Me pēhea te puta i te wehenga ko koe anake?

Ka kawea mai e ngā wehenga te mamae, te whara me te kore whakawhirinaki i roto i te tukanga whakaipoipo katoa. Ka piki haere ēnei kare ā-roto kino ina ngana koe ki te whakaaro me pēhea te whakatau i te wehenga ko koe anake. Ko ia mea iti ka whakamahara i a koe ki tō hoa aroha. Ehara i te mea ngawari te wareware ki tētahi. Ka waiho koe e te wehenga kia mokemoke, kia pouri. Ahakoa he āwhina pea te noho tahi me te whānau i taua wā ki te whakatau i ngā pahūtanga kare ā-roto, tera ano etahi huarahi ka taea e koe te awhina i a koe ano ahakoa mo aua haora e noho ko koe anake.

Tērā pea kāore he hoa, he whānau rānei i te taha i a koe e ora ana i te mamae o te ngākau. Me aha koe? Mā mātou koe e āwhina ki te whakatau i tēnei wāhanga tino uaua o te wehenga, ā, mā ā mātou tohutohu mō te ora i te wehenga ka āwhina pea i a koe ki te whakatau ko koe anake.

He kahui tātou, he tangata, e hiahia ana tātou ki te iwi e karapoti ana i a tātou, e hiahia ana tātou ki ngā hononga aroha me ngā whanaungatanga pumau mō te wā roa. E hiahia ana tātou ki te iwi hei whakakī i te aroha, ā, me arohaina, me manaakihia hoki tātou. Ā, ina whai hononga ataahua tātou ki tētahi, ā, ina hinga, ka tino ngaro, ka pouri hoki tātou. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te aro atu ki te mamae me te whara o te ngākau pouri, ā, ka uru te hunga tino harikoa o te ao ki te pouri nui ina whakaaro rātou kua whakakahoretia rātou e tētahi e arohaina ana e rātou.

E ai ki ngā taunakitanga pūtaiao, he kino atu te mamae o te ngākau maru i te mamae tinana. He waimarie te hunga he whānau, he hoa hoki kei tō rātou taha, nā te mea e whiwhi tautoko tonu ana rātou ki te wikitoria i te wehenga mā te aroha me te ngākau aroha. He tino uaua te whakatau i te mamae o te mokemoke i muri i te wehenga me te kore he pūnaha tautoko. Ka mokemoke koe me te kore he hoa. Engari ka kōrero mātou ki a koe me pēhea te wikitoria i te wehenga ko koe anake.

Ko te noho mokemoke i te wā o te mamae ngākau, kāore he whānau, he hoa rānei, he manaakitanga huna. Mā te noho mokemoke i muri i te wehenga ka āwhina i a koe kia ora ake i te mamae ngākau. Tērā pea ka ahua kawa, ka tino mamae hoki i te tīmatanga, engari i a koe e ahu whakamua ana i ia rā, i ia rā, ka kite koe i tētahi huringa, ka pai ake tō wairua i tō te rā o mua.

Ka nui ake tō mana whakahaere i tō oranga, i ō kare ā-roto me ō tauhohenga. Kāore koe e whakapono ki a mātou? Me tūhura tātou me pēhea te kaha ake o tō wehenga i a koe anō, ā, tera pea ka whakaoho i ētahi atu kia ako i tētahi mea, i ētahi mea rānei i a koe.

Me pēhea te wikitoria i te wehenga o tētahi whanaungatanga roa

Ko ngā whanaungatanga roa e whai ana i tētahi tauira e whai wāhi nui ai ngā hoa e rua ki te oranga o tētahi ki tētahi. I a ia e kōrero ana mō te take i raru ai ia i muri i te wehenga, ka kōrero a Aron, he tohunga whakapakari tinana, "Ko ia te tangata tuatahi i mihi atu ahau ki a ia mō te ata pai, ā, ko ia te tangata whakamutunga i mihi atu ki a ia mō te pō pai. Inaianei kei te titiro noa mai taku waea ki ahau, ā, kāore au i te mōhio me aha ahau ki te taupānga WhatsApp."

