'Kōwhiria tō hoa rangatira mō te ora me te whakaaro nui.' He mea tēnei kua rongo pea koe i ō tau e tipu ake ana. Haunga tēnā, i kīia atu pea ki a koe ko te whiwhi i te hoa rangatira tika te kī ki tō harikoa katoa. Koinei te whakautu ki te whai oranga whai hua. Mā te tangata tino tika, kua oti tō panga. Engari me aua tohutohu katoa, tera pea kāore koe i kīia atu ki te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ora, ki ngā āhuatanga rānei hei rapu māu i roto i tētahi hoa rangatira.
Āe, kua tae mai koe ki te wāhi tika i tēnei rā. "Me pēhea te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ora?" i pātai koe? Kei a mātou ngā whakautu katoa.
Ehara i te mea uaua te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira e hototahi ana ki a koe i te taha kare ā-roto, hinengaro me te tinana, ki te mōhio koe ki te rapu i tāu e hiahia ana.
Me te kaiwhakaora hinengaro Snigdha Mishra I runga i te kaipuke i tēnei rā, he kaiako hauora hinengaro hoki, he kaiwhakaū o Life Surfers, he Mema Whakaū o Bharatiya Counseling Psychology Association me Lets Talk (COVID mental health crisis support Helpline), ka ngana mātou ki te mārama ake me pēhea te kimi hoa rangatira mō te ora.
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He iti ngā mahi hei mahi māu ina whiriwhiri koe i tētahi hoa hei hoa mō te toenga o tō oranga. Hei mahi i tēnā, me tuhi tuatahi koe i ngā āhuatanga e hiahiatia ana e koe i roto i tētahi hoa rangatira, arā, ko te whakaahuatanga o te hoa rangatira tino pai. Hei āwhina i a koe ki tēnei, anei ētahi tohutohu mai i a mātou. Anei ētahi o ngā āhuatanga hei rapu māu i roto i tētahi hoa rangatira.
- Kaua e aro noa ki te āhua: He mea nui te āhua, engari ehara i te mea nui katoa
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- Te tangata ehara i te tangata whaiti: E hiahia ana koe kia whakaute tō hoa i tō mana motuhake, ā, ko te wairua whakahaere he mea pea haki whero
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- Kimihia tētahi hei tautoko i a koe: Ko te pono te mea nui i a koe ina whiriwhiri ana i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ora
- He mea nui te whakakatakata: He mea nui te whai wheua rorirori mēnā kei te pirangi koe ki te noho tahi me tēnei tangata i tō oranga katoa
- Kimihia tētahi tangata whai mahere: Tērā pea ka hiahia koe ki tētahi tangata e tino pukumahi ana, e whai whakaaro ana, ā, kāore e mangere ki tāna mahi, ki āna whāinga rānei.
- Ngā mahi whakangahau rite: Ko te aroha ki te haereere he mea e hiahia ana koe ki te whakapuaki, ki tētahi atu mea rānei hei āwhina i a kōrua ki te noho tahi.
Me maumahara ki ēnei āhuatanga ina whakaarohia ana he hoa rangatira mō te ao, ka tukuna atu e mātou he mahi kāinga māu: Tāpirihia ōu ake mea e pai ana ki a koe me ōu mea e kore e pai ki tēnei rārangi. He mea nui te whai hononga tika, te kukume me te hototahi. Ehara i te mea me whai tonu koe i tēnei hanganga me te whakamahi pērā i te pukapuka ture. Engari mā te tuhi i ēnei mea ka hoatu he aratohu whānui ki a koe ina rapu ana koe i ngā whakautu ki te pātai miriona tāra: Me pēhea te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira hei tautoko i a koe?
He mea nui anō hoki kia mōhio koe ki ngā mea kāore koe e hiahia ana i roto i tētahi hoa. Ko te whakahaere i te kaimahi he mea whakarihariha pea, ā, ka huri wawe te āhua; ko te kore hononga hohonu ki tōna whānau tētahi atu mea pea. Tērā pea ka kino koe ki a rātou mēnā he nui rawa ā rātou kōrero mō rātou anō, kāore rānei koe i te pai ki tā rātou ngaungau. Ahakoa he aha, kua tīmata tō haerenga 'me pēhea te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa mō te ora'.
