Kāore i taea e māua te marena nā te "whakahonore" o te whānau

He ata kohu, he makariri o Hānuere i Delhi, i taku taenga atu ki te taunga rererangi ki te eke ki taku rererangi mō Mumbai. I a au e tū ana i te rarangi hei tiki i taku urunga eke, ka kite ahau i tētahi wahine i mahara ahau e mōhio pai ana ahau.

Kāore au i kite tika i tōna mata tae noa ki taua wā, engari i mea ahau ki ahau anō, he haurua harikoa, he haurua miharo: "Ko ia pea; he nui rawa hoki ngā āhuatanga ōrite, kāore e tika kia rerekē ahau."

E whā tau i muri mai, ka tūtaki anō tāua

Ā, i tana tahuritanga mai i taua wā tonu, ka tūtaki ō māua kanohi. Kia pēhea te roa o tā māua kitenga tetahi i tetahi? E whā tau te roa? Ki ahau nei, he rite tonu ki te mutunga kore. I titiro tonu māua tetahi ki tetahi, he roa rawa pea mō ētahi atu i roto i te rarangi, i te mea ka tīmata te tangata manawanui e tū ana i muri i ahau ki te wero i ahau. ki te neke whakamuaI haere whakamua ahau, me ia anō hoki, me te rārangi, engari i rere tonu ōku whakaaro i ētahi tau kua pahure.

"Aue te nui o tōna hiranga ki ahau!" i whakaaro ahau ki ahau anō. Kāore i taea e au te whakaaro i tōku ao me te kore ia, ā, e whā tau ahau i kite ai, i kōrero ai rānei ki a ia. Ko te 'neke atu' pea, e ai ki te kōrero, koia te ora. Engari kua mahue atu rānei ia e au?

Kāore i te rite tonu te kare ā-roto

Kua kohia e ia tana urunga eke, ā, i tatari mārire ia mōku. I tatari mārire ahau mō taku wā. I hiahia ahau ki te kōrero ki a ia, me te tino hiahia. I a māua e tū ana i reira, he torutoru noa ngā hikoinga te tawhiti, ka kite ahau i te tawhiti kua neke atu māua tetahi i tetahi. Ko taua ataata, ko taua mahana i roto i tā māua mihi i te kitenga tetahi i tetahi, me taua āhua harikoa i roto i ō māua kanohi, me te piki haere o ō māua waewae. ina tahi – te āhua nei kua taupokina katoatia.

Hei whakamutunga, i te whiwhinga i taku urunga eke, ka haere atu ahau ki a ia. I ataata ahau, ā, ka puta mai he kupu 'Kia ora' i ōku ngutu, ā, ka puta mai he kupu 'kia ora' mārire mai i a ia. He tino mīharo te āhua – kāore au i mahara ki te mihi atu tetahi ki tetahi me te mea he hoa noa iho. Tērā pea i pērā anō hoki ōna whakaaro, e tino mōhio ana ahau.

Ngā maharatanga o te aroha

Heoi, ka tūtaki ō māua ringa totoro mō te rūrū ringa pōrearea, ā, ka kite ia i tētahi mea: ko te mātaaratanga ringaringa i mau i ahau. Ko te mātaaratanga porowhita, whitiki kikorangi anō i homai e ia ki ahau. i taku ra whanau, i muri i tō māua kitenga i a māua anō, ka penapenahia e ia te moni iti i puta mai i tōna kāinga.

"He aha koe i hoko ai i tēnei wati ringaringa utu nui, ina mōhio koe kāore au e pai ki te mau i ēnei, ā, ka taea e au te tirotiro i te wā mā taku waea pūkoro," ka mea atu ahau ki a ia i a ia e here ana i tana koha ki taku ringaringa.

"E mōhio ana ahau. Engari, mēnā ka kite tonu ahau i tētahi mea e kakahuria ana e koe nā te mea e hiahia ana ahau kia kite koe i ahau, ka mōhio ahau e aroha ana koe ki ahau," ko tāna whakautu.

Mai i te rā i koha mai ai ia ki ahau, kua tino āta kakahuria e au i mua i taku wehenga atu i te kāinga.