Ka noho hei tikanga mā ngā tāne me ngā wāhine tetahi ki tetahi, ā, he tino whakararuraru te korenga o taua tikanga. Ka pā mai te wehenga ki a rātou me te mea he tupuhi nui, inā koa ko rātou te hunga kua whakakahoretia e tō rātou hoa. Te āhua takoto kau i muri i te wehenga ā, ehara i te mea onge te ngana ki te kimi i te tikanga o tōu ao ina ngaro tētahi wāhanga nui o tōu oranga.

He uaua te neke whakamua i muri i te noho tahi me tētahi tangata mō ngā tau i roto i tētahi hononga pumau. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te urutau ki te noho ko koe anake i muri i te wehenga. E mārama ana mātou ki te mamae o te mamae o te ngākau pouri, inā koa kua nui te wā me te kaha kua pau i a koe ki te hononga. I moemoeā koe mō tētahi heke mai me taua tangata, he tamariki me tētahi whare pea, tērā pea i kōrero kōrua mō te momo motuka ka hokona e kōrua, te maha rānei o ngā tamariki ka riro i a kōrua. Kātahi, ko te noho ko koe anake me aua maharatanga ka tino mamae.

Kaua e tino pāngia e te mamae. Ae, kei te raru pea koe i muri i te wehenga i tēnei wā, engari ka pahemo anō hoki tēnei. Ki te mea he hiahia, kei reira he ara. Ka kitea e koe he ara hei wikitoria i te wehenga ahakoa ko koe anake, kāore he tangata hei tautoko i a koe i roto i te hinengaro. Te whakaae ko te kua mutu te whanaungatanga Ko te tere tonu e taea ai te taahiraa tuatahi ki te whakaora.

He maha ngā wā, ko te whakakahore i te āhua o tōu āhuatanga te pūtake o te mamae me te koretake o te wairua i muri i te wehenga, ka akiaki i a koe ki te waea atu ki te hoa o mua, ki te whai rānei i a rātou i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Mena kua neke atu te hoa o mua, ko ngā whakaahua tonu o rāua e harikoa ana, e ora ana i te ao ka tino mamae ki te ngākau. Hei neke whakamua i tō ao hou, whakaae ki te pono kua ora te whanaungatanga i tōna oranga.

Ki te mea kei te mokemoke koe i muri i te wehenga, kāore he hoa, akona te aroha ki a koe anō. Tae noa mai ki tēnei wā, kua aroha koe ki te hoa rangatira, ā, kua nui ake tō aroha ki a ia i ētahi atu, atawhaihia tō wairua kua whara. Me waiho koe hei kaupapa matua māu, kia kaha tonu hoki i muri i te wehenga. 

Hei whakatau pai i te noho mokemoke i muri i te wehenga, me te kore e tukua te ngaronga kia pau i a koe, ngana ki te tuhi i ō kare ā-roto hei putanga mō te pukapuka. Ka taea e koe te whakaingoa i te pukapuka, ā, koia te tangata e whakapuakina ai ō raruraru o roto. Ae, ka mutu ngā roimata, ka mamae nui, engari ka ora tonu te mamae. He mea whakakatakata, ina mōhio tō ngākau kua mutu te whanaungatanga, ka tīmata ia ki te mahi i ngā mahi hei whakaora i a ia anō. Kei te pito tonu o te kauhanga te māramatanga.