Nō reira, whiriwhiria tō hoa rangatira me te whakaaro nui.
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Kāore e ngāwari te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ao katoa
Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whiriwhiri i te hoa tika. Nā te mea he uaua ki te kimi i ngā mea katoa e hiahiatia ana e koe i roto i taua tangata kotahi.
Ā, he uaua anō hoki te whakautu i te pātai, "Me pēhea te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ora?" Hei tāpiri atu ki tēnā, kāore he mea e rite ana ki te tino tika, ki te tino hē hoki ina tae mai ki te... te kimi i tētahi hoa wairuaKāore he ara tika, kāore hoki he ara hē i konei.
Kia maumahara atu tātou, tera pea ka tutuki i tō hoa rangatira ngā mea katoa e hiahiatia ana, engari kāore e taea e tēnā te whakamana i te harikoa mō te wā roa. Engari, tera pea ka mutu te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata ehara i te hoa pai mō te wā roa ahakoa he maha ngā hāora e kōrero ana koe ki a ia!
Snigdha Mishra e mea ana, "Ko te mea hei rapu mā te hoa he karanga whaiaro, ā, e whakawhirinaki ana ki ngā hiahia me ngā uara o te tangata. Engari, hei kaiwhakaora whanaungatanga me ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, kua kite ahau i tētahi tauira e whakaiti ana i te uaua o ngā whanaungatanga, ā, e ngāwari ake ai te mahi i runga. Hei tīmatanga, ina whai whakaaro ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki ngā mea ōrite." uara whanau, he rite tonu te māramatanga me te whakaute me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Ehara ēnei pūnaha uara i te mea pāpori, ehara hoki i te mea mātua, engari i hangaia i roto i ngā wheako o te ao, ā, he rite ki ngā mātāpono e ora ai koe, e ora ai hoki. Ko ngā mahi e mahia ana e koe i te ao hei tangata, ka whakahaerea e ēnei uara.”
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Nō reira, hei whakamutunga, me whakahaere noa e koe ētahi tirotiro me ngā taurite, kia kite ai koe i te nui o te hototahitanga o tō hoa ki te tangata i roto i ngā āhuatanga katoa o te mahi tahi. Me pēhea te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira i roto i tētahi marena kua whakaritea? He rite tonu te tukanga i roto i taua take.
Me whai wā kōrua ki te noho tahi, whakaarohia ētahi pātai hei pātai māu i te wā e whiriwhiri ana i tētahi hoa rangatira, ā, kia tino rangahauhia. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te tapahi i tētahi kokonga, ā, ka mutu ki te tangata hē, ko tō ora te mea e tūpono ana. Mātakitaki i ēnei tohutohu tekau mā rua, ā, ka mōhio koe ki ngā āhuatanga hei whakaaroaro māu i te wā e whiriwhiri ana i tētahi hoa rangatira.
1. E tino whakamarie ana koe i a rātou
Me pēhea te kimi hoa rangatira mō te ao? Tirohia mēnā ka taea e rātou te whakaae ki a koe pērā tonu (me te kore he meke-ake, me te kore heu). Whakaarohia tētahi tangata ka taea e koe te noho ko koe tonu i tō taha, me te kore e manukanuka ahakoa kotahi kei whakahengia koe e rātou.
Ā, mēnā hoki kei te pai rātou ki te momo oranga kua taunga koe ki te noho. Ngā mea pēnei i ō mahi whakangahau, nga po kotiro ki waho te haere tahi me ngā hoa, te haereere mō te mahi, te noho tahi me ngā mātua, me ērā atu mea.
Ki te kore rātou e hiahia kia whakarerekētia e koe tetahi mea, ā, e pai ana ki a rātou aua tarau poto koretake e mau ana koe i te kāinga, i te LBD rānei e whakaatu ana i te nui rawa o te ngako, he taonga nui tāu kei roto i ō ringaringa.
