Ka pā mai pea he raruraru marena ki a koe, pērā i te whiu ohorere ki te mata. Tērā pea he pahūtanga ohorere ka huri i tō marena hei rohe pakanga. Ā, kātahi ka kore rawa koe e mōhio me pēhea te whakahaere i tō marena.
Tukua ahau kia kōrero atu i taku kōrero. I whakaaro tonu ahau ko te marena te mutunga. Kia tae mai koe, ā, koinā te mutunga. E rua tekau mā rua tau o te noho marino, ehara i te mea whakakatakata. He nui te kaha e hiahiatia ana e ngā hoa rangatira e rua, ā, kua pai te haere o māua ko Rick. Kua mōhio māua tetahi ki tetahi, kua aroha hoki tetahi ki tetahi mai i ō māua rā i te kāreti. E mārama ana māua tetahi ki tetahi, ā, he hototahi hoki. Koia te take i marena ai māua i te tau 1995.
He roa te ora, ahakoa he poto noa iho te wā. He maha ngā mea ka kitea e tātou, ka whakarerekē i a tātou i ngā huarahi kāore i whakaarohia e tātou, ā, he maha ngā wā ka pā mai ki a tātou ngā āhuatanga uaua ki te aro atu.
He aha te raruraru o te mārenatanga?
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He uaua te raruraru o te whanaungatanga. He wāhi pakanga e kī ana i te koretake, te mamae, me te hae. Ā, koinei te mea i puta ake i waenganui i ahau me Rick i te tau kua hipa. He maha ngā take i puritia. Te riri ki ngā hungawai, tana whakatau i a ia anō me te whānau, ngā kawenga i tumanakohia kia puritia e mātou, me te kore rawa o te mihi mai i a rātou. I taumaha katoa ēnei ki ahau.
Ā, i pēhea rā, i whakapae ia i ahau, tana hoa mō ngā tekau tau e rua, mō ngā mea katoa. I tīmata mai i ētahi tawai korekore. Ngā whakaekenga ohorere mō taku mahi, taku moni whiwhi, aku whakataunga i te ao – kāore au i te mōhio nō hea mai. Ā, i mua i tō māua mōhio, kua pāngia māua e te raruraru o te marena.
Nāna ahau i mea kia whakaaro he moumou taima noa iho aku mahi katoa mā te whānau, ā, me mahi kē ahau i tētahi mea 'whai tikanga' ake. He mamae rawa atu. Kāore māua i te pukuriri. Kāore e taea e māua te whakamahi noa i ngā wā hamama. Nō reira, ka huri hei momo pakanga makariri, me te tuku tetahi i tetahi ki tetahi. maimoatanga pukuKātahi ka whakamōhiotia ahau e te ao tūroa ki a Paora i tētahi pāti.
I kite ahau kei te tū mai ngā tohu o te raruraru o tā māua marena. Engari i whakakahore māua ki te whakaae kua pāngia tā māua marena e te raruraru. I pōuri te hinengaro, i ngoikore hoki ōku kare ā-roto i te taenga mai o Paul ki roto i tōku ao.
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Nā te kōrerorero noa mō ō kōrua oranga me ō kōrua papamuri i tino mōhio ai ahau ki te āhua ōrite o māua, me te ataahua o tēnei tangata. I kukume ahau ki a ia. I mea ia kua mutu tana whanaungatanga, ā, kua pōuri tōna ngākau. Engari kāore ia i ngaro te whai wāhi ki te takaro ki ahau. I aroha ahau ki te aro, ahakoa he āhua whakararuraru. Kāore au i taunga ki te arohaina, engari i meinga ahau e ia kia rite ki te mea e hiahiatia ana.
I whakaaroaro ahau mēnā he whakaaro pai te whakatakoto i tōku oranga marena katoa ki te mōrearea pēnei. Ahakoa ngā āhuatanga katoa, ko taku marena tonu te ahua o te harikoa me te harikoa i roto i tōku mahunga. Ina roa te marena o tētahi, ā, tokorua āna taiohi e arohaina nuitia ana, ehara i te mea ngāwari te maka noa i te tūpato ka uru ki te moepuku.
Nō reira, ka hoki ahau ki te kāinga. He rite tonu ngā mea katoa, engari kua mōhio ahau ināianei kotahi noa te waea e haere atu ai ki te huarahi ki te whakamānawa tere. I konei ka uru atu māua ko Rick ki te pakanga tika. Kāore ia i whakaae ki aku mahere, ki te whakaae rānei ki aku whakaaro he pono, he whai hua rānei. Ngā momo whakaaro iti katoa i kino rawa ngā pakanga ki taku tāne ā, miriona ngā take i puta ake.
Nā te mea i tīmata ahau ki te kōrero mō ngā mea kāore i pai ki ahau. Kāore i taea e au te noho puku. Me i kore ahau e kōrero, tērā pea kāore he mea hei kōrero anō. Kua pā mai te raruraru o te marena ki a māua, ā, i te mutunga, ka mōhio māua kāore ngā mea katoa i te pai.
I taea rānei te whai i tētahi huarahi moe tāne nā te mea he raruraru tōku marena?
He tangata manuhiri a Paul. Nā tōna putanga mai i tētahi wā poto nei i tīmata ai ngā kōrerorero kāore pea i puta i mua. Mēnā he raruraru moe tonu, kua mau tonu te kawa o tō māua marena. Ko taku 'raru o waenga-ora' i hiahiatia he whakautu. Ā, mēnā ko te tikanga o tēnā he hamama whakataetae i ia rā, kāore au i māharahara.