He tino ōrite māua: he rite tonu te whakatipuranga mai i te akomanga waenga, he rite tonu ngā mea e pai ana ki a māua, he rite tonu te wāhi o te whenua, ā, e koa ana ki aua wā harikoa iti i noho tahi ai māua, ā, kāore i nui te tumanako ki te ao. I tino hiahia māua kia noho tahi māua.

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He arai e kore e taea te pakaru

Engari kātahi ka wehea māua e tetahi mea – nō ngā kāwai rerekē māua. I te taenga atu o te rongo mō tā māua marena ki tōna kāinga, ka riri ngā tāne o tōna whānau. I a au e hikoi ana i waho o te puni o taku kāreti i tētahi rā, ka kite ahau i tētahi o ōku hoa mahi e tohu mai ana ki ahau ki tētahi rōpū tokowhā, tokorima rānei. Engari kāore au i whakaaro he aha te mea ka pā ki ahau. Ka oma mai taua rōpū ki ahau, ka tīmata te patu i ahau. Ka hiki ake tētahi o rātou i ahau i te whenua mā te taha o taku kara, ā, ka whakatūpato: "Kia matara atu i tōku tuahine, ki te kore, e kore koe, e kore hoki ahau e tohu i a koe, i tōku tuahine rānei."

Kātahi ka āta mārama ahau he aha i puta ai te whakaekenga ohorere. I taua wā tonu, ka oma mai a Radhika (ko tōna ingoa tēnā), me te ohorere, ka tukuna ngā ringa o tōna tungāne i taku kara, me te tohe tonu ki a ia kia haere atu.

I hoki mai ia me ngā marutanga

Nā taua mahi i ohorere ai māua. Engari i whakatau māua: kāore māua e mataku. I noho tahi tonu māua. Heoi anō, i whakararuraru i ahau tetahi mea mōna: nā te mea kua kore ia e noho ko ia anake i roto i tōku taha. He mea hē, kāore i te kore, ā, kāore hoki i uaua ki ahau te whakaaro i te take: to tatou hononga kāore i whakaaetia e tōna whānau, ā, ko te mutunga iho tēnei i pā ki ahau. Engari ko te mea i ohorere ai ahau, ā, i riri ai hoki ahau, ko te kitenga i ngā marō i tōna mata, i tōna kaki me raro i ōna kanohi i tōna hokinga mai i tētahi haerenga poto ki te kāinga.

“Nā tā tāua hononga tēnei i puta ai?” I pātai atu ahau ki a ia, he nui ake te whakapono, ehara i te hiahia ki te mōhio.

I noho puku ia, ā, ka tae mai taku whakautu. I mōhio ahau me mahi e au tetahi mea i mua i te puta ke o te āhua kino.

Kāore i roa ka whaki atu ahau ki ōku mātua. I mōhio rāua mō Radhika, engari kāore i te tino mōhio ki tō māua whanaungatanga katoa: ko ia taku hoa rangatira mō te ao.

I whānau mai ōku mātua i tētahi tāone hou o Īnia, nō reira, kāore i āwangawanga rāua mō te rerekētanga o tō mātou iwi.

I whānau mai ōku mātua i tētahi tāone Inia hou, ā, kāore i āwangawanga mō te rerekētanga o tō mātou iwi. Ina hoki, kāore rātou i pātai mai mō tēnei mea. Engari i whakahē rātou kia marena tonu ahau, nā te mea kāore au i te whiwhi moni i taua wā, ā, ka mea mai rātou: "Kōrero mai ki a mātou ko wai te tama o te akomanga waenga e marena ana me te kore e whiwhi moni. Kei te ako tonu koe, ā, e kore e taea e koe te tango i te kawenga o tētahi atu tangata," ko tā rātou.

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Me mawhiti tāua?

He tika tā rātou. Engari ko te take i ngana ai ahau ki te marena wawe tonu, he kore e taea e au te kite i a Radhika e mamae ana. I whakaaro anō māua kia mawhiti, ahakoa kei te āwangawanga māua mō te whakahaere i te oranga. Ahakoa tō māua hiahia nui, i whakamahere māua kia mawhiti i tētahi ahiahi.

