Ngā Marenatanga me te Putanga Ake o te Whakaponokore

Kua kitea te pikinga ake o te puremu i roto i te marena i ngā tau tata nei. Engari he aha ngā take o te pikinga haere o te ōrau o te puremu i roto i te marena? Ko te marena kotahi te take? Ko te ipurangi me te urunga ki ngā pāpāho pāpori te take o te puremu i roto i te marena. I whakatau mātou ki te kōrero ki a Salony Priya (Tohunga Hinengaro me te Kaiwhakahaere o UMEED) mō te kaupapa o te puremu me ngā marena.

He pēhea te noa o te puremu i roto i te marena?

Kāore anō kia tino mōhiotia e te tangata te whānui o te puremu. Tata ki te 20% o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e haere mai ana ki ahau, e pā ana ki ngā raruraru puremu o te marena. I mua, i puremu ngā tāne i roto i te marena, ā, i whakaaetia. E whakaatu ana ngā tatauranga puremu i ēnei rā kei roto ngā wāhine i ngā whanaungatanga puremu, ā, kāore e whakama mō te moepuku i waho o te marena. E whakaaro ana rātou kua warewarehia rātou i roto i ngā tau, kāore i te maiohahia, ā, kāore he tuakiri. Ko te nuinga o ēnei wāhine kāore he mahi, engari nō ngā whānau whai rawa rātou. "Kua nui taku haereere, ā, he nui aku Kanjeevaram me ngā taimana, engari ehara i te mea ko ēnei anake te oranga. He tino pouri ahau, he pōuri hoki, kāore au e hiahia ki te haere tonu i tēnei, e hiahia ana ahau ki te whakamutu. E hiahia ana ahau ki te wehe atu i tēnei marena." I ētahi wā, he nui ēnei take mō te puremu.

I ēnei rā, ina noho noa iho rātou, ka mahara, ka whakaaro rātou he aha tā rātou mahi i ēnei tau katoa. Ā, ko te tirohanga a te tāne, "He pēnei tonu ahau; kāore au i te mōhio he aha tana raruraru ināianei." Kāore te tāne e kite kua rerekē te āhua. Kua mutu ngā tamariki i ngā akoranga, ā, kua riro atu rātou, kua whai whānau anō te auwahine/te tāokete-wahine, ā, kua mate te hungawai wahine – te wahine i noho tahi rāua – i whakamarie i a ia. Nō reira, kei te piki haere tonu te ōrau o te hungawai i roto i te marena.

• Te kore o te hononga ā-hinengaro, ā-tinana rānei.
• Te hiahia mō ngā mahi hou, mō ngā mahi mōrearea rānei.
• Ngā pakanga kāore anō kia whakatauhia, ngā riri rānei.

He taonga noa iho rānei ahau?

I te noho o tēnei wahine ki te kāinga, ka mōhio ia, "Kāore tēnei tangata e kōrero mai ki ahau, he rite noa ahau ki tētahi taonga whare ki a ia," ā, ka puta ake ngā take katoa o mua. Ka pātai atu ahau ki te tāne, "He aha te koha whakamutunga i hokona e koe māna?" ā, ka mea ia, "Kei a ia te moni katoa o te whare, ka taea e ia te hoko i tāna e hiahia ai. He aha taku e hoko ai?"

Pānui e pā ana: E te wahine a te tāne tinihanga, koinei te take kāore au e whakama

He nui rawa te tokomaha o ngā tāne e pēnei ana te whakaaro. Ko tēnei āputa i waenganui i te tirohanga a te tāne me te wahine ki ngā matea, ngā hiahia me te whakatutukitanga o te marena, tētahi o ngā tino take o te puremu. E ai ki ngā tawhā pāpori, he hunga harikoa, he hunga makona ēnei i roto i te marena. I tēnei rā, e harikoa ana ahau ki te kite i te tāne e haere mai ana ki ahau, ka mea mai, "Ki te ārahi koe i ahau, ka kōrero mai ki ahau he aha te mea e harikoa ai ia, kua rite ahau ki te mahi i tēnā."

Ko te nuinga o ngā tāne e kite ana i tā rātou mahi he kaiwhakarato, ā, ko te nuinga o ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e te wahine he mea hanga noa iho. He iti noa iho ō rātou ake māramatanga ki ngā matea hinengaro o te wahine.

Ko te tikanga, he whakaaro nui, he whakaute hoki tēnei e rapua ana e ngā wāhine i roto i ā rātou marena. Ko te nuinga o ngā wāhine kua moe tāne, e whakaaro ana rātou kāore rātou i te tino mōhiotia i muri i ētahi tau o te marena. Ka tino harikoa ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua moe tāne ina kite rātou he mea nui rātou i roto i te whanaungatanga.

He tokomaha ngā wāhine mahi taitamariki kua mātau, kua makona kē ki ā rātou mahi, e hiahia ana kia whakautehia e ngā tāne ō rātou ake tirohanga, kia tangohia ō rātou whakaaro mō ngā take katoa tae atu ki te taha pūtea. Kei te rerekē haere te āhua whānui o te wahine kāore e mārama ki te taha pūtea, ā, kei te werohia.