"Ki te mea he uara, he whakaute, he atawhai, he EQ hoki tō te tangata, ko te tūponotanga ka poipoi, ka hiahia hoki taua tangata kia motuhake te hinengaro, te kare ā-roto, me te tinana hei tangata, hei hoa hoki. Ka āwhina rātou ki te waihanga i ngā rohe hauora i roto i te whanaungatanga e āhei ai te tipu whaiaro, te tipu ngaio, te tipu kare ā-roto me te tipu wairua," te kī a Snigdha.
Ko te mea nui rawa atu i roto i te marena ko te noho ko koe anake. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te huna i ō hoko, i ō taunekeneke ki ngā hoa mahi, i tō waeatanga pō rānei a te rangatira.
2. Ngā mātāpono mō te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ora — he māmā noa te kōrero ki a rātou
I ia taahiraa o tō oranga, me rere te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero kia angitu ai tō mārenatanga. Kāore he kino o te noho takitahi o tētahi, ko tētahi he noho tuwhera. Tērā pea ka nui ake te kōrero a tētahi, ā, me iti ake te kōrero a tētahi, engari me rere te kōrero, me te māramatanga hoki i waenganui i te tokorua e puta mai ana i te whakapau moni. wā kounga te noho tahi, me te whai kaupapa kōrero mōna.
He mea nui hoki kia ngahau ngā kōrero. Mai i ngā mahi tōrangapū ki ngā kiriata tae atu ki a Spider-man te mea tino pai, me harikoa koe, me hiahia hoki koe ki te haere tonu i roto i ō kōrero. Kāore e taea e koe te kōrero noa mō tēnei, mō tēnā, me te takaro noa i ngā kōrero mō te koretake.
Ka taea e kōrua te pupuri i te aro o tētahi ki tētahi i a kōrua e kōrero ana, me te kore tētahi o kōrua e takaro ana ki tā kōrua waea atamai? Ki te ae, kei te huarahi tika kōrua ina tae ki te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa mō te ora.
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3. He rite ōu hiahia
Ko tētahi o ngā pātai nui hei pātai māu i te wā e whiriwhiri ana i tētahi hoa noho ko ōna hiahia me ōna wā whakangahau. Ko tā mātou tuatoru o ngā kōrero e rere tika ana mai i te tuarua. Ki te hiahia koe ki te whai kōrero whakamere, me rite ō hiahia. Ko te whiriwhiri whakaaro nui i tētahi hoa noho ko te whai i ngā āhuatanga ōrite hei whakakotahi me te maha o ngā rerekētanga hei whakamere i te whanaungatanga.
Hei tauira, ki te mea he tino aro nui ia ki ngā pane o te rā, ā, kāore koe i tirotiro i ngā purongo i te wiki kua taha ake nei, kāti ka noho taha kotahi te kōrero. I te tīmatanga, tera pea he āhua aroha tana tuku atu i ngā purongo o te rā ki a koe, engari ka rerekē ngā mea. Tērā pea ka ngenge ia i te noho hei nūpepa o te ata māu, kāore rānei koe e hiahia ki te whakarongo ki aua kōrero.
Me te whai hoki nga paanga noa Tērā pea he mahi tahi rite tonu te tikanga, he mea tino whakamīharo tēnei i roto i te marena. Ki te pai kōrua ki te whakamātau i te kai, he mea pai pea te tūhura i ngā wharekai hou i ia wiki i roto i tō kōrua marena. Pērā anō hoki mō te haereere, ngā kiriata, ngā pukapuka me ētahi atu mea.
4. Mā ngā rerekētanga tō kōrua whanaungatanga e ora ai
Ko tētahi o ngā mātāpono mō te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira ko te kore e mutu ki te whakaipoipo, ki te marena rānei i tō ake āhua whakaata. Kia mōhio koe he mea nui kia rite te āhua, pērā i tā mātou i kōrero ai i mua, engari me nui ngā rerekētanga kia pai ai te whanaungatanga, ki te kore, e kore te marena e angitu. Hei tauira, tera pea he pai ki a kōrua ngā pukapuka, engari tera pea he rerekē rawa ngā pukapuka e whiriwhiria ana e kōrua.
