Me pēhea te aroha pono ki tētahi i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga

Porohia te aroha

Ina whakaarohia te aroha pono ki tētahi, ko te whakautu pea kei roto i ngā mea e toru – te aroha, te pono, me ngā whāinga roa. Ko te kaha o te whanaungatanga he rite ki te hononga o ōna hoa me te mahi e whakapaua ana e rātou. Tērā pea ka meinga koe e te aroha kia māhana, kia ara ake ai tō oranga, engari he nui te mahi tahi e hiahiatia ana kia mau tonu ai i muri mai. He nui te taurite o ngā kare ā-roto me ngā patunga tapu e hiahiatia ana, he mea kāore e kitea i roto i ngā kiriata aroha 90-meneti te roa, i ngā pukapuka pakiwaitara rānei.

I mua i tā tātou whakaaro me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi, hei whakamahana, ka tūtohu ahau kia tirohia pono e koe te whānuitanga o tō pauna kare ā-roto. He manawanui koe? Ka whakaritea rānei e koe tō pauna ki tētahi tīpune (arā, he mea koretake, he pukuriri rānei)? Mā te whakautu pono koe e āwhina ki te mārama mēnā kua rite koe ki te kimi i te whakautu mō te aroha pono ki tētahi – mēnā kua rite tō hinengaro me tō tinana mō taua whanaungatanga. Ā, mēnā kua rite koe, ā, kua pai kē koe ki tētahi, me mahi tātou me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi me te kore here.

He aha te tikanga o te aroha ki tētahi?

Ripanga o Ihirangi

Ina ngana tātou ki te mārama me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi, ko tōna tikanga ko te whakatakoto i a rātou ki mua i a koe? Ko ōna hiahia rānei i mua i ōu? Kāore i te mea me mahi, kāore rānei i te wā katoa. Ina aroha koe ki tētahi tangata me te kore here, ko te mea nui ko te kimi i te taurite i waenganui i... he aha tāu e hiahia ana mai i tētahi whanaungatanga me ā rātou e hiahia ana. Whakaarohia he waka tītaha i roto i te māra, e ekehia ana e ngā tamariki harikoa e rua e tino pārekareka ana ki te wā. He rite tonu ki tēnā, he harakore, he harikoa i ngā pikinga me ngā hekenga katoa.

He momo atawhai anō hoki te aroha ki tētahi. He tohu tēnei mō tōu māia ki a koe anō, tōu whakapono ki a koe anō, me te tawhiti kua haerea e koe i roto i te ao. Tērā pea ka mārama koe ki te aroha ki tētahi kāore koe e aroha ana – he mahi atawhai. E whakaatu ana tēnei he mahi whānui te aroha, ehara i te mea he kare ā-roto noa iho. He mahi mohio te aroha ki tētahi e hiahia ana ki te manawanui nui.

Ngā Huarahi hei Aroha Pono ki tētahi

I a au e whakaaro ana me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi, he maha ngā mea i whakaaroarohia e au – pērā i te maha o ngā āhuatanga tinana me ngā āhuatanga kare ā-roto e pā ana ki tēnei. Me pēhea rānei te aroha ki tētahi? kōrero ki tētahi hoa i tētahi huarahi pai akeHe aha te tikanga o tēnei aroha? Engari ko te nui rawa o te whakaaro ka whakangaro i ngā wheako katoa, tae atu ki ngā whanaungatanga. Nō reira, ko te whakautu pea ki te pātai me pēhea te aroha mutunga kore ki tētahi kei roto i te mahi i ngā mea māmā engari he mea ā-tinana. Kei roto i tēnei ko te whai wāhi nui atu ki te tangata e arohaina ana e koe.

1. Arohaina rātou mō te hunga e noho nei rātou

Ko te whakautu mō te aroha ki tētahi kei roto i te tango i te tangata i tōna āhua tūturu. Ka hangaia te tangata e ōna wheako – nā reira, ka whakawhanakehia e rātou ō rātou tikanga me ō rātou āhuatanga. Ko ētahi o ēnei ka ahua whakarihariha ki a koe. Ā, ko ētahi tāngata momo-A ka ngana ki te whakarerekē i ēnei āhuatanga – ka taea e rātou te huri hae, whakahaere rānei i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Ka taea e tātou te whakatau he mahi kino tēnei. Ko te ngana ki te whakawhiti i tētahi hoa kia rite ki tāu e pai ai, ka mutu pea he aituā.