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Me pēhea te wikitoria i te wehenga ina aroha tonu kōrua tetahi ki tetahi

Ko te wareware i tētahi e arohaina tonutia ana e koe te mea tino uaua pea. Kia taea ai e koe te neke atu i tētahi whanaungatanga, me whakaoti koe. Ā, he uaua pea te whakatutuki i taua whakaotinga mēnā kei te piri tonu ō kare ā-roto ki tō hoa o mua. Kia mutu ai te uaua i muri i te wehenga i roto i tēnei āhuatanga, me mārama koe kāore te aroha anake e ranea hei whakarite i te hototahitanga mō te wā roa.

Whakaarohia ngā take i kore ai kōrua i pai te noho tahi. He aha ngā take whānui i raru tonu ai tō kōrua pararaiha? He rerekē ngā uara o te ao i waenganui i a kōrua? Nā ngā pakanga whakapehapeha rānei? He rerekē ngā mea i hiahiatia e kōrua i te ao? He tangata rīperare tetahi o kōrua, ā, he tangata matatika tetahi?

Ko tētahi mea whakamere mō ngā whanaungatanga roa, ko te whakaatu i te taha pai me te taha kino o tō hoa. Nō reira, ahakoa i whakarērea koe, i whakarērea rānei tō hoa tāne, tō hoa wahine rānei, kia mārama ko te wehenga anake te huarahi hei whakamutu i tētahi whanaungatanga koretake, whanaungatanga kino rānei.

Tērā pea i pai kōrua tetahi ki tetahi, engari kātahi ka tīmata te heke o te whanaungatanga. Kāore pea ia i te mārama ki ōu ngoikoretanga, ki ōu wero rānei, kāore pea koe i te mārama ki ō rātou? Ki te kore te whanaungatanga e pai ahakoa ōu kaha katoa, he tika te whakaae ki te whakatau i te mutunga.

Engari me pēhea te whakatau i te wehenga ko koe anake? Kei te tae atu tātou ki tēnā.

Me pēhea te ora i te wehenga ina kore he hoa

Kua neke tāone pea koe, ā, kāore he hoa tata hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i tēnei raruraru. He tauira tēnei, ina whai hononga aroha te tangata, ka iti ake te whakapau kaha ki ō rātou hoa. Mena kei roto koe i tētahi āhuatanga ōrite, ā, kei te mokemoke koe me te kore he hoa, ka taea e koe te whakapā atu ki a rātou mā Skype, Whatsapp rānei, mā tētahi atu pūnaha hui ataata rānei.

Tērā pea ka taea e koe te whakatau ki te whakatuwhera i tētahi pounamu waina, ka ringihia ōu ngākau. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te wareware ki tētahi, engari mā tā mātou aratohu oranga koe e āwhina ki te mahi i tēnā. Mā tēnei ka āwhina koe ki te whakatau i te mokemoke. Ngāna ki te kimi hoa hou i te tāone. Ko te whakamātau i ngā whare takaro hou, te whakauru i tētahi hākinakina hou, i tētahi mahi whakangahau rānei, ētahi o ngā huarahi ka taea e koe te tūhura. Engari ko te huarahi tino nui me te tino pono ki te whakatau i te wehenga i a koe e mokemoke ana, ko te noho hei hoa pai mōu ake.

He wā pai hoki tēnei hei tīmata te mahi aroha ki a koe anōHe āwhina ngā mea iti katoa. Mā te tuku i a koe anō ka pai ake tō wairua mō te āhua o tōu noho. Haere ki te 'Date' ki a koe anō. Kia motuhake koe mā te mahi i tāu e hiahia ana. Whakangawaritia koe, ā, kia aroha anō ki 'koe'.

Whakamātauria te whai i tō hiahia, i tō mahi whakangahau rānei; akohia tētahi pūkenga hou hei whakahihiko, hei whakaoho hoki i ngā endorphins e tino hiahiatia ana. Mā tētahi mea iti noa iho pērā i te paihere putiputi hou ka taea te whakaara ake i tō wairua, ka taea rānei te tono i tō hinu kakara tino pai ki te ipurangi.