Tērā pea he pai ki a kōrua ngā pukapuka Ingarihi, ā, he pai ki tō hoa ngā pukapuka reo ā-iwi. Nō reira, ki te mea he motu te hiko i muri i te awhiowhio, ka taea e kōrua te whakapau i te pō katoa ki te kōrero i ngā kōrero mai i ngā pukapuka i pānuihia e kōrua, ko te mea nui ko ngā pukapuka tino rerekē. Mēnā he rerekētanga ōu whakaaro, tera pea he pai tētahi ki tētahi mea, he pai tētahi ki tētahi atu mea. Ka taea e te marena te angitu nā te rerekētanga o te whanaungatanga.
Ahakoa he pai ki a ia te whakahāngai kākahu, tera pea he pai koe ki te whakapiko me te whakarārangi i aua kākahu. Kua rite katoa ngā mea kei runga i tō rārangi haerenga, ā, ehara koe i te momo tangata e ngaro ana i tetahi mea, engari ehara i te mea he pūkenga tō tākai. Āe! He tino pai tō tāne ki te tākai, ā, ka taea e ia te mahi tere i ngā mea katoa. Ka taea e ia te whakakōpiri i ngā mea maha ki roto i te putea kotahi, ā, ka miharo tonu koe.
Haunga ēnei rerekētanga mahi, he pai tonu ngā rerekētanga whakaaro. Ka whakawhanakehia e ēnei he whanaungatanga hinengaro nui, ā, ka taea e kōrua te tipu i roto i tō kōrua marena, nā te mea he mea hou tonu tā kōrua hei ako tetahi i tetahi. Tērā pea ko ēnei rerekētanga te tohu kua whiriwhiria e kōrua he hoa rangatira mō te ora.
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5. Me pēhea te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa mō te ora? Kimihia tētahi e arohaina ana e koe hei hoa hararei
Mena kei te whakaaroaro koe me pēhea te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ao, me whakarite kia noho hararei poto koe, kia haere rānei i tētahi haerenga rā me te tangata kei runga rawa i tāu rārangi. Mena kei te hohonu te aroha, kātahi ka māmā noa iho tēnā mā kōrua.
Engari kia maumahara, he mea whakamiharo te hararei tahi. Tērā pea ka kitea e koe mēnā kei te marino, kei te marino hoki tō hoa rangatira ina whakaroahia te rerenga, ina matao te kai, ka pūhia rānei e rātou te riri nā te mea kāore ngā mea e haere ana i runga i te mahere.
He taraiwa i te whenua i roto i ngā rori pūkeri i te wā e ua ana – he mea aroha ki a rātou? Kei te kanga tonu rānei rātou i te whakaaro katoa?
Ina hoki, tera pea ko koe te tangata e kore e noho ki waho o tētahi wāhi noho papai, ā, ka tōia koe e tō hoa i te ara hikoi, kātahi ka whakatū puni ki te taha o te roto. Kāore he rohe o tō riri ina noho mataara koe ki te whawhai ki ngā waeroa i ngā taha katoa. Nō reira, ka angitu tēnei hoa? Mā te maumahara ki ēnei tohutohu nui i te wā e whiriwhiri ana koe i tētahi hoa noho, ka mōhio koe i te mutunga.
6. Ngā āhuatanga hei whakaaroaro māu i te wā e whiriwhiri ana i tētahi hoa rangatira: Te hototahitanga ā-ira tangata
Ahakoa kua kīia atu ki a koe kia whiriwhiria he hoa rangatira me te whakaaro nui, hototahi ai Tērā pea ko te mea iti rawa i roto i tō rarangi o ngā āhuatanga e rapuhia ana e koe i roto i tētahi hoa. Kāore e kore ka memeha haere te hiahia ā-ira tangata i roto i te wā, ā, ko te hononga hinengaro me te hononga kare ā-roto te mea e whakau ana i tētahi whanaungatanga. Engari ko te kore hototahi ā-tinana ka noho hei take nui i roto i te marena ā muri ake nei.
