai
E whakapae ana ia i a koe mō karekau he haumaru, te whakahaere, te mataku rānei, kaua ki te aro atu ki te pātai.

He maha ngā wā ka puta te tiaki i te tangata ina rongo ia i te taupatupatu o roto, i te hara rānei. Ina uru te tangata ki te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto, ki te whanaungatanga aroha rānei i tētahi atu wāhi, ahakoa ngā pātai harakore, ka āhua whakamataku pea nā te mea ka tūpono ka whakakitea he mea e ngana ana rātou ki te wehewehe.

13. Kua rerekē tana mahi pāpāho pāpori

Kei te piki haere te hiranga o ngā panonitanga o ngā whanonga pāpāho pāpori nā te mea he maha ngā wā ka whakaatahia te hononga kare ā-roto me ngā kaupapa matua o te aroaro ipurangi. Ko ētahi o ngā tohu ārai pāpāho pāpori hei tirotiro māu ko:

Ka mutu tana tuku whakaahua ki a koe, ka tangohia rānei e ia ngā whakaahua o te tokorua kua oti kē te whakarite
Ka karo ia i te tāpiri i tō tohu ki ngā kōrero, ki ngā pou rānei i mua i whakamahia e ia
Ka piki ake tana auau tuku kōrero, engari ka heke iho tō aroaro i roto i taua ihirangi.
Ka nui ake tōna tūmataitinga ki ngā kōrero, ki ngā pai, ki ngā kaiwhaiwhai rānei
Ka puta pinepine ngā taunekeneke hou mai i te tangata kotahi, engari ka iti, ka ngaro rānei te taunekeneke ki a koe.

14. He nui ake tana whakakakahu mō ngā haerenga me ētahi atu tāngata i te noho tahi me koe

Ko te panoni nui o te āhua, ina koa kāore koe e uru ana ki roto, he tohu pea tēnei kua hurihia te kaha aroha, te kaha kare ā-roto rānei.

He nui ake tana whakapau kaha ki te whakaatu i tōna āhua mō ngā huihuinga mahi, mō ngā haerenga noa, mō ngā "mahi" rānei i tana mahi ina noho tahi koe.
Ka puta mai ngā momo kākahu hou, ngā tikanga whakapaipai, ngā whakapaipai rānei, me te kore he hihiri whaiaro mārama.
Ka nui ake tōna aro ki tōna āhua i mua i te haerenga atu, engari ka kore e aro ina whai mahere koe.
Te āhua nei he nui ake te hiranga o ngā mihi a ētahi atu i ōu ake

Ina hiahia tetahi ki tētahi atu tangata, ina whai hononga kare ā-roto rānei ki a ia, ka riro te whakaaturanga hei momo tohu, ahakoa kāore anō kia tino mārama te hiahia.

"Ka whakakorikori tinana, ka kai kai. Ka hoko i tētahi kākahu hou, ka aro nui ki ō rātou āhua i te wā kāore i kitea i mua."
- Kaiwhakamahi Reddit

15. Ka hoatu e ia he whakautu ārai ina pātaihia tika mai

Haunga te ārai noa, he maha ngā wā ka hurahia e ngā pātai tika te mamae nui atu ina hunaia tetahi mea.

Kāore ia e whakautu ana: "He aha te take?"
Ka hoatu e ia ngā whakautu koretake, kāore hoki i te ōrite, ā, kāore e tutuki i roto i te wā
Ka huri ia hei tangata tauhohe kare ā-roto, ka riri, ka whakahē, ka whakahawea rānei, kaua e whakamārama
Ka hurihia e ia tō pātai hei whakapae, ahakoa he koretake te whakapuakitanga

Mā ngā pātai tika ka whakakorea te koretake. Mēnā he hononga kare ā-roto, he hononga aroha rānei ki tētahi atu, ka puta he pēhanga ā-roto ki ngā pātai mārama kia teka, kia whakaatu, kia karo rānei, ā, ka taea e ia o ēnei te whakaoho i ngā urupare ahotea. Ko ētahi tauira noa ko:

Te whakamāoritanga nui rawa: He nui rawa ngā kōrero kāore anō kia whakautua te pātai
Te whakakohatu: Te whakamutu katoa i te kōrero
Te hurihanga matatika: Te mea kia whakama koe mā te kī atu, "Kāore au i te whakapono ka whakaaro koe pērā ki ahau"

FAQs

1. Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kei te huna e tō hoa wahine tetahi mea i a koe?

Ko te rerekētanga o te whanonga he tohu pea kei te huna e tō hoa wahine tetahi mea i a koe. Tērā pea kua nekehia ana wā mahi, kua iti haere rānei tana aro ki te whanaungatanga o kōrua. Tērā pea ka mataku koe i te pikinga ohorere o te wā e pau ana i a ia ki tana waea. Ka tūtohu mātou kia kōrero koe ki a ia mō ēnei huringa. Ki te tīmata ia ki te ārai i a ia, ki te karanga kino i a koe, ā, ki te huri i te whakapae ki a koe, he pono kei te huna e ia tetahi mea i a koe.

2. Me aha koe mēnā he kare ā-roto tō hoa wahine mō tētahi atu tangata?

Ki te mea kei te āwangawanga koe kei te whai kare ā-roto tō hoa wahine ki tētahi atu, ko te mea pai ko te kōrero ki a ia. Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero te mea nui, ā, ki te hiahia koe kia angitu te whanaungatanga, he mea nui kia pono tō whakaaro mō ō kare ā-roto. Ka taea hoki e koe te whakamātau ki te kōrero ki tētahi hoa, ki tētahi mema rānei o te whānau e mōhio pai ana ki a kōrua. Tērā pea he tohutohu ā rātou mō te whakatau i tēnei āhuatanga, ka taea rānei e rātou te whakatau i waenganui i a kōrua kia māmā ake ai ngā mea mō te katoa. Engari ki te mea kua whakatau ia ki te whakarērea koe, kāore he mea hei mahi engari ko te whakaae ki tēnei whakatau mamae, te whai wāhi, me te arotahi ki tō ake whakaora.

Tohutohu Matua

Tērā pea kua whai hoa anō ia i roto i tōna ao mēnā kei te menemene tonu ia ki tana waea pūkoro, kei te rerekē rānei tana whanonga i te tikanga.
He nui āna kōrero ki a koe i ēnei rā mō tētahi tangata hou?
Ki te kite koe kua mutu tana whakapau kaha ki te whanaungatanga, tera pea he aroha tōna ki tētahi atu.

whakaaro whakamutunga

E ai ki tā mātou kōrero, i mua i tō haerenga ki te whakahē i tō hoa wahine, he mea nui kia kōrero koe ki a ia. Whakatakotoria ō āwangawanga, ā, tukua ia kia whakamārama mai. Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero pai te mea nui i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Mēnā kei te ruarua koe mēnā he aroha tōna ki a koe, mā tēnei aratohu koe e āwhina. Engari, ko tō hoa wahine anake ka taea te kōrero i te pono katoa ki a koe.

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