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Whakaritea he wā ki tō whare whakapaipai tino pai, ā, kia atawhai i a koe anō. Ki te ātaahua tō āhua, ka tino pai tō wairua. Ka taea hoki e koe te whai i tētahi akoranga poto mō te whakaaroaro, hei whakamarie i tō raruraru o roto. He pai ake te hua o tēnei i te noho tahi me ō hoa. Ka taea te wikitoria i te wehenga me te kore he hoa. Heoi anō, he tino āwhina te whakakorikori tinana ki te tuku i te kaha kua puritia.

Whakamahia tēnei wā hei whakawhanake i te māramatanga pai ake mō ō hihiri, ō hiahia, me ō tumanakohanga. Karapotia koe ki ngā mea e arohaina ana e koe. He pai ake kia kaua e roa rawa te wā e noho ana i roto i te whare. Haere atu ki waho, ahakoa he hikoi poto noa ki tō papa rēhia o te rohe, ki te taha rānei o te poraka i tō rohe. Ka hari ake koe. He mea ngahau, he mea whakamarie hoki te mātakitaki i ngā kiore e whaia ana tetahi i tetahi, te mātakitaki i ngā kurī e takaro ana, te mātakitaki i te taiao. 

Ka kite koe he nui atu ngā mea o te ao i tua atu i te wehenga o te whanaungatanga. Tūao mō tētahi kaupapa e mōhio ana koe, kohikohia he kohinga o ō kiriata tino pai, ka tohatoha i te rārangi, tīmatahia he hākinakina hou. Ko koe anake e mōhio ana ki tāu e hiahia ana i tēnei ao. Whakamahia tēnei mōhiotanga i a koe e whakahaere ana i te wehenga. Me ēnei mahi iti e aro ana ki te tiaki i a koe anō, he ngāwari noa iho te noho i roto i te wehenga ko koe anake, kāore he hoa.

10 Ngā Tohutohu hei Ora i te Wehenga Kore Hoa

Nā, kua mōhio koe inaianei ehara i te mea uaua te ora i te wehenga ko koe anake. Ko te wikitoria i tēnei mamae me te kore he tangata hei whakawhirinaki atu me huri noa i te tirohanga. Ka puta ake koe i te kaha ake i muri i te wehenga. Anei ngā tohutohu 10 hei ora i te wehenga ko koe anake.

1. Aroha ki a koe ano

Kāore e kore ka puta te koretake o te whanaungatanga i muri i te wehenga. Heoi, kaua e tukua tēnei kare o te koretake kia pau i a koe, kia mimiti hoki i te kaha me te pai o roto i a koe, he kōwhiringa tēnei ka taea e koe – ā, me mahi – kia kaha ake ai tō putanga mai i tēnei mamae ngākau.

Ae, tera pea ka uaua ake tēnei mena ka akiakihia koe e ngā āhuatanga kia noho ko koe anake i muri i te wehenga. Koinei te wā ka whakatau koe ki te aroha ki a koe anō, i ia rā, i ia rā, pērā pea i tō aroha ki tō hoa, ka āwhina i te whakaiti i te mamae me te pōuri e pāngia ana e koe.

Me waiho te whakawhetai hei wāhanga o te ao, ā, i ngā wā katoa e whakaohooho ana ngā whakaaro kino i tō wairua, ngana ki te whakahoki anō i ngā whakaū pai ki a koe anō. He tino āwhina ēnei ki te huri i te tirohanga kino ki te pai. Whakarongo ki ētahi ngā waiata harikoaKia maumahara, he wā poto noa iho ngā wehenga, ā, mā te aroha ki a koe anō koe e āwhina ki te wikitoria i tēnei mamae. Kāore koe e hiahia ki ngā hoa hei wikitoria i te wehenga. Ka taea te wikitoria i te wehenga me te kore he pūnaha tautoko.