Ki a Sasha rāua ko Trisha, he wāhanga nui o te whanaungatanga o tētahi tokorua rangatira wharekai, ko te aroha tetahi ki tetahi mō te āhua o rāua. He whanaungatanga whaiaro, he whanaungatanga ngaio hoki tō rāua. He whanonga ā-roto tō rāua i whakapataritari i tetahi ki tetahi. I kī a Sasha, e kī ana he āhua rangatira ia i roto i te whanaungatanga, i riria e ia a Trisha mō ngā mea kāore i pai ki a ia. "Nā tēnā i aukati i a ia. I kite ahau kāore ia e kōrero mai ana ki ahau. I tino hara ahau," tana kī. Heoi, i whakatauhia e rāua ō rāua raruraru mā te kōrero pono, ā, i tino kitea e Sasha te aroha ki tētahi mō te āhua o rāua.

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2. Whakaritea he wā mō te aroha me te taatai

He tino pukumahi ngā kaimahi a Jeremy rāua ko Hannah, pērā i te nuinga o tātou. E kaha ana rāua ki te mahi hei oranga mō rāua, ā, e tino whakahīhī ana rāua ki tēnā. Whai muri i te tekau tau o te mahi uaua, he maha ngā mea ka taea e rāua te utu, ā, kua kohia e rāua he moni iti mō tō rāua heke mai. Heoi, ka kitea e rāua kua tino ngenge rāua i te mutunga o te rā. "Kei te hē tetahi mea," te kī pinepine a Jeremy. E mōhio ana ahau he aha te mea! Kei te ngaro i a rāua te mea matua mō te aroha ki tētahi - te aroha me te taatai.

Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, me mārama koe ki te toi o te aroha. Hoki atu ki ō rā tuatahi o te whakaipoipo mō ētahi tohu. Me mahi anō aua nekehanga ātaahua - ka whakama ai tō hoa. Ā, ko te mea nui ake, me whakarite he wā mō te taatai. He mea nui te hononga tinana o ngā tinana ki tētahi whanaungatanga. Kaua e mahue tēnā.

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3. Whakaohokia rātou

He mea tino iti te whakanui i te miharo o ō hoa. Me waiho tēnei hei tikanga matua i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Ko te whakarite i ngā ohorere – ahakoa he iti, he nui rānei – ka taea te whakamahi hei whakamahara hauora kei te maumahara tonu koe ki a rātou. Mā te miharo anō hoki ka kitea te nui o tō mōhio ki tō hoa. Waihoki, Ka taea e ngā ohorere te whakahari i te hoa riri.

Ko te ariā o te ohorere he whakautu huna hoki ki te pātai me pēhea te mōhio kei te aroha koe ki tētahi! Ki te pai koe ki tētahi, tera pea ka hiahia koe ki te mahi i ngā mea mā rātou, ā, kāore he huarahi pai atu i te whakamahere i ngā ohorere. Nō reira, āe, haere tonu ki te whakamahere i tētahi mea e whakaaro ana koe ka pai ki a rātou. Ka tino whakaurua te harikoa ki roto i tō whārite.

4. Kia rite ō rātou hiahia

Kāore he aroha nui atu i te tohatoha – ā te whakapuaki i ngā hiahia ōrite i roto i te whanaungatanga He huarahi pai tēnei ki te noho tahi me tō hoa aroha. Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi, nui atu i tō tikanga, ka taea e koe te whai wāhi atu ki ētahi mea e pai ana ki a rātou. Kāore pea koe e hiahia kia tino pai ki te mea. Engari, kāore te hiahia nui e whara i tētahi. Tērā pea ka pai koe ki te mea. Hei tāpiri, ka taea hoki e ngā mahi whakangahau te whakautu i te pātai "me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kei te aroha koe ki tētahi". Ki te pai koe ki a rātou, ka hiahia koe ki te whai wāhi atu ki ngā mea e pai ana ki a rātou.

Mō Ryan rāua ko Shalom, he tauira taitamariki kua puta i te kura tuarua e rapu mahi ana, kua whakamama ake te ahotea i te whakapau kaha ki te mahi origami. Mai anō i tōna tamarikitanga, he aroha nō Ryan ki te mahi origami. Kāore a Shalom i aro ki tēnei mahi toi. "Koinei taku whakamātau tuatahi ki tētahi mahi toi," tana kī. Heoi, i kī ia i piri pūmau rāua i roto i ngā akomanga. He maha ā rāua kōrero i a rāua e mahi toi ana, e mārama ana ki ngā hiahia o tētahi ki tētahi. "He akoranga whakamiharo, he akoranga ohorere mō te aroha pono ki tētahi," te kī a Shalom.