Nō reira, whakaarohia te kaha o tō kōrua hiahia tinana tetahi ki tetahi. He hononga tere tonu, he momo hiahia hinengaro rānei e pā ana ki a kōrua? E hia te nui o tō kōrua aroha tetahi ki tetahi i runga i te moenga, me te nui hoki o tō kōrua hiahia ki te awhi, ki te awhi, ki te kihi me te pupuri ringa? He mea nui ēnei mea ina tae mai ki te kimi hoa mō te ao katoa.
7. He rite tonu ō koutou paerewa pūtea me te pāpori
Ehara i te mea nui tonu te noho mai i te taumata hapori kotahi hei here i te pona ki tētahi. Kāore he rohe o te aroha, e mārama ana tātou ki tēnā. Engari ko te whai i te paerewa pūtea me te pāpori ōrite ka āwhina i te waihanga i tētahi oranga pai tahi. Mena he iti rawa te whiwhinga moni o tētahi tangata, ā, he Kardashian tētahi, tera pea he rerekētanga o te āhua noho.
Ka taea te wikitoria i ēnei āhuatanga, koia te take ehara tēnei i te mea nui rawa atu i roto i te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira. Tērā ētahi wā ka puta ake te hunga rawakore i roto i ō rātou ao nā runga i ō rātou ake pūkenga, ā, ka moe rātou i runga ake i ō rātou ake paerewa, ā, ka waihanga i tētahi oranga ataahua mō rātou anō.
He tino angitu, he tino harikoa hoki ēnei marena. Nō reira, kāore he pukapuka ture e kī ana me mahi, me kore rānei e mahi i tēnei mea. Ko tā mātou mahi he whakamōhio atu ki a koe he mea tika tēnei kia whakaaroarohia, nā te mea me mahara koe ko te whiriwhiri i tō hoa rangatira ko te whiriwhiri anō hoki i tō heke mai.
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8. Ngākau atawhai > te tino pai
I te kimi i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ao, tera pea kei a koe ētahi pouaka tino pono mō te mea e hiahia ana koe hei tāne, hei wahine rānei tino tika, ā, kei te hiahia nui pea koe ki te whakatutuki i aua mea. Engari me iti te pono o ō tumanakohanga. Ki te mea kei te tumanako koe kia tino tika tō hoa rangatira, he hapa nui tēnā kei te mahia e koe. He mahi tino tika, he whānau tino tika, he kākahu tino tika – koinei pea ngā mea e hiahia ana koe ki tētahi tangata i tēnei wā tonu.
Kāore he tangata e tino tika ana i tēnei ao. Engari ko te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ora, kei te nui o te hapa e pai ana koe ki te whakaae i roto i tētahi. I ētahi wā, mena ka kitea e koe tētahi tangata atawhai, pono hoki, he nui tēnā, ā, he pai ake pea i te kimi i tētahi tangata e tutuki ana i ngā whakaritenga ahurea o te 'tino tika'.
E mea ana a Snigdha, "E kīia pinepine ana, ki te hiahia koe ki te kimi i te āhua o te tangata, tirohia te āhua o tā rātou mahi ki te hunga rawakore. Kāore au i te tino mōhio mēnā he pono rawa tēnei, engari e tino mōhio ana ahau he whakaata i tō rātou atawhai me te aroha. He māmā ake te noho tahi me te tangata he atawhai ake, he aroha ake, ā, he nui ake ngā uara tangata."
Nō reira, ina puta he riri i ētahi wā, tera pea ka whakaae koe ki tēnā. Engari ka tino whanoke rawa rātou, ka tīmata ki te whakamahi i te reo ngā kupu mamaeAhakoa te nui o tō aroha ki a rātou, me tō whakaaro kua hangaia kōrua mō tētahi ki tētahi, me whakaaro rua kōrua ina tae mai ki ngā whanonga tukino. Engari kaua e whakahe i tētahi tāne mō ōna makawe paru, i tētahi wahine rānei mō ōna tukemata koretake.