2. Whakaaetia ō āhuatanga pai

He maha ngā āhuatanga ka hinga ai te whanaungatanga. Heoi, ina pāngia koe e te mamae nui o te ngākau pouri, he ngawari ki te wareware i ngā take i pakaru ai te whanaungatanga. Mena he whanaungatanga roa i whakaaro koe kei te noho tahi koe me tō hoa mō te toenga o tō oranga, ka taea e tōna mutunga te whakapoauau i a koe mēnā he pai koe ki te kimi i tētahi hei tautoko i a koe i ngā wā pai me ngā wā kino. He tokomaha te hunga e mataku ana kei mate ko rātou anake i muri i te wehenga.

Mā ēnei whakaaro kino me te whakahāwea i a koe anō ka uaua ake te whakatau i te wehenga i a koe e noho mokemoke ana. Engari kaua e whakahāwea i ō pūkenga, whakamaharatia koe ki ngā whakatutukitanga me ngā mea pai katoa. Mā tēnei ka whakatupu i te wairua harikoa ki roto i a koe, ā, ka āwhina i a koe kia ora, kia pai ake ai te whakahaere i te whakakorenga.

Ko te huarahi pai ki te whakatau i te mokemoke i muri i te wehenga me te pānga o tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō ko te tuhi i ngā mea pai katoa mōu, ka arotahi ki tēnā. He pai ki a koe te tunu kai? Tunua ētahi kai reka māu. He tangata aroha koe ki ngā kararehe? Puritia ngā purapura manu ki tō matapihi, tirohia te maha o ngā manu e toro mai ana ki a koe i te rā katoa. Ahakoa he iti noa iho ēnei mea, he nui te āwhina ki te whakatutuki i te ngākau mārie.

3. Tāutuhia ō pūkenga

He mea maori noa iho te pā mai o ngā wāhanga rerekē o te pouri i muri i te wehenga, ā, ko te korenga o ō hoa aroha hei tautoko i a koe ka uaua ake te aro atu ki tēnei awhiowhio o ngā kare ā-roto. Ina whakaaro koe kei te pouri koe, ā, kāore e taea te neke atu, kia mahara koe he wāhanga tēnei, ehara i te mea ko te tino ao tūturu o tōu ao.

Tērā pea kei te rongo koe i te koretake i muri i te wehenga engari kāore e mau tonu. Ko te huarahi pai ki te whakarite kia tere te wikitoria i tēnei raruraru ko te titiro ki roto, me te tūhura i ō pūkenga me ō pūkenga ahurei. Mā tēnei ka hoatu he huarahi whai hua ki a koe hei whakawhiti i tō raruraru o roto hei mea whai tikanga.

Tērā pea he pai koe ki te tunu kai, he pai ki te kanikani pērā i te tohunga, he pai ki te tuhi pikitia, he pai rānei tō pūkenga kakahu, me mahi. Whakaaetia tō uara, koinei te mea nui rawa atu i roto i tā mātou aratohu oranga mō te wehenga.

4. Kia pukumahi koe

I waenganui i te mate urutā COVID-19, i wehe a Sonia i tana hoa tāne mō ngā tau e toru. Nā te mea kua aukatia te haereere me ngā rāhui, ka kitea e ia te pātai me pēhea te whakatau i te wehenga ko ia anake, me te kore e pau i te mamae. I muri i tana noho i te moenga mō te wiki, te tangi i runga i tōna urunga, me te mātakitaki i ngā whakaaturanga anō o Schitt's Creek i runga i a Netflix, ka whakatau ia kua tae ki te wā ki te hopu i te ora.

I hanga e ia tētahi rārangi mahi taipitopito hei pupuri i a ia kia pukumahi i te roanga o te rā, mai i te whakakorikori tinana i te ata ki te tunu kai hauora i te kāinga, te whakarite i te maha o ngā hāora mahi-mai-i-te-kāinga e hiahiatia ana, te kōrero ki ngā hoa, ki te whānau rānei i te ahiahi, me te pānui pukapuka i mua i te moe. Nā te whakapau kaha, kāore i taea e ia te piri ki tana mahinga o ia rā, engari i kite anō hoki ia kāore ia i te whakapau i ōna rā ki te aro nui ki tana hoa o mua me te wehenga.