5. Kia pono

Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi, ko te pono te mea nui. Koinei te wāhanga motuhake o te aroha ki tētahi i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, ki te kore, ka kino te reka. He rite ki te pūtake o te pīta, ki te spaghetti rānei ki te bolognese – koinei te pūtake o te hua. Mā te kore pono ka tohu pea kei te ngoikore te turanga o tō kōrua whanaungatanga.

Ko te pono tētahi āhuatanga kāore e hiahiatia kia whakaaturia. Ka kitea te whakapau kaha i roto i ngā mahi iti. He rite anō hoki te pono ki te whakawhirinaki – he mea i pakaru i roto i te whanaungatanga o Valentine rāua ko Aisha. I te wā i tinihanga ai a Valentine, i tino pouri a Aisha. Nā tēnā i tino kore whakapono ia. "Me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi i muri i tā rātou tinihanga?" i pātai ia, me te tāpiri, "Ki ahau nei, ko te pono te mea nui. I roa te wā i ora ai ahau i te meka i tinihanga ia. I rapu tonu ahau i ngā take hei aroha ki a ia. Engari i te mutunga. Kua oti."

Akohia te Aroha ki tētahi

Ka taea e koe te ako ki te aroha ki tētahi? He tino pai te whakautu. Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakauru pono ki tētahi tangata, he maha ngā tohutohu me ngā tinihanga hei āwhina i a koe kia pai ake ai. Heoi anō, he kupu whakatūpato - kāore pea koe e hiahia ki te whakauru nui ki tētahi tangata, tae noa ki te ngaro i a koe i te ara. Kia maumahara tonu ko tō whanaungatanga ki a koe anō te mea nui rawa atu. Nō reira, i a koe e ako ana ki te aroha ki tētahi mōna ake, arohaina koe i te tuatahi. Mā tō whakapono ki a koe anō me tō whakapono ka pai ake ai koe ki te aroha ki tētahi atu. He pono tēnā!

1. Whakarongo ki te tangata e arohaina ana e koe

Me i whai pukapuka ārahi mō te aroha ki tētahi, ko te whakarongo te tuatahi o ngā kōrero. He āhuatanga pai te whakarongo kaha hei pupuri i te ao. Ka āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ki tētahi tangata. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te aroha pai ake, me whakarongo pai koe ki te tangata. Whai wāhi kaha ki ngā kōrerorero me rātou. Kaua e whakautu noa i ngā kupu kotahi, engari me ata tito ō whakautu – tāpiri atu ki te kōrerorero. Mā te whakarongo, ka taea e koe te whakamarie i a rātou.

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2. Kia mōhio ki ngā mea e pā ana ki a rātou

Mātakihia ngā mea iti mō rātou – ngā mea e pai ana ki a rātou, me ngā mea kāore e pai ana ki a rātou. He pai ki te nuinga o te tangata ina ngana ētahi atu ki te mōhio ki a rātou. He pai ki a rātou ina mōhio rātou kei te mātakihia ā rātou whanonga. He wairua haumaru kei roto. Heoi anō, mā ngā pūkenga mātaki koe e āwhina ki te whakamahere i ngā koha aroha mā rātou.

I kōrero mai a Sam, i mahi tahi rāua ko tana hoa rangatira, ko Mia, ki ahau me pēhea te "mātakitaki" i āwhina i tā rāua hononga. "Ka mau a Mia i ēnei pine makawe ātaahua. Nō reira, ka tīmata ahau ki te hoatu i aua mea ki a ia me te kore e mōhiotia. I te tuatahi, i whakaaro ahau ka whakarihariha ia - ka whakaaro rānei he mea whakamataku. Engari i harikoa ia ki te mau i aua mea ki te mahi. Koinā taku tohu. I pai ia ki te tohu," te kī a Sam.