9. Mā te taumau koe e āwhina kia pai ake tō mōhio tetahi ki tetahi
Ko te whiriwhiri i tō hoa rangatira he whiriwhiri anō hoki i tō heke mai, koia te take he whakaaro pai te whai taumau. Koinei te wā i mua i te marena, kāore kōrua i te whakaipoipo, kāore hoki i te mārena, engari he momo herenga ture kei reira. Mā tēnei momo whakataki ka taea e koe te whakamātautau i te wai i te huarahi pai!
Koinei te wā ka nui ake te tuku a te tangata i tōna tūpato i mua, me te mōhio kua tata te honore o te whanaungatanga. Ka tīmata rātou ki te noho pai ake i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, ka tīmata pea ki te whakaatu i ngā taha hou o rātou anō ki a koe.
He wā pai tēnei hei tirotiro i te nui o te hononga o kōrua. Ka tīmata rānei ia ki te whakarihariha ki a koe mō te wā katoa e noho tahi ana kōrua ko ō hoa e mātaki ana i tētahi kēmu i te pae inu, kāore rānei e tumanako ana ia kia hoki mai koe i te mahi i te wā kotahi i ia rā? Ka tīmata rānei ia ki te whakahē i tō whānau, ā, ka tīmata rānei ia ki te aroturuki i ō pūtea?
Ka taea tonu te whakakore i te taumau Nō reira, kāore he mea e ngaro i konei. Kaua e taumau hei mea noa iho, hei whakamātautau pāpori rānei. Me mahi noa mēnā he tino ngākau nui koe ki tēnei tangata. Engari kaua e mangere ki te rapu me te mārama ki te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira i tēnei wā. Kia mataara, nā te mea mā ēnei marama torutoru e taumau ana koe ka mārama koe mēnā kua whiriwhiria e koe tō hoa rangatira i runga i te whakaaro nui.
10. He mea nui te whakaute i te wā e whiriwhiri ana i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ora
Ko te hiranga o te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te oranga ka ahu mai i te whakapau i tō oranga katoa ki tēnei tangata kotahi. Mai i ngā kiriata ki ngā tina ki te moe, tata ki ngā mea katoa ka mahia e koe me rātou. Ko te nuinga o ō kōrerorero ka mahia ki a rātou. Koia te take ina whakaaro koe, "Me pēhea te kimi hoa rangatira mō te oranga?" me kimi e koe tētahi e whakaute ana i a koe. Nā te mea koinei tētahi mea nui e pupuri ana i te whanaungatanga kia mau tonu.
Te whakawhanake i te whakaute He mea nui ake pea i te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga. Mā te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi ka āwhina i te whanaungatanga kia tere i roto i ngā pikinga me ngā hekenga o te marena. Koinei tētahi o ngā āhuatanga tino nui hei rapu māu i roto i tō hoa rangatira.
E kī ana a Snigdha Mishra, "Ko te noho hoa me te whakaute i ngā rerekētanga o tētahi ki tētahi he mea nui hei pupuri i te māramatanga me te waihanga i ngā rohe hauora i roto i te whanaungatanga. Koia te take, ina hiahia koe ki te kimi hoa rangatira, me whakarite kia tino whakaute kōrua tetahi ki tetahi."
11. Me pēhea te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa mō te ora? Kia noho tahi me tētahi ka taea e koe te kata tahi
Ko te whiriwhiri i tō hoa rangatira he whiriwhiri anō hoki i tō heke mai, ā, he aha te heke mai ki te kore he nui o ngā kata?
He mea tino nui te wairua whakakatakata kia taea ai e koe te kata i te ao, tae atu ki ngā wā pōuri. Ki te kata tetahi, ā, kāore tetahi e mārama ki te kupu whakakatakata, ka puta he wā whakamā i waenganui i a rāua. Ki te moe koe i tētahi tangata kāore he wairua whakakatakata, he rite tonu tō mārena ki ētahi wā whakamā.
He maha ngā wā ka puta ko tētahi o ngā hoa he tangata pono, ko tētahi he tangata harikoa, he tangata waimarie. Engari mō te wairua katakata, he kotahi tonu te whakaaro o te nuinga o ngā tokorua harikoa.