Tērā pea ka āwhina i a koe tētahi huarahi ōrite mēnā me noho ko koe anake i muri i te wehenga. Kia mōhio koe ki ngā mahi e hari ai koe, whakatapua tō wā ki aua mahi. Mā te noho pukumahi ka ārai i ngā kare ā-roto kino katoa. Kaua e tukua tēnei ka pā te wehenga ki tō oranga mahiHe mea pai te arotahi ki tō mahi. Kei a koe te wā katoa o te ao inaianei, hoatu ki tō mahi, kia kite ai koe i ngā hua. Kimihia ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, kia pukumahi hoki koe. He mea nui tēnei hei whakararuraru i a koe, hei āwhina hoki i a koe kia ora mai i roto.

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5. Kia pai ki ngā mea tuatahi o te ao

He tino uaua ngā wiki mutunga i muri i te wehenga, nā te mea koinei te wā e pau ana ki tō hoa rangatira, e haere ana ki ngā wā whakatā, e tūhura ana i ngā mahi hou o te tāone, e noho noa ana rānei i te kāinga. I a koe e noho ana i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, ko ngā wiki mutunga te wāhanga tino tatarihia o te wiki, ā, ka tere tonu te pahemo.

Nā, kua riro atu rātou i tō ao, ka taea e ngā rā e rua o te wiki te roa ki te wā mutunga kore. Nā, me pēhea e kore ai ēnei e huri hei take mō te hiahia me te ngākau pouri ki tō hoa o mua, ina hoki kei te ngana koe ki te whakatau i te wehenga i a koe e noho mokemoke ana? Mā te whakatuwhera i a koe ki ngā wheako hou me te ora i aua mea ki te tino taumata.

He rerekē te tauhohenga a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te wehenga engari he rite tonu te tukatuka i te harikoa o ngā mea tuatahi. He mea kei roto i ō tātou hinengaro katoa e hiahia ana tātou ki te mahi, engari kāore i kitea he wā, he hiahia rānei ki te mahi. Ahakoa he waiata i ngā pō karaoke, he whakaaturanga rānei i Open Mics, whakamātauria ngā mea hou ina wehe kōrua i te aroha. Mā wai e mōhio, he tīmatanga hou pea tēnei mō tō pūmanawa e puāwai ana.

6. Haereere, kia ora ai te wehenga

Mō te mahi a ngā wheako hou hei āwhina i a koe ki te wikitoria i te koretake o te wairua i muri i te wehenga, kāore e taea te whakanui rawa i te hiranga o te haereere me te tūhura i ngā wāhi hou. Mā te huri i te āhua o te ao ka āwhina i a koe ki te wehe atu i ngā mea o mua, ka tīmata anō hoki i tētahi upoko hou, me te kore he whakaaro pōrearea, he whakapoauau rānei.

I a koe e mahi ana, mahia he mea hou, he mea mōrearea, he mea e pai ai tō wairua ki a koe anō. Whakamātauria te ruku rangi, te ruku wai rānei, kia ako ai koe i te manaakitanga e kīia nei ko te ora. Mā te haereere koe e whiwhi ai i te tawhiti e hiahiatia ana mai i te oranga i hangaia e koe me tō hoa o mua kia whiwhi ai koe i tētahi tirohanga whānui, pai ake hoki mō te āhuatanga katoa.

Koinei te huarahi pai ki te whakaora i muri i te wehenga, ā, ka taea e koe te haere ko koe anake. Kāore koe e hiahia ki ngā hoa hei mahi i tēnā. Hangaia he Rārangi Kaupapa, ka tohua ngā wāhi. Ka tino pukumahi koe i roto i te rangahau, te whakarite i tētahi wāhi, kātahi ka haereere me te tūhura, ā, ka wareware pea koe kei te tiaki koe i te ngākau maru.