He pānui e pā ana: Ka pā pai pea tētahi moepuku ki tō marena?

He aha te take e puremu ai te tangata?

Ko ngā take o te puremu ka noho tonu hei kare ā-roto, hei pāpori hoki. Ko te pikinga o te ōrau o te puremu e whakaatu ana ko te Ipurangi, te whatunga pāpori, te ngāwari o te urunga atu me ngā utu waea iti o te ao he mea tino nui kua taea ai te puremu. E rua tekau tau ki muri, i taea e koe te moemoeā mō tō hoa kāreti, engari he aha te tūponotanga ka taea e koe te uru atu ki a ia?

Mō te nuinga o te puremu e tupu ana i ēnei rā, ko te Ipurangi te ara whakawhitiwhiti kōrero.

Ā, ko te nuinga o ngā hoa rangatira ka hopu i ā rātou hoa e puremu ana mā roto i ngā waea pūkoro, i te Ipurangi rānei. Kei te mōhio haere te tangata ki te hangarau, ā, he tokomaha kei a rātou he īmēra motuhake hei whakamahi mā rātou ki te puremu i roto i te marena. Ā, i tētahi wā, i tētahi wā rānei, ka kitea e te hoa rangatira.

Kua pā ki a koe ētahi wā kua moe tāne, wahine rānei i tētahi hononga ā-ira, ā, kua wehe atu rāua, ā, kei te hoki anō te tokorua? Ki tō whakaaro, me wehe te marena o te 15-17 tau te roa nā te mea kāore e motuhake te moepuku?

I roto i ō tātou hapori, he wāhanga nui tonu te motuhaketanga ā-ira tangata i roto i te marena, ā, ko te marena he mea nui ki te whakapau kaha. Nō reira, he tapu te puremu i roto i te marena.

He wāhanga nui o te marena Inia te hononga o te whanaungatanga piripono.

He pono kei reira ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te hototahitanga pāpori, te mana pāpori me ngā kawenga pāpori, engari i tua atu i tēnā, ko te pupuri katoa i te tangata hei hoa moepuku he wāhanga nui o ā tātou marena. Nā te āhua tūturu, ehara te tāne i te tangata kotahi te hoa , engari nā te kaupapa o te marena i pērā ai ia. Ko te kaupapa pāpori o te marena e hangai ana ki te tumanako ka nui ake te whakaaro nui o te tangata ki te hinengaro me te pāpori i ōna hiahia moepuku.

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He moepuku, he aroha, he marena tonu

Kei te ngana mātou ki te hono i te taatai, te aroha me te marena. I ngā tau 1960, ko te marena, te aroha, kātahi ko te taatai. I ngā tau 70 ka huri hei marena, taatai, kātahi ko te aroha. I ngā tau 80 ka huri hei aroha, marena, taatai. I ngā tau 90 ka huri hei taatai, marena, kātahi ko te aroha. Ināianei ko te taatai, ko te aroha - kāore e hiahiatia, ka memeha haere, ā, ko te marena, ko wai e hiahia ana?

E whakaaro ana te tangata, "Kāore au e hiahia ki tētahi tamaiti, kāore au e hiahia ki ngā tueke. E harikoa ana ahau ki taku mahi, ā, e hiahia ana tōku tinana ki te taatai, nō reira, pērā i taku haere ki te kai piza, ka taea hoki e au te haere ki te taatai." Ā, he maha ngā whanaungatanga pēnei; ko te mea anake kāore ēnei tāngata i puta mai ki te whakapuaki i ā rātou kōrero.

Ngā Mahi Ārai i roto i te Marenatanga

• Whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i ia wā mō ngā matea me ngā tumanakohanga.
• Whakatairangahia te whanaungatanga ā-hinengaro me te whanaungatanga ā-tinana.
• Whakatikahia ngā pakanga i te wā tonu kia kore ai e mauahara.

He tohunga hinengaro kaiārahi a Salony Priya, ā, e 18 tau te roa o tana wheako ki te whakangungu me te kaiārahi puta noa i ngā whare wānanga, ngā whakahaere pāpori, ngā NGO me ngā umanga. Ko ia te Kaiwhakahaere o UMMEED, he whare wānanga hinengaro pai e aro nui ana ki ngā momo tohungatanga maha.

Thoughts Final

Ka werohia te turanga o te whakawhirinaki i roto i te marena e te kore whakapono, engari ka whakaratohia hoki he whai wāhitanga mō te whakaaroaro whaiaro, te mārama ki ngā hiahia kāore anō kia tutuki, ā, i ētahi wā, te hanga anō i tētahi whanaungatanga kaha ake. He mea nui te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera, te kawenga tahi, me te ārahi ngaio hei whakatere i ngā uauatanga o te kore whakapono. Ahakoa he mamae, ko te aro atu ki te kore whakapono ka arahi ki te tipu whaiaro me te whanaungatanga. Kei konei ā mātou kaiwhakaora hinengaro mohio hei āwhina. Ka whakaratohia e mātou he ārahi aroha, kore whakahē hei aro atu ki ngā take matua, hei whakaora i ngā patunga kare ā-roto, hei whakaora i te hononga.

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