3. Kia haepapa

Te kawenga, te He maha ngā āhua o te kawenga i roto i ngā whanaungatangaKa taea e ia te ārai i ngā tautohe maha. Ki te whakaae koe ki ō hapa, ki ō uauatanga rānei, kāore koe e hiahia ki te tiaki i a koe anō. Mā te māramatanga i muri i te kawenga ka taea e koe te whakaaro ki tō whanaungatanga. Ki te mahi tuatahi koe ki ō raruraru, ko koe anake pea ka taea te whakaaro me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi me tō ngākau katoa.

Mā te whai kawenga whānui ka āwhina i a koe i roto i ngā āhuatanga uaua o te whanaungatanga – hei tauira, te tinihanga. Mena kua pātaihia koe ki te pātai "me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi i muri i tā rātou tinihanga?" i muri i te moepuku a tō hoa, me arotake pea koe i a koe anō i te tuatahi. I puta mai i a koe tētahi ara? Ae, ehara i te mea me tango tonu e koe te he. Engari he āwhina te aromatawai i a koe anō.

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4. Hoatu he wāhi

Ehara i te mea ko te piri tonu te whanaungatanga i ngā wā katoa. Engari ko te whakanui i te takitahi. Nō reira, he mea nui te tuku wāhi ina rapu huarahi koe ki te aroha ki tētahi. Tērā pea ka hiahia te tangata ki te noho tahi me ia anō, pērā i tana hiahia ki te noho tahi me tana hoa. He mea tika tēnei taurite. Kāore he take e manukanuka ai ki te wā poto hei wehe. Inaa, he mea nui tēnei i roto i te rārangi o ngā huarahi ki te aroha ki tētahi i roto i te whanaungatanga.

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5. Pātai atu ki a rātou he aha tā rātou e hiahia ana

Ko te huarahi pai ki te mārama me pēhea te aroha ki tētahi ko te pātai pono atu ki a rātou me pēhea rātou e hiahia ana kia arohaina. Ina ngana tātou ki te whakaaro i ngā mea mā tātou ake, ka ngaro ngā mea nā te kore o tētahi kōrero pono. He maha ngā huarahi hei whakatika i te korenga o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i roto i te whanaungatanga. Mā te kōrero pono, kaua e whakararuraru i a koe, ka āwhina pea koe ki te whakatutuki i taua māramatanga. Waihoki, mā te kōrero tuwhera koe e ako ki te aroha ki tētahi kāore koe e aroha ki ai – he mea tēnei mā te hunga e tautohetohe ana mō tētahi tangata. Kāore koe i te tino mōhio mēnā e pai ana koe ki a ia? Tērā pea ka hiahia koe ki te noho tahi me ia i mua i te peke ki te whakatau.

He mahi tino kore whakaaro ki te aroha ki tētahi tangata mōna ake. Tērā pea kāore koe e tino pai ki tētahi tangata, ā, koinei te wā e whai wāhi mai ai ō tātou pūkenga pai ake – te wā e mahi ai tātou i ngā patunga tapu iti me te tuku i ngā whakaaetanga. Ehara i te mea kino rawa. Nā te mea kāore he whanaungatanga kāore he tangata e hiahia ana ki te whakaae. Ahakoa pēhea, e pai ana tātou katoa ki te ako!

FAQs

1. Me pēhea taku mōhio mēnā he pono taku aroha ki tētahi?

Ki te aroha pono koe ki tētahi, ka oho ake tō ngākau i taua tangata. Ka tere tonu koe ki te tuku patunga tapu, ki te whakarerekē i ngā mea – me te kore amuamu. Ki te aroha pono koe ki tētahi, ka hiahia hoki koe ki te noho tahi me ia, ā, ka whai wā anō hoki koe mōna.

2. Me pēhea te aroha nui ki tētahi?

Hei aroha nui ki tētahi, me te kore whakaaro whaiaro, me mātua mōhio koe ki a koe anō. Kia māia koe ki a koe anō i mua i te whai i tētahi atu tangata. Me tino pono hoki koe ki te hiahia koe ki te aroha nui ki tētahi.

3. He aha ngā huarahi pai hei whakaatu i te aroha?

Ko ngā huarahi pai ki te whakaatu i te aroha ko te whakapuaki i ngā hiahia ōrite me te whakarongo kaha. Mā te mahi tahi i ngā mea, ka taea e kōrua te noho tahi mō te wā roa, ā, ka pai ake te mōhio tetahi ki tetahi. Mā te whakarongo kaha, ka taea pea e kōrua te waihanga i tētahi wāhi haumaru mō tō hoa – koinei te huarahi tino nui ki te whakaatu i te aroha.

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