7. Whakauru atu ki te mahi hapori

I te wehenga atu o Gabe i tana hononga e whitu tau te roa, i muri i tana kitenga i tana hoa wahine e tinihanga ana i a ia, kāore ia i te mōhio me pēhea te noho ko ia anake i muri i te wehenga. Nā te mea e rima tau ia e noho tahi ana me ia, i tino pōhēhē ia i te wā i tae mai ai ki te whakaaro me pēhea te wehewehe i tōna ao me tōna tuakiri i tōna. Ko ia tikanga me ia mahi iti i whakamahara i a ia ki a ia.

Koinei te wā i kitea ai e ia te whakamarie i roto i tana mahi tūao i te whare tiaki kararehe o te rohe. Nā tēnei i homai he kaupapa ki a ia, i hari ai ia, ā, i tangohia atu hoki tōna hinengaro i te mamae o te ngaronga o te tangata i whakaarohia e ia ko te aroha o tōna ao. Hei whakakore i te mamae o te mokemoke i muri i te wehenga, ka taea hoki e koe te whakamātau ki te mahi tūao mō tētahi kaupapa e tata ana ki tō ngākau.

Whakawāteahia he wā torutoru i te wiki mōna. Tērā pea ka noho tahi koe me ngā kaumātua, ngā tamariki, ngā whakahaere mōkai rānei. Ko tā rātou noho tahi te huarahi tino pai ki te whakaora i te wehenga o te aroha ko koe anake. Mā te mōhio he iti ake tō mamae i tō rātou ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakaora i te mamae o te ngākau.

8. Whakakorikori tinana, ā, whakaputa i tō pūngao kino

He tino uaua te noho mokemoke i muri i te wehenga. Ki te kore he tangata hei whakapuaki i ō whakaaro, ka rite pea koe ki te toremi i roto i ō whakaaro me ō raruraru o roto. Koia te mea nui kia whakamahia ō kaha ki te mahi whai hua. He aha te huarahi pai ake hei mahi i tēnā i te whakamahi i te wā kei a koe hei whakakorikori tinana kia ora ai, kia marino ai hoki te hinengaro?

E mōhiotia ana he pānga pai te whakakorikori tinana ki te roro, mā te whakanui ake i te tuku hāora me te whakaoho i te tipu o ngā pūtau hou. Ka whakanui ake hoki i te hanga o te serotonin. Ka taea e te neurotransmitter te whakanui ake i tō hauora hinengaro me tō hauora tinana. He mea tino pai tēnā, kāore?

Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakauru atu ki te whare takaro tinana, ki te tango rānei i ngā akomanga Zumba. Ka taea e koe te hikoi, te eke pahikara, te oma tere rānei, te rēhita mō tētahi akomanga whakapakari tinana ipurangi, te mahi yoga, te whakamātau rānei i tētahi atu momo whakangungu e pai ana ki a koe. Ko te whakaaro kia pupuhi te manawa me te whakaputa werawera mō te 30 meneti pea ia rā. Mā te whakakori tinana koe e noho ora ai te hinengaro me te tinana.

9. Karapotia koe ki te pai

I roto i te poto, ko te whakautu ki te pehea e whakatau ai i te wehenga ko koe anake, ko te kore e tukua ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto kia pehia koe. Ahakoa ehara tēnei i te tikanga kia panaia atu, kia huna rānei tō mamae, he mea nui kia kaua e tukua kia nui atu i te ao. Whakaaetia, kia mōhiotia hoki he wāhanga ka pahemo. Mō tēnā, me karapoti koe i a koe ki te whakaaro pai.