I taua ata anō, te rā i whakaaro ai mātou ki te oma, ka haere mai tētahi kuia ki te pātai mai mōku i te wāhi noho i noho ai ahau. Kāore i uaua tana kimi i tōku wāhi noho, nā te mea i tata tonu ahau ki te puni o taku kāreti, ā, kua taea e tētahi o ōku hoa te tohutohu i a ia.

"I patua taku teina i tana hiahia ki te moe tāne me te kore whakaae a te whānau," te kī a te whaea o Radhika e kitea ana te mamae.

"Kāore au e hiahia kia pā mai taua aituā ki taku tamahine kotahi," tana kī, me te tangi pōuri.

I te mamae o te ngākau i te kitenga i te wahine e tangi ana, ka pakaru tetahi mea i roto i ahau. Kāore au i te mōhio ki tētahi mea e kiia nei ko te 'whakamate honore'. Ae, kāore tonu i te mārama ki ahau te āhua o te whakahokinga mai, te whakaara ake rānei i te 'honore' e taua momo whakamatenga.

Mō tō mātou whānau

Nō reira, i taua ahiahi i whakaaro ai māua kia mawhiti, me te roimata me te ngākau maru, ka oati māua ko Radhika: "I te mea kua waiho tō māua whanaungatanga hei take mamae mō māua, me te maha o ngā āwangawanga, me whakamutu tēnei."

I roto i te marama kotahi, ka puta māua i te kāreti, ā, mai i taua wā kāore māua i kite, i kōrero rānei tetahi ki tetahi, tae noa ki taua tūtakitanga i te taunga rererangi.

I a mātou e noho ana, e tatari ana mō te wehenga, ka tangi te waea a Radhika i roto i te pēke i puritia e ia. Ka wetekina e ia, ā, i a ia e tango ana i tana waea pūkoro, ka taka ngā pepa ririki e rua ki runga i te papa. Ka tuturi ahau ki te kohi i aua pepa, ā, ka mōhio tonu ahau he aha ēnei: ​​ko ngā tīkiti pahi o te haerenga tuatahi i haere māua i roto i te pahi o te rohe. Me pēhea rā e wareware ai ahau i taua haerenga pahi iti: nā te mea i waenganui i te ngangau me te ngangau i roto i te pahi, i kōrero ahau ki a ia he aha tōna tikanga ki ahau. Kāore au i tino tono marena ki a ia i taua wā, engari i whakakitea e au kei te aroha ahau ki a ia.

"Ka puritia rāua e au kia tata ki ahau hei whakamaharatanga mō tā tāua haerenga tuatahi," tana kī, me te kapo atu i te tīkiti pahi i ahau.

I mahue iho me ngā maharatanga

I te wā i kohia ai e au aua pepa ririki, haehae, ka whakahokia atu ki a ia, kei te kōrero tonu ia i te waea engari ka huri whakarere tana aro, ka titiro mai ki ōku kanohi. Ko te tangata i tērā taha o te waea i karanga mai ki te tiki i a ia. whakarongo hoki. I rongo ahau i te reo o tētahi wahine, he kaumātua pea. Pērā i taua wā, i tēnei wā ka tangohia e ia aua tīkiti i ahau, ā, ka hohoro te whakanoho ki roto i tana pēke, ā, i muri iho ka kati i te pēke, ka puta he aue. Kātahi ka haere tonu tana waea, me te mea kei te raru ia.

I taku tūnga anō i tōna taha, ka puta ake te whakaaro, kāore he ruarua: "Kua neke atu tāua, engari kei te whai wāhi tonu tāua tetahi ki tetahi i roto i tā tāua haerenga."

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Thoughts Final

He haerenga uaua, he haerenga wero hoki te wikitoria i ngā arai o te "whakahonore whānau". Heoi, ka taea te kimi i te aroha me te harikoa i runga i ō ake tikanga. Mā te rapu tautoko, te tū mōu ake, me te whakatairanga i tō ake oranga, ka taea e koe te wetewete i ngā tumanakohanga ahurea me te hanga hononga whai hua. Kimihia ngā rautaki hei whakatere i ngā tumanakohanga whānau me te hanga hononga hauora. Rapua tā mātou āwhina ngaio.

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