Nō reira, whakawhirinaki mai ki a mātou ina kī atu mātou ko te wairua whakakatakata te mea hei rapu māu i roto i tētahi hoa rangatira, nā te mea ka āwhina i a koe kia nui te harikoa ā muri ake nei. Ko tētahi o ngā tohutohu pai mō te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira, kia mōhio koe me noho tahi koe me tētahi tangata ka taea e ia te whakakatakata i a koe i ngā wā katoa.
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12. Ngā mātāpono mō te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ora — te whanaungatanga hinengaro ngātahi
Ina marenatia ngā tāngata tokorua, he taitamariki tonu rātou, ā, kāore e titiro matatau, e titiro matatau rānei ki te heke mai. I ētahi wā ka pāngia ngā marena ina tipu te hinengaro o tētahi, ā, kāore e taea e tētahi atu te whai i te tere o te whanaungatanga. Kātahi ka ngoikore haere ngā kōrero, ā, ka tīmata te ngaro o te hiahia o tētahi ki tētahi.
Mā te whai i te mātauranga ōrite, ngā hiahia ōrite, me te whāinga ōrite, ka taea e kōrua te tipu tahi i te taha hinengaro. Mā te whai i te taumata EQ ōrite (emotional quotient) ka āwhina hoki i te whakawhanake i te whanaungatanga hinengaro pai.
Whakaarohia tēnei e te tohunga. "He hītori tō te katoa, ā, he mea anō hoki e haere tahi mai ana me ia." putea kare", engari ko te tangata he pai tōna EQ, ka mau tonu tōna manawanui me ōna pūkenga pai ki te aro atu ki ngā āhuatanga o te ao. Ka taea hoki e rātou te whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro me te whanaungatanga i roto i ngā kare ā-roto hei hoa mahi, ā, ka āwhina i te tipu tahi," te kī a Snigdha.
Nō reira, ko te tumanako kei a koe te whakaaro pai ake mō te kimi hoa rangatira mō te ao, me te whiriwhiri i te mea tika māu. Kia maumahara, kei roto pea i a koe te whakautu, nā te mea kua mōhio kē koe ki te momo tangata hei whakahari i a koe, hei whakamihi hoki i a koe. Kaua e tere te rapu, kaua e pēhi i tō hoa tāne, i tō hoa wahine rānei. Kia ata noho, ā, ka tau ngā mea katoa ki tōna āhua. Ki te maumahara koe ki ēnei āhuatanga hei whakaaro i te wā e whiriwhiri ana koe i tētahi hoa rangatira mō te ao, ka pai katoa koe.
Ki te mea kei te whakaaro tonu koe me āwhina koe, tohutohu i mua i te marena Tērā pea koinei te huarahi whakamua māu. Ka taea hoki e te kaitohutohu whaimana te āwhina i a koe. Kei te rite ā mātou kaitohutohu mātau i Bonobology ki te āwhina i a koe, he pāwhiri noa iho.
FAQs
Ina rapu koe i tētahi hoa mō te ora, rapua te atawhai, te aroha, te mārama, te whakaute, te whakakatakata, te EQ teitei (te kaha o te hinengaro), me te tirotiro hoki ki ngā tikanga mahi a tō hoa.
Ko te hoa ora tino pai ko tētahi tangata e whakamarie ai koe i a ia, kāore he mea e hunaia e kōrua, he rite ō kōrua hiahia me ā kōrua whiringa, ka kata tahi kōrua, ā, he hototahi tō kōrua ira tangata.
He mea nui te whiriwhiri i tētahi hoa mō te ao. Nō reira, whakaarohia pai.
He mea nui te āhua o te tinana i te wā e whiriwhiri ana i tētahi hoa rangatira, engari ehara i te mea koinā anake. Me whai hononga kare ā-roto, hinengaro, tinana hoki koe ki tētahi tangata kia pai ai te noho hei hoa rangatira. E mōhio ana koe kua kitea e koe te hoa rangatira pai rawa atu mēnā he whakaute tō kōrua, he kata tahi, he haumaru ā-pūtea tō kōrua ki a rāua, ā, he rite tonu ō kōrua uara.
Me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te aroha aroha tō rangatira ki a koe?
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