Āta karohia te hunga he tirohanga kino tō rātou ki te ao, ā, he hunga whakamomori hoki. Karapotia koe ki te hunga he kare pai ō rātou, ā, tukua koe kia whakahihikohia e rātou. Whakamātauria te whakaaroaro hei whakamarie i tō kaha kino, hei whakanui ake hoki i tō oranga. Pānuihia ngā pukapuka āwhina-whaiaro e whakatenatena ana i ngā whakaaro pai. Kia mahara ki te whakaaro pai koe, ka kukume mai koe i ngā kare pai mai i te ao whānui ki a koe.

10. Kia maumahara, kei reira te tumanako

Kaua e whakarērea te tumanako. Hoatu he wā kia ora ai tō wairua. Ka patuki anō te aroha ki ngā tatau. Taria noa te wā tika i mua i a koe. tīmata anō te whakaipoipo i muri i te wehengaKāore e taea te whakakorekore i te meka ka whakaaro koe i taua wā kāore e taea e koe te aroha ki tētahi atu tangata.

Engari whakapono mai ki a mātou, he rite tonu ngā kare ā-roto o te katoa i muri i te wehenga, inā koa mēnā kei te pāngia koe e te wehenga takitahi me te kore hoa. Engari ka neke haere tonu te ao, ā, ka tukuna anō te aroha ki a koe e te ao. Kia manawanui noa.

Me pēhea te noho mokemoke i muri i te wehenga?

Ko te noho kaha i muri i te wehenga tetahi o ngā wero nui rawa atu e pā ana ki te tangata i tēnei āhuatanga. Kei roto i ō tātou ringa te kore e noho mokemoke, mena ka riro i a tātou te mana whakahaere o te āhuatanga, ka whakapau kaha ki te whakatutuki i tēnā. Kaua e whakaaroaro noa, e patupatu noa i a koe anō mō ​​te 'He aha ahau', kāore he pai e puta mai i tēnā. Engari, whakamahia te huarahi 'Ko ahau ināianei' ka arotahi ki te whai i ō moemoeā.

Whakamahia tētahi pūkenga e pā ana ki tāu e hiahia ana ki te mahi i te ao, rapua he āwhina mai i tētahi kaiārahi, i tētahi kaiārahi rānei. Hoko hei kaiārahi mā tētahi atu i ngā mea e mōhio ana koe ki a ia. Pānuihia ngā pukapuka, tūao mō tētahi NGO, uru atu ki ngā akoranga hou. Haere ki tētahi wharekai tino pai, ka tono i tāu kai e pai ana. Mātakihia te kiriata hou. Hei whakarapopototanga, kia pukumahi koe.

He maha ngā mea ngahau hei mahi i muri i te wehenga, ka whakaiti i tō pouri. Kia tīmata koe ki te pārekareka ki ēnei mahi, ka memeha haere te mamae. Mā te whakapau i te wā pēnei ka nekehia te arotahi mai i te whakaaro whakangaro, ā, ka pai tō whakaaro mō te ao me ōna whai wāhitanga. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakatau i te pouri i muri i te wehenga engari ki te pupuri tonu koe i tō waiaro tika, ka taea.

Ko te huarahi e whakatata atu ai koe ki te mokemoke i muri i te wehenga ka tino rerekē. Kaua e mamae, engari whakamahia hei whai wāhitanga ki te hono atu anō ki tō wairua. Me kī he wā okiokinga tēnei ki a koe anō, te wāhi e noho ai koe, e whakaaroaro ana, e mahi ana i ngā mahi hei mārama me te tipu. 

Ka nui te āwhina o tēnei panonitanga tirohanga i a koe, ehara i te mea ko te neke atu i tō wehenga engari ka āwhina hoki i a koe ki te mārama me te mahi ki ō moemoeā. Mena he huarahi āu ki te whakatau i te wehenga mokemoke, tohaina mai ki ā mātou tuhinga Bonobology. Tukua tō whakaoranga i muri i te wehenga hei āwhina i ētahi atu.

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