Heoi, i tino kino te āhua o ngā mea, ā, i te mutunga ka kī atu ahau ki a Rick me whakatika e ia ngā raruraru, ki te kore ka haere atu ahau. He mea noa te whakaaro he koretake te akiaki i tō hoa rangatira pērā. Engari tera tonu te wā ka whakaaro koe kua ranea ō whakaaro. He tika tō tirohanga, pērā i tana. He mea nui ō whakaaro. Ki te kore tō hoa rangatira e whakaae ki tēnā, me tūpato koe.
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Kei waenganui i te 40 tau māua, ā, kua tau te noho o te ao mō māua tokorua. Kua mau tonu māua mahi. He pai te āhua o tā māua pūtea. Kāore he raruraru kē atu i roto i ō māua ao. Ko tā māua marena anake kei roto i te raruraru. Ā, ki te kore e taea e māua te whakatika i tēnā, he mea pouri rawa atu. Engari kāore māua i te mōhio me pēhea te whakaora i te marena kei roto i te raruraru.
Ka mutu, ko matou i whakatau ki te tiki tohutohu mō te marenaI whakaae a Rick ki te kōrero ki tētahi hoa o te whānau i roto i te umanga, ā, i roto i ngā marama e ono, i whakatauhia e ia ōna raruraru mā te rapu āwhina mō te marena i roto i te raruraru.
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I te tīmatanga o tēnei tau, kua tīmata ahau ki te rongo i te rerekētanga. I whai hua te mahi tohutohu ia, ā, kua tīmata ia ki te maioha ki taku tirohanga. I marino ake ia, ā, nā te whiwhi tohutohu mō ngā raruraru o te marena, i whiwhi ia i te maia ki te whakatau i ngā take kē atu i pehia e ia mō te wā roa. I te otinga o aua raruraru nui, ka memeha haere te hiahia ki te tautohetohe tonu.
Mō Paul, kāore au i te mōhio he aha te mea i pā ki a ia. Kāore au i hiahia ki te kōrero anō ki a ia. Kāore au i hiahia ki a ia. Ko tāku noa i hiahia ai he whakatika i taku ake. Nāna ahau i whakaatu mai ki te huarahi tika. Kua taea e au te uru ki tētahi mahi moepuku, ā, ka kino ake te raruraru o taku marena. Engari i mahi au i runga i te whakaaro tika mā te whakamahi i tōku roro, kaua i tōku ngākau, ā, kāore au i tuku i ngā hiahia o tōku tinana kia kaha ake i ahau.
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I araara ahau mō ngā pō, e pātai ana ki a au anō he aha taku e hiahia ana – he hononga roa ki a Paul, he whakatika rānei i te raruraru o te marena. I kite ahau e hiahia ana ahau ki te whakatau i taku raruraru marena, me te mahi i te marena.
Ko tāku i hiahia ai kia hoki mai a Rick, i mōhiotia tonutia e au, ki tōku ao. Kāore au i hiahia kia whakararuraru ēnei āhuatanga o waho i tā māua marena, nō reira i whiriwhiria e au te ratonga tohutohu mō ngā raruraru o te marena, ā, i tino āwhina tēnā i a māua ki te whakahoki i tā māua marena ki te huarahi tika. He tokorua harikoa anō māua.
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Ko ngā tino take o te raruraru o te marena ko te kore whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me ngā kare ā-roto kua pehia. He mea nui kia mahara ngā hoa rangatira e rua he hoa rangatira rāua, ā, me whakapuaki ngā mea katoa ki a rāua anō – ngā mea pai me ngā mea kino. Mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora ka hua ake he marena hauora.
I ētahi wā, ka tino kino rawa ngā whanaungatanga, ā, kāore e taea e tātou te whakahaere ko tātou anake. Kāore e ranea te kōrero noa i ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi ki tētahi, ā, me rapu āwhina i ngā tohunga. Ka whakaratohia e te kaiwhakaora marena ngā whakangungu me ngā taputapu hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ngā raruraru o tō marena, me te whakatika.
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"Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakarere noa i te tūpato, ka uru atu ki tētahi mahi whakaipoipo ohorere. Tērā pea kua uru atu ahau ki tētahi mahi whakaipoipo, ā, kua kino rawa atu te raruraru o taku marena. Engari i whakaaro ahau i runga i te whakaaro tika, i runga i te hinengaro, kaua i te ngākau, ā, kāore hoki i tukua kia hinga ahau i ngā hiahia o tōku tinana."
E kui, e whakaatu ana ngā rerenga kōrero o runga ake nei i tō whakatau me tō whakaaro kia tapu te marena, kia mahi hoki. Ki taku whakaaro, ko ngā wā uaua ka whakamātautau i te kaha o te tangata. Ka riro i te hunga pakari te hunga pakari, engari ka hinga te hunga ngoikore ki te hunga pakari. He maha ngā wā, ka panaia te tangata e te ngākau ki te ara hē i ngā wā uaua nā ngā kare ā-roto. He iti noa iho te hunga e whakamahi ana i te hinengaro/mātauranga. Mena he maha ngā tāne me te wahine e whakamahi ana i tēnei mātauranga, he maha ngā take i whakangaro/i whakararu i ngā marena kua taea te karo. Ka haehae ngā take i te tokorua, ka mate te tangata i roto i te hara, tae noa ki te taenga ki te urupā, me waha tonu te hara ahakoa kua murua, kāore rānei, kua whakakitea/kitea rānei te take, he tino mamae tēnei.
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